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Due anyday?? come in here..part 2

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ZingWidge Sat 03-Aug-13 09:07:20

if you are due soon you can chat and get support & advice here.

this is a follow up thread, but all are welcome!

HJBeans Sat 03-Aug-13 10:15:08

Thanks, Zing!

My regular pains have eased off after my shower. Drat.

lola1980 Sat 03-Aug-13 10:34:42

Just saving my place!

Unlucky Beans, been like that for me for a week now. We won't believe it when it's the real thing!

BeanoNoir Sat 03-Aug-13 10:44:26

Hello!

Feeling dead tired and sick today, and just vomited. Googling to try and convince myself things will start soon, but it's probably going to be a while. Dd's 2nd birthday on Monday and we're having a little party tomorrow so it's probably for the best if things don't start for a few days although I want the baby to come today

BeanoNoir Sat 03-Aug-13 10:51:02

HJBeans how far along are you? Have you been having contractions?

HJBeans Sat 03-Aug-13 11:09:09

I'm 40+5 today. First contractions last night from 3 to about 8 this morning. Regular, getting stronger and closer together, then took a shower and they went away completely. Boo.

Will be induced Friday if nothing happens naturally before then.

BeanoNoir Sat 03-Aug-13 11:27:36

Have you had a sweep?

HJBeans Sat 03-Aug-13 11:37:04

Tried on Wed, but cervix was too high. Second try planned for Monday.

Have you tried anything yet?

Isitme1 Sat 03-Aug-13 12:08:44

Im here to waiting for everyone else to have their babies.

Congratulations to those who have x

BeanoNoir Sat 03-Aug-13 12:10:33

I'm booked in for a sweep on Thursday.

Airfryer Sat 03-Aug-13 15:36:02

I had a sweep on Thursday. Was told if its gonna work it will work after 24-48 hours......I think it's failed sad another one booked for Thursday

HJBeans Sat 03-Aug-13 16:35:03

Some progress here - took a long walk and have now lost plug and, I think, am having mild contractions again. Fingers crossed...

TomDaleysTrunks Sat 03-Aug-13 18:45:32

I reckon you'll be next beans. Good luxh grin.

Any news from reebok?

Teaandflapjacks Sat 03-Aug-13 18:50:43

marking place - 38 + 1 - so hope I can join in!!

Hope things get started for you ladies soon smile

Thyeternalsummer Sat 03-Aug-13 19:48:12

40 - EDD today

Don't know whether to dare hope whether things might be happening. Cramping and bits of plug for the last week or so. BH since about 30 weeks.

Really uncomfortable since about 5, so I got DP to DTD (hard) shock. Really intense lower back pain since, coming in waves, stomach tightenings and now getting random pains in my stomach and pressure under bump. Been on feet cooking a biryani just to keep things moving for the past hour. Going to have super hot bath while I pop it in oven now.

Dare I hope this it it? Or does no one actually give birth on EDD??

MsFiremanSam Sat 03-Aug-13 19:54:52

Hello all!

I'm 39+3 today. Very jealous of people having sweeps - my next midwife appt isn't until 41+1 and they won't do anything before then hmm

Lots of cramps but no other signs. Swinging between desperation for baby to come and thinking this weekend is not really ideal as hubby is doing big DIY job and house is a total disaster area! But secretly thinking maybe that means it will!

Airfryer Sat 03-Aug-13 20:31:18

Don't know if things are happening. Very tight and crampy. Baby still quite active tho is that normal? My ds had slowed right down by now

BeanoNoir Sat 03-Aug-13 20:35:26

So beans thy or air next then? Keep us posted. I'm very jealous!

ZingWidge Sat 03-Aug-13 20:42:01

Air active is good! mine were always bonkers at the end!

I keep thinking of you all, but no time to post.

Reebok, I hope you are ok.

BeanoNoir Sat 03-Aug-13 20:44:29

Think I'm going to be using this thread a lot over the next weeks days. 39+3 and every day feels like a year,

Also thinking of Reebok

Airfryer Sat 03-Aug-13 20:46:49

Zing you've cheered me up.....please let this be it!
Partner is at work. We've been bickering today sad

LittleMilla Sat 03-Aug-13 22:12:01

Just to try and cheer up those of you not sleeping. Had the worst night of our two weeks last night. Yes, this is ds2 but I am convinced that my lack of sleep/interrupted sleep towards the end of pg means I'm coping better this time.

So in an attempt to cheer you all up. Please view your shit night's sleep as prep! You'll all be limbered up beautifully for when your LOs arrive!

X

Monka Sat 03-Aug-13 22:22:20

Am 39 + 2 and no labour symptoms with first baby. Had thought baby would come early but guess baby will come when it's ready.

Thyeternalsummer Sat 03-Aug-13 22:23:44

Any update - beans, air?

I'm currently sitting in semi darkness on my living room floor kneeling on cushions over my birth ball. My back is still killing me, and the pain is running down both legs. Whenever I get up to walk around baby feels like he's head butting the cervix. Ouch. Think I'm in for a long night of it. DP gone up to bed. I'm going to try to make it to midnight before climbing back in the bath.

BeanoNoir Sat 03-Aug-13 22:35:08

Ouch! I know it won't do that much but have you had paracetamol? It can also help relax you a bit.

BeanoNoir Sat 03-Aug-13 22:35:47

Got anything good to watch to take your mind off it a bit?

Airfryer Sat 03-Aug-13 22:41:42

No more to report. Still tightening...baby is really active tho too. Have gone to bed to try and rest in case this is it......can't relax tho.

Airfryer Sat 03-Aug-13 22:42:58

Baby is back to back too......

Thyeternalsummer Sat 03-Aug-13 23:10:49

Going to have some Paracetemol now. Tried lying on the couch in the hope of getting some rest, but back's too achy. So tired hmm

Can't hold out on the bath much longer, so think that's the next step. Might try and find something good to watch on catch up when I come back down. Doesn't help that I'm not normally a TV watching type.

Air - all fours is meant to take the pressure of back to back.

PurpleDana Sat 03-Aug-13 23:11:34

38wks so not strictly due any day, but midwife says baby is very low in pelvis now & could arrive any day. She doesn't expect me to make my next appt with her.
Had pains for weeks now & tired of thinking 'is this it?' But last few days pains (especially shooting down or across my flu) have become a lot sharper.
Hubby keeps feeding me spicy food & suggesting dtd, he's so impatient lol.

ZingWidge Sat 03-Aug-13 23:23:01

welcome "newbies"!

just to clarify I'm not pg, but have kids - so I was giving some advice and lots of encouragement on previous thread.

and now I'm stuckgrin

I'll read back properly tomorrow - till then all the best, rest, keep hydrated and soak up these last few days before your baby is born.

especially if you are a first time mum - right now you can't imagine what it will be like to hold your baby.
but when s/he is finally here, you'll look back and wonder what it was like before they were born.
your mind will boggle, I tell ya!wink

have a good night.

Soontobemama Sat 03-Aug-13 23:31:07

I'm due on Tuesday . Can I ask those of you who have had sweeps how painful they are honestly?

40+2 with dc2. No signs as yet. DS was born 40+2. So I'm officially more pregnant than I've ever been!

Seeing mw on Thursday for sweep if I want it. Hadn't really thought about it as last time my waters broke.

Very bored of family asking if I'm in labour yet (particularly when they are stood in front of me and I clearly am not!)

ZingWidge Sat 03-Aug-13 23:45:48

honestly some find them painful, but I think most people find it uncomfortable. if it's done well and successfully you might feel a bit sore during or after and you might bleed a little bit.

it's probably as uncomfortable as someone pulling on your tongue gently. a bit worse than having a cervical smear
you might feel a pinch.

it's all good though.

Airfryer Sun 04-Aug-13 00:06:50

Soontobe, my first sweep with ds1 was painful. I shed a tear.

I hAd a sweep on Thursday but it wasn't that bad. More uncomfortable than anything.

Maybe it had something to do with knowing what to expect. I hadn't even considered it would hurt first time around.

HJBeans Sun 04-Aug-13 00:34:37

I'm in bed hooked up to a TENS machine. Contractions have slowed right down again - once per half hour just now. Can't sleep through them but trying to sleep between them to get as much rest as possible. Any tips for sleeping in early labour anyone?

Reebok Sun 04-Aug-13 01:23:08

Hi all just checking in! I had a baby girl on Thursday 1st at 8am. She's healthy and gorgeous. Am finally home after losing a while load of blood and having an awful labour. She was worth it though.

How's everyone? Not had a chance to read the thread so don't know what's been going on.

Quick question for non first time mums...if your room is 25 degrees, what would you dress baby in at night?

SourSweets Sun 04-Aug-13 01:52:30

Sorry, missed the end of the last thread as I was off having my baby! He's now about 20 hours old!

How's reebok, haven't seen her on here yet?

SourSweets Sun 04-Aug-13 01:54:39

Ooh, spoke too soon, congratulations reebok! She took her sweet little time but I bet she was worth every second you went over x

Isitme1 Sun 04-Aug-13 02:42:11

congratulations reebok well done.
Seems like twiny had a bad time like me. Sometimes talking about it helps sometimes it makes ot worse but we r here x
Congratulations soursweets
X

LittleMilla Sun 04-Aug-13 02:56:06

Hi reebok - huge congrats!

My ds2 is sleeping in an all in one without vest and then swaddled in a muslin. Slightly cooler here and he freaks if not all limbs are covered though grin.

Xxx

TomDaleysTrunks Sun 04-Aug-13 03:22:32

Congrats reebok. Sounds like a tough ride but you did it! Fab!

The general rule of thumb is one layer more than you are wearing. 25 degrees at night; either a vest or sleep suit and swaddle in a muslin. Hope that helps.

Airfryer Sun 04-Aug-13 07:04:40

Can't believe it.....they disappeared at 1am sad was up further 3 times during night for pees. Ds woke at 6amand my 'd'p came up (he's sleeping downstairs coz he can't sleep next time at min) got him......and plonked him in with me. Thanks v much!!

So disappointed in him. He didn't check how I was once last night.......he still hasn't asked.

Feeling very alone sad

ZingWidge Sun 04-Aug-13 07:58:18

reeboooooooooookthanks

sweeeeeeeeeeeetsthanks

CONGRATULATIONS!
well done both of you, yay!

reebok, I was worried that something wasn't right. sorry you lost a lot of blood. try taking Solgar's Gentle Iron tablets to "build up" your blood.

did either of you get an epidural?

ZingWidge Sun 04-Aug-13 08:00:43

beans paracetamol might help take off the edge of the pain enough so you can fall asleep

air sorry you feel alone. we are here though ♡

Thyeternalsummer Sun 04-Aug-13 08:49:06

Congrats Reebokthanks

Mine stopped too air. Managed to get some sleep though, which was good. Floods of tears this morning. Not really sure why, felt massively panicked and suddenly terrified of needing a CS etc. confused

marushka82 Sun 04-Aug-13 09:08:25

Girls, I'm sorry I haven't updated sooner! After posting on Monday I was induced and after long and emotional labour (which went nothing like my birth plan) I've had my beautiful baby girl Isla on Tuesday 30 July. She was 8 lbs :D Ended up having forceps delivery, lost over 1 litre of blood but Isla is perfectly healthy and gorgeous so it was all worth it!!!
She's currently napping next to me as I type this.

Congratulations to all of you who had your babies already and I'm keeping my fingers crossed for those still waiting.

Just wanted to say thank you [thank you] so much for your support - I loved coming over to this thread and reading your updates!

xoxo!

BeanoNoir Sun 04-Aug-13 09:18:25

Congratulations Reebok soursweets and marushka82

I hope you're all feeling as well as you can.

Zing I think this thread could keep going and going and you'll continue to be needed to give advice to the newest influx of new due-ees!

It's my dd's 2nd birthday party today... I've been getting some twinges this am but nothing to make me think baby's actually coming. It's her actual birthday tomorrow, I wonder if they'll end up sharing the day?

BeanoNoir Sun 04-Aug-13 09:20:32

Sorry you feel bad air, yes, talk to us, we understand the frustration.

beans and thy and air, even if things stop and start, your body is still getting closer to pushing that baby out!

ZingWidge Sun 04-Aug-13 09:35:54

beano I know, I've realized that....grin
but I'm happy to help. in RL I shy away from giving advice (unless asked). I don't go to baby groups either - as soon as people find out I have 6 kids they either ask stupid boring questions (like how much shopping I do - that's not a fun, bonding subject!) or close off as they might think I'm a know-it-all or that they bore me. not fun...

but here I can give as much advice as needed without wondering "do they think I'm showing off", and if anything I say is useful I'm glad! smile

ZingWidge Sun 04-Aug-13 09:41:08

marushkaaaaaaaaaa

CONGRATULATIONS! well done! very similar to my first birth, I hope you will recover soon!

When DS1 was 3 weeks old I took him to my osteopath for a cranial check up - any damage by the foreceps can be detected and corrected.
DS1 had no damage at all, MW did a fab job, but I'm glad we checked him out.

beautiful name as well, give her a cuddle from me please! X

marushka82 Sun 04-Aug-13 10:11:57

Zing, thanks!!!
She had some red marks on her cheeks for about a day and a half and they're gone now. I also had the pediatrician at the hospital check her head and he said it's nicely shaped and no damage from forceps smile

I took your advice btw and had an epidural. I was initially ok after they started the drip and coped for 6 hrs on gas and air but then they broke my waters and contractions got so intense that I thought I'd murder someone. Decided it's not a contest of who can last longer without pain relief and got epidural. My god, this stuff is amazing!!! I wanted to kiss the doctor smile

Cuddle given, she sends sloppy wet kisses! :*

Tigglettchic Sun 04-Aug-13 10:44:59

Can u hang around till next Feb. I feel I will need your support!!

ZingWidge Sun 04-Aug-13 11:10:58

tiglett bless you!grin

I can't promise anything, but if I won't be here someone else will!

and you can always pm me, just advance search my name to see where I'm roaming!

Marushka

thanks for sloppy babykisses, aaaawww!

