As a mum to four sons and only one daughter, I felt a bit on dodgy ground with this one. I also didn't expect things to start so soon! DD was 9 in December and literally since her birthday has changed drastically! She has breast buds, is curvier around her hips, her hair is greasy within a day of washing and her skin is oily. I've also noticed a little bit of discharge in her pants in the wash. When I went into the bathroom to give her a clean towel the other day while she showered, I noticed pubic hair. I knew I needed to talk to her sooner rather than later as I knew she was blissfully unaware of periods.
I was nervous as she just doesn't do icky or pain and I didn't want to screw it up. She's a real wuss eg she has a verruca and won't let me use the treatment on it "in case it hurts"
I also wanted to make "the talk" meaningful and useful. My own mum didn't bother to talk to me. She left it to my older sister who wasn't particularly sensitive in her approach. When I did start my periods at 11, mum just handed me a packet of sanitary towels and that was it.
Anyway, thought about all DD's changes and decided to make a bit of a "mum/daughter" moment. I bought a gift box and put in the following items: Simple face wash, Simple wipes, pant liners, sanitary pads, mild roll on deodorant, shampoo and conditioner for greasy hair. We then sat on my bed and talked about all her changes, why they were happening etc and went through the things in the box. I got to periods and she was a bit grossed out by it, but was very sensible and seemed ok with it. She loved the fancy gift box and all her very grown up items too. I got lots of smiles and a hug and off she went, quite happy.
I'm so pleased and proud that she didn't make a fuss; it was all quiet and matter of fact and then it was done. She did ask, though, "Does Dad know about this?"
Mind, she still won't let me at her verruca...
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OhDeanna · 20/04/2014 00:49
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