ear piercing what's the right age

(50 Posts)
carnage Tue 04-Feb-14 19:18:19

My ten year old twin girls want to get their ears pierced and I don't know if it's too early or not. Most of their friends have already had it done. But I'm a single Dad of 4 and I can't decide if this is a good idea or not. Their Mum who doesn't live with us has already said they can do it.

Any opinions???

exexpat Wed 05-Feb-14 18:44:47

DD is in year 6, and there is a wave of girls getting their ears pierced, or planning to at the end of year 6 - it seems to be part of the growing up and transition to secondary school process. Getting them done at the start of the summer holidays makes life easier because then there is the whole summer for them to heal up before you run into rules about no earrings for PE or swimming.

DD turned 11 in October, and I finally let her get them done in the Christmas holidays (she'd been nagging me for nearly 8 years to let her). It meant she had to put tape over them for PE for a few weeks, but they have healed up nicely and she can now take them out.

takingthathometomomma Wed 05-Feb-14 21:59:06

I'm really surprised at the ages given. Not in a negative way at all, just genuine surprise! I had mine done as a baby just like DD did, and while I know some wait a little longer, when I was in primary school most had theirs pierced too. Most of the girls in DD's school now do too. I never saw it as a "grown up" thing, and have never really stopped to consider why either. I guess it could be a cultural thing. I really thought it was the norm! You learn something new every day eh.

sinningsaint Wed 12-Feb-14 19:18:52

DD1 got them done at 10 and DD2 at 7, i had offered for DD2 to have them done at the same time as her older sister, she would have been 5, but chickened out whilst waiting for her sister to have hers done, gosh i must be such a bad mother!! Never had any problems with either just check your schools rules. DD2 got her second lobe piercing at 14 and now wants her third age 16 but i'm saying i won't pay until she has finished school in may as she is only allowed one pair in at school, up to her what she does though as i feel she is old enough to deal with the consequence now!

NachoAddict Wed 12-Feb-14 19:27:46

DD had hers done for her 6th birthday at her request. I had been planning to wait until the summer between primary and secondary school but dsd had had hers done and her cousins had theirs done as babies and I felt cruel her being the odd one out.

As someone else said, pick your battles.

basildonbond Thu 20-Feb-14 08:40:10

I had said not until the summer holiday at the end of Y6 but every single girl in her friendship group has now got them pierced (partly to assuage disappointment in 11+ results..)
DH and I have decided to pick our battles and if she still wants them done sooner, we'll explain why we think she should wait but leave the decision up to her.

My only worry is she's swimming in a school gala on Tuesday - presumably that rules out getting them done this week? I know the NHS website says no swimming for 6 weeks but that seems a bit ott to me

jemmyjam Thu 20-Feb-14 15:30:06

My dd has never shown any interest in ear piercing, she is 10 now and I think any time in senior school is fine , I don't want dd to grow up too quickly.

MirandaWest Thu 20-Feb-14 15:36:56

DD is 8 and doesn't seem to be interested. Would prefer it to be done over a school summer holiday so will suggest that if it comes up.

I was told not before 18 and when I was 18 and tentatively suggested it, my dad went mad shock. So I waited until I was 19 and at university.

My sister got hers done when she was 14. This still slightly rankles grin.

overthemill Thu 20-Feb-14 15:38:34

We said 13 for our girls eldest did it at 13 youngest at 14. But I'd have preferred 18 which is when I did mine.

Wishyouwould Thu 20-Feb-14 22:40:49

My DD had hers done at the start of last years summer holidays when she was 10. When she went back to school for Year 6 the majority of her friends had theirs done too!

She has looked after them and just loves picking out and buying earrings. The school she goes to doesn't allow earrings at all so she'll pop them in when she gets home and wears them at weekend.

5madthings Thu 20-Feb-14 22:45:13

I think the summer holidays between primary and high school so 10/11 yrs old is fine.

kslatts Sun 23-Feb-14 19:53:20

I think 10 is fine, both my dd's got theirs pieced as the left primary school, I think it's a good idea to get them done at the beginning of the school summer holiday so that they are able to take them out for PE, etc. when they go back to school.

gamerchick Sun 23-Feb-14 19:59:17

When they are old enough to look after them themselves.

not like the muppets who think punching holes through babies is perfectly fine because they don't remember angry I nearly got in a punch up over this topic IRL.

ThePinkOcelot Mon 10-Mar-14 21:19:59

My dds had theirs done at 6 and 9. They were allowed to wear them for school, if not I would have made them wait until they left primary.

shebird Wed 12-Mar-14 10:31:43

Ive promised DD she can have them done the summer before starting secondary school

AlpacaLypse Wed 12-Mar-14 10:38:51

Mine (and most of their friends) had them done on the first Saturday of the summer holidays between Year 8 and Year 9 - so aged 13/14. If they'd asked during the gap between primary and secondary, I would have let them though.

I'm a bit judgey pants if I see a child less than about nine with pierced ears. And extremely judgey pants if I see anything else pierced on someone obviously less than 18.

bunnybing Wed 12-Mar-14 19:41:31

Mine had theirs done between yr 4 and 5 - aged 9.5, at the beginning of the summer holiday - I think it depends on when you think they can look after them. They both had friends who had had them done for years by that time.

My mum would never let me have them done, so got them when I could pay myself which was aged 16 - which all felt a little pointless by then.

Heifer Wed 12-Mar-14 20:39:48

Another vote for summer holidays after yr 6. Her junior school doesn't allow earrings/studs at all which makes my life easier as DD knows there is no point getting them done until she leaves.

A nice way to celebrate the end of juniors/start of secondary I think.

Bonsoir Wed 12-Mar-14 20:41:18

My DD had hers done when she was 7.2. She wanted it and I couldn't see any good reason to postpone it.

Meglet Wed 12-Mar-14 20:45:34

I had to wait until 16. So I went silly and ended up with 2 holes in each ear, navel, lip and tongue.

Personally I think the summer between primary and senior school is fine. Do it the day they break up then they should have healed nicely before the start of hte autumn term.

wordfactory Wed 12-Mar-14 22:17:20

I always told my DD that she could have hers pierced during the summer holidays before secondary school...

But she wouldn't get them done. Still won't. She's 14!

Preferthedogtothekids Sun 16-Mar-14 00:33:56

My DD is 15 and knows not to even ask! I think pierced ears are gross, particularly on children.

guineapig2014 Mon 17-Mar-14 20:50:16

I'd say 12th birthday personally! grin

Ragwort Mon 17-Mar-14 20:59:47

18.

(I had mine done at 30 grin).

Maybe it is a cultural thing, I genuinely don't know many young girls with ear piercings,

I currently work with a 16 year old male with a lip piercing, not a pretty sight.

I don't get the argument of "let them be kids, like in the good old days", because when I was a kid it was really common for parents to get their babies ears done, where as now this tends have ladies clutching at their pearl necklaces in horror.

I think 10 is a good age OP, many many girls have it done by then.

But similarly, if you aren't comfortable with it there is no harm with putting it off for a little while.

FullOfChoc Mon 17-Mar-14 21:30:21

Get it done at the beginning of the summer holidays so they have 6 weeks to heal. 10/11 is a perfect age, they'll be able to look after them themseves and should be old enough not to lose all their earings (fingers crossed!).

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