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Did u find out the sex of your first baby?

(43 Posts)
blondebaby111 Thu 18-Jul-13 11:59:56

One minute we want to know, then we don't, then we do and atm we don't again!! Its our first baby, just wondered did u find out with your first??

The advantages are, I hate calling baby 'baby' or it and also there are lots of things in just pink or blue, no neutral colours!!

BUT......

It must be so exciting to just carry on guessing and after a long labour the surprise must be fantastic!! What to do, what to do!!! We have six weeks to decide shock

CheeseFondueRocks Thu 18-Jul-13 12:12:01

We did. What do you mean by you got 6 weeks? Til your due date? If so, I don't think I'd bother. You'll be full-term in 3 weeks and baby might come anytime. If you weren't too bothered until now, I'd wait for a surprise.

We found at 16 weeks because we really wanted to know and will be doing it again with this pregnancy.

I couldn't stand not knowing - I like to plan ahead. We didn't actually find out with DS1 because he was camera shy and crossed his legs at every bloody scan, but we knew in advance with DS2 and DD.

blondebaby111 Thu 18-Jul-13 12:17:03

No another six weeks til 5 month scan blush if was that far ahead I wouldn't bother either. People keep saying to not find out as with your first its a lovley surprise but I do like to be organised and not have too many neutral things. Its so tough to know what to do xx

missesjellybean Thu 18-Jul-13 12:18:39

first baby I wanted to know from the start... this time I was adamant I wasn't going to find out but as soon as I was in the scan room I was like......tell me! grin grin grin

CheeseFondueRocks Thu 18-Jul-13 12:22:23

In that case, I'd find out. You might not be able to see anything anyway, so I'd just go with what happens on he day.

I did and did also with the births after. Now I have had my lot and don't wish to add anymore babies., I do wish I had of had atleast one as a surprise.

I never get the surprise thing tbh. It's going to be a girl or a boy, not that much of a surprise grin

Don't listen to other people - just think about what you and your DP want and what works for you (and that's probably good advice for after your DC is born too...)

IBelieveInPink Thu 18-Jul-13 12:24:28

I am 23 weeks with my first - a girl. We wanted to find out, and I'm so glad we did! It has been so much fun calling her 'her' and starting shopping for little outfits. We wanted most of our 'big' stuff - pram/cot gender neutral anyway, so it is really just for us to feel like we are getting to know her.

But then, my friend didn't want to find out and loved the surprise- she said she pushed harder because she was so keen to know!

It's really gonna be up to you at the end of the day - but hope the above helps smile

BabyStone Thu 18-Jul-13 12:25:37

We found out, both of us wanted to know. Out of 5 people I know including me who were due all within 10days of each other, myself and 2 others found out, one wanted to know but at the scan the baby was in an awkward position so she didnt find out and the other girl didn't want to know at all

I didn't like not knowing and don't really like surprises

happyhorse Thu 18-Jul-13 12:26:13

I didn't, and knowing that I was so near to finally finding out really helped me get through the last part of a difficult labour.

ImTooHecsyForYourParty Thu 18-Jul-13 12:27:42

yup. and picked the name.

i didnt care about a surprise. i wanted to know.

LongTailedTit Thu 18-Jul-13 12:28:20

I found out - I don't like surprises as it is, and had a slight preference for a girl. When I found out DS was a boy it took me a while to get my head around, I'm very glad I had the time to process it and then get excited to meet my little boy.

My sister found out for her first, a girl, then didn't for her second. She thought she was having another girl and had a few brief seconds of disappointment that he was a boy. She felt awful about that, still does now, so found out again for DC3, another boy.

I wouldn't find out if it was just for organising purposes, just make a firm list of what will be needed and get your DP to order it all online as soon as your baby arrives - online delivery is the way forward!
However, if you think you may have a slight preference, in any way, I'd find out.

PumpkinPie2013 Thu 18-Jul-13 12:30:47

I'm 21 weeks with my first and we haven't found out smile

Just really want the surprise at the birth and have fun in the mean time speculating, choosing names for both etc. smile

In terms of clothes, I've found quite a few things that can be for either a boy or a girl including things in bright colours e.g. hungry caterpillar clothes but you do have to look a bit harder than you do for the blue/pink smile

CeliaLytton Thu 18-Jul-13 12:32:42

I didn't but lots of my friends did. I have never known anyone to be disappointed with the decision they made though, at 20 weeks or 40 weeks it is still a surprise when you find out!

