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My wonderful DH

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Newmum0113 Sat 15-Jun-13 20:43:05

Hi all,

Just thought it was about time someone listed some good points about DHs/DPs and other family members, as I'm getting a but depressed reading all the other threads, even though I agree/have experienced half of it. Time for some positivity!!!

My DH has been excellent throughout (22+2, but found out at 2wks)

Tonight he had dinner all planned and ready to go. Off the cuff I decided I fancied garlic bread and pasta carbonara. So he went to the shops and got everything he needed to make it just for me. Brought me back a chocolate milkshake too as I'd said I wanted one earlier!

I had to have surgery three weeks ago too and he was an absolute rock! He stayed with me right up to the surgery and afterwards came to see me with a load of treats and Disney films to keep me entertained. Since being home he has changed my dressings every day better than the nurses do! He has washed my hair and fetched me food and drinks at the drop of a hat.

When I'm feeling sick he rubs my back and strokes my hair til I am feeling better or have fallen back to sleep.

He is considerate of my symptoms and feelings and is always looking after me. I love him so much! He is going to be an amazing daddy!!

Overwhelming gush of emotions over, for now at least.

Anyone else? smile

candr Sat 15-Jun-13 20:46:46

Very nice to hear. Hope you have recovered well after surgery. My DH is also a rock when I am ill etc it is just the normal day to day bits he gets lazy with but wouldn't swap him (most of the time).

Guntie Sat 15-Jun-13 20:47:19

Great thread. I have had huge support from my DH and Mum. Feeling very lucky, supported and happy thanks

cbatbh Sat 15-Jun-13 20:56:15

Good thread. Keep the positives coming.

DoTheBestThingsInLifeHaveFleas Sat 15-Jun-13 20:57:35

Wow thanks for this post. TBH although I know it is usual to have a good moan and less likely to say how fabulous your DH is (for fear of looking smug or making others feel sad) I am jolly pleased to read this thread. I am happy you have a nice DH. Everyone deserves one. Since being on mumsnet I have started to think I must as well just end things with DH now as surely it is just a matter of time before he becomes, controlling, abusive, lazy or else leaves me for another woman. I have nothing to base this on, other than all the 'relationship' posts on here! Glad to read that someone has a fab man and that not all men are horrid (as I was starting to believe).

Also big hugs to those who are going through hard and sad times with their relationship. Mumsnet is a great avenue for support and I don't mean people shouldn't post their problems (I could always just not read them after all). I am simply happy that there are some happy couples, looking forward to their new baby. Lets hear from some more smile

beth27123 Sat 15-Jun-13 20:59:14

OH has been very supportive (even if he does turn green at the sight of sick) and has been a rock through my tantrums and tears. He stuck up for me today when SIL thought it was her news to be telling family.

cogitosum Sat 15-Jun-13 21:04:00

My dh has been amazing. He sits up with me in the early hours when I can't sleep. He offered to go to the supermarket to get me gaviscon in the middle of the night when my heartburn reduced me to tears. He also gets really involved with all the nct classes, hypnobirthing etc.

This pregnancy has made us even closer and I feel so lucky!

AlfalfaMum Sat 15-Jun-13 21:07:16

It's good to see there's so many decent men out there smile

reeta30 Sat 15-Jun-13 21:12:57

I'm another lucky woman to have a fantastic DH. He'd still go to the shop for me if i mentioned I fancied something and I'm not even pregnant. He is a great cook and does the weekly supermarket shop. Thanks for starting this thread - it's about time there were nice comments about our other halves!

cbatbh Sat 15-Jun-13 21:18:31

DH cleaned up my morning sickness sick off the stairs. It was good of him, especially as he is a big wuss and I could hear him heaving!

Smerlin Sat 15-Jun-13 22:04:47

Mine has been great too - while I was in the evil first trimester he spent all his time going to the shops to get me whatever random thing I thought I might be able to stomach and then came back and did all the housework while I just lay on the sofa practically comatose and usually eventually refusing the food he'd just bought.

