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Should babies be dressed in white??

(41 Posts)
MotorcycleMama Wed 29-Jan-14 11:18:48

I'm very confused as I just had my first argument with my mum about bringing up baby - due mid March. I told her I was sorting through lots of babygros which have been handed down and I am favouring the nice colourful ones. She was very clear that babies should be in white, and that to dress it in colour is to impose some sort of 'personality' onto it that it is too young for. I was genuinely dumbfounded as I have never heard this, though my mum must have got it from somewhere. I think it sounds ludicrous, but am now confused as we tend to agree on most things.
I'd love to hear your views on this.

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Wed 29-Jan-14 11:21:25

Dress your baby in what you like. It's my understanding that babies were dressed in white in the past because it is easily boiled/bleached when stained.
We don't have those problems anymore.

saffstel Wed 29-Jan-14 11:25:36

I user both!
But I do love babies in white, it looks sort of, pure!

InfiniteJest Wed 29-Jan-14 11:27:19

Never heard this before. Dress them in whatever you like!

MummyPig24 Wed 29-Jan-14 11:30:56

They "should" be dressed in anything you like!

We don't know the sex of our 3rd baby so we have some white baby gros and some colourful ones. I'm not a huge fan of pastel colours so I will be buying more colourful clothes when baby is here.

Morgause Wed 29-Jan-14 11:31:54

Dress your baby as you like. I dressed mine mainly in white for the first 3 months or so but that was my choice.

pyjamasatlunch Wed 29-Jan-14 11:32:59

Dress your baby how you please.... Personally I LOVE seeing babies in simple babygros - They look so pure and new and perfect. The colour doesn't matter one bit.

My little girl has ginger hair and bright blue eyes when she was a baby I often dressed her in light blue babygros - My family were cool about this but the strange old ladies that chase you down the street to ooooh and aaaarrrr at your baby (I am allowed to say this as I feel myself becoming one) were often very confused and not afraid of expressing their confusion and/or overall disapproval one tiny bit...

Lottiedoubtie Wed 29-Jan-14 11:33:46

There is no 'should' here.

The shops are full of all sorts of coloured baby clothes, that should tell you something!

Dress your baby appropriately for the weather, but beyond that it's up to you!

Bumpsadaisie Wed 29-Jan-14 11:36:44

Insane! Dress your baby how you like. Recommend babygro and Cardi until they can sit tho. Outfits are a waste of time and a faff for tiny ones.

Ladyfarquhar Wed 29-Jan-14 11:43:12

My DM was very like this, baby girl in white or very pale pink, however, I took no notice and let her clutch her pearls when I dressed Dd1 in all the colours of the rainbow. And if I was feeling particular mean, in denim. It might of been what she thought was/is proper but your baby your rules.

Beanymonster Wed 29-Jan-14 11:45:22

Do whatever you want! I liked my dd to be dress as a girl because she looked very boy-ish but it's entirely up to you!

UriGeller Wed 29-Jan-14 11:50:10

So I hope your DM won't ever be heard uttering, "What a cheeky chap" or "She's a very good girl" to your new baby then if she's so certain about not "imposing some sort of personality" on your little one.

White is about the most impractical colour for a babygro ever. They all end up grey anyway grin

Pobblewhohasnotoes Wed 29-Jan-14 11:50:43

It's your baby, you dress them however you like.

I had a refluxy baby so white babygro's would not have stayed white for long, very impractical.

SaucyJack Wed 29-Jan-14 11:52:48

Bonkers!

I hate pastel babygros meself, and they're not actually any easier or cheaper than soft separates either IMO what with all the poppers.

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Wed 29-Jan-14 12:04:42

You should have seen my grandmothers face when we turned up to see her with DD 3 months wearing a gorgeous black velvet baby grow with teeny white spots on it from Verbaudet.
She nearly died on the spot! grin

mrsmugoo Wed 29-Jan-14 12:29:45

I like white too - but to each their own!

DitaVonCreamTeas Wed 29-Jan-14 13:13:04

Both DH and I love really bright colours and patterns, especially stripes - so that's what we've bought for our impending DS. No doubt he'll rebel against this in his teens and only ever wear white. grin

PastaandCheese Wed 29-Jan-14 13:21:29

I love a newborn in white so that's what mine wear.

If you love a newborn in bright colours that is what yours should wear.

I love babies in white

AbouttoCrack Wed 29-Jan-14 13:26:11

White's nice. So are other colours. The only rule I had as that it had to be comfy and clean.

Clobbered Wed 29-Jan-14 13:27:37

Dear Lord, if she's already trying to tell you what colour the baby should wear, can you imagine what she'll be like when it arrives? Time to set some ground-rules before she drives you completely nuts. Your baby, your rules and don't budge an inch from that. She had her turn..

highlove Wed 29-Jan-14 13:30:23

Your baby should be dressed in what you like. I like white. I like colour too. I don't like pastel though, so my baby won't be wearing any. It's the perk of carrying them for nine months - you get to choose!

Pigsmummy Wed 29-Jan-14 13:31:52

It's an old fashioned thing. In the past it was considered unlucky and pushy to dress newborns in colours. Just smile and nod at your Mum but dress your baby in whatever colour you want.

If you do want white then these are brilliant btw http://www.johnlewis.com/john-lewis-baby-sleepsuits-pack-of-5-white/p27375

ShadowFall Wed 29-Jan-14 13:32:30

Any colour is fine.

I am curious about how old a baby should be before the OP's mum thinks colours other than white are allowed!

