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Anybody else just found out they are PG with their first after TTC 12 months plus?!?

(187 Posts)
Bunnygirlie Fri 31-Jan-14 11:23:22

Hiya, I had a positive test last weekend and looking for some ladies in the same situation to share symptoms and worries with.

Bunnygirlie Sun 02-Feb-14 11:22:11

Bump

Bunnygirlie Sun 02-Feb-14 12:14:35

Not just for first babies, any stress will do smile

PervyMuskrat Sun 02-Feb-14 14:05:09

I finally got pregnant after nearly 2 years and had a healthy DS after a slightly troublesome pregnancy.

Now pregnant with DC2 after almost a year and hoping for a smoother ride this time (although already had one small bleed)

Congratulations! I remember being in shock for the first trimester and then unable to believe it was real until I had the first scan. Fortunately DS was always a wiggler and I felt him move fairly early so I found that really reassuring

time2deal Sun 02-Feb-14 14:41:56

Hi Bunny - good idea for a thread!! How are you feeling?

I'm trying to stay calm today, but just can't really believe it's true. Also still getting random sharp pains in and around my... umm.. fanjo I think its called on here. Freaks me out every time.

Will be good to speak to the clinic (and my oncologist) on Monday to find out what the next steps are.

Hatteras Sun 02-Feb-14 15:03:19

...tiptoes in, still not quite believing she's in the right place.

Hi bunny great idea for a thread. Hi time, so great to see you here too. How are you both doing? Will be back to write more later when I have more time. I'm actually finding this early part even worse than the 2ww, which feels stupid!

time2deal Sun 02-Feb-14 15:12:23

hat, bunny is this your first BFP? Your first IVF?

First BFP ever for me, technically the third IVF, but the first that has made it to ET.

Bunnygirlie Sun 02-Feb-14 17:00:23

Hi ladies, glad you made it. I just thought it would be nice to have somewhere to share worries and hand hold. Didn't wanna talk about this on the ivf thread with the BFNs and the other stress.

Congrats pervy what are your stats?

Me, 33, been off the pill since Feb 2012, first ivf ICSI Jan 2014, first ever BFP 25/01.

Feeling scared, nervous, constantly on knicker watch, worried about no symptoms other than tiredness and weird twinges when I get off sofa or bed. Gonna be a long week till 6 week scan next next Monday!

time yep my first ivf and first BFP, amazing really, still seems unreal!

PervyMuskrat Sun 02-Feb-14 19:50:23

I'm still scared and nervous and I'm just over 13 weeks! The dating scan and screening tests are happening this week so I'm hoping to feel better after that. I had a private scan at 7 weeks for reassurance and it was lovely to see a little heartbeat

The nausea has been pretty horrible since about 6 weeks though so I'm also hoping that eases off soon. We've told some people a bit earlier this time around as it was Christmas and there are only so many excuses you can use for not drinking!

Hope the week goes fast and the 6 week scan goes well!

And remember, it's never too early to start doing your pelvic floor exercises grin

time2deal Sun 02-Feb-14 19:52:24

bunny I know what you mean about the weird twinges when I get up. I read somewhere that the ligaments between your upper legs and torso loosen quite early, so I think the odd pain is like that.

Has anyone done another test? I meant to do it this morning, to reassure myself, but had to rush as DH was in the shower so no chance. I'm paranoid now that the BFP is gone!

PervyMuskrat Sun 02-Feb-14 19:57:32

time to deal I did about, ooh, 3 in the first week and then a digital one until 4 weeks blush

PervyMuskrat Sun 02-Feb-14 19:58:02

Should say a digital one each week until 4 weeks!

time2deal Sun 02-Feb-14 20:25:47

Good to know its not just me! I will commence regular testing. smile I bought a few cheapies from tesco today. I'll get another digi and test in a couple of weeks to get the 5+ sign hopefully.

I'm trying to enjoy this stage a little bit. I know it's really early, and I am constantly analysing/worying about each twinge, but after all this time its just wonderful to at least be experiencing something different. I am keen to speak to the various doctors tomorrow to find out the next steps.

Bunnygirlie Sun 02-Feb-14 22:34:10

Glad I'm not the only one with weird twinges!

I did two tests on OTD, a FC one and a Sainsburys one and then I did an Internet cheapy Sunday Tuesday Thursday and Saturday grin

Hatteras Sun 02-Feb-14 23:16:46

Pervy it's good and reassuring to hear from someone ahead of us!

time this is my 2nd BFP, 2nd IVF. I'm now 39. We started trying for a baby at the end of 2011, I got pregnant in 2012 after a few courses of clomid (which looking back, I don't think we needed rather it was just something they gave us before we moved onto the big guns). Sadly we had a scan at 7/8 weeks that showed an empty sac. Until then I had absolutely no signs that anything was wrong, I had really bad morning sickness so it was a shock to have that empty scan. Dr said it was most probably a blighted ovum, everything looked well implanted, just 'one of those things'. All our tests, mine and DH's came back fine so we were put in the 'unexplained' category and had our first round of IVF in October 2013. We got 11 eggs, but only 1 fertilized and it wasn't a great one. We were pretty much told at the time that this ET was unlikely to work (it didn't) but we went ahead anyway and were already planning round 2, with ICSI. The round with ICSI (January 2014) seemed to work really well for us, we had 2 blastos transferred and 5 blastos to freeze (actually I need to check how many of these did successfully freeze).

So, got my BFP a few days and it's been very weird since. Absolutely over the moon and thrilled but equally terrified! Trying to be positive and think there is nothing we can do apart from just see what happens. I hadn't really thought how this would all feel, I was so focused on just reaching the BFP stage and now I am here there seem to be a whole load of new worries! My clinic takes blood tests over the first week approximately / until HCG levels reach about 1000 so I have to go on Tuesday for another blood test to see where things are with that. If all ok then, then I guess the next thing will be an early scan, which I think is at 6 weeks ish? Anyone else get multiple blood tests? I think this seems to vary a lot with different places.

Symptom wise, all over the place and nothing really concrete. The day before and after my BFP I felt really nauseous but that has died down and I just get the odd gentle wave every now and again. Boobs feel normal. I have loads of twinges, some feel like AF cramps, some feel totally different. I'm definitely peeing more, generally feel bloated/gassy (nice!) and tired but that could be the progesterone or just feeling 'off'.

I think it is normal to feel nervous at this stage, especially if it has been a difficult/long road to get to this point. So, sending out positive vibes for all of us. Thanks bunny for starting this up, I didn't feel it was right to stay on the IVF thread and talk about being stressed after getting a BFP. Wasn't sure which thread I belong to - IVF worriers/pregnant after miscarriage/pregnant after TTC more than a year' - I fit all those categories!!

Ok, so deep breath, today we are all pregnant! Hope everyone had a good weekend.

Hatteras Sun 02-Feb-14 23:21:38

oh and as for testing, I don't have any more HPTs at home and am not going to get any more (at least I don't think so). I did one test on the day of my BFP, then one the day after and got myself in a right state comparing them because the 2nd BFP didn't look any darker than the first and in certain lights 'OMG did it even look half a shade lighter' etc.

It's not that I have nerves of steel not testing, rather that not testing again at the moment is one less thing for me to be worried about!

Expectingtwins1975 Mon 03-Feb-14 10:03:34

Hi bunny .... I'm currently 18+3 with twins. It's my first pregnancy - following on from my first ivf try too. I ttc naturally for about 6-7 years or so before deciding to go the ivf route. (I'm 38 now). I still can't believe it worked first time - really wasn't expecting it to - and to end up with twins! Was a complete nervous wreck for the first twelve weeks or so (actually still a bit of a nervous wreck now).

MissMagpie Mon 03-Feb-14 12:46:18

Hi everyone.
I have had my first BFP after ttc for 12 months. I am 31 and my DH and I had just started the first infertility tests. I was waiting for day 2 for a blood test but it didn't come and the lovely people on this board encouraged me to do a HP test which was positive!

I have done 2 Clear Blue digital conception indicators and both were +ve but the wait to see my Dr (appt on Weds) has been agonising! I reckon I am 6 or 7 weeks but don't feel massively different which is somewhat disconcerting!

The symptoms I have had are bloating, swollen breasts, tiredness and that's about it. Potentially a bit of nausea is starting today.... I have also had quite a few pains around the general womb/ovary area. Some feel like AF others are a bit sharper but always go away as soon as they come. It doesn't feel real yet and that is the hardest part!

Bunnygirlie Mon 03-Feb-14 19:25:12

hat I know what you mean, being happy but scared at the same time. I expect it's worrying for anybody pg but I think those that struggle to get pg also struggle to get excited because it's been so tough to get here.
No blood tests at my FC, I get a scan next week which will be 4 weeks after embryo transfer. No more progesterone for me either once test done.

No worries for starting thread

Wow expecting twins how scary and exciting smile

Hi miss welcome to the gang. Lack of symptoms is freaking me out too!

time2deal Mon 03-Feb-14 19:54:24

I'm nervous too, but also very excited. My biggest worry is finding just a sack and no baby at eight weeks. I have a little feeling that my embie wasn't too quality (it was the only one of five they thought was ok). But I've got to have faith. I'm all that little blighter has to rely on, so I have to believe in him/her. smile

Scan is booked for 27th. No other follow up or tests until then. Feels like such a long time!!

