12 year old wanting to play 18 rated XBox game

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Wordsmith Sun 02-Sep-12 11:52:56

My 12 year old son is obsessed with getting the new Black Ops 2 video game out soon. It's an 18 rated game and I'm determined he's not having it. He nagged for ages to get Modern Warfare 3 and we eventually caved in, much to my regret, and I've told him he's not having another 18 rated game until he's much older. His argument is that literally ALL of his friends will be getting it and playing online with each other, and he'll be left out. I've explained all the reasons why he shouldn't have 18 rated games. I know we shouldn't have let him have MW3 and am determined not to start a trend. I do understand how he feels re his friends, but would really appreciate some cogent arguments we could offer him which might help him understand that we're not just horrible parents who are being too strict. I've tried everything I can think of.

He's a typical pre-teenager, glued to a screen most of the time, and I'm trying to get him to have a bit more of a life - and I know that if he did get this game, it would make it even harder for me to do so.

Any advice gratefully received.

coco1810 Sat 14-May-16 17:07:43

My DS knows its not going to happen. 18 certificate games are an 18 for a reason, it's that simple. Fortunately, at the moment he respects that. Even if he didn't like it it's not going to happen.

BreastfeedInPublic Fri 13-May-16 22:15:54

Can't believe that you even let a child near an electronic device! They're so damaging! I don't know how you could let your child associate with their friends online! It's dangerous!!! Back in my days, it was all about having a life! We used to walk miles to get our rations. Those were the days, rations, war, chain smoking and playing in the blitz! Me and my friends used to wrestle mama bears and play with asbestos! What're these kids up to nowadays anyway? Am I against something because my kids are different and I can't be bothered to actually try something myself and form my own opinion?! Definitely not! We used to hunt Jack The Ripper, kids nowadays have NO FUN! I hate everything new because I miss my childhood! In conclusion, you are evil for even letting your children live in their generation and not yours! Those were the days!!!

BreastfeedInPublic Fri 13-May-16 21:58:09

Can't believe that he even wanted Call Of Duty! I would suggest that you ban Call Of Duty from the household! A teen shouldn't be playing such damaging games. I would recommend you buy him Battlefield. The Call Of Duty franchise is dying and shouldn't be in any households. Battlefield doesn't twist a teens perception of reality like Call Of Duty does! Call Of Duty has also been directly associated with cancer growth, especially damaging to teens! Hope this advice doesn't come too late!

iseenodust Wed 04-May-16 22:19:31

Cr*p just seen Zombie.

iseenodust Wed 04-May-16 22:18:54

Not read the whole thread.

You know you need to stick with No. I work with a children's charity; a 12yr old playing 18 games would be a trigger for a conversation with the child protection officer.

DS is yr7 so I appreciate the 'all my friends' line but he knows it doesn't get him anywhere.

[[ healthland.time.com/2011/12/02/how-playing-violent-video-games-may-change-the-brain/ Brain change]]
Tanya Byron did a paper in how violent games can affect children.

hooge Tue 03-May-16 16:28:36

Oh shit haha ZOMBIE THREAD

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hooge Tue 03-May-16 16:26:24

Your "cogent argument" is, "I am your parent and I say no".

Qwolf Tue 03-May-16 16:22:26

Hi, i understand your concern but there is NO evidence videogames cause violence. in fact, i belive you should get it.

gamerchick Wed 10-Feb-16 09:27:07

Is he allowed to play it now OP considering he's around 16 now this threads so old?

Rainbowcolours1 Wed 10-Feb-16 09:21:20

They are 18 games. End of. It is your house, your rules. Yes they will play it elsewhere but they won't feel comfortable about it. My two were never allowed non-age appropriate games. They didn't like it...now they are adults they are not that interested and can now see why we said no...and they understand. A twelve year old is highly unlikely to understand your reasons!

nooka Sat 30-Jan-16 07:03:07

This thread is more than four years old! The kid is almost old enough to buy it for himself now!

littlehelper123 Sat 30-Jan-16 06:57:31

are you serious I wouldn't let my 13 year old curse

littlehelper123 Sat 30-Jan-16 06:46:54

do not let him get not yet because I got it for my 14 year old and well it ain't pretty

TheNebulousBoojum Sun 09-Dec-12 19:34:26

Why answer a zombie thread?
Unless you are buying him Resident Evil for Christmas.

bakedbeanqueen Sun 09-Dec-12 19:11:12

My son is 9, nearly 10 and is desperate for Call of Duty. He looks longingly at it every time he sees it in the shop. My technique is simple. I just say NO!! He won't be having 18 rated games for many years yet.

