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What to buy?

(90 Posts)
lpickrell Mon 01-Jul-13 10:44:40

Hi all,

What's the best list to use when buying for a first time mum? I've mainly come up with static lists from blogs and stuff ... any online tools out there?

Thanks a lot,


JiltedJohnsJulie Mon 01-Jul-13 10:53:48

Six vests
Six sleepsuits
A car seat (if you have a car)
A sling and or pushchair
Some newborn nappies
Somewhere for baby to sleep, like a Moses basket.
A couple of sheets
A couple of sleeping bags
A baby hoodie

Think that's everything smile

MortifiedAdams Mon 01-Jul-13 10:57:26

Just ask.on here. A lot of lists will put stuff on there you dont need (top and tail bowl.anyone?). Aby lists generated by companies such as Mothercare will pile extra stuff on as a marketing tool.

JiltedJohnsJulie Mon 01-Jul-13 11:01:07

Oh and you will probably want a change mat, I had two, one for upstairs and one down. You may also want a change bag, a big handbag will do or some companies give them out. Boots baby club used to, not sure if they still do.

Essentially though its what Mortified says smile

Reebok Mon 01-Jul-13 11:01:49

If you're not planning on bf, you'll need bottles and a steriliser.

MummyOfSunbeam Mon 01-Jul-13 11:01:52

The best thing I bought (wasn't on all the online lists, just some) was a really good bf pillow (was called 'My Brest (sic) Friend' and oh praise be to the list I found online that said 'take nipple cream in your labour bag'.

JiltedJohnsJulie Mon 01-Jul-13 11:09:16

Think that's where the lists start getting sujective. I bf 2 and never used a breast pillow or nipple cream. Fine if you want to get them but if finances are tight I'd get them if you need them smile

purrpurr Mon 01-Jul-13 11:09:26

Search the mumsnet talk archive for previous threads on this topic, that's what I did, then I got a really wide base of suggestions which helped me make a more informed choice. Plus, I found it easier to choose where to spend (Burt Bees Baby products were recommended time and time again so I stocked up on those, but they're not that cheap) and where to save (newborn sleepsuits and vests - I bought a couple new and got a few off eBay. I also got my changing bag from eBay for £12 instead of £45 cos I knew the bag I really wanted, but didn't want to pay full price.)

CuppaSarah Mon 01-Jul-13 11:11:54

It's worth noting newborn baby sizes are very confusing and odd. Tiny baby is about 7lbs. Newborn is about 8lbs. 0-1 months 9lbs. 0-3 months is about 10lbs. It varies shop to shop, but tiny baby does not mean tiny baby in most shops.

purrpurr Mon 01-Jul-13 11:15:05

Oh; just to add, for me, the joy of pregnancy was the excitement and planning for DD - I had spreadsheets and all sorts (weirdo alert) so enjoy getting organised for your little one but remember that whatever you don't get because you don't think you'll need it, you should be able to get from a 24 hour supermarket. Lots of threads on here said a top and tail bowl was useless, but we ended up buying one within 24 hours of being out of hospital. We're still on cotton wool mainly and DD is 6 weeks old. I thought we'd use wipes from the get go so I've got a drawer full of them upstairs. Oh well, they won't go off...

Newmum0113 Mon 01-Jul-13 11:21:47

I second eBay for clothes - I'm expecting my first and have just bought a bundle of 16 sleep suits in newborn up to 1 m as I don't know how big my baby will be, and this cost me £1.99 plus postage (I bought many items so was combined)

They have arrived and most are unused, but washed. I also got 10 0-3 m babygros for 2.99 from same seller, these were used but you couldn't tell. It means that I've got a good selection of different sized clothes ready to go but for hardly any cost.

I'm more for the environment factor than the money although there's never enough of that to spare!

We've also opted for terry nappies, which we bought from mother are but I just found last week they do then in larger boots stores and you get more for your money there (plus 10points per £) so a little miffed but never mind! Still looking for a good quality nappy pail.

Sorry to change subject there op.

My DH and I did a but if research online looking at different lists, then compiled a list of everything we would need for the first 3m and went on a shopping spree (ouch!)

Although we got an awful lot for our money as before going out we compared prices online and got several items from amazon saving over half on quite a few!

We are BFg if possible but still got bottles and steriliser set as I will express so DH can do night feeds too, if he wants to. Of course assuming I can BF at all (my mum didn't produce any milk at all)

Hope this helps and always happy to answer any more questions smile

Newmum0113 Mon 01-Jul-13 11:23:44

purrpurr I love spreadsheets too! Unfortunately I had mine on comp at work which was killed while I was off last month - all gone sad

purrpurr Mon 01-Jul-13 11:37:34

Oh newmum no! The horror. If that had happened to me I would have thrown the computer and/or cried all over the blasted thing. I wasn't particularly level headed during my pregnancy :D also kudos on getting all that stuff from eBay. It's a shame there isn't a way to swap things on mumsnet without having to supply personal details, because I have a whole heap of clothes my DD has already grown out of that I'd be happy to give away, but will probably end up putting on eBay. She weighed a lot more than I expected at birth and has gone on to become the longest baby there ever was, no sleepsuits on the planet are long enough for her legs so they're all in a drawer now sad made me a bit sad putting them away!

