9yo DD has always been a total joy, very level - no drama queen tactics - and generally a very happy little girl. For the past couple of months there has been a real increase in tears and a few friendship issues, and she has come sobbing a few times saying "I had this bad thought, I thought something mean about (insert me, DH, friends etc.) but I love you really, I don't mean it". Ok, a bit strange but I have spoken to her lots, explained that now she's growing up her hormones might be making her feel a bit funny, given lots of cuddles etc. She's had a major growth spurt but there doesn't seem to be any sign of breasts or anything like that.
This weekend however it has been non-stop. Every few minutes it seemed she was sobbing over something in her mind that she had no control over. I gave her a few tactics to try and control her thoughts "think of something happy, say NO I'm not listening to you mind etc. The idea of the "monkey mind" my yoga teacher used to talk about made her laugh for a bit" but as the weekend went on it spiralled a bit out of control. DH was fairly sympathetic to start but by Sunday night he said he thought I just needed to tell her to stop it. I don't want to over indulge, but it feels like I need to keep encouraging her to talk to me.
She's my only DD, I have two older boys aged 19 and 13 and have never even had a Kevin moment with tham. For the first time ever I found it a bit of a relief when she went off to school this mornings which, of course, I feel really guilty about. Is this just the start of puberty, or is she developing some kind of anxiety order that I need to deal with - I really don't have a clue here. I don't really want to talk to my friends in RL so would appreciate any advice or stories once you all wake up!
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Sunnydelight · 13/08/2012 04:14
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