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Possible Miscarriage

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vinceb Wed 21-Aug-13 09:33:37

Hi Everyone... Looking for a bit of advice.

My wife and myself have been trying to get pregnant for 6 years and were having no luck. We went through one cycle of IVF and despite everything looking positive something went wrong with the embryo transfer. Those 2 weeks were hell but we decided to keep trying the natural method.

Yesterday the Mrs tried a pregnancy test and it came out positive with a +3 weeks and we were overjoyed as we had tried everything.

She then said this morning that she had passed blood clots and some light bleeding. It's about time for her normal period and we're not sure if it's the first signs of a miscarriage which would be completely devastating or possibly hormonal bleeding.

We're really worried as we've gone through so much and in the course of a few hours we've gone from joy to being completely gutted in a couple of hours.

Has anyone else had these symptoms and been ok?

Thank you

Vince.

Excited2meetmyprincess Wed 21-Aug-13 09:45:33

Sorry you are going through this. The best thing to do is contact your local early pregnancy or BEP clinics (normally in the local maternity hospital) and they will normally see you to check what is happening. You should be able to refer yourselves or if not your GP can do this.
Good luck and hope all goes well x

LittlePeaPod Wed 21-Aug-13 15:06:34

Really sorry to hear you are going through this. I mc and understand the devastation. I agree with above poster, contact your EPU or GP and get your wife checked out. I have read many stories here were ladies have bleed early in pregnancy and everything turned out ok. I will keep my FX everything works out for both of you flowers

BurbGirl2013 Wed 21-Aug-13 15:16:57

Hi Vince
Havn't been through this myself but from sounds of it it could poss be implantation bleeding. A lot of women bleed around time their period would be due from early to late stages of pregnancy. So many women do bleed in early preg and its nothing bad but as others say def get checked out.

& if it means anything, you sound like a lovely guy & very strong indeed. Wishing you both lots of luck x

vinceb Wed 21-Aug-13 17:07:52

Hi Everyone, Thank you for the words of advise and support. We've actually got an appointment with the IVF clinic tomorrow and were going to tell them the good news. I think we'll ask them if they can do some tests. My wife is a bit reluctant to go to the local Maternity Hospital (as she works there) and doesn't want them to know about the IVF, etc but I shall have a chat with her tomorrow when she gets of her extremely badly timed 24 hour shift.

vinceb Wed 21-Aug-13 17:10:01

Sorry forgot to add that she spoke to her sister who is a midwife who also reckons it might be normal bleeding but as it's our first time we've had anything positive happen we're just so paranoid that these are bad signs.. Time will tell and we're keeping our fingers crossed. If there is only one good thing to come out of this is that we know that we can conceive normally.

LittlePeaPod Wed 21-Aug-13 17:40:43

Sending you oth my best wishes Vincent. I really hope its just early pregnancy spotting.

LolaStarr Wed 21-Aug-13 17:51:35

Can't offer any advice but keeping everything crossed for you both.

Excited2meetmyprincess Wed 21-Aug-13 19:01:13

Good luck tomorrow. Hope all goes well x

PoppySeedBun Wed 21-Aug-13 21:09:11

Hi Vince,
Don't know what to say, except I have read so many posts on here over time from people who had bleeding either early on or all the way through pregnancy and were fine. Unfortunately, bleeding also happens when something does go wrong, but just because you have some bleeding, it doesn't mean there's a problem.
Good luck tomorrow, and try to stay positive for now. As you say, at least you've proved you can conceive now. We have been TTC 3 years, and I had a MMC in April, and now I'm pregnant again, though being really cautious this time.

vinceb Fri 06-Sep-13 17:31:15

Hello everyone.
Been told not to worry, easier said than done smile . Scan on 17th. Keeping fingers and toes crossed.

vinceb Tue 17-Sep-13 22:27:17

We had what we thought was the scan at 7 weeks and 1 day. When the ultrasound lady asked us how long we thought since conception and we said 7 weeks she said 'no'. More like 11. Which means it's the IVF baby. We're not sure why the pregnancy result said negative after we did the 2 week test after embryo transfer, but there you are.. IVF worked fist time! Also saw baby and heartbeat for first time and the Mrs is a lot less worried. She's just made my buy one of those fetal heratbeart monitor things. The spotting was also due to a tear which is nothing to worry about. We're really happy!!!

