Dd2 is just 11, Year 6. She's always been quite emotional, lots of ups and downs, takes things to heart and can over-analyse things.
I've posted on MN a bit recently about her as she's had some friendship issues at school. No nasty behaviour as such, she just seems to be on the outside of friendship groups.
She's got her first choice of secondary school and is delighted and looking forward to starting, although she has the usual worries of will I like it, will I make friends, suppose I won't keep up etc? Because of the nature of her personality I think she analyses/worries more about these things.
I'm worried as she often seems so down. I think the upshot of it is that she doesn't always like herself and feels frustrated with her own reactions to things. I tell her time and time again how loved she is and I wouldn't want her any other way. I'm guessing here but I suspect she sometimes wishes she was more easy-going, relaxed about things.
Last night she had a meltdown - lots of crying for over half an hour. She looked a bit upset and I sort of knew something was up but she didn't really know herself what the matter was.
My feeling is that it's a combination of hormones/worries about secondary school/worries about friends etc that makes it overwhelming for her. She's worked hard for her 11+ and even now she has the school she'd set her heart on, it feels a bit like an anti-climax and brings home the fact that she'll be leaving primary (I'm guessing this, I could be completely wrong). But how do I know it's not more serious or depression or something like that? Sometimes she says to me she wishes she could disappear BUT she's always been very expressive and poetic so I don't know how much to hang onto her words.
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Is it normal for 11 year old girls to be upset/cry for no particular reason?
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Dancergirl · 21/03/2014 13:51
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