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Thats everything for baby, but what about ME?!

(72 Posts)
sprite25 Mon 16-Sep-13 14:58:59

Was just curious what I will need to get for after baby arrives for myself, we have pretty much everything we need for baby but all I can think of that I will need for me is breast pads, maternity pads, nursing bras/tops...is that all I will really need??

MrsHoratioNelson Mon 16-Sep-13 15:02:28

Lansinoh? Some comfy but not too skinny clothes to mooch about the house in for a week or two? I got some slouchy pyjama bottoms that look a bit like yoga pants so that I don't have to wear jeans etc if I'm sore.

Chocolate (or your favourite one handed snack) and some magazines for occupying you while feeding?

Apparently witch hazel and tea tree oil are also recommended.

pmgkt Mon 16-Sep-13 15:09:26

Big pants in case you have a section. And a vest top with a shelf support section I found useful for night times and just dropped the shoulder for feeding rather than always wearing a bra

Thurlow Mon 16-Sep-13 15:10:29

Comfy clothes, that's a must. I second yoga pants, they were all I wore for weeks. A little bit of planning for a CS will help - you'll be frazzled enough anyway if that does happen, so it's worth having at least one item of clothing you can wear.

Big knickers!

And snacks, plenty of easy snacks, both for the hospital and at home.

Mogz Mon 16-Sep-13 15:12:13

Disposable paper knickers or some really cheap big knickers, so you can fit a couple of maternity pads in them and stay comfy, then chuck them once you're done. Glamorous eh?
Paracetamol for combating any aches and pains.
A comfy set of old PJs and slippers, lots of snacks and drinks for you and birthing partner for your hospital bag.

islingtongirl Mon 16-Sep-13 15:16:53

Second big knickers and comfy clothes! Lived in my maternity leggings and nursing tops for first week or so. 3 weeks on I am only just getting back into "normal" clothes, but if you are bfding then strappy tops, shirts etc are helpful. Definitely stock up on the maternity pads, breast pads, and Lansinoh was a lifesaver for me during the first week. Small jug in the bathroom if you have stitches, let me know if you need more info! wink Stock up on snacks yes, I am snacking constantly and often don't have time (or hands) to make proper meals until DH gets home.

MrsHoratioNelson Mon 16-Sep-13 15:17:45

Skinny clothes?! shock

I meant not too scruffy clothes, to make you feel comfortable but presentable in case of unexpected guests etc (if that's the way you feel, of course).

I wouldn't expect me you to be wearing skinny clothes so soon after the birth. Bring on the cake grin

Toowittoowoo Mon 16-Sep-13 15:26:58

Oh dear, am I going to be the only one who says a good box set of DVDs for when your DH goes back to work!

I choose something with limited sex and violence (west wing! ) but I doubt the baby will notice. Honestly what are we meant to do be for hours while cuddling and feeding if too tired to read a book!

mothermirth Mon 16-Sep-13 15:31:20

Cabbage leaves to line your bra for when your breasts feel as if they're about to explode smile

HaveALittleFaith Mon 16-Sep-13 15:32:18

One tip I'd give is tinting your eyelashes. I found it just made a bit of a difference to my appearance without having to think about it. I wouldn't spend a fortune on nursing tops. In the early days I just used cheap vest tops.

sprite25 Mon 16-Sep-13 15:42:04

is it really necessary to use nursing bras? Since underwired bras got too uncomfortable ive been wearing padded sports bra type things anyway and nursing bras just look awful/seem quite expensive and am unsure if I really need them.

Thurlow Mon 16-Sep-13 15:42:32

No, decent TV is a must!

Paracetemol or ibuprofen isn't a bad call. Yes, you get given it on the ward if you want some and you definitely shouldn't just start mixing it with anything they are giving you, but if you do end up staying in a few days you might just have a headache or a sore throat or even miss the drugs round (worst case scenario doom-monger, sorry, but an emcs and a baby in NICU isn't conducive to getting all the drugs you want on time!) and just need a little something. Oh, and Rennies too!

