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List of essentials. What do I *really* need?(62 Posts)
This is what I think I really need. I am ignoring the Mothercare checklist!
Have I missed anything:
Moses basket/crib/cot + mattress
14 newborn babygros
Lots of 0-3 babygros
Nipple cream (which is the best one?)
Baby monitor (is this essential?)
Warm hat (winter baby)
What am I missing?
Maybe skip the muslims and just get some muslins instead
Massive supply of cakes and chocolate for you
Nipple cream - a pure lanolin one.
Monitor - I used one even in a tiny house until they were at least 6m+
Muslims? I think muslins might suit your needs better.
bymoonlight you needing Muslims just gave me a right belly laugh at work! Thanks, it was just what I needed
Moses basket is optional really, just some kind of bed.
Maybe some baby shampoo? I wouldn't get johnsons though it made mine very flaky. Breastpads. waterproof cover for your bed - for waters going - baby puking on-spilled drinks.
Boxset of something good.
Baby monitor depends on your place. I never used mine in my little 1 bed flat when DS1 was a baby. Even if he was in the bedroom and we were in the lounge, he was about 10ft away! However, if you need to close the door (for example, to keep pets out) or if you will be downstairs while baby is upstairs, you will need a monitor. I always kept DS1 in whatever room I was in when he was newborn too, so didn't really use it until he was a bit older. You could, if money was tight, not get one and see how you get on. You can always get one at a later date if you discover you do need it.
Camillosan is good for cracked nips. Cotton wool balls for bathing, and agree Johnson s stuff is harsh. Tescos is completely fine. Although they say just water for washing for the first weeks.
Big stretchy pants for you and maternity pads. Glam!!!
Cotton wool for nappy changes at first? A bowl or two for changing and topping and tailing. Possibly a healthcare kit with baby hairbrush, thermometer etc?
I would use baby sleeping bags (like grobags) rather than blankets. Much safer IMO
and they look sooo cute in them
Nipple cream - I'm 30 weeks pregnant and have been using lansinoh as was recommended everywhere. It does really help at the moment; no experience with it in breastfeeding.
Moses basket - we'll be using the carrycot from the pram during the day (it's one suitable for overnight sleeping) and cot bed in our room at night. Cot bed will last at least 4 years hopefully (can be transformed into toddler bed) and with good deal from Kiddicare a lot cheaper than moses basket + cot + bed in a year or 2.
Also re babywipes - be careful which ones you get if you want to use it on a newborn. My best friend is a midwife and she said only to use Pampers sensitive or Johnson Extra Sensitive as the other ones are too harsh. Also check with your hospital if you're actually allowed to use them there as some only allow cotton wool + water.
I'd also add breastfeeding pads. And maternity pads for in the hospital/first few days/weeks after birth.
Definitely box sets! DD is 8 weeks and I'm on season 4 of buffy, you'll be pinned down feeding a lot of the time to begin with. I'm breastfeeding but suspect it will be the same if you are bottle feeding anyway.
We don't have a baby monitor and cope fine without it, I guess it depends a bit how big your house is.
You need vests (with poppers at the bottom) and sleepsuits (I find didn't people use babygrow to mean different things). 14 newborn sounds a lot to me, we had 3 newborn and 5 in 0-3 which was probably a bit stingy but was fine to go out and get more when we knew how big she was. The shops don't shut because you've gone into labour! Even if you have a rough time you can get dp or a relative or friend to get some for you. You also need socks and a couple of cardigans.
If you can get sleep sits with scratch mitts in, the separate ones seem to stay on for 3 seconds maximum, they're more trouble than they're worth.
For nipple cream lansinoh is supposed to be best.
We also got a cheap bouncer from boots which we found useful from the beginning for putting her in while we do things like cook, mine actually lives in the kitchen (maybe this is why I don't need a baby monitor! )
Lansinoh is great - cheaper on line.
I found monitors essential and handy when going to parents' etc. We bought cheap basic ones though which were fine.