I know what you mean about wanting to kiss doctor - while still on G&A waiting for the epidural to kick in I actually told him I wanted to kiss him (bad enough) he politely declined and left hurriedly.
then I remembered that I'd just been sickblush grin

diege Sun 04-Aug-13 11:20:41

zing hang around for me too! Due in October with baby number 6 (I so get your comments about the 'comments') and would be good to get some advice from someone who's been in the same situation as me smile

Reebok Sun 04-Aug-13 13:37:38

Thank you ladies. I still can't believe she's finally here. Feels like a dream. I was in labour from the Wednesday when I told you all. Got to triage at 4pm. I was 2cm dilated and I'm unbearable pain so they let me stay and put me on gas and air. By 6pm I was almost 5 cm dilated. Managed to get to just over 9cm on gas and air...but then they realised baby was in an awkward position and no way I could push her out and get to 10cm as she was in way of part of cervix. At this point my heart rate dropped from all the pain and so did hers so they put me on epidural and sped up the contractions through an injection. Then they said had to get her out through vontouse as heart rate was bad and if that didn't work would be emergency csection. Luckily they got her out and I didn't have a cs but had episiotomy.

Ended up being monitored, put on IVs, had a catheter stuck in and lost a lot of blood but am ok, home and recovering now. Baby is doing great! Cannot believe she survived it all!

Congrats marushka and sweets! Great news!

Tom, any news??

Isitme1 Sun 04-Aug-13 14:42:48

Aww reebok enjoy her.

Zing what do you know about port wine stains??
Ds has either that or its a salmon patch
X

marushka82 Sun 04-Aug-13 15:51:51

Reebok congrats!!!! It's amazing that you got to 9cms on gas and air!
It's funny how our labours were similar - I can definitely relate - also had episiotomy, was on IV for fluids, had antibiotic because of an infection, catheter - eh, felt so helpless lying there in bed but I'm glad I'm home now as I feel so much better!
Good to hear you're recovering well.

Thyeternalsummer Sun 04-Aug-13 20:35:08

So fed up! Sick of people saying 'it could be anyday now'. It's obv not going to be .... Stop/start contractions for weeks and still nothing.

Stuck hiding up in bedroom all day, as DP has DSD(10) this week and it didn't occur to him that I might want some privacy at 40 weeks pregnant hmm

Feel so helpless. Just want this baby to be born already, but there's nothing I can do about it.

BlackholesAndRevelations Sun 04-Aug-13 20:43:57

Zing! How old are your six kids? How much shopping do you have to do? winkwink and how do you manage them all as I'm worried about having three under four

Seriously though, number 3 is due in dec all going well and I hope this thread is still up and running as I'm enjoying reading it!

Congrats new mums grin x

ZingWidge Sun 04-Aug-13 21:04:35

black
grin grin grin @ shopping comment! a lot.

they are 12, 10, 8.5, 6.5, 3 and 15 months.
5 boys and baby girl.

DS1 was barely 3.5 when DS3 was born - it was steep, but mainly because DS3 had tongue tie which was undetected till he was 8 months old!
I struggled so much with BF him and he was still loosing weight. I had to mix feed from 3 months and gave up BF at 5 months.

DS5 & DD also had it but theirs was found out at 3 weeks, they both had TT released within days. I actually bf DD until she was 1year old.
[I think there was more to that than just nourishing her, I'm pretty sure I was compensating for lost times with the boys.sad ]

isitme1 port wine stains may fade if they are on areas where the skin grows thicker or stretches considerably as they grow, but it is a skin condition that won't go away, sorry.
A friend's daughter had a version of it where the skin has little red blobs in a cluster (like raspberry) and it was quite large at birth but now has shrunk.

there might be surgical options to reduce it, but I don't know.
is it a large area and/or visible all the time? Are you upset by it?

HJBeans Sun 04-Aug-13 23:04:00

Congrats to marushka and to reebok! Wonderful you have your wee ones with you and a hearty well done for making it through what sound like quite difficult labours!

I'm launching into my third night of what I guess is pre-labour, after a full day of contractions no more than thirty minutes apart. Contractions are now excruciating and I'm worried they aren't even proper contractions.

The timing is variable and they don't start out bearable, peak, then recede like I've heard others describe - I don't know when they're coming and they don't feel particularly wavelike. It's more a very rapid ramp up from 'oh is that another one?' to 'AAAGH!' in a few seconds, then a full minute of pain before it fades away.

And I'm getting clusters of them - say I'm having them regularly every 15 minutes for a few hours, every one of three will have a series of two or three 'aftershocks' which follow every few minutes.

Combined with the growing exhaustion, the lack of any kind of rhythm and the thought that this may not be remotely related to proper labour is enought to be really profoundly discouraging. And keep thinking that if I'm struggling so badly with this, how will I ever cope with the real thing?

Anyone have a similar experience or any wise words to share?

TomDaleysTrunks Sun 04-Aug-13 23:10:19

Well done reebok, what a trooper. Sounds like you did a fab job, congrats again.

I updated on the other thread; DD was born on Thursday at 5pm. Quick labour, contractions started around 8am. Went in at 1pm and was 4cm. Went for a walk for an hour, came back onto ward and contractions came every 1-2min. Waters broke at 445 and had DD at 455pm with a bit of gas and air. 8lbs 11.5!

Enjoy newborn snuggles grin

HJBeans Sun 04-Aug-13 23:30:40

Congrats Tom!

Isitme1 Sun 04-Aug-13 23:45:54

Zing it doesn't upset me as to me hes still my perfect little prince but I know its a cruel world out there and that does upset me .
Today a close relative sounded so disgusted when she asked what it was. Felt like slapping the bitch.
Its on the back of his head and with his hair on its not too visible but as per tradition we shave our children's first hair and now hes hairless its 100% visible across the back of his head.
X

BeanoNoir Mon 05-Aug-13 00:00:16

Hello, to update you all, after saying it wasn't going to happen today I had my first contraction at 9.30 am, they very quickly went to every 5 mins.

Managed to get dd's party set up and started at 12.30pm (picnic at local park area), stayed for an hour then left gps to take over.

Got to labour ward at 2pm and ds born at 5pm. Was so much quicker than with dd I couldn't believe it. We're back at home already.

So none of you lose heart, I was convinced last night that I'd be about 2 weeks overdue and now tonight I'm at home with a new baby.

I'll read the thread tomorrow and find out what's been going on today. Want to stay with the rest of you now and find out what happens.

Dd's birthday tomorrow so they've just missed sharing!

Reebok Mon 05-Aug-13 02:59:54

Just up feeding madam who seems to be glued to my breast!

Tom that's great news!!! Our babies share a birthday!!
Beano talk about fast! That's great congrats to you both.

Beans I'm not sure but have faith. I was convinced that pain on Wednesday would come to nothing again and now look at me! It will happen soon. X

Gerty1002 Mon 05-Aug-13 06:20:23

I've been lurking on this thread (am active on August ante-natal thread) as at 36+3 I'm not quite 'due any day', however after a sleepless night due to backacke, period cramps and lots of braxton hicks I'm secretly hopeful that my body is at least in warm up mode.

First pg... please tell me this can't/won't last 6 weeks and I'm still going to go overdue!

ZingWidge Mon 05-Aug-13 07:43:53

Beano

CONGRATULATIONS!

well done you, fantastic news!

isitme1 well if it won't be visible after his hair grows out it really is nothing to worry about. people are stupid. Next time do slap the bitch!grin

ZingWidge Mon 05-Aug-13 08:02:24

beans

I'd say they are still practice contractions (Braxton Hicks) but frequency suggests they could turn into proper ones soon, hopefully.

the actual contractions serve the purpose of dilating the cervix, so you should feel pain in the same location as period pains - but stronger.

good breathing through helps, this is what you do: as the pain comes take big breath and slowly exhale as if you were trying to blow out 100 candles in a row. keep doing that until the pain is gone

(warning: it might make you a bit lightheaded/dizzy so hold onto something so you won't fall!)

can you request a sweep today?
if yes, DTD as soon afterwards as possible - both will help with dilating process.

pain relief: see how you do. when in labour the adrenaline does help cut out some pain but there's gas&air, pethidine etc and the king epidural of course(all hail!grin )

ZingWidge Mon 05-Aug-13 08:10:10

gerty welcome!

BH actually happen all the way through pg, but are not noticable until last few weeks with 1st pg.

(in comparison with my 6th baby I noticed them from 5 months! although they were painless then, in the last few weeks they were really strong, and some would stop me in my tracks and take my breath away!)

hopefully they will turn into proper contracions in the next week or so - but there's just no way of knowing, sorry!

MsFiremanSam Mon 05-Aug-13 08:47:40

Congratulations Beano!! You have given me hope, I've been convinced I'll be 2 weeks late! I can't believe you still managed to set up a birthday party while having contractions!!grin

Gerty1002 Mon 05-Aug-13 09:41:24

Thanks zing, I have noticed a few here and there since about 30 weeks but only if i was sitting quietly. Now they are very noticeable and seem to be coupled with baby punching/headbutting my cervix, which is lovely haha.

I am trying to mentally prepare myself for a good few weeks of this, as like you say you just can't tell... I just hope not every night is as restless as last night or I'll be pooped in labour!

Do you think it's worth taking some paracetamol at bedtime tonight, see if that helps?

ZingWidge Mon 05-Aug-13 10:27:16

gerty I would. paracetamol takes the edge off the pain.

some people worry that taking it would mask labour pain - all I can say is I wish!grin if it did there would be no need for anything stronger!

so just take two after your dinner, you should be ok.
if you go into labour you'll know!

Gerty1002 Mon 05-Aug-13 10:43:22

Ha yes I never imagined it would mask labour pain, though I don't think I'd be too upset if it did! Thanks for the advice smile.

lola1980 Mon 05-Aug-13 13:22:01

Gerty I've been in latent labour for over a week now, so yes it's very possible that your discomfort could go on for a while! I was really frustrated because it's tiring being kept up with painful contractions, but now I'm more relaxed about it and just keep thinking, every contraction does something smile

Gingerandlemon Mon 05-Aug-13 14:30:22

Hiya, another newbie to this thread here! I'm 37 weeks with my first pregnancy and hopefully this constitutes close to due any day!

I'm experiencing really frequent (feels constant at times) but not always regular BH and cramps in my back plus lots of sharp pains in the bottom of my bump and lady parts (!). I feel like my bump has moved down and the little peanut has been going crazy in there, but in a slightly different place (perhaps because she's moved?). Oh and ive been quite tearful and my stomach has been upset. I am clueless as I have never done this before. Is this just typical last few weeks stuff? I'm toying with the idea of calling the midwife because it's so sore at times but don't know if this is pointless?!

Any advice very gratefully received smile

Airfryer Mon 05-Aug-13 14:52:37

Congrats beano!!

islingtongirl Mon 05-Aug-13 15:07:50

Hi Gingerandlemon, I'm 37+2 so same as you and having similar feelings. Had on and off BH for weeks now but they aren't painful, but past few days have found I am getting a few more aches and pains, especially when walking etc. i imagine this may be like this for the next few weeks! This is my first too, so no real idea what to expect....

PurpleDana Mon 05-Aug-13 16:26:56

Hi ginger & islington, I'm afraid the feelings u described are pretty normal for weeks before baby comes, u will find most of us have been having pains, aches & twinges prob since around week 30-35. I'm 38 +2 & have just resided myself to thinking my pains are not an indication of labour, just normal stretching, lowering & general preparation. (Even tho I don't remember pains anything like this with my first!)

Gingerandlemon Mon 05-Aug-13 17:22:20

Ah bums! I kind of thought someone might say that! Ah well, raspberry leaf tea it is then smile

islingtongirl Mon 05-Aug-13 17:35:57

Haha yeah damn! Thought as much grinfeel absolutely nothing now I am mooching around the house as well, oh well!

BeanoNoir Mon 05-Aug-13 19:19:09

How's everyone doing tonight?

I had loads of braxton hicks and twinges that make you think 'is this it starting?'. When it actually does though you don't think 'is this it?' There's no question about it!

It's extremely annoying when this is painful though.. I really feel for you all but it will be over soon.

BeanoNoir Mon 05-Aug-13 19:21:22

But any 'twinges' must also be getting your body closer to labour so they're not totally pointless smile

MsFiremanSam Mon 05-Aug-13 19:22:41

Hi all,
Absolutely nothing, nada, zilch!
Mum and friends were all saying 'sure it will be early...' - grrrr. Now constant texts as to whereabouts of baby.
Time goes SO slowly when you're pregnant! Hope everyone else is ok.

Tigglettchic Mon 05-Aug-13 19:39:47

I have told people that I am due three weeks later than I actually am so that I hopefully avoid the constant probing and questioning!!!!

Good luck everyone, I hope it all goes quickly for you all, you never know, there is a storm brewing here(no, not just my constipation!!TMI) so the pressure may pull them out???

x

PurpleDana Mon 05-Aug-13 22:42:52

Aww sorry to be the party pooper lol. But if its not happening for me after weeks of twinges & pains then it ain't happening for u either! me first!!! Lol

Gerty1002 Tue 06-Aug-13 07:02:00

My twinges seem to have subsided for the moment - which is fine as I actually got some sleep last night, marvellous smile. Also not quite at the 37 week safe zone yet so trying not to wish on labour just yet.

I behaved like a paranoid pregnant lady last night and rang delivery suite to ask if too much movement could be a sign of distress... I have a very active baby generally but last night was ridiculous, I was crying out in pain from kicks to my cervix and pelvis, and I could see every movement of every limb! I was actually worried my waters might have gone without me realising. Midwife just told me movement is usually good but to keep an eye on it, which I expected. Now this morning I haven't felt much movement at all, though I've only been awake 20 mins or so. Jeez these babies do make us worry especially us anxious first-timers

lola1980 Tue 06-Aug-13 09:29:53

Well I've been up since 5 with backache and period type pains that were impossible to sleep through... Trying not to get my hopes up but I'm due tomorrow and it'd be good if she came on time! Just getting on with things this morning and trying not to obsess over it hmm

PurpleDana Tue 06-Aug-13 10:42:44

I'm sure I had 3 contractions last night - 15mins apart, lasting about 30 secs with build up, peak, tail off, but then they subsided into shorter infrequent cramps & twinges :-( Feeling nothing now. Back to the waiting game!

lola1980 Tue 06-Aug-13 11:04:49

It's shit all this waiting isn't it?? Although I'd rather have a few false starts than for it all to go too quick - a friend of mine was alone at home and her son just slipped out like a wet fish - she was horrified and frightened! And completely ruined the carpet.

Cass168 Tue 06-Aug-13 11:11:00

Hello! I am a newbie to this thread and to Mumsnet generally.
I'm 41 weeks today and going for first sweep later. So far just same twinges and random tightenings that Gingerandlemon mentioned but no plug gone or anything. Think baby is quite happy where he is for the moment! (I also have a really long cycle and always had a feeling he'd be late).