And although I didn't find out with my own, I loved it when friends found out smile

thegoldenfool Thu 18-Jul-13 12:33:01

i found out, we are mixed nationalities so it halved the number of names we had to think about!

also a bit of autism history in my family and got it into my head that less likely if a girl so I wanted to prepare myself

DPs father didn´t want to know so we didn´t tell his side of the family

Thyeternalsummer Thu 18-Jul-13 12:33:47

37 weeks pregnant with my first - a boy.

It was a really special moment at the scan when we found out. I waited until they'd done all the checks etc, and then asked whether they were able to tell the sex. The sonographer said 'haven't you noticed?' and then guided the scanner to show us the all important shot. So happy that I actually teared up, as did my partner.

Really glad I found out. We have 'our' name which we use when talking about him, all our close relatives ask after 'x' rather than baby, and we've been able to talk about 'x' with my partners daughter. We've even decorated a decoupage letter for his nursery door, along with another one for my DSD's bedroom. It feels as though he's part of the family already.

silasramsbottom Thu 18-Jul-13 12:35:18

I found out. Loads of people told me I shouldn't find out, you'll lose the surprise etc, but when they put my DS in my arms I said "hello DS, I've been waiting to meet you". It felt like I knew him already and I wouldn't trade that for the world.

nancerama Thu 18-Jul-13 12:38:01

We didn't find out, but suspected we were having a boy. We had a boy.

If you're planning on having more than one, neutral stuff is brilliant as you can pass it on from one baby to the next.

Twinklestarstwinklestars Thu 18-Jul-13 12:38:07

We didn't want to find out with all 3, ds1 we guessed from a very late scan, ds2 blabbed that ds1 would soon have a brother and ds3 we actually made it to the end! We didn't see the point of finding out at 20 weeks and even if we did I wouldn't have told anyone else til it was born.

MrsJ78 Thu 18-Jul-13 12:50:28

We did. Both Husband and I wanted a girl though would also have been happy to have a boy. Because we did have a slight preference we wanted to find out in advance so that we were used to the idea of it being a boy (had that been the case) so that, by the birth, we would be properly excited abut meeting him. As it was we found out we were having a girl. I liked knowing because we were really struggling to agree on names and it meant we could stop trying to find a boys name. It also meant I could get more stuff bought and ready in advance.

The whole 'surprise' thing never did it for me. I always felt that being presented with a brand new baby was enough of a hoopla for one day!

Preggobear Thu 18-Jul-13 12:58:29

We didn't find out and I'm glad that we have the surprise! I always thought I'd want to know but as soon as I got pregnant I totally changed my mind! We are both looking forward to the surprise at the end and I am hoping it will grt me through the last tricky stages of birth!!!

The only downside I would say to not finding out is that most neutral clothes tend to be white, or cream which is a bit boring!!

Each to their own and you have to do whatever is best for you smile

DuelingFanjo Thu 18-Jul-13 12:58:46

We didn't, though because I had an amnio it was written down in a sealed amnio result report which I discovered half way through the pregnancy but decided not to look at nor to tell my husband about.

When my DS was born I forgot to ask what the sex was for ages.

Kelly1814 Thu 18-Jul-13 12:58:58

28 weeks and we don't know, i like it smile

70% of people find out, apparently.

CuteLittleToes Thu 18-Jul-13 13:01:34

We didn't want to know, and just as well the baby had crossed legs during scan, so no disappointment there smile

Our friends didn't want to know either, but they asked the sonographer to write it on a piece of paper and put it into an envelope in case they changed their mind. They only looked at it after birth smile

So maybe it is something you could do as well? Although if I was in doubt like you I'm not sure I would resist the temptation smile

PinkApple86 Thu 18-Jul-13 13:02:33

We found out at 20wk scan - a boy. Very glad we did as we have now picked his name and painted his room and got lots of outfits, as lots of shops don't have a lot of neutral stuff. It's also made him feel like a real person to us, and not just a mystery baby. It's allowed us to bond with him in our heads. Our opinion was that we'd find out eventually so why not find out before the birth so we can prepare.

Futterby Thu 18-Jul-13 13:28:17

We did, I'm 20+5 with my first and we found out yesterday that we're having a boy! If you've got a preference either way, I would say it's probably best not to find out but we totally didn't and it's just given me even more to look forward to! smile

marriedinwhiteagain Thu 18-Jul-13 13:41:11

ours are older 18 and 15. we didn't know and i cannot begin to explain the utter joy and delight i had finding out when they were born.

notso Thu 18-Jul-13 14:14:06

No, I wanted DH to tell me the sex of our babies not a random sonographer.