If you are planning on bf (guess so with nipple cream) then breast pads, nursing bras, possibly expressing kit?milk storage stuff and sterilising kit. Cheap, long line vest tops to wear under everything helped with feeding in public. Loved my v shape pillow too.
Loads of maternity pads, big pants, painkillers etc.
Sky tv/lovefilm/boxsets/newspaper delivery/magazine subscription/smartphone/tablet.
Snacks, fruit, junk food, drinks in individual units eg cartons etc. Packed lunch food!
Some way of cutting baby's nails. I use baby nail clippers.
Did you have blankets? Cotton cellular ones are best.
You may not need newborn babygros - my first born was 9lb 3oz and went straight into 0-3.
I don't think you need a monitor. Unless you live in a castle, your baby won't be far enough away until 6 months.
You could also do without a Moses basket and go straight into a crib/cot.
Pram - if it has a lift off carry cot bit, you could get away without moses basket, and just get cot when baby has grown out of carry cot.
Moses basket/crib/cot + mattress
baby wipes - get cotton wool for first month or so or make sure super sensitive wipes. i've read that washing babies with nothing but plain water for the first month enables their skin to form its own protective barrier and avoids later nappy rash.
14 newborn babygros - I'd say this is too many, get about 6' as you might have a big baby and they'll be out of them in a couple of weeks, and you'll get loads of presents! Get some vests to put under as well if winter baby,
Lots of 0-3 babygros - again wait and see how many presents you get, or offers of second hand clothing, I've given bags of stuff to friends, they are in it for so short time and half the stuff still had tags on!
Nipple cream (which is the best one?). Lanisoh, defo, most expensive but it is the best
Baby monitor (is this essential?). Depends on the set up of your house, we live in a bungalow so dont bother, it is also possible if you both have phones with facetimeor skype and an ipad plus laptop like us to make your own baby monitor
Nice blankets - would also get a couple of sheets to cover the pram/moses mattress and for swaddling
Warm hat (winter baby)
Some sort of baby bouncer/swing/ sling is really handy to be able to put baby down but try and borrow or get second hand to see if baby likes it. You might have a sling library near you.
Pram - yes
Car seat - yes
Moses basket/crib/cot + mattress - wouldn't say that a moses basket is essesntial but it depends on what you think will work for you. We managed fine with a cot and a rocker chair thing that lay flat for daytime naps.
Muslims - lots of muslins is a good idea
nappies - don't buy too many in the smallest size as you may find they don't fit for long!
baby wipes - yep! I lasted 3 days using cotton wool and water with DS1 and one nappy change with DS2 before I cracked open the baby wipes.
14 newborn babygros - depends on the size of your baby but may be too many - my DS1 out grew them in two weeks and they were squishing DS2's feet from the day he was born (8lbs5oz so not huge!)
Lots of 0-3 babygros - yep, although I was given lots as presents when DS1 was born so ended up with a ridiculous number of them and they only fitted for 8 weeks...
Nipple cream (which is the best one?) - not an essential, you may find it useful but I know of a lot of people who didn't.
Baby monitor (is this essential?) - I found it reassuring but you can manage without.
Nice blankets - they don't have to be nice
Warm hat (winter baby) - yep
Snowsuit - yes, but only if it is actually a cold winter...
scratch mittens - not an essential but you won't know until you have the baby whether they are or not!
Agree as well with vests. Not so much with cardigans as DS1 (summer baby) never wore them and DS2 (very cold winter baby) hardly did. Socks - no if the baby grows have fitted feet on them.
Definitely waterproof mattress protector for your bed, boxset of something good to watch, nice food/cake/chocolate, nappy sacks and breast pads.
Nappy rash cream - depends on your baby, not all need to be covered in the stuff. Baby wash/shampoo - personal choice thing too.
x-posted with loads of people!
Persuasion - I watched Buffy with DS1 - didn't take me long to work my way through the lot!
and I watched the musical one a few times
Annoyingly with DS2 I mostly watched cbeebies.
