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Baby bedding help please!

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HeffalumpTheFlump Sun 26-May-13 18:16:53

As you will be able to tell this is going to be my first DC, sorry if it's a stupid question.

I'm looking at baby bedding sets and cant work something out.

All of the sets include a cot quilt as well as other bits. I was under the impression that you shouldn't use a quilt until baby is a year old, so do you lay baby on the top of the quilt? Or keep taking it out because it's just there for decoration?

Would the quilt not make baby too hot if they are laying on top of it with blankets on/ in a sleeping bag?

Sorry again if it's a bit of a daft question! blush

ThedementedPenguin Sun 26-May-13 18:18:20

I use a quilt for my ds who is 8 months old.

We have the sleeping bag but its hateful and far too cold in my house. He has a blanket and quilt on every night.

Otherwise you could store it until you plan to use it.

ClaraOswald Sun 26-May-13 18:19:46

Quilt should be stored for use until after the baby is a year old.

I wouldnt buy a set at all as the quilt isnt suitable until 1 year so you wouldnt need it in the cot until then. I didnt use a cot bumper either. With dd i used sheets and blankets but with ds I used a baby sleeping bag after the first few weeks and it was much easier.

Wishfulmakeupping Sun 26-May-13 18:23:42

Think they have to be over 1 for a quilt yes. We've been using a grobag much easier than sheets/blankets and dd can't kick it off think baby has to be over 6 wks though

Grobags are your friend! Don't buy the bedding sets - you can't use the quilt until they're 1 or the bumper anyway. They're just there to look pretty of you like stuff like that!

MortifiedAdams Sun 26-May-13 18:24:25

I really think those Bedding Sets are gimmicks bought by either first time parents or relatives.

They comewith a bumper, only to.be used up to a year, amd a duvet to be used after a year.

Just go for fittes sheets on the mattress and either a swaddle cloth or sleeping bag on the top

Oh, and go to TKMaxx for grobags - so much cheaper! Or the Saubsburys ones are good

HeffalumpTheFlump Sun 26-May-13 18:26:58

Thank you! I was wondering if it was really necessary as the budget is pretty tight and the sets are so expensive!! So should I be ok with: fitted sheet or two, blankets, bumpers (DH thinks they are really cute) and maybe a sleeping bag?

Thanks again grin

HeffalumpTheFlump Sun 26-May-13 18:32:07

And sorry one more question, our room is a bit chilly at times and baby is due in October. Will a normal sleep suit with long sleeves and a 2.5 tog sleeping bag be warm enough over the winter? Or will baby's poor little arms get cold? I feel so clueless about the finer details!

Wishfulmakeupping Sun 26-May-13 18:36:49

Yep but I would include a vest under body suit smile

a 2.5tog is suitable for temperatures between 16 and 20 degrees although our rooms go down to about 14 degrees in the winter and the kids were still ok in the 2.5tog bag. You can get long sleeved vests (have poppers between the legs but no legs on them) and they can be worn underneath sleepsuits (have arms and legs on them) and that helps keep their arms warmer. Grobag have also brought out a 3.5tog bag for rooms that get down below 16degrees at night.

forevergreek Sun 26-May-13 18:40:19

I wouldn't get bumpers ( our niece almost strangled herself in the ties)! and baby can suffocate if rolls into them or quilt due to suffocation also

Just get a good baby sleeping bag, and a couple of cot sheets, oh and a mattress protector

mrspaddy Sun 26-May-13 18:43:22

I was advised not to buy bumpers also.. think we are going to use cellular blankets for first while

Phineyj Sun 26-May-13 18:48:50

Get at least 2 sleeping bags. Babies throw up on them in middle of night... The babasacs are handy as they convert from 1 to 2.5 tog. Scratch sleeves are good for an extra layer on arms if you have a scratcher.

HeffalumpTheFlump Sun 26-May-13 18:52:36

I just saw on google about the bumpers!! Those bedding sets are a complete con really arent they! I'v told DH that bumpers are a no no. Thank you so much for the fab advice, you have just saved me a lot of money and more importantly possibly my childs life!!

I really want to make the cot look really pretty but if there is no bumpers or pretty quilt I'm worried it will look a bit plain. Any tips at all for safer ways to make it look good?

forevergreek Sun 26-May-13 18:59:00

Generally the safest way is outside the cot to make it look nice if that's what you want. Some fabric bunting on wall, or nice framed picture of something/ baby maybe. You can add a cot mobile which attaches to top of cot ( but taken down when baby can sit/ stand), or from ceiling.

Generally just baby, in sleeping bag and that's all. You can add a small baby soft comforter or similar.

Also if you haven't got already and have space I would recommend a cot bed. Means you can convert when ready and will last from approx 0-5/6 years to save buying another bed so soon.

MortifiedAdams Sun 26-May-13 19:01:48

You could get a nice blanket to put across the bottom.half, as baby will no doubt be in crib/moses basket for the first four or five months. Then, you could transfer the baby to.the cot in a sleeping bag and use the nice blanket for in the buggy.

