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How do I keep the cat off the baby?

(55 Posts)
HomeIsWhereTheGinIs Fri 27-Dec-13 11:47:52

We have a cat that we absolutely dote upon and I'm pregnant with our first child. We plan to put the baby in our room when it's first born but I'm a little concerned about keeping the cat from sleeping on the baby. The cat has always slept on our bed and I'd like to allow it to continue to do so.

Any ideas on how best to go about doing this? Has anyone found a crib with bars on the top (no cracks about "caging the baby" please!) or similar? What did you do? Or did you all evict the cats?

akachan Fri 27-Dec-13 11:50:49

I'd be surprised if the cat wants to sleep on the baby, your cat will likely be quite wary given they make a lot of noise. If you're concerned, what about a net?

YoureBeingASillyBilly Fri 27-Dec-13 11:51:39

Put the baby on the cat? grin

Sorry, couldnt resist. Personally (having experienced my cat pissing on my baby's moses basket) i'd have the cat out of the room from now so that he doesnt associate it with arrival of baby. Cats can get jealous and will try and claim baby spaces as their own. In a smelly and hairy way. Get the cat used to being out of your room now. Make him a lovely snuggly bed somewhere else in the house and stick to the 'not in the bedroom' rule from now on.

Rockchick1984 Fri 27-Dec-13 11:52:10

I don't think realistically its going to be safe to allow the cat to sleep in the same room as the baby... Even if you could find a cot with something on the top (unlikely) then what happens a few months down the line when baby can sit up and it would be dangerous to have them trapped in something with a lid on it?

Alternatively you and your DH could have separate bedrooms - one with baby in and one with cat in? Think that's going to be your only way around it!

qazxc Fri 27-Dec-13 11:52:40

They are cat net things that fit over cots, don't know how reliable they are though. I'd just say shut the cat out TBH, with a noisy baby and getting up for feeds and changes the cat might not find your room such an attractive spot for slumber anyway. wink

HomeIsWhereTheGinIs Fri 27-Dec-13 11:53:48

akachan I like the idea of the net! I'm more concerned that the cat will like the warmth of the baby than anything else.

Yourebeing quite right - and I would one a few photos like that once the baby arrives! I just find it hard to think of kicking the cat out. I think I'll hold out for a middle solution if I possibly can.

NatashaBee Fri 27-Dec-13 11:57:05

Our cats tend to pee in a room if there's something that unsettles them. One of ours was doing it on the carpet when we moved our bed into a different position. You can buy cat nets for beds, but I wasn't convinced they'd be strong enough to hold up under a cat's weight.

eurochick Fri 27-Dec-13 12:01:43

I love pets but not in bedrooms, so I'd try kicking the cat out now before the baby arrives. We had cats when I was a baby and they would always make a beeline for my pram/basket as a comfy place to sleep. I don't think the cat will want to sleep on the baby, but it probably will make for the warm comfy place.

MissHobart Fri 27-Dec-13 12:05:09

You can get covers for baskets and cribs/cots, it's a fine mesh to stop them jumping in. I won't be stopping my cats from coming in the bedroom or going in the nursery. They are part of the family and were here first!

MissHobart Fri 27-Dec-13 12:07:14

I agree that once a baby comes and it's screaming the cats won't want to be anywhere near!

YoureBeingASillyBilly Fri 27-Dec-13 12:10:55

You'd be surprised mshobart. Mine wasnt at all fazed by screaming baby and would just wait patiently for me to lift babybout of basket so he could jump in.

If your cat started pissing on your baby's e i think you'd quickly change your mind about having the baby in the bedroom. And i speak as a huge animal lover.

YoureBeingASillyBilly Fri 27-Dec-13 12:11:16

Your baby's bed not e

HomeIsWhereTheGinIs Fri 27-Dec-13 12:12:01

You probably have a point about the screaming MissHobart. A friend brought her newborn over the other day and it was shrieking - and you should have seen my cat! It's never been so terrified, poor little thing!

The cat is family, I vote that the cat stays too, and I'd rather manage it pro-actively with a net than be too tired to notice one day that the cat is in the room because I forgot to kick it out…?

LlamaLover Fri 27-Dec-13 13:15:58

I have 4 cats and a now toddler. My suggestion would be - don't put the Moses basket, cot etc out until baby is here. If needed put very uncomfy boxes etc in the cot until baby is here.

