This is the spitting, swearing, screaming and kicking one.
GP was absolutely lovely and I'm very, very glad we went. Her opinion was that it's probably quite severe pms. What she's done so well, by talking very gently to dd, was make her confront her behaviour and that it's not fair on everyone, and not what dd wants, either.
Sounds so simple, but was just not going to happen within the privacy of our home.
What we've got to do now is:
Keep calendar so we can anticipate The Rage. Dh and I will make an effort to be nurturing rather than nagging at this point and dd needs to make an effort to take herself out or to her room if she feels she's getting angry.
With our support dd will make an effort to eat healthily and exercise more. Going to try a Marshall arts class to work out some aggression, and a multivitamin.
If this doesn't sort it we can go back and start looking at counselling and more involved help to develop strategies to keep calm.
Both of us left feeling heard and helped. I was judging myself quite harshly and expected the go to respond in utter horror that we'd let it come to this, but not at all.
It's made me think a lot, actually. I don't cut myself any slack at certain times of the month, but do get weepy when this coincides with stress. I was brought up to "get on with it" and have been trying to do the same for dd. I've been going too far with the Spartan bit.
Now, I hope that helps anyone who has felt in the same boat. I'm after some ideas, please. Things we can do to make dd feel cared for and understood, but perhaps not pandered to?
Anyone?!
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Notmyidea · 10/01/2014 13:33
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