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what nice things has your dh/dp done for you while you'vebeen pg?

(44 Posts)

anything that has made you feel loved for
cared for
or just well looked after ?

Chickpea1983 Thu 25-Jul-13 11:11:00

We just moved house, but I am 22 weeks, so I was only responsible for cleaning kitchen cupboards and making cups of tea, while my DH and the removal men huffed and puffed all day in 30+ degree heat non-stop for about 9 hours. But my DH still gave ME a foot massage at the end of the day cause my feet hurt from all the standing around. He is totally precious

Chickpea1983 Thu 25-Jul-13 11:11:32

What about you OP? Do you have a lovely story to share??

mo, my dh hasn't done one nice thing, ive been claring the loft, clearing the babys room etc
he comes in from working moaning about the mess etc geneally being a twat to me

so that's why I wanted to hear about what nice dhs/dps do

so I can say it to dh

mo?

opps I mean no

Evi1984 Thu 25-Jul-13 11:21:10

My dh has been pretty good doesn't want me doing anything and will take care of all housework. Also stays up at night when I'm sick and spent early hours of the morning holding an ice pack to my head when I woke up with a migraine. I'm a little spoilt.

AnotherStitchInTime Thu 25-Jul-13 11:26:27

Gone out at midnight to get me craving foods.

Cleaned the cat litter tray.

Cooked lovely food.

Made me snacks.

Foot and back massages.

Looking after older children while I napped.

Put up cots, decorated kids room, helped clear junk.

PoopMaster Thu 25-Jul-13 11:26:45

With DD1 I was craving Big Macs just for the sauce...DH found a recipe online and made me up a jar so he wouldn't have to drive 30 mins each way to our nearest MacD's

Thought that was much nicer than telling me to bog off grin

mrspaddy Thu 25-Jul-13 11:29:27

He hasn't had the duvet for a while and I didn't know!!
Hangs out all washing. Painting the nursery at the minute.
Leaves little notes from him and the bump under my cereal bowl that he gets ready before he leaves for work.

mrspaddy Thu 25-Jul-13 11:30:16

Oh.. his pockets had little treats like orange lollies that I love at the minute.

I had to say in hospital with DS1 whilst pregnant with DS3 and DP got out of bed and brought me surprise hobnobs late at night because I was craving them smile

LittlePeaPod Thu 25-Jul-13 11:37:07

My DF is lovely. He won't let me do anything and says that the most important thing I need to do is relax, not get stressed and rest because making a baby is hard work on my body. Ohhhh love him. He holds my hair when I am sick, gets me water and as he can't cook he will order whatever takeaware I can cope with when I am too ill to cook. His also hired a couple of lovely ladies to clean the house twice a week because the cleaning products make me feel sick. But most importantly he told his very oppinonated and overbearing mother (who I love to bits dontt get me wrong) to behave herself and keep her nose out. His told her she is in trouble if she so much as says/does anything which upsets me grin. When I have really bad days (pucking etc) he will come home from work with a gorgeous bunch of flowers because he knows they never fail to cheer me up. I know from speaking to friends I am very lucky and spoilt. His gorgeous and I love him.

Sorry to hear your DF isn't doing some nice things for you Op flowers

Beckett3 Thu 25-Jul-13 11:42:50

I don't have a 'D'H or 'D'P, he decided to have a midlife crisis leving me at 3 months pregnant and with our 3 children but I thought I'd write about how wonderful my eldest has been, she's 14.

She's taken over full cat litter duties.

Helps out when and where she can with my other 2 children.

Has cooked a fair few meals and has learned how to cook a few more.

And most incredibly, rubs my swollen feet every day because she knows how painful they can get.

All 3 children make me coke with lots of ice a couple of times a day because they know I love it.

Frenelder Thu 25-Jul-13 11:45:00

My DH was wonderful the first few months, spoilt me with gifts & fuss. He spent time researching baby things we'll need & said at the end of PG & first few weeks after baby is born he'll arrange a cleaner.
I'm 22wks now & the novelty had worn off!
I'm also sorting the loft out, doing all the house work, shopping, cooking, washing & ironing alone whilst working 40 hours a week. I'm aching all over & struggling to sleep.
I feel like somebody had stollen my wonderful DH & left a bad copy in place - if anybody finds mine please return him

HotCrossPun Thu 25-Jul-13 11:50:16

Your DD sounds lovely Beckett smile

NatashaBee Thu 25-Jul-13 11:55:56

That's lovely Beckett. Sounds like she's a credit to you.

My DH was an arse when I was pregnant! hmmNo surprise flowers or resting up for me.

NatashaBee Thu 25-Jul-13 11:56:57

That's lovely Beckett. Sounds like she's a credit to you.

My DH was an arse when I was pregnant! hmmNo surprise flowers or resting up for me.

FoofFighter Thu 25-Jul-13 12:04:57

am 37w and it was only last week that he did the first "nice" thing off his own bat, holding my hand walking down a tricky slope then opening the car door for me. Other than that it's been a bit of a competition to him I feel, on how much more tired/achy/in pain etc he is than me. No going to the shop for me if I wanted something specific etc like you hear of others doing.

it's very wearying tbh.

