My dd's 10 yr old friend has deliberately pissed on her laptop in her bedroom

(65 Posts)
anothernamechange111 Wed 12-Feb-14 21:35:07

Out of jealousy or something..god knows.Its a boy.He has pee'd in it on monday while she was downstairs.It was on her beanbag and that got pee'd over too.Am bloody furious but dont know what i could/should do about it!!!

Bigbrassband Wed 12-Feb-14 22:05:37

He sounds like a troubled young lad. I wouldn't ban him from the house completely but would confine him to family rooms when he comes over. So just pops in for a glass of coke or whatever, rather than spending time in your DDs room unsupervised.

anothernamechange111 Wed 12-Feb-14 22:06:31

yes i suppose thats an option bigbrassband.he has no real friends at school.

JeanSeberg Wed 12-Feb-14 22:06:32

Poor lad, I hope you can find a way to still keep contact with him.

EBearhug Wed 12-Feb-14 22:09:46

Does your household insurance cover accidents? Like cats peeing on the laptop...

AwfulMaureen Wed 12-Feb-14 22:15:32

Op that's a real shame. Not just the laptop but the fact that your poor DD has had this happen from someone she thought was a mate. Oxfam online sell very good cheap reconditioned laptops.

I would cool the friendship completely if I'm honest.
Be done with visits.

ListenToTheLady Wed 12-Feb-14 22:20:46

God yes even if you can't be sure it's him (and it does sound like it was) I would not be leaving them alone together ever again. I'm sorry for him but he sounds as if he could be pretty unpleasant to her.

I think you could either contact SS or school and raise concerns about him in confidence, he could really need help. You can make clear you don't have 100% proof and you are just a bit concerned.

LynetteScavo Wed 12-Feb-14 22:22:45

Op, I think you know if it was the cat or the boy...

I would let him into the house, but would ban him from being alone in DD's bedroom (with or without her)

Going to his parents will probably do no good.

What do you think would happen if you brought it up with him?

Googling "penis" does seem a bit immature for a 10yo.

hmc Wed 12-Feb-14 22:23:11

He sounds very troubled. That is way outside normal behaviour.

ListenToTheLady Wed 12-Feb-14 22:26:55

I know a 10yo who would definitely google penis, has left me and DP obscene messages on post-its when visiting, and is still bedwetting. (NB it's definitely not the same boy! - as from a different background.) It looks to me like a pattern of disturbed behaviour that is not normal for 10, but fits together IYSWIM. I would be worried about him.

anothernamechange111 Wed 12-Feb-14 22:28:06

i think if i bring it up with him he will stare at the floor and deny it,or possibly start crying.i am basically a bit scared of his mum,who talks and acts like a bloke.

Helpyourself Wed 12-Feb-14 22:28:46

You sound lovely OP flowers
I hope you can claim (cat pee) on insurance.
As an aside, isn't a 10 yo with an iPad but no wifi sad
Speaks volumes about that household.

anothernamechange111 Wed 12-Feb-14 22:31:46

its quite mad really..dd is top of the class in alot at school and loves being teachers pet.and this boy is always in trouble,at bottom in most areas and tries every day to distract dd from her work.

anothernamechange111 Wed 12-Feb-14 22:32:41

i was so angry earlier,but now i just feel so sad for him sad

anothernamechange111 Wed 12-Feb-14 22:33:46

i cant imagine dd will be able to stop herself saying something to him at school.she is so disgusted at having had his pee on her!

5OBalesofHay Wed 12-Feb-14 22:33:52

I wouldn't encourage a friendship between a teen and a 10 year old anyway (assuming your dd is at least 13 as on Facebook) I'd try to help her make friends her own age.

JeanSeberg Wed 12-Feb-14 22:38:09

I assume they are the same age?

anothernamechange111 Wed 12-Feb-14 22:42:26

yes she is.most of her 10 yr old friends are also on facebook so i relented and let her join.

anothernamechange111 Wed 12-Feb-14 22:42:50

she is 10 i mean.she is v nearly 11.

TheOriginalSteamingNit Wed 12-Feb-14 22:45:39

Helpful, 50bales confused

JeanSeberg Wed 12-Feb-14 22:49:13

And a not so subtle dig about you letting your daughter have FB at the age of 10...

5OBalesofHay Wed 12-Feb-14 22:57:34

Not a dig, I didn't think Facebook allowed them to register if under 13. Have got it wrong (but got away with refusing so not all bad).

JeanSeberg Wed 12-Feb-14 22:59:12

Apologies 50.

colditz Wed 12-Feb-14 23:04:13

Facebook doesn't allow children of ten to register, and facebookbis inappropriate for ten year olds. However, the issue here is not Facebook.

I would advise that you tell his teacher what has happened, and don't leave him alone with your daughter.

MuttonCadet Wed 12-Feb-14 23:07:05

I'd definitely want him away from my daughter. He does sound troubled.

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