This week we discovered a lot of highly inappropriate stuff - think sex, porn, people urinating and defecating - in DD's youtube history. DH was certain he'd set it up so she couldn't access that kind of thing. Either he was wrong, or she found a way of switching it off. I saw my psychologist yesterday and briefly discussed it with her, she says it is not age appropriate for a 12 year old to be interested in porn and it suggests that she may have been molested or exposed to porn at some point. I doubt very much if she has been molested, I have a bit of history with that personally and I don't see any signs. I feel guilty for not protecting her better but I also feel that she had broken the trust we had in her that she would use her laptop responsibly. She clearly knew very well that what she was looking at was inappropriate and forbidden. Her laptop has been removed with no timeframe for return yet. DH talked to her, but I really think he talked at her and she didn't respond at all. I tried to engage her in a conversation, while being as non-judgemental as I possibly could, but she just shut down and refused to discuss it, apart from saying that she will never do it again. Both DH and I stressed things like how what she saw is not what real life is like at all, how one should have self respect etc etc.
Has this happened with any of your DC? Any tips or advice for where we go from here?
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LastingLight · 20/09/2014 16:17
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