I have 15 week twins- here goes...
Baby coat hangers. You will need these as many multipack t shirts and trousers/leggings only come with one hanger. Can buy them from mothercare.
Sun shades for rear car windows- don't laugh, the sun can still be bright in winter! £5.99 a pair in Mothercare I think.
I bought blankets and didn't use them at all. Admittedly it was summer though. Gro bags seem better but not from newborn.Useful from about 10 weeks or so. Also, the John Lewis and Mothercare versions are better and cheaper than gro bag.
I bought cotton wool in abundance and did not use ANY.
I used sensitive baby wipes for bums from day one and have had no rash problems.
Cross posted with almost everyone! Cotton Wool balls are a pain and get stuck to meconium. I found cotton wool pads for removing makeup much easier. I use huggies pure baby wipes and haven't had any problems but the midwives do recommend just cotton wool and water.
With sleeping bags dd was too small for them at first so a blanket came in handy.
And more maternity pads than you expect. You can get thin ones with wings which I found useful as an extra layer underneath the thick ones for the first week.
Ooh bymoonlight I've been wondering the same thing! And at what point do you start shopping for it all? (Due early January and not sure if I'm being prepared if I start in the coming weeks, or just getting ahead of myself!).
Also, when do you use a sleepsuit/babygrow/vest? Do you need to get all kinds for different times of day? <clueless>
Lots of sensible comments but really, just don't buy too much, there is £millions to be made in marketing 'essentials' to new parents .
Never needed nipple cream.
Never used a monitor, just don't understand why you would need one unless you lived in a mansion; funniest thing ever when I visited a friend who lived in a flat, baby was in the next room and she kept the monitor in her hand the whole time. I do think people who use monitors often have a tendancy to rush in the minute their baby makes the tiniest sound, no wonder so many babies can't self settle.
Its looking increasingly like I will need a c section.
Will I still need maternity pads?
I have heard horror stories about the constipation afterwards, can I do anything to help this?
Can I take anything before the section to help with the pain/healing?
Any other c section tips.
Also hospital tips as I may be in for four days afterwards. I know the food is terrible, what can I do about that?
Non-bio washing powder
Flannels (soaked in hot water and wrung out) can help if breast become large and hard in the first few days after milk has come in.
Savoy cabbage in fridge
Get measured for feeding bras in last few weeks
When you do get a monitor (we didn't use ours at all until 12 weeks) consider one with video screen if you can afford it.
We've got this:
They do a one-cam version
Yoni I am due the end of Jan and am having my 20wk scan today!!!
I wanted to wait until I had this scan before I bought anything so after today I will start slowly buying things from the list.
One of the things we has to go out and buy was infacol and gripe water. Ds has terrible wind in the early days. I wish we'd already thought of it so we had it to hand!
Like others have said the main things we used were vests, socks, cardies, baby grows, cellular blankets, nappies, cotton wool balls for washing/nappy changing, lanolin nipple cream.
Don't buy too many clothes as you don't know what the baby will weigh. My friend had loads of newborn stuff and had a big baby that went straight into 0-3 where as I had a premature baby and had to go out and buy tiny baby stuff and he wasn't in newborn for 3 months!
I brought an expensive electric breast pump which I used twice as I preferred the hand pump the hospital gave me.
iPad and phone were very useful during night feeds!
Section is fine. What a civilized way to have a baby. I took fybogel twice daily for last week of pregnancy and a week after section. I had no problems with pooing!
You will find bending a little sore so try to minimize that. You'll still need pads. I found always ultra heavy flow pads comfier than bulky maternity ones.
Best thing for healing is just to eat well, plenty of protein and fruit/veg.
Pain wise- I only needed paracetamol and brufen once home. (I was in for 48 hours) I had codeine 30mg when in the hospital.