LouiseD29 Tue 06-Aug-13 11:43:46

Hi everyone - have been lurking on this thread for a while. Am 39+3 and the texts and messages asking where the baby is are starting. I'm quite appreciating them at the moment as it's nice to know people are thinking of me but starting to make me feel under pressure! Baby due on Saturday, but I have a hunch she's going to hang on until at least this time next week. Lots of twinges and Braxton Hicks, but I've been getting them for a couple of months, so not taking it as a concrete sign that anything's happening.

Trying to get a few things done about the house, but not quite sure what to do with myself. Not sure if'm nesting or not - am washing everything in sight, but so far no urge to scrub the kitchen floor - ha ha. We'll see!

Cass - good luck with the sweep, and PurpleDana - hope things get moving for you soon.

Cass168 Tue 06-Aug-13 11:57:16

LouiseD29 Snap! I've done no cleaning but have also washed everything in sight and yesterday attempted to wash the spare double duvet in the bath as it wouldn't fit in the washing machine and I'd decided that it HAD to be cleaned. Top tip: never do this!

LouiseD29 Tue 06-Aug-13 13:20:41

Cass - good tip! I have been washing all the pillows and blankets and about to start on the sofa covers. I had my eyes on the duvets as well... Might take them to the laundrette for a service wash instead!

PurpleDana Tue 06-Aug-13 13:38:26

I've washed my bedroom carpet, by hand cos the carpet cleaner decided not to work! And scrubbed the whole shower unit & shower head. Next is the kitchen...

Soontobemama Tue 06-Aug-13 13:48:43

Hi all! Today is my due date but there's nothing happening.
I've had a demented couple of days washing, cleaning and sorting everything in sight. I've been so restless that I'd hoped it was a sign but it doesn't appear to have been.

Now to keep answering all of the messages and calls asking if there's any sign of baby.... I can see this will get annoying fast.

Cass168 Tue 06-Aug-13 14:05:50

Soontobemama Oh yes - it will! I know it's only because they care but I'm day on day 7 of daily "any news?" texts. Feel like I'm under so much pressure...

Gingerandlemon Tue 06-Aug-13 19:23:21

Oooh I hope I get the urge to clean stuff. Our house is a mess. I'm currently mainly getting the urge to lie on the sofa watching nonsense on tv and eating cake. Guess I'm not so close after all!

lola1980 Tue 06-Aug-13 22:09:37

Ginger - cleaning is not good for you anyway. Yesterday I had to unblock the bath drain and it was one of the worst experiences of my life, I swear I have post traumatic stress because of it. Today I have lain on the settee eating ice cream and it was much more appealing.

Airfryer Wed 07-Aug-13 02:29:18

41 weeks pregnant.......grrrrrrrr

Reebok Wed 07-Aug-13 03:37:04

Aw hang in there air fryer! Soon enough you will be joining me with sleepless nights for another reason. Don't forget this time last week I was in the same boat as you so hopefully it will be just a matter of days. Sending you labout dust! Xx

Airfryer Wed 07-Aug-13 06:53:12

Awful sleep. Was up at 12am for pee, 1-3.30 with braxton hicks and Ds up at 5.15am. Dp took him down for milk/cuddle/snooze, lasted 20 mins before shouting at him. Then brought him up put him in his room for 2 minutes and went to get him. Said what on earth are you doing. He's fed up apparently that Ds is up at 5.15 (first time in ages). i explained that sticking him in his room for 2 minutesisnot teaching him anything and its not consistent. his reply was its all about me getting sleep. Cue big row the selfish prick. I end up with Ds (now asleep) whilst he sleeps downstairs! What a selfish prick sad

Airfryer Wed 07-Aug-13 06:59:08

Did go mad at him :/ threw the clothes on the bannister......think theydellin the cats water bowl......whoops!

Seriously so disappointed. He's off work, I've got spd, I'm in agony, ive not slept in weeks. He's not sleeping in with me so he can sleep. Whilst I'm struggling to get more than 3-4 hours sleep a night.

Reebok Wed 07-Aug-13 10:35:22

Oh air fryer I'm so sorry your dp is behaving like that! Hang in there my dear! Am currently at docs because my feet have exploded to my legs and midwife thinks might be preeclampsia. Didn't realise you could get it after pregnancy!

MsFiremanSam Wed 07-Aug-13 13:16:20

Air, sorry your DP is being so inconsiderate hmm
My DS woke up last night about midnight and DH in a grump said 'I hate getting up in the night...' Er, I'm 40 weeks pregnant - what are you expecting the next year to be like?!

MsFiremanSam Wed 07-Aug-13 13:19:35

Does anyone know if change in mood/tiredness could be sign of labour? Due date today and suddenly feel really exhausted and weepy. DS accidentally pinched my arm with his plastic pliers and I cried for half an hour! Lost appetite too. No show or anything though hmm

Boosiehs Wed 07-Aug-13 13:33:22

38 weeks, and sooooo tired. Back ache today, thank goodness I've finished work!

Fingers crossed for a quick birth for all you ladies out there!!

posybunchof Wed 07-Aug-13 15:07:45

Hello everyone, can I join you? I'm due on Sunday... feels kind of soon now! Although I have had no twinges or signs, and also no cleaning urges! And DC1 was two weeks late so I'm kind of expecting to be here a while...

Good luck to everyone experience BHs etc. Hope it's soon for you!

PurpleDana Wed 07-Aug-13 15:27:36

Men! I think they are all so flighty with their support! One minute they can be really considerate & the next they will be so selfish.
Take today for example - my hubby said he was taking me out, make the most of a day where it's just the 2 of us. How nice eh? Well, we went for a drive to find a certain fishing lake, stopped to have a look at another one cos he couldn't find the first, then ended up at a fishing tackle shop! And no, fishing is not my hobby, it's his!

ZingWidge Wed 07-Aug-13 15:42:05

just a fleeting good luck to all and a bombshell that DH announced last night that he changed his mind and as I really want more children he is now ok with that!!!! (as opposed to no fucking way)

we do need a few more discussions, but it looks like we are going to TTC for baby number 7!
so watch this space! smile

Reebok Wed 07-Aug-13 18:20:22

Wow zing! You are seriously super woman!! How do you do it??? I'm finding it exhausting enough with just the one!

LouiseD29 Wed 07-Aug-13 20:45:36

Well, no progress here today. Have done very little, except have Braxton Hicks and irrational ragey feelings at everything. Am feeling annoyed that I'm managed neither to do anything constructive nor to properly rest and sleep. I've just sat here feeling bored and enormous watching crap telly and eating unhealthy food. Grump grump grump.

Soontobemama Thu 08-Aug-13 02:39:13

I'm awake with a bad stomach ache and slight back ache. Not sure whether its the start of anything or a result of the Thai curry I made for dinner. It feels like IBS but I can't go to the toilet. Baby is doing lots of fluttery movements.

Airfryer Thu 08-Aug-13 06:45:30

2nd sweep this morning.....fingers crossed

MsFiremanSam Thu 08-Aug-13 08:28:44

Good luck with the sweep Air. My pregnancy app has texted me this morning with the message 'your baby is overdue'. How helpful!

Locketjuice Thu 08-Aug-13 08:43:55

4 days to go!! smile

Snufflebabe Thu 08-Aug-13 09:02:06

Feel like I can finally join this thread! I am 39 weeks today, and counting the seconds.

My hands, knees and feet are suffering the most, they are swollen and very painful. This is my second DC and I remember my hands being very sore the first time around.

Have had an 'upset tummy' for about a week now, again, this was the same with my first pregnancy. No plug yet though.

I'm so so tired, entertaining a toddler while being this pregnant is hard work.

I feel like I just moan all the time! Excited to meet this little one, we don't know if it's a boy or a girl. Last time I was induced a week early as my waters started to go but didn't fully go. I'm nervous about going into labour naturally as I haven't experienced it before.

Feel like the whole world is waiting for me, if that makes sense.

I've been getting sharp pains under the bump for about a week. They last a second or two, and usually when I am walking. Midwife unconcerned by them, and baby isn't engaged at all yet.

I can tick curry, pineapples, raspberry tea off the list.

Nice to 'meet' you all!

Airfryer Thu 08-Aug-13 10:27:58

I'm getting induced in the morning!! - sang in time of I'm getting married in the morning! It's got a certain ring to it smilesmilesmilesmilesmilesmile

MsFiremanSam Thu 08-Aug-13 10:56:33

Wow, great news Air!
Starting to feel like every day is Groundhog Day now. I'm so fed up and uncomfortable. Grumpy at DH all the time, especially when he's moaning about work and I just want to scream 'I DON'T CARE! WHAT ABOUT MY MISERY!!'
Another week until midwife will even sweep me at 41+1. I will literally go nuts if baby isn't here by then.

Ah ffs, just wrote long post and lost it.

To sum up: Hi, 39+1, 3rd baby. Two bickering kids 6 and 3, summer holidays, no rest, little sleep, painful SPD & heartburn, messy house & trying to have a homebirth, feeling down and like a bad mum today. confused

Cass168 Thu 08-Aug-13 13:27:48

Right, so had the sweep on tues - I was expecting discomfort but it was downright painful. Midwife said she'd managed to pull my cervix forward (NO?! REALLY!! OWW!).
Had a small amount of bleeding afterwards but nothing much yesterday. I think I may have lost my plug this morning but now I'm not sure whether it's still from the sweep. Very dark in colour but definitely jelly consistency (really sorry for TMI!!) blush
I've been offered another sweep tomorrow, but if it IS my plug I might just wait and see what happens (I'm 40+9 anyway so I can't be that much longer, surely?!)

frenchboy Thu 08-Aug-13 13:45:14

40 + 5. Currently being induced. First attempt with the string, pessary gel thing put in this morning. Very painful contractions after about 10 mins and continuing all morning. But very painful internal (posterior cervix, gas & air, tears hmm) revealed that I'm no more dilated than I was this morning. Wondering whether baby needs dynamiting out?!

lola1980 Thu 08-Aug-13 14:16:35

Yep I think we're all getting pretty fed up now aren't we? I honestly thought I'd have had her by now after all this false labour, but no... It just serves to add to my list of things to moan about. Sweep booked for next Thursday which is my birthday... I'd rather not spend it with another lady's finger inside me, really confused

Gerty1002 Thu 08-Aug-13 14:57:00

Had midwife appointment this morning and was annoyed to find my midwife is on holiday AGAIN for my next appointment! I've only had her half the time, I had to ask her loads of questions today because she just assumed birth and labour had been discussed at last appointment but it hadn't.

Anyway all is well, still only 2/5 engaged I think (she only wrote 3/5, so assuming they always write how much is palpable?). Found out I won't be offered a sweep until 40+10 and then induction at 40+14 - hoping little one comes a while before that, I really don't think I can fit any more baby in there! I should really stop moaning as I'm only 36+6 but I'd rather do it to you lot than poor DP - sorry!

MsFiremanSam Thu 08-Aug-13 15:27:08

Iola that made me chuckle!
Just had text from a friend: 'try to enjoy pregnancy, it's such a special time'. FFS!! Even more annoying than 'have you had it yet?' !

cakebaby Thu 08-Aug-13 15:35:44

Hello, wasn't going to pop in yet as 37+5. However, I had a really uncomfy night with very wriggly baby, now am getting flashes of pain in bum and under bump now and then though alarmingly the last 4 have been quite rhythmic. I'm thinking BH at long last? What do you reckon wise mnetters? Haven't noticed it before today <slow starter> grin and nothing else to report.

parttimer79 Thu 08-Aug-13 15:39:24

I'm in. Due in 2 days but no sign. Have been really lucky so apart from heartburn I'm feeling good, no back pain or spd etc. but I've been on mat leave for 3 weeks and I just want baby to arrive now!
Booked for sweep on weds - fun times...

PurpleDana Thu 08-Aug-13 17:23:59

cakebaby your pains sound like the flashes of pain I get down my flu, short & sharp. Mine come especially when baby is moving, so think its her just getting lower & putting more pressure on my cervix. Had them for weeks.
Well to make up for yesterday's fishing theme, me & hubby have had a lovely couple of hrs at the park - picnic, walk & a little bit of badminton! I'm suffering for all the activity now tho, my hips & groin have completely seized up!

Soontobemama Thu 08-Aug-13 21:30:03

I've been having really uncomfortable braxton hicks today. Last one went on for 5 minutes. Could this be a sign or another trick my body is playing on me?

RatherUninspired Fri 09-Aug-13 06:36:07

Hi all, hope you don't mind me butting in! I am 40 plus 5 and feel like there is no way this baby is gonna come out on it's own. Sweep and DR's appointment at hospital on Tuesday. Also had acupuncture to try and encourage labour naturally but that's not done any good yet. Had a few tightening around week 38 then.... nothing! Baby still really active plus possibly back to back so might just need time to move. Had a bit of pregnancy acne early on and that has just come back so maybe it's a sign. Midwife keeps telling me to chill out but this is my first and I am pretty stressed (it's not that easy to chill out when you have a 2 stone moving lump on your front and the hormones of a teenanger!)

Hope you are all coping ok in the last few days/weeks. Can sympathize with the shit sleep - The other thing for me is the heat! I hate feeling constantly just that 'little too hot' if you know what I mean

StartedAfresh Fri 09-Aug-13 06:50:27

Hi,
Not a regular poster but am always reading on here - am due in just under 3 weeks with DS (already have a DD)
Woke up this morning with mammoth period type pain in lower back and bump - baby is fully engaged and as low as he can go and has been for the past 2 weeks so hoping I won't go over like DD
Would love to sleep but don't thnk that will happen now so sat on here with a brew - good practice I suppose for when DS makes his appearance

ZingWidge Fri 09-Aug-13 08:00:28

welcome "newbies"

sorry I haven't been much help, we have a lot going on this week.

I hope you are all ok and that labour will start in good time.
is it time yet to serve babies another eviction note? grin

lola1980 Fri 09-Aug-13 08:46:10

Well the (slightly) cooler weather has meant a night's sleep for me! If it wasn't for the trips to the loo I would've had seven hours last night smile
I'm hoping this rest means I'm ready for labour, two days overdue and having those period pains again. OH says it'd be nice if she came today, then he doesn't have to do his weekend shift wink

RatherUninspired Fri 09-Aug-13 09:09:33

Hehe I like the serving of the eviction notice. Looks like my baby will be getting his first warning in Tuesday then unless he decides to pack up and get out over the weekend ;)

Snuppeline Fri 09-Aug-13 09:18:20

Hi all, I'm 38 weeks, due with my second. First time I was two weeks overdue and had a really long labour. Hoping for a sneeze birth which is over in a couple of hours...

Bored of this now and feel I've done my duty and that little one should get out ASAP! I've started the evacuation proceedings with acupuncture which helped start labour naturally last time. Fingers crossed...!

