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PG after MC: Posifrickitivity thread for the batsh*t crazy

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WhatWillSantaBring Thu 05-Sep-13 15:01:22

Welcome ladies, new and old. grin May we all have dull and boring pregnancies. Pull up a chair, crack open a bottle of (non-alcoholic) wine and settle in for mutual handholding, fishslapping and neurosis.

WhatWillSantaBring Thu 05-Sep-13 15:09:30

Stats 5 September: Today we are pregnant

Pentagon: 1 DD, 2MMCs, EDD 31 October
BumpKitty: 1MC, 1DD, EDD 9 Nov
Shellshock7: 2MC 1DS EDD 12 Nov
Bodicea: 0DC, 2MC, EDD 16 Nov.
Ibelieveinpink: 2mc, EDD 16 Nov
GardenWorm: 1DC, 2MC, EDD 19th November,
Janielovesluckysocks: 1MC, 0DC, EDD 23rd Nov,
Lucky13: 1DS, 1 chemical, 2MC, EDD 23rd Nov
Vixjane: 2 MC, EDD 24 Nov,
Vocalista86: 1 MMC, EDD 30 November.
Jmf294: 1 DS, 1DD, 1 MC, EDD 10th Dec
ChocolateCremeEggbag: 1DS, 1MC, EDD 16 Dec
DIYandEatCake: 1dd, 1mc, EDD ?16 dec
Booty: 1chemical EDD 19 Dec
Blackholes: 2 MC, 2 DC, EDD 25 December
WillSantaComeAgain: 1DC, 2MMC, EDD 29Dec
pumpkinsweetie mc1, EDD 03 Jan
Christinedaae - 1DD, 1MC, EDD 25th Jan, anomaly scan 6th Sept
Lieslvontrapp: 1MMC, 0DC, EDD 10 Feb, anomaly scan 26/09
TotalShock 0DC, 1MMC, EDD 1 March
Pixielady83 1DD, 1MMC, EDD 3 March
GuffSmuggler: 1DS, 1MCC, EDD 4 March
Rock: 1DS, 1MMC, EDD 4 March
Swangirl:1DD,2DS,1MC EDD ? March 2014
Motorcyclemama: 1MMC, EDD 17 March
SaggyOldClothPussCat: 1MC, 1DD, 1DS, EDD 18 March
Foresterr 1DD, 1MMS, EDD 24 March
Omri: 1DS, 1MMS, EDD 24 March
RainbowConnections: 1DS, 2MC, EDD 1 April
Birdsdoit: 1MMC, 0DC, EDD 6 April
TeaAndANatter: DS, DD, 1MMC, 20th April (ish)
MarthasHarbour: 1DS, 2MCs, EDD 7 May 2014
Tomkat: EDD 9 May 2014
ThePFJ: 1DS 7MC 1 Ectopic, EDD 12th May

New arrivals

Jessw25 Baby Oliver born 9 July 2013 5lb 11oz
GaryBuseysTeeth Baby Alexander born 30 July 2013 7lb 4oz
Andadietcoke twin girls born 29 August Charlotte 5lb 5oz & Sophie 7lb 13oz

Rockchick1984 Thu 05-Sep-13 15:11:09

Marking my place - thanks for new thread Santa!

Just adding my details

Stats 5 September: Today we are pregnant

Pentagon: 1 DD, 2MMCs, EDD 31 October
BumpKitty: 1MC, 1DD, EDD 9 Nov
Shellshock7: 2MC 1DS EDD 12 Nov
Bodicea: 0DC, 2MC, EDD 16 Nov.
Ibelieveinpink: 2mc, EDD 16 Nov
GardenWorm: 1DC, 2MC, EDD 19th November,
Janielovesluckysocks: 1MC, 0DC, EDD 23rd Nov,
Lucky13: 1DS, 1 chemical, 2MC, EDD 23rd Nov
Vixjane: 2 MC, EDD 24 Nov,
Vocalista86: 1 MMC, EDD 30 November.
Jmf294: 1 DS, 1DD, 1 MC, EDD 10th Dec
ChocolateCremeEggbag: 1DS, 1MC, EDD 16 Dec
DIYandEatCake: 1dd, 1mc, EDD ?16 dec
Booty: 1chemical EDD 19 Dec
Blackholes: 2 MC, 2 DC, EDD 25 December
WillSantaComeAgain: 1DC, 2MMC, EDD 29Dec
pumpkinsweetie mc1, EDD 03 Jan
Christinedaae - 1DD, 1MC, EDD 25th Jan, anomaly scan 6th Sept
Lieslvontrapp: 1MMC, 0DC, EDD 10 Feb, anomaly scan 26/09
TotalShock 0DC, 1MMC, EDD 1 March
Pixielady83 1DD, 1MMC, EDD 3 March
GuffSmuggler: 1DS, 1MCC, EDD 4 March
Rock: 1DS, 1MMC, EDD 4 March
Swangirl:1DD,2DS,1MC EDD ? March 2014
Motorcyclemama: 1MMC, EDD 17 March
SaggyOldClothPussCat: 1MC, 1DD, 1DS, EDD 18 March
Foresterr 1DD, 1MMS, EDD 24 March
Omri: 1DS, 1MMS, EDD 24 March
RainbowConnections: 1DS, 2MC, EDD 1 April
Birdsdoit: 1MMC, 0DC, EDD 6 April
TeaAndANatter: DS, DD, 1MMC, 20th April (ish)
ImpatientlyWaiting: 0DC, 1MC, EDD 1 May 2014
MarthasHarbour: 1DS, 2MCs, EDD 7 May 2014
Tomkat: EDD 9 May 2014
ThePFJ: 1DS 7MC 1 Ectopic, EDD 12th May

New arrivals

Jessw25 Baby Oliver born 9 July 2013 5lb 11oz
GaryBuseysTeeth Baby Alexander born 30 July 2013 7lb 4oz
Andadietcoke twin girls born 29 August Charlotte 5lb 5oz & Sophie 7lb 13oz

PoppySeedBun Thu 05-Sep-13 15:16:04

impatient kjh
Re early scans. I'm having a private one at 8wks. I didn't want to go any earlier, as last time I had one at 5+6, and there was almost nothing to see - definitely no heartbeat. So other than proving that I was pregnant (which the test pretty much did) and ruling out an ectopic, it didn't give me much more information.
I feel (hope) that if we can see a heartbeat at 8wks, that will give us a milestone we didn't reach before. And as kjh says, the risk of problems after 8 is quite a lot lower than after 6w. It's up to you, but although I expect the scan to help a bit, I'm pretty sure it won't stop the anxiety until 12, and we're still not planning to tell anyone, including family, until then.

WhatWillSantaBring Thu 05-Sep-13 15:17:37

Right, now that I've hung the curtains and plumped up the cushions in our new home, we can restart the chat.

impatiently - I had a private scan at 8+4 weeks in this pg. It was £70 and I had to shop around a bit (and travel in slightly the wrong direction) but it was very much worth it. Although I did have a scan at the EPU at about 6+5 too after a tiny bit of spotting. The reassurance was very much needed. I know there is still a chance of a mc after seeing the heartbeat, but if there are no other symptoms (i.e. you didn't see the heartbeat after getting scanned for cramping/bleeding) I think the risk is down at 1-2%. I think everyone recommends holding out till about 7-8 weeks if you can, as that gives you a much better reassurance. If you get scanned at, say, 6+4 weeks, and are 4 days out on dates, then they might not see a heartbeat even though the pg is developing normally.

I like horses too - but not shitlands saggy - I think they're evil little critters. The one I learnt to ride on certainly was! I would love DC to have open access to horses but I know what financial, emotional and time investments they require, and so I've been quite firm to DH that we'll never own our own. (I gave up riding seriously in my teens following yet another heartbreak and an awareness that horses meant no holidays or social life.)

PoppySeedBun Thu 05-Sep-13 15:17:41

Adding me too:

Stats 5 September: Today we are pregnant

Pentagon: 1 DD, 2MMCs, EDD 31 October
BumpKitty: 1MC, 1DD, EDD 9 Nov
Shellshock7: 2MC 1DS EDD 12 Nov
Bodicea: 0DC, 2MC, EDD 16 Nov.
Ibelieveinpink: 2mc, EDD 16 Nov
GardenWorm: 1DC, 2MC, EDD 19th November,
Janielovesluckysocks: 1MC, 0DC, EDD 23rd Nov,
Lucky13: 1DS, 1 chemical, 2MC, EDD 23rd Nov
Vixjane: 2 MC, EDD 24 Nov,
Vocalista86: 1 MMC, EDD 30 November.
Jmf294: 1 DS, 1DD, 1 MC, EDD 10th Dec
ChocolateCremeEggbag: 1DS, 1MC, EDD 16 Dec
DIYandEatCake: 1dd, 1mc, EDD ?16 dec
Booty: 1chemical EDD 19 Dec
Blackholes: 2 MC, 2 DC, EDD 25 December
WillSantaComeAgain: 1DC, 2MMC, EDD 29Dec
pumpkinsweetie mc1, EDD 03 Jan
Christinedaae - 1DD, 1MC, EDD 25th Jan, anomaly scan 6th Sept
Lieslvontrapp: 1MMC, 0DC, EDD 10 Feb, anomaly scan 26/09
TotalShock 0DC, 1MMC, EDD 1 March
Pixielady83 1DD, 1MMC, EDD 3 March
GuffSmuggler: 1DS, 1MCC, EDD 4 March
Rock: 1DS, 1MMC, EDD 4 March
Swangirl:1DD,2DS,1MC EDD ? March 2014
Motorcyclemama: 1MMC, EDD 17 March
SaggyOldClothPussCat: 1MC, 1DD, 1DS, EDD 18 March
Foresterr 1DD, 1MMS, EDD 24 March
Omri: 1DS, 1MMS, EDD 24 March
RainbowConnections: 1DS, 2MC, EDD 1 April
Birdsdoit: 1MMC, 0DC, EDD 6 April
TeaAndANatter: DS, DD, 1MMC, 20th April (ish)
PoppySeedBun: 0DC, 1 MMC, EDD 22 April 2014
ImpatientlyWaiting: 0DC, 1MC, EDD 1 May 2014
MarthasHarbour: 1DS, 2MCs, EDD 7 May 2014
Tomkat: EDD 9 May 2014
ThePFJ: 1DS 7MC 1 Ectopic, EDD 12th May

New arrivals

Jessw25 Baby Oliver born 9 July 2013 5lb 11oz
GaryBuseysTeeth Baby Alexander born 30 July 2013 7lb 4oz
Andadietcoke twin girls born 29 August Charlotte 5lb 5oz & Sophie 7lb 13oz

WhatWillSantaBring Thu 05-Sep-13 15:20:17

Oh yes, I'm also a believer in not telling people who would be disappointed if you mc. So we told one very close friend but no family. Oh, and my boss (due to the bleed) but didn't tell my mum or sister till after the 12 week scan/tests. I just couldn't bear the thought of them being sadder for their own loss than for me, if that makes sense.

ThePFJ Thu 05-Sep-13 15:44:36

Love the new thread.... thanks for setting it up WhatWillSantaBring....
Loving the bats***crazy.....

My uterus has finally stopped pinging so much.... it's a relief tbh.
Took DS to school for his first day back today... he did so well smile
Still pregnant... still happy grin

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Thu 05-Sep-13 16:10:30

I like horses too - but not shitlands saggy
Santa! [Shock] wash your mouth out! How dare you insult Shetlands! They only have one problem! Stupid people who treat them like toys, rather than like the miniature draft horses that they really are! not you btw
Ive told quite a lot of people about the baby this time, and I did last time when I MC. The support was overwhelming. I couldnt have coped without them. going through it was bad enough without going through it alone! I dont regret telling people at all!

Tomkat79 Thu 05-Sep-13 16:11:05

You don't like shitlands santa haha!

Think ill be holding out to 12 weeks, had 8+4 scan following spotting last time and saw lil heart beat..were told very small chance of MC now, next day was game over! Wish there was some other way of reassurance everyday over the whole 9 months x

katatonic Thu 05-Sep-13 16:14:24

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Angloamerican Thu 05-Sep-13 17:18:17

Is anyone else taking HPTS just to see the word "pregnant"? Or just me? It's just to reassure myself that I'm not actually imagining the whole thing, I think. Ultrasound on Tuesday...counting the days down.

Thanks everyone for your experiences of early scans. It's helped me decide on what I probably wanted to do anyway and have one. I probably would have booked one for 7 weeks though, but from what you've all said i'm going to book one for 8 weeks instead and then tell parents/sisters after that. Seems like a lifetime away now though as i'm only 5+5. It's actually good timing as DH is abroad with work for a week when i'm 8+2, so it means we can tell people before he goes away in case the worst was to happen when he was away.

Called up my GP this afternoon and got an appointment this evening which was super quick. I was hoping my luck would continue and I'd get a reassurance scan referrer GP, but alas he wasn't having any of it. I'm don't really believe or appreciate his line in stats. It was the same GP I saw during my miscarriage, and both today and back then he told me 1/3 of pregnancies end in miscarriage. I don't think that is right. Thought it was closer to 1/4-1/5? He also told me that my risk of miscarriage has increased after the first one. He's quite a nice man but proper doom and gloom, if I didn't have this this thread or had researched online I would think there is no chance for me.

He is also the second GP from that practice to be highly dubious of me taking vitamin D. It's on the NHS website, it's not like i'm self medicating crack!! Obviously that practice haven't got the memo that current guidelines include vitamin D.

Anyway thanks all again about early scan info. Going to research places now and see if I can find somewhere cheaper than the £100 i'd initially seen.

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Thu 05-Sep-13 18:16:47

Impatiently your GP sounds like he needs an update! confused confused

Im on vitamin D. apparently its because rickets is on the rise due to people spending less time outside and wearing high factor suncream! iirc it doesnt do any harm even if you didnt need it, because it isnt stored in the body. --although I might br wrong about that last bit, food science was 20!! years
ago!-- confused confused

kjh5 Thu 05-Sep-13 18:25:15

Thanks for the new thread santa! <<waves to everyone and settles down in the comfy armchair>>

Impatiently I am outraged by your dunce of a GP! I feel so lucky I had a well-informed, sympathetic female GP throughout this whole pg thing. Your chances of another MC actually drop if you get pg within 6 months after having gone through one. I honestly despair of the medical profession sometimes! <<takes outraged bite out of apple and cinnamon muffin so thoughtfully provided by work as a treat for the evening staff - yum!>>

BumpKitty Thu 05-Sep-13 18:31:08

thanks for the new thread santa

and thanks for the reassurance garden and shell I will try to be more positive. I've been looking at the spinning babies site and I have to hang off the sofa upside down a few times a day and lie upside down on a board. Also recommended are handstands in a swimming pool and shining a light up your fanjo! I expect I would try these if needs be grin

Forester Thu 05-Sep-13 19:15:59

Thanks for the new thread santa and welcome to pjf (a bit belatedly) and anglo.

Nothing really to report - which is very good as I think all of us would like an uneventful pregnancy. Six sleeps to my scan now ...

GardenWorm Thu 05-Sep-13 19:30:01

Wtf bump shining a light up your fanjita? Mine is not a cave!!! Ha Ha Ha! grin

Angloamerican Thu 05-Sep-13 19:33:30

Gardenworm After birthing two 10lb babies, my bloody could be! I'm on progesterone suppositories and the damn things keep falling out! smile

TeaAndANatter Thu 05-Sep-13 19:43:00

Thanks for the lovely batshit thread, santa! And thank you whoever added me to the list. It was really dim, but everytime my name disappeared from an update, I thought it might be an omen and mean I wasn't going to stay on the thread. Batso.

Kat, my lovely new kitchen got installed last week, we've just waiting for the builder to return to build us a really long built-in bench sort of thing with the same wood in three weeks then it's all done. Heritage Grey from Wickes on the 15% + 50% off (they do it about 4 times per year, the 50% most of the time, but the 50 +15 at times). Came to (shamefacedly don't quite know) but around £3,500 including installation and removal of old kitchen. The installation (1.5k) was nearly as much as the kitchen, but when they did it, boy did I appreciate the difference between my very good at DIY DH and a pro job. Smooooooth! Rather in love with it, but looking forward to getting the bench done, then we can paint it as it's just bare plaster (we got it replastered at the same time inc the cost).

