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No bump at 15 weeks and really worried

(35 Posts)
FredFlintstonesSister Tue 03-Sep-13 10:05:43

I know everything is probably fine and that I am over reacting but I am 15 weeks pregnant and not showing at all. I had terrible morning sickness in my first trimester and haven't gained any weight. I'm really anxious generally at the moment, partly because I still feel so run down and exhausted, and yesterday I had to take a day off work because I was feeling so tearful and crap. Now I am obsessing about the possibility of missed miscarriage and concerned because I don't look at all pregnant. I know I need to calm down but this is my first pregnancy and I am constantly worried about things going wrong. When do people usually start showing? I am 5,5 and 8 and a half stone - dont know if this makes any difference.

MrsBungle Tue 03-Sep-13 10:08:06

Hello Fred

I did not have a proper obvious bump with my first pregnancy until nearly 30 weeks! Even at the end my bump wasn't really that big - I still had a 7lb 9oz baby, though. Second time around, I couldn't fit into my clothes at 13 weeks!

MyNameIsSuz Tue 03-Sep-13 10:11:07

I didn't start to show until 16 weeks when naked, after 20 weeks with my clothes on! Try not to worry. Do you have your 16 week appointment with the midwife coming up? At mine she listened to the heartbeat with a doppler machine, if she doesn't you should ask her to!

PastaBeeandCheese Tue 03-Sep-13 10:11:07

This is quite common for a first pregnancy. Especially if you aren't short.

Please don't worry. I was 20 weeks with my first before even people who knew I was pregnant could tell.

I'm 15 weeks with my second and it's sort of visible to those who know iyswim and you show much quicker with a second apparently. I'm 5,7.

In a few weeks you'll feel your baby move and then you'll have daily reassurance.

rachyconks Tue 03-Sep-13 10:13:54

I didn't have a noticeable bump until at least 5/6months pregnant - so between 22 & 26 weeks. From what I remember it just popped out overnight. The good thing is in a couple of weeks or so you should be able to feel flutters and movement; then from about 17/18 weeks you should be able to hear the heartbeat on a home Doppler. I had one and it really helped with my anxiety.

FredFlintstonesSister Tue 03-Sep-13 10:14:05

I have my 16 week appointment next week but I've heard people say they don't always listen to the heartbeat incase they can't find it and you panic. I'm considering getting a Doppler to use at home.

FredFlintstonesSister Tue 03-Sep-13 10:15:07

Ha, rachy! Crosspost! Great minds.

juneau Tue 03-Sep-13 10:15:20

Please don't worry. You haven't gained any weight yet, so you're unlikely to be showing and with first babies it can take ages to show. I was in my normal clothes until 20 weeks with both my pregnancies, despite gaining quite a few pounds in the first trimester. If you have toned stomach muscles it keeps your stomach flatter for longer too. Enjoy your slim shape and take care of yourself. Stress isn't good in pregnancy, so please take it easy, relax as much as you can and try to eat nutritious meals.

Lj8893 Tue 03-Sep-13 10:15:21

I didn't have a much of a bump untill about 22 weeks. In certain clothes I had a bump which was obvious to people who knew I was pregnant but I think it was mainly bloating.

My bump literally popped out overnight!

rachyconks Tue 03-Sep-13 10:18:34

I had the angel care Doppler (got it on eBay). I found it really good. I would have a home ultrasound if I could afford it. This time round though, I'm a lot more relaxed anf calm (currently 10 weeks), I think because I know what to expect. Just remember with each day/week that passes the chance in MMC or MC depletes.

armsandtheman Tue 03-Sep-13 10:18:57

I thought about buying a home doppler, but it can be hard to find their heart beat and then it's a nightmare or you can pick up yours and be falsely reassured. I didn't show until at least 20 weeks and was still in normal trousers a while after that. Had only just needed maternity clothes when I had her at 36 weeks.

Don't worry about your bump or if you don't feel fluttering until a bit later than 17 weeks. It takes a while before you can be sure what you are feeling as they are so tiny!

ceara Tue 03-Sep-13 10:19:23

I think that is really normal - both the not showing and the worrying because you're not. My midwife reassured me at 15 weeks that I would not notice the beginnings of a bump myself for at least a couple more weeks, DH might notice something soon after if looking closely, and it wouldn't be obvious to those around me until some point after 20 weeks. I'm now 19 weeks, still noticing nothing major beyond being a bit fat and bloated, but we heard the heartbeat yesterday and the midwife can feel the uterus just where it should be at this stage - which to be fair, is still below the belly button so no wonder we're not massive yet. I couldn't feel it myself BTW. I have heard that people pop out quicker in subsequent pregnancies but your stomach muscles will still be holding it in this time!

OnlyThePurpleOnes Tue 03-Sep-13 10:21:52

First time round i was 6.5 months pregnant and nobody noticed. I'm now 20 weeks with our second and you can't really tell in my clothes (but you can naked) and i'm still in my skinny jeans. In the next couple of weeks you will start feeling movements and that will be reassuring. Good luck, it's such an exciting time.

FredFlintstonesSister Tue 03-Sep-13 10:29:40

My waist definitely seems to be disappearing and there is a general "thickening" even though I haven't actually gained weight so I guess that's not nothing. It's just difficult not to worry when you have no way of checking things are ok.

EauRouge Tue 03-Sep-13 10:30:02

I didn't show with DD1 until about 22 weeks (and it happened all of a sudden). I've finally managed to figure out how to upload a photo, pic on my profile of my 20 week 'bump'.

She's a healthy, happy almost-5-yo now smile

FredFlintstonesSister Tue 03-Sep-13 10:33:37

Eaurouge, that's very reassuring. (I checked you're picture out). My sister had a baby last year and was in maternity clothes by 12 weeks so I guess I'm comparing myself to her when there's no reason to.

