Hi, I need advice so I can help my 12 yo daughter. I'll try to keep it short. DD was born in London, I am Argentinean and dad is Greek (now divorced). Dad currently lives in Dubai with his new family and I moved back to Argentina with my husband, dd and twins. When we first divorced, her dad moved to Belgium, Greece, France so she is used to travel to see him but now that the distance is greater (19 hours flight), she is struggling. She doesnt feel she is normal, and wants we both live in the same country which is not possible.She travels at least once a year. Has anyone been in a similar position, and if so, how do you deal with it. Thanks!
It's a really difficult situation. My daughter was born in Australia, I'm English and her dad is German/Aussie. We separated when she was 2 and dd and I came back to England when she was 4. Since then she has seen him for about 3-4 weeks each year. We alternate us going out to Aus one year and he comes over here the other (a little tricky as I'm now remarried and he stays with us - not what my husband would chose (!!) but it's the best arrangement for dd)
It's really hard financially but so far we've made it work, I can't bring myself to let her travel unaccompanied so I have to travel too, leaving ds and husband behind. The rest of the time they communicate via face time and email. So far they have maintained a really good relationship, it's not ideal and if she could chose she would much prefer to have him closer. I suppose the bottom line is we make the best of the situation
Good luck with you DD, its a tricky age and i'm sure she will find a way through it, I think the biggest thing for my DD is that I make sure she always has free unrestricted access to contact him and maintain their relationship