Hopefully you will have a great birth and feel ok afterwards, but if you can afford it, £30 making sure you have some big knickers, soft-topped trousers, tea tree oil, a jug for peeing etc will really help if you do end up feeling a bit bashed around afterwards.

Buchanon08 Mon 16-Sep-13 15:43:53

I have invested in one of these http://www.seraphine.com/nursing-shawl-brown.html as something comfy to wear, good for breastfeeding whatever else I'm wearing and for feeling a little 'dressier' when going out/visitors show up...

onelittlepiglet Mon 16-Sep-13 15:51:54

Definitely big pants and lots of maternity towels - I actually used just normal night time ones rather than special maternity ones.

Comfy loose clothes and if you are planning on breast feeding, layering tops are good so you can pull a vest top down and your jumper up so your tummy is covered too if you see what I mean. Oh and muslin squares (technically for the baby not you actually but just in case!)

DVDs to watch, or the tv remote within reaching distance a thermos mug or flask for hot drinks is good as you will not believe how hard it can be to go and make a cup of tea sometimes. Footstool or footrest - will make you much more comfortable. lots of cushions too.

iPad if you don't already have one. Didn't have them back when I had dd but it would have made my life so much better!

I also second the lansinoh nipple cream. perhaps also arnica tablets to help the healing. Also I had some of this and this both of which sounds scary but were very soothing and nice on the sore bits smile

Good luck!

pookamoo Mon 16-Sep-13 15:53:49

~OP, how would you get your boob out of the sports bra to feed the baby? confused

pookamoo Mon 16-Sep-13 15:54:53

there are some lovely ones here: [http://www.nursingbra-shop.co.uk/search.asp?types=HotMilk nursing bras]

pookamoo Mon 16-Sep-13 15:55:15
HaveALittleFaith Mon 16-Sep-13 15:59:41

You do need easy access to boobs if BF. I was told to wait to get fitted after my milk had come in so you get the right size.

tv serious to watch while spending hours and hours breastfeeding??

Fenton Mon 16-Sep-13 16:00:32

Something comfy on your bottom half and comfy and long on your top half. I was really conscious of my big fat maternity pads showing through my clothes and wished I had something like this to go home from hospital in and in the early days after the birth.

Oh and tea tree oil drops for the bath, very good for healing your undercarriage.

SilverSixpence Mon 16-Sep-13 16:01:51

Definitely tv, I recommend Revenge grin

My sister had a manicure and it really made a difference to how she felt and she looked so much more together. She popped to the local shops while the baby was asleep but you could get someone to come to the house.

I bought a charcoal jersey breastfeeding dress which had v subtle sparkles (better than it sounds!) - looked nice and smart but v comfy so ideal for first few days of lots of visitors

Yup - lansinoh (no cheap alternative r is as good), tea tree or lavender oil for you to have in your bath if you have stitches, tea, biscuits & cake to keep your energy up, and several box sets. Or, if you're me, develop a sad addiction to the Real Housewives & Murder, She Wrote! blush

Abzs Mon 16-Sep-13 16:11:34

I'd second getting normal night time sanitary towels. I found the maternity pads I bought were exactly the right width and thickness to press on my stitches. The ones the hospital gave me were wider and softer, but rather like a mattress. Body form night time ones were the most comfortable.

Lots of snack foods you can eat with one hand. For first few weeks I relied on having a bowl of apples, cereal bars, chocolate close to where I was feeding.

Something good on TV helps. DS arrived just in time for the tour de France. That whiled away the hours.

The tablet I'm typing this on has been a godsend.

GreggsOnLegs Mon 16-Sep-13 16:15:17

Lip balm and throat lozenges, after gas and air my lips were terribly dry and my throat was sore from growling when pushing blush

NomDeClavier Mon 16-Sep-13 16:18:20

Don't have night time towels for the first 2/3 weeks. They're scented so will mask any sign of infection and may dissolve your stitches! The wider and thicker the better for pads.