Bunnygirlie Mon 03-Feb-14 22:04:52

Yep we must be positive time, I rub my tum and whisper grow grow every night before bed.

So will that be your 8 week scan on 27th?

Hatteras Mon 03-Feb-14 22:36:04

expecting twins is so exciting, if not slightly daunting at the same time! If you don't mind me asking, how many embryos did you have put back?

bunny, not too long to the scan, that will be 6 weeks? I am hoping I will find out tomorrow when my scan is. time, you have an 8 week scan then?

Positive thoughts and faith are the ways to go right now. I keep imagining this baby, talking to it and allowing myself to believe that this will all be ok. But still, every now and again I find myself starting to look at cute baby stuff online then think 'no stop it, too soon'

I'm not sleeping brilliantly at the moment. I don't think it is due to nerves, more likely because I am up 2-3 times to pee, but unless I am imagining it, any symptoms I get feel worse at night.

time2deal Tue 04-Feb-14 09:26:39

It will be around the 8 week mark. I'm an ex-cervical cancer patient, so I'm waiting to hear from my oncologist today to find out if he wants to see me too. Most of my cervix has been removed, so I will need a stitch (a cerclage) put in pretty soon I suspect, although they may wait to ensure it's viable before doing that.
I've made an appointment for the GP next week, as I also need to get more drugs, so will find out more then.

I have to go to the dentist next week actually. I've lost a crown (over Christmas) and so will need some proper drilling to get it ready for a new one. It's an NHS dentist, so it will be free since I'm pregnant (which is good) but hopefully they can still use decent pain relief!

Hatteras Tue 04-Feb-14 16:45:09

time, I remember now from the IVF thread about you being an ex-cervical cancer patient. This must be feel especially precious for you, hope everything goes ok with any meds you need to take. And yes, make the most of free NHS dental treatment!

Expectingtwins1975 Tue 04-Feb-14 17:43:40

Hi hatteras - I had 2 embryos put back. I only had 2 embryos that fertilised so the clinic figured they might as well use both of them.

time2deal Tue 04-Feb-14 19:09:05

Have you seen the ante-natal club boards? I might move there at some stage, but there seems to be a lot of people who are in first month of trying, or accidents. Not sure I can cope after so many years with long term TTC stresses!

time2deal Tue 04-Feb-14 19:10:07

p.s. Yes - this is a very precious time for me. This time last year I was preparing for my first major cancer surgery. I never thought I would get to this point. I am still walking around with a silly massive grin most of the time!

Hatteras Tue 04-Feb-14 19:44:52

time what a wonderful way to see what a difference a year makes. Hopefully this time next year we will all be cuddling our little 3 month old babies!
I have seen the ante-natal board for Oct 2014, but really not ready to make the leap over yet. I'm not even sure I feel ready to be on this board! I have had absolutely no symptoms today, not a twinge, no longer feeling bloated, nothing. I know it doesn't mean anything is wrong, it's just really hard and driving me crazy!

time2deal Tue 04-Feb-14 19:48:31

No symptoms today for me either. Other than yawns, and terrible insomnia this morning. I have resisted today, but might do a reassurance test tomorrow morning.
Although I'm not sure if I'm imagining it, but I think I can smell more. Not in a bad way, just everything smells stronger. I walk past shops and can smell the food cooking! And on the tube I could smell the individual perfumes of people as they went by. Weird.

PervyMuskrat Tue 04-Feb-14 20:00:48

time wow, what a 12 months for you! thanks

I had the dating scan today and all looked well so I'm so relieved! Just waiting on the blood test results and then I'll be happy to drag out my maternity clothes as I'm already massive! grin

Hatteras Tue 04-Feb-14 20:07:25

Weird and potentially gross if you start smelling everyone on the Tube!

Clinic just called to say my HCG levels are doubling/looking ok and so we now have a scan at the end of next week, when in theory I should be 6.5 weeks. Excited but terrified!

No doubt everyone has already been looking up their EDD etc, but I found this to be a really nice IVF specific date calculator where you can see all the different stage of development/trimesters etc: www.fertilityfriends.co.uk/index.php?ac=ivf

time2deal Tue 04-Feb-14 20:12:56

Gives me 8 October. What is your date? I think we are in sync. I'm five weeks tomorrow.

time2deal Tue 04-Feb-14 20:15:14

My oncologist wrote to me today. Said congrats and gave me the name of a high risk pregnancy obstetrician who I will get in touch with tomorrow.
He also reminded me not to neglect my follow ups, and to book an MRI this month as I'm 1 year from treatment. Suddenly very worried about that! I know two others who have already had a recurrance.

Will probably be an amazing scan of the baby though! Now I'm off to research MRI risks.

Hatteras Tue 04-Feb-14 20:18:55

I'm the 7th October, 5 weeks today, so just a day ahead of you. I tried a different calculator too and it gave me the same date, so that's what I am going with for (it's also my dad's birthday which I'm taking to be a good sign! I know it is really pretty meaningless, but happy to grab all and any positive omens right now!)

pervy, yay for a good dating scan!

Hatteras Tue 04-Feb-14 20:24:46

time I can't imagine how you must feel dealing with early pregnancy nerves and everything else you have been through. It sounds as though you have medical people on both sides monitoring you/on the ball which is good.

Have you told any family/friends yet about the pregnancy? We haven't yet, not sure when we will...probably at about 39 weeks the way I am feeling about not wanting to jinx anything!

time2deal Tue 04-Feb-14 20:25:09

My date is our wedding anniversary! And my LMP was 1.1.14. Lovely dates I think. With no cervix the estimated delivery will be between 32-36 weeks, so most likely will be earlier than full term - but I'm sticking with 8.10 as my EDD!

time2deal Tue 04-Feb-14 20:30:59

Hat I've told my immediate family, and DH has just told his parents. I decided I would tell them if it fails, so they may as well know while it's going well. My life is a pretty open book - I did a blog about the cancer, although I've not really told people too much about the real heartache of long term TTC.
I'm worrying about how to tell a few people. My cousin had a 10 week miscarriage a few months ago, and it hit her hard. I am wondering if I should give her a heads up. I always found it so hard when people announced they were pregnant, and you have to put on an excited smile, when you feel like you have been punched in the stomach.

Hatteras Tue 04-Feb-14 20:32:08

It's a sign! grin. I'm also sticking with 07/10 even though I know babies hardly ever arrive on their EDD.

Expectingtwins1975 Tue 04-Feb-14 20:43:22

Time2deal - ridiculous sense of smell was one of my first symptoms - hasn't gone away yet it's horrendous - people's perfume makes me gag. Had to switch to fragrance free everything - and make my DP change his deodorant ec

Ellie36 Tue 04-Feb-14 20:51:03

Hey smile

We were trying for almost 3 years (with a tour to Afghanistan in the middle!) and had just about given up/started to talk about other options when we got a very surprising BFP on 2nd January - after a rather boozy Christmas, oops!. Still not feeling real but first scan next Tuesday so hopefully that will make it seem like it is actually happening!

Hope everyone is feeling ok smile

time2deal Tue 04-Feb-14 21:21:40

Can I just say a big thank you to Bob Crow! I'm working from home now for two days due to the tube strike. I see a bit of sleeping in in my future. smile

Bunnygirlie Wed 05-Feb-14 08:28:25

Morning ladies, sorry I've been absent the last few days, busy busy busy.

time what a year you've had, you must be over the moon

hat glad your levels are increasing!

I used a different EDD calculator and got October 5th. That just seems really scary!

hat we haven't told anybody yet, parents and 2 close friends know we have been trying and know we are on the ivf list but don't know we have actually had it already!

Congrats ellie

Symptom wise, I am ridiculously tired all the time even though I seem to be sleeping ok. Life is a bit of a struggle at the mo

time2deal Wed 05-Feb-14 09:00:52

Morning ladies. After no symptoms really yesterday I allowed myself a test today. It was so strong it sucked almost all the color from the control line! Very reassuring.

Bunnygirlie Wed 05-Feb-14 18:25:38

Nice time I do like seeing the lines getting darker. I haven't done one since saturday so am tempted to try one myself!

Got out of the car too quickly today and had a major ouchy twinge, need to take it slow me thinks!

Hatteras Thu 06-Feb-14 15:47:55

Hello, how is everyone doing? Time I hope you are enjoying your commute-free couple of days.

I currently have absolutely zero in the way of symptoms and I would be lying if I said it wasn't freaking me out a little. We have some potential house move stresses going on at the moment which are totally taking over my head space (which may be a good thing) and I almost find myself forgetting I am pregnant. I just really don't have any symptoms at all right now, maybe a little bit more tired than normal, but no more twinges, nothing! I suppose it may be too early (5w2d), I think I started feeling nauseous from about 6 weeks when I had the MMC. I know there is nothing I can do about it, we have the scan a week today, I think I would just feel reassured if I was feeling anything at all!

time2deal Thu 06-Feb-14 19:21:06

I ended up going on today. Probably not a great decision as it took hours to get home! But home now. Symptoms seemed to have eased off for me too, but I'm convincing myself that last week everything was exacerbated by stress, so now it's calming down. Some quite strong pains in my hip/lower stomach area that are worrying me. I read last night about ectopics!!

