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DS hates pre school please help

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noogles · 09/01/2007 10:39

My ds has been going to pre school since October. He didnt like it to begin with and cries most mornings when I leave him.I know he is fine when I go as the teachers have taken photos of him playing when I go home. He also comes out really happy at the end of the session. he just hates the leaving me part as he says he misses me and no one plays with him,which isnt true as on another note he says that he always plays with two children that are at the school. What can I do to make the mornings less stressful? Any tips so I dont feel like the wicked witch when I leave him? He goes back on Monday and is already saying he doesnt want to go!! aaaagh

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mamalocco · 09/01/2007 20:54

Can you meet any of his school friends on the way to school? If he's walking in with someone it might make it abit easier. Or can you find something he can take in with him. At our preschool they happily accept donations for fruit time, or he could take in some cardboard books for junk modeling or even a 'letter' for the teacher something to distract him when it comes to saying goodbye to you. Good luck.

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noogles · 10/01/2007 10:02

thanks mamaloco, we meet his friends in his playground and he plays and is fine until we get in and do the coats etc.i might try the letter thing though

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SSShakeTheChi · 10/01/2007 10:04

Can he have a photo of you , so you're "with him" at preschool?

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noogles · 10/01/2007 10:16

oooh I like that idea, i could get one of those little oassport ones and put it in his coat pocket, thankx

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Hattiecat · 10/01/2007 11:19

i used to work in a pre school and had a little boy that sounds like yours. this may sound ridiculously simple, but at the end of a session i would chat to the boy about what we were going to do the next day and let him think about what he wanted to do and would always talk to his mum about this at picking up time and make a bit thing about how exciting it was going to be and what fun we were going to have. i encouraged mum to talk to him about it as well during the evening, on the way in the morning, hanging coat up to remind him of what fun he actually had. i also had special smiley face stickers for him so that if he came in with a smiley face he got a sticker - we would talk about this at the end of the previous session as well, and mum would constantly be reminding him of it as he came to pre school and when he looked a bit wobbly - basically using massive diversion tactics to stop him winding himself up (he was also fine during the sessions and would tell mum what a fab time he had had!). with the stickers though, he would also get one once he had calmed down (not a smiley face one though) (it took a couple of days for him to come in without crying after we had implemented it) so he still needed a reward for cheering up. i also made sure that he was the first person i greeted (if possible) and made a huge "where's your smiley face" fuss of him. it worked a treat - does your son have a key worker/an adult that he relates to well at the pre-school - it may be worth a shot. also worth taking in pics of other things as well as you that he values (family, pets, friends) and bob them in his pocket so lots of added comfort and security. hope this helps.

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noogles · 10/01/2007 19:26

Thanks hatticat.Yes ther is one particular teacher he bonds well and she always helps bymaking a huge fuss of him when he gets to school. Dp and I always discuss school and what he is going to play etc. I think the problem is he really hasnt had much time to settle. When he started he was there two weeks and it was half term. When he went back we had just got him settled and he was off for four weeks ill. Then he was back for a week and it was xmas hols!!! I think its just a case of percevering and tryin some of the tips mentioned. I guess we will get there soon. Thanx

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