Snuppeline Fri 09-Aug-13 09:19:37

Evacuation should have been eviction but amounts to the same thing grin

Reebok Fri 09-Aug-13 14:13:55

Hello all, just popping back on to see if any more babies have arrived??? Zing, come on work that magic that got my baby out!

I can see lots of newbies have arrived! Hello all! I'm one of the originals. Hang in there! My baby arrived on the day I was meant to be induced! It will happen for you soon. As zing reminded me daily, no one stays pregnant forever!

ZingWidge Fri 09-Aug-13 14:46:38

reebok grin you got your baby out not me!

I'll do an evacuation bunting for good measure

▼▼▼▼B▼A▼B▼I▼E▼S▼▼▼▼O▼U▼T▼!▼▼▼▼▼▼▼▼▼

how's that?

lola1980 Fri 09-Aug-13 14:51:57

Ooh I hope that works Zing! I'm having lots of pains today and had a massive 'clearout' this morning (sorry!) so hoping this goes somewhere. I hope it's after tea though because OH is cooking a lovely meal grin

ZingWidge Fri 09-Aug-13 14:57:04

oh there's no TMI on a thread like this!

who would like me to link a thread about hilarious birth stories?
it is full of TMI and cringe but it's so funny!

MsFiremanSam Fri 09-Aug-13 15:18:01

Yes, me!
I'm so bored!

frenchboy Fri 09-Aug-13 15:22:03

Baby french born 11am 7lb. EMCS. Induction gel, two failed epidurals and finally a CS.

Feel run over by a truck.

LouiseD29 Fri 09-Aug-13 17:40:42

Aah, congratulations frenchboy. Sorry to hear you had a tough time of it and hope you get a chance to recover properly over the next few weeks.

ZingWidge Fri 09-Aug-13 21:52:56

Congrats on safe arrival of French boy!thanks

MsSam will link it tomorrow, sorry, we've been out!

LouiseD29 Sat 10-Aug-13 05:33:33

Well, it's D-day, but no signs that anything is happening! C'mon baby - can't wait to meet you.

Zingwidge can we have that birth story link please?

Congrats French, I hope you're feeling on the mend today.

I'm lying in bed scared to turn over because I know it's going to hurt and my pelvis is going to crack and clunk. I'm at the really fun point where the baby's head is buoyed up by my full bladder, so when I have a big wee I can feel it go thud back down into the pelvis. I won't miss this! Nor will I miss having to sit awkwardly on one arsecheek on hard chairs because baby really likes having a firm surface to head butt against, and doesn't really care if there's a cervix in the way. hmm

Want her out!

Snufflebabe Sat 10-Aug-13 09:42:53

I thought I was on my way last night. Sharp, sore pains under the bump and loads of pressure in my bum. Went to bed and........ nothing!

What's going on baby? !

Soontobemama Sat 10-Aug-13 09:55:39

Congratulations French!

I'm now on my 4th day of back ache and stomach cramps but nothing seems to be developing. Frustrated!

lola1980 Sat 10-Aug-13 09:57:44

I didn't update my fb status for 24hrs and as a result woke up to a ton of messages! I feel bad admitting I was busy eating everything and not being in labour. Baby was VERY quiet yesterday and I started getting worried, but she's making up for it today by grinding her head on my cervix and making me wince every few minutes.

Bunnylion Sat 10-Aug-13 10:07:21

Congratulations French!! Well done flowers

I'm 38+4 and had 6 hours of mild contractions yesterday.

They started like electricity in my lower back, moved round under and up my bump to a peak in intensity, then eased off and disappeared for 20 minutes and came back spot on every 20 minutes for 6 hours. They were definitely painful and crampy but never increased in intensity. My DH stayed home from work incase that was it. Woke up this morning to nothing at all. confused

I had a bloody show yesterday morning, before my mini-fake-labour, so hoping for some movement soon!!

My midwife told me to buy lots of biscuits to keep my energy levels up during labour. There was a deal on milk chocolate digestives last week so I bought 3 packs. I only have 1/2 a pack left grin

MsFiremanSam Sat 10-Aug-13 10:40:40

Many congratulations French!

I'm now 40+3 and losing the plot. Had loads of tightenings, cramps etc but nothing else. Cannot face the thought of going into next week. No sweep until Thursday. Everything hurts, can barely walk, totally fed up! Making DH take me out for lunch to appease my misery smile

Cass168 Sat 10-Aug-13 13:47:25

Congratulations frenchboy!
I am now 40+10, had sweep on Tues which was really painful, lost plug on Thurs so got all excited that things were finally happening, and now.... nothing. Being induced on Monday so the end is finally in sight!
DH is making a curry tonight and I'm actually hoping I don't go tomorrow as the last thing I want is curry sweats while in labour smile

parttimer79 Sat 10-Aug-13 13:56:23

Fireman I'm 40 weeks today and team grumpy! Going to try a walk and some raspberry tea later and persuade DP to dtd (desperate times, desperate measures as it is the last thing I feel like doing!)

RatherUninspired Sat 10-Aug-13 14:25:45

I am 40 + 6 today, booked in for sweep on Tuesday. I am grummmmmmpy and fed up with being pregnant now. I have had hardly any signs, a couple of times I have felt what is like opening and closing 'down below' and my bump aches. Really think I am going to end up going full whack induced at this rate. Felt something might be happening last night (not sure why now) woke up this morning and those feelings have gone. After my last accupuncture appointment I got really random leg stiffening/ache in my right upper leg. I am not sure if I just slept on it funny though or walked too much as its a bit random for labour pains isn't it?

I seriously cannot stop eating sweets as well.. I think out of sheer frustration!

Whats annoying me too is that I know that every day this pregnancy goes on is oneless I will have to spend with the precious one when I return to work next year sad Feel a bit responsible for that though as I chose to go off on early Maternity Leave (was really hating work/stressful commute and just generally finding it really hard) so I feel a bit to blame for that eeeek come on baby!

Lots of love to other overdue mums and expectant mums out there keep soldiering through

RatherUninspired Sat 10-Aug-13 14:27:28

o and also - does anyone know what they mean when a midwife says the baby is 'free'? At my last midwife appointment she mentioned the head was 3/5 engaged but then I overheard her talking to this other midwife and writing in the book about the baby being 'free' which made me think maybe he is not engaged after all?! confused.com

parttimer79 Sat 10-Aug-13 15:25:13

Rather, you sound like me at the moment.
Does it say in your green notes about whether baby is engaged? Mine went from free to 3/5 to eng. still not appeared though!!

HJBeans Sat 10-Aug-13 18:12:14

Hiya. Belated birth announcement here : baby boy HJB born Tuesday afternoon by emergency section after stalled labour didn't respond to induction. He's well and I'm recovering. Good luck to all those still waiting. Xx

ZingWidge Sat 10-Aug-13 19:10:28

here is a great thread - and what to expect! grin

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/childbirth/1592682-Child-birth-humiliations?pg=6&reverse=1

(I have NC since, but I'm sure you can recognize which ones are mine!)

ZingWidge Sat 10-Aug-13 19:11:33

Beans

congratulations! well done!thanks

frenchboy Sat 10-Aug-13 19:39:40

Just a cautionary note to those of you still waiting : don't be in too much of a hurry to be induced. I was so keen to be induced, but now I'm unsure whether I'd have had a better labour had I just waited it out.

Induction for me meant increasingly painful contractions every three minutes for about 15 hours after gel pessary inserted. Pain relief available was only Paracetemol and codeine, so I'd been contracting intensely for 15 hours before I even got to 4cm dilated. So before I even got to the delivery suite, I was exhausted. No idea why both my epidurals failed to take effect, but by the time my waters were forcibly broken I was insensible with pain screaming and refusing to be examined. I don't remember how I ended up in theatre, but I do remember screaming for a c section and just wanting the baby cut out. At one point I was insensible and just screaming 'please' repeatedly. They couldn't even get me to move in theatre. I had to be lifted and a spinal block given on my side. Took about 30 mins post birth for me to get back with it.

It's not all bad. Lovely baby here now, and he's so well behaved. But I am suffering from CS and probably have extreme birth trauma.

Am sure lots of people have much better induced births than mine, but I couldn't cope with the intense contractors and just now wondering whether I should have just waited it out for another week

RatherUninspired Sat 10-Aug-13 23:35:51

will my check my notes re- head - don't know why I have not already doh!

LouiseD29 Sun 11-Aug-13 04:06:04

Crikey frenchboy, that sounds awful. I'm so sorry you had such a tough time of it and so pleased that baby frenchboy is ok. Hope you have some support in these early weeks so you can properly give yourself some recovery time.

Soontobemama Sun 11-Aug-13 04:12:20

I am 40+5 today and still nothing happening.
I had 4 days of stomach cramps and back ache that now seem to be tailing off. I spent most of yesterday in tears.

I am so fed up of this! I'm starting to get worried that I'm not going to be able to avoid having a sweep despite the fact that I can't see that they actually work for many people. I really wanted to avoid interventions and especially induction but am increasingly beginning to panic that I am headed down that road. I really hate that there's nothing I can do sad

frenchboy Sun 11-Aug-13 04:28:45

Soontobemama - try not to worry. Maybe you just need a longer latent labour. Easy enough to say, but relax as much as you can. I have the cutest munchkin lying here on my chest, but last week I was convinced I would be pregnant forever. Wish I could take round tea and cupcakes for all the anxious overdue women. People have no idea how stressful those last few days are.thanks

Cass168 Sun 11-Aug-13 04:47:42

Urgh, awake with contractions half the night (now 4am). Really hoping this is it and it doesn't all peter out.... Yawn...

Soontobemama you don't have to go down the sweep and/or induction route, at least not yet! I feel your pain, I went to 40+5 with my first and 40+11 last time which meant I had at least three weeks of "still here then?" and "not long to go" and the constant texts and calls to ask if there was any signs of labour by mil which sent me demented.

The hospital started to nag about induction from roughly 41 weeks. I refused, especially as the dating scan at 12 weeks had put my edd forward by a week (I knew when I'd conceived as we were using ovulation sticks) and by 40+10 they were getting really arsey with me for not meekly complying. I did agree to a sweep which was painful and I don't really think that it did anything.

Went into labour 40+11 naturally five minutes after dtd with my partner, no interventions needed. Lots of walking and nipple stimulation strengthened and established the contractions. No amount of curry or pineapple helped either time. She was very petite, 7lb, still had lanugo all over her. Definitely not an overdue baby.

In some places in the world you aren't even considered overdue til 42 weeks and their intervention rates are much lower than us.

This time around I've told everyone I will go overdue. I'm meant to be having a homebirth which adds a little pressure as I know they'll be less inclined for me to have one if I get too overdue, and I had to bloody fight for it as it is.

Hang in there, they can do expectant management to check daily/every other day how you, baby and placenta are doing. It's much easier for them to just induce you, so they probably won't offer to do this for you. But if you have no other health problems and good fetal movement then go for it, sod their arbitrary rules and estimated dates.

In other news I've woken up with s cold sore. I'm gutted, if I do go into labour in the next week or so I won't be able to kiss my new baby. 39+4 sad

RatherUninspired Sun 11-Aug-13 09:39:19

41 weeks today, still no baby. I am ok with a sweep to be honest, I live in a large city and can't say it's been easy to get 'care' and answers so a little bit of attention, even if a bit painful would be nice. My DR is appointment at the hospital is on Tuesday so will be 41 +2 so will see what the DR has to say. I was also quite up for going into the birthing centre we have at the hospital (looks amazing, birthing pool, ensuite etc) but after reading about back to back births (which mine might be) I am not so keen plus after a certain amount of induction you have to stay on labour ward anyway.

I like the idea of next time lying about my due date. I try to explain to people that in my family it is V COMMON for babies to have to be induced/go beyond 40 weeks (I think between my mum and sisters 5 births this has happened 4 times) but either people are not listening to me or think they no better about when the baby is going to appear.

Even my midwife changed her tune about the baby appearing late. She said I was being negative when I told her about not expecting baby till post 40 weeks and said oo i think it will happen before and now all of a sudden I go past 40 weeks and she is all like 'yeh i don't think the baby is going to come'... errrrr buh boom! I am just like grrr I am not being negative please don't patronise me its called genetics and being logical/rational I never moaned about it was just stating the facts (ok I am moaning about it now though!)

How is everyone doing? Wishing you all a safe delivery

lola1980 Sun 11-Aug-13 10:40:43

Soontobemama - I am 40+4 and also worrying. I have been in some kind of latent labour for two weeks... Midwife said she didn't think it would be long yet here I am still. Every night I have strong contractions and they always fizzle out, I've got constant backache and period type pains. Sweep booked on Thursday which is my birthday sad I asked her if it was really necessary as I also heard they are not effective, but she said two thirds of women go into labour afterwards if they're over 41wks. So maybe we can still avoid induction... I thought I wouldn't care but as it's getting closer, I don't want it sad

ExtremeCouponQueen Sun 11-Aug-13 10:45:33

39 weeks, so officially one week to go. Feel very large...

Mummyin2012x Sun 11-Aug-13 13:53:25

Hi All, 40+6 here and a bit anxious. I had a sweep last week and it really hurt! I have another one booked for Thursday and nervous about it. Have been reading online it is bad for baby to go past 42 weeks, my induction date is next Saturday but again am scared it will be awful.
Sorry for ranting just first time and don't know what to expect!

PeriodFeatures Sun 11-Aug-13 15:34:11

37 + 5 and my pubic bone feels like it has been badly bruised and wrenched. I am getting shooting twinges up my fangeeta too. Being very active, weeded large garden today and walked about two miles. How much longer??!!!!

Airfryer Sun 11-Aug-13 15:46:33

Baby girl arrived at 0.59am yesterday,8lb 7! Perfect little bundle

ZingWidge Sun 11-Aug-13 16:04:50

congratulations air! well done!thanks

LouiseD29 Sun 11-Aug-13 16:05:20

Congratulations airfryer! Wonderful. Hope you are doing ok.

Clca Sun 11-Aug-13 16:42:22

Hello all,

I am 40+3 and am getting increasingly frustrated.

I've had no signs at all that labour is close.

I feel like this baby is never going to arrive!

I have a sweep booked for Thursday but am praying I don't get to that appointment!