Batshit update: Still batshit. Still pregnant. Or at least, I'm not not pregnant, so that'll do. 8 week scan on Sunday (crossing everything)

katatonic Thu 05-Sep-13 20:06:47

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

TeaAndANatter Thu 05-Sep-13 20:16:22

Very chunky indeed, and the handles are really heavy metal (which strangely makes them feel really expensive). They all have soft close techno doors (they shut themselves really quietly). I'd warn do not pay Wickes prices for worktops. For literally nearly a third of the price get Worktops Direct to cut them and send them, and theirs are a half inch thicker too. Very decent service from Worktops Direct too. Also shop around for appliances. We kept our old oven and hob as I liked them, but changed the sink (B&Q Cooke and Lewis range) and the undercounter fridge and freezer (we had a full height one, but wanted the extra worktop room and space). Wickes charge through the bottom for them, so I'd order anything like that separately.

Other MNers have had this kitchen and we got it on their recommendation so you might want to look for that thread.

Pixielady83 Thu 05-Sep-13 20:42:06

Ooh thanks for lovely new thread ladies. Envious of all this kitchen talk- the kitchen is the only thing we haven't replaced or redecorated in our house and we are in limbo with it as can't decide whether to move or stay and extend it.

Vitamin k - I was told to take this but I've given up on my pregnancy vits as they made me gag so much. Should I get back on them then? Feel I've had plenty of sunshine recently, might be more of an issue in coming months.

Might have felt baby today. Had just had some sweets then felt wriggliness in lower abdomen. Could have been 'pinging' though, I don't trust myself after being convinced in last pregnancy that I'd been feeling flutters which obviously were not baby.

total have you used the osteo before for your pelvis? I've seen a chiropractor on and off since spd in first pg but she has always been very tentative in manipulating my pelvis as she is worried about my hips sublocating. I feel a need someone to be a bit firmer with my pelvis so was thinking of trying osteo this time. Not sure what difference is?

TotalShock Thu 05-Sep-13 21:16:29

Pixie I have seen him for a while. My pelvis was tilted forwards and higher on the left side. He has managed to get it dropped down and back but he thinks it was damaged in my fall at 16 when the bones aren't fully stable so has fused badly. It's like a deep massage to release my muscles and ligaments but I have loads of trigger point which are pretty painful

I had a bit of a turn in there today though, went very hot dizzy and felt very sick so he just did an assessment and no treatment and told me to talk to my midwife. My joint has become over mobile probably due to the pregnancy hormones making my existing problem worse.

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Thu 05-Sep-13 21:19:53

envy envy very jealous of anyone with a new kitchen! mines awful!
does anyone know if I need folic acid after 3 months? the gp gave me a packet of extra strength ones, but it was 60 day supply and ive run out! I phoned the surgery to ask if I needed more but nobody has got back to me! sad

katatonic Thu 05-Sep-13 21:26:00

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jmf294 Thu 05-Sep-13 21:33:12

Thanks for the new thread !
Wow this moves so fast, hard to keep up.
Hope everyone is well and congrats and welcome to the newcomers.

IBelieveInPink Thu 05-Sep-13 21:36:54

Just jumping on the new thread. (well, not jumping, more of a slow mooch). 2nd page already?!

Baby was also head down at my 28 week appointment, but has turned at least 3 times since then. Not sure which way she facing now! Need to check out this spinning babies website I keep hearing so much about....

shellsocks Thu 05-Sep-13 21:42:05

Thanks for the thread santa smile

Don't remember DS being this high up, but this baby is kicking (if it is legs I can feel??!) so high up I'm breathless, like I've been up and down the stairs a few times when im just sitting still...been happening all week it's mad! Getting lots of braxton hicks this time too and didn't get them till the very end with DS, all very different smile

MarthasHarbour Thu 05-Sep-13 21:52:02

ooo shiny new thread <twirls>

5+1 and still spotting but it is just that, sort of watery pinky brown CM, i am genuinely not worried now as it is so light. i will take a couple of ICs over the weekend to reassure me, and then my CB digi before i go to the MW next week.

DS started school today, i didnt cry at all - he was hyperactive though so i reckon i was pleased to have 2 hours off grin

sorry for no namechecking, i am going to try and get onto tinternet for an hour over the weekend to properly catch up. Welcome to the newbies (good to see me creeping up the list already smile)

Bodicea Thu 05-Sep-13 22:10:28

Hello people. Sorry not been around for a while. Can't believe I am fourth on the stats list!!

Had a bit of a crap week. Lots of pregnancy ailments hitting me at once. Severe calf cramps woke me up screaming twice this week and also woke up with pins and needle in both handsand been getting shooting pains down arms last two days. think it is laying in my side that is doing it as dont normally do that. It doesn't work well with my long term neck issues. So am generally a grumpy cowbag at the mo. am gonna try sleeping propped upright tonight ( even if I do preach to all my vein patients not to do that) .

Just finished watching the Britain and Ireland's next top model. What the hell they picked the wrong girl, can't believe it!!! I usually get it right!!! Gutted.
See grumpy cow bag.

Off to Cornwall on sat for a week. Really need a break.hoorah and pampering day tommorow. Hair cut massag and pedicure. Bliss! Hopefully mood will improve.

Anyway enough about me and my winging will try and catch up on what you have all been up too xxxxxx

shellsocks Thu 05-Sep-13 22:25:37

Aaaggghh the leg cramps confused Getting them a lot this time sad I only got it once with DS and DH thought I'd gone into labour when I started screaming at 4am ha ha grin

Sorry things are a bit tough bod have a great holiday smile

Sorry abt the spotting martha but glad you are dealing with it well, hope it clears up soon smile

JanieLovesLuckySocks Thu 05-Sep-13 23:21:32

Crikey I've missed a lot!! Torches up your chuff indeed?!? My Lordy ha!!

Ive been so windy the last coupke if days. I had to hold in a fart the whole way through yoga tonight, not good when we had to do out 'arses in the air pelvic floor exercises'. Luckily I managed to hold it in!

I want a new kitchen. Well jel.

Bod don't tell me who won I haven't watched it yet!

Off on a plane tmro to visit a friend, last flight fur a while I reckon!!

ChristineDaae Fri 06-Sep-13 00:35:03

Evening/morning all!
I'm trying to catch up on the last thread and this one! Welcome to any newbies.
I'll be honest, iv been trying to avoid you all this week (in the nicest way possible) so that I could avoid thinking about 20eeek scan. But now it's tomorrow and I can't sleep. hmm

Chocolateteabag Fri 06-Sep-13 07:32:34

Good luck today Christine

Where has the sunshine gone! Woke up to foggy murk sad it's our 5th wedding anniversary today, steak and champagne (shhhhh) at home tonight as too tired to contemplate going out. It rained on our wedding day so should I be surprised it's going to rain today? Gutting after the lovely hot day yesterday ( that looked so nice from my desk at work all day!)
Jamie my physio had advised me to do lots of "hold the fart" exercises to help with SPD - good for your pelvic floor toning at the back

Chocolateteabag Fri 06-Sep-13 07:33:23

Ugh fat fingered today - Janie not Jamie - sorry

IBelieveInPink Fri 06-Sep-13 08:32:25

Good luck Christine!

Chocolate - speaking of fat fingered - I had to take my wedding and engagement rings off today! Fingers getting too big. Didn't think this would happen yet!

RalphGnu Fri 06-Sep-13 08:46:05

Eek! Just had the most amazing news and need to share!

My wonderful cousin and her husband were told in 2009 following years of ttc and suffering an early miscarriage, the chances of her conceiving again naturally were very slim.

To cut a long story short, I donated my eggs to them in 2011 and following 2 failed IVF attempts I am overjoyed to say she is pregnant...WITH TWINS!

They have been through so much heartbreak and will make fantastic parents. I can't describe how happy I am! smile smile

BumpKitty Fri 06-Sep-13 09:07:11

wow that's amazing ralph you must be over the moon, what a wonderful thing you have done for them xxx Congratulations ralphcousin

BirdsDoIt Fri 06-Sep-13 09:08:08

ralph that's absolutely amazing news, SO exciting! Lovely to read such a happy thing on a rainy Friday morning.

Good luck with your scan today christine.

chocolate enjoy your treat tonight!

Welcome and congratulations to all newbies x

Pentagon Fri 06-Sep-13 09:13:53

thanks for the new, shiny thread Santa smile

christine good luck with your scan today!! Will you be finding out the flavour? Let us know how it goes

Happy anniversary choc - sounds like you have a lovely evening planned!

ralph what a wonderful thing to do for your cousin! You must all be overjoyed, congratulations!

Fab kitchen tea, I also want a new one now

I've heard that pregnancy/gym balls are also good for making the baby move. bump I wouldn't stress too much I think there's still time for the baby to turn - there's still enough room for them to do so till 36/37 weeks if I'm not mistaken?

bod I hope the extra pillows help, I started using mine a couple of weeks ago and they have made a difference (that and my dreamgenii pillow). Enjoy your pampering day and have a great holiday!

ibip I've had to take my rings off as well! Which last time didn't happen till I was 37-38 weeks....but I think the heat hasn't helped

Hello everybody- friends old and new.

I am still here, lurking in the background and checking in occasionally but otherwise just plodding through each day one at a time.

It's my dating scan tomorrow morning and I am too numb to feel petrified yet but the fear is definitely bubbling below the surface. Had a private scan at 10 weeks and all was well but the relief was short lived.

ralph that is truly fantastic news!

WhatWillSantaBring Fri 06-Sep-13 09:33:12

Good luck today christine. I know how nervous you'll be but we're all here rooting for you (in the US sense of the word, not the Aussie sense!!)

So kitchen shopping is fun but also very scary and grown up!! We're looking for a lifetime kitchen for our forever home (we're having an extension done at the same time). The costs are terrifying (as we're both keen on the in-frame, hand painted types (like Neptune, Harvey Jones - garrgh! curses on me for marrying someone with champagne tastes (like me) and a cider income (like me)) and there's so much juggling to do, trying to get accurate builders quotes so we know exactly what our budget is!! We've just resigned ourselves to it not being finished by Christmas/B-Day (baby day) on the basis that the one time in our lives we do live off frozen ready meals is the first few weeks of a baby's life!!!

Its been a good project to see me through the PG batshit crazy phase. The house buying was done as a project to see me through the post MC1 phase when we were told it might be molar (and would therefore be a year before we could try again).

Oo good luck today Christine!

JanieLovesLuckySocks Fri 06-Sep-13 09:41:37

Thanks for the holding in fart advice!

Congrats Ralph's cousin! Totally amazing!

Jealous of champagne and steak night!! Happy anniversary smile

Christine good luck today, got everything crossed for you xx

Thunder it's great to hear from you, hope you can find some posifrickintivity in there for your dating scan, I have a good feeling xx

Santa I was also diagnosed with a partial molar after my mmc, after months of follow up testing and pure panic (more so about not being allowed to TTC again) they then realised they'd misdiagnosed me grrr and yay at the same time.

ThePFJ Fri 06-Sep-13 10:00:36

congrats Ralph....

Today I am still pregnant. Woooooooooo!

Pentagon Fri 06-Sep-13 10:06:55

thunder good luck tomorrow! If you had a good scan at 10 weeks, you are 99.9% likely to have a good scan tomorrow as well so try not to stress too much! (easier said than done, I know - I was exactly the same)

santa it's great that you had a project to concentrate on (and get distracted by) after your miscarriages. I lost interest in everything both times, there's no way I could have done what you're doing (I wish I had though!)

Pixielady83 Fri 06-Sep-13 10:06:56

ralph that's fantastic news. It gives you such hope when you hear lovely success stories like that smile also what an amazing difference you have made to their lives!

christine loads of luck for today.

choc happy anniversary! ah champagne... lucky you smile

santa your kitchen project sounds fabulous! after the first couple of years botching things in our house we are now fully of the opinion that you should do things to the best standard you can afford so that you love it and it lasts! <eyes lounge sorely in need of redecoration already and sighs>

Pixielady83 Fri 06-Sep-13 10:07:48

oh and good luck thunder for tomorrow, really hope all is fine

shellsocks Fri 06-Sep-13 11:00:33

Good luck christine smile

12 weeks thunder, I know it won't have to you but that's flown by to me! Glad you had a reassurance scan at 10w, hope to hear from you tomorrow all excited after the scan. Good luck smile

Wow ralph what an amazing journey, congrats to you all smile

kjh5 Fri 06-Sep-13 11:27:04

Good luck Christine and Thunder I am sure that everything will go really well for you tomorrow! Lovely to read all the happy news on the thread this morning Ralph - that is beautiful!!

I'm jealous of all your new kitchens - we've decided to prioritise getting our bathroom redone as I am currently having to do the handheld shower in the bath thing... told DH I am not clambering in and out of there when I am heavily pg so we're getting the whole thing gutted and refitted (apparently) next month. I'm hoping that once we've chosen all the furniture and tiling I can disappear for a weekend and come back to find it all done! DIY is not my forte smile

Pixielady83 Fri 06-Sep-13 12:43:32

ye gods looking after 2x 2 year olds today... have got through most of my planned activities already...cake decorating only lasted half an hour, the singing group we usually go to was cancelled... went for a walk with their doll buggies and it was like a Benny hill sketch, one too fast, one too slow, one with far less road safety awareness... argh! mine has been a whingy petulant non sharing mess although interestingly as soon as I leave the room they get along brilliantly. It's raining which means no garden time... could be a long afternoon! good practice though eh!

omri Fri 06-Sep-13 12:49:09

hi there just adding myself to new thread - 12 week scan at 2pm today. feel cautiously optimistic....

Pixielady83 Fri 06-Sep-13 13:31:52

good luck omri yay for posifrickingtivity!

kjh5 Fri 06-Sep-13 13:59:02

Thinking of you Omri FX all goes really well xx

TeaAndANatter Fri 06-Sep-13 14:10:56

Good luck christine and thunder.

Welcome omri

IBelieveInPink Fri 06-Sep-13 14:18:37

Any scan news yet? Please someone perk up my day with something exciting/entertaining - I am suffering at work today and not sure how to make it through the next 3 hours!!

Pentagon Fri 06-Sep-13 14:39:18

good luck omri - even though I'm probably late, you must have had your scan already!

quoting ibipsmile please make my day with some good news!!!

kjh5 Fri 06-Sep-13 15:20:34

While we're all waiting for some scan news - does anyone here exercise during pregnancy and how did you/ are you managing it through the first trimester? Before the BFP I used to do high impact aerobics 3/4 days a week but haven't managed any at all for the past two months (apart from two sessions which exhausted me). The nausea and the tiredness just mean I want to stay in bed all the time. I am putting on weight at a fairly alarming rate and can't even now climb the stairs at the station without getting horribly out of breath. Does anyone have any advice? I have an ante-natal workout which is low impact and pregnancy friendly - do you just push through the nausea and hope you don't throw up/pass out?

Pixielady83 Fri 06-Sep-13 15:48:46

kjh I just continued my normal walking (1 hr back and forth to work daily) and weekend cycling up until spd hit last time. I kinda think that if you're feeling rubbish that's your body saying it needs to rest and concentrate on establishing the pregnancy at the moment. A lot of women get a real surge of energy in 2nd trimester (i felt amazing last time!) so hopefully you will and that might be a good time to get back into workouts. Breathlessness is a pregnancy symptom (obviously as bump pushes into diaphragm later but apparently it can affect you earlier too, not sure why, but a friend of mine knew whenever she got pregnant cos that was always her first symptom) so it doesn't necessarily mean your fitness levels have dropped, just that there's more demand on your body.

Just wondering today if its ok to start wearing maternity tops etc when your bump is barely any baby but lots of bloating hmm

Kjh, I am pretty sure breathlessness is just part of pregnancy and not related to being unfit. It's something to do with the fact that all the extra blood you're making/rerouting means less oxygen to use.

