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What are you missing this pregnancy?

(57 Posts)
PervyMuskrat Sun 09-Feb-14 12:51:08

I'll preface this by saying that I'm actually really happy to be pregnant (it took a while to get here) and I realise I'm very lucky to be in this position. However I am really missing some things this pregnancy and feel like having a bit of a whinge.

In order of things I am missing the most , right now I'd love

a) Wine. Red. Lots of it
b) A stupidly hot bath, the type that makes you feel a bit faint when you step out of it
c) To go for more than an hour without really needing a wee
d) The ability to read anything even vaguely upsetting without wanting to cry. I feel I'm going to have to spend the rest of the pregnancy in a cultural void.

Anyone else missing things and feel a bit grumpy today? I'm only just in the 2nd trimester so it's not as if I'm in the horribly uncomfortable stage either!

ashley2212 Sun 09-Feb-14 13:00:18

It might just be the pregnancy hormones that ha e kicked in! I'm sure we all go through this! With my first I felt selfish because everyone else seemed to be able to drink and do what they wanted when they wanted. But you have to remember pregnancy doesn't last forever and you'll have a gorj baby at the end of it who made it all worth while!
Hope you feel okay soon!
Xx

PervyMuskrat Sun 09-Feb-14 13:29:23

Thanks! This is DC2 so I know I should be looking forward to the long term, I'm just a bit grumpy as DC1 has been elbowing me in the boobs every time he wants a cuddle and has also passed on a cold to me, which I can't take any decent medication for.

Ah well, I shall go and have some brew and biscuit to cheer myself up!

juju283 Sun 09-Feb-14 13:33:54

Im missing pate, rare steak, diet coke in copious amounts, being able to shave easily, i also miss not being miserable!

ThedementedPenguin Sun 09-Feb-14 14:12:01

I miss

1. Being able to roll over in bed without the agonising pain between my legs.
2. Being able to walk without pain.
3. Shaving my legs.
4. Sleep (can't get enough).

squizita Sun 09-Feb-14 14:18:31

Blue cheese.

I'm in 1st trimester, and all about salty food.

Of course I could just get some stilton and melt it, NHS says that's fine. Which takes me to point 2: having any energy.

usmama Sun 09-Feb-14 14:19:22

One word. COFFEE.

CumbrianExile Sun 09-Feb-14 14:24:46

Runny fried eggs. Am not normally that big a fan of fried eggs. But since I discovered I am pregnant its all I have wanted!
Oh and wine. More so at the weekend when everyone is posting pictures on facebook of people getting drunk!

Inglori0us Sun 09-Feb-14 14:27:46

Boozing. Sleeping. Coffee. Running. Skiing. My clothes. Really rare steak.

Squizita you can have Stilton.

DearDinah Sun 09-Feb-14 14:28:41

Energy & the blissful non-sick feeling

PervyMuskrat Sun 09-Feb-14 14:45:11

Rare steak, ooh I'd almost forgotten...

Looking nice sad
So fed up of my ruddy, farmers wife complexion and looking all round and 'motherly'. I'm like a kindly matron out of an Enid Blyton book.

I want my collarbones back <wail>

PervyMuskrat Sun 09-Feb-14 14:47:35

And YY to energy. I am still in my PJs at nearly 3pm on a Sunday which hasn't happened in a very long time. I'm debating whether to bother getting dressed at all today wink

luckiestgirlintheworld Sun 09-Feb-14 14:53:44

Sex in the missionary position.
Standing up from the sofa without it taking 5 minutes and a pre thought out game plan.
Wine.

squizita Sun 09-Feb-14 15:04:00

Inglorious yeah... maybe I should rephrase it "stilton without fusspots who know I'm pg fussing". grin Might get the NHS guidelines tattooed on my forehead.