Has been reading my pregnancy book with me and is desperate to feel a kick poor lamb but so far they don't seem to be penetrating to the outside!

rosiedays Sat 15-Jun-13 23:16:50

My DH too has been amazing. Bfp was a huge surprise, he was over the moon from day one. I'm a bit old (43) and he has done everything he probably can to make this pregnancy as easy as possible for me. he praises me all the time for doing so well.
He never once complained when I couldn't cook/go anywhere near the kitchen for weeks.
He ate boiled chicken every night for 2 weeks when it was all i could eat,
He's been amazing and i love him so much for it.

Bodicea Sat 15-Jun-13 23:32:22

Aww love this thread.
Dh has been my rock through last two mc's.
In this pg he has to inject me every night and i shout at him and gripe at him and tell him he is rubbish at it and to get away from me and squeeze or pinch him a bit too hard when he is doing it. I am a wuss. He is v patient through it all and gives me a big spoon/ cuddle after. The other night I started crying at how pathetic I was and he just cuddled me and told me it was just me and him and it didn't matter how much I cried.
When ever he has been away for a night he sends me a text saying how excited he is about this baby.

Shellywelly1973 Sun 16-Jun-13 01:34:04

Lovely thread...Im jealous!

Arseface Sun 16-Jun-13 02:57:31

Today DH took the three year old off to get an inner tube for the pushchair so I could stay in bed and bf the DTs/snooze till 10. Fixed the pushchair, hoovered, steam mopped and cleaned the bathroom. Finished cooking the supper when the DTs kicked off. Then did baths and bedtimes with me. He also went to the shop to get treats and wine!

He brings me tea, just as I like it, every single morning and makes me laugh more than anyone else.

He's bloody marvellous and this thread has made me realise that I do take him for granted just a bit.

There may have to be A Special Effort made for Father's Day.

amazingmumof6 Sun 16-Jun-13 04:50:15

nice Father's day treat is due for him I hope!

sorry you are having a tough time, but what a great man you have there. he deserves to be bragged about!wink

hartmel Sun 16-Jun-13 04:57:00

Great thread..

I also have a wonderful DH.. When I started crying over nothing, he just took me into his arms and cuddled.. In my first trimester when I could not cook because I was so tired or sick he ordered food..

I could go on and on how much he does for me..

Oh and he wants to be involved in all the doctor appointments and even nursery shopping he was more than willing to do (normally he does not like shopping, other than groceries)

wispa31 Sun 16-Jun-13 08:58:27

aw this thread has me sat in tears at how lovely dp/dh are. smile i actually had a bit of a melt down last night in bed, in tears as i had been worrying about how my body will change after birth (wobbly belly, droopy boobs, not able to have sex for a while, etc) worrying about being a good mum and worrying about us forgetting how to be a couple. dp was lovely, wiping my tears away and giving me cuddles telling me il be great mum and not to worry about the body stuff, its all natural and will only be temporary and not important, main thing is me and baby are healthy and that hes here for me no matter what.

LittlePeaPod Sun 16-Jun-13 09:40:51

Great thread OP. loved reading the wonderful and positive posts. grin

My DF has been wonderful. He was a rock when we mc in February even though he was heart brocken. Since our BFP (10+5) I have been really ill (HG) and DF will go to the shops to get anything I fancy even takeaways, whatever time and he never gets annoyed if I can't eat it. MIL really upset me because I have been so ill with HG she thought I was been pathetic and the HG was just all in my head even though I spent time in hospital DF put her straight and told her to keep her nose out and that if she wasn't going to be supportive then we would not be seeing her until after birth because he didn't want me getting stressed and upset by anyone. He keeps saying how in his opinion growing a baby is amazing and he won't allow anyone to show disrespect or upset me even MIL. When I have got upset his been there with hugs and supportive words. We booked private scans because if previous mc and he has attended every single appointment. He normally travels to the Far East every January for two weeks to meet with suppliers (has done every year for 11years) but his already told the suppliers his going in November and then maybe May 2014 because he will be a new dad and I need him here at home.