Dh is making me dinner. smile

I'm in a bit of a grump... Which is definitely hormonal. Angrier than I needed to be over little things!

Bunnygirlie Thu 06-Feb-14 19:51:52

Hiya.

Symptom wise the tiredness is a killer, not having as many twinges now untill I tried to get out the car quickly yesterday and something went ouch!

When are your early scans ladies? Mine is the 10th

Hatteras Thu 06-Feb-14 20:00:27

Early scan is next week, on the 13th, will be 6w2d. I have been reading a bit about 6w scans and how often they can be a bit too early to see anything, so could be inconclusive.

time2deal Thu 06-Feb-14 20:03:07

My scan with the clinic isn't until 27 Feb!! Feels ages away. I did book in with the local maternity services yesterday, and I'll get an appointment letter in 10 days apparently. I'll be referred then to the high-risk pregnancy team too.

I found out my private health insurance doesn't cover me for pregnancy, so I was a bit worried, as I really want a specialist in my condition. My oncologist recommended his 'favourite' guy, and it turns out he heads up the high risk pregnancy unit at my local NHS hospital! So I'm really pleased about that.

Bunnygirlie Fri 07-Feb-14 12:43:36

Oh hat you got me googling 6 week scans and now I am dreading Monday and not being able to see anything sad
Might have to treat myself to a 9 week one!

ooh time that is ages away, how many weeks will you be then?

Think the MS has kicked in, felt proper rough the past 2 mornings booooooo

time2deal Fri 07-Feb-14 14:37:15

Bunny I'll be 8 weeks. Which is probably a good length of time really - enough to be sure you'll see something, but not as long as 12 weeks.

I think we have similar symptoms. Main one is fatigue, and constant yawning, but also random twingey pains when getting up. I'm going to do my last digi tomorrow and hopefully see the magic 3+ appear to give me comfort.

Hatteras Fri 07-Feb-14 15:10:47

Sorry bunny, didn't want to alarm anyone about 6 week scan! I am probably a bit OTT on being informed about all the possible scenarios, just to prepare myself.

Fell asleep on the sofa at 7.30 pm last night after a not especially tiring day.

Are your early scans at the IVF clinic? Mine are, I think they may do another scan at 8 weeks then at that point, all being well, they 'release' you to the normal maternity unit. I think I have got a bit institutionalized, I really like my IVF clinic and the staff there ( probably because I have been there so much!), I feel like I may miss them!

Bunnygirlie Fri 07-Feb-14 18:08:44

time yep I wish my scan was a bit later to see more. Oh gosh I can't stop yawning!!! Feeling sick now too sad

Ooh shall I try another test tomorrow and see how dark it is!

hat don't worry I'm sure we'll see something. They will confirm that something or something's shock are in there which is more than 'normal' pregnancies get.
Yep early scan at my local FC, the EC and ET were at the main one in Oxford so had quite a journey for that!

time2deal Sat 08-Feb-14 18:36:07

Hey ladies. Did another cbd this morning, but still showing 2-3 weeks. Boooo... But not worrying. How is everyone else going?

On this horrible day I've spent most of it in bed!

Bunnygirlie Sun 09-Feb-14 10:26:55

Feeling so rotten, it's like a constant hangover nausea, not fun!

Started brown spotting last night too so been googling lots!

Roll on tomorrow for scan!

Hatteras Sun 09-Feb-14 14:29:54

Hi ladies, hope you are having a relaxing Sunday.

I spent yesterday on a course in a ridiculously hot stuffy lecture hall. Actually felt nauseous for most of the day, which was a bit reassuring, but may have just been because the room was so hot!

time, I haven't used a digi test but would imagine that they aren't going to be totally exact. Are you going to try one again?

bunny, good luck for the scan tomorrow, exciting stuff! I know it's not easy to not worry but brown spotting seens to be pretty common and not the sign of anything sinister.

time2deal Mon 10-Feb-14 19:04:34

Well an eventful day for me today. I had real trouble sleeping last night, and had a deep down pain that wasn't too bad, but I knew wasn't in a great place. Woke up this morning and all pain gone, but lots of blood.

Dark red blood on the sheets, and still bleeding. Shock! I was oddly ok with it, just sad it was back to where we were before.

But, thankfully it then eased off quickly. I called 111 and they told me to go to the GP. Saw him about 10, and they sent me straight to the local EPU. I'm 5+5 and saw a sac and yolk on the scan, although no baby. From what google tells me that is normal, and the sac was the right size and in the right place.

They couldn't really tell me if everything was ok. She said bleeding isn't normal, but it's not uncommon either. I'm going back next Wednesday for another scan when I will be at the very start of week 7. If I make it that far, and see a heartbeat, then the chances improve a lot.

God - what a stress! I took the day off work and was completely knackered so slept on the sofa for the afternoon. In a way it was good to see that there was something there, and I'm happy I'll get a scan next week. Another new hospital for me - I could start writing reviews. smile

Hatteras Mon 10-Feb-14 19:53:08

oh time what an eventful day indeed thanks .That must have been incredibly frightening to wake up to, but it sounds as though the scan went well which is good news. Fingers and everything else crossed for you. This early part is such a worrying period isn't it? It doesn't help that time just seems to drag as we wait for scans. Glad you had the day off, hope you took it easy: magic formula of sofa + nap + tv+ snacks.

I have my scan on Thursday, so just waiting for that.

Hatteras Mon 10-Feb-14 19:53:34

bunny, how did it go today? Hope all went well and you could see baby bunny.

Bunnygirlie Mon 10-Feb-14 20:29:54

Oh time how scary for you, really hoping that this is one of those horrid things that turns out to be nothing.

It feels odd going from that to my news. Thanks for asking, scan went well thanks. Saw a tiny little flashing blob which was amazing.

Nurse calculated I'm 6+4 which is weird since 6 and half weeks ago I hadn't even had my last period lol. It was calculated on EC date.

Hatteras Mon 10-Feb-14 20:48:36

fantastic news bunny - it must have been amazing to see that little flashing blob! The dating thing is weird isn't it, the whole being 'pregnant' even before egg collection/ovulation.

resipsa Mon 10-Feb-14 22:21:58

Just popping on to say hello. Glad you're all doing well. You ex-egg buddies have started a real trend - at least 2 more to join v soon! God, I hope it's me come early April grin.

time2deal Tue 11-Feb-14 07:26:55

Bunny don't feel bad about good news! I hope I have the same news next week. I'm not feeling very pregnant today though. Not as tired, but I guess I've not felt many symptoms all along really. I did before my bfp but I think that was mostly stress really.

Onwards we go.

resipsa Tue 11-Feb-14 16:50:05

Time - I missed your post somehow. Sorry if mine seemed insensitive. Hope you are OK.

time2deal Tue 11-Feb-14 18:42:08

No worries resp! I wouldn't have thought a thing of you didn't mention it. I feel all fine today, pleased to have another day under my belt. 6 weeks tomorrow. smile

Bunnygirlie Tue 11-Feb-14 19:41:11

Keeping everything crossed for you time

Good to see you res send them over when they're ready and join us in April yourself grin

So FC discharged me and I need to register with local midwife - scary!!!!!

Hatteras Tue 11-Feb-14 20:08:03

Hey res, thanks for popping over and hope to see you and a load of egg buddies over here for good very soon. I have been lurking over on the egg buddy thread to see how everyone is doing, but don't have much to say at the moment. To be honest, I still feel a bit of a fraud to be here on a pregnancy thread, I spent so long over on the conception threads.

I'm exactly 6 days today, scan in 2 days and getting really nervous. I keep remembering the horrible scan that revealed a MMC. It was a year and a half ago but I can just remember it all so clearly and I'm so scared the same thing will happen again. I keep reminding myself that even though the risk of early miscarriage is quite high, the odds are in my favour and I can't do anything other than just try and relax/be positive.

I have symptoms that come and go, but today I feel really great and not in the least pregnant..although must remember I was up to pee three times last night, felt slightly nauseous and boobs felt a bit sore. When I had the MMC, I had pretty bad nausea that I think had already started by this stage, but then that didn't end well so I need to stop reading so much into symptoms or lack of them. Urgh need to give myself a slap!

bunny being discharged from the FC seems like a big step, but a good one!

time how are you doing? Has the bleeding stopped?

time2deal Tue 11-Feb-14 21:33:58

Yes, bleeding was only on Sunday night. It had stopped by the time I had the scan at lunchtime. I think it wasnt too bad now I have a bit of distance from it. My acupuncturist freaked out today though! She sent me home without treatment and just said to put my feet up.

Exciting to be discharged from the fc! I think I will be discharged at the eight week scan, in a bit over two weeks.

Bunnygirlie Tue 11-Feb-14 21:46:23

hat how did you calculate it? My nurse used the egg collection date! This website calculated the same

http://www.ivfconnections.com/forums/content.php/749-IVF-Due-Date-Calculator-by-Date-of-Transfer-Retrieval-Ovulation-or-Insemination

hat do you need a slap? wink from what I have read every pregnancy is different so you never know, keeping everything crossed for you and time!

time glad to hear the bleeding has stopped.

