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tell me honestly... After you're pregnant, give birth, lose weight...

(49 Posts)
Hedgehead Mon 17-Feb-14 14:20:51

Is your waist/hip ratio never the same again?

Mrswellyboot Mon 17-Feb-14 14:22:40

No, my shape is totally different too

JassyRadlett Mon 17-Feb-14 14:23:34

My shape is completely different even discounting a few extra pounds. In particular the shape of my ribcage and hips has changed.

SaucyJack Mon 17-Feb-14 14:27:07

I've kept my waist throughout all of my pregnancies. I never lost the post-pg loose skin "pouch" tho.

Don't expect to go back to your teenage bikini model days. But you never know- you might be one of the lucky ones.

vichill Mon 17-Feb-14 14:27:58

I agree never the same. i seem more boxy around the middle and bum a bit deflated.

ChicaMomma Mon 17-Feb-14 14:28:11

I think it depends on how low or high you carry for the duration of your pregnancy. Like Jassy has said, my SIL swears the shape of her ribcage is wider- for eg she used wear a 32 bra, now she's 34/36, (even at her thinnest). She carreid both babies very very high, like from early on her bump camp from right under her boobs. Mine appears to be the total opposite at the moment (right down in my crotch!) so not sure how that will affect me- wider hips no doubt! which is worse!!!

But just looking at my own circle of friends, most of them are in great shape, completely back to normal- but it takes time and hard work. And lots of weight work if you can find the time!!!!!!!!!! I have actually invested in a set of dumbbells for the house so that i can start pretty soon after delivery. (Am obviously a first timer and completely deluded lol)

Hedgehead Mon 17-Feb-14 14:29:34

The ONE thing I have is a flat stomach and a small waist. My thighs are big, my bum is big, but my waist is small and my tummy is flat. It's my ONE thing. And I'm gonna lose it, aren't I? (obviously having kids is worth much more than that!!!)

In what ways did your bodies change? What shapes did you become?

Rockchick1984 Mon 17-Feb-14 14:29:52

My ribs are slightly flared, but the biggest difference is that my tummy muscles remained separated so my waist was much wider than before, whereas I'd always previously had an hourglass figure I'm now a definite apple. Currently 38 weeks with DC2 and hopefully postnatal physio this time can help that a bit!

Rockchick1984 Mon 17-Feb-14 14:30:41

I still have a good bum though wink

Loveyouthree Mon 17-Feb-14 14:34:01

Hedge - I'm the same as you. Big bum, but small, defined waste and flat stomach. Mine are still here!!

I'm so proud of my body - I've had three children as well. But it might be because I had them at 19, 21 and 23, I don't know...

HabitualLurker Mon 17-Feb-14 14:36:10

There's hope Hedgehead - I'm someone who's pretty much the same as before.

Not exactly the same.. I definitely have a bit more skin on my stomach, but I honestly don't see how you can avoid that! But you can't really tell unless I grab it to demonstrate and measurements the same, clothes fit the same.

Actually, my arse is less perky, but I reckon that's cos I've done virtually no exercise for the last two years..

MarlenaGru Mon 17-Feb-14 14:36:32

My stomach was flat before pregnancy and flat after pregnancy. The only bad thing is my weird outie belly button which is there. I really didn't change shape much at all. It did take some work and probably a year for my muscles to go back to normal but they certainly did.

ChicaMomma Mon 17-Feb-14 14:37:11

hedge/loveyouthree- i'm the same- tiny little waist and flat belly/Bigish arse and horsey thighs. I WILL get my waist back after birth- it is definitely possible. It's defeatist (IMO) to just throw in the towel and put lack of shape down to motherhood. I've seen people defy it so it IS possible!

HabitualLurker Mon 17-Feb-14 14:38:40

.. oh yes, belly button is definitely more out than before!

Ok, so it's probably not possible to escape completely unscathed... but to be honest you probably will not care!

whiteblossom Mon 17-Feb-14 14:38:56

OK, I had my ds nearly 8 years ago, I lost the weight. Over the years it went up and down but one thing I stuck to was the gym three times a week. I found a gym with a crèche and my dh helped out.

A few years ago I made an effort to get back to being slim and my tummy has been flat for years. I am pear shaped so I have to work on my legs etc But my point being if you make an effort and keep at it, once you lose weight underneath will be in good shape.

I bought a crosstrainer for a home, weights do dvd's and lots of walking, suck in the belly!

I plan to do this all over again after this baby. Im very determined/deluded?

AGoodPirate Mon 17-Feb-14 14:39:15

Went back the same after 20s baby, flat stomach again etc. 30s baby, rib cage wider.

Hedgehead Mon 17-Feb-14 14:41:14

Loveyouthree/Chica Momma, you are giving me hope! I genuinely just feel I'd become a fat rectangle if I lost my waist and flat stomach...

I'm the same sort of shape as you. I'm exactly the same shape I was before becoming pregnant. Nothing's a given. If you never put fat onto your stomach (all on your hips etc) chances are it'll stay the same.

elvisola Mon 17-Feb-14 14:43:31

I am the same body shape but my feet went up a size.