Personally (and I'm a bit of a sloth when it comes to exercise), I would say listen to your body and don't push it. If you feel like resting then its probably because you need to. Is it possible to ignore the guilt for a bit- its in the interest of your baby after all. Not easy after you have been so disciplined I'm sure! And respect to you for being so good!

ThePFJ Fri 06-Sep-13 15:52:04

I have been making myself do walking... fresh air and all that... The spinning babies website recommended belly dancing! But it does have suggestions exercises for the 1st trimester on there - ones that will help position the baby as pregnancy progresses like back stretches etc....
I have to say though I won't be trying the belly dancing though, I would be terrified to shake baby loose!!

Pixielady83 Fri 06-Sep-13 15:53:44

Belly dancing shock oh my goodness! I suppose it opens up your pelvis for delivery but it looks blooming hard work to me!

Giggling at baby dropping out grin

Pixielady83 Fri 06-Sep-13 15:54:47

or rather shaking loose... but I could imagine it dropping out if things got a bit enthusiastic and your pelvic floor wasn't what it used to be

That sounds like a nice alternative to labour!

TeaAndANatter Fri 06-Sep-13 16:59:43

Oh wow. Imagine if you didn't need to labour, but it just dropped out when it was cooked. Fantastic!

kjh5 Fri 06-Sep-13 17:08:39

grin if you could just belly dance the baby out that would be brilliant! Visions of heavily pg women in the maternity ward at the hospital getting their wiggle on is making me giggle!

Thanks for the advice (and sloth validation!) I have been super disciplined for the past two years on the exercise front due to trying to lose weight for my wedding back in April - sadly I'll never be skinny or thin, too many fat cells curves for that but I found that my hate/hate relationship with exercise turned into a love/hate relationship and now I'm not doing any I am missing it and feel guilty as all hell about that

I shall take your advice and only do something if I feel like it - here's hoping for an energy-filled second trimester which is only four weeks away. Man I can't even imagine making it that far at this point!

ThePFJ Fri 06-Sep-13 17:14:44

LOL at bellydancing in the maternity ward!!! kjh5 I have lovely voluptuous curves... ahem... (my husband is sniggering) and I wouldn't have it an other way..... smile

katatonic Fri 06-Sep-13 17:15:06

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

omri Fri 06-Sep-13 17:38:15

Hi ladies, measuring over a week ahead of dates! so went in 12 weeks preganant and came out 13 and a half weeks pregnant!
Doc brought my edd fwd to 16 March! woohoo!

Baby was waving up at us. oh the RELIEF at seeing that dancing bean smile)

just want to share the positivity - enjoy your weekends!

kjh5 Fri 06-Sep-13 17:54:02

Hurrah Omri!!! What exciting news to start a Friday evening with smile very happy for you xx

Kat I'm the same as you don't want to put on too much weight during the pg if I can help it. I have learned that you do need to take the intensity level down a notch or two when you're pg but every health professional I have spoken to says it is encouraged so I'm sure it'll be ok. I'm going to try and fit three or four sessions in over the next few days. Got a wedding next Friday and I'm worried I won't fit into the dress!

PoppySeedBun Fri 06-Sep-13 17:55:16

Woohoo! Best news omri smile
Great way to start the weekend!

Tomkat79 Fri 06-Sep-13 18:15:14

Great news omri xx

IBelieveInPink Fri 06-Sep-13 18:18:40

Fab news Omri! How wonderful, and to be moved forward so much too! Great news smile

Fantastic omri congratulations!
All that positivity was spot on!

GardenWorm Fri 06-Sep-13 18:56:20

Big big congratulations Omri, made me smile xxx

Pixielady83 Fri 06-Sep-13 18:56:31

omri that is brilliant! and soo exciting to be moved forward that much smile it is so wonderful to see a little wriggling bean isn't it smile

ChristineDaae Fri 06-Sep-13 19:12:52

Fuck fuck fuck!! Excuse my language!
Had scan today, all great, had 2 as baby wasn't in a good position to check heart, went for walk and went back, all good.
Just gone to the toilet and I'm bleeding! Not heavy but am shitting one sad DP not home from work yet. My mum is here but I don't wanna tell her as she worries a lot, she travelled 3hours to come to the scan and see us for a few days.

Tomkat79 Fri 06-Sep-13 19:14:52

Evening all...so glad it's Friday and my night shifts are all over for the week.

Got a letter today informing me that my smear test is due. I had an abnormal one and some cells removed 5 years ago so guessing I shouldn't put it off due to pregnancy but really not sure if I want anyone prodding about up there! Would you delay it until after 12 weeks? I'm only 5 now x

IBelieveInPink Fri 06-Sep-13 19:29:20

Oh dear.

Christine - can you call someone? Midwife or something? Bleeding should always be checked, although if it light I'm sure it is nothing to panic about. Oh you poor thing sad

Tom - I don't think they will do a smear if you pregnant. Worth checking, but I think once they find out they will put it off til after baby comes.

WhatWillSantaBring Fri 06-Sep-13 19:32:48

tom yes, you will be told to delay it till after pg. presuming you've been having normal smear results for the last few years then that's what they'll suggest. But phone and speak to your practice nurse or GP so the reason for not going is recorded, and they pick you up again after giving birth. That's what happened to me, at least.

christine I can imagine how stressed you are, but stay calm if you can. Lots of reasons for bleeds and at this stage its also far more likely that its another reason than a bad sign.

Trying not to panic about lack of movement today. Still feeling really run down and hoping I just need food and a lie down. I'm 23+4 so too early to go to a DAU, because if there were signs it was failing, I wouldn't want to do anything- the risks for the at this stage a re too gret, IMHO.

GardenWorm Fri 06-Sep-13 19:35:50

Christine I would ring or go to your EPU, sorry I can't remember how many wks you are? Also I think I would tell my mum, I'm sure she will notice there is something wrong. It may just be that their prodding today has aggravated your insides, try not to panic xxxx

Tomkat not sure you can have one whilst pregnant, best wait and check with midwife

Anda I just downloaded Instagram and finally got to see your beautiful girls. I love the pics of them sleeping together. Adorable! Hope the Anda family are all doing well xxx

GardenWorm Fri 06-Sep-13 19:39:01

Soz Santa cross posts, just wanted to say I had the odd quiet day but it was totally because they had moved and were facing my back. Have you tried the cold sugary drink/chocolate and chilling on your left side? X

IBelieveInPink Fri 06-Sep-13 19:47:06

Santa - baby has quiet days all the time. Usually every Wednesday, strangely! Have a lie down and a cold drink, sure you will feel wriggles soon. Don't be scared to go in and get checked though, I did at 23 weeks and they listened to hb and reassured me. Was the best.

Also been feeling a bit rough today (although wriggles is fine! ) has anyone else who had the whooping cough vaccine had this a few days after the jab? Bit hot, sore and generally a bit rotten?

shellsocks Fri 06-Sep-13 19:52:57

Great scan news omri massive congrats smile

Christine congrats for your scan too and I'm so sorry you're having the panic of a bleed now, I agree with everyone else, tell your mum and go get checked, I'm sure it will be fine x

tom I have had treatment for pre cancerous cells twice so am closely monitored and my smear was postponed till 3m after birth smile

santa pack of tangfastics, ice cold can of coke and if no movement within 2 hours go get checked, you know not to leave it but I'm sure you'll get some movement soon x

Tomkat79 Fri 06-Sep-13 19:57:50

christine go to EPU if you are at all concerned. I'm not worried about making a nuisance of myself this time if I am concerned about anything, it will put your mind at rest.

Thanks guys, ill inform my Midwife at 8 week apt. How's that for posifrickintivity grin

Forester Fri 06-Sep-13 19:59:57

Sorry Christine that your respite from worry is so short lived. I'm sure everything is ok though.

In relation to doing exercise Kjh I've signed up to an antenatal pilates class. I haven't done pilates before so not sure what to expect. But any help I can get with pelvic floor and stomach muscles is welcome. From more of a fitness point of view swimming is recommended - but unless the swimming pools are outside in lovely hot sunshine I can't muster up much enthusiasm for that.

ChristineDaae Fri 06-Sep-13 20:11:38

Sorry for the panicy post there! I have checked a few times since and bleeding has stopped?! I'm sure this baby is just trying to mess with my head. Tmi but I'm a bit constipated at the mo and had just 'been' when the bleeding started... Could it be linked?

GaryBuseysTeeth Fri 06-Sep-13 20:20:59

Marking place.
Not read everythunk yet but Magnesium is your frie.d for leg cramps! Holland n barret sell it

Christine; i had a few old blood bleeds after going toilet & straining. So fingers crossed you just need the prune.juice! X

Dont want to post this elsewhere incase i sound crazy; pre-menstrual cramps all wk, nothing for the last few days and no longer feel my period is about to come on...we dtd sometime last week (but no, ahem, deposits). I'm going to test in a fortnight if nothig happens by then (sods law says my period starts the sec i complete this message)!

Spelling bad, grammar worse. Blame ds2 and him sleeping on my othrr arm! Sorry.

Hope evrryone has a relaxful, peaceful weekend.

jmf294 Fri 06-Sep-13 20:21:34

Christine- I hope all is ok, it could be the scan or straining from constipation that could cause a bleed. Good news on your scan though.
Omri- good news- congrats.
Andadietcoke - hope you are home now with your beautiful girls, do they like their bugaboo- lucky ladies!!
Santa- my baby often has quiet days, usually when I'm busy and tired and just when I want to go to bed it wakes up!!

Well I had the most boring day at a IT training day- why do I always get out in a group with people who can't turn the computer on- what could have taken 2 hours took all day.
I'm 27 weeks now and whilst I feel baby moving I'm convinced its not as strong as my other two were- got to worry about something. Still not convinced I'll have a baby at the end of this journey!! But submitted my mat leave application which is exiting nonetheless.

Hope you all have a happy weekend. Xx

WhatWillSantaBring Fri 06-Sep-13 20:26:25

Baby now awake. (Following food and a lie down). Oh fuck it, I hate the stress of being pregnant!!!

christine sounds like pedro piles to me grin speak to your MW over the weekend if you can though.

BumpKitty Fri 06-Sep-13 20:37:16

ace news omri smile

and you too christine - I think piles are most likely too, can you go and dab at your bum a bit with some tissue and see if there is any blood? I've had to do this before now blush

santa i'm glad your baby is wriggling around again smile

gary shock well, they do say you are very fertile after giving birth! (am I helping?)

good luck thunder xxx

Angloamerican Fri 06-Sep-13 21:25:37

I'm in the US and it's standard practice to have a smear I pregnancy - usually at the first prenatal visit.

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Fri 06-Sep-13 21:31:59

Gary tell the truth now, you just want to add yoyrself to the bottom of the stats list again, dont you! grin
Christine I know we all say this all of the time, but a bit of bleeding can be quite normal .
I often find that constipation sets my cervical erosion off bleeding. And that the blood is coning from a pile is definitely an option. Once or twice over the years ive had a bit of a tear erm...back there when constipated and the blood can be quite shocking! red water, blood everywhere! blush blush

fod27 Fri 06-Sep-13 21:37:52

Hope you don't mind me joining ladies? Here's my stats 1DD 1DS 1MMC EDD 26th March 2014... Just had a scan today at 11+2 and it was beautiful!!! So hopefully not much longer to go until we cross that first goal post

Hey fod! <waves>

fod27 Fri 06-Sep-13 21:43:59

Christine I too had a bleed at 9 weeks but it turned out it was blood vessels that had come away from the placenta as it was forming I'm now 11+2 hope that helps cx I too was completely freaked out

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Fri 06-Sep-13 21:44:01

its about time Fod dont think I didnt see you hiding over on the ttc thread! grin grin

shellsocks Fri 06-Sep-13 21:45:26

Yay fod grin welcome and congrats smile

GardenWorm Fri 06-Sep-13 21:54:41

Hola Fod fab to see you here! Whoop!

IBelieveInPink Fri 06-Sep-13 21:56:46

Fab news fod, congratulations! :D

Pentagon Fri 06-Sep-13 22:08:54

omri and christine yay for your good scans!! christine I agree with everyone else, most probably the bleeding was triggered by constipation or all the prodding you had during your 2 scans today. I'm sure the baby's fine!

fod welcome and congratz! 11+2 - you've crossed that first goal post, no? (12 week scan can be from 11 till 13+ weeks, if I'm not mistaken?)

santa I think 23 weeks is too early to feel regular movements - I certainly didn't; but as ibip said you can ask to get checked by a midwife, they will not turn you down

gary eek!!! Just admit it, you've missed us and want to be back on the wagon wink Now seriously, I think you're OK, aren't periods a bit all over the place after giving birth? I may be wrong though, I breastfed exclusively for 9 months and didn't get my period till DD was 10 months - so, definitely not an expert!

Great for the good scans omri & christinesmilesmile

santa I'm sure everything is well but i would get checked out to set your mind to rest x

garyshockgrin joining the wagon again maybe! x

Welcome to all the newbies, congratulations on your pregnanciesthanks

Feeling pants tonight, got diarrhea and tummy ache, think it's stress related tbh, not been a good week re dcs bad behaviour and 2 trips to a & e in a week for dd3 for cutting leg open at beach & dd4 getting her fingers shut in the back door by 7yo dd2! Tonight they are on their best behaviour, just aswell really the way i'm feelingsad can't keep off the loo.

fod27 Sat 07-Sep-13 02:59:33

Don't say that pentagon in getting all excited now hahaaa
I was only lurking on the other thread as I didn't want to pre empt fate ;(

Chocolateteabag Sat 07-Sep-13 07:39:28

Fod! - lovely to see you here and congratulations on BfP and scan!

Christine - with DS I often had little bleeds after a big No2 - thinner cervical lining/ small erosions. If it stopped soon after then fx that what it was. But doesn't mean you don't panic like crazy

Kjh - don't try to push through any nausea when exercising, you'll proabably end up passing out instead. Early on it's a hormone which contributes to breathlessness, then We have more blood in our bodies and our hearts have to pump harder to get it all round. I kept on with Zumba and power Pilates til 14-15 weeks, but my SPD is now way too bad to contemplate it. No squats for me until eviction time, and then I'm not sure!

Tom my smear letter came just before my booking in apt, Mw made a note on my file when I booked in to delay until after birth.

Lieslvontrapp Sat 07-Sep-13 07:52:55

Great scan news Omri, Christine & Fod!

Good luck for today thunder!

Pumpkin sounds like a very hectic week. Here's hoping the weekend is less eventful.

After my bump size worries earlier this week I'm now wearing my maternity trousers or jeans which are so comfy. I'm struggling for loose tops for work so ordered 2 from jojomamanbebe but they are huge and more for 7 months plus than 4! Anyone got any tips for maternity tops for 4 month bloat bumps? Or am I better just looking for normal size loose style tops at this stage?

LuckySocks13 Sat 07-Sep-13 08:02:48

Morning all. Welcome back some old faces smile great news in recent scans and all the best to those coming up. Immstillnaround but find it really hard to keep up with the pace of this thread on my phone and can't name check very well so big apologies. Hope you don't mind the occasional post ad I have found a lot of support here. 29 weeks today! Had a Nast cold thing and felt so rottin last 3 days. Wish could take something for it!
With regards to earlier pregnancy wear I got some gypsy style tips from sainsburys which have served well. Just got one size up and very stretchy and can still fit in it now. Can layer with a longer sleeve top or vest underneath for warmth if needed although my office and body temp are boiling so they perfect!

LuckySocks13 Sat 07-Sep-13 08:03:34

Oops typos! Sorry!

ChristineDaae Sat 07-Sep-13 09:03:56

Morning all, no more signs of blood thank god, so I'm putting it down to te number2. Baby is wriggling away nicely smile
Fod I remember you from the TTc thread, nice to see you over here.
Ormi, glad your scan news was good.
Back to the posifrkinitivity - 20 weeks scans are bloody amazin!! My one with DD, the sonographer basically went, 'here's baby,' then silence fir about 10 min, and said everything measuring fine off you go, only to be followed with 'the call' from the doc the next day. This time round, wow! It couldn't have been more different.
The lady went through EVERYTHING as she was doing it, pointed out lungs/kidneys/bowel/showed us baby's face, even the lens of the eyes! It was amazing, and I left feeling soooo reassured this time round might just possibly be drama free.
I'm sorry I'm on iPad and can't scroll for name, but doesn't someone have a private scan today? Good luck!!

kjh5 Sat 07-Sep-13 11:14:38

Christine midwife told me the only time you need to worry about bleeding is when it's bright red, heavy and accompanied by cramps. Everything else is normal.