Although babies are cute and cuddly to us - to cats they are sniffly, unpredictable mini humans who don't even feed them. Its more the comfy spaces babies get that are of interest to cats.

Once baby arrived, cats were curious, but generally wary. Advice is now all naps/sleeps in same room as you for first 6 months, so cat won't be in with baby unsupervised anyway.

You could try encouraging cat to sleep at the foot of the bed if they don't already. Then they are near you, but away from baby. I also often breastfed with baby on one boob and cat on other half of lap purring away but with a wary eye on baby.

I considered a cat net too - but thought they looked like a bit of a gimmick - a faff and not much use really.

Now my son runs around like a loon, 2 cats are pretty indifferent to him, just watch from a high up place, 1 adores him and winds herself around his legs whenever she can, and 1 goes out and comes back in for cuddles in front of the fire once he's in bed. We all live in harmony! You never quite know how they'll react!

tgamble13 Fri 27-Dec-13 14:14:47

i have three cats and baby due next three weeks. i put the cats out of the room about a month ago have cat beds out in the landing, kitchen and lounge. i wanted the cats to get use to not being in the bedroom. it wasnt just the fact they might sleep with the baby for the heat i was worried about but the cat hairs and any dirt they may carry in

hubbahubster Fri 27-Dec-13 14:20:41

I love my cat dearly but I would never allow her to sleep in my room. For a start she's very nocturnal and would be leaping around all night! My kitty couldn't have cared less about DS when he arrived and wasn't at all interested in him, but seriously, even the possibility that she could have smothered him... There is no way I'd take the risk. Whether or not you love your cat and you think it might cry a fair bit if you kick it out of your room - what's more important here? The cat will get over it.

tgamble13 Fri 27-Dec-13 14:46:09

here here ^

Romily Fri 27-Dec-13 17:03:37

When we brought our DD home we left her in the car seat for a few minutes and let our cats have a nosey. They sniffed her she cried and they never went near her again! We were of course careful to never leave them in a room alone together and kept the bedroom doors shut during naps and bedtimes.

I can honestly say though that all the cats we have had have given our DD a wide berth!

Hubbythecatandme Fri 27-Dec-13 17:22:21

I am like MissHobart, cat is part of the family so there is no way I will be kicking him out! He never pees indoor, never has and he hates toddlers and babies (as someone else said, too much noise and movement, it freaks him out!). Cat sleeps in radiator bed or on top of wardrobe so I too will be looking at ways to keep baby safe with a net or something. Not sending cat packing lol. He often sleeps in other parts of the house anyway but it has to be his choice smile

YoureBeingASillyBilly Fri 27-Dec-13 18:01:58

If your cat had diahorrea or was vomiting would you let him sleep in your room? Or would you put him somewhere like the bathroom or utility where vomit can be wiped easily?

OddFodd Fri 27-Dec-13 18:51:11

I really wouldn't bother buying a net until you know how your cat is around the baby. Mine were horrified and didn't want to be anywhere near him or anything that smelled like him. They stopped sleeping on the bed and went nowhere near the moses basket smile

gamerchick Fri 27-Dec-13 18:54:04

You can say what you want now.. but I'm pretty sure when your babies here you'll feel differently.

HazleNutt Fri 27-Dec-13 21:12:09

as others have said, I would not worry that much. I have 3 cats who sleep in our bed, none of them has ever tried to sleep anywhere near DS. Not even when he is in our bed as well.

MrsVDB Fri 27-Dec-13 23:45:55

I'm due in a couple of weeks and our cat sleeps on our bed too. I'm planning on seeing how it goes. He has never weed in house or anything and I think (hope) hell be too scared of baby to think he's a cosy spot to sleep

Fedup1992 Sat 28-Dec-13 03:47:01

Our kitty has been shaved (Persian) can't stand the thought of the hair it malts around or going on my baby. I think it likes the new hair do tbh

Our cat has started sleeping on the floor in our room or he is at the bottom of the bed never comes in our faces. But if he did he wouldn't be going any wer near the baby as much as I love him xxxxx

Fedup1992 Sat 28-Dec-13 03:47:41

And the cat is scared of anything so doubt he will go near the baby xxx

Plateofcrumbs Sat 28-Dec-13 04:01:56

fedup - am I reading that right, you've had your cat shaved so the cat hair doesn't get on the baby?

Fedup1992 Sat 28-Dec-13 04:12:58

Oh yes!!! It's a propa hair cut (lion cut)

The amount of hair he malts is disgusting. And it was very long.