Dixy30 Mon 17-Feb-14 14:50:23

I had mine at 25 and 27 and with bf really shrank the stomach back in and seemed to continue doing so, then cambridge diet lost rest of 3st I put on.

Literally looked exactly the same as before, extremely minor stretch marks you couldn't have told.

But I was hour glass shape 5'5 size 10/12 with big thighs & bum and small waist. I don't know whether this is why? Maybe an apple shape would have kept the bigger tummy more.

Hope it works again with no 3 now I'm 30 week !! confused

Loveyouthree Mon 17-Feb-14 15:00:05

Yes, should add that I breastfed all of mine for months. Breastfeeding was addictive once I saw how quickly my stomach went back to how it was!!

Jess03 Mon 17-Feb-14 15:11:00

Actually weigh less than before but it sits differently. You don't have as much time or energy to worry about it though which is an upside!

IamInvisible Mon 17-Feb-14 15:16:46

My waist is small and my tummy is flat still after having two children and being almost 43.

After DS2 I was back in my size 10 jeans 2 days later and within 6-8 weeks my waist was smaller, and it stayed that way until he was about 12.

SomethingOnce Mon 17-Feb-14 15:32:12

My navel wasn't the same but with work at the gym I was in pretty good shape after a year - slim and toned.

It'll be interesting to see what happens after this one smile

BuggedByJake Mon 17-Feb-14 15:38:19

I'm the same weight but different shape. I used to have a small waist, its now 29-30 inches & my tummy sticks out starting from under my bust rather than under my belly button.My also look smaller even though im still the same size. Depressing but true sad

PenguinsEatSpinach Mon 17-Feb-14 15:38:39

I probably looked 'back to normal' to most people. But in fact my ribcage is bigger (and I can't move bones!), my hips are wider (ditto) and my stomach muscles, despite many crunches early on, never quite recovered.

PenguinsEatSpinach Mon 17-Feb-14 15:40:02

Oh yes, my feet are wider too. and a bit bigger.

Showy Mon 17-Feb-14 15:43:47

I look better than before I think in terms of waist to hip ratio and muscle tone. I exercise more than before I had the dc though as it gives me space/time to myself. I had a 28 inch waist before having dc. I have a 25 inch waist now. Other measurements are the same as before except by breasts are a cup size bigger and my feet are a size bigger too.

This is all with clothes on though. Clothes off, I am like a roadmap. I have many, many stretchmarks from my breasts down to my knees, back and front. Not bothered by them though.

Showy Mon 17-Feb-14 15:46:42

Actually, if you look at my profile, the pictures of me pregnant are when I was 8 months with DC2. The purple dress pictures are me when DC2 was a little over 1. I had a mahoosive bump (it got bigger than in those pictures). My stomach had gone back to normal by 8 weeks post cs. Exercise and breastfeeding mostly.

SomethingOnce Mon 17-Feb-14 15:52:11

Looking good, Showy.

It was quite a bump smile

KiwiBanana Mon 17-Feb-14 15:54:41

I'm pretty much the same as before but bigger. Never got back to the skinny size 6-8 as I learned to enjoy food too much to bother with that again! I'm a 10-12 now with bigger hips and boobs.

It's weird ya first but once you've finished grieving for your old body you soon get over it.

imisssleepandwine Mon 17-Feb-14 15:54:46

I went back to the same weight pretty fast but was a less perky version of my old self! The boobs looked like deflated balloons after breast feeding and the bum migrated a few inches south but with exercise my tummy went back to normal. On pregnancy number two now and less concerned about my changing appearance this time.

magentastardust Mon 17-Feb-14 16:00:17

Ah yes my shoe size went up 1 size after dc1. Luckily they didn't do the same again with dc2 and 3 or they would be ridiculous but they are definitely wider-I found a load of high heels that I used to wear for work and going out pre dc's and could hardly get my feet in any of them!

Nocturne123 Mon 17-Feb-14 21:06:58

I went completely back to pre pregnancy weight within a couple of weeks . But in saying that I didn't put on much extra weight during pregnancy and seemed to lose my appetite after the birth .

My boobs however are a different , sadder story . Dd sucked the life out of them . Expecting dc2 and hoping it doesn't wreak havoc on my body !

Nocturne123 Mon 17-Feb-14 21:12:39

I went completely back to pre pregnancy weight within a couple of weeks . But in saying that I didn't put on much extra weight during pregnancy and seemed to lose my appetite after the birth .

My boobs however are a different , sadder story . Dd sucked the life out of them . Expecting dc2 and hoping it doesn't wreak havoc on my body !

balenciaga Tue 18-Feb-14 08:41:26

after my first 2 dcs I went pretty much back to normal, in fact after dc1 I was thinner than I had ever been for some reason

I was 26 and 29 when I had them though.....I am now 32 weeks preg with dc3 and now aged 34 (eek) so am not expecting such miracles this time.....

although tbh my hotpants and crop tops days are over so tbh as long as I look ok in clothes and dh stil fancies me I don't care smile

weebairn Tue 18-Feb-14 09:21:23

I went back pretty much exactly to how I was before though my stomach muscles don't feel as strong. It was not quick though, I was certainly not one of these people who were in pre-preg jeans 2 weeks after birth. It took about 7 months to be fitting in my normal clothes and by about 14 months I was just the same all over really, same measurements as pre-preg. My boobs were the last thing to return to their normal size, around 14 months. I was lucky to escape stretch marks and I had a smallish bump and a smallish baby. I'm a size 8/10, and short and curvy. I put on around 2.5 stone.