PumpkinPie2013 Tue 03-Sep-13 10:43:32

I also didn't have a bump at 15 weeks - I didn't really start getting a bump until 18 weeks and even then it was small. I'm 28 weeks now and although I do have a bump which is noticeable to others I'm still not huge.

I was also about 8.5 stones pre-pregnancy (slightly shorter than you at 5ft 3) and didn't start gaining weight until about 18 weeks. I asked my midwife and she said it was because I had bad morning sickness during trimester 1 so probably lost a bit and then just re-gained what I'd lost when I could eat more.

Despite this, everything is good with baby and has been all along so I'm sure you will be the same smile

Do mention it at your 16 week appointment so you can get some reassurance from your mw as well. One nice thing about being small (for me) is I started feeling some movements at about 17 weeks and now feel/see them really strongly so I don't mind my bump being smaller smile

Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy!

FredFlintstonesSister Tue 03-Sep-13 10:52:04

Thanks pumpkin. I will definitely mention my worries when I see the midwife next week. I know it's silly to worry all the time, it's just because it's such a big deal having a baby! I think once I feel it moving I'll be able to enjoy it more.

lauren6283 Tue 03-Sep-13 18:13:53

I'm 29 weeks and don't have a really obvious bump. I'm sure anyone who doesn't know I'm pregnant hasn't noticed! However there is another girl at work who is two months behind me and her bump is way more obvious! I think every bump is different just like every pregnancy is different.

qumquat Tue 03-Sep-13 19:36:07

My bump has just popped out at 23 weeks, but it's still pretty petite. I resisted getting a Doppler because I thought it would make me worry more. By 20 weeks I was feeling little flutters which helped calm me down. Now dp feels them to which helps calm me down even more!

SoftSheen Tue 03-Sep-13 19:39:12

I didn't really show until 20 weeks. I think that if you are tall and slim-ish it often doesn't show until fairly late (I am 5'11'').

enormouse Tue 03-Sep-13 19:41:19

I didn't need maternity clothes till I was about 32/33 weeks with DS. He came out at nearly 9lb.
I'm 20wks with dc2 now and I'm slightly bigger than I was with DS but look bloated rather than pg. I think your build and height has a lot to do with how your bump looks.

melliebobs Tue 03-Sep-13 19:44:01

Some people just don't have a huge bump. I didn't really get one till about 28 weeks where i literally woke up one morning and there it was! and even at 42 I didn't look overly pregnant.

I am 22+5 and in some clothes look like I have a bump, but really it's squidge that's been pushed up by my uterus rising! I do maybe a little bit have a bump, but it's not at all obvious naked.

I also only felt movements in the past ten days. Don't panic (I did!) it will come.
Good luck with your pregnancy!

Cavort Wed 04-Sep-13 04:30:37

Have a look at the bump photos on my profile. The earliest one is 18 weeks where I had the tinyest bump and my jeans still fit. Don't worry about it OP and enjoy that your clothes still fit because you'll be wearing a tent soon enough wink

Another one who didn't show until about 18/19 weeks and I hardly put on weight before 16 weeks even without morning sickness.

But I've made up for all that now grin

32 weeks and I feel like a whale!

marzipanned Wed 04-Sep-13 10:04:13

Cavort your bump pics are so reassuring! I'm 18 weeks just now and barely anything showing.

GeppaGip Wed 04-Sep-13 13:10:03

I know I am coming to the thread late but just to add to the reassurance. I am a 'looks due at 12 weeks' kinda girl, but my friend didn't pop out until very close to her due date. Until about 34 weeks she didn't look pregnant at all! envy Enjoy it - the bump gets right in the way and if I could wait until right til the end before I got a big bump I would!

DragonyOldClothCatPuss Wed 04-Sep-13 15:11:55

First PG I was wearing size 10 normal trousers at 6 months! Second PG I was in maternity trousers at 10 weeks. This time around, Im 13 weeks and have felt so rough Ive not gained any weight and actually got thinner! Don't worry. Everyone is different. As someone else said, you'll be feeling movement any day.
Im resisting a home Doppler, I don't want to make myself hysterical If I cant hear anything!
At 15 weeks, your uterus has only just appeared from behind your pelvis. If your waist is thickening then something is happening. Relax and try not to worry. x

mrsbeano Wed 04-Sep-13 15:22:24

I think its the MS and your height. You're not short so there's more room for the bump to spread out and no cake related weight gain. I was the same - I know I was definitely just looking a bit fat at 20 weeks but a bump by 30 weeks.

Weight gain was 4lbs at 20 weeks and then about 1lb a week thereafter until delivery.

Don't worry, by the time you're 35 weeks and struggling to paint your toenails, this will be a forgotten worry.

15 weeks is still a worrying time - you don't feel the baby move yet and you've not had a scan for a while and the MS that you hated has now faded - you can almost forget your pregnant! At least you should get to listen to a heartbeat at your next MW appt.

Msbluesky32 Wed 04-Sep-13 16:19:01

Couldn't visibly see mine for ages - think around 26 weeks! Really normal x

oscarwilde Wed 04-Sep-13 16:27:14

Popped at 20weeks here. 5.5ft and 8.5 stone at first conception too.

Have a look at photos of Kate Middleton - she didn't look pregnant until her last trimester.

I was a similar height and weight to you OP and didn't 'pop' until about 19w with my first. She's 3yo now smile

It's hard not to worry when you're at that stage where your MS has abated but you're not showing yet, so you've no outward signs that the pregnancy is progressing as it should. Try not to though, it all sounds perfectly normal.

SomethingOnce Wed 04-Sep-13 23:01:21

Nothing much here either until 20 weeks.

Champagnebubble Fri 06-Sep-13 09:09:50

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