So short cut and less hair x

Fedup1992 Sat 28-Dec-13 04:33:32

I think it's unhygienic tbh. I can't stand me having hairs on me, so I wouldn't want them all over my baby's clothes and where it sleeps.

Now he's had his hair cut he doesn't malt and there isn't hair all over the house.

So I'm happy and he will go to the pet groomers regularly Xx

Plateofcrumbs Sat 28-Dec-13 09:07:38

Wow, that's...i don't know if that's genius, crazy or feline abuse! [Grin] I guess as long as the cat doesn't mind its new look....

Writerwannabe83 Sat 28-Dec-13 09:11:44

I've been worried about this issue too. Baby coming in 12 weeks and I have 3 cats. Thankfully, the room that will be the nursery is a room the cats have never really been in anyway but I am wondering how we are going to deter them from wanting to come into mine and DH's room. I'm just crossing my fingers that they will be that freaked out by a new bundle of screaming noises that they will keep their distance....

BikeRunSki Sat 28-Dec-13 09:17:10

Our cat has completely ignored our children since they were born. He moved out for a few weeks after dc1 was born, came back when he realised that DC was staying.

msrisotto Sat 28-Dec-13 09:17:54

That is the stupidest thing I've ever heard. If you think cat hairs are unhygienic, why have a cat?

ChippingInLovesChristmasLights Sat 28-Dec-13 09:22:26

Madness. When was the last time you heard of a baby coming to any ill fate through a cat? hmm

LamaDrama Sat 28-Dec-13 09:22:36

I have a cat & shes been evicted to the rest of the house now at night.

I even indulged & bought her one of these so she doesnt feel a draught here grin

DD is 8 months now & DCat likes to lick her ears & face. So I have to really watch them together.
DD adores her though, her face lights up when DCat walks past. Actually they really love eachother.

I would leave the moses basket out now, you could put a teddy bear in it. If DCat tries to get in it, you can just keep getting her out. Then she might not do it when baby arrives?

Also the nets, I think might bow in the middle if DCat jumps on it, well mine would because she is dumpy well built!

Fedup1992 Sat 28-Dec-13 09:35:43

He seems to like it. Didn't struggle when he had a bath or when his hair was cut. Apparantly he was sat down kicking his self.

I now don't need to vacuum twice a day because he malted that much.

It's my partners cat so wouldn't dream of making him get rid of it but something had to be done about the hair, he had hair like a dusting brush. Wasn't nice having them all over ur clothes. Xx

Fedup1992 Sat 28-Dec-13 09:36:16

Licking

LamaDrama Sat 28-Dec-13 09:42:14

Also I only give Dcat her treats at bedtime now, so I feel less guilty.

I invested in the cat Furminator here
and the first time I used I got half a bag of fur from her & shes short haired!

I just do it once a week now, to reduce hair near DD.

AnneElliott Sat 28-Dec-13 09:54:19

My cats didn't try and sleep with DS at all. We brought him in in a car seat and they sniffed him. His little foot twitched and they jumped a mile!

Cat nets not worth it in my view. My aunt bought me one but I never used it. I would advise seeing how they react, but it's a bit mean to shit them out if they have always slept on your bed before.

AnneElliott Sat 28-Dec-13 09:54:46

Shut them out obviously

msrisotto Sat 28-Dec-13 10:33:18

Barmy

MarlenaGru Sat 28-Dec-13 10:43:23

I had two cat babies before DD and second what the poster said about you will change. As soon as I walked in the door with my DD I just had to protect her. Nothing else mattered. Baby cats were evicted for a few weeks until we could be sure they weren't going to affect baby.

I know my female cat tried to smother my male cat when he was a kitten by sitting on him so although I know it would be fairly unlikely she would have succeeded with a baby almost her size I had to be sure.

Luckily they totally hated DD until she was about 4 and understood gently and quietly. They are never in the same room as any visiting babies or toddlers by choice. And with new baby on the way I am not worried at all as I know the cats will give it a wide berth!

Oh and the cat-shaving idea is nuts. We have two long haired cats and it is their skin cells that cause allergies etc and we specifically chose to have long haired cats for that reason. Their hair will be part of growing up in this house for new baby as it was for DD.

wonderstuff Sat 28-Dec-13 10:45:59

I worried about this when expecting my first. She's six now and the cat still won't be in the same room as her.

