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It's a boy! What do I do now??

(40 Posts)
Expectans Thu 20-Jun-13 15:17:36

I have just been told I am having a boy. I have NO IDEA what to do with a boy. So far there have been 6 little girls in my family, so no one else will have any idea either. I had visions of dolls houses and pretty dresses.

I am delighted that so far it, he, is healthy, but help! I am feeling clueless. Did anyone else feel the same?

AbiElizabeth Thu 20-Jun-13 15:27:39

I don't know what I'm having yet, but I feel the same as regards boys. to be honest they are mostly the same for the first months and by then you have got to know your baba and it doesn't matter what gender it is smile

They are no different, honestly! I have a boy and a girl and the only difference is the clothing they aim at boys and girls.

Ipp3 Thu 20-Jun-13 15:31:50

Yes, I did. I thought, oh my god, a boy: what are they about? I know nothing about boys. Then I calmed down. They are humans after all and don 't arrive aged twelve so I have time to get to know my little individual ( aged 13 weeks now). There is a book called raising boys, can't remember who it is by but sure will appear in google search. I am humming and haaing about whether to read it as don't want to stereotype my little individual befor I have got to know him!

TinkyPeet Thu 20-Jun-13 15:33:07

Boys are fabulous!! Congratulations smile I'm 35 wk with my second boy, with a girl in between and she is alot harder than ds1 was! smile
Now...you go shopping smile x

Iwish Thu 20-Jun-13 15:33:13

I was a bit like that when pg with DS but as soon as he arrived it didn't matter what sex he was. Now he's 21 months and just into toys but most are unisex toys ATM. He had the odd car too grin

Remember to point his willy down when changing his nappy!!
My DS will be 5 next week and I will never forget the first nappy change at my parents house where he wee'd across the room into my dads mug of tea!!

Congratulation

kd83 Thu 20-Jun-13 15:37:29

haha! I was exactly the same. I come from a family of three girls and needless to say was totally ready for dolls and dresses and ballet classes (I know its stereotyping but its the way I am).

Totally not ready for a boy but actually quite excited at the prospect. Hubby of course was delighted.

I'm sure its going to be great fun.

SoupDragon Thu 20-Jun-13 15:40:10

When changing a boy nappy, have a wad of loo roll handy. nappy off, loo roll over penis immediately. It's like an uncontrollable hosepipe if you don't!

Expectans Thu 20-Jun-13 15:46:42

An uncontrollable hosepipe??!! Am I allowed to be unnerved at the prospect?

smile

I'm back to give you a bit of a laugh...
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DehydratingManiac Thu 20-Jun-13 15:48:26

It genuinely makes no difference. Babies are babies and they come with their own unique personalities. I have a girl who is a total tomboy and a boy who is very sensitive and loves pink. They are just who they are. As babies and toddlers, it makes no difference at all. When older, they are a lot more susceptible to the heaps of gender specific crap they aim at them but it's not inevitable.

I haven't even had the weeing in eye experience. DS never weed during a nappy change.

Congratulations on your healthy baby.

Little boy clothes are really cute. I went through a phase of dressing ds up like a tiny little man in little tank tops and corduroy trousers.

Expectans Thu 20-Jun-13 15:49:44

OMG

A pee-cosy?? http://www.amazon.co.uk/Peecosy-Spouting-Whales-Changing-Covers/dp/B00AV8JZAC/ref=pd_sim_sbs_by_5

Buy boys clothes? confused

It's not that big a deal. Honestly.

Chickpea1983 Thu 20-Jun-13 16:05:09

I heard from experienced parents that boys are more difficult as babies/toddlers, but get a lot easier when they are older. And girls on the other hand are easier as babies and get more difficult as they get older (I cant imagine how my parents coped with me - proper madam!!).

So OP, you get the easier life smile

I have one of each and as we're still in the baby/toddler stage I would say its personality not willies or fanjos that makes the difference.
People bring stereotypes into it and preconceived ideas about boys/girls which skews how they see things.

Fakebook Thu 20-Jun-13 16:15:37

I felt just like this when I found out I was having my DS, 4 years after my dd was born. I didn't know what I was going to do with him!

Well it's quite easy. He just does everything his sister did and plays with everything she played with grin.

I'm finding out what my third baby is tomorrow and wouldn't mind another boy. Nappy changing is so much faster and easier with them!

Sleepthief Thu 20-Jun-13 16:20:15

I've got three boys and never had any wee in the face etc. DS2 did poo across the room at 5 days old, but I suspect that could just as easily happen with a girl...

MrFranklyShankly France Thu 20-Jun-13 17:18:14

Knitting novice I'm in tears at your post....that's hilarious!

BraveLilBear Thu 20-Jun-13 17:23:02

Weirdly, this has been worrying me too! I'm 35 weeks with DC1, and have felt that this was a girl from the word go - weird, as I was a tomboy growing up and always imagined myself as a mother of boys, and I also have a totally lovely DSS who's nearly 11 and great.

But I keep having the odd panic about 'what if it's a boy?' 'I wouldn't know what to do with a boy' also wouldn't know what to do with a girl tbh and have been worrying that I'd subconcsiously (sorry, brain forgotten how to spell) treat him differently and communicate differently...