Hatteras Tue 11-Feb-14 22:09:47

just saw that I wrote '6 days' instead of '6 weeks'...duh! I calculated my dates based on egg collection date too. I tried that link you gave and it says the same thing too, 6 weeks today. Will see what the clinic say on Thursday.

bunny yes I need several slaps grin

time glad to hear that bleeding stopped, here's hoping there is no more.

Hatteras Thu 13-Feb-14 20:18:02

Still around ladies? Hope everyone is doing well.

We had our scan today and saw that little flicker on the screen!! Amazed and relieved and also a bit in shock too. Dr said it has a strong heartbeat...and we are now graduated from the FC and I just go back to my obstetrician with all the other 'normal' (non IVF) pregnant women.

Eek!!!

Bunnygirlie Thu 13-Feb-14 21:37:03

Oh hat that is wicked!!! What did they date you as? I am 7 weeks today apparently.

time how you doing?

Hatteras Thu 13-Feb-14 22:21:04

They dated me as 6w2d, which I think they did based on egg collection date rather than size of the embryo.

Still in shock, and I know it is still early days days, but it is another step closer!

Also started feeling nauseous yesterday, an all day feeling of queasy, rectified only by eating crisps! Also tired and very emotional but that may just be because I was so nervous leading up to this scan. How are you feeling bunny?

TheBuggerlugs Thu 13-Feb-14 22:44:06

<creeps in very gently hoping not to jinx anything>

Hello fellow egg buddies. So this is where you're hiding.

I'll lurk in this lovely quiet corner if it's ok, just until I feel a bit more confident.

<places head in sand>

Hatteras Fri 14-Feb-14 01:28:51

Bugs! So pleased to see you here. It' s exciting and bloody terrifying isn't it? I am finding these early weeks even worse than the 2ww in terms of nerves. Having got this far, there feels more to lose.

I didn't feel ready to leave the egg buddy thread and in no way ready to join ante natal threads, so this is a nice in between place.

When do you have your first scan?

TheBuggerlugs Fri 14-Feb-14 01:38:01

On the 28th.....if I get that far. I'm currently sitting in A&E after being woken up by the most excruciating pains I've ever felt in my life. I was bent double on the floor and I honestly felt like my cervix was being ripped out. Out of hours call to the clinic advised to present here....only now the pains have eased slightly and I want to sleep.

Can't decide whether to stay and be seen or go home and come back in daylight hours. Not sure if I have a UTI.

Bunnygirlie Fri 14-Feb-14 08:16:43

Oh no bugs hope it turns out to be nothing and you feel better soon.

hat still feeling rough, very nauseous and eating absolute crap is the only thing that helps.

time2deal Fri 14-Feb-14 09:50:49

bugs hope you are ok. These few weeks are so scary. I hope you stayed - it's better to get some reassurance rather than worry at home.

hat I know what you mean about the ante-natal threads! I am lurking on the October board, but I'm not quite ready to jump in. Feels like there are lots of people who have got BFP's after 1 or 2 cycles (or accidentally!) and I'm just not ready for that.

I'm doing fine. Little bit of nausea this morning, but no sign of blood or any more cramps. I broke and did a test on Wednesday afternoon and had a nice reassuringly strong instant line. I will try not to wait until next Wednesday when they are doing another scan.

My only current (quite minor) complaint is that I can't sleep on my stomach, which I normally do. After a while I start to get light crampy pains, and so I'm sleeping only on my sides now. But I've had a shoulder problem since I was young, and sleeping on it makes it much worse! And I can't stand to stay on the one side only all night. Small problem I know, but already the pain is really annoying. I may see if I can get a bit of physio to try to deal with it, as presumably things will only get worse.

TheBuggerlugs Fri 14-Feb-14 11:32:58

Well I ended up going home at 3am as there were still 7 people in front of me and the clinic I'm under opens at 8am.

Long story short: The clinic have advised there isn't anything they can do, its too early to scan and the gynea ward is full so if it gets unmanageable again I've to present to A&E. They don't know what's causing the cramps but it's likely to be the over stimulation and my ovaries being so large. If it is a miscarriage the pesseries won't stop me bleeding which is good to know as I was worried they would.

Basically I can do nothing but keep actions pregnant and taking my meds and wait it out.

Hatteras Fri 14-Feb-14 14:09:23

Oh bugs <hugs> what a night. It sounds as though it could be OHSS problems and nothing more (not that this is nothing iyswim) but horrible to have to just wait it out. 'Good' to know about the pessaries, I worried a bit about that too, that they could mask miscarrying.

How are you feeling today, are you off work?

time I am lurking over on the October thread too! Also not ready for it, it seems huge and I'm still at the post miscarriage/ttc for 2 years/ ivf and feeling nervous stage. Feeling excited too, just cautiously so.

time2deal Fri 14-Feb-14 14:09:59

Bugs glad you are home. To be honest when I had the bleeding they did a scan and pretty much said the same thing. The only thing they may be able to confirm is if it's all over/never really started.

thanks for the info that the progesterone won't prevent bleeding if it is a miscarriage. I was also wondering that, so really helpful info to know that no blood means no blood! Not just that its being artificially prevented.

When is your next scan?

Hatteras Fri 14-Feb-14 14:15:14

bunny I'm also feeling pretty rough. After worrying (complaining) about no symptoms earlier this week, I've got increasingly nauseous these last few days. Not actually been sick just an almost constant nauseous feeling. Trying to work out what I want to eat and yes it's carby/beige food that seems to be the only thing. I was sooo healthy during the ivf but that's all going out the window now!

TheBuggerlugs Fri 14-Feb-14 14:15:48

Thanks both. I was signed off work In December as my GP felt being off work woukd give the IVF a better chance of working. I saw her this morning and my plan was to discuss a phased return but after last night she has given me another 2 weeks and I'm seeing her again after my first scan which is on the 28th.

My miscarriages and CP have all started with Brown blood that has turned red then the severe pain has come, not the other way round so that's my only bit of comfort. Also having had a nosey on Google it seems other people have had the same especially at night. I just want some reassurance everything is ok.

Hatteras Fri 14-Feb-14 14:48:51

The waiting is the worst and like you say, we just want reassurance that everything is ok, but all that can be done is wait.

I'll admit I was in pieces leading up tothe scan yesterday and actually in tears when I went into the ultrasound room. Very not me to be like that but I just couldn't help it. The staff at the clinic are just lovely and DH told them about the mmc (the only other time I have been pregnant) and how that loss was discovered at my first scan - hence me being a mess.

It's a tough journey, hoping very much we will all be cuddling newborns in October thanks

time2deal Fri 14-Feb-14 14:54:40

I really wanted someone this week to say it would all be fine, or at least that things looked normal/ok, but nobody did! They all just said it was too early to tell, and that it could mean nothing or something.

GP said some people have no bleeding, and a MMC, and others have constant bleeding and a healthy baby. I just wanted her to say 'I'm sure it will be fine' and give me a hug!! Although if she actually did I'd probably instantly lose all respect for her... such is the fickleness of a pregnant womans emotions.

TheBuggerlugs Fri 14-Feb-14 15:33:57

The nurse said they'd love to have a little window to be able to see what's happening inside women but they can't. They just have to let time do its thing. One way or another, by two weeks today I'll know. I just wish I could be out in a coma until then!

resipsa Fri 14-Feb-14 16:07:21

Sorry to read that you're having ups and downs over here and just to reassure you, the pessaries do not stop bleeding if you've miscarried. I am proof. I say this not for sympathy but to confirm the doctor's advice!

TheBuggerlugs Fri 14-Feb-14 16:08:46

Thank you Resp that's reassuring. thanks

Bunnygirlie Sat 15-Feb-14 10:40:58

Morning ladies. How are you doing?

bugs hope you are feeling better, must have been scary flowers

Awwww hat fingers crossed to the cuddling of newborns in oct smile

So are you all still using the pessaries? I only had to take them till test BFP.

Fed up of feeling rough now!

TheBuggerlugs Sat 15-Feb-14 10:47:04

Hey Bunny I feel a lot better thank you. I slept propped up on 6 pillows and woke a couple of times to take more pain killers but I feel loads better today.

I'm using 2 pesseries a day. It was 1 a day until BFP then 2 a day until 12 weeks. Touch wood I'll get that far.

When did your symptoms start Bunny?

Bunnygirlie Sat 15-Feb-14 14:31:27

The sickness started between 5-6 weeks I think. The tiredness hit about a week after test day.

TheBuggerlugs Sat 15-Feb-14 18:10:33

I feel slightly dizzy/ sick but about 1% and its probably due to the slight OHSS I have rather than the pregnancy. I'd like some more symptoms but will probably regret saying that. I'm starting to fret about the scan on the 28th.

Hatteras Sat 15-Feb-14 21:48:35

Bad day over here. Discovered I was bleeding last night just before I went to bed, had no cramps or pain at all which is why it was such a shock. Bleeding was brown at first but then there was some red blood. More than spotting but not super heavy, just needed one pad overnight. Bleeding has now stopped and still no pain or cramps.

