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bringing pram in house before birth

(41 Posts)
littleLS Tue 08-Apr-14 21:37:24

has anyone else heard this myth?? im 24 weeks, we bought our pram the other day on special offer, got it home, we put the box straight in the garage but the next day i wanted to check all bits and bobs were there incase we had to go back to shop, i put it up and assembled the pram in my porch, not actually bringing it in the house as such. after doing so went back in garage. my mum freaked out on the phone saying it was bad luck, and a few folk at work have said the same. im not a believer of myths etc but feeling paranoid now!!

has anyone else brought their pram in the house prior to birth?!!

HandragsNGladbags Tue 08-Apr-14 21:39:39

Yes, my DM went on and on and on... about this with DD1.

DH asked what would happen with DC2 when the pram had already been in the house and he got a glare grin

It's an old superstition, and I don't think is around that much anymore. DM insisted on keeping pram at her house which suited me until DD1 was born. I am on dc3 now and it was never mentioned again!

stargirl1701 Tue 08-Apr-14 21:41:08

Yes. We did. I felt like I had to become familiar with it before DD arrived.

I think it dates back to a time when there was no real ante-natal care. People struggled to understand why, sadly, a baby had been lost before it was due and blamed it on superstitious nonsense. I find a particular generation actually find pregnancy & childbirth a very worrying time because so many mums and babies died in the past. It must've been so hard to live before modern medicine.

notnagging Tue 08-Apr-14 21:41:19

Utter rubbish. There are so many ridiculous superstitions out there. You've got enough on your mind without having to think about that rubbish. Ignore

JoyceDivision Tue 08-Apr-14 21:41:30

yes. my mum and mil suddenly transported through a worm hole back to the C17thwhere prams mustn't be brought in to the house before thebaby arrives, otherstuff as wellbut I wasn't listening. But DH did and he wouldn't bring the pram home til after i came home!!

Truffkin Tue 08-Apr-14 21:46:10

MiL was the same but as they bought our first pram and lived 120 miles away from us she had no choice but to accept we needed it in our flat rather than do a 240 mile round trip to fetch it once the baby arrived grin

DC2 will be spectacularly unlucky as we're using the same pram so it's been in our house before this one was even thought of!

hotcrosshunny Tue 08-Apr-14 21:49:42

You know it's silly right?

What happens with subsequent children where there are already prams in the house...?

We bought ours before ds arrived and it was fine.

whereisshe Tue 08-Apr-14 21:50:19

Eh? Never heard that one. Our pram was inside the house from the time we bought it (some point in my second trimester I think). I didn't have anywhere else to keep it. DD appears to be fine hmm

1944girl Tue 08-Apr-14 21:53:39

This was rife when I was expecting my first baby back in 1969.Even local shops held to it and would keep your pram, once paid for, in storage until your baby was born.It only seemed to apply to first babies though, I used the same pram for my second and nobody commented on it being in the house when I was expecting him!.

DioneTheDiabolist Tue 08-Apr-14 21:57:04

It's a superstitious hangover from the days of high infant mortality. It must have been so painful to see a pram in the hall when there was no baby to put in it.

littleLS Tue 08-Apr-14 22:02:18

Yeah i am the same i want to get to know how it all works and become familiar with it beforehand as hubby wont always be there to help me.

my mum stays on our street and has offered to keep it but she smokes and i refuse to keep it in her house.

just going to keep it in the box in garage just now, will assemble it again closer to my due date and keep it up to get it in shape (all creased from being squished in box!!)

glad to hear others have had it in house, i know its silly but hormones telling me to panic slightly!!

hartmel Tue 08-Apr-14 23:05:39

Had ours in the house before DS arrived. I wanted to get familiar with it..
Plus we bought our high chair when I was 8 weeks pregnant, then the cot before my 20 week scan and car seat as well.
A) they where on sale B) from 27 week I got gallbladder attacks that I was in no stage going out for shopping and didn't want my hubby too. As we do everything together

ZingSweetCoconut Tue 08-Apr-14 23:22:16

I keep baby in my belly till birth.
and my belly is in the house with me.

is that bad luck too?grin

what a load of bollocks. what if you are pg with 2nd, 3rd etc - should you not bring pram in the house then either?
I had a MC with my 5th. it was not caused by baby equipment being in close proximity.

feeona123 Wed 09-Apr-14 00:21:48

We had our pram in the nursery for weeks before the baby was born.

She's here now with no problems x

weebigmamma Wed 09-Apr-14 03:28:03

Yes, my best friend's baby died and did anyone suggest it was because of baby equipment? er, thankfully no! They had the equipment in their house for #2 and all was well. I think when then unthinkable actually happens that people can see what scaremongery bollocks these superstitions are. You can get as massively anxious as you like about having a baby but you can't actually make a baby die without doing something directly harmful to it.

ZingSweetCoconut Wed 09-Apr-14 08:48:30

weebig

and most of the times loosing a baby is not caused by anything anyone did..it's an unexplained or unexpected tragedy.sad

frankiebuns Wed 09-Apr-14 09:10:28

My mum is so supersticious she won't let the pram or anything babyfied in the house! So poor old fil has a housefull

hubbahubster Wed 09-Apr-14 09:24:55

Frankly I needed to practice getting the darn thing up and down before DC1 was born so yes, mine was in the house.

callamia Wed 09-Apr-14 09:30:07

Where else are you supposed to put it? These ridiculous superstitions are welcome to remain in the past.

Poledra Wed 09-Apr-14 09:41:12

My sister passed her pram onto me for my DCs. It was in my house from 4 months before DD1 was born. It's just a superstition.