Hi Fod <<waves>> nice to see you over here from the TTC thread!

So I've just had private scan and baby is still there with a heart beat (159bpm) but she said it was measuring 7+1 which is what thy told me on Monday at the EPU hmm - so I was expecting it to be 7+6. She did say that an external sonogram is not as accurate as an internal one and DH has pointed out the bean measured 10.3mm on Monday and now it's 11.1... I don't need to worry do I? Angry with myself for not feeling as reassured as I hoped I'd be!

Forester Sat 07-Sep-13 11:54:59

We always have to have something to worry abut kjh!

I struggled to find something to wear this morning. My normal casual wear are jeans which are too uncomfortable now. I managed to dig out some old trousers which I don't normally wear as the waistband had stretched but they work well at the moment. All being well at the scan on Wednesday I'm going to be straight down the shops afterwards.

And hello to Fod.

kjh5 Sat 07-Sep-13 12:04:15

Righty have just run over to the TTC thread for a self administered fish slapping. I realise I'm being silly. I just saw a healthy heartbeat twice in five days. DH has bought me a lovely breakfast and is about to take me shoe shopping for the wedding next week shock

More importantly TODAY WE ARE PREGNANT - I think it's about time I added myself to tr stats

Stats Saturday 9th September

Pentagon: 1 DD, 2MMCs, EDD 31 October
BumpKitty: 1MC, 1DD, EDD 9 Nov
Shellshock7: 2MC 1DS EDD 12 Nov
Bodicea: 0DC, 2MC, EDD 16 Nov.
Ibelieveinpink: 2mc, EDD 16 Nov
GardenWorm: 1DC, 2MC, EDD 19th November,
Janielovesluckysocks: 1MC, 0DC, EDD 23rd Nov,
Lucky13: 1DS, 1 chemical, 2MC, EDD 23rd Nov
Vixjane: 2 MC, EDD 24 Nov,
Vocalista86: 1 MMC, EDD 30 November.
Jmf294: 1 DS, 1DD, 1 MC, EDD 10th Dec
ChocolateCremeEggbag: 1DS, 1MC, EDD 16 Dec
DIYandEatCake: 1dd, 1mc, EDD ?16 dec
Booty: 1chemical EDD 19 Dec
Blackholes: 2 MC, 2 DC, EDD 25 December
WillSantaComeAgain: 1DC, 2MMC, EDD 29Dec
pumpkinsweetie mc1, EDD 03 Jan
Christinedaae - 1DD, 1MC, EDD 25th Jan, anomaly scan 6th Sept
Lieslvontrapp: 1MMC, 0DC, EDD 10 Feb, anomaly scan 26/09
TotalShock 0DC, 1MMC, EDD 1 March
Pixielady83 1DD, 1MMC, EDD 3 March
GuffSmuggler: 1DS, 1MCC, EDD 4 March
Rock: 1DS, 1MMC, EDD 4 March
Swangirl:1DD,2DS,1MC EDD ? March 2014
Motorcyclemama: 1MMC, EDD 17 March
SaggyOldClothPussCat: 1MC, 1DD, 1DS, EDD 18 March
Foresterr 1DD, 1MMS, EDD 24 March
Omri: 1DS, 1MMS, EDD 24 March
Fod27: 1DD 1DS 1MMC EDD 26th March 2014
RainbowConnections: 1DS, 2MC, EDD 1 April
Birdsdoit: 1MMC, 0DC, EDD 6 April
TeaAndANatter: DS, DD, 1MMC, 20th April (ish)
Kjh5: 0DC, 1MC, EDD 21 April 2014
PoppySeedBun: 0DC, 1 MMC, EDD 22 April 2014
ImpatientlyWaiting: 0DC, 1MC, EDD 1 May 2014
MarthasHarbour: 1DS, 2MCs, EDD 7 May 2014
Tomkat: EDD 9 May 2014
ThePFJ: 1DS 7MC 1 Ectopic, EDD 12th May

New arrivals

Jessw25 Baby Oliver born 9 July 2013 5lb 11oz
GaryBuseysTeeth Baby Alexander born 30 July 2013 7lb 4oz
Andadietcoke twin girls born 29 August Charlotte 5lb 5oz & Sophie 7lb 13oz

ThePFJ Sat 07-Sep-13 12:47:52

Still pregnant!!! kjh5 I am sure we can make it through this!!! Have some cake......... xxxxxx

Hello hello,

Good news on the scans guys.

I'm just home from my dating scan and everything is ok. I can't believe it! Measuring a further two days on at 12+2.

Just can't believe it x

(Have added pic)

fod27 Sat 07-Sep-13 13:57:52

thunder that's great news! So pleased for you!! Has anyone had any back ache towards the end of the first trimester?

ThePFJ Sat 07-Sep-13 14:07:08

Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww great pic!!

PoppySeedBun Sat 07-Sep-13 14:31:50

Great news on scans!
Such a great picture thunder - congratulations!
And great news too kjh - gives me hope for my scan on Weds. Yes - you have two heartbeats, and I'm sure the room for error in dating is too wide to be worried about the differences!
Today you are pregnant!

BlackberryandNettle Sat 07-Sep-13 14:50:21

Hi Everyone, just wated to add myself - was over on the ttc thread before but only really at weekends as crazy busy in the week. Lovely seeing lots of familiar names on here! I'm 9+3 now and have seen the baby at 9 weeks looking fine, still very worried though - even today have had periody pains still and earlier some odd orangy (I think slightly blood stained?) discharge. Next scan will be at 11 weeks so trying to hold on...

Pentagon: 1 DD, 2MMCs, EDD 31 October
BumpKitty: 1MC, 1DD, EDD 9 Nov
Shellshock7: 2MC 1DS EDD 12 Nov
Bodicea: 0DC, 2MC, EDD 16 Nov.
Ibelieveinpink: 2mc, EDD 16 Nov
GardenWorm: 1DC, 2MC, EDD 19th November,
Janielovesluckysocks: 1MC, 0DC, EDD 23rd Nov,
Lucky13: 1DS, 1 chemical, 2MC, EDD 23rd Nov
Vixjane: 2 MC, EDD 24 Nov,
Vocalista86: 1 MMC, EDD 30 November.
Jmf294: 1 DS, 1DD, 1 MC, EDD 10th Dec
ChocolateCremeEggbag: 1DS, 1MC, EDD 16 Dec
DIYandEatCake: 1dd, 1mc, EDD ?16 dec
Booty: 1chemical EDD 19 Dec
Blackholes: 2 MC, 2 DC, EDD 25 December
WillSantaComeAgain: 1DC, 2MMC, EDD 29Dec
pumpkinsweetie mc1, EDD 03 Jan
Christinedaae - 1DD, 1MC, EDD 25th Jan, anomaly scan 6th Sept
Lieslvontrapp: 1MMC, 0DC, EDD 10 Feb, anomaly scan 26/09
TotalShock 0DC, 1MMC, EDD 1 March
Pixielady83 1DD, 1MMC, EDD 3 March
GuffSmuggler: 1DS, 1MCC, EDD 4 March
Rock: 1DS, 1MMC, EDD 4 March
Swangirl:1DD,2DS,1MC EDD ? March 2014
Motorcyclemama: 1MMC, EDD 17 March
SaggyOldClothPussCat: 1MC, 1DD, 1DS, EDD 18 March
Foresterr 1DD, 1MMS, EDD 24 March
Omri: 1DS, 1MMS, EDD 24 March
Fod27: 1DD 1DS 1MMC EDD 26th March 2014
RainbowConnections: 1DS, 2MC, EDD 1 April
Birdsdoit: 1MMC, 0DC, EDD 6 April
Blackberryand Nettle: 1MMC, EDD 10th April
TeaAndANatter: DS, DD, 1MMC, 20th April (ish)
Kjh5: 0DC, 1MC, EDD 21 April 2014
PoppySeedBun: 0DC, 1 MMC, EDD 22 April 2014
ImpatientlyWaiting: 0DC, 1MC, EDD 1 May 2014
MarthasHarbour: 1DS, 2MCs, EDD 7 May 2014
Tomkat: EDD 9 May 2014
ThePFJ: 1DS 7MC 1 Ectopic, EDD 12th May 2014

New arrivals

Jessw25 Baby Oliver born 9 July 2013 5lb 11oz
GaryBuseysTeeth Baby Alexander born 30 July 2013 7lb 4oz
Andadietcoke twin girls born 29 August Charlotte 5lb 5oz & Sophie 7lb 13oz

IBelieveInPink Sat 07-Sep-13 16:28:09

Thunder - fan bloody tastic!!! How are you feeling now? So excited, and great pic! Yay!

fod27 Sat 07-Sep-13 16:45:48

I had no idea we could upload our pics.. How do I do that? Also any info on back Pain would be greatly appreciated cxx

kjh5 Sat 07-Sep-13 17:28:48

Thunder WOW!! That pic is amazing, I can't believe that's a proper little baby in there. I'm just looking at the pics we got this morning and all you can see is a white blob, it is hard to believe that in five weeks we'll be looking at a fully-formed baby inside there (how's that for posifrckintivity?!) I'm really happy your scan went well. Thinking of you Tea for yours tomorrow. Was anyone else having one this weekend?

Fod is it your lower back? I always found that a hot water bottle was really good for that and - funnily enough - exercise, really helps with mine x

fod27 Sat 07-Sep-13 17:36:48

Yes kjh it is my lower back

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Sat 07-Sep-13 18:16:52

OMG Thunder! That is a fantastic picture! I am so jealous! I have to wait until monday! sad envy

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Sat 07-Sep-13 18:20:19

Oh and now im bawling my guts out rewatching the last episode of friends where Monica and Chandler get their babies! confused

fod27 Sat 07-Sep-13 18:32:30

I did that this morning saggy the saddest part was when they got the files mixed up ;(

Thank you ladies. It's just starting to sink in now, but I am knackered after all the stressing this morning!

So maybe I will stop lurking and be a bit more present on the thread now. Or maybe the fear will return tomorrow!

BumpKitty Sat 07-Sep-13 19:57:04

thunder! Congratulations! That is one fantastic picture grin, yes come and join in. As you already know, we are all lovely smile

I think i have budged the baby (hanging upside down off the sofa) i have been feeling more movement down below but i'm now freaked out that i might have tiny feet kicking me in the cervix. I am super crap at working out which way round she is.

jmf294 Sat 07-Sep-13 21:04:33

Congrats Thunder- brilliant news and a great picture. Hope you can hang in to the positivity.
Good luck on Monday Saggy.

GardenWorm Sat 07-Sep-13 21:35:15

Fab news Thunder - and breathe! Checked out your scan pic, tis brill smile.

Fod I think the back ache is pretty common, everything is adjusting in there and you start putting extra pressure on it xxx

fod27 Sat 07-Sep-13 23:39:04

Ok... Hormone overdrive! Just cried 5 times during wreck it Ralph! What on earth is that all about???

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Pixielady83 Sun 08-Sep-13 11:14:14

welcome fod and blackberry smile hope you both have healthy and happy pregnancies.

Having a bit of a rubbish weekend here, have a bad back, terribly sore coccynx, alternating between numb and on fire, and sore pelvis. don't even know what I've done but just can't get comfortable. I associate this feeling with 30+ wks not 15wks. Plus I had a hot bath to ease things last night and then freaked out in case it had been too hot for the baby (despite never worrying about this before). Going out for lunch with friends today and just feel super antisocial and sorry for myself sad

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TeaAndANatter Sun 08-Sep-13 13:29:15

Private scan today, dating exactly where expected at 8 weeks. Heartbeat, good yolk sac, nice thick endometrium. Very grateful.

PoppySeedBun Sun 08-Sep-13 13:48:41

tea good news! Today you are pregnant!

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JanieLovesLuckySocks Sun 08-Sep-13 14:00:28

hey preggos! just back from my weekend away and i'm a zombie! had a quick read through all the posts and i'm so delighted for all the great scans!! thunder i can't see your picture though boohoo but i am imagining a happy smiley yummy little baby waving back! smile fab news!! hope you are still feeling the pisifrickintive vibes!

i got offered a seat on a bus by a lady smile that was a first for me! yay!

hope you've all had great weekends.

next scan for me on friday (13th gulp) - they seem to do a 30 week scan here which my english buddies were surprised at. at least i hope they do a scan! got double the movement this week than last so hoping that's a good thing!

LuckySocks13 Sun 08-Sep-13 14:07:02

Yey to great scan news smile
Glad to hear you have had a nice weekend Janie.. Where did you go? Lucky you with an extra scan feeling envy
I am also now minus a wedding ring. Sausage fingers have arrived. My engagement one is a bit bigger so still got that on for a little while longer! Been trying to sort the house out a bit. Seem to have so much junk! Not sure where all this extra baby stuff is going to fit! Been quite nice to buy girls things this time around. DS is getting excited about his new little sister. He thinks she should be a Lola like off Charlie and Lola kids TV!

GardenWorm Sun 08-Sep-13 14:31:28

Congrats Tea! Great news smile

Day 1 of potty training here, loads of wees and a pooh...shame none of them were where they were supposed to be grin

omri Sun 08-Sep-13 15:06:24

Love all the good scan news!
Garden worm how old is your LO and when are you due? I've a ds just turned 2- and im due in march when he'll be 2.5 so would have liked to do the potty training by then but not too sure how to time it right. He is definitely not ready yet. Pity couldn't have done it in the warm weather ...
What do you think?

ChristineDaae Sun 08-Sep-13 15:56:55

Great news tea! Congratulations!

JanieLovesLuckySocks Sun 08-Sep-13 16:14:37

thanks lucky! i flew over to visit some good pals friend in brighton for the weekend, was lovely, although now i'm totally wiped out! think i'll cook a roast dinner and go to bed for my crumble and custard smile we have some serious clearing out to do as well.... everything just keeps getting dumped in the 'baby room'...maybe next weekend!

fod27 Sun 08-Sep-13 17:44:01

Hi Ladies I'm in my maternity clothes as of today..,, omg!!! Hugeeeee bump alert!!! Although. DH is chuffed to bits about it

JanieLovesLuckySocks Sun 08-Sep-13 19:27:09

FOD!! i totally forgot to say congrats! great to have you here smile yippee for bump clothes!!! xx

kjh5 Sun 08-Sep-13 19:30:29

Yay Tea!! Super happy for you smile glad everything went well.

Fod where did you get your stuff from? I've no idea where to begin!

Thanks for the reassurance Kat I'm now gearing myself up to get through the next 5wks until the dating scan. It's going to be awkward because we're going on holiday with a bunch of DH's friends the week before the scan and its going to be pretty obvious that Miss Alcoholic here isn't drinking... No sure how we're going to handle that!

Chocolateteabag Sun 08-Sep-13 19:51:31

Hi Omri my DS is 3 in Early Nov so will be 3.1 when his brother arrives. He is showing very little signs of being ready to potty train. We've had the odd wee in the potty, but he still denies having poo'd (it's clearly obvious) and today (after havng an emergency swim nappy put on while we were ot which I then forgot about) he sat in a very wet pair of trousers without caring/noticing as swim nappy not designed for his power wees

I am resigned to potty training after Christmas once everything has calmed down a bit. I've read/heard that it's supposed to be easier after 3 anyway fingers crossed

Great news on the scan tea!

fod27 Sun 08-Sep-13 20:05:45

Janie thanks glad to be here, just hope I stay here ;) chocolate mothercare was best for me as I found it to be the only place that did maternity bras

Tomkat79 Sun 08-Sep-13 20:37:24

chocolate don't stress the potty training! My DS was 3.2 when he potty trained and still in nappies at night until he was 4. He will do it when he's ready and it will be much easier then x

Tomkat79 Sun 08-Sep-13 20:37:58

My mums friend potty trained her son at 9 months...wtf?!

