how can I trust them, again?

(8 Posts)
MultipleMama Mon 21-Oct-13 19:18:16

My 2 week old (33 ges) preemie who weights just over 1lb 5oz was "accidently" handled carelessy by a nurse - his neck wasn't well supported causing his head to drop back. His alarm went back and his sats dropped dramtically.

We had a meeting today to discuss the situation and something has been done and currently waiting to see if anymore action is going to be taken.

The nurse has been working on NICU for 6 years, she shouldn't have made such a mistake that could have easily killed him.

I've completely lost trust and totally paranoid about it happening again. We no longer dare leave him alone overnight without one of us stopping which isn't fair to our other DC at home.

Now, I'm thinking, what the hell do I do now?...

Tmallett92 Mon 11-Nov-13 23:13:00

you need to trust them, you cannot let one nurses carelessness ruin your opinion of all of them. be watchful but you need to also rest and trust in them

Hawkmoth Mon 11-Nov-13 23:17:47

Mindful that this has been brought back up. How is he now?

Flatasawitchestit Mon 11-Nov-13 23:18:19

I'm sorry to hear this. I'd feel the same if I was you, I have had 2 babies in scbu and one of them wasn't getting the treatment I wanted so remember feeling like a meerkat watching constantly. I was exhausted by the end of it and one lovely nurse told me to go to bed and rest and then I'd be able to get my head straight with a good nights sleep or two. She was right I did feel better after that night. I think from what you've said if they're dealing with it they're probably being extra careful and not all of the nurses are going to make mistakes.

You need to voice your concerns when you have the meeting and be honest. How long will baby be expected to be in for?

Garfield2050 Tue 12-Nov-13 00:07:38

I work in a Neonatal unit. I'm so sorry that such a scary episode happened. I'm glad the unit are taking it seriously.
While I can appreciate it being hard to trust the staff, staying with your baby all the time can be counterproductive. As a staff member, being watched all the time by parents who obviously don't trust you, is very stressful. You might think, tough, that is their problem, but they are actually more likely to make errors.
Are there some staff you feel more comfortable with? Perhaps speak to the Neonatal unit manager about having certain staff care for your little boy.
I hope things improve. Having a premie is stressful enough.

MultipleMama Wed 13-Nov-13 07:22:33

Totally forgot about this thread!

The situation has been sorted she's been moved to SCBU (only temp) and received verbal & written warning. She allowed no part of either twin's care.

Apollo received swelling and bruising on his neck from it but thankfully nothing else. Apollo has a new daily nurse now and he's a lovely guy who includes us so much more and makes us hands on smile

HDEE Wed 13-Nov-13 07:50:44

He weighs just over 1lb 5oz at 33 weeks gestation? Is that right? That's tiny.

Glad you have got it sorted. I have problems with my baby's nurses in NICU but I can't complain because I get told to accept it or leave.

MultipleMama Wed 13-Nov-13 09:47:00

He was born at 31 weeks weighing 1lb 9oz. He had symmerical IUGR due to multiple complications throughout my pregnancy.

He lost weight due to infections but is slowly putting it back on smile

Hope your baby gets better soon x

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