You'll be fine x
Yes you will need maternity pads. Also big cotton knickers. Don't plan on wearing jeans for a good while afterwards, stick with joggers or leggings. Bring your own pillow into the hospital. The food at my hospital was actually pretty good, but pack plenty of snacks. I found lucozade sport really good.
There are loads of threads with c-section tips if you do a search.
What type of bedding is best for a cot? Is a bumper necessary? 36 weeks and totally unorganised
Cot bumpers are thought to raise SIDS risk. One twin is now in his cot and rotates 90 degrees at night and hits his head on he slats Grrrr.
So, I'm considering a breathable alternative. Not sure yet.
We just use fitted sheets over a hippychick matress protector. Baby in gro bags.
Yes you will absolutely need maternity pads post section, you will bleed just as much as post vaginal birth so bring lots!
Huge knickers that come over scar
Don't expect bump to go down quickly, takes longer for womb to contract after section
Windeze tablets or peppermint tea to ease trapped wind
Lots of snacks and fruit brought into hospital with you
I took arnica tablets (homeopathic remedy)
Will taking the arnica before the section help?
Unless you live in the middle of nowhere you only need a week's supply of anything.
I needed loads of babygros and vests for DC2 because he was sicky, but DS1 could have worn the same clothes for days on end. You definitely need both vests ("bodysuits") as well as babygros ("sleepsuits"). Reject anything that doesn't do up at the crotch, or any babygros that do up at the back
Muslins definitely. I still use several a day for various wiping jobs (noses, faces, hands) and DC2 is nearly two and a half.
Maternity pads, God yes. Eight billion. I easily used a pack every day or two for the first week. Ditto breast pads - I had to change both sides at every feed for a while, so maybe up to twenty a day.
I wouldn't bother with any nipple cream but Lansinoh. Don't wait for discomfort before using - use after every feed to prevent dryness and cracking. It's also incredible on dry lips in winter.
Paracetamol for afterpains during feeds in the early days - bf helps your uterus contract but it can be sore and it squelches more lochia and clots out. I always felt a gush ::glamorous::
yy to sunshade for car - Sun is very low in winter and they are lower down than us.
I am the only person I know who has never accidentally snipped baby's fingertip or toe-end whilst nail cutting. This is because I use adult nail scissors which are pointed enough to do the job in one, and get a much closer cut so last longer.
Ooh, hope the scan goes well bymoonlight - had mine last week (when 21wks). It was awesome! We were the same, only letting ourselves think about the things we need once we'd had that scan.
I'm planning to start accumulating bits from later this month, spreading the cost and trying to avoid any last-minute panics (as much as I can!). Want it all as ready as possible when I start mat leave just before Christmas.
There are some great suggestions on here, it's so confusing when you look at what's in the stores. I'm ignoring much of what the retailers say we need to get and just going with MN lists!
Question - do you need to put bottoms on with bodysuits (the vest things)? Or can baby just stay in them, if it's warm enough?
Only if it warm enough for you to be wearing shorts. If not then the baby needs a babygro or trousers and a top over the bodysuit. Short sleeve bodysuit plus babygro plus cardigan if needed is the easiest and most practical way to dress a very young baby
DS is 10 weeks now.
Nappies and clothes - don't buy too many, as you won't know what size the baby is. DS managed to grow out of most of his newborn and 0-3 clothes before he got to wear them.
Personally I haven't needed room thermometer, I can feel when I walk into a room if it's too hot or cold. Same with bath thermometer.
I'm sure we'll use baby monitor later when he goes to his own room, but at the moment he sleeps with us, and in the living room for his daytime naps, so no need.
I did not need that many muslins and maternity pads, but that depends. Never bothered with cotton wool, went straight to sensitive baby wipes, DS never had any problems with rash.
In general, as someone said, unless you live in the middle of nowhere so nobody delivers, don't stock up too much, there's plenty of time to buy what you need later.
You also need nursing bras - go for a stretchy one until you know how big you'll get and then invest into some proper ones. Underwired ones are fine, as long as they fit properly. Don't let Mothercare or M&S fit you though.