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Sun 08-Sep-13 20:58:37

totally dont stress the potty training! your wee ones are heading for the major life upheaval of getting a new sibling. thats a lot in itself. They'll do it eventually, and don't worry if you get a bit of regression once the babies arrive.
night training is a BIG thing too. They make night time pants for up to 11 year olds for a reason! DS was mainly dry in the day by 3 or so, but wasnt fully dry at night until he was at least 7! The GP wasnt remotely worried. Its common in boys and is to do with the time that the signal takes to reach the brain. It apparently has further to travel in boys! grin

Chocolateteabag Sun 08-Sep-13 21:08:55

Kjh (and Fod) - I have got some good bras from Bra stop and Brasandhoney - both have free delivery and returns (if you order enough) and have the larger sizes (which I really needed) miles better than the awful M&S woman in my local shop who tried to get me to go up a back size because they had nothing over a GG (I'm currently rocking a 32H and my 32I bras have come out from last time in preparation shock)

I also get most of my maternity clothes on eBay - Isabella Oliver t-shirts are with the extra as the jersey is vv thick. They then resell on eBay well so just have to try not to stain them!

thanks Tomkat - DH is worrying that he's not even started to try, but I work for a nappy making company so at least we can usually get them relatively cheaply. Plus I'd rather take our time than have problems later on!

Anyway maybe DH will be more worried if I show him pics of DS wearing "his favourite shoes" - my red kitten heels! I' m sure it's the clack clack noise on the tiles which appeals grin

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Sun 08-Sep-13 21:42:45

Ok. Hands to hold please!
It's just dawned on me properly that my scan is tomorrow morning.
Make or break, good news or bad...
Posifrickentivity has gone and has been replaced by shit scared!

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Rockchick1984 Sun 08-Sep-13 21:50:15

Saggy you will be fine!! Handholding from me, I found that it was easier to count down in hours til my scan once it was close, felt longer to say "15 hours" rather than just "in the morning". The ladies on the March thread were asking after you, I hope you don't mind but I told them you're ok but you're on this thread more. They all send their love smile

Re potty training, my DS turns 2 about 3 weeks after my due date. Am going to have a try at getting him out of nappies over the next few months but if he's not got it by 3 months before I'm due then its waiting until baby arrives - have seen friends DC's regress or intentionally make a mess to get attention when younger sibling arrives and don't want to have to deal with that!

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JanieLovesLuckySocks Sun 08-Sep-13 21:58:15

Hand squeezing from me saggy, at least it's early. Will be sending good vibes your way xx

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fod27 Sun 08-Sep-13 22:06:15

saggy thinkin of you... It's petrifying stuff it really is I was literally shaking on the bed! The sonographer/midwife was so lovely as she's had experienced 2 miscarriages and as we were talking about loosing symptoms etc and how I will literally Squeeze my breasts to make them feel sensitive she totally related to every word I said and began crying

chocolate wow!!! I've gone from a 32b to a 36D and I thought that was good going hahaaa

Tomkat79 Sun 08-Sep-13 22:22:34

Aww saggy can almost feel the fear in your post. At least it's nice and early so you haven't got all day to pace. Lots of hand holding from me x

Tomkat79 Sun 08-Sep-13 22:24:13

32 I chocolate?! Wow. I'm just starting to fill the baggy top bit in my 36c. Very jealous envy

kjh5 Sun 08-Sep-13 23:37:46

Saggy you're almost there! Handholding all the way I'm sure it's all going to be fine. Thinking of you!

Chcocolate thanks so much for the bra advice. Mine are pretty mahoosive and I was completely outraged when I found out they were getting bigger, at the rate I'm going I'll be able to feed quadruplets with no worries. I get all of my underwear from bravissimo and just looked at their non-underwired bras - they are hideous! Was in some despair after realising no other high street shop caters for my size. But I shall definitely look up those sites when I get home from work!

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Mon 09-Sep-13 00:14:06

aargh! I cant sleep!

Pentagon Mon 09-Sep-13 00:18:07

thunder, kjh5 and tea yay for your good scans! Brilliant news! smile

saggy all the best for tomorrow, I'm sure everything will be fine!

Ahhhh, potty training...sore subject! Back in May DD started showing interest in using the toilet (she was 2.3 at the time) without me making any effort (I think she saw other children at the nursery doing it and copied them) then she spent a couple of weeks with her grandparents in July and completely lost interest (even though my mum tried) - she's still not interested so I have kind of given up...I don't want to push it, I've read it can make things worse

I spent the weekend in a baking frenzy... had to give lots of it away as there's no way we could eat it all. DD doesn't want to go to bed at the moment - she threw a tantrum both tonight and yesterday ...I hate it and find it very stressful. I hope she grows out of it before the baby arrives. This morning she pointed at my bump and said "mummy I want to see the baby" which was really sweet smile

Goodluck with your scan today saggy xx

Potty training- don't worry they get there in the endsmile, my 3 were day trained by 3 1/2, late but that's when they were ready! Older two were dry at night around 2-3 months later, my 5yo still wets at night though but i don't worry about it as it is very common. My youngest is 3yo 1m and she isn't showing any signs and is absolutely so disinterested there is no point in me starting her yet, although i do somewhat pressured by other mums i must remember all kids are different.

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Mon 09-Sep-13 07:35:19

without doubt the worst nights sleep I have EVER had! sad sad sad

RainbowConnections Mon 09-Sep-13 07:45:34

Just a quick stop by to wish you good luck for today Saggy. Look forward to checking for good news later. xxx

PoppySeedBun Mon 09-Sep-13 07:51:29

Good luck saggy
Hopefully lots of good news this morning will mean a much better sleep tonight!
Fx for you flowers

Pixielady83 Mon 09-Sep-13 08:13:24

loads of luck today saggy sorry you had a bad night xx

Good luck saggy. Thinking of you

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Lieslvontrapp Mon 09-Sep-13 08:33:48

Good luck saggy!

TotalShock Mon 09-Sep-13 08:50:18

Good luck saggy x

GardenWorm Mon 09-Sep-13 08:50:42

Good luck Saggy, thinking of you this morning x

Omri, DD was 2 at the beginning of June. We ended the day with 3 wee successes! She's been banging on about pants for months. The childminder actually thought she was ready about 6 months ago but I wanted to wait. We are now childminder less so I figured it would be a relatively good time as child care is between me and DH at the moment. Also she was in re useable nappies that I want to do some repairs on so that newbie can use them. I'm expecting things to go a bit belly up when number 2 arrives but thought I'd put the groundwork in now whilst we can focus on her. She was very proud of her first wee declaring 'mummy I didn't want to wee on the floor'. Bless. DH has her for the next 3 days....he's not happy, ha ha ha grin

Drumming fingers and constantly refreshing phone for saggy news.....

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Mon 09-Sep-13 10:16:56

oh fucking fuck

What??? What what what?

Are you ok??

RainbowConnections Mon 09-Sep-13 10:20:18

Saggy, hope you are ok? x

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SaggyOldClothCatPuss Mon 09-Sep-13 10:40:12

theyre worried about the nuchal fold measurement. Its only borderline, but I have totally lost the plot. blood has been taken, results on thursday.

GardenWorm Mon 09-Sep-13 10:48:43

Saggy hang on in there, as you said its borderline, it may be so close that another scannee would not have put it in the borderline category. Feel for you, what a shitty couple of days waiting you have. Got everything crossed for you xxx

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kjh5 Mon 09-Sep-13 10:54:37

Oh saggy that's so worrying - just when you wanted some reassurance. They said its borderline which usually means everything is fine and they're just being overly cautious. Thinking of you - hope you have lots of support over the next few days xx

IBelieveInPink Mon 09-Sep-13 10:56:49

How frustrating saggy.
How borderline is borderline? Definitely don't panic yet, although I know it's going to be the longest few days ever. Keep busy xx

Oh saggy, firstly have a hug.

Secondly- be calm! You have a healthy baby in there with a heartbeat. This is a fantastic thing!

I didn't realise they could advise on nuchal fold straight away. They wouldn't consider doing this with us on the same day as they need to take into account the bloods as well. Do you know that borderline still means that its still a low chance. So there is really no point in worrying about something that might be fine and you don't know the full picture yet. I know this doesn't actually help in reality as everything is a worry, but trying to add the logical argument.

Do you have 'Expecting Better' book? There's some very interesting information in here about it, based on actual science. Might be worth a read.

Another hug for you. flowers

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Mon 09-Sep-13 11:09:25

I do not know what I would do without mumsnet!

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RainbowConnections Mon 09-Sep-13 11:21:56

Saggy thats really tough. I hope Thurs results give a clearer picture. I hope your family keep you busy and supported over the next few days. xx

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Mon 09-Sep-13 11:28:02

I know. I really do. The midwife had a long chat with us. Even if the blood tests come back 1 in 5 which is very high, that's still only 20% chance of Downs. 80% chance of being fine. Its really selfish I suppose, I just wanted to be able to breathe a sigh of relief and get on with being a normal pregnant person. Instead Im lying in bed, blowing nose into a clean pair of knickers and trying to work out what the fuck I would do...!
My Mum is going to be round here any minute and I just cant face her!

IBelieveInPink Mon 09-Sep-13 11:32:55

Oh saggy. I would be the same, I really would. But honestly, you are a loong way off those decisions.
Blood results could be fab. If not - then there is amnio/cvs to help if you choose to. I know what you mean about wanting it to all be okay, but there is always something to stress over. This is unfortunately just your thing. sad mine was a massive bleed 2 days after 12 week scan. It seems tht we are never allowed to relax and just enjoy it. But honestly, now is not time for crying into pants yet.
However you do get a mahoosive hug. Xx

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ThePFJ Mon 09-Sep-13 13:47:21

Still pregnant, but feeling bloated and blue today.... but at least I am still pregnant...

TotalShock Mon 09-Sep-13 13:52:01

Oh saggy. I think me and you seem to do everything together. On the September bus. Off the September bus. On the march bus. And now this. I was exactly the same as you about the 12 week scan and then hoped to just get on with it. My fold measurement was ok but combined with the bloods not good so I'm hoping for you it's going to be the opposite. after my results I read loads - some women having not a brilliant fold measurement but the combined results were good

I know how you're feeling and the waiting is horrible. I'm just burying my head in the sand and trying not to fixate on it in the mean time

Lots of hugs x

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Mon 09-Sep-13 14:44:30

im sorry for being such a drama queen when im not the only one going through this. The shock on top of a crap nights sleep were just too much. ill be positive again tomorrow.

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Mon 09-Sep-13 14:47:51

IIRC, for all of us waiting on this, my best friends daughter was a 1 in 3 of downs. She is a happy healthy 16yo now, heading for a top university.

Pentagon Mon 09-Sep-13 14:52:51

saggy congratz on the good scan but sorry to hear about the NT measurement. What was it if you don't mind sharing with us? I think someone else on this thread had a borderline NT measurement but quite good combined test results. I hope it's the same for you! Try to stay calm and strong (easier said than done, I know). x

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Mon 09-Sep-13 15:02:52

3.6. apparently combined with my age and weight its cause for concern.

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Mon 09-Sep-13 15:03:35

although, in other news, I weigh 1lb less today than I dis at booking in!

GuffSmuggler Mon 09-Sep-13 15:11:47

Hi everyone,

Am back from a lovely peaceful holiday with no internet or tv, was bliss! Am desperately trying to catch-up but so much has happened so sorry if I've missed anything.

saggy glad your baby is there and wriggly but I'm sorry you can't just be relieved now and have another worry sad.

Is really crap they don't do your bloods before the scan, they do here so they can give you the result at the scan. I hope you don't have too long to wait but please try and keep positive. To be honest I've heard bad things either way about this nuchal tests, I don't think they are very reassuring whatever result you get.

Really pleased to hear good results from kat and thunder (sorry if I've missed people!)

anda I hope you are enjoying your snuggly babies, I saw the pic you posted on the last thread, absolutely gorgeous!

rock I think you were saying you feel like your bump has stopped growing, I feel the same, had this massive bloated stomach for weeks which now seems to be receeding a bit. I also feel less PG than ever but that's pretty normal for me I think. I don't have a midwife appointment until next Friday, just seems like endless waiting for reassurance this PG after MC business!!!

Welcome to the new people as well!!

Pentagon Mon 09-Sep-13 15:16:06

saggy you're not being a drama queen, it's understandable that you're shaken and upset. It's considered OK up to 3.5, isn't it? Let's wait for your combined test results and see. Our neighbour was given 1:4 for trisomies when she was pregnant with her 1st daughter who is now a gorgeous, talented 16-year-old. So a worrying result doesn't necessarily equal a problem, as we all know!

Pentagon Mon 09-Sep-13 15:17:59

and yay for losing weight!

Rockchick1984 Mon 09-Sep-13 15:24:12

Guff after me worrying about bump size, it seems to have appeared from nowhere the last few days so trying to stop stressing!

Fx for you saggy & hope your results on thurs bring good news. Congrats on losing weight though xx

omri Mon 09-Sep-13 16:29:14

Saggy thinking of you- fx for the results on Thursday. Hope you can keep distracted til then and not worry too much though I know it's easier said than done. Here to hold your hand whatever happens.

BumpKitty Mon 09-Sep-13 17:35:37

Oh saggy - I have everything crossed for you for Thursday. But try to think that in all probability you've just had a glimpse of your healthy little wriggly baby.

This is entirely trivial in comparison and TMI but I have started on my iron tablets and I think they hate me. Everything i eat is closely followed by an episode of explosive green/black diarrhoea - particularly enjoyable when you're at work. Apparently I need to talk to my GP which would be a whole lot easier if they answered the fucking phone!

JanieLovesLuckySocks Mon 09-Sep-13 18:28:48

hey saggy, so sorry you have this extra worry. i hope thursday come round quickly for you. i don't have any nuchal knowledge so i'm sorry i can't offer any additional help or advice. 'don't panic' is easy for me to say, but as the others have all said, it's not bad news yet xx

bump, wow your explosions sound pretty unfortunate sad i hope you 'solidify' soon!

i got my bloods done last week (28-30 week bloods). just had a thought...am i meant to call them for results normally or do they let me know if there's anything to know?

Forester Mon 09-Sep-13 19:22:04

Saggy you don't need to hide your worries here and pretend you are OK - if it helps please fret as much as you like on this threat. Fingers crossed you get positive news on Thursday.

TeaAndANatter Mon 09-Sep-13 19:31:12

Saggy, sorry for your worries. I read in Sheila Kitzinger (Birth over 35- totally recommend it) all the stats for how many people without DS had a wider than typical NT, but just fall into the typical bellcurve. Crossing everything for you over the next days x

fod27 Mon 09-Sep-13 19:34:08

Oooo saggy!!!!! What a day you've had! You poor thing! In all honesty I don't know how I'd react and we too have had the conversation regarding the 12 week scan and the "what would we do?" chat, I won't say I understand or to be positive etc because when you in that place you just can't be upbeat until you've weighed up everything and talked things through calmly... Thinking of you and sending hugs xxxx PS hope you don't mind me asking but how old are you?

Pixielady83 Mon 09-Sep-13 20:19:39

saggy sad I'm so sorry you've got more stress. But also really pleased you saw a happy wriggly baby. It just sucks that you've now got this to worry about. Thinking of you and total and hoping you get reassurance soon xx

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SaggyOldClothCatPuss Mon 09-Sep-13 20:38:00

Fod im 38.
Kat we will not be finding out. I wantone nice surprise to look forward to! smile

kjh5 Mon 09-Sep-13 20:42:05

Hi everyone - hoping saggy is getting lots of rest after such a traumatic day. Thinking of you and total hoping you get lots of support in RL xx

I don't suppose anyone on here has any advice on how to cope with extreme morning sickness? I woke up this morning and its as if someone flipped the switch from bad to worse. I can't keep anything down (apart from sips of water) and my stomach is cramping something chronic (intestinal not scary bad AF-like cramps). I hoped I would get better as the day went on but I think it's worse. I've called in sick st work but I've only got a day or two's grace on that front as we're chronically short- staffed this week. I'm also losing my ability to cope with having my head stuck down a toilet all day trying to remember how I would have done anything to feel this ill last pregnancy

I'm really sorry to moan with other much more serious concerns on this thread but if anyone can tell me whether this is normal and give any advice I'd be massively grateful!

