do you notice peer pressure in nursery re. clothes?

(39 Posts)
Micromanageit Sun 10-Apr-16 22:23:33

I'm not sure if I'm imagining it!

Do you think nursery kids feel pressure to have the same/ equally good accessories and clothes as their peers?

The girls in my DD's nursery seem to have so many accessories and new clothes and I noticed my DD shows her friends whatever she's wearing as soon as she arrives. Seems so young

VegasIsBest Sun 10-Apr-16 22:25:20

Never felt this. Can't believe two and three year olds would either.

Ginmakesitallok Sun 10-Apr-16 22:25:31

No. None in primary school either.

Micromanageit Sun 10-Apr-16 22:27:56

That's reassuring !!

RunswickBay Sun 10-Apr-16 22:28:01

What? No. Of course not. They're about 3!

poocatcherchampion Sun 10-Apr-16 22:28:19

Not at all

Although one little girl laughed at my dd at soft play once for wearing non matching socks. I was just pleased she had socks on.

Made me sad my dd was 2.

ReallyTired Sun 10-Apr-16 22:28:35

I don't think that mist nursery kids have any concept of designer labels. Possibly there is pressure to wear pink and sparkly clothes, but a four year old won't care if they are wearing Almani or ASDA.

Is there competition among the mums?

Micromanageit Sun 10-Apr-16 22:30:03

Yes, I was thinking more along the lines of pink and sparkly rather than specific labels. Or wearing a necklace vs not wearing one.

I'm not sure what other mums think as I never really chat to them

Artandco Sun 10-Apr-16 22:31:06

No, at 2 years mine still wore sleepsuits out a lot of the time

AnaisB Sun 10-Apr-16 22:31:15

Not peer pressure, but my kids are pleased if they've got a favourite item of clothing on - and are happy if they're complimented.

elliejjtiny Sun 10-Apr-16 22:32:13

No, although a preschool child once asked me why 9mo DS4 was wearing a babygrow instead of proper clothes blush.

Micromanageit Sun 10-Apr-16 22:32:42

My DD has such low self esteem and it seemed odd when I saw her showing her friends her clothes. It wasn't really showing-off, it was almost a nervous panic, look I'm wearing this sort of way. It was a bit upsetting and I'm wondering where it comes from

Hamsolo Sun 10-Apr-16 22:33:35

She seems to have picked up a love of pink there. Wouldn't say it goes any further than that yet.

CutYourHairAndGetAJob Sun 10-Apr-16 22:35:26

Dd likes wearing dressing up clothes to nursery, and I do think the kids like to compare costumes, and try each other's on. Dd is currently very pleased with her £land Hello kitty necklace.

I'm not a fan of the whole pink sparkly look but I don't want to make a big deal out of it and hope she will grow out of it

Toomanycats99 Sun 10-Apr-16 22:35:37

I remember dropping my 3 year old off and her and 2 others immediately started comparing their outfits. Then at just 4 at the start of her second school term I dropped her in the classroom in the morning to hear them all discussing what they were wearing to the school disco that afternoon!

CutYourHairAndGetAJob Sun 10-Apr-16 22:36:28

She is three by the way

hazeyjane Sun 10-Apr-16 22:45:40

I work in a preschool and both boys and girls sometimes like showing each other and the staff what they are wearing.....'look at my spiderman top'.......'I've got an Elsa top'....'me too!' (X30!).......'my shoes light up'....'do you like my dress?' Etc etc

One little girl comes up to me every time and does this lovely toe point to show me her shoes, and a sort of curtsey!

catkind Sun 10-Apr-16 22:58:28

They show each other if they have a new dress/hat/shoes or if they have a necklace or a toy brought in or something. Parents encourage this I think, cos when we're waiting to be let in we try to encourage the kids to interact with each other, and 'wow hasn't billy got a cool hat' is an easy opener.
DD knows what her friends like, so e.g. will say 'Z would like that, she likes pink.' Or 'A wouldn't like that, she doesn't like princesses.' I find that a really good sign they're developing an understanding of other children as separate people from themselves.
Sometimes DD will try to match friends, so if she's going to visit Z she'll wear pink. I'm pretty sure her recent self-afflicted haircut was a copycat!
It really doesn't go beyond colours and characters. It's definitely cooperative not competitive. And as far as I can tell they don't notice how many different/new things, just what they have on today.

JasperDamerel Sun 10-Apr-16 23:02:13

No, but DS started insisting on wearing "boys' socks" rather than his sister's cast-offs at around the end of preschool or start of Reception.

poocatcherchampion Mon 11-Apr-16 07:23:05

What do you mean low self esteem OP? Its very young for such a label IMO

PotteringAlong Mon 11-Apr-16 07:27:08

Not unless they are dressed as a pirate, which is normally the object of much admiration grin

OrangesandLemonsNow Mon 11-Apr-16 07:29:59

*What do you mean low self esteem OP? Its very young for such a label IMO(

I agree

BeStrongAndCourageous Mon 11-Apr-16 07:51:47

Yeah, the 3&4 year old girls at DD's nursery like to compare clothes and admire each other's. It doesn't bother me - DD has always loved clothes, as do I, as does my DM, as did my DGM!

One the other girls turned up one day in brand-new sparkly Princess dress and one of DD's friends immediately burst into tears because "she looks more beautiful than me!" which I thought was a little worrying, but then she is normally quite emotional.

Sheezus Mon 11-Apr-16 07:53:29

Sorry OP, just wondering if you are projecting a bit on to your DD.
As others have said all children do this and it is harmless.

I don't think nursery kids know the difference between Primark and Prada.

CutYourHairAndGetAJob Mon 11-Apr-16 07:59:04

I think the cheaper stuff is more popular because it tends to be more sparkly and less tasteful.

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