Rant over..... hmm

Lola you don't have to have a sweep if you don't want to, all care and procedures are optional and they have to listen to you if you say no. Sweeps aren't pleasant, I accept that they can be a good way to start things off when you are very overdue and fed up, but I don't see why they are routinely offered these days. I was offered one today, for Wednesday which is my edd. I said no and she the midwife did a double take. Is it so wrong to want to do things naturally? confused

lola1980 Sun 11-Aug-13 16:58:09

They offered it to you when you're not even overdue? Mine would never do that. I haven't even been examined, again they do nothing until 41wks. Which is good I suppose, the least intervention the better. I'm that fed up though that I'll take the sweep. Can't do any harm. It's the medically induced bit I'm not keen on, really hope it doesn't come to that.

Well a sweep and induction are definitely two different things, just because you have a sweep doesn't mean you have to agree to induction. And maybe the sweep will work for you (make sure you ask for gas n air if it isn't offered and you feel you need it) As long as it's your decision that's all that matters. I really don't like all this bossing about hospitals do, as if we have no choice in the matter, when we always have a choice. Good luck with it! smile

Soontobemama Sun 11-Aug-13 18:17:23

Congratulations airfryer!

Lola looks like we are in similar positions. I have to decide if I want a sweep and if so call back tomorrow to make an appt. they did offer to send someone to my home to do it but that would probably unnerve me even more.

The MW told me to go home and have sex. Hmmm.

lola1980 Sun 11-Aug-13 19:25:33

Thanks James smile
Soontobemama my midwife also told me to have sex! I really can't be bothered but have been doing it anyway, she said it's just as effective to get things moving once your cervix is ready. I know loads of people who swear it worked for them. And I'd rather have sex than a midwife's finger up there! wink

lola1980 Sun 11-Aug-13 19:27:35

Oh and I agreed to my midwife coming to my house to do the sweep, I think it will keep me more relaxed.

MsFiremanSam Sun 11-Aug-13 19:31:45

Lola and Soontobe, same here - 40+4 and sweep booked for Thursday, really not sure about it but desperate to avoid induction. Although frankly sex is not looking that appealing either!!

Congratulations Air!

Mayanbob Sun 11-Aug-13 19:56:13

Hello! 38+4 here and not quite ready to have a baby yet, but certainly ready to kill the next person in RL who asks if I've a) had it yet or b) bets me that I've had enough now or c) that i'll be glad to get my body back may be tired and hormonal

So thought I'd come and dip my toe in. Congratulations air - it's been inspiring and a comfort to read about others stories of is this? Isn't it?

Looking forward to reading a few more it ises before it's my turn.

Snuppeline Sun 11-Aug-13 20:18:46

Oh my goodness Zing, that thread was magic!!! I pooed during first labour too sadly and expect to do it again. It cheered me up no end reading about other people's epic experiences though. Classic! Really needed that after getting upset hearing my friend was in labour. She's overdue and I'm not but I still had a hormonal and toddler-like reacti
Still no excitement my end. Drinking raspberry leaf tea, bouncing on birthing ball and gobbling pineapple to no avail.

cakebaby Sun 11-Aug-13 22:02:07

Loved the thread zing, thank you! Dear god I hope I don't poo.

TMI KLAXON I've had a terrible tum for days now and I pity anyone who gets to witness that. No appetite at all, poor baby must have a rumbly tummy!

Bleugh.... 38+1 <gives self cuddle>

Gerty1002 Sun 11-Aug-13 22:47:36

TMI but DP and I DTD about two hours ago and I've been having waves of cramps/backache ever since... trying not to get excited. Paracetamol hasn't done much, going to try to sleep through it but if they get any stronger I may have to start timing! No plug or waters loss as yet. Will surely amount to nothing but pretty uncomfortable for the time being!

Wooo, exciting Gerty! How are you doing now, if you're still awake?

Gerty1002 Mon 12-Aug-13 01:03:25

I'm ok, they are coming every 6-7 minutes now but not unbearably painful - hoping it's not a false alarm. Just letting DP sleep at the minute just in case! Lots of movement from baby, really low down. Still no loss of plug or anything.

Gerty1002 Mon 12-Aug-13 06:42:58

Well the contractions were 6 mins apart, but i felt they weren't severe enough to call delivery suite. They started to get slightly less painful around 4:30pm, so I managed to fall asleep. Just woke up: no baby, no contractions.

Infuriating.

Mayanbob Mon 12-Aug-13 07:34:18

Awww Gerty- I just woke up and was getting excited, only to feel your disappointment. Still - interesting to hear that DTD did something smile good luck for today!

parttimer79 Mon 12-Aug-13 08:22:59

I'm 40+2 now and after some pretty strong contractions over night nada... Sweep booked for weds so hopefully my cervix will be soft/open enough for that.
Nb. Sweeps are done to start "natural" labour please don't confuse them with medical induction. The misuse of terminology and judginess around "natural" is really starting to get on my oversized, pregnant tits!

MsFiremanSam Mon 12-Aug-13 08:55:20

40+5 - agh!
Up at 4 with quite strong pains, pressure etc. Got excited - then zilch. Think brought on by DTD - does that mean I have to do it again, it was really tricky! (Tmi!)

Poor you Gerty, you must feel very frustrated, but sometimes lots of latent labour can mean that when it does kick off properly it's nice and quick and effective. All those contractions are rarely for nothing, you may be slightly dilated or effaced. Hang in there! Hope you get some rest today. thanks

lola1980 Mon 12-Aug-13 09:04:15

Ha Fireman! Same thing happened to me yesterday, I was having bad cramps all day afterwards but they went away again. DP says he's happy to 'help' anytime I like, trouble is, it's the last thing I feel like doing and I can't believe he wants to either given the size/state of me!

Gerty1002 Mon 12-Aug-13 09:44:52

Well it seems DTD is at least doing something for us all! I will defo be trying it again closer to due date, if I get that far.

Picking up our new car this afternoon and have pre-booked cinema tickets for this evening so it would be pretty inconvenient for my waters to break today... perhaps that means they will haha smile.

Gonnabmummy Mon 12-Aug-13 10:55:26

I've been dying to join this thread for ages I know feel I'm allowed haha. 16 days til due date but think ill pass it very comfortable atm smile

LouiseD29 Mon 12-Aug-13 14:56:39

Welcome Gonnabmummy. Hope you don't have to wait too long.

40+2 here - I realise that's not too far gone, but goddam, I am bored of feeling like an elephant stuck at home!

Gonnabmummy Mon 12-Aug-13 15:32:57

Thanks louise although I can't wait to meet him I would be secretly happy a couple days over so he's an early sept baby like me grin

MsFiremanSam Mon 12-Aug-13 16:03:38

Lola, I know what you mean! Ironically it was on a par with the other unsexiest DTD ever, when baby was conceived! (Fertility monitor, military precision timing!!)

ZingWidge Mon 12-Aug-13 18:53:58

lola and mrsfire

"bump humping" is a need not a want, that's for sure!grin

if that's how babies were made, overpopulation would not be a problem and women would probably have to pay men to have sex!grin grin

Woodifer Mon 12-Aug-13 19:25:11

Howdy troops

I'm 39 + 2 with DC2 today - so not overdue - just on the final straight I hope.

DD was nearly 2 weeks over so trying not to get over eager.

Have however been jiggling to this

shake shake shake senora....

www.youtube.com/watch?v=ic87SfqQAAM

in hope of shaking baby out...any other good songs for baby evicting/jiggling??

Gingerandlemon Mon 12-Aug-13 23:43:30

Urgh I've had a rubbish 38 week midwife appointment today. She had a minor paddy first off when she saw how swollen my feet and hands are. My wee and blood pressure were fine but she said I need to rest now so have to go to bed for a few hours every afternoon. Then she weighed me and told me I've gained 4 stone which is too much. She was talking about how she might have to speak to a consultant and bump up my risk status so I'll have to go to the labour ward 40 minutes away rather than our local MLU. sad

I'm already struggling with SPD, terrible heartburn, carpal tunnel (for which I have to wear wrist splints at night), sickness, back pain, insomnia, constant braxton sodding hicks and painful swollen feet. Plus the nausea never properly went away and now I am officially a whale having started out this process a small size ten.

I honestly don't know how I'll manage another potential 4 weeks of this. Sorry for this megawhinge, it's just feeling a bit much tonight.

lola1980 Tue 13-Aug-13 09:05:41

Ginger - I was a size 8 and have put on almost 4st, I think it's fairly normal?? They say the average is 20kg which is about 3st anyway, maybe they are more worried about your swelling.

Guess what... I had my show this morning! grin I had a bad night's sleep and needed to wee every five bloody minutes, and just felt different. Then had poo pains this morning and discovered the show. I'm hoping this means labour is imminent!

Gerty1002 Tue 13-Aug-13 09:24:17

Sorry you're feeling upset ginger and I hope they keep you at low risk!

Ooh good luck lola, hope you don't have too long to wait! I've been obsessively watching for mine since my false alarm Sunday night.

LouiseD29 Tue 13-Aug-13 09:31:31

Ginger, hope you're ok. I have put on almost four stone - but midwife hasn't weighed me since my first appointment. Hope they keep you low risk.

Lola - hope things get moving for you quickly!

40+3 today. Very bored, feeling very heavy and uncomfortable today, but no real signs. Bump is really hard. C'mon baby!!!

PurpleDana Tue 13-Aug-13 09:35:32

Fingers crossed lola!
I'm the complete opposite re weight gain, I've been so ill throughout my pregnancy (hyperemesis & Malory Weiss tear being the main ones) that I have only just managed to get back up to the weight I was at my 8wk booking appt! I only started out a size 10/12. But midwife never really seemed concerned, as long as baby was growing & active that's all she bothered about. I got quite stressed about it tho.

Any news from cass?

islingtongirl Tue 13-Aug-13 10:02:00

Sorry to hear you are feeling low ginger sad hope it isn't too long for you now. Im due in 11 days, had period type pains in the night but nothing this morning, and no show yet etc, I think I may have a few weeks left, dammit! I don't mind too much, I just don't want to get really impatient/irritable, and make these last few weeks miserable - any tips on how to to that?! I just really don't want to be induced either hmm. Hope everyone is doing ok this morning!

islingtongirl Tue 13-Aug-13 10:02:12

Sorry to hear you are feeling low ginger sad hope it isn't too long for you now. Im due in 11 days, had period type pains in the night but nothing this morning, and no show yet etc, I think I may have a few weeks left, dammit! I don't mind too much, I just don't want to get really impatient/irritable, and make these last few weeks miserable - any tips on how to to that?! I just really don't want to be induced either hmm. Hope everyone is doing ok this morning!

islingtongirl Tue 13-Aug-13 10:02:38

Oops double post - sorry silly iphone!

Boosiehs Tue 13-Aug-13 10:11:04

I'm due in 8 days but now want the little wriggler to be as late as possible as my DH has to have another op to remove cancerous cells. Probably on Thursday. He will be pretty much out of action for 2 weeks at least. Argh!!!

Gingerandlemon Tue 13-Aug-13 10:13:26

Thanks ladies. It's reassuring to know this isn't a completely ridiculous/ unheard of weight gain. I've slept a bit better last night so feeling a little more positive. smile

Fingers crossed Lola!

MsFiremanSam Tue 13-Aug-13 11:03:42

Woo! Baby girl arrived this morning after a 3 hour labour, 8lb 2. Can't believe less than 12 hours ago I was moaning to hubby about how it was never going to happen - and now I'm cuddling my gorgeous girl. I had no obvious signs either, so they really can come any time!

Ginger, don't worry about your weight gain. 4 stone is completely average in my experience and of friends. I've put on at least 3 and a half and had been obsessing about it. At the minute, I couldn't care less! (And I've just lost a stone in a day! smile )

Lola, good luck! Your turn next !

Gerty1002 Tue 13-Aug-13 12:12:19

Congratulations MsFiremanSam! Hooray for a speedy labour, too smile.

UnitedZingDom Tue 13-Aug-13 12:16:03

MsFiremanSam Congratulations!, well done!

btw it's me Zing, but had a nc failure, so had to come up with a temporary one till I get my old one back....hope you will all like this! grin

PurpleDana Tue 13-Aug-13 12:16:48

Wow congratulations msfireman! Super quick! Did the speed of it cause any probs? My cousin had a fast labour last year and ended up with a 3rd degree tear unfortunately. Ouch.

islingtongirl Tue 13-Aug-13 12:22:13

Congratulations msfireman! Cant believe how quick that was - you give me hope! How are you feeling?

lola1980 Tue 13-Aug-13 12:29:14

Oh congratulations! That was a surprise eh?! Great news. Got to be my turn next smile

MsFiremanSam Tue 13-Aug-13 13:35:44

Thanks everyone! Feeling pretty good, had a small tear but think I got off lightly considering the speed she flew out at, and with her arm over her head!
About to be discharged so will be back in my own bed tonight. Happy days!
Hang in there ladies, good luck x

Gonnabmummy Tue 13-Aug-13 13:59:52

15 days to go for me. Still don't feel any diff, had really bad sickness early on but since then apart from kicking I haven't felt preg at all. Don't know what I was expecting but my bump doesn't seem to hinder me any and I just carry on as normal.

Should thank my lucky stars really, hoping Lil one will be a couple days over so I push him into sept like me :D DP has hols booked 17 days after due date so if he comes 3 days late after paternity DP will have the two week off giving him a month off with us smile x

Mayanbob Tue 13-Aug-13 14:10:25

Congratulations MsFiremanSam That is super quick!

am now terrified that mine may sneak up on me at the most inopportune moment

Woodifer Tue 13-Aug-13 14:39:36

Congrats to all now holding babies!

ginger really the weight check should be for recent weight in your notes to help with labour drug doses (eg diamorphine). 4 stone doesn't sound ridiculous,especially if you were slim to start.

boosie sorry to hear about your DH, keeping fingers crossed he be ok!

Snufflebabe Tue 13-Aug-13 17:37:25

I have spent today not feeling right - I decided to go into town earlier and had to come home as I felt unwell. I feel a bit queasy and I have an aches lower back.

I have been busy making lasagne, wrapping DD birthday presents and hoovering so I'm not sure if I've just overdone it, or whether it's the start of something.

Due date is Thursday when I am getting a sweep.

MrBlondesFries Tue 13-Aug-13 18:19:57

Sounds positive snuffle keep us posted!

Locketjuice Tue 13-Aug-13 21:33:26

I had my baby girl! 40+1, 3 hours start to finish from waking up in pain to holding her, all went perfect and just a small graze, born at 4.00am and was home at 9am soooo happy! smilesmilesmile

Locketjuice Tue 13-Aug-13 21:34:53

I didn't feel any different last night when I went to bed at 10.30 but woke up at 1.30 to constant contractions so you never know what's round the corner!

Woodifer Tue 13-Aug-13 21:55:03

Congratulations locket!