I love him so much and I know how lucky I am. His a wonderful, careing, thoughtful and loving man. I am so proud of him and he will be a fantastic father..

Newmum0113 Sun 16-Jun-13 10:08:00

Aww I'm really glad there are some lovely DPs out there!

It's lovely to hear how supportive they can be. Mine does look at me as if I'm crazy sometimes but holds his tongue and just gives me a cuddle.

Hope we get to keep some positivity going especially as it is Fathers Day after all.

smile

meg2106 Sun 16-Jun-13 10:23:59

so glad to see this thread... i m six weeks and honestly not that bad... i dont have morning sickness but extremely exhausted.... DH is always there for me....doesnt let me pick a pin on weekends ...all i did on the weekend was sit in the front of TV, while he took care of the meals and took me out on a walk.... he has always been fantastic..... preg or not.... i just love him so much.... the way he takes care of me shows wat a fanstastic Dad he'll be.... smile

NandH Sun 16-Jun-13 10:36:23

Where did you find such a caring man ? grin

amazingmumof6 Sun 16-Jun-13 11:05:44

and does he have a brother for my sister?

something2say Sun 16-Jun-13 11:19:53

Aww w all,your partners sound lovely.

Mine is too. Ai am not pg or anything but he is still lovely to me. Today he has been spooning me in bed and then brought me coffee. He is currently making breakfast.

I am going to Hoover his two bedrooms and landing now tho.....hahah.

jessw25 Sun 16-Jun-13 12:58:59

This is a nice thread.

To add to it, am also feeling very lucky to have my DH at the mo. I've been in hospital for 2 wks because of bleeding caused by placenta previa and have 3 more to go (till cesarean) in here. DH has been fab, even better than I anticipated! Texts and phone calls all the time (and he's not a big phone person), sending me silly videos of stupid things our cat does (I am a bit of a crazy cat lady! She's our 'baby' till our first real baby comes along!), surprising me with visits when he's already visited that day, bringing me in food treats, DVDs and books even when I've told him I don't need anything etc, going to shops especialky to get me maternity pads when I run out and getting up early to get to sorting office to pick up my parcels he's missed from the Internet shopping im doing in here. All of this on top of him having a really stressful time of it at work as well so it makes me doubly grateful.

Bump has bought him a Father's Day card to say thank you today for being such a support to Mum, even before he/she is born!

Drhamsterstortoise Sun 16-Jun-13 13:33:37

Wow you are all very lucky.I'm very jealous

marzipanned Sun 16-Jun-13 15:21:07

Lovely thread!

I want to thank my DH for... dealing with all cat litter and vomit since BFP (the deal when we got cats was that I'd always deal with that stuff...now he gets very upset if I even think about doing it)... for not even mentioning the fact that I've banned sex until the 12 week scan... for keeping this pregnancy a secret from his parents on my request even though I know he's dying to tell them... for coming home every evening and letting me whine and rant and rave about my crazy hormones and morning sickness when he has a tremendously stressful job and I know needs to download himself... for laughing when I phone him from upstairs and demand food to be brought to me in bed... and also for remaining consistently positive and upbeat throughout almost 18months of TTC.

Thanks DH thanks

notsoold Sun 16-Jun-13 15:54:14

Dh amazed me with his upbeat about ttc in my forties ... Or when I mc I could hear him crying in the middle of the night but always offering me his shoulder to cry during those dark days...
Now pg at 20 weeks dh continues to amaze me with his positivity. He lift his head from his books and smiles and says that I will be a good mum as I was a good mum to our other dcs...then buries his head in his books and papers and I love the fact that even though he is deep in thought with other things he is also thinking of me. ( and dcs)
And I love how he lets me babble away about my nerdy things ( star wars, star trek, dc comics, marvel, etc) and takes an interest even though he really, really wants to listen to music or find another book....

RNJ3007 Sun 16-Jun-13 15:59:32

My DH is currently doing the washing up and sorting the composting pile and clearing up whilst I put my feet up and 'watch' Peppa Pig with DD. He's indulged my odd cravings, has no issue cleaning out the sick bucket (I have Hyperemesis) and has even taken to doing bath time for DD as my SPD is getting awful.