IBelieveInPink Mon 09-Sep-13 20:44:02

Kat - we found out. I am a planner, so really wanted to know, and to us, it makes us feel a little more like we know her already smile and i can shop for her (this is a bad thing - I have just discovered eBay!)
But it very much is each to their own!!

kjh5 Mon 09-Sep-13 20:47:49

Ooh cross-posts Kat good idea on the distraction front! I think I'd like to find out a DH wants it to be a surprise... I like the idea of decorating the nursery just so and think it might help me bond with the baby a but more pre-birth... That said Saggy has a point and I might change my mind - although we're so far away from that scan I can't imagine actually getting there!

TeaAndANatter Mon 09-Sep-13 20:52:51

Sorry to hear you feel crappy kjh

Kat Not this time. We want a nice surprise. My head got turned (I always wanted to know with the other two) by reading something someone said about if people don't know then everyone gets all excited with 'what did they have', but otherwise if they already know they're a bit like 'oh they had it then'. By the third baby, no-one seems to get particularly excited unless you're having quads, so I need all the additional 'ta-daaaaah' I can muster!

Pixielady83 Mon 09-Sep-13 20:55:34

kjh sorry no advice on extreme ms, but I found my (mild) sickness much worse if I didn't have anything in my stomach, have you tried crackers as soon as you wake up?

kat we're not finding out again grin it nearly drove me mad not knowing last time but nothing can compare to the moment when we found out who she was! I had really really wanted a little girl but had fully persuaded myself I was having a boy so it was very exciting. I don't mind as much this time, but if I'm very very honest (please don't judge me) I would love another little girl. I worry that if I found out it was a boy without the birth excitement I might be a tiny bit disappointed whereas I feel it would be v different if a little boy was handed to me because he would be there already and we could start getting to know him immediately smile not sure if that makes much sense, and think it is v personal choice but that is my experience. Feel excited just thinking about it!

fod27 Mon 09-Sep-13 21:15:41

kjh mine was horrific too! I nibbled on ginger biscuits whilst sat up in bed before getting out of bed, as I found that hunger made it worse, also try to stay away from diary and thoroughly chew everything! You'll appreciate it when it revisits. I had to suck on mints when I drove to stop me chucking up in the car. Oooo and try dry bread as it soaks up bile etc (that stuff really hurts!)

fod27 Mon 09-Sep-13 21:17:50

Eat little and often as opposed to big meals

TeaAndANatter Mon 09-Sep-13 21:22:07

I've just eaten 18 Milk Tray chocolates and I feel a bit sicky. Can I count that as morning sickness please?

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SaggyOldClothCatPuss Mon 09-Sep-13 21:27:27

Kat good luck tomorrow. x
KJH try starchy white food. real chips helped me no end!

kjh5 Mon 09-Sep-13 21:27:56

Thanks everyone - I've been trying to put food in my tummy (mainly toast) but it does not want to stay there. Good tip on the bread Fod - god I hope I'm better tomorrow!

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shellsocks Mon 09-Sep-13 21:42:29

Sorry to hear your scan wasn't 100% what you needed to put your mind at rest saggy. I hope your blood results come back much more positive and you can relax and enjoy your pregnancy smile

kat we HAD to know with DS no way I could not of, I think coming after the MMC it was like how other people have said, I wanted control over what I could and the moment we found out at the 20w scan is still (even after the birth etc) one of the best moments if my life smile Neither of us wanted to know this time and I'm so so excited doing it this way round, was hard at the 4D scan we had at 27w looking away when the sonographer said tho!!

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Mon 09-Sep-13 22:05:23

Bum Kat! sorry I read that wrong! having dragged my shit together, im back in positive mode a bit. that week will pass, just think, 9 or 10 have already gone! your nearly 1/3 there already! its shit when you get to the stage you MC before. Bil made me climb a fricking mountain on mine! I had 2 panic attacks! confused
theres nothing any of us can say that will help ultimately, but everyone is holding hands with you too! a big {{{hug}}} for you.

omri Mon 09-Sep-13 22:12:16

Kjh I was throwing up 7 times a day with ds 1 - no ms with my mmc - this time I've been throwing up twice a day but feel really tired. I find the more tired I get the sicker I feel so sleep when you get in from work or have early nights. I had crackers and bananas and other nature valley type bars beside the bed and nibbled before I went to sleep and as soon as I woke up before I got out of bed. Yes to also sipping iced water.
I also found that no matter how bad you feel, you'll always be bit better once you're up and dressed and out the door because you just have to be. I found my sickest days were when I stayed in bed able to get sick whenever... Iykwim.

Wrt finding out the sex - we didn't for ds1 and we won't for this one either. I like the guessing games. It's also such a great surprise for you and all your friends and family to hear the "it's a boy/girl!" news.
Another reason I won't find out: baby's last little secret from me for many years!
Another reason and a friend told me this: his brother found out the sex. It was a boy. They told everyone his name would be "John". So all the friends and family were talking about John for months before he even arrived. So when it came to the birth and the news: oh John was born last night... It was as if it was nearly old news as opposed to is it a boy/girl what're they calling him/her??
Sorry on the phone and maybe that doesn't make much sense but essentially what stuck with me was that my friend said it wasn't this amazing exciting news when the baby was born. I thought that was bit sad.

HOwEVER! All that said, I am v tempted to secretly find out and not tell dp!!!! wink Not tell one person just keep it to myself. Only have to worry about choosing one name then etc

Bodicea Mon 09-Sep-13 22:20:56

Sorry you have such a horrible wait to get your results saggy Glad you are feeling more positive now though. Hoping the time passes quickly for you

Angloamerican Tue 10-Sep-13 03:33:34

I have my 6 week scan tomorrow. Very nervous. But also a sense of peace in knowing its out of my hands, as well. My mood changes every few minutes...we've had bad news before at this point, including a cystic hygroma of over 9mm. It can't be any worse than getting that news, and we survived it.

fod27 Tue 10-Sep-13 08:07:24

Goof luck anglo thinking if you

BlackholesAndRevelations Tue 10-Sep-13 08:25:29

Good luck Anglo and hope your blood results come back ok, saggy xx

I've only just seen this and you're at 10 pages already !! So I'm afraid I haven't read all. Will try and catch up at some point.

All good here smile

Pentagon Tue 10-Sep-13 09:50:40

good luck Anglo!

Goodluck anglo smile

Saw mw this morning, everything is how it should be and very pleased to hear babas heartbeatsmile
Shame she had to remind me of my bmi though (37.1) by printing out a bloody growth chart to plot baby's suspected weight next time i come, already told her all my babies have been small to average-suppose she has to follow govs guidlines though!

Will be 24 weeks on Sunday, cannot wait to reach that milestone, i will be able to relax a littlesmile
Going to try my angelsounds heartbeat thingy again in a couple of weeks, it should sound better now i'm bigger.

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Tue 10-Sep-13 13:51:15

Good luck Anglo.
Im having a lounging in bed watching films today. I slept badly again last night so the snoozing is quite nice, and the films are helping keep my mind occupied.

RainbowConnections Tue 10-Sep-13 14:31:33

Saggy good that films are providing a distraction. Sorry about the sleep. Do you have to go back to get results Thurs? A tough wait.

My 3yo perfect distraction is doing his first full day at preschool today. It seemed like a good idea for him to get used to lunch etc with other kids before school but i really miss him. I'm trying hard not to leave half an hour early to pick him up. I'm going to need a 6 mnth hobby.

Pumkinsweetie, 24 wks is great. Wondered if I could ask something? I haven't had 12 wk scan yet, and I'm quite a lot bigger than I was with DS. BMI 30. Does this make ultrasounds scans difficult early on?

Good luck Anglo.

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Tue 10-Sep-13 14:43:39

Rainbow im a fat bird, bmi36, and had to have dildo cam at 6 weeks, but at 8 external was fine.

Hi everyone, please can I join? I'm 13 weeks pregnant with dc2, after an early miscarriage (6 weeks) in may. I had my scan last week and was so relieved that everything looks fine.

However I went away over the weekend for a wedding in Europe - it was ace but I've had to take today off work as I feel so so tired (I didn't sleep well last night) and queasy again, and have been having dizzy spells.

Not sure if I've just overdone it, I though I was over the queasiness and feel so fed up of feeling unwell!

Tomkat79 Tue 10-Sep-13 16:12:10

Welcome little. Glad scan went well. Your European weekend sounds very exciting!

Need some advice ladies...SEX! Am I being stupid? Am now 6 weeks and won't let my poor long suffering DH stick it anywhere near somewhere that might cause any damage! I feel such a neurotic cow as I'm typing this! Am I being over cautious?. Can't be 100% sure but think last time pregnant we did it around this time and bled slightly...before MC at 8 weeks so guessing they weren't connected confused

Bodicea Tue 10-Sep-13 16:23:56

Janie you have just reminded me that I was supposed to have a midwife appointment at 28 weeks. Oops. Kind if forgot what with having the gtt test. So just done a panick appointment for next week as I am in Cornwall at the mo. had a look thought my notes and not had bp checked since I was 26 weeks! And bloods for gtt were different so need bloods doing too. Am such a pleb! You would think I would be a bit more up on this.

I think they go through bloods at next appointment but if anything worrying they would ring

Bodicea Tue 10-Sep-13 16:30:22

Tomcat course you can have sex. It's fine. Unless you are already bleeding but I think that is more to do with infection maybe or if miscarrying it may be lower/ closer to cervix. But it certainly can't cause an mc.
at 6 weeks it is nicely settled in the fundal uterus (top but) already so miles away from you know what.

Bodicea Tue 10-Sep-13 16:30:54

Oh and waves to little xxxxx

Bodicea Tue 10-Sep-13 16:31:57

Oh god typo hell. Tom cat that was meant to say top bit!

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SaggyOldClothCatPuss Tue 10-Sep-13 17:13:48

Well, I started with 3 episodes of Being Human, then went on to Cary Grant in Philadelphia Story, then am finishing up it Mrs Miniver. You cant beat an old black and white film or two! smile

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Tue 10-Sep-13 17:16:34

I have a really tender bump today. The sonographer was digging around in there for ages yesterday! A copule of times she juggled the probe up and down to try and get baby to move position! confused

Welcome littlesmile

Rainbow my scans were all done externally at 10, 12, & 21 weeks, they could see everything fine although they did note reduced visibility due to maternal habitusgrin. Think it means that things aren't quite as fine in detail as they are with lower bmis.

saggy i felt just like that after my last scan, i felt so pummeled, almost bruised. It did go away after a few days though.

Angloamerican Tue 10-Sep-13 17:23:55

Well the ultrasound went well, although I am slightly "less" pregnant than I had estimated. Today is 5w6d rather than 6w3d. Baby's heartbeat was there and measuring fine, but of course they couldn't really see much else. Back in 4 weeks for a follow-up ultrasound...

Thanks for the warm welcome smile feeling better after a day of rest so hopefully I just overdid it at the weekend. I'm paranoid about everything at the mo!

Pixielady83 Tue 10-Sep-13 17:35:47

yay anglo glad all was well smile

welcome little smile

tomkat no sex here whatsoever.. I feel a bit harsh but I'm sooo not interested so DH is just having to do without. Last time I got my sex drive back around this point and he was too freaked out to DTD though so this kinda serves him right grin

Chocolateteabag Tue 10-Sep-13 18:57:27

FX for Thursday Saggy - horrid to have to wait in limbo sad

KJH - I'm in wired bras still - non wired would give me an awful mono boob. I even found wired nursing bras. As long as they fit properly and don't dig into your breast tissue then it's ok. It's just that so many people are wearing wrong size bra (I am a bra intervention convert from early Style and Beauty threads)

Anglo - glad your scan went well even if you aren't as far along as you thought.

Hi little

SPD getting slowly worse here, have upgraded work pass so I can use the disabled doors rather than the revolving ones. Walking hurts but then sitting for too long means everything stiffens up and it's murder to get walking again. I think I may need crutches soon sad Shell how are you doing my lovely?

BumpKitty Tue 10-Sep-13 19:36:15

great news anglo and welcome little congratulations on your pregnancy smile

tomkat there is no reason to not have sex but do whatever makes you feel best. It won't kill your DH to do without for a bit if you think it would cause you more worry.

janie call up - nobody called me about my blood results and my iron is really low, it won't do any harm to give them a ring and check x

Forester Tue 10-Sep-13 20:11:27

I'm now achingly close to my 12 week scan tomorrow. It's in the morning which is good. For previous scans it's been 90% excitement 10% nervous - by the time we get there tomorrow it's going to be the complete reverse. I'm desperate to have good news to share in RL (and here) as I know people will be please with me - some because they know about my MMC but also most people we know know that we've been trying for number 2 for a long time. I'm not sure how I'll deal with any bad news.

I also (finally) had my booking in appointment with the MW's today and I found it reassuring that they automatically talk about future appointments. They also tried to listen to the heart-beat - warning me first not to worry if I couldn't hear anything at this stage. Unfortunately while they could here something it wasn't clear enough for me to hear. I don't think that's worried me though as I'm confident that I'm still getting pregnancy symptons - I think I'm more concerned at other potential problems.

In relation to sex for me Tomkat it's just nice not to have to be doing it on demand!

And welcome to Little - glad you've joined us. smile

Tomkat79 Tue 10-Sep-13 20:36:37

That's very true forester, this pregnancy happened though when we stopped trying as the pressure was too much!

I'm excited for y

Tomkat79 Tue 10-Sep-13 20:38:17

Stoopid fat fingers!

I'm excited for your scan tomoro, seems like forever until mine.

Thanks guys for the advice...was thinking maybe might go for it tonight, but tummy like a spin cycle and sooo sleepy!

Pixielady83 Tue 10-Sep-13 20:55:49

good luck forester hope its ok. That's great mw heard hb smile

choc sorry to hear about your spd sad how many wks are you? have you tried a chiropractor to re align your pelvis? might give you a few more weeks without crutches. I'm with you on the mono boob effect, I hate non wired bras. My problem is that as my boobs get bigger I find the underwires for the bigger cup size dig in under my arms as I'm quite petite sad this despite checking I have the right back size etc. Any advice appreciated!

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Tue 10-Sep-13 21:45:18

holding your hand for tomorrow Forrester. Good luck.

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omri Tue 10-Sep-13 22:33:13

Really lovely film choices saggy!

I'm off work today and tmrw due to death in the family. Can I just tell you about my amazing fantastic 99 year old aunty? She was given seat of honour beside my lil sister at the top table at my lil sisters wedding last week. Drank a bottle of red wine and was dancing on the dance floor with us til midnight. She lived on her own in the house she was born in and got her taxi to the bridge club every Tuesday night. She was the most frank and sound woman with incredible wit. We are going to miss her so much. She was a force to be reckoned with!
Isn't it odd that she was 99 years old and her death came as a huge shock to all of us!
My sisters wedding has been officially renamed as aunty's last hurrah smile
Night all.

Pentagon Tue 10-Sep-13 23:20:34

anglo yay for the good scan!! I wouldn't worry about the difference in dates, it's just a small one and it's difficult to measure accurately so early on

welcome little and congratulations on making it to 13 weeks!

tom I was in no mood for sex during the first trimester - I was too worried and scared!

forester good luck tomorrow!!

omri your aunty sounds like an amazing woman - I'm sorry for your loss thanks

Angloamerican Tue 10-Sep-13 23:28:34

So glad that I'm not the only one who hates baby sex! I remember at one point saying to DH: "I think I'm ovulating in the next couple of days." DH: "So we have to have sex tonight?" Me: "I'm afraid so. Let's make it quick, though."

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Tue 10-Sep-13 23:37:59

Omri your aunt sounds amazing! I know what you mean sbout the surprise though. they gave my gran 5 years to live when I was 5. she finally popped off wgen I was 28! we nevrt thought she might actually die!