Pregnant again now so we'll see what happens this time!

I breastfed (well I still am) and did quite a lot of exercise in the early days when DD slept well; I keep generally active; I eat reasonably healthily but never dieted. I exercised throughout pregnancy. I think lots of it is genetic.

squizita Tue 18-Feb-14 10:54:40

Keeps FX that she's like Weebairn.

Actually not too bothered as others have said, so long as me and kid end up healthy and don't look like a raggedy harridan and scare everyone when I go to Tesco! grin

Actually all my friends who have had kids (averaging 2 each) look pretty fine in their swimmies (e.g. one saying she was 'saggy' with perfectly in-place bosomage in a triangle bikini I couldn't have worn in my early 20s!) , I wonder if as usual women are harsher on themselves than the rest of the world?

Pixielady83 Wed 19-Feb-14 16:41:16

I did get back to pre pregnancy weight and a pretty flat stomach after DD, it did take me a year though, and I went through a pretty stressful time when I lost quite a bit of weight around DD's first birthday so that probably helped confused

I only bf for 8 weeks, wonder if it would have come off sooner if I'd managed that for longer. Although I did loads of buggy walking the weight really didn't come off until I was back at work (40min walking commute 2-3 times a week and less opportunity for coffee and cake!).

Keeping my fingers crossed I can get figure back again this time!

FruitSaladIsNotPudding Wed 19-Feb-14 16:44:14

First time, yes, second time, no.

I am losing weight and think my waist/hip ratio will probably return to what it was before, but the skin on my stomach is never going to recover from baby number 2.

I wore a bikini after dd1 and felt quite smug. I think this is my punishment!

MomentForLife Wed 19-Feb-14 16:44:23

My waist has stayed small but i have a flabby tummy and more fat on my hips that doesn't seem to go.

KatherinaMinola Wed 19-Feb-14 16:46:03

Nope, my waist and hips pinged back to the same size. Within two weeks I was only half a stone off my pre-preg size (took a few months to shift that half stone though).

My breasts are another matter - gone up a couple of sizes - but I'm still bf so who knows what will happen when I stop...

KatherinaMinola Wed 19-Feb-14 16:47:11

Oh, and I carry more weight on my thighs than I ever used to - and have developed a bit of cellulite. That might be age though. Can still fit into my old clothes.

Bunbaker Wed 19-Feb-14 16:51:46

I am the same size and shape as before I had DD. Nothing feels different at all. My waist is still 12" smaller than my hips, and I am still in size 12 jeans. (DD born 13 years ago when I was 41)

Thurlow Wed 19-Feb-14 16:57:54

I'm an odd shape post-pregnancy, not in the way I expected. My boobs are about the same, I think they changed in the first few weeks of pg but haven't changed since (didn't bf). My waist seems smaller, but I suspect that might be because my ribcage hasn't shrunk back to what it was before - I'm little, so I suspect my ribcage spread a hell of a lot. I certainly have pre-pregnancy dresses that happily fit over my tummy and waist but won't do up around my ribcage. My tummy is a little saggier now but it reckon it could be nearly flat if I just did some exercise grin Apparently my bum is slightly bigger now too, as are my feet by half a size.

Overall I'm pretty much the same weight as I was before I was pregnant but just with a slightly altered shape.

GuybrushThreepwoodMP Wed 19-Feb-14 21:45:23

Took me months, but I lost the weight and got my abs back so everything is the same apart from my tits

stopgap Thu 20-Feb-14 00:25:39

First child at 34, second child a few weeks ago at 36 and back to how I looked age 22 (5'7 and size 8).

The being "in shape" thing is easy for me, but we all have our struggles (mine being bloody jawline spots at various stages of my life).

grobagsforever Thu 20-Feb-14 08:32:56

My body is different, I have lower boobs and stretch marks. But I LOVE it. Because my body did exactly what it was meant to do- grew my beautiful daughter. This is what my body is for, not conforming to some societal ideal of how women's bodies should look. Reject the endless misogynistic crap about 'losing the post birth wobble' and love the changes that gave you your DC.

MightilyOats Thu 20-Feb-14 09:36:47

I was a different shape when I got back to pre-preg weight (still 2st overweight) and despaired of finding clothes to suit me - became more pear shaped.

BUT: I lost that couple of stone and my ribs went down to a 30/32 (bizarrely I had never been that size), though boobs stayed larger (was 34B when got pg, was 32FF when I lost the weight) and am now able to wear most things. Never quite got rid of the tummy (though I never had a flat tummy even as a teen), but at least people stopped asking me if I was pg when I wasn't!

Now 21 weeks with #2 so we will see what happens this time round! I think starting from a smaller weight will hopefully help though.

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