Dippyemma Mon 01-Jul-13 11:41:02

muslin squares! They are a must, can be used for so many things from bib to makeshift nappy! They make good cloths later on too. Arnica and energy tablets are good for labour bag to. Good luck!

TheFallenNinja Mon 01-Jul-13 11:45:05

Start to build stocks of your consumables. There's always one offer or another, nappies, wipes, bibs (zillions) muslin squares, baby bath.

Build your own stocks too, make sure your kettle is up to snuff, tea/coffee etc

MummyOfSunbeam Mon 01-Jul-13 11:45:54

Also - take advantage of all the help you can afterwards re latch technique... Midwives, lactation consultants, whatever. Having support lined up helps a lot.

MummyOfSunbeam Mon 01-Jul-13 11:46:17

Oops wrong thread sorry!

Thurlow Mon 01-Jul-13 12:00:18

I'd just say don't buy anything that you can't afford not to use. Lots of people will recommend baby bouncers and slings/carriers, and they can be an absolute godsend if your baby likes them - but they can also be very expensive if your baby doesn't like them. I think I just had a weird baby who preferred to be lying on the floor rather than in a bouncer or a sling! We had second-hand versions of both and I was really glad of that. So if spending £80 on a bouncer/rocker would be a real stretch for you, see if you can borrow one. Then you've got some flexibility to buy new ones or buy something else once you have an idea what your baby likes.

For the first few weeks all you really need are some clothes, nappies and muslins, and a stock of food that's easy for you to reheat and eat.

delasi Mon 01-Jul-13 12:13:03

Bouncer. Bouncer bouncer bouncer. We really appreciate our bouncer.

What you will find really useful all comes down to your personal circumstances.

My advice, and generally what we did (can't believe I managed to be this restrained!): buy the bare minimum before birth. You will then find out what you really want and need after and people will usually also buy gifts (especially in terms of clothing).

The essential IMO is:
- a place for them to sleep (whether that's a cot, Moses basket, cosleep...) plus blankets or sleeping bags
- basic clothes (vests and sleepsuits are the main things)
- nappies
- and some milk (if you can and want to bf then you have the tools though I would add Lansinoh! If ff then bottles, sterilising method and formula).

Everything else will then follow suit smile

As an example...
- We washed DS in the sink until 4mo and since then he has used a bath seat, so we never owned a baby bath
- We have never owned a changing mat (is that weird? We change him on the bed...)
- I thoroughly dislike changing bags and tend to just put his stuff in a bag organiser (cheap, eBay) and food stuffs in a small cool bag, compact & easy
- I do own a jumperoo and DS loves it (bought at 4mo)
- no highchair, we use a Cushi Tush

BeCool Mon 01-Jul-13 12:15:09

you can pick slings etc up very cheap on ebay.

Forget all the lists insisting you need top & tails bowls etc. DD1 is now 5.5 , dd2 is 2 and I am STILL using the huge roll of cotton wool I brought before DD1 was born. I never used it on babies (though a friend used reams of the stuff). I used wet wipes and flannels and muslins.

I brought most things 2nd hand - moses basket, clothes, buggies, cot etc.

The baby essentially needs something to wear, nappies, somewhere to sleep, and something to eat. Everything else is not essential. Also you may well be given lots of gifts so I would wait until post birth for other stuff.

If you get Prime on Amazon, you can order any thing you need from your phone in bed & it will be with you the next day! No stress.

BeCool Mon 01-Jul-13 12:16:55

for night time I thoroughly recommend getting the nighties with elastic in the bottom (rather than sleepsuits) - no legs/poppers which makes a HUGE difference to the night time nappy changes etc.

delasi Mon 01-Jul-13 12:18:24

Oh and definitely stock up for you:

- Plenty maternity pads, heavy duty style
- Arnica
- Witch hazel
- Cocodamol
- Tons of big knickers
- Cold compress
...at the very least

I was knocked sideways by my lack of postpartum prep confused

Don't plan on doing anything other than newborn snuggles for a couple of weeks if you can.

Enjoy it! grin

MrsFoodie Mon 01-Jul-13 12:52:22

Yep just stick to basic, don't buy outfits probably be given too many as pressies anyway, just vests & babygro's. Somewhere to sleep, my moses basket was only used for 5 weeks), I would have been better to go straight for cotbed, some pram baskets can be used for overnight sleeping but need to check the specification (make sure its safe).. Nappies, something to go out & about with (car seats, sling).. Anything else you can decide after the baby arrives I would agree most things things you can get in supermarkets anyway..