And tbh by five months you wont care.about the cot looking nice grin I.know I wanted wjat you do and by the time dd was in her cot I was like "looking pretty? Ill settle for clean and slept all.night in"

HeffalumpTheFlump Sun 26-May-13 19:19:44

Thanks, you have all been really helpful. You are right I probably won't be nearly as bothered about it looking pretty once baby is here. I shall concentrate on the more practical bits!!

sjuperyoni Sun 26-May-13 19:24:18

You'll need around 4 sheets - babies puke in their sleep and can leak many times in a night i'm sorry to say! We used to put a muslin under ds head to save sheets blush we have his 4 and 4 new ones for dd2 because i'm paranoid she'll be sicky like him.

A couple of large cellular blankets are useful too - dd1 used hers till she was 3 and we eventually bought a duvet.

Thesebootsweremadeforwalking Sun 26-May-13 19:34:44

YY to sets to change in the middle of the night! As a bare minimum I would suggest 2 fitted sheets, 2 flat sheets, 4 blankets (or 2 fitted sheets and two sleeping bags if you're using them instead). That way, as long as you keep on top of the washing you should have a spare set to change in the night.

HeffalumpTheFlump Sun 26-May-13 19:39:18

Brilliant thanks, my plan was to stock up on muslins and use them to try and protect the sheets and everything else!! From what I have been told you can't have enough muslins!!

cravingcake Sun 26-May-13 19:40:56

Just as a money saving thing which you may not have thought about, don't bother buying little sheets for a moses basket (if you plan to use one, most people do). Just use pillow cases, they are the perfect size and baby will only be in a moses basket for a few weeks.

HeffalumpTheFlump Sun 26-May-13 19:42:20

Craving cake thats a brilliant idea, any money saving tips are very much appreciated!!

sjuperyoni Sun 26-May-13 19:45:38

I used pillow cases for dd1 at my aunts recomendation - fantastic ness all round smile used to get 2 packs in asda for 2 pound compared to pram sheets at 8 pound a pair shock

I didn't use muslins for dd1 but did for ds - he's almost 19 months and they still come in handy on a daily basis smile we have so many of his still that we've hardly bought any for dd2.

cravingcake Sun 26-May-13 19:51:03

Only other things I can think of is to agree, that you can never have too many muslins.

And I brought all my DS bedding (and vests and muslins) in plain white, its often cheaper than patterns or coloured. I find easier to wash as you can chuck it all in the washing machine in one go with a big scoop of vanish as required 19 months on from the newborn stage and all well most still looks like new

Splatt34 Sun 26-May-13 19:53:47

i just had a fitted sheet on the cot and a sleeping bag (from about 12 weeks). Before that swaddled in Moses basket. even when she first went into a bed she just had fitted sheet and sleeping bag. It was only at 2.4 when she was too tall for the 18-36 month sleeping bag that we bought pillow and duvet

Thesebootsweremadeforwalking Sun 26-May-13 20:01:23

In fairness, I would suggest not bothering with the Moses basket. Had one last time, used for 2 months. This time there will be a cot bed in our bedroom and a travel cot in the lounge.

zzzzz Sun 26-May-13 20:05:22

You really really don't need 90% of the stuff on sale.

Grobags are really useful but all the other bedding is a rip off. Just fold an adult sheet in half or cut one in half and hem it.

Babies are easier to bath in the sink IMO, if you have a washing up bowl it's better, changeing mat on drainer.

Cotton sleep suits and vests cost pennies. If you own a washing machine and somewhere to dry or tumble seriously consider cloth nappies (so much easier).

If you can boobs are free and sterile.

Pushchairs are really good for big babies but littleys are honestly easier to carry.

The bet high chair is the cheep ikea plastic one.

My first child cost a fortune because I really didnt know what to buy. My fifth was practically free for the first 10 months or so.

HeffalumpTheFlump Sun 26-May-13 20:18:17

Fantastic tips thank u!!! I feel like I know nothing.. I'm the perfect person to sell baby things to. When the shop assistant says something is an essential I stupidly believe them!!

6 cotton fitted sheets 2 Air Wrap Bumpers & 4 Gro Bags. That is all I bought and my twins are 8 months old.

itchyandscratchy26 Sun 26-May-13 21:35:22

When can I start using a gro bag. I heard they're not suitable from birth. Do you have to wait until a few weeks or a particular weight ?

StuckOnARollercoaster Sun 26-May-13 21:43:45

I understand that grobags are suitable from birth but that assumes you haven't got a really tiny newborn. I've got myself a couple of 0-6 mth bags that have extra poppers on the armpits so that the bag is a snug fit and baby can't get her arms into the bag and get stuck.

SoftSheen Sun 26-May-13 21:45:18

I would suggest getting two 2.5 tog gro-bags and 3-4 cot sheets. A waterproof mattress protector is useful. You might also need a 1 tog gro-bag for warmer summer nights.