Mayanbob Tue 13-Aug-13 21:57:46

Congratulations Locket another quick one! It seems everyone is popping them out. If you don't mind me asking- what number DC is this??

Locketjuice Tue 13-Aug-13 22:57:15

No.2

Ds1 was 24 hours established labour and around the same before being 'established' so was truly a shock! Thought I had ages to get to hospital!grin

Thank you x

LouiseD29 Tue 13-Aug-13 23:29:19

Congratulations Locket! That's fantastic news (and, selfishly, exactly the kind of story I want to hear right now).

Am 40+3. Braxton Hicks, lots of twinges and a very hard bump all day today. I know it'll happen eventually!

Mayanbob Wed 14-Aug-13 06:56:01

Thanks locket quite a difference then!

Will keep fingers crossed for you louise

39 weeks today. Still not a jot but happy with that at the moment. Am going into town to a coffee shop today with a book as active prevention from cleaning.

Snuppeline Wed 14-Aug-13 07:18:30

Congratulations to those who had their babies. Incredible that two of the births were so quick! Throw some labour and quick birth dust my way please grin

I had a poor nights sleep. Woke up at 2am and could not sleep again until 5am. Then up with my dd to get ready for nursery at 7am. I guess it's practice for what I have in store! Will make it a lazy day today I think...

Woodifer Wed 14-Aug-13 07:52:41

snupp "I had a poor nights sleep. Woke up at 2am and could not sleep again until 5am. Then up with my dd to get ready for nursery at 7am. I guess it's practice for what I have in store! Will make it a lazy day today I think..."

same here!!

Due date, had a really bad nights sleep thanks to SPD and worrying about the pain being the start of labour when my mw isn't available til this evening. I'm not usually the type to take every little twinge seriously as I always go overdue and I've no reason to think this baby will be any different, but this morning I have grinding aching pain from my waist to my knees, I have a hot water bottle on my lower back and I'm considering taking paracetamol.

That said, I promised the kids I'd take them to playgroup this morning to meet their friends, which is a ten min drive (but I don't drive) if I don't they'll nag and fight all morning. In two minds. confused Maybe a walk is what I need anyway, maybe a night of lying on my poor unstable pelvis is what has caused the pain.

Gerty1002 Wed 14-Aug-13 13:41:00

Good luck JamesAnd - hope LO makes a punctual appearance today smile.

I have just had my first "any news yet?" text... only 37+5 and I haven't even been telling people about my false alarm on Sunday. Ffs, potentially four weeks of this, that will drive me batty!

Duesoon0202 Wed 14-Aug-13 19:49:40

Hey I'm 40 wks today and no sign of baby ever coming sad so so fed up . My first was 2 weeks early has anybody else been early with first and now due now but late

Duesoon0202 Wed 14-Aug-13 21:15:39

I'm only 40 wks today but constantly getting messages all day ' have u had any twinges ' getting stressed by it already . Have had no signs of labour or bh or show. Does that mean that labour is still long way off ? I was at midwife yes I was still only 4/5 ths . Feel As though nothing will ever happen .

Gerty1002 Wed 14-Aug-13 21:22:55

4/5 engaged or 4/5 palpable? If it's not your first baby I believe that doesn't necessarily mean labour is far off, as babies tend to engage later than in first pregnancies.

Duesoon0202 Wed 14-Aug-13 21:33:10

Gerty1002 4/5 palpable . No it's my 2 Nd baby but just annoying cause first one came early and my bump was so low last time . Sick of trying everything and nothing's worked . Getting sweep on tue if nothing's happened sad but belly feels as though it could explode it can't get any bigger or harder

Duesoon0202 Wed 14-Aug-13 21:35:18

Just read ur message gerty1002 and I feel sorry for u that the messages have started so early . My mum is calling me twice a day now to check on me

UnitedZingDom Wed 14-Aug-13 23:38:50

4/5 palpable means baby is 1/5 engaged, because 4/5 of head can still be felt above pubic bone.

hth

Mayanbob Thu 15-Aug-13 03:31:06

I seem to be joining the woke at 2 club. Fortunately DC1 so at least I don't have to tend to other DCs in a few hours.

Not expecting to go into labour
--nor do I want to- got tickets to see Neil gaiman on Sun--grin but m finding the evenings/ night times dull. I love having time to myself in the day, it's a precious rarity, but the evenings are lonely and I'm too sodding tired to go out.

Anyway, what to do until I fall asleep...? Sorry for the whinge.

Snufflebabe Thu 15-Aug-13 06:58:39

Due date today. I had the worst nights sleep last night, tossing and turning (or should I say rolling as I am like a beached whale), up from 2-4am to eat. 5 toilet trips. Pressure and sharp pains but nothing new.

I am done. So tired and sore now. DD will be awake any moment so time to get up. Urrrgghhhhh!

MrBlondesFries Thu 15-Aug-13 07:26:12

I had a horrendous nights sleep as well - sore throat, headache, covered in insets bites and was up every 1.5hrs to pee. Then toddler woke me up for the day at 5.30am. Feel awful.

Duesoon0202 Thu 15-Aug-13 07:38:33

I had really bad pains during the night at bottom of my bump they only lated for about 20 mins but when I got them they were really sore and i was getting the pains about every 4 to 5 mins. They've now went away. Do u think they were bh or mini contractions or just baby moving really low

Thanks
I'm 40 +1

Duesoon0202 Thu 15-Aug-13 07:40:56

United Zingdom

Yeah thanks
What does hth stand for ??

Boosiehs Thu 15-Aug-13 07:48:44

Thanks for the good wishes. Currently sat in the hospital havig just sent DH off for his operation. 39 weeks today.

Really really hope that junior is sympathetic to all this and doesn't decide to make an appearance for a few more weeks! Although I feel like a whale. sad

My congratulaitons to alll you lucky ladies with quick births!

islingtongirl Thu 15-Aug-13 07:55:50

Hope your DH's OP goes well Boosie - I'm 39 weeks on sat so similar to you. Mum is staying at the moment so kind of hoping nothing will happen for next few days (and am sure it won't and I will be here for another 2 weeks!) - for some reason would rather be alone or just with OH when labour starts, I guess it's just I have no idea how I will feel or cope, strange! Also don't want mum to worry! How is everyone else this morning? Sorry to hear some of you have had bad nights hmm mine wasn't great either, up loads to pee, couldn't get comfy etc etc, seems the norm these days!

Boosiehs Thu 15-Aug-13 08:11:50

Thanks v much Islingtongirl. You aren't too far away from me!

Boosiehs Thu 15-Aug-13 08:13:49

Oh an I totally feel your pain about getting up for wees!!

Mayanbob Thu 15-Aug-13 08:55:26

Hope everything goes ok with the op Boosie flowers

Can't remember who asked but HTH is usually hope that helps.

For all my grumbling last night and a total TMI moment for you chaps- (sorry) I woke to 'different coloureds discharge' this morning. Dr google says it's due to blood vessels going as cervix starts to do something (I forget what) - doesn't seem like show as same consistency as usual.

Turns out also that this excites me somewhat rather than terrifies me so maybe I am ready to have this baby after all.

Duesoon0202 Thu 15-Aug-13 09:03:03

It was me that asked about hth smile thanks
How far are u mayanbob

islingtongirl Thu 15-Aug-13 09:08:30

Ooh that could be a "show" mayanbob! Exciting - keep us posted!

Mayanbob Thu 15-Aug-13 09:09:21

Glad to help Due

I'm 39+1 today and this is DC1 - I feel so clueless about labour. But everyone seems to be of the opinion that it's quite painful so am hoping that'll be a giveaway.

islingtongirl Thu 15-Aug-13 09:14:40

Well if its any consolation I'm with you in the "I feel clueless" boat smile

islingtongirl Thu 15-Aug-13 09:15:43

Ps not sure what show looks like but am sure comes in different forms? Either way sounds like cervix is doing something!

Mayanbob Thu 15-Aug-13 09:17:23

Thanks islington you know- it kind of does. I'm pretty sure we'll both work it out when it comes along though . grin

Duesoon0202 Thu 15-Aug-13 09:38:30

With my first, my pains started at about 2 am and gradually got worse when I got to hospital at about 5 I was 9cm and my waters still hadn't gone and I never had a show until then.

With this pregnancy I'm only getting now getting the odd pain but nothing comes from it very frustrating I just thought t would be like last time and feel so clueless

Boosiehs Thu 15-Aug-13 10:34:17

Another one in the clueless camp here! Baby still rummaging around in there but not showin signs of wanton to get out.

Thanks all. I'm going to have to find a more comfy seat as my bum has gone to sleep on hard canteen chairs!

You get a show when your cervix starts to dilate/efface (open and get shorter, softer, thinner) but as someone said just now, sometimes you don't see it til you're in very established labour, and sometimes you can see a show a week before you have the baby. Mine was like a great big lump of rubber glue with blood streaks in it, first baby. I've heard it can come out as lots of thinner pink discharge though. It's a good sign whichever form it takes!

Try not to focus on labour hurting too much, it does but you'll cope. Just remember that when you start to think "this will go on forever" you're often right near at the end and almost ready to push. Same with the pain, it doesnt keep getting worse forever, it will reach a peak before pushing and then change.

Ask your midwife to let you know if they think you're near the end or in transition (the bit where the contractions are most intense, before pushing, where you might feel out of control or panicky) and to remind you that your baby will come soon. No-one ever told me those things so with my first baby I sort of got lost in panic worrying about worse and worse pain, whereas if they'd said "you're nearly there, this is as bad as its going to get, few more contractions and you'll be ready to push" I'd have coped better!

Each contraction is one closer to meeting the baby. You only have to cope with that one at a time. Breathe deeply through it, use your gas and air if it works for you (nice deep breaths of it at the start of a contraction as it takes a few seconds to kick in each time) try to keep your face and mouth soft and loose rather than gritting your teeth (apparently it stops the muscles down below clenching up too) and try to stay off your back as it makes labour more painful, makes the pelvic outlet narrower and means you push the baby uphill instead of letting gravity help. Having your partner apply strong counter pressure to your lower back during contractions as you lean over the bed can be really helpful. As can just leaning onto them and feeling loved and supported, don't underestimate the pain relieving qualities of that!

Best of luck everyone, I'll be eating my words and begging for pethidine in a few days, you watch. wink

Gerty1002 Thu 15-Aug-13 12:26:26

I don't have much to report today except I'M SO HUNGRY!

37+6 and seriously can't stop eating smile

LouiseD29 Thu 15-Aug-13 12:45:34

40+5. Come ON, baby!!!! sad

MrsLianeB Thu 15-Aug-13 13:13:30

40+1 officially overdue date now! been having aches through the night but nowhere need what people have described as labour so am getting ready for the long haul now.
Gerty I've been the same the past few weeks, ate myself out of house and home!

UnitedZingDom Thu 15-Aug-13 13:44:44

hi everyone, I've just noticed that this in Discussion of the Day!

yay!

Mayanbob Thu 15-Aug-13 13:52:45

Thanks James = oracle grin

Good advice re: transition and breathing/ contractions. Thanks!

Duesoon0202 Thu 15-Aug-13 13:58:32

MrsLianeB I'm the same 40 + 1 and getting aches during the night but nothing that would make me feel labour is going to be happening soon sad
Hopefully something will happen soon for u

Duesoon0202 Thu 15-Aug-13 14:05:29

james great info .
I was the same with first pregnancy when got to hospital so much pain and the ward was so busy I was really worrying and scared but as soon as waters went it wasn't thst bad , it was sore but once u manage the contraction which is usually about 3 pushes it eases off slightly . Ill prob be same as u though wanting strong pain relief as soon as I'm there this time . When u due ?

PurpleDana Thu 15-Aug-13 14:26:26

I was so chuffed with how I managed through my first labour - no pain relief for first 8hrs, gas & air and epidural for last hour & a half - that I worry it wont be so perfect this time and I will be a mess and disappointed with myself instead! I want to go as long as I can without pain relief, be in the birthing pool and only use gas & air towards the end, so because I have strong ideas about how I want this birth to be it will probably all go pear-shaped & end up nothing like what I want! Last time, as a terrified 17yr old, all I wanted was an epidural lol. Now at 36, married & idealistic, I have a whole fantastic birth experience pictured.

Snufflebabe Thu 15-Aug-13 14:28:37

Well due date and midwife appointment this morning. Baby still isn't engaged so midwife unable to do sweep. I have appointment with consultant tomorrow morning to discuss induction as I previously had a bad tear with DDvwho was born at 39 weeks. Would ideally like them to get me started this weekend but all depends on what he/she says.

I'm just so worried tht if I can't push a baby out at 39 weeks without tearing really badly, how will I manage at 41/42 weeks?

MsFiremanSam Thu 15-Aug-13 14:54:56

Thinking of all you mummies in waiting. Strange to think that just a couple of days ago I was so fed up and impatient, having no signs and sure I'd be pregnant forever! Just goes to show that even if you don't feel it, your body is preparing to get that baby out every second. I had no show or waters until baby was almost out and those niggly pains soon turned into more. Hang in there everyone! You'll soon be on the other side. smile

Duesoon I was due yesterday (same as you I think?) I'm having a home water birth with an independent midwife who says she's keeping the gas n air her car and not letting me have any unless I beg lol - so I'm joking about the pethidine really, as there won't be any! confused grin

Having a homebirth in the summer holidays with the kids trashing everywhere every day = not my best idea ever. I feel like I never stop nagging and shouting and bloody cleaning! No rest from it. I'm meant to be pottering about enjoying my last days of quiet not cleaning up puddles of wee and carrot soup and shouting like a fishwife all day. hmm

Holio Thu 15-Aug-13 15:20:42

Hi, I'm 40+4 and have HAD ENOUGH. Induction will be a week tomorrow. Urgh.

bigredbaboonsbottom Thu 15-Aug-13 15:51:06

40+3 today and feeling bored. can't concentrate on anything and DP keeps calling to ask if the baby is on it's way....NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Went out shopping yesterday and called in to see some work colleagues - was out for a lot longer than I'd anticipated but had a nice day.

Booked in for a sweep on Monday so hoping that something happens before then, but not holding my breath!

Gingerandlemon Thu 15-Aug-13 15:57:44

I'm also in team clueless! Lots of pains and braxton hicks and the odd one that actually feels like it could be a contraction! Few and far between though so who knows!