Thereonthestair Mon 01-Jul-13 12:55:12

I am in the minimalist camp. Comes of having ds early. When he was born we had 1 pair of scratch mitts (a present) - that was it. I went to hospital with my keys, wallet and phone.

We survived.

but I would say, nappies, vests, sleepsuits, place for baby to sleep plus bedding, way of transporting baby (pram or sling or possibly both) car seat. Maternity pads and chocolate - for you

IdaClair Mon 01-Jul-13 13:27:21

I'm another minimalist, we've never used a pushchair, bought a cot when baby was 7 months, never had a baby bath, highchair, steriliser. But it is SO subjective, and there's nothing wrong with getting something you like just because!

I do find the best time to spend on a baby is about 8-12 months when you've known them a bit and know what you're likely to use, and they can have all the fun interactive stuff. And you'll know if they like to use a cot or if they like to use a pushchair or if they're happier with you, or if they like a structured plaything like a jumperoo/bouncer type thing or if they're happy enough crawling about and bashing pans together.

HalleLouja Mon 01-Jul-13 13:37:44

Wipes / cotton wool I use reusable wipes similar to Cheeky Wipes.
Changing Mat
Lots of vests
Muslins - we used ours for all sorts including a sun shade / blanket when it was warm
Buggy and / or sling (not a baby bjorn one but have a look at other ones such as a close for a tiny baby)
Bedside crib / moses basket

For postpartum knickers I just bought cheap ones from Asda some of which I am still wearing 2 years later.

If you are breastfeeding

bfing bra

That's all I can think of at the moment. I use reusable nappies so if you are interested they are worth looking at. Not as hard work as you would think but that's personal choice.

JiltedJohnsJulie Mon 01-Jul-13 13:50:56

Our DS has very dry skin so we could never use baby bath or wipes. Like someone said above, sorry can't remember who, don't buy it if you can't afford to buy it and never use it.

I know mums who have had to cut their mat leave short because they spent so much on Lo before they arrived and then never used half the stuff. Your baby will want milk, you, somewhere safe to sleep and to be clean and warm smile

Pumpkinsquid Mon 01-Jul-13 13:54:09

Do not underestimate disposable knickers. You will thank me later. With my first two I ruined and binned proper knickers as I was too tired to even contenplate washing them. With no 3 it was disposables all the way for the first week. Bliss.

ShoeWhore Mon 01-Jul-13 14:15:10

There will be as many opinions on this as there are users on mn I suspect OP!

Unlike pumpkin I hated disposable knickers (SO uncomfortable) and much preferred super cheap Tesco pants in huge sizes grin There are gel pads you can freeze/chill to put in the big pants too, very soothing. Lavender oil is very nice in a post partum bath too.

I used different things with each dc tbh - so much depends on them and their personalities. Dc1&2 both loved sitting propped in a baby nest full of toys - dc3 hated it! I used a baby carrier lots with all 3. Ditto bouncer chair. None of them were massively keen on the playmat with toys dangling over. Wind up mobile was useful to distract them during nappy changes. I liked my changing table but my babies weren't too wriggly, know some friends never used theirs.

My babies were fairly sicky and the standard 6 vests, 6 babygros wasn't really enough, I needed a few more and about a dozen muslins too. Had 3 lots of sheets etc for the same reason. Found it useful to have a second changing mat/stash of nappies downstairs as well as up.

I don't think you need to buy a special changing bag btw. I bought a cheap but fairly roomy high st handbag which did the job fine (got a freebie fold up portable change mat from somewhere).

BeCool Mon 01-Jul-13 14:25:45

I was given a few bibs but never brought any apart from 2 with sleeves that I used occasionally. By that time the babys clothes were dirty anyway, so just left her to it. Or I just used muslins.

lpickrell Mon 01-Jul-13 14:26:26

Wow! Thanks!

sarahtigh Mon 01-Jul-13 15:17:25

your baby maybe sick a lot but they may not be I had 12 muslins and sold 8 as brand new

as earlier list 4-6 sleepsuits and vests probably 1 cardigan and 1 hat

i preferred bibs to changing clothes but you can use muslin instead

my baby was in a cot from the start in my opinion moses baskets are a waste of money esp if baby is 10lb will be too big very quickly

not all babies like sleeping bags so I would wait you will get loads of presents, if you get too much stuiff in size 0-3 months keep unopened go to shop and even without receipt most will swap for the same thing in 3-6 months or if your baby was small to size newborn/ tiny baby

be warned tiny baby is too big if your baby is 5lb but you would manage lessthan 5lb and you will have to go to mothercare as only about 2 companies do really small stuff

TheCatIsUpTheDuff Mon 01-Jul-13 15:26:09

I get why I need cheap/disposable knickers, but why enormous ones? Is it to fit the enormous pads into?

cocktailhour Mon 01-Jul-13 15:30:31

I reckon the above is really sound but as the mother of a 14 week old who hates the pram and basically only goes out in the sling I'd say make your big purchases carefully (even though ours was second hand, it still rankles!) and try to borrow from friends if possible so you can test things out. Best buy: moby wrap, worth every penny! Close second, an amazon prime subscription (you can usually do a month's trial for free) as I don't have a car so the free next day delivery option was a godsend for emergency purchases!

