My year 3 DD (just turned 8 this month) cheerfully announced to me as I picked her up from the school disco this week, "Good news! I have an official boyfriend, XXXX. We went to the toilet and kissed. Don't tell anyone."
My gut reaction was a confused mix of internal laughter at the ridiculous concept of my DD "having an official BF" at 8 - I didn't have one until well into my teens - with a real sinking feeling of "oh, no" - this is far too early to have any kind of BF, even an innocent/fleeting one, and I am really don't like the whole going to the toilet for a kiss malarkey.
I am glad she feels close enough to me to tell me about it and she seems quite excited about it. It appears that there was an element of pairing off at the disco, which seems normal, and part of it seems to be relief that someone picked her. She is a beautiful looking girl and I have often worried about her future (in her teens) but now I am starting to be concerned about the next few years as well. I had flashes of her as a 14 YO coming home some evening and saying, "Good news - you're going to be a grandmother!"
Am I over-reacting? She has often expressed feelings for boys in her class (usually the geeky, top of the class ones) and doesn't understand why they don't reciprocate the feelings (instead of playing football or war, as any normal boy would).
Any advice on how I should deal with it? Our approach as parents has been to encourage her to focus on her studies and after school clubs and not worry about what the boys think. She is very in touch with her "feelings" and invariably gets hurt by this type of thing, so we can't just dismiss her/it out of hand - otherwise I fear she won't turn to us when she is older and we need to be there for her. Thanks
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8 Year Old DD - Kissing Boy in Toilet at School Disco!
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MLP · 26/10/2013 14:57
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