OwlBeThereForYou Wed 18-Sep-13 13:55:29

Congratulations Vince! So pleased you got so,e happy news xxx

Purplefrogshoe Wed 18-Sep-13 22:52:42

Congratulations xx

Sammi1986 Wed 18-Sep-13 23:29:28

Congratulations! How wonderful xxx

vinceb Sun 24-Nov-13 08:41:33

Had 20 week anomaly scan on Saturday. Showed severe anomalies on limbs and problems with heart. They think it is more than likely Edwards Syndrome. We are devastated. Appointment on Wednesday with professor of medicine. They are suggesting termination. We are completely and utterly destroyed... So much heart ache and we thought things were going to be ok... They're not.

Writerwannabe83 Sun 24-Nov-13 09:44:15

Oh Vince I am so worry to hear this, how very upsetting for you and your wife after last weeks positive news. Be strong for each other and I will be thinking of you on Wednesday x x

Tea1Sugar Sun 24-Nov-13 09:55:47

My goodness I'm speechless. After all you've been through :-( Sending my best wishes your way

LST Sun 24-Nov-13 13:57:01

I am so sorry to hear this sad

You and your wife are in my thoughts x

vinceb Thu 28-Nov-13 17:09:24

Presently waiting for amnio test to be done. Baby has distal arthrogryposis. There's 3 possibilities. First is syndrome and things will go badly from there hence the amnio test. Second is that baby might not have syndrome and wemight have some Hope of correcting hands and legs when baby is born. Third is that it is degenerative and will get worse. We will await the amnio test and then take the next step. Thank you all for your kind words of support. Vince

Shellywelly1973 Thu 28-Nov-13 17:45:22

I've just read your whole thread...

You and your poor wife. I can't think of anything useful or helpful but im so sorry your both going though this.

Take care.

Thinking of you both. x

ThisIsMeNow Thu 28-Nov-13 18:48:24

Sending prayers and love to you both at this time. So sorry to hear you are going through this. thanks

vinceb Fri 29-Nov-13 17:48:27

We'll know on Monday the initial results with full genetic results in 10 days. So much hoping that it is negative. If it is just the wrists and ankles I've heard that they can be corrected with splints and braces. We've also got to see a cardiologist as there is some concern about our little cookies heart. Thank you for your words of support. We have our family and friends supporting us and I hope we will have this baby and we can make sure she has a happy life. We just need to keep our fingers crossed and take each day as it comes. Vince

Crownjewel Fri 29-Nov-13 18:00:01

Vince I've just read your thread with tears in my eyes. I've nothing helpful to add but I can't even begin to imagine what you and your wife must be going through, and just wanted to say that I'm thinking of you both. X

vinceb Fri 29-Nov-13 20:43:24

We've just moved hospital as well as we've moved house and the support we've had from the midwives here has been amazing. We've come from supposedly one of the.best hospitals to the worst but in terms of the care we've received it has been so amazing I can't believe it. The biggest problem I have is trying to convince my wife that things will turn out for the best. She had spent the last 4 years as a paediatric surgeon and only sees the worst case scenarios. Have to be strong but it is very difficult.

My dd was born with central arthrogryposis, she was completely stiff. Her condition was probably caused due to genetic reasons, and was severe because her brain didn't form properly in the early weeks of pregnancy. None of this was picked up antenatally. She lived for 13 months and was an absolute joy to us, a real gift. (She died of respiratory failure, nothing to do with the arthrogryposis.)During her lifetime, I did lots if research on arthrogryposis, and many children manage to live full and active lives with splints and physiotherapy.

Wishing you a positive outcome at this scary time.

HenriettaPie Fri 29-Nov-13 23:02:28

Wishing you all the best

vinceb Sat 30-Nov-13 21:32:17

Cupofteaplease I am so sorry. We are going through all the range of emotions at the moment. The Mrs is medical professional and glass half empty. Luckily I am glass half full. I am keeping everything crossed that not a genetic disorder as we have already decided what we will do in this scenario. The medical teams in the various hospitals we have been to in the past week have been so amazing that it has been unbelievable.

missmay11 Sat 30-Nov-13 23:32:31

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

SoonToBeSix Sat 30-Nov-13 23:49:45

miss may I would pay for a private
scan you can get one for around £40.

Pantomime Sun 01-Dec-13 13:00:12

I am glad to hear that the medical teams have been helpful. Wishing all of you the very best.

vinceb Tue 03-Dec-13 12:12:40

The Rapid test results have back a clear. Baby has problems with ankles and wrists but we're hoping that the heart thing will be ok and that the full chromosone results will come back ok.

superlambanana Tue 03-Dec-13 12:37:34

Good luck Vince. Sounds like you deserve good news!