Thurlow Mon 01-Jul-13 15:44:32

Yes, to fit all the padding inside. Also if you do have a cs then you want something that sits really high up on your tummy - bikini-style pants would probably just sit right on top of the scar.

NotAQueef Mon 01-Jul-13 16:17:49

I am shock at all the posters saying 6 sleepsuits? Did you have very accurate pooers?
DS occasionally went through 6 sleepsuits in a day with his epic poonamis!
I see the logic in perhaps only having 6 or so before the baby is born as you won't know sizes, but to be honest (particularly) in the first few weeks, get a load of the multipack cheap ones in addtion to some nice sleepsuits so you are not constantly washing/drying (or at least reduce the frequency)
a bouncer - you will sometimes need/want to put the baby down grin and a bouncer will entertain them and keep them safe while you treat yourself to a trip to the loo! I used to pop DS in his with me in the bathroom while I showered

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IneedAsockamnesty Mon 01-Jul-13 17:23:59

If budget or environmental is an issue then it can be reduced hugely.

Car seat if you have a car.
7 vests
7 babygros
4 sheets
Nappies ( if going with reusables do not buy a big expensive kit you do not need one you can get everything you need for about £90)
4 blankets or sleeping bags

I never bothered with those thin cloths and just got a stack of flat terry nappies and used those instead the bonus is you can also use them as nappies in a emergency or as well they last longer and are cheaper.

I also had reusable wipes but a small packet of disposable ones are handy for when out and about.

Thick sanitary towels
2 pairs of reusable breast pads
Bottle of witch hazel

Somewhere for the baby to sleep I wouldn't bother with a Moses basket ikea do a very cheap cot its about £30.

If bottle feeding then bottles steriliser formula, again avoid buying a big kit as you may not get on with the bottles and they can be over priced.

If bf with occasional expressing the bottle can be sterilised in any tub you want with cold water and a tablet so no fancy steam machine needed try to avoid buying a pump in advance you can borrow one from most sure start centres.

Baby baths are pointless bits of plastic unless you have a reason to need the baby on a stand at a certain height but often sinks work just as well as do adult baths.

I found a bouncy chair (think it was about a tenner from amazon) very useful as I bath all mine with me in the tub and it was handy to have baby in one whilst I washed and so I could climb out. And just to use about the house when I wanted to put the baby down.

Never bothered with a changing mat as laps are fine but a fold up one is handy for when out.

You do not need special baby towels or flannels or many of the other things that you already own but in adult size or pram shoes or anything you look at and think "what's the point"

If a changing bag is expensive enough to make you fret about losing it then you do not need it.

A method of transport for the baby this does not need to cost huge sums of money nor does it need to be a trendy brand.

IneedAsockamnesty Mon 01-Jul-13 17:26:30

Forgot to add if your mother/ MIL/best friend is sensible and not the type to think baby wipe warmers are essential then run ideas past her if she bursts out laughing you don't need the item.

NayFindus Mon 01-Jul-13 19:00:44

Ooh what a great thread, wish I hadn't bought so much for dd, I'm still putting brand new clothes in bin bags to sell when I've got time and she's nearly 3! We had a Trenton travel system, it was huge, heavy and bulky and murder to get around with so get a fold down frame you can pop the car seat into, I loved my Mamas and Papas Sola but dd grew out the harness by 18 months (tall girl).

As above, try not to buy too many clothes, and just buy 0-3 month baby gros to start with. It doesn't matter if they're too small, they'll soon grow
into them and if they're too small you've wasted your money.

NCT nearly new and car boot sales are great places to pick up and get rid of clothes, large plastic toys and buggys as long as you stick to a list of stuff you need and don't impulse buy.

NayFindus Mon 01-Jul-13 19:03:27

I meant if they're too big they'll soon grow into them, doh!

And if you bf you can get lanolin nipple cream on prescription.

Xmasbaby11 Mon 01-Jul-13 19:14:45

In terms of clothing, I'd say

12 vests
12 sleepsuits

DD often had on 3 outfits a day (including night) so that only gives you 4 days' worth of wear. If you don't have a dryer, I'd say 20 of each.