Spoke to dr on the phone who said to go to ER if I felt I needed it or if there was alot of blood loss / pain and cramps. Otherwise I have to just rest it out, keep my fingers crossed and call them on Monday am for an appointment/scan.

At my scan on Thursday they did say there was something that looked liked a bleed, so hoping it is just that. Can't believe it really, just when I was starting to relax after the scan...

Hope everyone else is faring a bit better!

TheBuggerlugs Sat 15-Feb-14 22:14:47

Fucking hell Hat that is every woman's fear and even more so after IVF and/ or mc's. With my miscarriages the bleeding was accompanied by horrific cramps. If the bleeding has eased it's a good sign. Fingers crossed its the bleed that was seen on your scan.

Hatteras Sat 15-Feb-14 22:43:43

Yep, fucking hell pretty much sums it up bugs. Weirdly calm now, think I just can't face the idea of this being not ok. If you don't mind me asking, how long after bleeding did your cramps start?

Hope you are doing ok, the waiting game is tortuous.

TheBuggerlugs Sat 15-Feb-14 22:45:43

With each mc it was different but pretty much as soon a the blood was heavy and red. I knew it was a mc as the blood was so so heavy. Its just didn't stop so if yours has eased it a good sign. Can you get a scan?

Hatteras Sat 15-Feb-14 23:35:38

Bleeding totally stopped by this afternoon, so keeping my fingers crossed there is no more. It started with no warning, no cramp or pain so am a bit wary it could just start right up again.

Calling the dr on Mon am so will hopefully get a scan that day or v soon. Since there was no pain/ not much blood we decided against an ER visit this weekend, there didn't seem much point.

Bunnygirlie Sun 16-Feb-14 10:53:25

Oh gosh hat sorry you have this worry too sad

One of the girls on another thread I'm on has just had a 9 week scan and there is no heart beat, so sad. Got me freaking out a little.

The stress never stops does it.

TheBuggerlugs Tue 18-Feb-14 08:06:25

No Bunny it doesn't. All we have is hope and faith.

time2deal Wed 19-Feb-14 12:35:20

hey ladies,
Went for a 7 week scan today and saw the heartbeat! Lovely and strong and fast. Sonographer said it looked fine - 8mm which puts me at 6w5d, but before 12 weeks it can vary week to week.

wow! This could be really happening!

Hatteras Wed 19-Feb-14 15:04:25

time that is wonderful! It is incredible to see that little heartbeat isn't it smile

bugs how are you doing on the waiting game?

bunny how are things?

Afm, things are looking alot brighter after the bleed at the weekend. It totally cleared up and we had a scan on Monday that shows the bean is totally fine...but I do have a lot of blood in my uterus. Dr said he thought there was a good 75%+ chance that it will be ok but said there is the possibility that if the bleeding moves a certain way it could dislocate the sac and cause a miscarriage. Having another scan next week to check it, hopefully it will be no worse or even receding. Oh and the Dr said that it is quite likely that I could bleed on and off for months. Yes, months!!

So, still a bit cautious but things are ok for now. I have to take things easy, nothing strenuous and just have faith things will be ok. The worry doesn't end after that desperately sought after BFP does it??

Other than that I have full on all day 'morning' sickness, or rather nausea. It's really got quite bad but more than happy to put up with it as long as things stay ok!

TheBuggerlugs Wed 19-Feb-14 15:13:46

Time Well done on the good scan. I've never had a good scan so 8 imagine that feeling will be amazing.

Hat I went back to work today after being off 10 week so am knackered. It was nice to use my brain but I'm still waking up 2-3 times in the night with cramps which I'm getting s bit sick of. I've taken so many paracetmols in the last week it's not funny!

Bunnygirlie Wed 19-Feb-14 21:24:55

time that's ace news! It's a wonderful sight isn't it!

hat one day at a time eh, keeping things crossed for us all!

bug 10 weeks off work, Crikey!

As for me, midwife called today, I have first appointment next Friday, scary!

Bunnygirlie Fri 28-Feb-14 15:32:41

How's it going ladies?!?

Anymore egg buddies we can drag over here yet?

TheBuggerlugs Fri 28-Feb-14 15:39:33

Hi Bunny it's quite quiet isn't it. Had my first scan today and saw ons baby with a heartbeat measuring 6w. I'm 6w3d so it's tiny bit behind but the clinic weren't at all worried. Back in 3 weeks for another.

Bunnygirlie Fri 28-Feb-14 17:30:54

bug that's fab!

I'm 9w1 today and just booked in with the midwife!

TheBuggerlugs Fri 28-Feb-14 17:55:36

The clinic told me to book the midwife now as I may miss the 12w scan If I don't. My appointment is on the 14th.

Sparkle9 Fri 28-Feb-14 18:20:06

Hello everyone. I've just spotted this thread. I'm pregnant with number 1 and I got my very first BFP exactly one year after taking my last pill. Feeling anxious about this pregnancy and can't quite believe it is real. I had quite a lot of brown spotting from day of BFP and for the next 10-12 days. I just have a tiny bit today and yesterday. I had an early scan at 4 weeks and 6 days and they saw just a tiny gestational sac. Bloods showed HCG at 1171 which fits in with the early date. Next scan is booked for when I'll be 6 weeks and 6 days.

Fingers crossed!

Bunnygirlie Sat 01-Mar-14 21:16:09

Welcome sparkle and congrats!

bug first midwife appt was forms forms forms!!!

cwtching Mon 03-Mar-14 03:32:09

Hello ladies I found you! I am 6+4 after ttc for just over 2 years on our first cycle of IVF/ICSI. We feel incredibly lucky just to get this far. We have our scan at the ACU on the 11th (7+5). I'm nervous!!!

Symptoms so far are: big time tiredness (I even had an afternoon nap yesterday!), light-headedness, weird stabby pains, getting out of breath easily and sore bbs, oh and although I don't feel it, I look utterly dreadful, pale and ghost-like! Where's the bloom?! I'm on 3 progesterone pessaries a day so I don't know how many of my 'symptoms' are pessary related!

Bunnygirlie Mon 03-Mar-14 08:22:01

Welcome and congrats cwtch!

Mine was a first time ICSI BFP too smile I had a scan at 6w4d and saw a tiny blob flashing on the screen, I'm now 9w4d and still bricking it about the 12 week scan.

The tiredness at first is frightening, mine has eased off a bit now but I have occasional heart flutters, get out of breath and all day nausea which is horrible.

I don't think you bloom until the second tri lol!

TheBuggerlugs Mon 03-Mar-14 11:56:06

Welcome Cwtch. I'm not sure if I missed your bfp news, Congratualtions if I did.

Bunny do you not get a 9 week scan? My clinic do 6 weeks and 9 weeks then if all is well discharge into normal care shock. I don't want normal care.

At over 7 weeks Cwcth you should be able to see more than the flashing blobs Bunny and I saw.

As for symtoms I am also suffering with dizziness and slight nausea today. Naps are my new best friend too. By tea time I tend to feel a bit fluey so early nights are a must at the moment.

eurochick Mon 03-Mar-14 12:05:54

Hello ladies. It's nice to see so many egg buddy grads over here!

bugs my clinic only scans at 6 weeks and then that is it. I ended up having scans at 7 and 8 weeks at the EPU because of the bleeding I had.

TheBuggerlugs Mon 03-Mar-14 12:28:32

I want my clinic to look after me the whole way through smile. Its a team of about 12 female nurses that have all been there years, some have even had IVF themselves and I feel so protected with them. The big wide world of normal maternity services is frightening. (to me anyway)

eurochick Mon 03-Mar-14 13:56:20

I feel similar, bugs. That is one of the reasons I have opted for an independent midwife - I'm hoping that building up a relationship with one individual with give me that same sort of feeling of "safety".

time2deal Mon 03-Mar-14 14:01:07

I know what you mean about normal maternity. I found the booking in process quite difficult - there were so many pregnant women and kids!! I don't feel part of that group yet! Plus they really just treat you the same as anyone, which I know it probably right, but I think we are used to a higher level of care. It's confronting to accept the change!

Bunnygirlie Tue 04-Mar-14 08:19:55

Hey euro ! How you doing?

bug yep just the 6 week scan for me and then discharged to GP.

time midwife came to my house for booking in which was nice, just filling in lots of forms. She also had trouble TTC although did 't get to the ivf stage so I think she was more understanding than some.

TheBuggerlugs Tue 04-Mar-14 08:33:34

If my midwife is a dragon I'm having an IM too. I've been through too much to be treated like an idiot like some poor women report. I think from what I've heard that the team I'll be under are nice. I'm also considering having a doula but that's a long long way off yet.

Bunnygirlie Thu 06-Mar-14 19:30:07

How's everyone doing?

Hatteras Thu 06-Mar-14 20:11:00

Hi everyone,

I have been lurking but feeling strangely paranoid about posting this last week or so. Not sure why! Glad to hear everyone is doing well. Welcome cwtch, great to see another egg buddy come over to this side.

