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God you're huge!

(48 Posts)
smiler389 Tue 07-May-13 18:12:35

Firstly, I am over the moon to be pregnant , very proud of and in love with my bump, stretch marks and all! BUT I'm finding it increasingly difficult to deal with comments about my size.

Anyone else feeling this. Im 31 weeks and everything measures as it should. if the general public are to be believed though then im having triplets or labour is imminent.

janey1234 Tue 07-May-13 18:31:28

Yes. One colleague in particular says EVERY time she sees me that I'm huge, and that she wasn't even showing at all when she gave birth to her daughter at 30 weeks blah blah blah. I reserve the right to say good for you and then stab her in the eye with a biro wink So yes, it annoys me a lot! Ignore them. I know it's easier said than done though...

Yes I have had this loads! Even when I was 26 weeks someone asked me how long I had left, when i told them they said,"you're a size then aren't you!" I was like, thanks?! grin but same here I'm measuring spot on so just ignore them.

ExpatAl Tue 07-May-13 18:45:00

That's why I love working with Italians. They say 'God, you look beautiful' and if I look particularly massive and ploddy, they say 'god you look REALLY beautiful'

SourSweets Tue 07-May-13 19:32:27

Oh God it's awful isn't it? I tend to get comments on how "small" I am, how I'm probably not eating enough and am I sure I'm that far along? But then the same day I'll get "God you look bigger every minute, your boobs are massive". Like you, I'm actually measuring completely on track for how far along I am. (27 weeks) After a rant to my dad he said "Well, you don't have to tell them the truth when they ask" so I have started saying I'm way less or more pregnant than I am, it keeps me amused anyway!

MummyBurrows Tue 07-May-13 19:34:31

I'm only 17wks with my DC2 but I've had the size of my bump commented on repeatedly already-i do look 5/6months gone though but all the same I've had enough of the "are you sure there's only 1 baby in there?!" remarks I've been getting since I was around 10wks....I'm reasonably small (size 10) so bump is very obvious on me but in the same breath I still had a bit of a mummy-tummy from first pregnancy and carrying a little extra weight after coming off depo jab so I have an extra bit of padding on my belly anyway making my bump look bigger than it perhaps should be but not that much bigger that it should raise remarks like that given that my bump wasn't that much smaller at this stage when I pregnant with dc1 and nobody ever said anything like that to me then!

BeanoNoir Tue 07-May-13 19:38:57

Don't people know that no matter what they're thinking inside, the only appropriate comment to make is 'what a neat bump, you look fantastic.' If you can't say that, say nothing about it at all.

rrreow Tue 07-May-13 19:42:28

Yeah it gets on my nerves too, and as much as I wish it didn't it does affect the way I feel about myself and my body. I think people genuinely don't think about the impact those words might have, and they might even think it's flattering or like their way of showing interest?

harleyd Tue 07-May-13 19:45:47

i got told 'oh my god you are HUGE' by a woman in the playground.
i was just as rude back, by saying 'you're growing rightly yourself, how far along are you', knowing full well she wasnt pregnant
that shut her up

mrspaddy Tue 07-May-13 19:47:48

Most people have been lovely and most importantly DH is saying how cute bump is. However, the general rude abrupt comments from the older generation at work have left me shocked beyond words. I don't honestly know how people can be so rude or think it is their right to judge. My dad is particularly sweet though.. everytime I see him he yahoo's and says how great it is to see me getting big.

Yea wouldn't mind doing the biro in the eye trick wink

Fozziebearmum2b Tue 07-May-13 19:55:01

So agree-got told I 'was massive' by my boss at 13 weeks.... Then was given the Easter egg with the smallest number of calories (with a comment that it was the healthiest egg)

I can't believe how rude people are and how they seem to love commenting on my size. I'm a size 10 and still in floaty size 10 tops or more fitted size 12s. I don't think I'm huge, but do have a rounded bump, and has made me paranoid about my size...