EeyoreIsh Thu 25-Jul-13 12:07:12

my DH is lovely and I'm spoilt.

I've been too sick to cook most days, so DH has taken over shopping, cooking and washing up. He's happily made me whatever I can eat (usually toast, boiled rice or porridge).

He's made me breakfast every day.

He's done more than his normal share of cleaning and washing.

He's not got annoyed or upset when I've come straight home from work and gone to bed.

I know I'm lucky. He was also fab when I had my miscarriage.

In exchange, he gets plenty of beer and golf time!

knittingirl Thu 25-Jul-13 12:13:11

Our friend was going to Canada and dh secretly asked her to get me a super big football jersey so that I would have something really comfy to lounge around in all summer grin I love it!

HorizontalRunningOnly Thu 25-Jul-13 12:15:43

He bought me a sanctuary mum to be pamper kit with lotions and bubbles etc. totally surprised me with it. Also let me lie in every morning and brought me a tea. Very lucky I know as he works late shifts so gets home at 11pm or later

mrspaddy Thu 25-Jul-13 12:16:30

Ah Beckett .. that is lovely your daughter. She's a great girl!! You have raised your children well. Hope I do as well. flowers

enormouse Thu 25-Jul-13 12:32:17

My DP has taken it upon himself to sort out our storage problems before DC2 arrives.
He's arranged for his mates to come over in September so they can move furniture, decorate the (bigger) attic room for DS and turn DSs room into the new DCs nursery and set up an office for me to work/study in. he's arranged for me to go away on my own and visit some friends whilst all this is going on.
I feel pretty lucky as he does lots of small things too, waking up with DS, foot rubs etc.

thegoldenfool Thu 25-Jul-13 12:41:55

(37 weeks) my DC1 23 months still wakes up for at least half an hour every night (sometime for over 2 hours!) and my DP does all the night looking after

he takes DC1 for the weekly shop every saturday morning letting me have a lie in

He has to be reminded about birthday cards, I buy my own birthday presents which never get wrapped up, but how he behaves in times like this is the most romantic thing ever

BanjoPlayingTiger Thu 25-Jul-13 12:48:59

When I was pregnant he would make my lunch before he went out and leave it in the fridge so I wouldnt have to think about making anything whilst being so horribly sick. He made sure I always had ice cubs to crunch even though the noise goes right through him. He would get up in the middle of the night to make salty mashed potato for me and did absolutely all the cooking.
He held my hair when I was being sick - unless I yelled at him to go away when he did just that.
He held me when I was in pain and came with me to as many of the hospital appointments as he could.

In short he just tried to make my life easier as it was really difficult for me. He is fabulous!

They are just the things I can think of off the top of my head - there will have been much more he did too.

juniper9 Thu 25-Jul-13 13:34:57

I fell over at work yesterday and it seemed like I'd broken my ankle. DP rushed to the hospital to meet me, but not before packing a bag 'just in case'. He packed treats, a range of clothes, pyjamas and slippers, my iPad and chargers for it and my phone and a book.

It felt really good to have someone drop everything to be there, and to really think about what I'd want. Saying that, he used the iPad more than I did, but still!

LostMySocks Thu 25-Jul-13 14:31:02

My DH has funny ways of showing he cares. We're moving at the mo and each morning I get little lectures about standing on chairs if I get back before him. He also carries the Hoover and washing up the stairs (apparently doin housework is fine for me). Mind you he only started being concerned when bump started showing. He's also ridiculously cute trying to get the baby to kick.

Lovemyprincess4eva Thu 25-Jul-13 14:34:20

Does arranging a lovely new house for us count?? Because he has arranged all this and we move in in two weeks!! Can't wait!!

He also took me to America for one last special holiday before DD arrives and has just been very caring and loving the last few months.

I feel like a very special very loved lady at the moment!! Xx

HotSoupDumpling Thu 25-Jul-13 14:40:41

OP - I love your reason for starting this thread! I've had lots of occasion to say to DP, 'with lots of couples, their DP does XYZ' (I don't mention mumsnet...he is too good at internet research).

Taken over the cooking as raw eat currently makes me hurl.

Keeps 2 litre bottles of water in the fridge topped up as I have a thing for chilled water at the moment, it's the only thing that cures the nausea for a bit.

Let's me have the bedroom fan blasting all night even though I know the noise irritates him.

Scoops me up off the sofa every night and puts me to bed because I keep dozing off.

Sunflower1985 Thu 25-Jul-13 17:08:31

Lets me eat his ice cream after I told him not to buy any because I didn't want it.

Mostly, just listening to my whines coz he knows it makes me feel better

Amibambini Thu 25-Jul-13 17:29:51

Beckett - Really sorry to hear about your partner. But your kids sound AMAZING. Your stories brought a tear to my eye, you are obviously a great mum and they love you very much.