Expectingtwins1975 Sun 09-Feb-14 15:08:50

Skiing holiday with mates - watching the Winter Olympics making it worse.
The ability to walk without feeling I'm waddling
Cocktails
Milk (makes me feel sick)

Pate
Lempsip (feel rotten today)

bopoityboo3 Sun 09-Feb-14 15:25:49

Rare steak that is almost blue.
Being able to turn over in bed and walk with out wanting to cry from the pain.
Being able to get up off the sofa with out grunting like an old man.
Sex.
Being able to put my shoes on by myself.

fidgetywidget Sun 09-Feb-14 17:09:31

Sudafed.
That is all.
(*disclaimer- so far. I'm only 9 weeks!)

SweetPea86 Sun 09-Feb-14 17:13:53

Same as you OP and all the other ladies so happy to be having a little bundle of joy. But pregnancy is not for me.
I'm 31 weeks

1) not to be sick of feel nausea all the time.
2) beagle to shave or even see my lady garden lol
3) chirzo raw mmmmmmmmmmm
4) pate (don't normally eat much but coz I'm not allowed it I want it)
5) not heavy breathing and snoring never did before I was preg
6)be able to bend and tie shoes

grobagsforever Sun 09-Feb-14 17:17:03

You can totally have runny fried eggs Cumbrianexile! NHS guidelines are way out of date on this one. Chickens in the UK are vaccinated against salmonella. In the million to one likelihood you did get it, the risk is that you'll feel very rubbish, the virus does not pass to baby. You can also have the odd glass of wine! And coffee, up to two cups a day is fine! Read the emily oster book 'expecting better' which refers to proper science not the out of date, women hating nhs guidelines. They fail to give us access to the science because our tiny pink brains cannot be trusted to make sensible decisions.

grobagsforever Sun 09-Feb-14 17:18:30

Seriously, travelling by car is more risky than occasional wine, moderate caffeine or runny eggs!

PenguinsDontEatKale Sun 09-Feb-14 17:23:16

Sleeping on my tummy.

Pate.

Being able to stand up quickly.

Wine by the half bottle not measly portion.

Energy.

My normal clothes.

God I am a grump.grin

juju283 Sun 09-Feb-14 17:27:34

Ahhh yeah sleeping on my stomach. I miss that solo much, or sleeping on my back which just gets uncomfortable after a couple of minutes.

grobags Interesting, I will look into that book.

Though right now, I am not missing any food in particular, rather I am missing being able to eat at all without being sick or extremely nauseous!

Also missing my energy.

squizita Sun 09-Feb-14 17:40:01

TMI but I miss normal poo. Constipated or runny or gassy. Them's the choices.

RedCountryRoads Sun 09-Feb-14 17:41:21

I'm really missing:
Sleeping on my stomach
Enjoying a beer (I tried one to toast new year. Yuck!)
Swordfish
Camembert
Rational thought (I get angry or teary very quickly)
Really hot baths
Being able to blow my nose (or pick it!) without starting a nose bleed

I'm sure I'll come up with more. I have another 18 weeks left!!

RedCountryRoads Sun 09-Feb-14 17:42:22

Oh another one. a full nights sleep without getting up for a wee!

RedCountryRoads Sun 09-Feb-14 17:43:33

squizta Love your comment! smile You poor thing though

Blondebrunette1 Sun 09-Feb-14 17:44:34

I miss not gagging at the sight of food of any sort and being able to cook a lovely meal for my family. My lovely husband is doing his best but I feel for him as I'm so ill he's taken on my share of the cooking and food shopping whilst working really hard. It usually passes over next 2 weeks so fingers crossed. I can cope without my Malibu but I do miss the option (although I literally rarely had a drink anyway its just because I can't I miss.) I love cheese so I miss that but tbh I'd just appreciate being able to stomach food at all or even cope with food adverts without puking. Needed this rant. Again I'm also grateful I'm pregnant and passed first trimester stage but I can't wait to feel human again and just enjoy it. Xxx

jessplussomeonenew Sun 09-Feb-14 17:46:54

Being pg is a dream come true but have had a horrible cold for 5 weeks now and really miss a) having a functioning immune system and b) cold remedies that work!