IdaClair Mon 01-Jul-13 19:23:41

Not all moses baskets are the same size. Both mine were in the Basket until 7-8 months and moved out because they could climb out rather than because they were too big. My older one slept in the Moses a few times without the stand (for safety) when on holiday age 15 months or so. That's average weight/taller than average babies.

catellington Mon 01-Jul-13 19:24:25

Just wanted to add that the thing I wished I'd had in hospital which I didn't have was Lansinoh nipple cream. I only had to stay in overnight but by the morning was in absolute agony, nearly gave up breastfeeding altogether as a result until my husband got to the shop when it opened at 8am! I also ran out of nappies in the middle of the night and had to cajole staff into giving me a couple to tide me over!
Cotton wool balls, and a pot of water where you change baby. I used an ice cream tub and just changed the water every day.
Another thing I found useful was to get terry sleepsuits. I think they were from mothercare, the terry is on the outside. Then when changing baby, I used the towelling side for drying ( as I found the cotton wool cleaning system left her rather damp!). I found when she was a newborn the sleepsuits and vests needed changing almost as often as the nappy anyway.
I set up snack and drink stations around the house so I could keep my fluid and energy levels up whilst feeding.
I found it more useful to use a backpack to use as a changing bag rather than a shoulder style one ( as most of them are). So I have hands free for baby / pushchair. I started out using my laptop bag from work but recently decided to get something a bit less functional looking from accessorize for holiday.
It is impossible to get the baby under our sink taps to bathe. We got a small newborn baby bath from asda, I think it was 4.99 and she loves splashing around in it!

ShoeWhore Mon 01-Jul-13 20:02:49

If you do want to get a baby bath then I think the ones that rest on the rim of the bath look most useful. Or buy a stand. I had neither and our baby bath was a nightmare to empty!

One final tip from me would be to leave the tags on any clothes presents you get - then if they are all in the same size (or totally unseasonal e.g. snowsuit bought in the size your baby will be in height of summer!) you can exchange a few for a bigger or smaller size. With dc1 we ended with a massive wardrobe of 3-6 months clothes which he didn't wear until he was 4 or 5 months old - including loads of shorts from MIL which weren't all that practical in mid-winter confused

sarahtigh Mon 01-Jul-13 20:22:12

not every baby is sick and poos everywhere I had 6 sleepsuits
I would get 2 x 3packs and wait and see if you are running out you can get more but otherwise you will just not use them, same with vests 1 had a 7 pack but after 6 months again I would generally have 3-4 per size
when dd was born in newborn had to rush and get 3 tiny baby ones, once in 0-3 months size ( she was about 6 months then) only had 3 in each size, however she was rarely sick and poo stayed in nappy the vast majority of time, she did however have a few outfits

for a girl if you get summer dresses which will only fit in winter treat them as a pinafore and wear with long sleeved t-shirt and tights

MJP1 Mon 01-Jul-13 20:35:13

Breast pump (just I case, Mine was a godsend after 3 days in hospital with rubbish support for breastfeeding and torn to shreds nipples) it saved me from giving up breastfeeding while I healed.
Bottles and teats
Muslims lots of.
Lots of chocolate and treats for you x

BooMeowson Mon 01-Jul-13 21:03:54

Try and get a lot of cheap eBay second hand clothes, you wont know what you'll want him dressed in... I have a huge drawer filled with t-shirts that he never wears. I also bought a load of muslins and don't need them as he's not sicky.

The main thing is you don't want your baby to overheat so after they're a few days old you'll want them in far fewer clothes than feels natural. I wanted to wrap him in coats and blankets but actually, I never use either. And I think he would rather be cool. I wasn't anticipating using a 1 tog grobag but our room is quite warm at night.

I love our IsoFix base
Water Wipes (sod using cotton wool and water)
The movement monitor was a godsend - helps me sleep at night
A moses basket downstairs and a crib upstairs is great
Get yourself registered with your local sure start centre in advance

Numbthumbs Mon 01-Jul-13 21:03:58

Muslin cloths, hundreds should do. They are good for loads of things, not just mopping up baby sick - i cleaned my windows with a couple today grin

JiltedJohnsJulie Mon 01-Jul-13 21:21:57

Glad a breastpump helped you to continue bfing MJP but OP you are better waiting to see if you do need one. Like MJP its a unfortunate fact that many women don't receive the support they need in hospital. Before you buy a pump consider hand expeessing and put the numbers of the Bfing Helplines in your phone smile

Oooh, exciting, congratulations!

Not too much more to add to others except I second the Isofix base. Also a buzzy bouncy chair, a jumperoo when older, a Close sling to start with, my Medela Swing breast pump, Lansinoh nipple cream, Angelcare Monitor and v shaped pillow. Lots of other stuff that's been mentioned too but these were especially useful (still are with DS who is 10 months now).

BooMeowson Mon 01-Jul-13 21:29:12

I also love Amazon Family

maternitart Mon 01-Jul-13 22:58:51

I would recommend getting a few really big muslins (try TK Maxx for Aden & Anais). They work as swaddling, sun shades, picnic blankets, a light cover, mopping up various stuff, and of course everything a standard muslin does.

Oh and if you are not a PJ wearer, I would suggest some PJ tops at least as if you're feeding or end up co-sleeping (and I don't think I know anyone who HASN'T done this at least once) you won't have your duvet over your top half.

A lot of people don't have them but I too am pleased we got a movement monitor. I struggled to sleep at all until we got one.