Once you're pretty much healed and the flow has calmed down you could use normal STs.

NoComet Mon 16-Sep-13 16:19:16

Nursing bras are easier at first, but I gave up on them and returned to just shoving ordinary non wired bras out the way, once DD2 got good at latching on.

In the end I returned to my old wired bras, DD2 used to moan they got in the way.

Thurlow Mon 16-Sep-13 16:30:20

Greggs, I remember lying in recovery after my emcs, probably doped to the max on morphine or whatever they give you afterwards, begging for two paracetemol for my throat because I hadn't drunk in so long and had been caning the G&A. I think they thought I was barking grin

SaucyJack Mon 16-Sep-13 16:44:48

Definitely lots of snacks and clothes that will be soft and comfy around the crotch.

Another thing that might come in useful depending on how your lounge is set up is a folding tv dinner table thingummy so you can have your plate/cup/craptop to hand when you're breastfeeding.

adagio Mon 16-Sep-13 16:56:47

If you want a nursing bra may I recommend Bravado Bodysilk? Comes in small, med, large - one size fits many cups and is very comfy. I used for first month or so until my milk and boobs settled.

I have no idea how you would feed in a sports bra, in terms of boob-access.

Other things I liked/used a lot: nice blanket/throw to have handy (not just baby sized, I mean grown up sized). Fluffy fleece dressing gown; cosy bed socks or slippers.

As others said, yoga pants. I didn't really get on with the 'nursing tops' many of which have a kind of slit which you are meant to poke your nipple through. I preferred cheap spaghetti strap vests which I stretched under my boob, or one M&P nursing top where the whole front clipped down. Cardigan or other warm open front layer (sweatshirts do not work very well!).

SilverSixpence Mon 16-Sep-13 19:41:39

I found the little
graze boxes really useful in the beginning, for snacking at night or in my room. After the first six weeks I changed to every 4 weeks instead of weekly.

sprite25 Mon 16-Sep-13 19:46:05

wow i thought i was fairly prepared, didnt realise I would end up needing so much stuff!

I found Arnica a godsend for helping reduce the bruising and soreness - I used tablets and they need to have Arnica as an active ingredient (sounds obvious but most homeopathic kind doesn't).

OliviaMMumsnet (MNHQ) Mon 16-Sep-13 20:15:12

I was going to suggest some nice fibre rich (f you get what I mean) food.
I like prune yoghurts and granola for snackage myself.

HaveALittleFaith Mon 16-Sep-13 20:18:22

I recommend a Netflix account too. We found I never finished feeding around the time tv shows started. With Netflix we could just pick up shows when I finally put DD down.

Oh if you're doing a traditional delivery badedas bath stuff is wonderful!

Romily Mon 16-Sep-13 20:43:12

I am planning on breastfeeding and have made up a wee basket to leave near me on the couch which has lansinoh, breast pads, kindle with lots of free books, healthy snacks, tissues and cloths. We also have a lovefilm subscription for spending time on the couch.

What I will need to get is a whole heap of comfy clothes and some extra blankets so I can just build a wee snuggly nest and stay there wink

fuckwittery Mon 16-Sep-13 20:54:49

I'd say you definitely need a feeding bra which has the hooks on the shoulder straps to flop the boobs out if you intend to breastfeed. It would be a right faff to undo the back strap every time you wanted to feed, and you need to flop your whole boob out, sports bra would be too tight I imagine to get your boob out without virtually taking it off. I got away with only having two, wore breastpads and rotated when one was in the wash.

fuckwittery Mon 16-Sep-13 20:56:14

M and S feeding bras are what I have, v comfy

2Labradors Mon 16-Sep-13 20:58:42

I'm 30 weeks this week & I've been recording lots of films & programmes in preparation, both for my mat leave & for bf times. We did have Netflix recently but think I'm going to get lovefilm when the baby arrives.