MinkyWinky Wed 04-Dec-13 09:35:17

Good news on the initial test. Good luck.

vinceb Thu 05-Dec-13 18:16:20

Cardiologist said heart is fine. Just the long wait for the full karyotype results. We are keeping everything crossed. Thank you all for your kind words of support.

dats Fri 06-Dec-13 00:16:46

Great! Come on baby, keep growing strong! smile

vinceb Wed 11-Dec-13 15:41:17

Still waiting for the results of the full karyotype. Keeping our fingers crossed. Little one is very active so we're hoping that things are going to be ok... apart from the help she will need when she is born.

scaredoflabour Wed 11-Dec-13 18:23:45

Good luck Vince!

Bakingtins Wed 11-Dec-13 20:14:32

Good luck. Hope the news continues to be positive.

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Wed 11-Dec-13 22:38:36

I have just read your entire thread. What a roller coaster yoy have been on! It sounds like your outcome might be really good though. Fingers crossed for you for the full results. xxx

vinceb Tue 17-Dec-13 08:03:49

We got the CGH results back yesterday and they were clear.. Just waiting for the full karyotype results.. Fingers crossed.

Mabelandrose Tue 17-Dec-13 08:11:07

Good luck and lots of love

vinceb Fri 20-Dec-13 09:40:30

Full Karyotype result came back as all clear. Don't know whether to be relieved or not. There seems to be no explanation for the distal athrogryoposis. Scan and meeting with geneticist in 3 weeks. Happy that little cookie doesn't have anything genetically wrong. Fingers crossed her ankles and wrists can be treated when she is born. Thanks for all the messages of support and have a great Christmas.

dats Fri 20-Dec-13 12:09:39

Fantastic news, vince. Have a lovely Christmas, hope you both get to relax a bit! fsmile

snoozysleeper Fri 20-Dec-13 13:41:21

Good news vince best of luck and a good Christmas for yourself and your wife!

vinceb Fri 07-Feb-14 15:31:58

Fetal MRI from last week has come back as normal. So relieved. Mrs has found out though that she has gestational diabetes and has to be careful. Another scan on Tuesday but the little one is moving a lot.. 6 weeks before she's delivered. Just need to find somewhere to live first.

lyns31 Fri 07-Feb-14 18:44:01

Glad the mri was fine. Sorry to read that your wife has gestational diabetes. Hope the rest of the pregnancy goes as smoothly as possible.

vinceb Thu 27-Mar-14 16:40:51

Our dear little girl was born yesterday via C section. She has positional tallipes. More on the feet than the wrists but the physio is confident it can be fixed. Apart from that she is fine.. So happy. such a long road. Just have to fix her feet and wrists and she will be fine. But she is our darling and we would never have given her up for the world. Thank you everyone for your words of support and advice.
Vince.

SummerRain Thu 27-Mar-14 16:49:14

Congratulations to you and Mrs vince flowers

Enjoy your little bundle, there's nothing like those first few weeks with your first baby... Savour every second.

I know a few kids with talipes and they've all done really well with surgery and physio. Best of luck x

misspoirot Thu 27-Mar-14 17:08:18

Congratulations! What a long journey you've had to get to this point. I'm so happy things have turned out well for you.

She sounds like a little miracle. So pleased for you both.

Odaat Thu 27-Mar-14 19:03:22

Aww, so happy all ok! Congrats!!!

inmybelly Thu 27-Mar-14 20:13:40

Congratulations! Thank you for sharing your story from beginning to end. You must be a very strong couple to get through it, and what an amazing reward at the end. X x x

Baxter2014 Fri 28-Mar-14 08:13:47

Thank you so much for keeping this thread updated and congratulations on your wonderful daughter!

miki123 Fri 28-Mar-14 08:27:50

Just read your full story Vince and am in tears. So happy your little angel is here - huge huge congratulations to you and your wife xxx

BlueStarsAtNight Fri 28-Mar-14 09:35:06

I have just read your story and am absolutely delighted for you both, huge congratulations on the birth of your little daughter x

willitbe Fri 28-Mar-14 10:56:21

Congratulations on the birth of your daughter. Thank you for updating this thread and letting us all now of such a happy outcome from such a long hard journey for you both.