That pram was the dog's bollocks, BTW. we had 5 babies sleep in it, must have pushed it for miles. Then I gave it to the local Woman's Aid refuge. The fabric had faded slightly, I'd put new wheels on it for DD2 but it was still in good condition. The Refuge people were delighted as they had a lady in who had a baby of a few weeks old, and this was a proper, lie-'em-down pram. My sister and I hope that the good vibes from our fortunate, happy babies passed onto the lady and her baby too. smile

alita7 Wed 09-Apr-14 10:08:07

well unless I wait until after birth which would be hugely impractical, then I will have to bring my pram in, I have no garage or porch etc and no garden.

squizita Wed 09-Apr-14 10:12:02

Its from the days when stillbirths etc were much more common. Pure superstition.

blush Will probably end up doing it myself though, as seeing it would stress me more... Better in the garage. For me and my sanity, not as a rule!!!

Mrswellyboot Wed 09-Apr-14 10:13:37

We brought ours in. My mum went mad but it needed to be out together

Mrswellyboot Wed 09-Apr-14 10:14:25

Put together and I wanted everything ready. We had the Moses basket out, nappies and even baby hangers bought

JonSnowsPout Wed 09-Apr-14 10:17:41

Eh? what shite!

I don't belive that if I step on a crack I will break my back either

squizita Wed 09-Apr-14 10:21:49

Just re my previous post.

A woman who has had losses may not feel comfortable having stuff in the house and seeing it. In the same way as she may choose not to tell everyone bang on 12 weeks.

That's not the same as a superstitious "rule" at all! if the woman is happy with where she puts her stuff, that is what matters!

ZingSweetCoconut Wed 09-Apr-14 12:29:09

squizita

exactly. if the pg woman feels uneasy to see baby items in the house that's to be respected.

but future grandmas & aunts getting annoyingly judgey/superstitious/overdramatic/hysterical is just pathetic.
we need to be practical and prepared, not being made to feel guilty or worried.
being pg is stressful enough.

arghhelpme Wed 09-Apr-14 12:57:57

Had prams in the house with dc1 and 2.
Dc3's pram has been in the house before I actually conceived!
Managed to get a £330 pram for £50 brand new at work. Was TTC and thought it was too much of a bargin to miss.

Dc1 and 2 and fine and touch wood this one will be too smile

TondelayoSchwarzkopf Wed 09-Apr-14 13:26:20

I think it's reasonable not to BUY anything big until the 13 week / 20 week scan (depending on your level of comfort).

Not letting anything in the house though - that's weird and old-fashioned.

TondelayoSchwarzkopf Wed 09-Apr-14 13:28:02

That said, I'm being induced on Saturday and there is a part of me (a science loving, atheist skeptic) that doesn't want my child to be born on the 13th. confused hmm

ZingSweetCoconut Wed 09-Apr-14 13:39:35

DS2 was born on 13th.
He is doing ok!wink

1944girl Fri 11-Apr-14 23:25:54

My DH was born at home, the house was number 13.

MissSlackPants84 Sat 12-Apr-14 07:16:01

My mum won't let me bring our pushchair home. She got the finance for us so it has been delivered to hers. She was even reluctant for us to assemble it at hers before baby was born. At least its not taking up space at ours while we have the great pre baby clear out smile

Chipandspuds Sat 12-Apr-14 07:19:17

Never heard of this one!

TestingTestingWonTooFree Sat 12-Apr-14 07:36:15

I know mil had the pram delivered from the shop when DH was born in 1974. I think if it's your first baby and you have no use for equipment it might be better to have it out of the way. Entirely personal preference though.

I would prefer to delay things until near the end, but if offered a bargain mid way through, I'd snap it up. I wouldn't have bought things while TTC DC1 as I'd feel it was asking for trouble even though rationally I know it's completely irrelevant.

RebeccaCloud9 Sat 12-Apr-14 11:59:15

Yeah, just think about it logically-in reality, how could it make even the slightest bit of difference to the health of a baby?

squizita Sat 12-Apr-14 12:53:56

I wouldn't have bought things while TTC DC1 as I'd feel it was asking for trouble even though rationally I know it's completely irrelevant.

Not asking for trouble, but a horrible memory if (as for some) it never gets further - or not to mention in a cold, hard logical sense, spending money that might be needed to assist things (e.g. fertility or miscarriage private clinics, as the NHS can take ages).

I'm awaiting my 20 week anomaly scan after which I will feel more secure about making 'big' outlays (e.g. pram, carseat, repainting/decorating a room etc'). I wouldn't want to leave it too late either though... imagine if you delivered before the shop did grin (which I imagine might happen if you only ordered 35 week+!).

Quodlibet Sat 12-Apr-14 14:37:33

It's worth bringing in it the house if only to avoid the problem my friend had when she discovered that her pram was too wide for the doorway into her flat.

Andcake Sat 12-Apr-14 14:49:53

I've heard of this and not sure what I did with pram but tried to keep things to a bare minimum. In fact in the few weeks before ds was born ( and when I was bored on maternity leave) I would cry in the nursery as I was so scared of coming home without a baby. It had taken me many years and mc to get that far and knew of quite a few stillbirths and was so scared.

BEEwitched Sat 12-Apr-14 22:12:37

We've had our pram in the house for ages, but I was talking to my best friend last week and she said the local pram shop back home refuses to hand prams out to parents before the birth of the baby - that's in Germany, so this must be quite a widespread superstition!

Pobblewhohasnotoes Sat 12-Apr-14 22:17:07

I'm born on the13th!

It's a silly superstition and offensive to anyone who's lost a baby.

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