HomeIsWhereTheGinIs Sat 28-Dec-13 10:55:10

Thank you all for your input! We've decided to put the cot out with a net for a bit before the baby arrives to see how the cats react. Hopefully they'll be too bored with it to jump on it by the time the baby arrives. I think that the wait and see advice is sensible. The cat has fled the scene when friends have brought babies over so it's possible that it won't like ours. But the cat is family too, so I'm sure we can find a way to live in harmony together!

Have to admit (slightly off topic), I'm pretty appalled at the idea of shaving a long haired cat. Pretty cruel.

YoureBeingASillyBilly Sat 28-Dec-13 11:31:22

Good idea op. you could also try a feliway plug in to help cat stay calm when baby areives.

MaeMobley Sat 28-Dec-13 11:41:59

Our cats kept on sleeping with us after the babies arrived. I never let them in the cot, the car seat or the buggy.

We did get a net but only really used it to protect the moses basket when the DC were not in it.

My girl cat was the only one who would get up with me in the night when I was breastfeeding. I loved having her there with me.

BurnThisDiscoDown Sat 28-Dec-13 14:03:37

We had 3 cats when DS was born. DH put his t shirt he was wearing when he first held DS on the sofa where they sleep for 2 days til we came home, and when we brought DS in in his car seat. They sniffed him then ran off as soon as he stirred! grin They've always left him around, they're quite friendly now he's a bit older but they've never been a pest with him.

hubbahubster Sat 28-Dec-13 16:22:08

The problem isn't likely to occur when you're awake and able to stop the cat getting into the cot/basket/whatever. The problem is likely to happen when you drop off and your cat is free to do as it pleases. As I've said, I've always had cats and love them, but even the possibility of this happening would put me off having them sleep in the same room as baby:
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/uknews/1379196/Sleeping-cat-suffocates-baby.html

As another poster said, once your LO is home I'm guessing - and hoping - you'll feel that way too.

EmB1715 Sat 28-Dec-13 16:53:56

We were worried about this too. Our cat has always slept with us and I would feel terrible kicking him out of the bedroom! He's not a fan of baby and won't go near her so sleeps at the foot of our bed now. We are cosleeping so I would be well aware if the cat was near the baby.

Jinglebellsforthebetter Sat 28-Dec-13 17:09:04

I doubt the cat will bother the baby but (said nicely smile) please have a read about the subject of babies' sleeping arrangements for the first 6 months. Your baby, your choice of course.

Good luck with the rest of your pg and birth thanks

fluffyraggies Sat 28-Dec-13 17:13:07

How about using a clean bed sheet to throw over the moses basket and or cot when baby is NOT in it to act as a 'net'. Cheaper than a cat net, bigger too.

IME a cat wont leap into or onto something which is an unpredictable or unfamiliar shape. So i would say let the moses basket/cot stay a mystery to the cats until baby comes (cover it or put it in a closed room) - then in the cats mind it will always be associated with a wriggly baby or an odd/uncertain shape.

As another poster said, baby should have all it's sleeps and naps in the same room as you for the first few months. I guess all the posters saying their cats sleep on the bed, and worrying about the moses basket, mean at night? ... Our cats sleep on our bed during the day allot, but we shut the bedroom door at night and they have their own beds on the landing. This solves the night time worry surely?

fluffyraggies Sat 28-Dec-13 17:15:48

when i say 'they have their own beds on the landing' - i mean cat beds grin

(in case any of you pictured us with human's single beds just for the cats at the top of the stairs grin)

Wolfiefan Sat 28-Dec-13 17:51:22

2 cats here. Cats don't go in the bedroom of DCs. We shut them out of ours when baby in our room. I'm not at all convinced that a net would stop a cat. Sorry.

volvocowgirl Sat 28-Dec-13 18:40:01

hubbahubster - further tests on the baby in that Telegraph article later revealed the baby had died from sudden infant death syndrome and the cat had got in afterwards.

Dolallytats Sat 28-Dec-13 19:28:12

When DS, now 5 was born we used to put things in his cot/pram to stop the cats (we had 4 at the time) from sitting in them. The cats did not seem to be interested in him at all.

Then we discovered that the eldest cat was actually sleeping at the bottom of his cot at night-and was totally uninterested in him. She never bothered him.

The 2 cats we still have now both tend to sleep at the bommom of his bed now, but again never actually bother him.

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