Here's an edited version of a list i did for friend recently. Obviously our situation may be different to yours (though also had a winter baby).
Crib upstairs and Something to sleep in downstairs we used a travel cot with bassinet. Could also use a moses basket or carry cot but I thought the travel cot was better value as you can carry on using it as a travel cot (duh!) and as a play pen. We also used a small pop up travel cot which was great for staying away from home and camping.
Bedding. I found sheets and cellular blankets were best for the first few months as they give you more flexible temperature control, but after that grobags are definitely the way to go you can get them in them ready for bed and put them straight down, and they cant kick them off.
Didn't find we needed a monitor until a few months on as ds was generally on or near me constantly.
We didn't have one but you may want a changing table if having a cs so you don't have to bend.
Changing bag. We just used an old tote bag that doubles up as my handbag. In said bag we have the following:
Changing mat (portable, washable plus spare)
Barrier cream (highly recommend Neals Yard Baby Barrier Cream its expensive but lasts ages and is really good)
Bags for disposal we just use cheap supermarket nappy bags (or put them straight in the outside bin if at home).
Hand sanitiser for al fresco nappy changes where no handwashing is available.
You only need a baby bath if (like us at the time) you dont have a bath. Otherwise maybe some kind of support for a big bath.
Baby towels arent necessary but nice. You really dont need any toiletries unless you really want them I just used a bit of olive oil for baby massage. For fingernails I just used my teeth!
Car seat and baby carrier or sling. This was invaluable just for doing stuff around the house and was much less hassle for going out than a pushchair - we live in the middle of nowhere though and a pram would have been useless for us. Re pram/pushchair I would say that unless you have masses of storage space get something that folds up fairly small.
If you are bf all you need is breast pads, some nipple cream (big thumbs up for lansinoh), a good feeding cushion, and maybe a pump - wait and see what you need though (shops will still be open!) - I preferred a manual pump, but didn't need one for a few months. Muslins.
Clothes. All you need is vests, sleepsuits (preferably with scratch mitts built in), cardies/jackets, hats and a pramsuit or snowsuit. Outfits are cute put are a pain to put on and keep on, and you will be changing clothes several times a day. Also, most of their time is spent sleeping so it easier if they are already dressed for it. Shoes are frankly bonkers at this stage. Just go for basics and a few nice things for showing him off in I was horrified how many things we had went totally unworn.
Other stuff like bouncy chair, baby gym were really good, but you won't need them straight away.
Sorry if a bit long winded!
I saw a midwife yesterday and I questioned what I would need ad I know a lot has changed since I had my other 2dc.
Just blankets..they don't agree with swaddling or gro bags any more due to babies overheating.
They said they also go upstairs and check your baby's sleeping arrangements on their first visit now.
And they advise on no dummies although if u want to use them fair enough.
This was all that had changed so your list sounds on the right tracks.
No reason why baby should overheat in a global if you have a thermometer in the room and have adjusted their clothes accordingly. No chance of blankets over the head with a gro bag.
After all that I forgot to add that we just used water and cotton wool for cleaning until about 6 months and then switched to sensitive wipes. Also yes to sun shades for car - we didn't think we'd need those in the winter but as others have said, you really do. And yes to savoy cabbage. Have to say arnica didn't do anything to help me.
Pack of cheap, large, black cotton knickers. Be prepared to throw the first few away.
Olive oil. It was without doubt the best thing for baby skin and cradle cap.
It's worth getting a tube of Lansinoh in, if you do need it you will need it NOW and probably in the middle of the night! Can be good to prevent cracks, do t wait till it gets really sore (if this happens)
HV never been anywhere except my living room.
I was told its a new policy and its the midwives that do this.stupid really I don't know what they have found in someone's house for them to need to check all babies sleeping arrangements
Maybe some people are still using a drawer?
I think it's because some people don't get anything for their baby to sleep in and so the midwife/hv will need to advise re co sleeping and cot death.