Grrrangry

Iwish Tue 07-May-13 20:01:08

I always got comments about my size when I was pg with my DS. One colleague in particular always said I was huge and was I sure it wasn't twins! As said it at least twice a week. And then after I had my DS she fell pregnant with twins!

dinkystinky Tue 07-May-13 20:40:21

Ah, I get told I'm huge all the time too - only 32 weeks but to be fair my bump is front and centre (and nothing else has got bigger) so it does look pretty enormous. I reply that they aint seen nothing yet - by the end I look like I'm smuggling spacehoppers down my top (this is my third pregnancy so I know how humungous I get).

On the plus side, looking like I'm about to drop does at last, at least, finally get me a seat on the tube - silver linings and all that

bingeddybongo Tue 07-May-13 21:13:35

I'm only 19 weeks and I get it every day. Every single person I tell how far along I am responds with something along the lines of BLOODY HELL YOU'RE MASSIVE ALREADY. Am I going to have a monster baby?! (Answer: possibly, given how much it's bashing around already.)

Anyway... sympathies all round. And you're right dinkystinky... yay for getting seats all round grin

Conana Tue 07-May-13 21:14:25

Don't take any notice- last pregancy I was told how small I was so many times I became paranoid then ended up with a 10lb baby. This time everyone says I'm huge (to be honest I am) but I'm trying to keep my skin thick- who cares, they're probably just envious of your blooming skin and hair etc smile

Springforward Tue 07-May-13 21:15:31

The next person to tell me how huge I look is going to get sat on.

mrspaddy Tue 07-May-13 21:19:23

'The next person to tell me how huge I look is going to get sat on'

ha ha grin

We'll all team up and squash them all grin

Mayanbob Tue 07-May-13 21:23:07

I like that attitude spring. I'm 25 weeks and everyone who doesn't know better says I'm ' big','are you sure there's only one', 'you can't have long to go now'

I explained to DH that I might have to punch the next person and DH said you I'm going to have to get used to it... I didn't punch him. I love having baby in here, it's fine for baby to have my body as it's property to do what he/she needs. However, everyone else...can do one.

smiler389 Tue 07-May-13 21:42:15

Aaaw thanks for that. I feel better. Very similar. I have tried in vain to make a joke, politely explain it's a bit rude but nothing has worked. I like the sit on them plan!

MrsSpagBol Tue 07-May-13 22:37:44

I have spent the lats 7 or so months telling off people about how completely rude and inappropriate it is to make comments about my size/bump or boobs !!!

WHY do people think it's ok to comment in this manner, just because I am pregnant?!

FUCK RIGHT OFF you rude people!

and breathe

froubylou Wed 08-May-13 07:34:58

Lol at rudeness from random folk. I got told how small I was plus randomly groped a lot when pg with my dd 9 years ago. I was working fulltime in a pretty physical job at the time and very fit so got away with size 16 trousers with a hair bobble through the fastner.

This time I started with a good beer belly and was a size 14. Im currently only 7 weeks and already getting ckments on boobs and belly.

So what. Im planning on being huuuggggeee! And if anyone feels thd need to insult my bump they had better get ready lol.

TinkyPeet Wed 08-May-13 07:59:27

I don't even get a hello. I get 'ooh twins?' Erm....no. Then followed by 'are you sure?' If I I we I was having twins I would have bought TWO of everything not just one you tit!!
Even customers at work the other night were discussing me right Infront of me, one said 'ooh she's low isn't she, best not drink too much tonight then' - they were midwives....so I told them I've still 11 weeks to go....I love te horrified looks on their face, at least it shuts them up! Lol

TinkyPeet Wed 08-May-13 08:00:13

BUT.... I am huge, measuring a few weeks no and bubs is a big boy too lol

TinkyPeet Wed 08-May-13 08:00:34

Few weeks bigger*

eltsihT Wed 08-May-13 08:22:33

I love it how people's comments change! At 31 weeks it was god you are huge, that baby will be enormous, now at 39wks I am bing told I am very neat! Just wait and see what they say in the next few weeks.

Woodifer Wed 08-May-13 08:26:54

We should make bingo cards

"God you are huge"
"Are you sure its not twins"
"Look at those puppies"

LoganMummy Wed 08-May-13 08:27:56

It does get annoying when people comment but it really doesn't bother me - I don't care what size I am (I'm massive) I just smile and nod or ask "did you mean to be so rude?" (a line I pinched from MN!) smile

Missy28 Wed 08-May-13 10:32:33

The check out girl in Asda asked me if I was having twins the other day as I 'look so big' but ten minutes later I met my friend whose first comment was 'ahh your bump is so cute and compact'. I think my bump is just the perfect size lol grin

MisselthwaiteManor Wed 08-May-13 10:50:54

Some people tell me I'm huge some people tell me I'm small which makes me realise it means nothing. MIL has been calling me massive since I announced the pregnancy, I think some people are just arses.