MrsCharlieD Sun 09-Feb-14 17:47:47

Im still drinking coffee just not as much as usual. My mw said a couple of cups a day is fine. I am massively missing cocktail nights with my girlfriends but mostly i miss not being grumpy. I am so snappy with dh and he annoys me for no particular reason. I feel terrible about it as he's only trying to help and be attentive. Im a bad wife x

Suzietwo Sun 09-Feb-14 17:48:10

Freedom of movement

Am not a happy preggo today as my older two children are driving me bonkers and I can't remember when adding another seemed like a good idea!

PervyMuskrat Sun 09-Feb-14 17:48:29

Glad to know I'm not alone. I've read the "Expecting Better" book so I'm ok with the odd glass of wine or beer but I want the bottle (followed by a lovely drunken fumble with DH)!

Oh yeah, I'm missing sex too. The only time we've had sex, I bled and as I'm Rh negative ended up having to take a day off work and have the Anti D injection. Not something I want to repeat too often.

I'm finding hot Ribena and a couple of paracetamol ok for those of you also suffering with colds. Olbas Oil on a flannel next to the bed is the only thing I've found to help with nighttime congestion though.

eurochick Sun 09-Feb-14 17:50:49

Wine
Hot baths and steam rooms
Running
Sex (had lots of bleeding so far, so we've been too scared to dtd yet!)

PenguinsDontEatKale Sun 09-Feb-14 17:55:39

Oh yes, decongestant. Haven't been able to have decongestant for winter colds since early 2008.sad

CumbrianExile Sun 09-Feb-14 20:03:09

grobags thanks for that. Eggs are on the shopping list for next week grin
Yeah, I know about the wine. But a small glass isnt cutting it against the usual couple of bottles large glasses I would usually have!

CrispyFB Sun 09-Feb-14 20:17:02

Decent painkillers.. although when not pregnant I don't usually need them.. SPD is a total killer.

Along similar lines - being able to walk for more than five minutes or sit on a chair, or drive more than 15 minutes without squealing in agony.

Agree about the congestion medication restrictions too, very much so!

I still drink small amounts of caffeine and booze, eat runny eggs, stilton, baked camembert, parma ham, sushi etc etc. As this is DC4 I've had plenty of time to thoroughly look into everything and the food restrictions are really not that bad if you do your research. Wouldn't catch me with bagged salad (allowed..!) or pate, mind wink

Most of all I miss skiing!!

Em1503 Sun 09-Feb-14 20:22:28

Pate!!!!!! Can't wait to be able to eat it again!!

Sleeping comfortably and all through the night.

Ibuprofen (as paracetamol just don't cut it when I have a headache!)

Legalbaby79 Sun 09-Feb-14 20:23:33

Gin, champagne, bottles of beer .... Squishy Brie, prawns - shellfish . .... Normal pants

stressbucket1 Sun 09-Feb-14 20:53:03

I miss having a lap! My DD can no longer sit on my knee cos bump takes over!

Also miss goats cheese its usually the first thing I choose from a menu when we eat out.

And being able to turn over in bed in less than 3 moves and a lot of huffing and puffing.

SicknSpan Sun 09-Feb-14 21:16:18

A nice cup of tea. Used to really enjoy a cuppa and just can't stomach it now. I miss enjoying tea even though the thought of it turns my stomach!

Brushing my teeth properly. Anything non-food in my mouth makes me hurl. Plus any flavour toothpaste including kids fruity stuff is horrid. It's a bit better now at 24 weeks but for a long time I was going a week between brushings. Vile. Hyperemesis means that I will do anything to avoid triggering the sickness, bet my teeth are ruined now sad (hence us preggos get free dental care no doubt)

TMI- Giving my dh a blow job. For same reason as not being able to brush my teeth. (Think he misses it more though to be fair)

Getting up from a chair or sitting down in one without making an oomph sound.