To be honest I didn't buy a lot before our baby was born and I quite enjoyed popping out after the first few weeks to get stuff. It gave me something to do!

I did buy a Close Caboo, moses basket with stand, and a bunch of basic white vests and babygros, all second hand for about £35 in total.

We got through 7 or 8 babygros on Boxing Day due to poo/wee/puke. No shops open! But at any other time of year the 24 hour giant supermarket is your friend.

notsoold Tue 02-Jul-13 06:02:50

Loving the thread! smile
Yy to baby feeling too hot too cold.
Dd always felt the cold abd ds always felt too hot ( even now).
Because ds was a professional vomiter I used lots of sleepsuits.
And different from lots of ppl here , he had a baby bath both times as it was a way to keep the water warm and at even temperature. Later they played with toys in it during a hot summer
As toddler I filled with san so it became a sand box and later on it became our puppy bath ....

SoYo Tue 02-Jul-13 07:28:05

I'm sitting here feeding my 17wk old and pondering what I've had that I would and wouldn't buy again and what basics you have to have so here goes:

Vests and babygros, I had 8 of each but depends on willingness to do washing. Supermarket ones are cheap & fine. Remember that you're probably going to keep bubba in a babygro for the first 12 weeks pretty much as its so much easier than dressing them, which is pointless when they're too small.
Hat, blanket, cardigan. Depending on when your baby is due depends in winter or summer hat or both!
Cot. I wouldn't buy a Moses basket again, madam refused to sleep anywhere but on us or in bed for the first few weeks and by the time she was back in her basket she was out of it 2mins later, I'd just get a cot with a drop down side that fitted in the bedroom next time.
Mode of transport. I've got a big, expensive travel system that actually I love but it doesn't fold down much and is a pain to transport. I am glad I've got it but if I was starting over I think I'd buy the most expensive Maclaren with their newborn kits and be done with it. I also use my stretchy sling a lot (cheap ebay one) but not so much the babybjorn.
Giant maternity pads. These look awful before but after, if you have stitches, it's like sitting on a very light mattress. I bought multipacks of very cheap, comfy, one size up black pants from primarni which were a great buy.
Nappies. Self explanatory.

Would buy
Bouncer. It's the only place we were able to put DD down for weeks. Worth it's weight in gold.
Giant muslins. I got fancy Aden and Anais swaddle ones. They're supposed to be £45 but TKMaxx had them for £16. I use them every day for wiping up drool/vomit, as a blanket, as a cover for pram in the sun, as a playmat outside etc etc.
changing table. I have a bad back so it's a good height.
Lambskin. It's the only way we've ever been able to get her to sleep anywhere but on us.
Lansinoh. Breastfeeding is bloody hard & hurts a lot at first. This is brilliant. Plus it makes a great general moisturiser for really dry bits, helps scrapes etc & is an amazing lip balm!

Wouldn't buy
Baby bath. We only used it a handful of times. Initially she hated it and preferred to bath with me, now she prefers just a couple of inches of water to lie in in the big bath.
Moses basket. See above.
Any outfits for at least first 8 weeks.
Breast pads. Bought loads & have never leaked so might be worth a wait & see.
Specific nursing tops. Easier with a vest under a normal top.
Anything for the nursery. I was convinced I needed to sort it before she came but I'd have been better off waiting until now so I knew what kind of things we needed.
Nursing pillow. Normal ones will do.

EspressoMonkey Tue 02-Jul-13 07:31:11

If you do buy a high chair and you are short of space then get a collapsable one. Most high chairs by design have a wide base but smaller top, thus likely everone will trip over the legs a lot as they stick out.

Pumpkinsquid Tue 02-Jul-13 07:32:43

Do not buy baby outfits!!!! You will not use them, and poor baby will not be comfy in some multilayered dress/fiddly dungaree combo however cute. Sleepsuits is all you need, and vests (keeps nappy in place to avoid poonami explosions in bed ) . Also Friends and Family will buy you all these lovely impractical baby outfits, keep the ones you like and take the rest back and change them for things you need, like a pramsuit, hats, sleepsuits, etc.

Dont buy all the cute babybedding, you wont need it! Avoid bumpers too however cute, theyre not safe and the first time I found DS tangled up in the bumper they went on ebay. You just need fitted sheets, cellular blanket and two grobags. (Poonami warning, one for the wash, one clean)

Scrutler Tue 02-Jul-13 10:11:07

Something I wish I'd thought of when buying clothes / bedding for baby was to buy all in same colour so when explosive nappy in cot, everything can all be chucked in same washload rather than having to wait to wash say white sheet separately to red babygro.

itsonlysubterfuge Tue 02-Jul-13 11:26:47

I haven't read what other people have suggested, but here are some of my own.

My baby hated her Moses's basket and it was useless for us.
We used wipes from birth and never had a baby bath, just put her straight into the big bath.
I needed breast pads for the first few weeks, but not after and I never used my £8 tube of Lansinoh.
My baby was too small for sleeping bags (she was normal birth) and I didn't use them until she was about 6-7 months, same with a cot.
We splashed out on a Cocconababy and I wish we would have had it since she was born.