All ok here at the moment. Following the bleed and then ok scan a couple of weeks ago, I was released by the fertility clinic and I am now registered back with my OB/GYN at the hospital. (I am in the US so things are done a bit differently here, there don't seem to be midwives as such). It was soooo weird at first and like a few of you also said, I really missed the fertility clinic at first - it was just so much smaller and I knew all the staff well.

I had a scan last week at 8 weeks and all looked well, but the bleed (subchorionic hematoma) is really big compared to the sac. The Dr. who did the scan said that these can be a cause for concern but my Dr wasn't overly concerned and said that these things usually take care of themselves, but ..there is always that 'BUT'. Since the scan, I have been bleeding for the last 6 (!) days, always brown very old blood and not much of it. On the one hand I have almost got used to it, on the other other it still freaks me out! I have to take things easy - no sex/exercise/carrying anything heavy for now. Am hoping this bleeding is the hematoma bleeding out and resolving itself, but we will see. I have another scan tomorrow (9w 3d) to check the progress and starting to get nervous about that.

Other than that, feeling very nauseous most days all day and ridiculously emotional - absolutely anything remotely sentimental (or even not) has me in tears! I had my booking in appointment and bloodwork done earlier this week, and on the referral note to the lab it said 'supervision of normal pregnancy', and that had me in tears because nothing has seemed 'normal' (ie straightforward and easy) about this whole business over the last couple of years!

Hope everyone is doing well, slowly the days pass by and we get closer to the 12 week mark.

time2deal Thu 06-Mar-14 20:23:37

Hey ladies,

Things going fairly uneventfully here too. Hat I know what you mean about being normal! I was enjoying that for a while, but I've been moved now back to being high risk, with an operation in a few weeks. I've discussed it on another thread, but it will be a good thing overall.

Operation will be at 12 weeks, and I need to take a month off work so will be telling work next week sometime, as I need to do a bit of handover. I'm getting a scan next Thursday so will wait until they hopefully give me the all clear then.

I'm exactly in line with you hat. 9w2d day. How are you going bunny?

time2deal Thu 06-Mar-14 20:25:04

I am feeling mostly normal, but have had a day today of strong symptoms which was reassuring. Nausea, sore boobs, emotional, tired. I was starting to think I had imagined it all after a few quiet days. I may have even done a random test today.

Eggsiseggs Fri 07-Mar-14 07:17:02

Hi again ladies!
Wow, it isn't straightforward, any of this, is it? Hope you are all doing well.
Have lain awake most of the night worrying about mmm myself. All my symptoms seem to have eased, and now apart from being a bit tired (but then, work has been frantic, so everyone is tired) I have had zero symptoms compared to the cramping and exhaustion and boobs of fire of the previous few weeks.
Have my scan next Thursday (13th - so roughly 8 weeks) and am now dreading it entirely. It's so unlike me to be so anxious about things, it's just that all the a IVF and trying and hoping seems to have come to a head now for me emotionally, and I am petrified!

Weird when you would welcome feeling horribly sick every day, eh?

Eggsiseggs Fri 07-Mar-14 07:17:48

mmc

Hatteras Fri 07-Mar-14 17:30:01

Hi eggs, totally get everything you are saying. The IVF definitely intensifies things, it takes so much to get to the point of actually getting pregnant...then there are a whole load of new worries to deal with. I feel totally full of dread before every scan, but fingers crossed so far so good. I had a scan this morning and everything was good, the bleed is still there but smaller, and everything measuring spot on for the dates (9w 3d). We even got to see little arms and legs this time, it was incredible! So, now the worry will ease off a little then start up again in a couple of weeks for the 12 week scan....

Symptom wise, I have days where my symptoms feel better/worse and it seems to be normal that they come and go. I'm trying not to read too much into every symptom or lack of because it is too easy to drive myself crazy (easier said than done). I feel really rough today though, but like you said, welcoming feeling horribly sick!

time I read the thread about your operation. Sorry that you have this extra worry of being classified as 'high risk', but good news that it seems you have the care you need lined up for the operation. We're getting closer to 12 weeks!

bunny, bugs and anyone else, how are you doing? Hope all well.

Bunnygirlie Fri 07-Mar-14 18:32:28

hat Sorry to hear about the bleeding. Glad your scan went well.

time An operation, oh no, how scary. You ok?

eggs welcome to the gang!

I'm 10weeks1day so not too far ahead. Still feeling nauseous and blah!
I have to see the consultant due to fibroid they found during pre ivf dildocam, guess I'm not 'normal' either!
Should get my scan in 2 weeks, scary! fingers crossed we can do the big reveal for mothering Sunday grin

TheBuggerlugs Fri 07-Mar-14 20:00:52

I'm mostly lurking at the moment as I'm in limbo land waiting for my 9 week scan on the 19th. I wish I had stronger symtoms and am trying desperately to keep busy to keep my mind off it (and failing)

Hatteras Fri 07-Mar-14 23:54:14

bugs limbo land is the worst, I have really struggled with it. Have been trying to keep busy but have been quite restricted (and a little paranoid) about what I can do since I was put on 'take it easy' after the bleed. Also we have told only a couple of people the news so I have found it hard seeing people that I don't know - the not drinking, the not talking about the one thing that has taken over your mind etc.

Hoping that the time until the 12th goes quickly, in the meantime, plenty of brew and cake

Eggsiseggs Sun 09-Mar-14 06:17:34

Thanks for the reassurance Hatteras and glad your scan went well!

Agree with everyone on the l

Eggsiseggs Sun 09-Mar-14 06:20:32

Limbo front. Waiting is making me so nervous! Although my symptoms have come back with a vengeance, so I am not quite as despairing as before.

Still dreading Thursday's scan.

Lovely to know others are going through the same thing as me. Well, not 'lovely' exactly, with all this anxiety, but you know what I mean!

TheBuggerlugs Sun 09-Mar-14 09:58:59

I think the NHS should invest in an island and send all IVFers or people with recurrent mc history until at least 24 weeks. We could all hide together and pretend it's not happening grin

My on my real symptoms are hunger, a swimming head most of the time and swollen boobs that aren't that sore. Maybe I'm just not as in tune with my body as others, or maybe the pregnancy is doomed. Who knows. I wish I bloody did. wink

Bunnygirlie Sun 09-Mar-14 10:44:36

It's just wait after wait after wait isn't it! Love the idea of a post ivf island to keep us all safe on bugs.

So am I first up for the 'big' scan?

Symptomwise, I still feel grot most of the time, strange heart flutters when I lounge on the sofa but no boob changes!

TheBuggerlugs Sun 09-Mar-14 12:13:00

Think so Bunny. How many weeks are you now? With on the the grot feeling.

Bunnygirlie Sun 09-Mar-14 16:44:33

I am 10w3d, gonna be a long 12 day wait till scan! Then I have a consultant appt at 14 weeks ref my fibroid.

Just realised we don't know much about each other, so I'll share.
I'm 33, took us 2 years and one IVF/ICSI to concieve baby number 1. Currently have 3 furry babies, cats smile

TheBuggerlugs Sun 09-Mar-14 17:21:56

I'm 31, ttc since Jan 2011. 2 miscarriages, 6 months of Clomid, 1 chemical pregnancy. 1st cycle of IVF resulted in BFP and 3 frosties in freezer. 10 days until my 9 week scan and bricking it.

Hatteras Sun 09-Mar-14 18:35:19

Oldie here at 39, TTC for nearly 2.5 years. In that time, about 6 months on Clomid, a BFP, but then a MMC at 8 weeks. 2nd cycle of IVF (this one with ICSI) resulted in this pregnancy. Currently 9w 5d....and counting each and every one of them.

Yes to the post IVF island....somewhere warm and sunny please where there is nothing to do but relax, eat whatever we feel like and switch off brains until at least 12 weeks.

Bunny do you have a date for your 12 weeks scan yet?

Bunnygirlie Sun 09-Mar-14 19:51:29

Lovely to read a bit about you smile

Scan is a week on Friday shock

time2deal Sun 09-Mar-14 20:41:13

I'm an oldie too. 37, been TTC since I was 33. I had an 18 month gap in the middle due to treatment for cervical cancer, that was identified when we went for IVF.

This is IVF3, but the first one where any embryos were put back. I have 12 frozen embryos from the previous cycles, but they are 1 day embryos rather than proper 6 day frosties. In 9+4 now.

I love the idea of an island! Preferably with a ultrasound scanner on demand. smile

bunny yes I have to have an operation. It's a transabdominal cerclage, where they go in an put a tie around the bottom of the uterus to hold the baby in. I basically have no cervix, so without treatment I'll almost certainly lose the baby once it gets big enough to put some downward pressure on the bottom of the cervix. But the success rates for this operation are really good, so I'm very hopeful. The operation itself is pretty intense - they cut down like a C-Section to the uterus, then put the tie in place and close all up again. I've got a month off work (which is no great hardship!). The operation is at week 12, booked for the 28th.

Eggsiseggs Wed 12-Mar-14 06:28:03

34 here, ttc for 4 yrs, 6 rounds of clomid and now BFP on first round of ICSI/IVF. We got two embryos, and both have been put back in.

8 week scan tomorrow! Very nervous. It has been a long wait.

time2deal that's a lot to go through! Hats off to you.

