My DD is in Year 5 and 9. Her birthday is at the end of summer, so she is one of the youngest. I have seen her change this year from a child who loves school to one where she has regularly asked if she can go to a new school.
She is very kind but not very confident. She has put herself forward for all the positions open in school - class council etc and every time she feels that the loud, popular (in her mind) get chosen. Her application for class council was lost so while others stood up and read their bid for votes she had to try and remember what she had written. She came home and cried that night. This was at the beginning of the year and yesterday, when she was feeling very low, said that she knew nobody voted for her. It obviously hurts .
She mixes a lot with 2 other girls but says she feels like she is left out a lot. I suspect that 3 doesnt mix very well.
The school goes on a trip abroad later this year but for a variety of reasons she is not going and all her friends are. Cue lots of excited chat of what they will be doing, who they will be sharing with etc. This is natural but now she feels even more left out than ever. They aren't going til the summer term and obviously the excitement will go through peaks. The return will prolong this left out feeling, I fear.
She has sat and broke her heart this evening and I don't know what to say to make it better. She seems to understand the reasons why she can't go - she has even said that she doesn't want to go but I know she would love it. Then comes the pleas to send her somewhere else.
She just is so desperate to be liked by others. I have let her have sleep overs to encourage special times with individual girls but the happiness never lasts.
Her younger sister says that she often is by herself at lunchtime or she plays with Reception children. Would speaking to her teacher be an idea? I just feel so sad that I dont know what to do to make her feel happy.
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alwaysonmymind · 17/01/2014 21:44
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