For yourself make sure you have some pads and some big underwear. I ended up having to send my MIL to buy me some, as I wasn't expecting to have a c-section and all the underwear I had hurt my wound.

If your husband/partner isn't the best of cooks you might want to prepare some meals and freeze them, so you have some things you can just heat up if you aren't able or don't feel up to cooking.

Good luck.

AidanTheRevengeNinja Tue 02-Jul-13 13:05:47

Just don't buy a moses basket.

People told me not to, that they are shit and babies hate them and it will be used for about five minutes. And yet I bought one. It was, indeed, shit. grin

93pjb Tue 02-Jul-13 13:10:31

don't be conned into buying some very expensive pram/pushchair combo that promises to be everything you need from birth to school... You only need a carrycot/pram for six months max so it is better to buy a second hand one and then get a separate pushchair after that. Better to buy 2 things that do their jobs well than one thing that does 2 jobs badly if you see what I mean. (I think I went through 5 prams/pushchairs with DD before I worked this out and 1 with DS afterwards!)

PoppyAmex Tue 02-Jul-13 15:30:51

I only discovered this a few months after DD was born, but it's my top tip: use terry cloth (face flannel size) instead of wet wipes.

SO many advantages...

- I didn't want to use chemicals (wipes are seriously harsh) but didn't fancy the water/cotton combo to clean poo.
- With one wet small terry cloth you can clean a horrible poonami in one fell swoop
- Never got the "finger through wipe" again <boak>
- It's eco-friendly
- It's cheap
- The baby looks and feels properly clean/washed every time you change them
- DD never had a single rash episode (now 15mo)
- Brilliant for babies prone to eczema etc.

I bought about 40 terry flannels; after use I put them in a dry bucket lines with a mesh bag. When it's time to wash just put the mesh bag in the washing machine and don't have to touch any yucky bits.

Gosh, I sound like a loon, really passionate about bottom wipes blush

BeCool Tue 02-Jul-13 15:47:45

I actually used a moses basket with DD2 and found it very handy for the first few months. I could move her from room to room in it, and at night I had her in the basket on the bed with me, until we progressed to co-sleeping proper.

I used it for a few months, then I sold it online for £10 less than what I brought it for.

Thurlow Tue 02-Jul-13 15:53:24

93pjb, I definitely agree. If you could spend £500 on a travel system, spend £250 on a pram and then £250 on a purchair. £250 will buy you a top of the range, all singing, all dancing Maclaren! Most people I know wanted to swap to a smaller, lighter pushchair by 8-12m, but a lot couldn't because they had spent so much on their travel system.

But then I am evangelical about my Techno XLR and will just be sticking the carrycot attachment on that for any future DC.

Ellypoo Tue 02-Jul-13 15:58:19

We don't use a baby bath (use the sink or comes in bath with us), but do use a changing mats - otherwise bed and lounge floor would very often be covered with wee!!

Loads of muslin squares.

I stocked up on wipes and nappies in different sizes when they were on offer, different makes too, in case you don't get on with any particular type.

Got crib / bouncer / sling / play mat / mobile etc all second hand from car boot or borrowed.

Use quite a few little hooded towels but normal ones would be fine.

I would get tea tree oil for your baths for after the birth.

Things like bottles, steriliser etc I wouldn't get unless you aren't intending to BF - even then you can get them at 24 hr supermarkets etc.

OddBodd Tue 02-Jul-13 16:51:53

A lot less than you might think or be told by Mothercare or BabiesRUs! For DS1 we had a moses basket, a cot, a carseat travel system, separate stroller, bumbo seat, baby bath, play mat, bouncer chair, rocker, waaay too many clothes, a sling, a steriliser, bottles, breast pump, baby towels, changing unit, sheets, jumparoo, door bouncer, baby gym, baby sensor (to make sur baby still breathes and moves in his sleep), and a whole host of other plastic tat that never saw the light of day.

DS2 we had a cot, sling, a moses basket, a changing bag, bouncer chair, some sleep suits, a few vests and a pair of boobs. He's still here, non the worse off for not buying all the claptrap! In all honesty, all a baby really needs is somewhere safe to sleep, a method of eating be it breast or bottle, a few light bits of clothing and some blankets.

FudgeyCookie Tue 02-Jul-13 17:26:39

I found my muslin cloths went yellow really quickly no often how much i washed them - I ended up buying guest towels (bigger then flannels, smaller than hand towels) for 20p each in Ikea - not a sale price, is the normal price. They have washed really well, dont stay damp all day like my muslins did and haven't gone off colour!

