I am beside myself. My 12 year old left me a letter by my bed telling me she is gender queer and that she feels she is neither boy nor girl and likes both. She is only 12. I had never heard of this term until tonight. I have googled it and now don't know what to do, what to say. I am up in the middle of the night crying as I am struggling to know what to say or do in the morning. Some sites say parents will be in denial, will say it is a phase, , that it is friends influence etc etc. well I am all of that, especially as she never mentioned anything like this before she went to secondary school and her friend said she was bi sexual. 12 year olds should be at the start of understanding who they are and my daughter is asking for a breast binder, again something I had never heard of. I have always thought I was open minded but this has shattered me to the core. There is a huge divide between managing my response to my daughter so she doesn't feel rejected and my real feelings of horror. I know I need to be supportive as a parent but what I want to do is change her. Hormonal tantrums and homework arguments seem welcome by comparison to this as this won't go away. My thoughts are selfish, and they should not be. I thought my biggest worry would be boyfriends. Any advice, please.
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WhoAmI17 · 17/06/2013 03:44
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