I've done the nursery, primary school journey with DS who is now in secondary school. I know how traumatic nursery drop-offs can be and that the outcome is usually a positive one. We had lots of play dates and DS made lots of buddies. He also had some less than good times at nursery. And I know that is to be expected.
My DD who will be 4 in early April, started nursery last September at a primary school around the corner. Teachers (there are 2) are lovely, kids seem absolutely fine, parents are nice. It's a nice nursery. My son's was filled with the semi-delinquent :-) and he survived. That was years ago. On the outside, I can't fault DD's nursery. But my daughter just cries and cries when I leave her. She's not a particularly needy child. She's not spoiled and isn't a demanding little girl by any means. She sleeps very well, eats well and is a very happy, chatty little girl. Just giving you some background. :-)
But from September to now it's just been an emotional sob fest. She clings to my legs, shaking and begging me not to go. I can't stay. I work morning's until 12, pick-up time.
It is just depleting me emotionally. I dread the walk to nursery every morning, just dread it. It becomes this big, psychological issue which is just getting to me. The beginning of the walk is fine, but once we near the gates, her anxiety builds up and builds up. She repeatedly asks me to stay, not to leave. By the time I drop her off, we're in meltdown mode. Apparently she's fine after a while and she chats positively about nursery, though not very much. She always says she doesn't want to go to school whenever at home. Not in an upset way, but whenever I say, "Shall we get ready for school, she replies, "No thank you mummy. I don't really want to go to nursery." So she politely declines. :-) Of course, we get ready and go. What I notice is that at this stage, the kids haven't bonded much. There doesn't seem to be many parents connecting and making play dates or planning little bday parties. And my daughter has a few buddies- all boys. There are 19 in the class. But I feel very much on the outside and I don't quite 'get' what she's getting out of nursery at this point. I am tempted to take her out. Not sure what to do. Yes, we've had the talks with the teacher, but they've sort of led to nowhere.
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deelite72 · 07/03/2014 12:21
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