Bexmathews Thu 15-Aug-13 16:05:58

Hi, I am 41+ 2, have been having contractions on and off since sweep on Monday. The pain of some of the contractions has made me re think my pain relief options smile Jesus was expecting some mild cramping to start with , not full on deep breathing and moaning, worried I am a wimp and have no chance of getting through this :\

islingtongirl Thu 15-Aug-13 16:39:47

Afternoon all. Sorry to hear contractions are bad bex sad am sure you are coping really well and are not a wimp at all! Have you called l&d/midwife? I just got back from 38 week appt and going to see midwife again next week, when will be 39+5 and she said she may try a sweep - eek! How soon after did you feel contractions? would it be silly to still try and go to my prenatal pilates class that afternoon or should i just cancel now (need to 12 hours before)? Worrying about silly things!

UnitedZingDom Thu 15-Aug-13 16:47:09

cake is finally here!

Bexmathews Thu 15-Aug-13 16:59:58

Mine started about 3 hours after sweep, midwife did say it was a good one! Had contractions right up till 4 am in morning, called hospital was told to take bath and call back if they continued. Contractions soon wore off , till 6 pm tuesday then went through it all again Tuesday night. Nothing Wednesday and then today have started again since about 3 ish. Hope it leads to something this time. Good luck with your sweep smile

islingtongirl Thu 15-Aug-13 17:03:12

Hope it does Bex - fingers crossed for you here! Hopefully all these contractions are all doing something and when it starts for definite it will all be over quickly!

Mayanbob Thu 15-Aug-13 17:07:37

fingers crossed bex!

Duesoon0202 Thu 15-Aug-13 17:10:17

james yeah I was due yesterday I'm the same well not with the home birth couldn't do that so well done u smile but I just feel as though I'm shouting at my wee one constantly and I'm so tired sad luckily he starts nursery again next week but was hoping baby would be here by then . Just been down cleaning all the floors hoping that may have helped but feel totally fine

Duesoon0202 Thu 15-Aug-13 17:13:17

bigred my mum is the same phones constantly asking how I'm feeling ill be turning phone off by sat at this rate sad

bigredbaboonsbottom Thu 15-Aug-13 17:49:25

My mum's being good but DP's mum.... lives close by and is constantly checking up on me.

And my sister and eldest niece....constant messages!

I suppose that I should be grateful that people care, but when you feel like a flippin' walrus on the beach, I'm afraid my patience is wearing thin...

And I'm terrified of when the pain starts...

Gerty1002 Thu 15-Aug-13 18:01:07

OK wise ladies, it seems I may have a repeat of Sunday night on my hands after DTD again with DP an hour ago... if this is yet another false alarm should I:

1: Stop DTD as it is clearly doing crazy things to my body and possibly tiring me out for the real thing

2: Keep DTD as it is doing positive things to my body, just slower than I hoped

3: Ring delivery suite and ask their advice

DP has to go to work in half an hour so I wish I could have a definite sign either way!

Bexmathews Thu 15-Aug-13 18:18:57

Exciting! If it is a false one I'd ring and ask for advice smile good luck

UnitedZingDom Thu 15-Aug-13 18:25:14

gerty

keep DTD! as long as the waters have not broken its safe.

Gerty1002 Thu 15-Aug-13 19:06:05

Well I've sent DP off to work with the strict instructions to keep his phone handy!

Pains getting stronger, a bath helped a little but I got too hot and bothered so got out. Time to start counting!

LouiseD29 Thu 15-Aug-13 19:23:20

Oooh, good luck Gerty!

Woodifer Thu 15-Aug-13 19:24:40

ooh gerty hope this is it for you!

I'm 40+6 with DS2 - DS1 arrived pretty much bang on time and this one seemed ready to go really early, head engaged at 37 weeks, cervix was 2cm and 60% 2 weeks ago, I lost plug a week ago. etc But...no baby!!! I know it's stupid and that every pg is different but having not been 'late' before I really, really didn't expect to be overdue this time. I think having a toddler to look after and really horrendous SPD which means I haven't been able to drive or walk very far for last 3 weeks has made it especially tricky. confused

I've tried everything to try and get things moving - DTD (despite wonky pelvis!), bouncing energetically on birth ball, walking, spicy food, lunge exercises and i've had 2 sweeps done!!! But baby seems content to stay put so induction is provisionally booked for Monday. Keeping fx something happens tomorrow or over the weekend tho because I was really hoping for a nice, relatively calm delivery, maybe to use birth pool etc. and induction will be a v diff experience. But just trying not to go mad before then!!!

Good luck gerty - v jealous!!!

Duesoon0202 Thu 15-Aug-13 20:08:42

bigred it is nice that folk care that much for us but as all my family live really close and in a really small village even when I go down street I get of locals aw ur still here I'm like yes !!! My patience wearing thin as well .

cakebaby Thu 15-Aug-13 20:19:37

Hello, need some advice please..... had 38 wk appt today, baby is still back to back, head down but kind of twisted. Seems to be lying on his side, I feel most movement on my left, with waving hands in my groin. He's been likevthis

cakebaby Thu 15-Aug-13 20:28:53

Whoops! Stupid tablet grrrrr.

He's been like this for weeks and shows no sign of shifting. I'm leaning forward and rocking side to side on my ball, MW reminded me about inversion today so had a look at spinning babies. Tried the technique hanging off sofa, just ended up with painful back, bump, shoulder, neck & elbows, feeling a bit sick!

Can't do the up and down stairs sideways thing (spiral stairs). I have an old coccyx injury which doesn't help either.

How am I supposed to be sleeping? I've been on my side with a complicated pillow set up, should I be on my right or left or does it not matter?

No signs of anything happening, he's not engaged, probably due to his position. Any ideas or tips?

38+5

Gerty1002 Thu 15-Aug-13 20:55:16

Contractions are every 5 minutes, 1-1:30 mins long, but not painful enough to go in yet. Midwife said I sounded too calm for hospital haha, never mind!

Hope this goes somewhere! Debating whether to rest, bounce or start cleaning!

islingtongirl Thu 15-Aug-13 21:01:36

Ooh gerty this is exciting - glad not too painful, you sound like you are coping well. Keep us updated!

Gerty1002 Thu 15-Aug-13 21:02:35

LittleMissSnowshine I hope my baby isn't as stubborn as yours! And I hope you don't have to wait much longer!

Gerty1002 Thu 15-Aug-13 21:03:59

Don't get too excited for me islingtongirl, I had 6.5 hours of this on Sunday then nothing until this evening! Think baby just likes playing tricks on me...

bigredbaboonsbottom Thu 15-Aug-13 21:07:15

duesoon yeah, village scenario here to - my family are two hours away, but DP's all "round the corner" and with average age of the cul-de-sac about 120, nobody has anything better to do than curtain twitch! Keep smiling, makes them wonder what you've been up to!

cakebaby there was a lady in our antenatal classes who was back to back and the senior midwife lady advised her to bounce on her ball but to make sure that baby was awake when doing it, otherwise it was a waste of time. Wonder if it's the same for all exercises?

She also said that scrubbing the floor, or anything else that involved being on all fours was good.

I'd say that anyway you can get comfy and get some sleep must be the most important thing, but I stand to be corrected - I've slept on my right side all the way through, despite reading somewhere that left side is best.

Good luck Gerty, very exciting!

Bexmathews Thu 15-Aug-13 21:09:50

smile gerty, mine are coming every 10 ish at the moment lasting for about a minute each. Really hope this is it this time smile

Good luck

Gerty1002 Thu 15-Aug-13 21:26:16

Good luck to you too! Off to do some cleaning to distract myself and hopefully let gravity do its thing smile

Good luck bex and gerty! If it slows down try nipple stimulation to get it going again (rub whole nipple area with fingers or palm of hand, not just twiddling) worked for me when labour slowed right down with second baby. Stop if it gets the contractions too fast/intense. Ooh, exciting! smile

UnitedZingDom Thu 15-Aug-13 21:37:06

good luck bex and gerty !

I'll put up another eviction note later.
wink

for all new arrivals - I'm Zing and I posted thread (NC since)

I'm here to cheer you all on and answer questions. sorry I've been absent.
back now

and Congratulations Locket well done!thanks

Duesoon0202 Thu 15-Aug-13 21:55:01

Ah good luck bex & gerty I'm very jealous ha.
But I had pains last night for a about half n hour then nothing and tonight my back is agony - don't know if it means anything or not don't want to get hopes up. But I've also no appetite no sure if thAt means anything (confused)
gerty I tried cleaning today today but don't think it done anything

Do you's think Dtd works ?

Duesoon0202 Thu 15-Aug-13 22:02:38

littlemisssnowshine I'm the same was 2 wks early with first baby and now at 40 +1 i always thought I'd be early this time , think its worse having baby early first time .
But I'm the same the baby's head has been down and ready to go for weeks but nothing happening sad I'm getting sweep next tue so I'm hoping I go before then but I can't see that happening

MrsLianeB Thu 15-Aug-13 22:08:14

Had some mild contractions earlier today but they've disappeared but did lose quite a bit of mucas (sorry tmi) too so staying positive. Had bad backache so stuck the tens on and got a lot of relief from it.

duesoon - unfortunately dtd has done nothing for me!! But still worth a shot, you never know!! Sweep worked a treat for me with DS1 but have had 2 so far and apart from a few hours of cramping afterwards...nothing! Ah we'll get there eventually lol

cakebaby - DS1 was back o back and breech. Hanging off sofa and bouncing on ball got him out of breech at 34 weeks but he stayed back to back. Labour was llllonnnggg and sore but he was delivered naturally in the end. Good luck!

Gerty1002 Thu 15-Aug-13 22:21:05

I think we have another false alarm sad.

For me DTD apparently brings on false labour... hardly seems worth it for the discomfort and disappointment! But then I guess it will probably help things along when my body is closer to being ready.

How frustrating sad

UnitedZingDom Thu 15-Aug-13 22:28:39

duesoon

sweep and DTD combined worked for us 3 out of 3 times with DS3, DS5 and DD!

(DS1 & DS2 were induced, DS4 was ELSC)

welshbetty77 Thu 15-Aug-13 23:18:59

Hello! Brand new on here but long time lurker... it seems that every inane pregnancy question I've had and googled has at one time been discussed on mumsnet! Anyway, I'm 39 weeks exactly today and have juuuuust started tipping over to the slightly fed up stage, feel that body is definitely 'getting ready' with the general aches pains and on/off periody type pains but seriously cannot believe how much the little 'un is still moving about in there! Either he/she's having a whale of a time or protesting about still being in there! Anyway, figured as I'm often up late/awake in middle of night these days I'd say hi! Good luck everyone...eek, isn't it so exciting!!!

Gerty1002 Fri 16-Aug-13 06:40:20

Welcome to the fed up club welshbetty

I've had a grand total of two hours sleep, baby still burrowing around very low, contractions have regressed back to irregular braxton hicks and I've had some random sickness.

Very fed up now sad I really don't want four weeks of this!

Gerty1002 Fri 16-Aug-13 06:42:02

Any news this morning bex?

Gerty1002 Fri 16-Aug-13 08:25:52

Well JamesAnd I tried your advice re nipple stimulation this morning and it brought on a hellish cramp then a 'clear-out' (tmi) very soon after! Got in bath and tried it again and sure enough it brought on a contraction...Perhaps I should just keep doing it until baby's head is poking out haha smile

Got a really spicy (and delicious!) takeaway from a Nepalese place last night - thought it hadn't done anything at all but then woke up at 4am with stomach cramps and had to run to loo (sorry sorry TMI!). Afterwards loads of BH and really bad back pain for half an hour and I was briefly excited grin But then it all died down again and this morning...nothing!! 41 weeks today confused

Duesoon0202 Fri 16-Aug-13 08:35:11

gerty when u due
Wish something would work for me so fed up . Sometimes the baby feels very low then I feel a kick really high up and I just think get yourself further down sad

I'm no expert but it helped me! I did mine in the bath too, before or after walking round the hospital for ages. A clear out sounds like a good sign!

Poor you, I remember days of this with my first baby (mon-thurs) it was incredibly frustrating and tiring. It will happen, all this contracting will be doing something, remember to eat and rest, it might turn into proper labour later. x

Duesoon0202 Fri 16-Aug-13 08:38:57

littlemisssnowsunshihe
That's the same for me if I have things too spicy, too much pineapple or go for big walk I seem to get bad pains then it all goes away , getting sick of trying things just wish it would come . Have u had ur sweep yet

StartedAfresh Fri 16-Aug-13 09:14:36

Was getting giddy last night - awful contraction like pains woke me up and felt very low down with a straining sensation towards my bum - thought something was happening - tried to sleep but they kept me up for about 2 hours - now nothing!! Bit of backache so hoping extra cleaning and walking about the house might do something - they felt very different to the BH I have been feeling recently!
What's the bet I will still be saying the exact same thing next week smile

Gerty1002 Fri 16-Aug-13 09:30:54

duesoon I'm not due until two weeks today officially but have always had a feeling baby would come early, and have never been convinced about my date as it has changed twice!

Bexmathews Fri 16-Aug-13 10:03:35

Morning all, false alarm for me too sad , irregular pains all through the night again. Tried nipple thing whilst bouncing on ball, before retiring to bed . Each day is now like ground hog day sad husband sound asleep whilst I am moaning and groaning and deep breathing! Not sure what to do with myself day , worst case am being induced on Tuesday.

duesoon - I've already had 2 sweeps done at 39 weeks and 39+5 - second time was a really thorough one and I had about 12 hours of really persistent back ache but I put on tens machine and it disappeared!!

Feeling really exhausted now - I've been pretty anaemic, SPD has been bad and I've been off work with a 2 year old to look after by myself for a month now. With every day that passes I feel like I have less energy to get through labour and first few sleepless weeks. wish he had arrived a fortnight ago!! Going to try and persuade DS to have a daytime nap so I can have one now too lol

LouiseD29 Fri 16-Aug-13 12:22:32

Hello everyone, sorry to hear about all the false alarms - they are still a sign that something is happening, I guess. Hopefully they will step up a gear and get moving soon!

Nothing over here. 40+6. Sweep booked for tomorrow morning. Feeling pretty fed up sad

ZingWantsCake Fri 16-Aug-13 12:23:23

I started a new thread in AIBU to get the cake emoticon back.

I want cake!

I had to NC and I'm begging you to help!

(good luck contracting and all, Ill be back later...)

cakebaby Fri 16-Aug-13 12:28:17

big red and littlemiss thank you for your advice, I'll get on with floor cleaning & TV watching on all fours!

bex and Gerty and others im patiently waiting, sending you all labour vibes! I'm sure it'll happen for you soon.

MW has booked me for a sweep on due date in 1 week, no other signs. Whatsoever. Yet.