DS was a winter baby.
He was in grobags from the start, last winter and he has some for this winter (he'll be 2) that my DSis used and passed on, but I don't know if they'll be any good this year with DS walking...? I may just cut foot holes in them!
Didn't bother with room thermometre. Had a bath thermometre, used it twice, used our elbow after that.
Neve bought a muslin.
Used cotton wool and water whenever DS had EBD ( exploding bum disease, ie diaorrhea), but wipes the rest of the time as he'd wiggle and kick the water over and it, and poo, would go everywhere. Never had a rash.
Didn't buy a baby monitor. We lived in a small two bed flat, moved into a house when DS was 9mo and still don't think we need one.
You might find you are still wearing your maternity clothes for a while which is good for cs tummy as trousers are high-waisted and soft.
You don't have to let midwives (or hvs) look round your bedroom. If it's helpful to you, then by all means let them. I hope they will also be advising anyone with a cot set up in a separate room about cot death, not just the co-sleepers.
I think it's really quite intrusive tbh. I wouldn't like it. If they want to know where my baby is sleeping I will tell them, but I'm not keen on having them snoop around my bedroom.
Hv went up to room when ds was born in 2010. He was asleep at the time though. She then gave out to me that he was swaddled. He was wearing jut a vest underneath though and not swaddled very tightly. Continued to swaddle until he fit in sleeping bag.
I would suggest keeping tags on any clothes you're given as presents. Ds grew really fast and never got to wear some things. If tags still on then you can exchange for bigger size. 3-6 months a good size to get.
Olive oil good for everything! Bath, scalp, bum after nappy change, massage and even my dry hands and nails.
I wouldn't bother with scratch mitts - just get those baby grows with scratch mitts built into the sleeves. All of Nexts baby grows are like this. Lansinoh is the best nipple cream and lasts for ages - bfing a 3 mo and I haven't finished my 2nd tube yet.
You will need some kind of washing powder - I use vanish Oxi-action extra hygiene - to get the stains out of clothes when nappies leak.
Buy some choc/cereal bars to keep by your bed for night feeds.
Maybe get some infacol or gripe water too just in case.
And definitely sleeping bags not blankets - easier to feed and then put your baby straight down without disturbing them with blankets. Although you will need blankets for when you take baby outside.
I have one changing mat upstairs, and one downstairs too, along with a little basket of nappies, wipes etc.
Good luck with everything! (And you can always get DH to pop to the shops in the first few days if you've forgotten anything!)
My daughter was 7lbs and newborn swamped her. She wa in them for ages despite quickly going up to 75th centile. I think it really depends on the shape of the baby.
A box of nappy stuff and mat on each floor of your house. Doesn't have to be a fancy mat, I got a few free with various baby clubs and those work fine. Saves you going upstairs.
If its your first and your partner has pat leave you won't find the first two weeks that stressful. They often sleep loads in the first few days (although only shortish stretches) so you'll have lots of time to give dp jobs whilst you recover. The only bit I found difficult was feeding so it's worth collecting the contact details of a few support avenues (friends who've bf/NCT helpline/lll/local support groups etc).
Jesus, fybogel <shudders at memory> it really, really works.
I didn't read the thread past pg 1 (sorry) but I can highly revommend having dimmer switches fixed to your bedroom lighting. I co-slept with both mine, with DS2 i moved into another room ad just left in on all night on its lowest setting, also great gor checking while they sleep, handy for midnight nappy changes, feeding etc.
I actually had slightly less sleep suits and a couple of nighties. They were fab for newborn when they would poo at every feed so need changing in the night when I was not in a fit state to do up tonns of poppers!
Re arnica, what's the best form - tablets or cream?
The arnica tablets I got had instructions to take them about 6 times per day ( which I obviously kept forgetting to do ) I didn't know it came in a cream - I would go for that next time.
or instead of dimmer switches, can get a night light. I use those salt lamps both in the bedroom and hallway, just enough light for feeding and changes.
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