It's totally irrational, but I understand your feeling! Hopefully, by the time it pops out, I'll be so tired busy that I won't be able to overthink it...

MummyAbroad Thu 20-Jun-13 17:36:52

I had just the same reaction as you when I found out. I am so glad that I found out during pregnancy so I had time to adjust, by the time he was born I felt thrilled about it, and I have never looked back or wished for anything different. I have TWO boys now. Wouldnt change it for anything, its lovely.

SoupDragon Thu 20-Jun-13 17:38:42

I heard from experienced parents that boys are more difficult as babies/toddlers, but get a lot easier when they are older. And girls on the other hand are easier as babies and get more difficult as they get older

Nope. That's a myth. <<glares at DD>>

SoupDragon Thu 20-Jun-13 17:40:46

I think the only difference between boys and girls as babies is that with a boy you're likely to get wee-ed on in the eye but with a girl it's likely to run off the changing mat onto your feet.

Get some folded muslins (FFS autocorrect, I don't mean Muslims) to put over the penis whilst changing him.

Other than that, the same. My DS plays with a dolls house most days...

forevergreek Thu 20-Jun-13 17:55:15

Iv only been wee'ed on once ( not bad with 2 boys), I dot think most pee that often when nappy is off

Also clothes so much easier. Eventually girls have trousers/ shorts/ skirts/ dresses. Boys generally have trousers or shorts, that's it smile

MummyAbroad Thu 20-Jun-13 21:49:23

Dont put your cup of tea on the changing table next to baby boy - mine once weed up in a perfect arc and straight into the cup!

DianeDavies Fri 21-Jun-13 13:44:38

My boy is 13yrs old and I'm still perplexed. I come from a background of ALL girls so I had no idea what you do with a boy. Yes there is the uncontrolable hosepipe issue but you soon learn to dodge that. I struggled with play time... what on earth do you do with trains (brum)? ..cars are boring (to me)... is it really necessary to dissect the dead fly from the windowsill (wings and legs everywhere).. I dont find trumping hilarious..theres got to be better places to relax your hand than down your pants.. pictures of flowers are nicer than pictures of people with eyes hanging out surely.. how do you brush boys hair?

v funny thread!

i'm expecting a boy and he will be the first in my family for 4 generations! i have no experience with boy whatsoever but i'm sure i'll manage grin. i'll watch out for errant hosepipes thats for sure...

SoupDragon Fri 21-Jun-13 14:40:12

)... is it really necessary to dissect the dead fly from the windowsill (wings and legs everywhere).. I dont find trumping hilarious..theres got to be better places to relax your hand than down your pants.. pictures of flowers are nicer than pictures of people with eyes hanging out surely..

Thing is, DD (7) likes dissecting dead flies, trumping and drawing pictures of vampires with dripping fangs. She also drew an anatomically correct picture of a heart when drawing a picture of how our cat died recently. hmm

I think it's children I don't understand rather than boys per se grin

DianeDavies Fri 21-Jun-13 14:42:46

soupdragon Glad its not just my child then, haha. But I'm sure we didnt do things like that when we were kids - kids are wierd these days!! wink

JollyShortGiant Fri 21-Jun-13 14:44:39

I have a boy. The lack of tights and hair bobbles in our house is lovely.

We know the names of lots of tractors and different types of agricultural and construction machinery. I have to learn this to tell him. Living rurally in a village that is building new houses at a rate of knots I think any child would be interested in what's going on around them.

spiderlight Fri 21-Jun-13 14:48:39

I did, briefly, but boys are brilliant. They are cuddly and funny and you get to play with much better toys!

SoupDragon Fri 21-Jun-13 16:00:48

I'm sure we didnt do things like that when we were kids

I used to peel rolled up woodlice grin

MummyAbroad Fri 21-Jun-13 16:53:50

..another advantage, we have just had nits and its easy peasy to get rid of from short boy hair. My hair on the other hand too aaaaaages <wail>

and yes, remote control electric toys are brill.

runningonwillpower Fri 21-Jun-13 16:59:03

Congratulations Expectans!

Worry not. Your baby boy will teach you everything you need to know.

AdoraBell Chile Fri 21-Jun-13 17:06:03

Can I just say that our DDs managed to pee in daddy's face as babies? No idea how as it's supposed not to happen, but it can, clearly. And they did the dissecting dead things too, and DD2 loves playing with her Hot Wheels, and play fighting with the dog, I'm not so keen on that activity.

DianeDavies Fri 21-Jun-13 19:30:32

Soupdragon Aaaaaaarrgghh!!!! shock wink

AdoraBell Chile Fri 21-Jun-13 19:56:05

Me too Soupdragon grin

TinkyPeet Fri 21-Jun-13 22:31:29

My dd finds farts hillarious
Tbh....so do I grin
And I get far more squishy cuddles from ds1 than I do from dd who just likes being a cow Independant
Boys are fantastic smile
And there is nothing better than rolling down a grassy hill on a sunny day, with both ds and dd

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