Gerty1002 Fri 16-Aug-13 12:29:49

Sorry to hear that bex

Still contracting away over here but not getting any stronger at all. Counting the hours til DP gets home so we can go for a walk, don't really want to go on one alone.

Not sure what to do with myself in the mean time as my house has been reverted back to its original 'show home' status due to last night's burst of nesting.

Gerty1002 Fri 16-Aug-13 12:32:45

Also thanks for all the good wishes and labour vibes. I think I might go buy ingredients to bake - surely a box of cupcakes would go down a treat in delivery suite if that's where I end up today. And if not I'm sure I wont have any trouble eating them myself smile

Duesoon0202 Fri 16-Aug-13 12:48:32

Sorry if its tmi but I've had a really dodgy belly since yes I've tried to stay away from spicy food jus t eating plain food now so surely it can't be to do with what I'm eating . Do u think it could be to do with baby or labour coming soon I really hope so .also it's agony to walk far . Luckily my boy is away to nursery all until 6 tonight so I'm forgetting about housework and off for sleep .

gerty - supposedly making plans to do something is 'guaranteed' to start labour so making plans to make cupcakes might count?? I had tix to take DS to see a kids production of room on the broom this week tho and i was sure my mum would end up being the one taking him cos i'd be off having the baby but nope!! grin

duesoon- supposedly a dodgy tummy is a sign of labour being imminent but i had a dodgy tummy y'day and last night but not in labour today and it didn't happen for me before i went into labour with DS either. So i'd prob stick to plain food and plenty of fluid just in case it's a bug instead cos you don't want to get dehydrated.

Good luck for anyone about to have a sweep done! I think impact going to rest up today cos all the walking, bouncing, cleaning and dtd hasn't worked and im wrecked so might as well just conserve energy at this point, esp with induction booked for Mon morning!!

Gingerandlemon Fri 16-Aug-13 13:26:55

I've had a very odd night of weird dreams and waking up feeling strange - once gagging in my sleep and once shivering so violently I ache today. Then I had a scary no movements morning which has turned into a party in my belly confused.

Bit wishful thinkingy to see these as obscure signs the baby is coming?!

Gerty1002 Fri 16-Aug-13 14:02:56

LittleMiss I hope so, maybe theu are destined to go un-iced haha. Also have goddaughter's 3rd birthday party tomorrow so that counts too smile.

ginger We love a bit of wishful thinking, as you can probably tell smile

MrBlondesFries Fri 16-Aug-13 14:07:41

39+5....no signs yet....am getting fed up of ppl telling me I've dropped def haven't MW confirmed this lus it's baby number 2) and that "it'll be any day now....".

Holio Fri 16-Aug-13 14:18:15

Fuck my fucking life I am SO OVER BEING PREGNANT

parttimer79 Fri 16-Aug-13 15:35:40

41 weeks today FML I'm going to be pregnant forever!
Had fairly regular contractions about every half hour since 4 this morn but no progress. Booked to have my hair cut tomorrow and dinner with DP to get baby to thwart my plans smile
Going to do some more housework and bounce on the ball. Dtd appears to have no effect but at least it is nice to have some couple time before baby arrives - can you see me desperately trying to think positive??

Hello! I am 38+3 with second baby. First was four years ago, came in his own sweet sweet time weighing 9 lb 5 oz at 42 weeks (but there were circumstances... we weren't living in our own house so I had all the wrong hormones going on, I now think. Not ideal oxytocin conditions!) So, due date is 27th, I'd quite like an August baby, and this one feels big so am intrigued to see if it beats DS for weight! Don't know if boy or girl.

Have had curry for the last two nights and the leftovers for lunches. If I could eat spicy food for breakfast I would! DTD this afternoon which was hilarious when I tried to add nipple twiddling into the mix - DH couldn't do two things at once, er, rhythm-wise, and also said it made him think of Kryten from Red Dwarf not being able to get Jazz FM...

lola1980 Fri 16-Aug-13 16:28:09

Hello guys! Finally had my daughter on Wednesday morning after a quick labour but a very long second stage, which resulted in a ventouse delivery... And massive haemorrhage, so had to stay in hospital... But all ok now! Never thought it would happen I felt like I'd be pregnant forever! But it will happen ladies, hang in there xx

ZingWantsCake Fri 16-Aug-13 16:29:54

CONGRATULATIONS Lola! thanks thanks thanks thanks and cake

(tis me *Zing - after several NCs)

well done you! Have you got a name for her yet?

lola1980 Fri 16-Aug-13 16:34:22

Her name is Anisa. She's adorable! Feel like I've been hit by a truck but happy grin

Bexmathews Fri 16-Aug-13 16:34:52

Am still here, just sulking today sad congratulations Lola smile

ZingWantsCake Fri 16-Aug-13 16:38:56

Bex have you cleaned your windows yet?wink

it's good distraction

another one: sort you CDs & DVDs -I always end up finding something I fancy watching so that's an added bonus!

MrsLianeB Fri 16-Aug-13 17:12:32

congrats Lola flowers
Not jealous at all!

Well 40 +2 here and nothing exciting happening apart from constant has baby arrived texts and visits! Tried to dtd last night with hilarious consequences so had to give up once we ended up laughing so hard!

Congrats Lola!!

parttimer - 41 weeks today too and know exactly how you feel!!! On top of being fed up and ready for baby to arrive tho i am also feeling physically awful today, too warm, exhausted, nauseous, just want to curl into a ball but no way DS is allowing that!!!

gerty - did you get your buns iced yet? wink

I had to go out and take DS to a clinic appt this morning and then wash a tonne of stuff cos he had a vomiting bug last night and he puked everywhere! Def early night for me and forget the bloody birth ball / dtd - rest & relaxation all the way now, netflix and icecream grin grin

Bexmathews Fri 16-Aug-13 17:20:46

Yep windows cleaned, lol I have been watching all the Harry potter films as they are so long smile feeling bit better been for a waddle and now relaxing on sofa

am impressed with some of you still DTD!! I feel like I've been kicked inside out ;)

Gingerandlemon Fri 16-Aug-13 17:21:01

I love this thread, it never fails to make me smile. Is it me or does "getting your buns iced" sound like a euphemism? A more original version of DTD perhaps? grin sorry, I'm a child I know.

PurpleDana Fri 16-Aug-13 17:26:30

Congrats lola :-)

ZingWantsCake Fri 16-Aug-13 17:27:11

ginger good'un!wink

just wait until I explain "emotional wanking"! grin

Mayanbob Fri 16-Aug-13 17:32:58

lola congrats!!!! Great news!

Love to see everyone's stories on here. I'm still holding on! But today I've been sleeping or grumpy and horrid.

Fingers crossed for a weekend of births for you guys and for my baby to STAY IN until Monday.

If it would get these babies out, we'd all be getting our buns iced gringrin

ZingWantsCake Fri 16-Aug-13 17:43:29

time for a eekend Eviction Note bunting

▼♥▼▼▼B▼A▼B▼I▼E▼S▼▼♥▼▼G▼E▼T▼▼▼▼O▼U▼T▼!▼▼▼♥▼

ZingWantsCake Fri 16-Aug-13 17:43:58

eekend?

weekend!grin

Gingerandlemon Fri 16-Aug-13 17:48:00

Bahaha definitely, little. I feel like an unsexy beached whale that smells of a heady concoction of curry, pineapple and raspberry leaf tea. I'm not sure how my husband could resist icing my buns!

Zing, I'm intrigued. I'm a psychologist and ive never heard of emotional wanking!

ZingWantsCake Fri 16-Aug-13 17:53:23

ginger course not because I made the phrase up!grin

have you seen "There's something about Mary?"

Gingerandlemon Fri 16-Aug-13 18:00:00

Yes but a long time ago - I can only remember the bit with the hair gel that isn't!

ginger - mmm who could resist us? I have a puffy face & feet, wonky pelvis and i exude eau de gaviscon #sexyandiknowit

Gingerandlemon Fri 16-Aug-13 18:23:09

little this made me laugh. I'm also rather puffy and have lost all motivation to wash my hair as my midwife has said stay in bed as much as possible. There is also a suspiciously ketchup like stain on my top. #sohotrightnow

LouiseD29 Fri 16-Aug-13 18:40:42

Congratulations Lola! Wonderful news.

ZingWantsCake Fri 16-Aug-13 18:48:06

well ginger that's all you need

Ben Stiller is nervous about his date with Mary and on his friend's advice he has a wank, which will destress him. then he can be all nice an calm.

equally a good old full bliwn hysterical tantrum cry will achieve the same effect of being calm and stoic.
and when you are at the end of your tether from the stress and frustration of being overdue an emotional wank* can be highly beneficial.

What's more, as the stress hormones (that are counterproductive to starting labour off!) reduce dramatically some people go into labour soon after!

it happens. it's my theory anyway.
I might write a paper one day.grin

(*copyright pending)

bigredbaboonsbottom Fri 16-Aug-13 18:55:02

Zing I think that's a brilliant theory and I can see it becoming a guideline!!

Have been out for tea with DP - I wonder if I'll ever go back to wanting anything other than a starter... just can't face a big meal. But my tomato, mozzarella and pesto stack was very tasty.

Gingerandlemon Fri 16-Aug-13 19:00:06

Hahaha zing that's brilliant. Although perhaps not something I'll recommend to my clients! grin

Amazingly, my husband has just suggested a bout of bun icing to help things along. Cute that he'd still be interested given the state of me but I can't help feeling a little disgruntled that I've put effort in with waxing, lingerie and even having a wash for all these years previously!

MsFiremanSam Fri 16-Aug-13 19:08:06

Congratulations Lola! grin

The fuse on our electric shower appears to have bitten the dust this afternoon - now it's basically guaranteed I'll go into labour tonight and have to rock up to the hospital with unwashed hair or I'll have to get the immersion heater on and wait 20 mins to have a bath lol ahhh!!!

Gerty1002 Fri 16-Aug-13 21:07:06

Congratulations Lola!

LittleMiss No, buns are still bare I'm afraid, but I did go to makro and buy enough fabric softener to drown a small country smile.

Pains still on and off, feeling a little nauseous and generally off colour. Have now had THREE 'any news' texts! 38 weeks today and I haven't even hinted to them about these niggles! I know, I know, it's nice that they care...

Gingerandlemon Fri 16-Aug-13 21:33:10

Gerty I feel your pain. My best friend texts me daily to check if I've had the baby yet. Like I wouldn't tell her! Fortunately she also says other lovely things so is easy to forgive smile.

Boosiehs Sat 17-Aug-13 01:42:28

Oh crap. Backache and stomach cramping. And quite a lot of pressure for no 2 too.

I can't have this baby now, DH is still immobile after his op yesterday. Fuck fuck fuck.

ZingWantsCake Sat 17-Aug-13 02:17:08

Booshies

oh dear. have you called MW?

can you have a homebirth so your DH can be present?

not sure what to suggest.

Snuppeline Sat 17-Aug-13 06:02:47

Hi all smile
Loving the emotional wanking analogy (or advise)! I was certainly a little over emotional Wednesday evening when phoning my dp and berating him for something I couldn't find. It was hardly important at any rate but felt vital at the time. Anyway, I went to bed but woke up with what proved to be contractions at a quarter to five. I then got up and by 7 am knew "this was it". Quarter to 11 am I was in hospital and just after 3pm my beautiful baby daughter was born. It was a wonderful birth experience and I am so grateful for having has a swift and efficient birth as last one was so long.

To all first timers I would also add the advise given earlier, sorry can't remember who said it first, take each contraction as they come and remember that they perform a job by bringing you one step closer to your baby. First time I also found certain aspects unnerving and got scared which tensed me up. Being tense is not a good idea so make sure you ask midwife to keep you informed. This time I let my midwife know that I really needed the motivation of knowing where I was, circa, in the process. Just having her say "your moving along" was a real help.

Having some lovely newborn snuggles now - best thing in the world smile

LouiseD29 Sat 17-Aug-13 06:58:25

Congratulations Snupperline! So glad you had a good experience and you and your baby girl are doing well.

Any news boosieshs?

Congrats snupper!

Fabric softener might not be quite getting your buns iced gerty but at least your sheets and towels will be soft!

ginger - I deactivated FB a couple of weeks ago to try nd avoid 'have you had baby yet?' Messages... Everyone is just texting me these now instead grin Annoying...but I'm sure I'd be fed up if everyone had forgotten me!

Had another crampy sort of night but didn't develop into anything sooo...41+1 today shockshock

ZingWantsCake Sat 17-Aug-13 08:47:39

littlemiss

Q: have you had baby yet?
A: oh yes, we had triplets a month ago! sorry, gotta run!

grin

Boosiehs Sat 17-Aug-13 09:22:47

Hurrah! No baby overnight. I think half of it is just my nerves.

Thanks all.

Zing - Yes I know, whoops it just slipped my mind wink

Mayanbob Sat 17-Aug-13 10:47:02

Boosie - you had me going there!

And congratulations Snuppeline

I too had a lot of pressure for number 2 yesterday unfortunately that's exactly what it was due to extreme constipation sorry totally TMI

Was informed by DMIL that she wants to be informed "the moment she [me] wets herself" hmm

cakebaby Sat 17-Aug-13 11:15:15

snuppeline wow sounds amazing, congratulations!

Nothing happening here, other than sore hips, shoulder, funny tum (still, 3 weeks now), headache, occasional shivers and under bump cramps. Oh and much ball bouncing, the inflatable kind that is.

I'm sooooo over this now.

Sooooo over this too!! Nothing happening here either, lots of pressure, plenty of cramping and a very little bit of show, over a week after I lost plug. Slow slow slow!

Bexmathews Sat 17-Aug-13 12:05:38

Congratulations snuppeline, what a lovely experience for you smile

Well am 41+ 4 today. Have just had a big cry as was awake for night again with painful contraction coming every 10 minutes for the 4 th time in 5 days. Am so exhausted and upset that these are not progressing into anything , have slowed down to every 30 mins and less painful this morning. Hospital are not interested unless they get to every 5 minutes or waters break! The thought of this happening all day and night till Tuesday (induction) is frightening the shit out if me, I will have no energy for the real thing and am also scared to death that baby must be just as tired as me sad

Sorry for rant and self centred moaning smile

cakebaby Sat 17-Aug-13 12:24:48

Aww bex you poorly thing. Try and keep positive and if poss get some rest. Is it me or does everything seem worse and amplified at night? If you can't rant and moan now, when can you? Fill your boots love! Have you a tens machine to help? I'm seriously I'm seriously considering renting a tesco one now for £30.

How about a nice warm bath then brew and cake. Here, have these too flowers hope you feel better soon and have someone there with you