12 year old not home from school now.. what the hell do I do?

(44 Posts)
Ilovemyrabbits Fri 07-Jun-13 16:02:52

My daughter rarely goes anywhere after school, but it's not unheard of. She is not home and is usually back by 3. I have left messages on her mobile, have called friends, but gotten no reply. I don't have my mobile, so don't have her friends' mobile numbers. Advice????? Please???

cornypedicure Fri 07-Jun-13 16:04:30

Is she Y7?
could she have gone to the park with friends or something?
does she do any clubs?

Ilovemyrabbits Fri 07-Jun-13 16:06:40

She is Y7. No clubs. She could have gone to the park. I am on my own tonight, so don't want to go wandering down to the park and leave the house empty in case she calls. I've texted, called, don't know what to do. Am frantically trying to pick up a text message from BT, but that keeps prompting me to go to the website and isn't giving me the blardy message. I keep texting and ringing but no joy so far. Am panicking now...

Ilovemyrabbits Fri 07-Jun-13 16:07:17

She's normally really good at calling and stuff. BUT my mobile is in at the shop cos it's broken and needs fixing.

Kormachameleon Fri 07-Jun-13 16:07:17

Go and look for her ?
Call school to see whether she is in detention ?
Bus company for delays / accidents ?

Triumphoveradversity Fri 07-Jun-13 16:08:59

Have a look on bt for landline numbers of friends if you know parents names and addresses.

Ilovemyrabbits Fri 07-Jun-13 16:08:59

Thanks Korma. Just needed someone to talk sense to me cos I'm going off my head...Think I'll get in the car and go scout around for her... will leave a note to say ring her dad.
She walks, so no bus.

Ilovemyrabbits Fri 07-Jun-13 16:09:45

Both friends she might have gone to are out or not replying..maybe in garden. Will try again and will try their mobile numbers. I've got htem in the phone book. Trying so hard not to let my imagination get away from me.

Kormachameleon Fri 07-Jun-13 16:14:37

Stay calm, I'm sure she is fine

Leave note at home telling her not to leave if he gets back
Call school now
Get in car and go and look

cornypedicure Fri 07-Jun-13 16:16:06

My ds2 in Y7 does this sometimes and usually phones me from his friend's house but I always worry until he does.
Any word yet?

usualsuspect Fri 07-Jun-13 16:17:46

Go and look for her.

I'm sure she's fine though,

Ilovemyrabbits Fri 07-Jun-13 16:21:45

No word. Have left a message on her friends phone and am giving her 5 minutes to reply, just in case. I have tried a couple of friend's mums, but no joy so far. Am about to ring school to see if there is any issue. Then I'll get down to the park. I'm sure it's a storm in a teacup, but right now, I'm frighteningly worried. I just need to get a grip..

Ilovemyrabbits Fri 07-Jun-13 16:22:44

School is now closed, ring back on Monday! Useful!!!

usualsuspect Fri 07-Jun-13 16:23:11

It is scary, my kids all did this at some point.

Try not to panic.

ISeeSmallPeople Fri 07-Jun-13 16:24:05

If you go out to look for her, leave a note on the door telling her to stay put, go to neighbours at no 2 etc. just so you don't end up missing eachother.

Startail Fri 07-Jun-13 16:24:43

Deep breath, it's Friday and it's nice weather.

My two have just texted to say they are getting of the bus at the shop and walking the last 1/2 mile.

Justfornowitwilldo Fri 07-Jun-13 16:25:29

She's probably forgotten about your phone being broken and sent a text/ left a voice mail.

BirdintheWings Fri 07-Jun-13 16:25:47

Can you tell if the text message (the one you can't access) is from her number, or one of her friends? The fact that there is a message suggests that she might have tried to let you know she'd be late.

3littlefrogs Fri 07-Jun-13 16:25:58

You said that there is a text message for you but you have to get it from the website? I would do that first, before you go off to look for her.

seeker Fri 07-Jun-13 16:28:41

She's forgotten about your phone being broken, she's left you a message and gone to the park.

Don't be angry with her when you find her- your relief will make you sound crosser than you are.

Ok. You know it's almost certainly ok don't you?

But I understand the panic.

Can you ask a neighbour to house-sit whist you go and check the park?
Can you think of any emails you've ever had that might have contact numbers for her friends on them? School trips? Anything like that?
Do you know their surnames? Can you call another parent?

Ilovemyrabbits Fri 07-Jun-13 16:35:12

BT keep ringing to say there's a text message, to ring this number to access it. I ring the number, it tells me to go to the webpage. The webpage doesn't give the number I need. I'm on hold with them at the moment and they are very busy, so I'm desperately trying to get a response from them. They're saying an hour. If I could get the message, I'd know one way or the other. As it is, I've got no clue....Bloody BT are off my Christmas card list..

Ilovemyrabbits Fri 07-Jun-13 16:36:18

I know it's almost certainly o.k. It's the small chance that it's not o.k. that worries me. Am waiting for BT to answer now.

Ilovemyrabbits Fri 07-Jun-13 16:37:33

The park is chuff off huge as well, so the chance of locating her is remote. My poor DH is about to go into a social evening with clients, and he's frantic now too. Can you tell it's my only child??

jussey17 Fri 07-Jun-13 16:41:35

Have you got the message?

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