Tomkat79 Tue 10-Sep-13 23:48:46

What an awesome age omri, so sorry for your loss. I nurse the elderly and don't get to see many get to 99. Those that do are often as independent as your aunt! What a remarkable woman. I know her death has come as a shock to you but rather sudden like that than some god awful prolonged disease and suffering xxx

GardenWorm Wed 11-Sep-13 06:14:51

Good Luck today Saggy, I hope you don't have too long to wait now and managed to get some kind of shut eye xxx

Likewise Forester, will be thinking of you guys xxx

Congrats Anglo! Whoop to good scan smile

Omri - awesome! I think it's fab that you and your family have such a lovely last memory of your Aunt, she sounds flippin brilliant, just the way I'd want to be if I ever got to 99! I know it's a sad time for you but what you wrote about her was so proud and happy, I bet she would be quite pleased looking down and seeing the wonderful impression she left behind and how you are all remembering her with happiness. Have some brew and cake on me x

So sorry to hear about your aunty omri sad, she sounded like a lovely lady thanks xx

Goodluck today saggy and forrester, will be thinking of you both today x

fod27 Wed 11-Sep-13 07:54:23

omri my thoughts are with you, it sounds like she had a good long innings and was a corker of a lady... Who could ask for more??

Saggy hope your feeling ok, try to seek solace in the fact that everything (Unfortanetly) is out of our control.. Please try not to worry I know it's easier said than done but worry doesn't change anything other than your state of mind xxx thinking of you today, sending lots of hugs and good wishes your way xxxx

JanieLovesLuckySocks Wed 11-Sep-13 08:30:43

Omri you're aunt sounds like one in a million, what a great woman. so sorry for your loss, comforting to have such fond, happy and fun memories xx

Thanks for the bloods advice, I'll give them a call this morning. And bid I'm glad to be a reminder service smile hope you get sorted x

Hello little and any other new bfp-ers I might have missed smile and nice one on the good scans!

Saggy hope you're still feeling ok, only one more day x

JanieLovesLuckySocks Wed 11-Sep-13 08:31:09

Oh and good luck today forester x

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Wed 11-Sep-13 08:40:03

I slept! grin
I feel much more human today! And a lot calmer. I think that whatever happens, baby is going nowhere, so the rest is just science, right?
Good luck today Forester

omri Wed 11-Sep-13 08:57:53

Saggy great attitude hope I'd be as level headed in your place. Think you're great! Amazing what a good nights sleep can do!

Good luck forester fx for you. Let us know how you get on.

Yes ladies my aunt was incredibly independent and fun loving woman. She lived every day of her life iykwim. She got married in her early 30's but got early menopause in mid 30's so no children - she made so much of her life though with travel to far flung places great social life etc. a lesson to us all in how to live well.

Off to funeral now and then big party to give her good send off! Have a good day ladies xx

Pixielady83 Wed 11-Sep-13 09:17:08

omri I hope the funeral is a great celebration - your aunt sounds a fantastic lady, I want to be like that when I'm 99!

saggy glad you got a better sleep smile thinking of you.

kat I'm normally 32E, but went up to 32G last time, I think I'm 32F at the moment so the G bras would be too big. Even when I was that big (and overspilling an F cup) they did dig under arm and rub somewhat. I'm not sure whether to try buying some interim wire bras or just make do with nasty non wired ones, I went through three changes in bra size last time so it got quite expensive! I do find non wired offer no support and (tmi sorry!) give me sweaty boobs too blush but have much less disposable income this time so probably need to prioritise mat clothes.

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Wed 11-Sep-13 09:22:15

oh shit! I was already a 36ff! Im going to be a walking pair of tits with a face attached!

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Wed 11-Sep-13 09:22:34

shock confused sad

Pixielady83 Wed 11-Sep-13 09:31:56

saggy grin you will look magnificent. don't forget there will be a bump to balance them out!

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Forester Wed 11-Sep-13 11:17:59

Worst news - I've had another mmc - at 10 weeks this time. So am currently sat in epu. Devastated.

kjh5 Wed 11-Sep-13 11:24:13

Saggy I'm already a 34HH and up until three weeks ago they still pointed upwards... that is no longer the case. I'm HORRIFIED mine are getting bigger, I fear they'll be down by my knees by Christmas. (Needless to say DH is loving this - sigh) I'm so glad to hear people have stuck with underwired bras, I have one style that is super comfortable and goes up to a J cup. Maybe I can just swing around in those for the rest of the pregnancy without going monoboob...

I can't believe I actually feel human today, I was convinced I was going to be vomiting every time I had a glass of water for the next four weeks. On the bright side, I have lost 6lbs and now fit into the dress I was going to wear to the wedding on Friday which I was unable to zip up previously. On the down side I actually have to go to work today, I was so enjoying lying on the couch watching shitty tv when I wasn't throwing up Buffy was a big featue Kat, I love that show. I feel guilty about lying about why I was off (said I had a stomach bug) but I really don't want to tell anyone else about the pregnancy until the 12week scan...

Speaking of which - good luck today Forester and holding thumbs for you tomorrow saggy, loving the posifrickintivity xxx

Welcome little! This is definitely a good place to be

kjh5 Wed 11-Sep-13 11:27:58

Oh Forester cross posts... I'm so devastated for you. Have you got someone with you for support? Sending you lots of love and hugs. Do they know why it happened? Sometimes it helps to know. Truly, truly sorry xxxx

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Wed 11-Sep-13 11:30:01

Oh Forester! Words cannot express how sorry I am. How absolutely and utterly awful. All my love to you, and a thorough {{{{hug}}}}.

Pixielady83 Wed 11-Sep-13 11:38:32

Oh Forrester. I'm so so sorry. Hope you've got someone with you to hold you close thanks

sad I'm so very sorry for your loss forresterthanks Thinking of you xxx xxx

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Pentagon Wed 11-Sep-13 12:10:02

Oh Forrester I am so so sorry! I have also had 2 MMCs (not in a row) and even though the first one was more shocking, the second one was equally devastating and scary... I couldn't believe it had happened again (it was almost exactly a year ago - Sept.13th). I really feel for you and can imagine how devastated you are (actually not imagine, I know - I was in your shoes a year ago). Please be kind to yourself... thinking of you thanks

Forrester I am so sorry to read your news. This is so unfair. I hope you have love and support around you, as you have on this thread. Take time and look after yourself.

PoppySeedBun Wed 11-Sep-13 12:23:50

forester I'm so so sorry. Just the sh*ttiest news.
I don't think anything else I can say will help. We're all here if you want to rant or moan or (virtually) cry.
Had my scan today at the same place I had MMC diagnosed so was petrified of this. Fortunately all fine, but I'm sorry not the same for you.
Take care of yourself. flowers

So sorry Forrester, such heartbreaking news. Thinking of you

Chocolateteabag Wed 11-Sep-13 12:26:15

So so sorry Forester - hope you have lots of support in RL. It's so unfair to have one MMC never mind two in a row. Thinking of you xx

Rockchick1984 Wed 11-Sep-13 12:26:59

Forrester I'm so sorry. I hope the EPU looks after you, and that you have lots of real life support as well thanks

BumpKitty Wed 11-Sep-13 12:41:21

forester that's such terrible news, I hope you are being looked after, so sorry this has happened to you again, life is fucking awful sometimes xx

TotalShock Wed 11-Sep-13 12:55:49

forrester I'm so sorry, it's so unfair. I hope you have someone with you for support

Lots of hugs x

Tomkat79 Wed 11-Sep-13 13:09:20

Oh forester there are no words. So very very sorry this has happened to you xxxx

GuffSmuggler Wed 11-Sep-13 13:22:22

So sorry forester MC is just so shit and it's not fair this has happened again angry sad

JanieLovesLuckySocks Wed 11-Sep-13 13:35:47

Forester I'm so sorry this has happened again, sending you the biggest hug xx thanks

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Wed 11-Sep-13 14:27:35

Oh fucking hell. 1/5 chance of Downs. fucking fucking fuck fuck.

Rockchick1984 Wed 11-Sep-13 14:30:57

I'm sorry Saggy thanks but try to stay positive - that men's 80% chance of everything being fine! Have you decided what to do, will you have further testing? Are they able to rule out Edwards/Turners/any other issues or would you need further tests for those too?

Rockchick1984 Wed 11-Sep-13 14:31:47

Means not men's!

Pentagon Wed 11-Sep-13 14:37:05

oh saggy I'm sorry to hear this...awful day - bad news all around. Are you thinking of having further testing?

Pentagon Wed 11-Sep-13 14:42:43

poppy I forgot to say: glad you had some good news today - congratulations!

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Wed 11-Sep-13 14:45:58

I have to go to London for an Amnio. Anytime after 15.2. am 13.6 today.

PoppySeedBun Wed 11-Sep-13 14:47:04

Thanks pentagon
Don't want to detract from supporting the others having a much tougher time, but it was a real relief to see a heartbeat today at 8 wks - more than we got last time, so feels like a milestone.
But I know we're not out of the woods yet...

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SaggyOldClothCatPuss Wed 11-Sep-13 14:49:51

Sorry, Poppy congratulations. There is nothing better than that moment of relief when you see the heartbeat for the first time.

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Wed 11-Sep-13 14:51:08

No Kat. Have to wait at least a week. 15.2 is weeks, sadly, not time! sad

Rockchick1984 Wed 11-Sep-13 14:54:20

Kat when are you having the scan?

Poppy that's lovely news, glad it went well.

A week today til my 16 week midwife app so should get to hear the heartbeat. Another 6 days after that until gender scan (purely for reassurance that everything is going well, don't care really about finding out the sex)

ChristineDaae Wed 11-Sep-13 14:59:55

Forester - there are no wordssad I'm so so sorry you are having to go through that again!
Saggy - 1/5 is still low, and without wanting to sound preachy AT ALL having a child with downs is really not the worst thing in the world. As babies they are no different to every other baby. I hope your amino comes around quick and gives you the results you want. I was really hoping your results would come back low sad Take your time with the 'what if' conversations if you aren't up to it right now, you have time.
Poppy - congrats on the good scan!

RainbowConnections Wed 11-Sep-13 15:25:18

Forrester so sorry to read your news. Thinking of you. x
Sorry you have another tough wait Saggy.

GardenWorm Wed 11-Sep-13 15:49:44

So sad to read your post Forrester you must be devestated. Please don't lose hope, it was third time lucky for me (and a few others on here). I hope you are surrounded by people you love who can help you through this xxx

Saggy, it's shit that you have to wait another week. So stressful. We have a downs baby in my immediate family so know a little bit about it, but as others have said its still an 80% chance they will be fine. I have a friend who got 1 in 4 and theirs was fine. Have you been given a and date yet?

Poppy Congratulations to you, lovely news x

RainbowConnections Wed 11-Sep-13 15:59:37

Poppy lovely to read your happy news. Congrats X

Sorry to hear you are in for a tough wait saggy xx

IBelieveInPink Wed 11-Sep-13 16:16:43

Poppy - don't feel bad, happy news should always be celebrated. Congratulations smile

Forrester - so sorry. Heartbreaking I know. As garden said, it was 3rd time lucky for me too. I truely hope next time is your lucky time.

Saggy - fuck. I know you will be able to think of nothing else, but just hold on to the fact that that is based on percentages. You will know for sure (soon) either way. Your age will be skewing what may be otherwise normal (if low) results, and the borderline nuchal measurement will add to that. But just because a few borderline things add up to 1 in 5 - doesn't mean there is anything wrong. Try and remember that for the next week (and I hope this rambling post made sense - not sure if it did!)

omri Wed 11-Sep-13 16:17:29

Forester so sorry to hear of your loss. I hope you can take some time off now. Be kind to yourself. Hope you have love and support in real life.

Saggy 80% chance all will be well and healthy. They are good odds.

omri Wed 11-Sep-13 16:18:00

Forester so sorry to hear of your loss. I hope you can take some time off now. Be kind to yourself. Hope you have love and support in real life.

Saggy 80% chance all will be well and healthy. They are good odds.

Bodicea Wed 11-Sep-13 16:38:57

I am sorry to hear such awful news today. My heart goes out to forester

and saggy it must be awful for you. If it makes you feel any better I have seen and assisted lots of amnios and they are over in a matter of minutes.

I know that this is nothing compared to what the others are going through. But I had some terrible news today and am absolutely heartbroken. The week before we went on holiday my gorgeous cat boris started getting poorly. He has had a bad year this year having had a cold and gingivitis but this was the worst we had seen him as he had lost his appetite (a very rare thing - he has been known to eat entire pizzas). Dh took him to the vet who thought he had some kind of kidney/ gut infection and gave him antibiotics. The day we were going on holiday we took him back to the vets as he hadnt improved much they suggested we let him stay for a few days. He was getting better and was set to go home today. My mum was picking him up. But this morning he took a turn for the worse so they did some more tests and it turns out he has feline aids - end stage. We have had to make the terrible decision to have him put down. It is such a shock and I feel so guilty for not being there but dh is adamant he doesn't want me to go back and see him and get myself more upset. Plus we are a 5 hour drive away and I don't want him to suffer anymore.
Sorry its so long just need to get it off my chest. He is my beautiful boy and the best cat I have ever had. I know there are a few cat lovers on here so just to see how handsome he is If you put his full name into google images "boris z Kufra carycy" and Siberian he comes up in the first few images. The one with the blue background and a trophy and the one were he is up a tree.
Can't believe he won't be waiting there for me when he gets back.

Bodicea Wed 11-Sep-13 16:49:12

Not a trophy a ribbon. He is my big fluffy ginger Garfield and he was such a help to me through both my miscarriages. Can't believe he won't get to meet this little one.

I'm so sorry for your loss forrester, and for your news that's worrying you saggy flowers.

After spending most of yesterday in bed and then sleeping 9 hours last night I was expecting to feel better today, but I've had awful diarrhea this afternoon - when should I worry/get checked out? I feel a bit shivery but no temp/other symptoms other than feeling tired and blurgh.

And so sorry to hear about your cat bodicea, what a sad day sad

Tomkat79 Wed 11-Sep-13 17:20:57

What a beautiful boy bodicea sad

What an absolutely shocking day on this thread. Lots of love to everyone...if one hurts I really feel like we all hurt too. Haven't thought of anything else all afternoon x

Forester Wed 11-Sep-13 17:21:54

Thanks for the messages of support - it really helps. And I'm glad Poppy got some good news today because I'm obviously not the only one having a tough day.

We were told by the doctor that the MMC actually happened at 7 weeks - which actually made us feel a bit better. I feel frustrated that we weren't automatically offered a scan at 8 weeks as I could have got this news four weeks ago. And I never felt I could demand one as I'd had no indications that there was any problems. And I didn't want to go for a private scan as it had been at a private scan that I was told I'd had a MMC first time around. But hopefully I'll get pregnant again and then I will be demanding an 8 week scan.

I have got RL support - DH is being very good and friends and family will do what they can. But only one of my friends has had a MC (which is a good thing) so not many people know what I'm going through.

I've got my op on Friday and will take a few days off work. I'm hoping that I'll cope emotionally - I'm conscious that because of what happened last time round I've been holding myself back getting excited about this pregnancy - but obviously part of me had been imagining having a little baby in six months time.

DH has just brought DD back who immediately asked what was wrong with me - she then got distracted by some cake so I haven't had to answer. But we're planning on saying that we hoped that I had a baby in my tummy but that we've found out that we don't and that's why mummy and daddy are sad.

Forester Wed 11-Sep-13 17:25:06

Oh and I'm definitely going to be having a couple of wine this evening.

Tomkat79 Wed 11-Sep-13 17:37:16

forester I don't blame you with the wine. So glad you have lots of support. It's so hard re scans. GP made it clear to me that I wouldn't be offered an early scan. Had one at 8 weeks last time after bleeding and all was well until the next day. Had said that I wouldn't push for one but I'm only 6 weeks and its driving me insane.

Glad you haven't got to wait too long for the op. Did you have that last time? Xx

Big hugs forester, really feel for you. When I miscarried the hardest thing was trying to hide my upset from ds. We hasn't told him about the pregnancy but he snuck into my room when I was led on the bed having a cry, and after telling me my eyes were wet he led down next to me and said "I'm your baby." Children are very perceptive!