Ghanagirl Tue 02-Jul-13 18:03:36

If you have are expecting twins good twin pushchair plus 2 baby slings or carriers (for when you have help) def breast feeding cushion so you can tandem feed, 2 bouncy chairs you can bounce one with your foot while feeding one or put them facing each other while they cry!
Extra bedroom for your mum who you will force to stay with you for first few weeks smile

ANJALI777 Tue 02-Jul-13 21:43:15

hey hun, it's up to you how all out you wanna go, and i think the basics have been covered. A few tips though:

1. You will be given loads of stuff.

2. Generally stuff for small babies - bouncer, moses basket, cot mobile only lasts for 6 months max, so spend money on long term purchases. For example, I have borrowed stuff and have hand me downs for DS2's first 6 months of clothes, but bought a beautiful blanket for him that will last years.

3. If you buy something you don't know you are going to need, say a breast pump, or even extra clothes, keep them unopened and keep an eye on the return by date, so if you don't need it, or you are gifted it you can exchange it or get your money back.

I am sure everything will all appear the moment the baby is born, and you are resourceful enough to get through any crises - we have all had them!!!

katydid02 Tue 02-Jul-13 22:20:48

A sling or a pram depending on your preference, nappies and something for the baby to wear.

withaspongeandarustyspanner Tue 02-Jul-13 22:43:44

stick blender.

BratinghamPalace Wed 03-Jul-13 07:37:14

Moses basket is a handy way to bring the baby around the house without disturbing them esp if you have a two story house.
Only buy vests and baby Gros that open out flat. That way you do not have the bother (fear!) of trying to put it over babies head.
I got a bundle of coloured face cloths for the changing mat. Put them under the babies bottom when changing him/her. It really helps, you don't need a load of covers for the changing mat.
FILL THE FREEZER! And hey - it is the most delicious time. Enjoy!

JiltedJohnsJulie Wed 03-Jul-13 09:02:01

Again I'd wait before buying anything like a stick blender. The current advise is to not wean before six months and your Lo might be a total spoon refuser, like my dd, and go straight onto normal family food smile

IneedAsockamnesty Wed 03-Jul-13 09:47:34

Are covers for changing mats a new thing?

I've never even heard of them

Forget about cotton wool and top and tail bowls. Just use baby wipes or a wet flannel which you can then wash.

You don't need much in the early days (first month) - clothes, nappies, wipes, a bed and transport.

Toys can wait.

We have a change mat that came with the nappy bag (present) and one that came with the cot (another present). I would just use a towel.

AmberSocks Wed 03-Jul-13 13:21:53

I have 4 and another on the wayand this is what i buy

clothes,too many!sleepsuits,bodysuits,cardies,hats,blankets,socks.

Use resusable nappies and wipes

I breastfeed so lanolin cream breast pads and a few nursing bras

pushchair,i have a double out and about nipper for dd who is 3 and ds who is 9 months so this one will go into that.

car seat,i have a britax one that can be used from birth to 4 yrs it looks really comfy,some people like one that attatches to a pushchair though and its no good for that.

stuff for home birth,big black cheapoants to throw away after use,loads of pads.

bouncer,playmat,some soft toys?

A sling,although dh uses ours mor ethan me,i don find them comfy and ive tried them all.

AmberSocks Wed 03-Jul-13 13:22:20

have never used a baby bath i just take them in with me and we co sleep to so no need for cots and moses basket.

IneedAsockamnesty Wed 03-Jul-13 19:07:01

Ohhh amber I didnt realise you are expecting again, so am I congrats.

Check out these


They are so comfy and I've had a set for 6 years awhile so last ages

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Thurlow Mon 08-Jul-13 14:57:28

I was about to say Blimey, that's a long list! but actually there's hardly anything on there that seems ridiculous. Though most of it can wait until the baby is born.

Things we didn't use...

Bibs (2-3) - just use muslins
Towelling Squares
Baby bath - only if you don't think your sink will do
Flask - even though we bottle fed I don't think I used one
Bottle Drying Rack - not sure what this is!
Cot Bumpers - not recommended any more
Baby Sheepskin - just used blankets, we must be tight grin
Changing Unit - just use the floor or your bed!
Sleep aid - wait and see if they need one, we had a Dream Sheep but it wasn't needed

JiltedJohnsJulie Mon 08-Jul-13 15:38:19

jordan I didn't buy anything to do with feeding at all. Wanted to bf and figured if that didnt work I'd get what I needed at the time.

jordanps Wed 10-Jul-13 12:43:50

Thanks... my take away is as follows:

In general I can wait till after birth to buy a far amount of stuff and play it by ear... more than trying to pre-empt problems / needs etc.

No to baby bath + top & tail bowls
No cot bumpers Changing unit
Yes to bouncer etc.

In fact the list did seem pretty good... at least as a starting point. already feeling more relaxed smile

Thank you

Nellysgirl Wed 10-Jul-13 13:27:09

Wow this is really useful! Going to pinch some pointers... Tee hee smile

JiltedJohnsJulie Wed 10-Jul-13 15:00:06

I never had a changing unit jordan. A wriggly baby can't roll off the floor smile

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