We used gro-bags from a couple of weeks old- I think the minimum weight is 8.5 lbs. Before that we swaddled with a thin cellular blanket.

grobags are suitable from 8lb 8oz so it depends on their birth weight and how quickly they gain weight as to when you can start to use it. Some sleeping bags are only suitable from 10lbs.

Lurking to pick up tips here! Keep them coming!

allagory Sun 26-May-13 21:46:53

I used one from birth. They just have to be the right size for your baby. BTW John lewis charge 20-35 for a grobags. They are 10-15 pounds in ikea.

itchyandscratchy26 Sun 26-May-13 21:46:57

Also, does it have to be the original gro bag, or are the cheaper versions any good. £20-£25 each seems quite steep. ( I have twins due)

SoftSheen Sun 26-May-13 21:49:14

I wouldn't bother with cot bumpers. Very young babies that can't roll could get trapped against them and suffocate, whilst older babies that can pull up could use them as a means to climb out of the cot. The window within which they are safe to use (can roll, but can't pull up) is therefore pretty small.

stripes1 Sun 26-May-13 21:52:54

For each size we always made sure that one of the gro bags was a travel one, they have holes for the car seat straps to go in. Then if you are out for the day/visiting relatives etc you can travel home with them in it and put them straight to bed asleep from the car.

zzzzz Sun 26-May-13 22:44:57

With twins you DO need a pushchair (been there!)

I like white Muslims for protecting clothes and wiping up sick etc.

I also think changeing mats help (though a folded up old towel will do).

A cotton blanket or shawl to wrap the baby in for chilly moments.

For twins a duvet on the floor is much better than a play mat, room for two and you can wash the cover easily.

HeffalumpTheFlump Sun 26-May-13 23:01:33

Thank you all so much for your advice!! I know no two babies are the same, but I feel a lot more prepared now! Nice to know I'm not alone needing these pointers too smile

KatAndKit Mon 27-May-13 07:19:53

Definitely doesn't have to be the original gro-bag - the cheaper ones are fine - I like Ikea ones myself but the supermarket ones are fine too. TKMaxx generally have great bargains on grobags. How many you need depends on what time of year your baby is due - if you are going to have a middle of summer baby then you may find some nights are too hot for bedding and baby will be warm enough in just their babygrow. As a general rule I would say 2x 2.5 tog and 1x 1 tog but for a summer baby it might be the other way round. I got too many in the 0-6 size but my little monkey needed to be swaddled for 3 months so we didn't get that much use out of the small ones. I got some bargains on ebay for grobags.

Any sort of sheet you can do with 3 or 4 of. Otherwise you can end up washing bedding every day. Supermarket cot sheets are fine. I never used the flat sheets, I just got fitted cot sheets. Now he is bigger and doesn't spit up in his sleep I don't need 4 any more but in the earlier days it was useful. Muslins at the head end of the bed are a good way to cut down on washing sheets.

forevergreek Mon 27-May-13 07:57:14

Expensive but if you can get hold of in tkmaxx or secondhand I recommend the baby merino sleeping bags. The merino wool adapts to temperature so you don't need different togs as the same one fine in summer and winter. Each one is bigger also 0-2 years ( this size has poppers under arms so can't slip through), then 2-4 years if you still want

So full price around £50, but that is for summer and winter for two years. We have had ours over 3 years and through two children and look and feel new so I expect they come up on eBay often.

You can swaddle a small newborn with a large muslin in summer or a swaddle blanket in winter.

Actually the sleeping bags mentioned usually have a guide of what to wear with bag rather than extra blankets. Ie over 20 degrees , just long sleeved vest and bag. Under 15 degrees vest, babygro/ pjs and cardigan if still cold

mikkii Mon 27-May-13 08:12:53

I would suggest looking in the supermarkets for fitted jersey sheets, mine came from tesco nearly 9 years ago and are still in dail use for DC3, I do have some newer ones because DH bought pink ones when DD1 was born.

Terry sheets can get scratchy so I would avoid them.

I do have a baby duvet, but DD2 prefers a blanket. That's fine as I've already ad nearly 8 years worth f use from it.

Definitely muzzies, loads f them. I'm currently contemplating what to do with a huge stack of them....... Supermarkets sell these too.

mikkii Mon 27-May-13 08:15:14

If you are thinking about a Moses basket, can you borrow one and just buy a mattress? I bought one for DD3 and she used it for about 5 months, but she was a month early and little. I then gave it to a colleague.

MadeOfStarDust Mon 27-May-13 08:21:03

Brought back memories - our dds are 10 and 12 now - their muslins are STILL being used - the best window cleaning cloths around!! So don't get rid after the baby phase!

Wishfulmakeupping Mon 27-May-13 08:26:21

Agree with other posters unless you can borrow nose basket and just have to buy mattress I wouldn't bother- we only had our dd in it for a few weeks we'd have been better off using the little cot straight away
I'd also say you don't need to buy a lot of cloths you will probably be brought a lot so don't go too mad on clothes shopping, I would recommend Sainsburys for inexpensive babygrows and vests smile

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