And to top it off, he's told his mother to back off and let us parent our way without the constant comments, as he trusts my instincts and has learnt that his mum is not exactly an authority on child rearing... Yay!

212VIP Sun 16-Jun-13 21:23:17

Lovely thread newmum!!
Hope you don't mind me changing the subject but could I ask you what surgery you had?
I've just discovered I'm pg (5+) weeks and am due to have spinal (neck) surgery soon. Am devastated to think what the surgeon is going to say about me bring up-duffed.
Can you tell me your situation? x

Newmum0113 Sun 16-Jun-13 21:35:42

Hi 212. I had my appendix out :-( I put a thread up called "my recent trauma - for anyone who may experience this" if you want the full details.

Good luck with your surgery, hope all goes well, although they might want to delay until you reach 2nd trimester if possible.

flowers

wannabeawallaby Sun 16-Jun-13 21:45:30

I think it's really sad that men who get the dinner in and comfort their partners when upset are considered 'amazing'. You know that stuff should just be a given, right?

FunnysInLaJardin Sun 16-Jun-13 21:51:18

DH was wonderful though out my 5 pregnancies. Two ended in mmc at 12 weeks, 2 ended in my lovely 2 boys and one was a termination. That spans 25 years with the termination being 23 years ago! He is a wonderful man and very deserved of my 3yo wishing him a Happy Fathers Day many times during the day!

Newmum0113 Sun 16-Jun-13 21:52:09

Yes wannabe we know its a given they should be that way. The point of the post is that we need to acknowledge that they are being supportive to us because a lot of the other posts are just moaning about people and it was getting a bit depressing.

FunnysInLaJardin Sun 16-Jun-13 21:53:24

wanna I think in an equal relationship either party would be considered amazing for doing the extra stuff, and hopefully within the confines of their relationship they are. I know my DH appreciates the stuff I do for him, and vice versa

LittlePeaPod Sun 16-Jun-13 21:56:42

Wannabe it is a given and my DF has always been supportive. I thought the point of this thread was to highlight some of those positive points and share them.... It's lovely to read positive posts. It would be great if you could share something positive.. smile

wannabeawallaby Sun 16-Jun-13 22:18:10

Ok ok grin

My DP is wonderful because he is smart, funny, supportive, encouraging, a good cook, kind, caring... And he always lets me finish the wine! How's that? smile

LittlePeaPod Sun 16-Jun-13 22:24:13

Thanks for sharing... He sounds really lovely and the sort of man that would do something special for you because it would make you happy even if it wasn't for him.

And we all appreciate all those lovely things our partners do for us just because they know it will make us happy and we appreciate them for it.. I know my DF appreciates everything I do for him.. smile

Newmum0113 Sun 16-Jun-13 22:31:46

wannabe - if he lets you finish the wine he is a keeper!

God I miss my wine. Feels like forever since I've had a glass. Not that I drink that often but really noticing it now I can't have any!

smile

ExhaustedMamasita Mon 17-Jun-13 14:45:13

Eeek love this thread! My beautiful, loving, adorable husband is AMAZING!!! He’s so supportive, understanding, kind and so so caring, without doubt the best person I know. Has spent his entire weekends for months making our house into a cosey home for our baby, while looking after me and making me tasty meals. He’s always been there, helped make my wishes come true and our baby is the product of a very happy and extremely loved up relationship. We’ve been together for 13 years, married for 5 yet I still get butterflies in my belly at the sight of him. Gush! Loving the positivity!

Newmum0113 Mon 17-Jun-13 15:21:13

exhausted that's wonderful! Isn't my DH when I was 16 and we got to know each other as friends first. He made me a romantic candlelit dinner for my 17th birthday and we've been together ever since! We've been together 9 years this year and married for 2, just before EED - what an anniversary present!

flowers

wundawoman Mon 17-Jun-13 15:24:55

Awww that's so lovely! You are very lucky, such a great start to family life!!

We should all look after each other like that grin,

All the best.

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