Childsveiwsmatter Thu 15-Nov-12 21:38:41

I'm sorry I'm going to have to disagree. I think you should Jugde on how mature they are because everyone reacts differently to games. I can understand that it can be hard to judge but if you are there mum or dad you will probably be able to make a fair decision. And be confident in you decision! Also I would like to add that it makes you look very small and weak if you bullshit about kids on a mums website(kids lie) what shit is that!!!! I hope this has helped you see clearly through your parents are always right crap

Theas18 Mon 12-Nov-12 23:37:33

Umm nope, not in this house!

But Then again we don't have an x box or ps3 anyway lol. We have wii that's not been used for ages ( since ds finished skyward sword in his pst GCSE games feet) and a ps2 that he bought with his savings and at 16 still plays some football on! I think when he was 12/13 he was too busy to worry too much about gaming really.

Hell cope with " being left out". It won't be the first or last time hell be different o his mates.

slipslider Mon 12-Nov-12 23:27:21

For those who wonder if any 18 game is appropriate or not for their underage child just consider how a whole class of 9/10 year olds in my school know what 'tea bagging' is now because of COD! You can teabag your enemies in this game and our class this is it something hilarious to copy during playtimes. It is not just the violence but I think adult behaviours such as this are not appropriate for children!

winkle2 Thu 08-Nov-12 21:00:21

No cause she doesn't smoke or drink. The same kid said wanker in front if me the other day! He's 5 now. She announced once that she allows swearing in front of her kids. I was like shock

LynetteScavo Thu 08-Nov-12 20:52:28

Well, that someone is very stupid.

Does she give them beer and a cigarette too?

winkle2 Thu 08-Nov-12 20:41:33

I know someone who let their two year old play these games!!

LynetteScavo Thu 08-Nov-12 19:32:23

As a mother of a 13yo who has presented their intelligent DS with every argument against playing 18 games, I can tell you the easiest is; "I don't want you witnessing violence, (insert your personal argument against violence if you wish...but really just save your breath) so I'm not letting you have it. Even if that makes me think I'm a mean, miserable old cow." Repeat endlessly for several months, and they might get the message. There maybe times when you need to say "BECAUSE I'M YOUR MOTHER AND I'VE SAID NO!" By the age of 12 he will have already figured violence = bad, so no need to elaborate too much.

ladybird4 Thu 08-Nov-12 19:22:44

give up cos you won't win this war - you're deluded if you think that he's not going to play it at friends houses so I wouldnt waste my energy fighting this one. Just put him on a timer and that way you're stopping him from becoming addicted and you are showing him who's boss. I wasted too much time deliberating over whether to allow my 10 year old COD for Christmas cos all of his friends really did have it and it was their sole topic of conversation for that month anyway! Listen, the only worry you should have concerning the xbox is if he becomes addicted - to ANY game (Minefield included) - then your problems are real. In other words don't sweat the small stuff.

PropositionJoe Tue 04-Sep-12 17:01:30

Well my two seem to understand pretty well that they won't be getting any 18 games and that even when they are 18 they won't be bringing anything I regard as offensive into our house (Grand Theft Auto springs to mind).

I have also allowed Halo which is 15. It is a first person game but shooting aliens. Assassins creed is third person. It is the realistic first person shooters I don't like because I firmly believe they mess with your head and teenage brains are far from fully formed. Interestingly when they first got Halo they found it made them quite stressed and tense so they only play it when they have friends round.

Wordsmith Tue 04-Sep-12 16:07:06

That's probably very true Mathanxiety. I think he's still trying because he thinks my DH will talk me into it. And because he plans to pay for it with his own money (which we tell him is 'to spend on stuff he wants including video games'). I don't seem to be able to get it through to him that it's not about money. he really thinks playing an 18 rated game won't affect him.

And it's true Pfft... he used to think the age ratings reflected the difficulty levels of the games, until we put him right. It's scary that many parents still think that. Comments from his friends' parents on age-inappropriate games have included: "Well you've got to let them have what their friends have, don't you," "There's no harm is there," and "I can't see why you're worried about it". And most of these kids play the game alone, in their bedrooms behind closed doors. I do have to bite my tongue sometimes.

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