I would like to hear about experiences of having subsequent children after a premature baby (due to pre-eclampsia/HELLP/growth problems in baby).
I found the whole experience really awful although my dd and I are both fine now so I know I am one of the lucky ones. We are now thinking of a second but sometimes feel terrified that we will go through the same thing (but with a dd who needs her parents).
In summary, I was 33 weeks and feeling fine apart from odd minor headaches. I took myself to my local day assessment unit and it was found that my bp was higher than listed in my notes but still ok. However the next day I was called into hospital for monitoring as max amount of protein was found in my urine. Baby was measuring small (under 5 centile) but this wasn't so much a concern as I am on the small side (plus I always thought my dates were a couple of weeks out). I spent 11 days in hospital and had my bp taken so much that I now have a fear of it being taken at all. I basically didn't get any sleep/rest for 11 days due to a noisy hospital environment plus I felt alone and terrified! I remember I kept thinking that I would be discharged and go home. It never happened. Despite all manner of meds my bp kept rising and tests showed an increased blood flow resistance/plus baby didn't grow very well over one week. All culminated in one day where bp went crazy (although I still felt ok) and I was rushed in for emerg cs (I had weird horrible breathing difficulties before op most likely due to shock). Dd was born at 34 plus 2 days, only 3pd3oz. Complete shock! In neonatal unit for 4 weeks and 2 days, no major problems but establishing feeding was a nightmare plus the trauma of being home without her was awful. 17 month old dd is thriving now. Still on the small side but like me in this respect.
So, just want to find out if you received any conception tests such as blood tests for potential disorders linking to HELLP/PE? Did you change anything in your diet/lifestyle before conception and throughout pregnancy? Did you carry on working or cut back knowing how things went the first time round? Were you monitored/how often/what type of monitoring? Did things work out the same/better/worse than with first pregnancy? Did you get further along than with first? If you were treated in London, did you see any particular specialists you can recommend? Did you have a greater say with hindsight on your treatment second time around? E.g I am considering hiring a bp machine so I can avoid a hospital stay. I definitely wouldn't want to leave my dd for 2 weeks!
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sparky28 · 13/06/2015 08:46
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