I need to get my kindle sorted too.

I plan on preparing some healthy meals and freezing so that I can just heat up quickly when I'm home alone with the baby. I usually get the cooking bug in late pregnancy.

Oh and the lansinoh is a must, it's magic

happyyonisleepyyoni Mon 16-Sep-13 21:25:46

Lactulose! I started taking it in late pregnancy as I was getting bunged up and it helped keep me regular. I just carried on taking it after Dd was born until I'd had the dreaded first poo!

birdandbee Tue 17-Sep-13 12:25:16

Sorry.... Dare I ask.... what would you use the jug in the bathroom for?

Sounds like something that I'm not sure I want to know but will be glad of knowing...when the time comes...

Picklesauage Tue 17-Sep-13 12:44:35

The jug is for pouring water over 'yourself' when peeling. It really helps lessen the stinging searing pain from the stitches.

Although my midwife told me to pee in the shower for the first one and when possible for the first 2 days!!

birdandbee Tue 17-Sep-13 12:47:53

Ooohh... shock Ouch!

rallytog1 Tue 17-Sep-13 13:16:02

I recommend stocking up on all your usual toiletries - deodorant, hair product etc. Partly because it means you don't need to think about running to the shops if you run out but also because I found the first few weeks were full of little purchases for baby that we hadn't expected (mirror for the car seat, bottles, more muslins, extra changing mats to have around the house and so on...) So not having to spend a fortune on toiletries really helped to lessen the impact of the cost!

HaveALittleFaith Tue 17-Sep-13 13:40:44

Yes and stock up on other stuff like loo roll, toothpaste etc because you'll run out at inconvenient times!

nickelbabe Tue 17-Sep-13 13:42:32

brand new pair(s) of pyjamas.
if you're going to breastfeed, then get the ones that button up the front, otherwise you will be cursing every time you have to get your boobs ready/out/during the feed.

a nice big cup with a straw in a sealed lid.
you will find that you are more comfortable either leaning back onto pillows or lying down, and you will need a drink or two.

nickelbabe Tue 17-Sep-13 13:51:27

this is the best feeding bra

really comfy, more like a top, really stretchy but also tight-fitting, I've been wearing mine almost non-stop for 21 months, and it still washed like new.

and yes, you will need to wear one all the time (maybe not in bed), otherwise you'll never get your boobs out to feed!
ooh. loads of different colours!

I like Little Lambs breast pads, which are bamboo.

nickelbabe Tue 17-Sep-13 14:01:18

re: peeing with the jug.
It's really easy to do, but it's easier to pee in the shower.

Now, I found because I drank a lot (a lot ) of water and other drinks, I didn't burn at all (and that's not because I had hardly any problems - I had an episiotomy and a tear, so there was a lot of sore bits).
I did use the jug to wash myself over the toilet when I went, because of all the lochia. then dabbed with loo roll/soft flannel to dry before putting a clean pad on.

oh, and pads - the best ones are cheapy cheapy - don't think "ooh, i'll save money on maternity pads by using normal sanitary towels" - they will be horrible and itchy. Buy the cheap mattress-type sanitary towels - basics. I liked Wilko's home brand ones best.

TondelayoSchwarzkopf Tue 17-Sep-13 14:06:57

I'm sorry but why do YOU need to stock up on toilet rolls, snacks etc? That's what your partner is there for! Don't be a martyr to preparation - let someone else look after you. grin

nickelbabe Tue 17-Sep-13 14:09:02

yy Tonde

EmB1715 Tue 17-Sep-13 14:29:58

nickle... do you mean the wilko 14p for 10 pads?

