Devastated DD, first period 10 years old

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SouthernPolish Fri 12-Apr-13 23:35:45

My DD started her periods today and is absolutely devastated, poor lamb. I have done my very best to prepare her for this day, books, chats, choosing supplies in Boots etc. But she has sobbed and sobbed all evening and her eyes are are very sore.

She says shes just wants to stay a child and does not feel ready to grow into a lady. She doesnt want anyone at school to know.

She has only just fallen asleep in bed with me, clutching her teddy.

I was 11 and remember feeling the same, hence trying to be well prepared for DD.

Feel rubbish on her behalf...

ShowOfHands Thu 18-Apr-13 18:13:11

I started my periods overnight and woke up in a pool of blood and in pain. I knew it would happen eventually but was in total shock. I ruined my sheep all in one sleepsuit, label was age 9-10yrs iirc. I felt v torn by the recognition of what was happening and the knowledge that it meant my body was growing up even if I wasn't ready to. My Mum got it right at first, gave me a day off school and told them I had an upset stomach. She went out and bought lots of age appropriate stuff, a little tin, drawstring bag etc and showed me what to do.

Then she bumped into my friends on their way home from school later that day and told them all. I don't know why I was so embarrassed but it still smarts now looking back.

You're doing a million times better than my Mum so far!

SouthernPolish Thu 18-Apr-13 18:46:48

Thank you piratecat - good practical advice and tips! esp re: Buscopan.
Had already thought about buying black / dark coloured cheapo pants at weekend. We are currently using 'older' pants and may end up binning them if they look grotty.

It's rubbish that they have to go through this isn't it?!

Hope your DD is ok - hospital stuff sounds scary and worrying. How awful for both of you :-(

When she's a bit older I will defo go for the pill option, as I still remember the huge relief that came with going on it myself. But feel a bit concerned about hormones at such a young age.

Ta everso - really helps :-)

piratecat Thu 18-Apr-13 19:16:32

yes i was concerned with the pill. But, weighing up the odds of the effect the periods have had on her and her schooling, and one year in i decided to try it.

They were only more 'happy' to give her a chance on them because she has had regular periods for a year. Therefore, she is functioning well, and as i described before had been going thru puberty for two yrs before she got her first period.

a ten yr old in a much older body hormonally if you like. primark pants are great btw. 2.50 lol.

SouthernPolish Thu 18-Apr-13 22:11:21

Oh yes I completely know what you mean Piratecat - 10 year old brain in the body of a teenager. GP said that if he didn't know her DOB he'd have said she was 15, based on weight, height and physical development.

Based on that, I am now ignoring the 12 years and over instructions on packs of Nurofen Meltlets and ditched the Calpol 6+ (useless!).

Trying to stay positive: hopefully the silver lining is she now doesn't have to go through all of this at Secondary school in the midst of exams... maybe a more chilled-out actual teenager?

Also: due to all of the questions she has been asking, she's definitely several steps ahead in terms of sex-education, which can't be a bad thing either. She knows about the pill because the GP discussed it (he's not advising it now, but for the future if things carry on as they are). So we had a long chat about it at home and got some books out.

Sadly, at DDs school the sex education so far has been a bit crap and I've already has to fill in many blanks and dispel some myths. A supply teacher even told the girls that 'overweight women have big breasts and thin woman don't' :-O

piratecat Thu 18-Apr-13 22:46:01

dd has been taking proper ibuprofen and capsule paracetamol for about a year now.

thank god. it's much cheaper!

so much confusion about when girls start their periods. during my research, i found advice that it was only at certain weight! Not true, dd was prob about 5 1/2 stone if that. Skinny, and with boobs (jealous)

Mumzy Sat 20-Apr-13 01:25:46

Poor love it's rotten starting so young especially at primary school you just want them to enjoy their childhoods without having to deal with adult stuff too soon and you sound like a lovely mum Southern. This thread takes me back to when I started at 10 thank god a couple of months before our teacher shooed the boys out into the playground one afternoon and gave us girls a pep talk about periods. Otherwise I wouldn't have been any the wiser when I started. I do remember for the first couple of years having very irregular but very heavy periods with the most awful cramps. The day I discovered feminax was amazing.

Dancergirl Wed 24-Apr-13 22:54:41

Thanks for updating OP, your poor dd. My own dd started last summer but so far has been quite light luckily.

Hope things improve soon. Her teacher sounds horrible! Sod the school (and SATS!), if you think she needs to stay home then do it.

MNBlackpoolandFylde Sat 27-Apr-13 22:42:50

Think we are going to have the same with dd, both me and my mum were 11 and dd at 10 and a half has been complaining of cramp pains in her stomach. She too is upset at the prospect.

Me and mum both had dysmeneria (sp?) really heavy painful periods so I am dreading it.

Eldoret Sun 28-Apr-13 20:57:25

poor thing
im 40, and it still upsets me that i have to be a grown up lady! i cry every month. Dont tel her that though smile

piratecat Sun 28-Apr-13 21:05:37

we are also trying to do a night time bed wetting alarm along side periods. the alarm goes into the underwear, but obviously, her period will set it off.

tonight is day one so has gone up to bed with just pants on and a sanitary pad.

my poor dd, talk about conflict.

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