Someone called me huge when I was with DH and he told them 'if you said that to her in any other situation you'd get a slap' he has a point!

I like the Sitting on people suggestion grin

Giggle78 Wed 08-May-13 17:47:54

I have had this since about 30 weeks. I am now 34 weeks. I am not joking I have this every day. At first I was upset - now I am resigned to it. I think people are very rude. Its very unhelpful and can make you feel bad for being not what people expect. Which is stupid. Because every body and every baby is different.

I am measuring 34" and really I just look like a 5ft woman who is having a baby.

However the majority of people who say this to me are in fact over weight themselves and I really want to say to them.

SO ARE YOU. I wish I was rude and could do it!

Gerty1002 Wed 08-May-13 18:40:23

I've had "ooh getting big now!", "you're eating too much" when eating a chicken baguette for lunch and "eeh you can barely tell, looks like you've just eaten a big meal." They arent even consistent in their rudeness! I'm 23+5, measuring normal and only just back up to pre-pregnancy weight after morning sickness. Only a matter of time before I scream profanities in someone's face.

BeanoNoir Fri 10-May-13 17:24:39

I just had someone say, 'you look like you're about ready to pop.' I've got 3 months still to go, getting worried now that I am actually too big!

Although I measured 25cm at 25 weeks so surely am fine?

MrsSpagBol Fri 10-May-13 17:26:32

Beano you are fine!!

rrreow Fri 10-May-13 17:40:43

I think people have no idea what 'ready to pop' actually means. Most people would have taken maternity leave by the time they're actually ready to pop and at that point in time you also might not feel like going around and socialising. What people consider as 'ready to pop' is probably more around 30w because after that a pregnant woman becomes a more rarely spotted phenomenon grin

mrspaddy Fri 10-May-13 17:44:47

Me again.. now the one I am getting at the minute is a very subtle.. mmmmmm.. I think you are having a girl... (I know this indirectly means you are putting weight on your arse and hips... that god for boyfriend cardigans).

Oh well, it is keeping me motivated when in the pool to do a few more lengths anyway.

josiejay Fri 10-May-13 17:55:39

It is so rude! I found it particularly shocking when it came from women who have had children - do they really not remember what it feels like to have your body commented on and treated like public property?
The only appropriate comment to ever make about a pregnant woman's appearance is how well she looks, how her skin looks great, what a lovely outfit she is wearing, etc.
Looking back it makes me quite sad to think that feeling self conscious because of those comments actually cast a bit of a shadow over that lovely feeling of having a baby growing inside me.
My response of choice became a withering look and a terse 'I'm measuring exactly right according to the midwife thanks'.

MrsSpagBol Fri 10-May-13 18:13:43

Hear hear Josie!!

SuffolkNWhat Fri 10-May-13 18:21:16

I give these fucking rude bastards an Aunt Lucy stare (showing my age).

If they dare touch my bump I start rubbing their stomach in return. Well it's no different is it?

HazleNutt Fri 10-May-13 18:22:10

From my boss just yesterday: so how many weeks left now? Wow, it's difficult to imagine you will get even bigger!

When everybody in the room looked like shock she quickly said that no, no I mean you haven't put any weight on anywhere else, it's just the bump that's been growing, but she's not fooling me angry

swaye Fri 10-May-13 19:29:56

Aghh comments blah! Apparantly "Im not pregnant" one lady announced another "you dont look pregnant". Another "your not old enough to be getting hot flushes" FFS!!! Im 21 weeks and have a pretty impressive bump!!

meryb100 Fri 10-May-13 20:14:43

errrrrr i hate this comments! my sister in low just told me that i must be having twins with this size of a belly, and she calls me fat all the time (and she is not a skinny lady at all...)