HaveALittleFaith Tue 17-Sep-13 14:56:34

Tondelay I did a big online shop before DD was born (delivered when DH was home!) so that when DH was home he could look after me and DD instead of sending him out on mercy missions to the shops! grin

nickelbabe Tue 17-Sep-13 17:14:12

Em - yup, they're the ones smile

rallytog1 Tue 17-Sep-13 17:43:26

I was kind of talking about things that 'one' could stock up on - wasn't saying it's all the woman's job!!

karinmaria Tue 17-Sep-13 17:55:18

The suggestions here are great. I was recommended to spend some time cooking meals like bolognese, lasagne, mild curries etc to freeze so they can be microwaved and eaten fast!

My sister kept me in vegetable soups for the first six weeks (I had a horrid, and later infected, episiotomy so doing a #2 was painful for weeks - TMI sorry) so perhaps make some of those to freeze in potions too? Especially with the warm weather.

Oh and but a travel thermos mug. Means you'll have hot tea or soup regardless of what baby decides to do! You can get ones with decent lids too so you feel safer drinking when holding your bub.

Congratulations by the way!

sprite25 Wed 18-Sep-13 09:29:30

ouch, really hoping I dont tear or have to have stitches sounds scary! So if you HAVE to wear proper nursing bras, when is the best time to buy them, do you wait til after baby is born or just before? this is my first so i dont know what happens to your boobs!

TwoTearsInABucket Wed 18-Sep-13 09:44:32

I bought nursing bras just before, because I wanted to be prepared. i know they aren't the best, but it is much, much, much easier to get your boobs out without practically stripping off!
I just used baggy tops so you can hoik the top up and keep covered at the same time, if that makes sense.

Even if you don't tear (which I really hope you don't!) it might be good to get arnica tablets for any bruising as it really helps settle the bruising down very quickly.

Another thing, when you settle down on the sofa to feed your baby, its useful to make sure you have the phone, the remote and a drink next to you. As soon as i started bfing I would have a raging thirst. And DCs would fall asleep on me and I could never get to the phone or change channel. It was a nightmare, nightmare i tell you! Maybe i will learn with DC3.

HaveALittleFaith Wed 18-Sep-13 10:02:25

I had two cheap nursing bras that I washed and wore when I gave birth. After a couple of weeks when my milk supply was established and went and got measured at Mothercare.

To be honest, I had a tear (fast delivery) but in the moment I didn't realise. I had gas and air when being stitched up which helped. No long term ill effects from the tear smile

nickelbabe Wed 18-Sep-13 12:40:32

my boobs didn't change at all until my milk came in.
i had slightly larger ribcage and maybe went up a size during the last part of my pregnancy.

i think my ribcage is still bigger than it was, and my cupsize is, too, but not majorly (i know I don't fit into my old bras!)

the thing about the proper nursing bra is that it's got the clasps, you see.
And the one I linked to is the best I've come across because it's not specific to one size - it fits me in the morning when my boobs are FULL and at night when they're rather tiny again. grin

I was also given a shedload of someone else's cast-offs, and I used the ones that fitted during pregnancy.

Cheapo pants. I bled loads and sometimes it leaked onto my pants when the pad couldn't contain it. Didn't want to be scrubbing blood stains out of pants, so would just chuck them out. Feel less bad when they're Asda multipack ones!

TarkaTheOtter Wed 18-Sep-13 17:04:21

Fybrogel - I probably didn't need to take it, but felt reassured that I had when going for "the first poo".

MammySam Wed 18-Sep-13 17:13:31

LIP BALM is the main thing I would recommend for you at hospital! Before I went I hunted down every list I could online of what to put into the hospital bag and they all put lip balm. I chose to ignore it and I was sorry! Gas and air dry your lips out terribly and I would have done anything for some lip balm!
When you're back at homes have already made and frozen a lot of easy dinners (I did chilli, bolognese, curry, stew etc) as you will have no time to cook properly! It's a welcome meal when you're shattered and sore from BF and being up every few hrs! Also things like packs of bacon for a tasty sandwich for lunch and things like that!
Big knickers, I second everyone who recommended those! I got mine in M&S for £5 for 5! Get them 2 sizes bigger than you'd normally wear, they are a boon!