In response to OP.. my partner is a sweetheart. He is taking a few weeks off work soon (his holiday) to finish reno's on our home to get it ready for the baby.

The funniest was during the early stages and I was feeling quite fragile, I come home and he has excitedly prepared dinner for me. He had read that pregnant ladies should eat oily fish, so he had made a creamy smoked mackerel pasta with mushroom and leeks. It was literally the worst smell that had ever hit my oversensitive nostrils, I had to try so hard not to vomit. Poor guy! He doesn't cook that much (I always get home earlier than him), probably feels like cooking even less now!

LouiseD29 Thu 25-Jul-13 18:16:48

Beckett, your daughter sounds like a superstar.

I am very lucky. My DH brings me tea and biscuits in bed in the morning, while I was still working came to pick me up from the station almost every evening for the last couple of months, bought me flowers for my last week at work, picks things up for me when I drop them (which I do a lot now - so clumsy!) and every day tells me I'm beautiful and amazing for carrying our baby for nine months. He's ace.

mejypoo Thu 25-Jul-13 18:22:34

Made a 55 mile round trip to get me takeaway from my favourite place in another town

Constantly rubbing my feet/back

Always brings me snacks/ drinks to bed and doesn't wake me at the weekends so I can have a lie in

Generally more domesticated round the house

And best of all is being rather generous with his money!!

:-)

SeriousStuff Thu 25-Jul-13 18:32:30

This thread is depressing. I love my DH to bits, but he hasn't done anything differently since I've been pg. We've moved house and I cleaned, packed, moved stuff as much as him (apart from really heavy stuff), when I was nauseous, what really go to me more than anything was preparing food - if he cooked for me I could manage something, but this didn't seem to register and he only cooked for me once. He doesn't share chocolate, even if I hint, he complains that he's tired ALL THE TIME. He started off picking up all of our dog's poo but that's even stopped now.

He will help and do things for me but only when I ask.

Sometimes I just wish he wouldn't take this pg thing so for granted. Whenever I've mentioned it, he takes it the wrong way and thinks that I mean he has to buy stuff for me (!) but that's not it at all. I just want him to give me a second thought...

Sorry, I know this wasn't the point of the thread!

JanieLovesLuckySocks Thu 25-Jul-13 18:50:37

I've had bugger all. Asked DH could he paint the nursery room and he said no, asked him could he come to bed a little earlier as I woke up when he came in at 1am and i was so tired and he said no. I said one day I wish I looked pregnant instead of fat and he just sniggered. Hmmm now that I think of it he's been a complete arse in comparison to most of yours

Kayshields Thu 25-Jul-13 18:53:54

Nothing :/ he won't even buy the food im craving.. he thinks its all made up sad

LittlePeaPod Thu 25-Jul-13 19:00:43

Beckett your ave a wonderfully caring DD. credit to you as a mother.

I am really starting to appreciate how lucky I am reading some of the other ladies experiences.

Gerty1002 Thu 25-Jul-13 19:04:14

Runs me a bath every night

Gives me a massage if I'm aching

Will happily eat whatever I fancy even if he's not usually keen

Helped my friends to organise my surprise baby shower

Works 50 hours a week to make sure we are financially comfortable

Decorated and constructed the nursery

Always does the hoovering as we have a three storey house with lots if stairs

Always tells me how beautiful I look

I could go on but you get the idea... I'm blessed to have a very thoughtful DP who I know will be a very hands on father. Sure, he leaves his wet towel on the floor, puts 1mm of milk back in the fridge and occasionally misses the toilet in the night but I can forgive him that smile

MsCatShoes Thu 25-Jul-13 19:50:36

Brings me tissues when I spend entire evenings crying and when the smell of lamb (which he LOVES to eat) make me feel sick, he waits until I'm out to cook it, then cleans up all the pans so the smell doesn't linger.

It's the little things smile

foolssilver Thu 25-Jul-13 20:02:32

Beckett, your DD sounds lovely!

So many nice stories, I'm glad so many of you ladies have such lovely men in your lives.

Sorry to those who don't, hopefully the birth of their children will kick those guys into shape!

My partner lives away from me just now I guess the biggest, nicest thing he is doing is sorting out moving to a different country for me and the baby. He also sends super sweet texts every morning. When we have had the chance to be together he has been great at looking after me, cooking and generally not letting me lift a finger smile

Shellywelly1973 Thu 25-Jul-13 20:31:18

Beckett your Dd sounds like an amazing young lady...a reflection of your parenting.

My dp is a useless lump. I actually want to chuck him out. He does nothing, bare minimum all the time. He's getting lazier as he's getting older.

I always end up doing more then him, cook dinner, do shopping, housework, look after his own dc? Nothing, at all... He couldn't give a Shit!

Shellywelly1973 Thu 25-Jul-13 23:55:24

No it won't kick them into shape. My dp wasn't much good first time round but has got worse as time has gone on... I can't even remember why we are having another one!!

FoofFighter Fri 26-Jul-13 08:26:20

Re kicking into shape, I have no doubts at all that he won't be a gdoo father, the two aren't linked imo.

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