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Wed 11-Sep-13 18:25:39

Forester Id be downing a whole crate if it was me! I may still!
Bod Sorry about your cat. My dog has been a pillar of comfort in the last few days. I don't know what Id do without him. {{{hugs}}} for you. x

Pixielady83 Wed 11-Sep-13 18:36:13

Forester I'm so glad you've got support. I have two close friends who have mc'd, one only 6wks before me, and I found their support and understanding a tremendous help to me, they just knew what to say and what not to say and could really share my pain. I'm glad you feel you have that support. I think it is a good idea to tell your DD as well, they can handle so much with their pragmatism and be a great comfort little ones. As others have said, hopefully 3rd time lucky for you and hopefully very soon. One of DH's cousins just announced her first successful pregnancy recently, this is after 3 mcs including at least one late one, and that gave me such hope, it really illustrates that for most people it does happen, the journey is just much harder and longer for some. wine helped me afterwards, it numbed things a little which I needed. Hugs xxx

Saggy gosh what a week for you. I'm so sorry you have a longer wait, but try and cling to the odds. I will be thinking about you and we will all be holding your hand in the wait.

Bod I'm so sorry about your lovely cat, that's so sad thanks

poppy I'm really pleased you got a good scan result smile

Sending everyone here big hugs tonight what a rough day on the thread sad

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Wed 11-Sep-13 18:43:19

<<grows several more hands>>

BlackholesAndRevelations Wed 11-Sep-13 18:57:18

Oh forester sad what hideous news. Loads of hugs. Hope you're being looked after my lovely xxxx

IBelieveInPink Wed 11-Sep-13 19:00:17

Bod - I'm so sorry about your cat. As you know I also a cat lover, and would be absolutely devastated. Was actually up all night worrying about him as he has a bum explosion all over the place (long haired cat = messy!) and he has an ongoing intestinal issue that flairs up every now and then.
I'm so sorry you are having to deal with this at the moment, must be very hard. Massive hugs for you. X

Sorry to hear about your beautiful cat bod sad xxx

What a sad day on this thread today, my heart goes out to each of you.

congratulations poppy smile

Lieslvontrapp Wed 11-Sep-13 19:14:05

Oh Forester im so sorry to read your news. That really is shit. I hope things go ok with the op on Friday. Take care if yourself and really hope it's 3rd time lucky for you.

Saggy sorry to hear you now need to have an amnio and you've got a bit of a wait. Fx that it reveals all is fine.

Bod sorry to hear about your cat.

Omri hope you gave your aunt a good send off today. Sounds like a wonderful lady.

Poppy congrats on the good scan news!

Sounds like we've got a lot of big boobed ladies on here. I was pleased that I've moved up from an A to B cup! 18+2 and still no movements hmm!

JanieLovesLuckySocks Wed 11-Sep-13 19:26:46

forester do be sure to give yourself enough time, i ended up taking nearly two weeks off after my erpc, thought i'd be ok with just a couple of days but i was kidding myself. ended up having a couple of cinema trips by myself and a facial to pass the time. and red wine. xxx

bod i'm so so sorry to hear about your big boris sad what a very handsome guy. i'm a total cat person so i totally understand how upset you must be. hope he can make friends with my old guys up there in cat heaven xx

saggy sorry you have more worries x

poppy, huge congrats to you, i hope your good news has given those waiting on scans hope.

wow what a day. group hug x

TheNobodies Wed 11-Sep-13 19:37:55

Hello Ladies grin I've been invited to join so I hope everyone is ok with it! If not tell me to bigger of haha!

My background- I lost my son at 23 weeks early April 2012 due to a suspected incomplete cervix, he was perfect just skinny. I then went on to have 2 early miscarriages at 5-6 weeks in August and December last year sad

I'm currently around 5 weeks pregnant and have my scan on 2nd October which is 3 weeks! I'm going insane!!!

I've read a few of your comments. How many weeks is everyone?

fod27 Wed 11-Sep-13 19:42:59

What a crappy time everyone is having ,( im so so so sorry my thoughts are with you all at this time

fod27 Wed 11-Sep-13 19:45:47

Hi nobody the waiting is the hardest bitisn't it? I hate not knowing! Congrats on your pregnancy... Sorry to hear if your losses tho cxx the ladies here are fab and really supported me with my loss

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Wed 11-Sep-13 20:18:11

all the shit is coming out of the thread today. we are going to have a bloody brilliant day tomorrow and everyone should go buy a lottery ticket.

GuffSmuggler Wed 11-Sep-13 20:25:48

Oh saggy it must just seem like wait after endless wait to find out if everything is ok at the moment for you sad I'm so sorry you are being put through the mill. We're all here for you, rant away as much as you need to.

Sorry to hear about boris bodecia what a sad day.

We'll keep each other strong though, being PG after an MC is so blimmin tough.

Welcome nobodies so sorry to hear of your previous losses.

Chocolateteabag Wed 11-Sep-13 20:31:55

hi Nobody - good to have some more good news today (as well as Poppy) to balance out the bad. Congratulations on your BFP.

Well I came on here at lunchtime to have a moan that my laptop had been hit by a virus which as I was working from home meant I've then done no work all day. However everyone else's bad days have massively given me perspective. Have at least been productive and done a huge tidy up - which will help when I'm working to catch up o Saturday..

Saggy definitely think lottery ticket tomorrow would be a good idea

Pixielady83 Wed 11-Sep-13 21:00:53

hi nobody <waves> congrats on your bpf really hope it is a smooth journey from here on in for you. So sorry for your previous losses thanks I'm 15 weeks. only started to feel a bit more confident this week and still have some wobbly days but they are getting fewer.

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Wed 11-Sep-13 21:20:43

Im going to be watching one hell of a lot of old b&w movies in the next 10 days!
Guilt is my emotion of choice atm. My poor DP only agreed to ttc after the mc because he wanted to make me happy. Now he has to face this. sad

Tomkat79 Wed 11-Sep-13 21:35:24

Aww saggy don't feel guilty. You werent to know life would throw you this to deal with on top of everything you've been through. I know it's gonna feel like an age until confirmation but you're the queen of posifrickintivity, hang on in there x

GardenWorm Wed 11-Sep-13 21:39:21

Awe Saggy don't add guilt on top of how you are feeling. I'm sure DP agreed to TTC for his own reasons too and would hate it if he knew you were beating yourself up about it xxx

Bod that is rubbish news. Just because he's a cat it doesn't make it any less painful for you. I am pretty sure he will be watching over you and little one When they come into the world (and possibly heaving a sigh of relief when they are screaming!). Big hug to you xxx

ChristineDaae Wed 11-Sep-13 21:44:30

Glad you found us Nobodies. So sorry you have had such a rough journey so far.
Bod - so sorry about your cat. Our cat ran away last year and I miss him so much sad
And saggy, I'm with worm! (There's a strange sentence!) your the posifrickintivity queen! In fact, if I remember rightly from the TTC thread, your the inventor!

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Wed 11-Sep-13 21:49:16

Its easy to be positive for others. I am trying though. And it wasn't me. Possibly Santa?

katatonic Wed 11-Sep-13 22:04:26

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

BumpKitty Wed 11-Sep-13 22:13:54

oh saggy sorry you have such a worrying wait to endure. i didn't realise amnio had to be after a certain time what an arse xxx

bod so sorry about your cat xx

WhatWillSantaBring Wed 11-Sep-13 22:22:18

No, it wasn't me saggy - I can't remember who. Possibly Alyant? Such a sad day here. Hugs and cake or wine to everyone. The only posifrickitivity I can offer you saggy is that the oft quoted risk of 1:200 with amino is apparently way out of date,and its now much safer. Also try(ha ha, easier said than done) to focus on the 80% chance of it being ok. If you we're offered those odds on winning the lottery you would be out shopping for your new car already.

I may be a bit quieter in the future- looks like work has finally caught up to MN and I couldn't post on there today. I find typing on my ipad so hard / slow (I'm a touch typist) that I lurk more than post.

Here's to a better day tomorrow.

Bodicea Wed 11-Sep-13 22:42:41

Thanks for all your lovely message guys. It's been a tough day for both us us but I know we did what was best for boris. He has had a good life. Got to have lots of fun making babies in his early years. he was a stud cat so there are lots of mini boris's in the world. And retired with us for a nice life of peace and quiet once he was done spreading his seed. Will miss him x

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Wed 11-Sep-13 22:47:50

Rebecca and Mr Blandings builds his dream house tomorrow.
Bod {{{hug}}}

Irishmammybread Wed 11-Sep-13 22:57:03

Hi everyone, I'm finally tentatively dipping a toe into a pregnancy thread !

Firstly sorry for all of your losses.
Forester it's such a heart breaking time for you,even if you try to prepare yourself for what might happen it's impossible not to hope for the best and it's difficult coming to terms with that.
Saggy I can understand your worries and it's frustrating having to wait, you just want to fast forward a few weeks! Hopefully though all will be well.
Bod sorry about your cat, animals can be part of the family and you do grieve when you lose them.

I may have met some of you already on other threads.
I found I was pregnant unexpectedly at 44 last year but sadly miscarried at 11 weeks. We have three DC already,DS 20, DD1 14 and DD2 9, but now felt we really wanted a last baby to complete our family. I had an AMH test which was low but good for someone of my age so we decided to actively ttc. I got pregnant straight away but miscarried at 6 weeks, got pregnant the next cycle but despite scans showing a heartbeat and growth at 7 and 8 weeks,we discovered at a scan at 10 weeks the baby had died the week before. We tried again for a while, then had a talk about it,DH found it stressful ttc and we thought it was unlikely to happen anyway at our ages(I'm now 45) so we gave up. I stopped temping, charting,timing and we tried just to appreciate what we've got.
However we also weren't actively preventing and I discovered I'm pregnant again!
I phoned the EPU directly and they booked me in for an early scan which was this Monday, little bean has a heartbeat and is measuring 7 weeks. I haven't even seen the GP yet, I found it so distressing getting all the appointments through for routine midwife/scan after miscarrying previously I wanted to wait as long as possible but I've booked an appointment now. I have my next scanat the EPU in 2 weeks and in the meantime am trying not to worry or obsess about it(who am I kidding!)
We're just hoping and praying this little one will make it!

BlackholesAndRevelations Wed 11-Sep-13 23:22:44

Congrats and welcome, Irish!

Sorry about boris, bod. sounds like you gave him a good life (what male would not enjoy being a stud?!) hugs flowers

Sorry about your wait, saggy. hopefully everything will be alright on the night.

So much shite news! Is it a lottery rollover on friday?!

fod27 Wed 11-Sep-13 23:40:24

I'm sensing a rebellion here!..... christinee 'twas me that invented posifrickintivity....I have few talents so please don't take my word creations away. Tut tut tut, fancy forgetting all about little old me ;( I'm both hurt and dejected

Wow I've been watching "phone calls from the towers (9/11) " really soul destroying stuff! Wishing I had turned it over though as I'm now a blubbering wreck!

GardenWorm Thu 12-Sep-13 06:04:33

RIGHT! <<<Rolls up sleeves on military combat maternity catsuit>>> Today is another day Ladies, let's start it as we mean to go on with some Posifrickintive (Quote Fod) Mental (Me) ATTITUDE!

We can do this. Today we are pregnant. Time to pick ourselves up, dust ourselves off, and get back on this pregnancy fighter jet and kick the butt out of it!

(Plus it's almost the weekend)

Oh and welcome newbies smile


katatonic Thu 12-Sep-13 07:53:41

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Tomkat79 Thu 12-Sep-13 08:00:56

Great picture kat! Looks very snug and happy in there, I reckon he'll stay ;-)

Fab pic Kat. How exciting.

Welcome Irish, sounds like you've had a rough ride to get here. Fingers crossed for you all will be well this time. Sounds like you have supportive doctors and they will be monitoring you closely.

Forester Thu 12-Sep-13 09:12:06

I'm just waving bye-bye. Hope you guys all have successful pregnancies and without too much worry. For those of you who are still at a fairly early stage hopefully I'll see you again on this thread in a few months time.

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Thu 12-Sep-13 09:14:47

All the best Forester. Take care of yourself. Maybe see you back here one day. xxxx

Best wishes forrester, hope things start going well for you soon thanks

LuckySocks13 Thu 12-Sep-13 09:34:28

So sorry for your loss Forester. Hope you get lots of support and take the time to heal and find yourself here again very soon xxxxx

LuckySocks13 Thu 12-Sep-13 09:40:12

Saggy - sorry to hear that tu are still having a worrying time. As others have said there is still every chance that your little one will not have any problems.
Bod - so sorry to hear that you have lost your kitty. Animals are so treasured and part of the family. Big hug x

Welcome newbies. Here's to long healthy pregnancies.

Today is a new day bring on the positiveness.
I'm nearly 30 weeks now. Has everyone had the whooping cough jab? Mine booked for 2mor bit I wasn't sure!

Pentagon Thu 12-Sep-13 09:44:06

forrester I'm glad you have lots of support in RL! And I think telling your DD the truth is a good move - children can sense there's something wrong and I used to hate it when my parents were trying to protect me by not telling me what's going on. Next time definitely demand an 8 week scan. I felt really bitter that with both MMCs I had to wait for weeks before finding out because in my opinion, the more the pregnancy goes on the more hopeful you get (even if it's unwillingly). I got really paranoid after my second MMC that there was something wrong with me (even though I had a child already) and wanted to take baby aspirin just in case but my GP was against it...she said what happened was probably just bad luck and she must have been right - I had the ERPC mid-September (the day before our wedding anniversary :-(), got pregnant again early February and I'm now 33 weeks. I hope everything goes well next time, don't lose hope!

saggy I didn't know you had to be over 15 weeks to have an amnio! Actually it rings a bell, I think it's CVS you can have at around 12-13 weeks...I just hadn't put 2 and 2 together! Chances are that everything is fine and at least you will know for sure what's going on! Watching lots of films in the next couple of weeks sounds like a good plan! And don't feel guilty!

bod I'm really sorry to hear about your beautiful cat! I can imagine how much you will miss him!

kat glad all went well at your scan - congratz! Great pic, bean looks safe and cosy in there!

nobodies and irish welcome and congratulations on your BFPs! It sounds like you both had a tough time getting here! Wishing you both easy, uneventful pregnancies!

lucky I had the whooping cough jab at the beginning of August. It was fine, no side effects for me!

GuffSmuggler Thu 12-Sep-13 10:07:44

That's great news kat lovely to hear some good news grin

ThePFJ Thu 12-Sep-13 11:03:46

Forrester I am so sorry sweetheart. Please Please don't give up... I am on PG number 10.. I know it sounds a lot... but I am determined to get a brother or sister for my DS... We are here for you and we'll be right here when you come back.... hugs and love...

So today I am still pregnant and my little worrisome cramps have gone away.. phew..... The girls are taking me on a mystery day tomorrow.... apparently I will be blindfolded and driven somewhere.. and I have to over do it on the bling .... o.O Answers here if anyone has ANY idea what that means... because I have NOT got a clue :P
I do like surprises though!!!

Love to you all xxxxxxxxxxx

kjh5 Thu 12-Sep-13 11:20:19

Forester sending you lots of love! You'll be back here soon enough and you'll get there in the end. Hope you can hold on to that [hug].

PFJ your mystery trip sounds very exciting! What's the surprise in aid of?

Kat your pic made me cry - it's beautiful.

Garden LOVING the maternity combat catsuit. Can I join you clad in a hideously bright purple onesie covered in lurid pink spots? My mum posted it to me to 'keep the bump warm in winter'. It's 3 sizes too big and made for someone who is 6ft and NOT 5ft4... But I reckon I could inspire some posifrickintivity in it!

laurafife Thu 12-Sep-13 11:29:28

Hi there

I'm sorry to hear of your losses, however also congratulations to those who are pregnant.

I had a miscarriage last year, an ectopic five months ago, however now find myself 10 weeks pregnant again.

I am anxious and the only people who know I am pregnant are me and my husband! We saw the heartbeat at 6 and a half weeks this time. I plan on keeping it quiet as long as I can...... coming into autumn / winter means cardigans and scarves to hide a growing tum! Well I hope I get that far.......only made it to 5 and a half weeks both times so far. 10 weeks is the longest so far for me.

Positive thoughts to you all ladies xxxx