I hope the physiotherapy sessions go well. I am sure your daughter will bring great joy to your lives.

vinceb Fri 28-Mar-14 17:06:11

Little one has been discharged. She has little great murmur but that is fairly common. One day into her physio exercises and her wrists are freeing up more. Feet and ankles will need more work. Have to say that the hospital have been amazing. I doubt we would have got better care anywhere else in the world. Thank you everyone for your supportive words. Have helped a great deal. I'll update this thread with news of that is ok. Vince

vinceb Fri 28-Mar-14 17:17:58

Sorry. Meant heart murmur not great murmur.

dats Fri 28-Mar-14 17:39:36

Fantastic news, huge congrats Vince! Welcome to your new world!
grin

Congratulations! What journey, I really hope your wife is enjoying her first Mother's day. Such a lovely read thanks

Boogles91 Sun 30-Mar-14 23:50:29

After reading i just want to say congratualtions and glad you have got your little bundle of joy at last after such a worrying pregnancy. X

vinceb Tue 01-Apr-14 13:54:25

Quick update.. we spent 12 hours back home before community midwives had us readmitted as she has lost 17% of her birth weight (2.9kg down to 2.4). We've had to go to pumping milk and trying to supplement but she doesn't want to drink 60ml at a feed. Otherwise she is ok and doing poopy nappies and also wee. She is also getting a bit more used to the physio. She'll be weighed again tomorrow and hopefully there will be signs of an improvement.

Me23 Tue 01-Apr-14 19:40:02

Just read the whole thread, what a roller coaster you and your wife have been on. I'm so pleased for you that baby is well. Many congratulations to you all and best of luck with the weight issue all the best for the future.

60 mils a feed is huge for a tiny newborn! I really hope you see a lactation consultant, a baby that age has only the stomach capacity of about 15mls.

vinceb Thu 26-Jun-14 15:08:37

Quick Update...
She's 3 months old today smile Little cookie bundle of joy. On her 5th cast and feet almost straight. Only 4.7kg but happily drinking 180ml at a time. Hungry baby.

Heart mumur is gone
Hip scan was clear
Operation to release tendon in a couple of weeks and then boots and bars.

She happily chirps away and is developing a real personality (i.e only happy when being carried air-plane style)

SeaSaltMill Thu 26-Jun-14 16:02:40

I have read this entire thread with tears in my eyes. I'm so pleased for you!!

liesal79 Fri 27-Jun-14 15:33:06

Couldn't just read and go - Absolutely over the moon for you, and now in tears! smile

vinceb Fri 27-Jun-14 16:48:46

Thanks everyone.. Going to take her for a little walkie tonight! Am adding a piccy of her cutieness. Thank you for a ll the kind wishes.. Now have to get her interested in football, cricket, Star Trek and Formula 1 smile

vinceb Tue 29-Jul-14 14:16:39

She's had her tenetomy... Feet almost straight.. Boots and bars from Monday. She's a cheeky happy little baby.. She is going to be fine smile

SeaSaltMill Tue 29-Jul-14 15:01:58

She is absolutely gorgeous. sob.

Burmama Tue 29-Jul-14 15:09:17

Oh vince just read your whole thread, I am so happy for all three of you! what an emotional journey you have had, very weepy reading this. You sound like a really caring father and you deserve this happiness, so happy there is this kind of wonderful story unfolding in the world. enjoy your beautiful daughter!! smilesmile

vinceb Tue 07-Oct-14 13:23:50

Little one is adapting well to boots and bars! In fact she has almost broken my hand a few times when she's been a bit happy and bashing her legs down! Our furniture isn't fairing much better either! We were supposed to go onto the 12 hours on and 12 hours off on the bars but Surgeon has asked us to delay for 6 months. Disappointed but apparently her correction is 'perfect' and she wants it to stay that way!

BaffledSomeMore Tue 07-Oct-14 13:38:17

Have just read this through and wanted to add my congratulations and best wishes to you all. Total rollercoaster but she looks full of spark and mischief smile Hope the physical stuff continues to go well.

magicpixie Tue 07-Oct-14 13:55:10

you guys are going ot have do much fun, your love shines through in your post enjoy your family

lovely news

leanne963 Tue 07-Oct-14 14:11:08

Omg I was not ready for this emotional roller coaster! ! vince your little girl is absolutely gorgeous!!!! A true angel! I am so glad you and your partner have the family you have always wanted! This story has given me so much inspiration xx

KateTheHuman Tue 07-Oct-14 14:24:40

Just read the whole thread! What an amazing story!! Congratulations on your little cutie! She's adorable!!!

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