My friend didn't find out on her first and second (boys) as our hospital didn't do it but did on her third (a girl) and she said she wished she hadn't as it felt a bit flat phoning people and "saying she's fine, she ways 6lb.2oz" as they'd announced the sex, the name and she had a planned c-section so we all knew the birth date as well. Although everyone had made a massive fuss when they announced the sex she said she'd rather have been saying "it's a girl, we've called her X" IYSWIM

I don't really get the not wanting a surprise thing, surely it's a surprise whenever you find out confused

notso Thu 18-Jul-13 14:15:33

Shocking weighs not ways!!

fluffandnonsense Thu 18-Jul-13 14:22:09

I wasn't sure if I wanted to know or not with our first and the hospital were brilliant. The lady who did the scan wrote it down on a piece of paper and put it into a sealed envelope for us. I got to the car before I ripped it open and inside it said 'Your baby boy says hi!!' It was a lovely moment and I really loved calling him by his name for the rest of the pregnancy. grin

DramaAlpaca Thu 18-Jul-13 14:25:13

We wanted to know the sex of our first but the sonographer wouldn't tell us.

It was hospital policy not to say, but I asked her if she could tell & her reply was: "I've got more important things to do than search around looking for willies!"

As it turned out DC1 was indeed a boy, and I was absolutely stunned and utterly thrilled as I had a slight preference for a boy but had convinced myself I was having a girl.

We also wanted to find out for the next two DC so booked in at a different hospital where we knew they would tell us.

elQuintoConyo Thu 18-Jul-13 14:27:34

We found out the sex and I cried! The nurse was worried that it wasn't the sex I'd wanted - not at all, it just made things that more 'real'.
I couldn't have left it as a surprise, being oregnant was surprise enough!

I'm getting all emotional remembering it <feeling silly emoticon>

MortifiedAdams Thu 18-Jul-13 14:29:50

We didnt find out. It wasnt necessary to.know,.in.our case. I also wanted dh to tell.me after delivering.

This pg we will find out (practical needs plus dh wpjld like to).

rowtunda Thu 18-Jul-13 15:01:52

I'm 28weeks pregnant with DC2 and haven't found out with either pregnancy. I just don't want to, if I did I would decide on a name now and everything would be expected which I find a little bit dull. Much prefer to find out on the day they are born, adds to the anticipation for me.

I think maybe my DH would have found out this time if I was keen but I wasn't!

It does get a bit dull buying neutral clothes but I didn't really buy many newborn clothes anyway and DC2 is going to get hand me downs from DS what ever the gender

Rosenip Thu 18-Jul-13 15:21:15

We found out on Monday - we wanted to start to get to know her better and plan the nursery and buy a few gender specific things...

my mum didn't agree. in her day blah blah...

Ragwort Thu 18-Jul-13 15:24:23

No, we wanted the 'surprise' too - although I had to have an EMCS and was completely out of it - when I eventually came round I asked the Doctor on duty as DH and the baby had disappeared. DH had told them not to tell me as he wanted to share the news but I was so anxious that the Dr told me smile - not that I really cared who told me grin.

Ragwort Thu 18-Jul-13 15:25:41

Rosenip - I am probaby as old as your mother - quite understand her view grin.

We found out, I'm far too impatient to wait till the end! I think it's still a surprise whether you find out halfway through or at the end anyway. Plus after a really difficult first half of pregnancy, it was like a treat and a real boost to find out.

Iwish Thu 18-Jul-13 16:59:02

We found out with my DS who is 22 months and now I'm pregnant with no2 and my 20 week scan is in 4 weeks so we will find out then too xx

moanymandy Thu 18-Jul-13 17:38:23

we found out with ds1 and also this time. although I couldn't make my mind up this time and in the end couldn't wait!

Although I didn't tell anyone any names last time as wanted something to announce, and I don't know why but I find it weird when people refer to unborn babies as 'little jonny' etc.

this time I'm not even choosing a name until he arrives so will have another name to announce at least smile

Queazy Thu 18-Jul-13 17:39:37

My husband wouldn't let me. I've bought more neutral coloured stuff than you could shake a stick at, and still wish I knew. A surprise is a surprise...it doesn't become even more surprising because you wait a few months. As you can see, I'm still not done with that argument with DH!

Queazy Thu 18-Jul-13 17:40:16

My husband wouldn't let me. I've bought more neutral coloured stuff than you could shake a stick at, and still wish I knew. A surprise is a surprise...it doesn't become even more surprising because you wait a few months. As you can see, I'm still not done with that argument with DH!

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