That Island sounds great. When I am in my bikini, we can all debate whether my paunch is baby, gas, or the choc digestives I can't seem to get enough of...

caravela Wed 12-Mar-14 12:14:49

Hi everyone. I just spotted this thread. I've been ttc for 2 years, and am now 5.6 weeks. I'm 34, but the rules in our area mean that you can't get NHS funded IVF once you're 35, so we had already gone to have a consultation at the local fertility clinic and filled in the first round of paperwork to get permission for IVF, because we knew that if we didn't get it in the new few months we would miss our chance.

At the end of Feb we got the authorisation along with a massive pack of information, consent forms etc from the clinic, and then a few days later I discovered I was pregnant. I think we'd both sort of given up on the idea that it would happen naturally, and because of the timing, it just seems too good to be true, so I'm finding it really hard to believe that it's real (also because other than sore breasts, I don't have any symptoms yet). DH is also finding it hard to believe: he said that he wanted it so much to be true that he was frightened to believe it. I keep on thinking that it's just an elaborate fantasy that we've made up.

Eggsiseggs Wed 12-Mar-14 20:47:24

I think we all know what that feels like! Sort of afraid to engage with it because it is too good to be true.

Congratulations - must have been a big shock!

BeetleBeetle Thu 13-Mar-14 16:21:59

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time2deal Thu 13-Mar-14 18:47:47

Welcome caravela, what a great story! Congratulations on the pregnancy, and I think we all know what it is like to not believe it is happening. After years of trying it just feels so strange to be back in the land of 'normal' people. smile

And also welcome Beetlebeetle. So sorry to hear about your twins. From my research the TAC is really successful so certainly something to think about.

Today I had a 10 week scan as part of the Harmony test, and everything looks good! Baby is 32mm, 165bps heartbeat, and I could see the head, arms and legs. All very smudgy but clearly there. It's simply astonishing to know there is a baby in there! They even gave me a 3d scan, which just looks strange, but I love it. I can actually find out the sex in 2 weeks as this is a blood test, so we will have to decide if we want to know.

The doctor did a cervical length check and it showed at 2cm, which is good in one way (I was told it would be between 0.5 and 1cm), but bad as it should be about 5cm. So the Cerclage is definitely the right option. Feeling very lucky to have the choice, to know about it, and to happen to be in the right borough to have two of the UK specialists working in local hospitals.

Today is a good day. Feeling pretty rubbish nausea-wise, and still too tired to move, but super happy!

Bunnygirlie Thu 13-Mar-14 22:24:27

Hello.

Wow time it's amazing they can do that sort of op these days, I guess we all thank science and technology for giving us a helping hand! Keeping everything crossed for you. Yay for the scan!

Hi cara welcome and congrats! My sickness kicked in just before 6 weeks so you might be getting some symptoms soon, hope not though it's grotty! I know what you mean though, even though we've had an early scan I am still worried I'll get to 12 weeks and there'll say don't be daft there's nowt in there!

Yay beetle congrats! So sorry to hear about your loss though, that must have been hell.

I am feeling rotten, this daily hangover feeling is really getting me down. It's no fun at all, when will I start to bloom?!?!?

caravela Thu 13-Mar-14 23:30:41

Hi beetle, sorry to hear about your twins; what a sad loss. Congratulations on bfp and will be keeping my fingers crossed.

I did another test, because DH was being so cautious and sceptical that he'd even managed to make me start doubting it, but now he's seen a second one he's agreed that it must be true! But still no symptoms. I really shouldn't be complaining though, since once I do start feeling sick it'll be horrid. But my mum apparently had very little nausea when she was pg so holding out hope it won't be too bad for me either.

time2deal Thu 13-Mar-14 23:45:55

Caravela, when I got my BFP (2-3 on a digi) my DH didn't seem to quite understand that meant I was pregnant. He asked a few days later 'when will we find out for sure you are pregnant?'.

To be fair I think a lot of IVF clinics make you come back for a blood test, but mine just told me to buy a test and let them know if it's positive. He is away at the moment so I sent him some pictures of the scans and I think he is starting to believe it's really happening.

Bunnygirlie Fri 14-Mar-14 08:18:33

I cannot believe this time next week I will be struggling to drink lots of liquid ready for my scan shock
Really dreading the full bladder thing, had bad experience with the embryo transfer needing the loo so bad I was in pain, ended up trying to have a half wee!

TheBuggerlugs Mon 17-Mar-14 22:14:54

It's quite quiet in here. Bettle wonderful amazing news, thrilled for you.

I had my 9 week scan today and buglet measured bang on 9 weeks so I've been discharged from the clinic and instructed to stop the fanny bullets and fragmin in 3 weeks. Scary shit grin grin

Hatteras Tue 18-Mar-14 15:55:26

How's everyone doing?

bugs that is fantastic news, it is such a thrill and a relief to have a good scan isn't it?

beetle great news from you too, hope everything is going well.

All ticking over well enough here. Feeling pretty rough most days with nausea but hoping that it will wear off soon. I was wondering whether part of the nausea could be because I am still on progesterone, and from what I have read it seems the placenta starts producing its own between 8-10 weeks (?) , so maybe I am getting a double dose. Or maybe I am clutching at straws hoping that the sickness will wear off next week once I stop the progesterone.

12 week scan on Monday (although I will actually be 11w 6d) - trying not to get nervous, but also can't believe I am almost at the 12 week mark. I think this may have been the longest 8 weeks of my life!

Bunnygirlie Tue 18-Mar-14 20:17:05

Yay bugs that's fab!

Ooh hat you are just behind me then! My scan is Friday and I will be 12+1. Longest week ever!!!!!!! It's dragging!!!!!

I am still feeling grot! Only keeping nausea at bay by eating, as soon as I get hungry it strikes again. The gagging and dry heaving is exhausting! sad

Have you guys told people yet?!? If all goes well we'll tell the mums on mothering Sunday smile

Hatteras Tue 18-Mar-14 21:48:38

bunny, I am exactly the same with the nausea. Not actually been sick at all though, just constantly nauseous and only feel better if I eat something. Carb overloading plus the IVF bloat means I can't fit into any of my jeans anymore. Seems to soon to be thinking about maternity stuff, but don't want to buy bigger sizes in normal clothes.

We have told both sets of parents and that is it. I had thought about waiting for Mothering Sunday, but couldn't wait! Plus, I am really close to my mum and she would have guessed something was up because I was so upset/worried when I had the bleeding. It was so lovely telling our parents. I think we will start telling other people after the 12 weeks scan, assuming and hoping all is well. Am trying not to worry since the stats for miscarriage are really low after seeing a heartbeat at 8+ weeks....yet still I am worrying!

BeetleBeetle Thu 20-Mar-14 10:22:39

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Hatteras Thu 20-Mar-14 12:20:13

Beetle I am on endometrim (3 a day) and get watery discharge, and therefore have the trickle fear.Totally get where you are coming from.

For me I think the fear is made worse by the fact that I did have bleeding on and off for a few weeks Hate being on paranoid knicker watch, hoping it will just go away with time.

How long is everyone on progesterone for? I am phasing it out this week and stop on Tuesday when I will be 12 weeks. As much as I can't wait to stop taking it, I have this irrational fear about stopping the progesterone, that it will cause something to go wrong.

BeetleBeetle Thu 20-Mar-14 12:26:20

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TheBuggerlugs Thu 20-Mar-14 13:36:06

Hat I'm dropping for 2 to 1 a day from Tuesday (10w) and then stopping totally at 12w. I'm actually going to drop to every other day for the last few as like you, I don't want to just stop.

Bunnygirlie Thu 20-Mar-14 20:09:27

I've not been on anything since BFP, no progesterone or anything. I wonder why it's so different for us all?!?

So 12 weeks today shock so obviously the sickness will now magically stop yeah?!?!? <deluded face>

BeetleBeetle Fri 21-Mar-14 11:59:05

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Bunnygirlie Fri 21-Mar-14 14:08:38

Thanks!

Had my 12 week scan this morning, all good. Saw hands and feet and heart beating, very different to 6 week scan, amazing!

grin

TheBuggerlugs Fri 21-Mar-14 14:32:29

Fantastic news Bunny. Your BPF feels like only yesterday.

TheBuggerlugs Fri 21-Mar-14 14:32:39

BFP even.

Hatteras Fri 21-Mar-14 14:56:00

Great news bunny! So did the morning sickness and general feeling of yuk stop at the stroke of midnight?! grin

I have my 12 weeks scan on Monday (will actually be 11w 6d but assume that doesn't matter). Scan dread has started to set in, but telling myself that is normal, I don't feel anything is wrong, just getting nervous. We will start telling people if everything is ok ( we already told our parents) and I think that makes me feel nervous!

TheBuggerlugs Fri 21-Mar-14 14:56:40

Progesterone uses- is anyone using the back door? Are you incredibly bloated and swollen?

I've switched to back door after the tiniest bit of red on Tuesday after my scan and I feel pretty awful. I'm only on 2 a day until Monday so I might switch back. My stomach is HUGE

Sh0cked Fri 21-Mar-14 21:22:56

Hi, I know I'm a little late joining the party... I am 10 weeks pregnant after ttc for 4 years due to endometriosis. I am shocked, terrified and excited all at the same time x

Hatteras Fri 21-Mar-14 21:38:42

bugs- nope, I am using the front door, although still really bloated.

shocked- never too late to join the party, welcome and congratulations!