TinkyPeet Fri 10-May-13 20:26:01

Just popped into work to pick up my wage and was confronted with "OH MY GOD YOU'RE MASSIVE!!!" ...... Bearing in mind my last shift was only Sunday......

Creamtea1 Fri 10-May-13 21:28:11

I had the 'I think you're having a girl' comment twice today....once from someone who previously told me I was 'getting wide' so I agree with the poster who said its a thinly veiled way of saying my arse and hips are huge hmm
I'm saving up every single comment for motivation when I do my post baby diet and all the people who have said these things (who are mostly all fatter than me normally!) will be reminded of what they said!

plummyjam Sat 11-May-13 01:45:21

I got this a lot but I looked like I'd swallowed a medicine ball. Baby was big too at 9lb 3oz. Comments didn't really bother me I must say but can see how some might take offence.

fatandlumpy Sat 11-May-13 08:05:14

Oh God! I'm so with you. Up until 16 weeks I went wide I had 'spread like butter) according to my Mum. (Which I didn't mind as my Mum was looking after me at the time and it was said very much tongue-in-cheek). Everyone at work was convinced it was a girl. Again not really a problem. I could still get into some of my normal clothes at that point and only went exclusively into maternity at 20wks. This is my first and I'm now nearly 29weeks. I was a 12-14 beforehand and wore a 14 as I like my clothes baggy (also have boobs). I'm 5'4'' and my BMI was 26 (but I cycled to work, ran and was generally fairly fit - ex TA). Any initial weight was due to giving up fags and having to get off the bike due to horrendous MS and a big bleed at 14 weeks. Most of my work colleagues make the odd joke about 'wide loads' etc, but they all say I'm looking good - some even say neat. I was measured at 25 weeks and I was bang on - 25cm!

My sodding OH's Mum however has just (a couple of weeks ago) gone back up to her lair up North after spending a week with us visiting the 'Bump' (her first grandchild). From the moment we met her off the train she's been on about my size calling me 'massive'. Her first phone call (still in the car when we picked up her!) was to her brother to let him know she had got here OK, comprised of her describing how 'massive' I was. I was still in the car.... B*tch. That was just the start.

Every morning I made her a cup of tea (with a biscuit!) and then cooked her poached eggs on toast (with a couple of rashers of posh bacon)... Every morning, as I sat down to join her for breakfast, she would say, ""You look like you're really enjoying your food today," like I was face down in my plate, noshing away like a f*cking horse! The thing is my table manners are better than hers! - Well at least I don't lick my f*cking knife! you utter witch. I nearly stabbed her on the final day. OH had to calm me down a couple of times. I literally could not put anything into my mouth without a comment such as 'was that for the baby, or for you?'.

Everytime we went anywhere, every half hour she would say how hungry I was looking... and every subsequent phone call since she when back she's asking if I'm still eating for Britain. F*cking cow....

(Thank God for internet anonymity...)

She's usually lovely (if not slightly passive-aggressive and subversive).

It was truly nasty sad

(sorry for the rant)

Chesterado Sat 11-May-13 08:47:41

On Thursday at work - on way into canteen for lunch -Male colleague who is is incidentally massively obese: "God should you still be here - you look ready to drop" On the way out of canteen female colleague, mother of three: "How long have you got to go now?" "6 weeks - god you are tiny".

Sigh.

Springforward Sat 11-May-13 09:15:30

I think that the pp is right, that most people just don't see very heavily pregnant women that often, as we tend to be on maty leave by then - so a 30 week bump does look big to them obviously some people are just vile and can't resist having a sly dig in what they misguidedly consider a socially acceptable way though.

I finished work at 36+ weeks last week and yes, I do look like I've swallowed a space hopper which is now being inflated a little more each day. But bless them, my colleagues did balloons and cake for me on my last afternoon, so I decided not to notice the alarmed looks they kept shooting my steadily dropping bump and merely promised not to let my waters break in the office if I could help it, which increased the frequency of the alarmed looks grin. It felt a little like revenge....

Creamtea1 Sat 11-May-13 09:22:51

Omg fatandlumpy - your MIL sounds like an absolute bitch, I would have also wanted to stab her with her licked knife!!
I think when the next person does the stating at my tum/waist/bum area I'm going to do the same back, maybe even ask them to 'give me a look then' just like they've done to me wink

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