Need Advice! Parents live in different countries and DD struggling.

(3 Posts)
cfh Sat 27-Jul-13 14:06:03

Hi, I need advice so I can help my 12 yo daughter.
I'll try to keep it short. DD was born in London, I am Argentinean and dad is Greek (now divorced). Dad currently lives in Dubai with his new family and I moved back to Argentina with my husband, dd and twins.
When we first divorced, her dad moved to Belgium, Greece, France so she is used to travelling alone to see him but now that the distance is greater (19 hours flight), she is struggling. She doesnt feel she is normal for having 2 families so far apart, and wants we both live in the same country which is not possible.She travels at least once a year.
Has anyone been in a similar position, and if so, how do you deal with it.
Thanks!

pinkfelttippen Sat 27-Jul-13 14:15:44

I understand that it must be hard to have one parent at such a great distance. I guess you all use Skype, with video, as much as possible? That helps (we have grandparents in another country).

But I think in terms of reassuring her she's 'normal' - try reminding her of the many children her age and younger who are at boarding school in a different country to both their parents (forces children, for example). Or even when both parents live in the same continent, it can still be a six hour drive, or more, to visit (from south of England to Scotland, for example). Istanbul to Antalya is a 14 hour drive. New York to Los Angeles, goodness knows how many hours. There are many, many children in her position.

Salbertina Sat 27-Jul-13 14:46:50

Sounds tricky esp at her age. Really recommend you re-post this in Living Overseas. They'll be people there in a similar boat.

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