Eggsiseggs Sat 22-Mar-14 08:07:41

Hi again, all. Sorry I haven't been on in a while: I have mostly been sleeping!
Lovely to hear about your 12 week scan bunny! Can't wait for mine now!

Interested to hear about people being on progesterone until then - I only had it for the two weeks after transfer. Wonder why? Although was glad to get rid of it - and it's parting gift of piles!

Had my 8 week scan last week. Was so nervous, but there it was, heartbeat and all! Becoming a bit more real now.

How are all your symptoms this week? I am TIRED. All the time!!

Bunnygirlie Sat 22-Mar-14 10:53:57

hat I wish! MS seems to be worse at the mo, keep waking up early and having to run for juice to stop the heaving sad
I know what you mean about scan dread, the week before was awful, I was a right state at work!

Welcome shock and congrats! How you feeling?

egg yay for your 8w scan smile

Sickness is really my main symptom, my boobs aren't sore or anything! Bit tired and tummy twinges now and again.

One more week of secrets and then the grand reveal grin

Eggsiseggs Sat 22-Mar-14 15:16:16

Oh so excited for you with the grand reveal!
12 weeks seems soooo far away!

Bunnygirlie Mon 24-Mar-14 21:11:13

Thanks *eggs

hat how was your scan?

Hatteras Mon 24-Mar-14 22:01:43

12 scan went well! The pre scan terror got to ridiculous levels, didn't sleep at all last night and was absolutely terrified when we went into the scan room....but there it was on the screen, a little moving baby with everything looking good. Relief is an understatement!

We had bloods taken for genetic screening, so have a 7-10 day wait for those results back, but for now just enjoying the post scan relief.

Told my closest family members today, so it has been a very emotional day smile

TheBuggerlugs Mon 24-Mar-14 22:35:14

Yey Hat that's great news. The post scan feeling is amazing isn't it?

I've noticed my boobs are really veiny and the veins on my hands are more pronounced too. I still haven't had any sickness just hunger and thirst.

Hatteras Tue 25-Mar-14 01:58:16

Thanks bugs, yep it is such a great feeling, makes up for the terror/ nerves beforehand! How long until your 12 week scan?

It's funny how symptoms are so different, I haven't noticed any difference in my boobs, the nausea has been the main thing for me.

TheBuggerlugs Tue 25-Mar-14 08:48:08

Its on the 11th Hat which feels like forever away.

We might have to have your girl dog PTS today. I'm very sad

time2deal Tue 25-Mar-14 09:43:50

Hat - I know about the pre-scan fear. I think I'm having too many scans as I get so worked up before them that I'd be better off with a bigger break between each one. They have all been for good reasons, but still I'm letting myself get too stressed.

Hows is everyone going with weight and clothes? I weighed myself today and was a bit surprised to see that I've not actually put on any weight. I put on about 3kg during IVF (and 3kg the IVF before) so I've pretty over where I want to be, but no more weight since I was weighed for the last egg collection. However, my clothes are really getting tight! Both my boobs and my waist are bigger and straining out of clothes.

My main symptom is still tiredness, with nausea when I'm really tired. I feel like I should spend time with DH each evening, but last night I just fell asleep on the sofa again! I think he understands, although when he has days off (he works odd shifts) I think he looks forward to me being home to chat to and instead gets a useless tired wife. At least he makes me dinner. smile

Boobs are also big and sensitive, and my nipples are slightly soft and bulgy - like torpedoes poking out the front of my boobs if that makes any sense! Plus a slow digestive system, although my latest regime of a small glass of prune juice morning and evening seems to be resolving that (TMI!)

Hatteras Tue 25-Mar-14 17:13:29

*bugs, so sorry to hear about your dog, I hope things worked out ok and you don't have to go ahead with it flowers

time, I put on about half a stone with each round of IVF, so that's an extra stone. This time the bloatedness didn't go away when I got the BFP. Combined with nausea that seems to be quelled only by potatoes and toast and being told not to exercise when I had the bleed, I am seriously lardy now! My jeans are really uncomfortable and not sure whether to just get the next size up or wait for maternity jeans (!). Seems so weird to be thinking about buying maternity clothes..and surely too soon?

I also have the slow digestive system, prune juice may be what I need!

TheBuggerlugs Tue 25-Mar-14 17:26:25

In the end she wasn't PTS, she saw a specialist for an hour who has suggested different meds and an MRI scan.

I keep looking at my boobs, I've always been flat chested and I lost a stone in September so all my clothes were massive on me and my boobs become even more boy like so to have larger boobs now is great.

Hatteras Tue 25-Mar-14 17:38:51

Glad to hear that she didn't have to be PTS Bugs, but still a big worry for you.

I've got large boobs to begin with, so that may be why I can't see any difference size wise yet - I could gain or lose a cup size and not notice. I dread to think what state they will be in at the end of nine months!

Bunnygirlie Tue 25-Mar-14 18:54:26

hat so pleased your scan went well. We had the NHS downs tests, were told we'd get a call in 5/6 days if there were any problems otherwise we'd go through results at 16w mw appt.

bug so sorry to hear about your pooch, so sad when our furry babies are poorly.

time I've put on a few pounds since BFP but feel really blobby sad

My boobs haven't changed at all which has prompted me to google lol, apparently I may have a flat chest until the baby is born shock

time2deal Thu 27-Mar-14 21:35:03

Just a quick note to say my 12 week scan went fantastic today, and got very low risk Harmony results which was great news. Can relax for a while now!

Off for my operation tomorrow. I really should get packing. I'm slightly starting to stress now, but generally just happy to be here, and happy to be able to keep the baby safe.

I'm off work for 4 weeks after the operation, and I can't wait to be 16 weeks, fat and fully healed. smile

Bunnygirlie Thu 27-Mar-14 21:47:24

Glad scan went well! Wishing you lots of luck for op tomorrow flowers

TheBuggerlugs Sun 30-Mar-14 11:29:09

Morning ladies and happy Sunday. How is everyone?

Bunnygirlie Sun 30-Mar-14 17:41:06

Hey mums to be!

Told the mums (and dad) today, it was amazing! What a buzz!!! grin

BeetleBeetle Thu 03-Apr-14 13:52:54

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time2deal Thu 03-Apr-14 17:47:40

Hey beetle, thanks for thinking of me! All went well, in that the stitch was placed although some complications during the surgery apparently. It's been a pretty brutal recovery though. Probably worse as I've been trying not to take too many pain killers. I was in hospital for 3 nights, and still pretty sore sleeping, walking, standing up, etc...

I think the extra complications meant they messed around with my bowels a bit more, and in protest they really stopped working for a few days. I bloated up like a whale, so at least I know what I will look like in a few months!! But finally things seem to be getting back to normal'ish.

Baby was scanned before and after and coped great. I had my 12 week scan the day before the operation, as well as results from the Harmony test, which all came back really well. We even know the sex! I love seeing the baby bouncing around in there, it's so strange that I can't feel it. I bullied them into doing another scan for me on Sunday so I had a chance to see myself that baby is perfectly happy in there. Plus they showed me the stitch in place.

I'm just chilling at home now. I've still got 3 more weeks off, and I'm so glad I don't have to think about work for a while. I've got lots of appointments in the next few weeks, but hopefully no more major events. I've found this harder than the last operations - I worked out I've had 8 general anaesthetics in just over a year, 3 of which were major surgeries. My poor body is getting a bit battered.

How is everyone else doing?

BeetleBeetle Thu 03-Apr-14 18:19:13

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time2deal Thu 03-Apr-14 21:46:02

As I understand it I can't get anything done vaginally as it's all a bit of a mess down there. I have no cervix, so the TAC works because it really is higher than the cervix area.

From the bottom side it's very hard to tell where the cervical canal is. From what they say it is basically smooth flesh without the normal bulge of the cervix. It's weird to think what the cancer surgery was, but I think of it sort of like taking a spoon and scooping out the top of the cervix.

Talk about TMI! more info here if you are interested. https://alittlebitofcancer.wordpress.com/

Bunnygirlie Sat 05-Apr-14 10:09:53

time glad your op went well! Gosh you've been through it you poor thing. Wow is that your blog?

All good here, apart from the nausea, fatness and wind lol. More telling people this weekend and then the world next week lol.

Everyone good?

time2deal Sat 05-Apr-14 16:03:03

Yeah, that's my blog. Been quiet for a while but posting again for obvious reasons. Nice to be able to post good news.

I'm feeling ok, not feeling very pregnant though. Maybe cause I can sleep all the time at the moment I feel the fatigue less, or perhaps I'm in the famed 'blooming' trimester. Can't help but be anxious that the bub isn't there anymore - silly as that fear is at this stage.

Now I'm beyond 13 weeks I'm getting my hair done on Monday. My grey hair is TERRIBLE at the moment, and I've decided all the research says it is ok after first trimester, and using Aveda which is mostly natural. Will be nice to be pampered too.

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