BornToFolk Wed 18-Sep-13 17:20:41

Sounds a bit weird but if you've got any family or friends birthdays or other special occasions around your due date, plan for them while pregnant. My DS was born in Oct, right in the middle of all my family birthdays. Sorting out cards/presents etc while looking after a tiny baby felt like a big deal! I really wish I'd used some of my maternity leave to prepare a bit more for things like that. Could probably done with making a start on the Christmas shopping too!

I bought a few packs of thank you cards so I could send them out after receiving gifts. Get small ones so you don't have to write much!

katebakes Wed 18-Sep-13 17:34:27

I bought, nipple cream, breast pads, maternity pads and disposable knickers. I'm also going to buy a new comfy dressing gown, pyjamas and slippers probably in the next ten mins online. I also added some lovely night shirts from Victoria's Secret to my online basket.

I have been indulging in mama mio toiletries but will start mixing my own aromatherapy oils again once he's here to avoid any infection 'down there.' Usually salt water baths with tea tree and manuka oil work well.

My husband hates tv but bought me an iTunes voucher to pick whatever series I want when I go I to into labour. I thought this was really sweet because sadly I LOVE TV.

Snacks.

My mum bought me a lovely blanket and nursing chair smile

My aunt bought me a voucher for a Mani + Pedi.

So happy other people said they had lots of visitors in the first few days. I am expecting a hoard! Luckily my grandmother has already volunteered to bake fresh cakes and I am keeping long life milk and soya milk - it's very convenient since you can store it for ages and doesn't go off. Plus our baby is due in November and it may be snowing and may not be possible to pop to the shops.

Nearer the time I will make food like lasagna and freeze it so we can have things on hand.

Cranberry juice and bottles water for the delivery room and a lot of food and bits. Food and entertainment for hubby hahah.

katebakes Wed 18-Sep-13 18:46:10

@Borntofolk - baby is due in November and I started my Christmas shopping in August hahah. Just picking up bits and pieces, has definitely helped.

RobotHamster Wed 18-Sep-13 18:57:20

I didn't bother with nursing bras but did get vest tops that have the same type of clips. Found them much more comfortable while lounging around the house

happyyonisleepyyoni Wed 18-Sep-13 19:27:34

instead of buying nursing bras when pregnant (guesswork) get some soft sleep bras, as the sizing is less specific and they are very comfy in the first few weeks. Then you can get fitted properly when your milk supply has settled down-could be up to a month !

BornToFolk Wed 18-Sep-13 19:41:45

grin You're far more organised than me then!

karinmaria Thu 19-Sep-13 07:31:12

YY to those nursing vest tops which have a built in shelf. I lived in those for the first few weeks and only started wearing nursing bras later.

I bought mine from ASOS and they were by Emma Jane or something similar. They were about £25 each which was pricey but I also slept in them for a bit of support so felt they were well worth it.

fuckwittery Thu 19-Sep-13 11:37:13

katebakes I am filling my freezer with fresh milk and bread so I don't run out in the first weeks my DH is back at work, fresh milk freezes fine, defrost overnight in the fridge, it looks yellow when frozen, but goes back to normal colour when defrosted!

I'm having my 5th on 4th October and in my hospital bah I have tena lady pads. They are much more absorbent than maternity pads. I'm going to buy some absorbent tena pants too for the first couple of days heav bleeding.
Flip flops for wearing in the shower are a must. Maternity ward showers aren't the cleanest. Also smear babies bum in vaseline before the first poo. It makes it so much easier to clean.

HaveALittleFaith Thu 19-Sep-13 14:17:22

I just bought a bra like this from Asda. Only £6, really comfy and pulls down to feed. Comes in small/med/large and quite forgiving so I'd recommend it for the first couple of weeks til the milk comes in.

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