Sitting in a chair without looking like Les Dawson, knees apart hands folded over bump. So glam.

mrsmugoo Sun 09-Feb-14 21:32:31

I miss my clothes

I miss being comfortable in bed

I miss having energy past lunchtime.

35 down, 5 to go!

SpawningSalmon Sun 09-Feb-14 22:48:59

I am fairly sure I read nhs guidelines stating you can have rare steak, as long as it is fully sealed on the exterior it is fine. I hope I didn't just dream that as I have been regularly tucking into lovely steaks cooked medium. Yum.

yummystepford Sun 09-Feb-14 23:01:06

I'm only 22 weeks and if I increase the frequency of needing a wee I will be spending all my time in the loo! Getting uncomfortable, not sleeping, can't believe how big my bump is and am fully aware of how much time I still have left. Completely sympathise with you. Treat yourself to lush bath bombs to make up for having to have it a bit cooler smile x

yummystepford Sun 09-Feb-14 23:05:19

Also, missionary is becoming impossible. I am going to miss this massively sad

bouncysmiley Sun 09-Feb-14 23:05:33

Lie-ins

swampusdonkus Sun 09-Feb-14 23:16:29

Being able to touch the batch of slow gin/slow vodka we made in September. Ditto cocktails.

Fitting into my nice, matching-set underwear.

Being able to snuggle up in bed.

Being able to sit up from lying down without having to plan it/psych myself up first.

Peacenquiet2 Mon 10-Feb-14 00:13:08

Not being pregnant in a nutshell...

ziggletttwiglett Mon 10-Feb-14 08:30:06

Oh the list!

Rare steak preferably still mooing!!
runny dippy gloriously golden eggs ( I think this might be a craving of mine or just because I think I shouldn't have but reading these posts is making me hopeful!)
Not feeling queasy/sick or just plain rubbish
not weeing myself when puking
having the energy to have really good sex.. being farrr to lazy sad
relentless energy drink never drank lots just fancy one
being able to stay awake or alert for more than an hour!

Suzietwo Mon 10-Feb-14 10:22:46

crispy - like you i eat and drink most things including pate. but your post has me wondering why you dont! can you illuminate?

DownstairsMixUp Mon 10-Feb-14 10:29:44

I still have a bit of caffeine but miss vodka, procesco, runny eggs and I really fancy pate on toast! I'm only 10 weeks sad

HotCrossPun Mon 10-Feb-14 10:49:18

I've not been too restrictive with foods, still eat loads of runny eggs, have the odd glass of wine etc.

I've missing being able to move around freely though. I'm 36 weeks and starting to feel really cumbersome and heavy. Also missing sleeping on my back, sex, cocktails and being able to groom my bits without nearly putting my back out grin

DitaVonCreamTeas Mon 10-Feb-14 11:51:50

In no particular order -

Sex (don't fancy it)
Wearing my collection of lovely lingerie
Pate
Brie
Henney's vintage cider
Doing my own pedicures
Hair dye, nail varnish and perfume (I know it should be fine, but I've been keeping away from them)
DH picking me up and squeezing me
Being able to turn over in bed without it being an exercise in advanced logistics

grobagsforever Mon 10-Feb-14 19:44:05

I'm having dippy eggs for dinner :-) Eat and ignore the ill informed NHS..

CrispyFB Thu 13-Feb-14 19:52:39

Suzietwo - (sorry, lost Internet for 2 days, thanks BT, and only just catching up!) - the pate is because of the very high vitamin A content mostly, with the listeria risk a close second.

Mim78 Thu 13-Feb-14 20:02:44

Being able to sit comfortably on a chair. Or lie comfortably in bed. Or lie on my front (usual sleeping position). I'm 38 + 4....

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