Dd is in yr 7.
We live in a large village, in a naice area. Though I do appreciate it that kids can get into mischief wherever and you can get "odd" people anywhere.
She's allowed off with her friends round the village, they mainly hang out in the park. She's either in the park or at a friends house or somewhere in between. She knows she's not allowed out the village.
One of the other mums was saying that there is no way her dd (same age) is allowed to roam about the village.
Am I wrong for doing so? I was always allowed out and about at an even younger age.
Also tomorrow I'm taking dd and a friend of hers to a shopping centre, out of town fairly big mall. Nowhere near as big as Westfield though. Dd knows the shopping centre like the back of her hand as we go there a lot bit. I was thinking that the two of them could go off by themselves and I arrange to meet them at a certain place and time. Let them have a couple of hours on their own. Dd will have her phone with her. Does that sound reasonable? The other girl's mum I know would be fine with that as her dd is allowed to catch the bus into town and go shopping without an adult.
It's such an odd age. They act quite grown up, I feel I ought to be giving her more freedom, etc. But 11 is quite young still and then other parents seem shocked when I say what dd is allowed to do.
When I was 11 my mum let me and my 13yo brother have an afternoon and evening in Paris on our own and told us to meet her a certain place after a few hours of roaming about!
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VivaLeBeaver · 29/09/2012 19:20
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