Ubik1 Wed 29-Jan-14 13:35:59

Really don't worry about it. DD3 came home in boys 4 month babygros and a blue boys coat. It really, really does not matter. Just dress your baby in whatever you want to.

msmoss Wed 29-Jan-14 13:36:05

There is something totally adorable about a newborn baby in a pure white baby gro or vest.

I have loads of newborn stuff in white as we didn't know if DS1 was going to be a boy or a girl and even though we knew DS2 was a boy I used it again but they also had coloured stuff, and of course they grow out of it in a couple of weeks anyway.

Anyway I only joined this thread so I could coo over the memories of my DSes as newborns, you can of course dress your child however you see fit smile

Fedup1992 Wed 29-Jan-14 13:36:13

All my baby has got at the moment is white. Because we arnt finding out the sex but I have bought a blue hat and pink hat! smile

Can't wait to know what it is will be in pink and blue straight away xxxx

LavenderFox Wed 29-Jan-14 13:47:34

I agree it is a relic from the time when clothes used to be boiled and bleached. Babies can't see colours (especially pastels) as well as adults but I am sure they prefer a bit of colour to completely blank white. As they grow they express wishes about what to wear surprisingly early, too.

It breaks my heart sometimes how these old 'rules' are passed on as God's given law, new mums are quite emotional and find it hard to stand their ground.

BEEwitched Wed 29-Jan-14 13:47:36

I'm buying lots of bright clothing, my mom is going for the traditional 'pastelly baby' look, now that she knows it's a boy the light blue is coming through, too.

I bought a fab pack of pink & purple babygros yesterday that I think will suit him just fine when he comes out grin.

BEEwitched Wed 29-Jan-14 13:48:22

Oh yeah, I got the 'but it'll be hard to get a wash together' argument, too, but my clothes are all sorts of colours, as well, so I don't see how it's an issue!

jen2014 Wed 29-Jan-14 14:35:48

Never heard of that about colours - only thing I've heard from my DM was 'don't dress babies in black'. But some little girls look gorgeous in those black velvet party dresses and my DS had a black sleepsuit with a red dragon on t which looked dead cute smile So yes, although it's hard to find there's something you disagree on I think you can go with your instincts on this one!

puddleduck16 Wed 29-Jan-14 14:45:34

I thought a lot of babies wore white as it was neutral for people to buy when they didn't know the gender. Not because they "should".
I also thought that babies were born with their personality and it wouldn't be influenced by the colour of their babygro!!!!

qazxc Wed 29-Jan-14 16:27:55

Once your baby is comfy, dress it however you want.

weebigmamma Wed 29-Jan-14 16:41:57

How you dress your baby and what toys etc you buy it will obviously be a reflection of your personality rather than their's, but that's the same with white! And so what? It doesn't be long before they start having opinions about things that will contradict yours, so why can't you enjoy having them in your favourite colours for a while?

Koothrapanties Wed 29-Jan-14 21:34:20

I dressed dd in white when she was first born, but that was simply because I didnt want to spend loads of money on tiny clothes that wouldn't fit her for long. I actually found it a bit difficult to start dressing her in brighter things at first. Some weird hormonal thing made me want to keep her in white because that was what I was used to. When I tried the brighter colours, she looked too different and i got a bit freaked out! It seems really silly now, but it was a really strong feeling.

LadyInDisguise Wed 29-Jan-14 21:38:29

No!!! White is No good at all. You need colours, and it HAS to be pink for a girl and blue for a boy wink

Having said that, I personally avoided white. Too difficult to clean (think leaking nappies etc...)

ElizaB3 Wed 29-Jan-14 21:42:48

I'm a bit of a traditionalist so will do all white layette for the first six weeks; a. Because I love the way it looks and b. because we don't know the sex so it's a gender neutral colour to buy.
My mum would also think like yours (it's probably a generational thing) but wholeheartedly agree you shouldn't feel pressured about anything to do with your baby; you 'should' only dress it as you wish!

redcaryellowcar Wed 29-Jan-14 22:56:30

there are some really lovely brightly coloured baby grows etc around, i think babies should be comfortable but also colourful, ds had clothes from next and marks which were lots of colours in stripes etc, i have seen lots of nice stuff recently in mothercare and john Lewis. i think too much in the way of an outfit can be uncomfortable so a brightly coloured sleep suit looks like an effort has been made, and washing them is only a problem if the majority of what you have is white!easy to avoid this by buying lots of brightly coloured stuff!
p.s polarn o pyret (house of Fraser stock it) is Swedish children's clothing company, gorgeous and very colourful, but not cheap; we buy lots in sales!

capsium Wed 29-Jan-14 22:59:14

You could let the baby choose. See which one they look at! grin

Surely to dress them in white is equal in imposing personality or lack of it.

Superstitious Guff methinks...

steppemum Wed 29-Jan-14 23:08:59

I don't like babies in white!
I think if they are cuddled they quickly look a bit grubby in white, and then every spit up or nappy leak shows.

But I do think that babies don't all suit the same colour. ds looked fab in some hand me down babygros that were a set of bright colours in greens and oranges. When dd was born, I put her in one of them and she looked awful, it made her look not herself, washed out. I put her in one of ds old blue ones and she looked much better!

dats Thu 30-Jan-14 00:01:40

I don't know what I'm having and don't like pastels. Not bought any clothes yet (or anything, in fact confused ) but I've been knitting cardis in various colours with wildly matched buttons. I'm sincerely hoping it won't be too traumatised by non-traditional gender colours, or god help me the buttons being on the wrong side grin

(that's if any of them fit, I haven't got a bleedin' clue how big a baby is, really)

dats 28+2, k1, m1, sl1...

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