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If this is prelabour it's ****** painful!!!!

(69 Posts)
daholster Sat 27-Apr-13 11:03:29

39+5, last couple of days getting some vaginal stabbing pain and more Braxton Hicks, a couple of hours of which were uncomfortable.

Woke at 6.15 this am with a contraction, painful, thought going to the loo would sort it. Didn't! Happened every 5 mins, able to talk through them. Day on ball, walked around, had a bath, getting more painful and moving into my back. Sometimes some mini contractions for 5-10secs in between too. Now they are in my back I can't talk through them, have to breathe and screw up my face and have cried with them a couple of times.

I rang the labour suite and asked if they might be the real thing, they say it sounds like prelabour and were more worried about baby's movements (not really felt it this morning - though have been distracted!!!) So now doing the eat, drink and lie on my side thing. I've felt the baby, I'm not worried.

But these contractions are incessant and make me cry!!! It's so awful in my back! Does this really sound like prelabour? Not sure I can cope with it let alone "real" labour?!! Waters intact (a bit of wee with contractions, oops) and no bloody show. Tiny bit of mucous plug yesterday and day before.

I'm so frightened of this pain coming (I thought I wouldn't be but it's awful) but I think it's because I'm scared the midwife is wrong and everything will suddenly happen.

Anyone have any thoughts? Hubby is on way home from work. I only rang the midwife half an hour ago sad

brettgirl2 Sat 27-Apr-13 11:09:27

It sounds like early labour to me, time the contractions. Don't stress about not coping that's what epidurals are for. Happy days baby is on way grin

missnevermind Sat 27-Apr-13 11:15:37

if you are worried or uncomfortable or in pain, pop up to the labour ward and tell them. They will check you over and send you home or keep you in as they see fit.
Don't worry about bothering them.

YokoUhOh Sat 27-Apr-13 11:17:02

Early labour. A couple of bits of 'show' could be all there is (it was for me). Your waters might break when they give you a sweep (to check how dilated you are). Good luck, very excited for you! smile

MarvellousYou Sat 27-Apr-13 11:22:09

<holds hand> sounds like my first labour pains, was all to do with babies lie. It hurt to wee so much and I was scared I wouldn't cope with the pain but I did and I eventually had an epidural. Don't panic, baby is on it's way and labour is different for everyone. Do what you need to do (crying is acceptable!)

Exciting that you get to meet baby very soon! x

wonderstuff Sat 27-Apr-13 11:22:31

My waters didn't break until I was at pushing stage, don't wait for them!

Paracetamol genuinely will take edge off. Time contractions, if pain gets too much call ward and go in. Bath might help in early stages. Good luck x

wonderstuff Sat 27-Apr-13 11:25:36

Also I found timing contractions helped with pain, I knew it was only going to last x seconds then I'd get a break.

daholster Sat 27-Apr-13 11:30:02

Thank you everyone, husband is home and contractions now every 2 mins! And lots of weeing... I'm going to ring them and tell them I can't cope, because I can't, whatever it is! Will take some paracetamol. Thanks for the hand holding, it means a lot and hubby v impressed you all responded so fast! xx

daholster Sat 27-Apr-13 11:52:10

Rang the delivery suite again, told them what is going on, she said stay at home and have a bath and aim for worse pain I've ever felt, not able to talk, and come at least every 3 mins and last a whole minute. OMG! Told her I will do my best... And I already had a bath and used up the hot water!!! hmm

brettgirl2 Sat 27-Apr-13 11:55:16

If you feel you want to go in then ring them and tell them that.

brettgirl2 Sat 27-Apr-13 11:56:22

and all of this contractions lasting for a minute thing, mine were shorter but quicker, not everyone labours in the same way.

daholster Sat 27-Apr-13 12:08:57

They come really often but only last 30 secs, I just don't get much reprieve... I know I'm a FTM and don't want to make a fuss too early! When I really can't cope I'll ring again and tell them I'm coming... They have a 3 calls and they don't turn you away policy anyway. Lost a bit more mucus too so something is happening!

Thanks for all the help!

narmada Sat 27-Apr-13 13:13:18

Go in. The weeing on contractions coukd be your waters goung. It 's not always a gush and first labours are not always long.

RJM17 Sat 27-Apr-13 14:05:17

Just wanted to say good luck as didn't want to read and run. Hope all goes well and u have baby soon x

FoofFighter Sat 27-Apr-13 14:16:41

Good luck! thanks

I agree, stuff what they say about when they want you in, if you cannot cope with the pain then tell them you are coming in.

LandsN Sat 27-Apr-13 14:29:04

Go in Hun sounds like I felt with my dd and I got to the hospital and she was born 20 mins later do not let them turn you away if you feel you need help that is what they are there for!!! Good luck keep us posted how exciting xxx

Fakebook Sat 27-Apr-13 14:29:26

Sounds like pre labour I had with DS! The contractions built up over the day and although weren't regular, definitely got more intense. Good luck!

Shylepite Sat 27-Apr-13 14:39:04

It sounds like you are well on your way. Don't let them frighten you with making you think you have ages to go yet and the pain will get worse etc, they did this to me with my first and after demanding they let me in I gave birth 30 minutes after arriving. It makes me so cross that they do this!

Good luck and keep us updated smile

xigris Sat 27-Apr-13 14:44:46

If you feel that you need more for the pain and you're getting stressed then just go in. I was told that I was "definitely not in labour with my first. One of the Midwife's rationales was that I had lipstick on (??!). I was 6cm......Listen to your instincts. Best of luck! How exciting smile

my waters didn't break till the end either.

it does sound like the real thing.

have you got a tens machine?
it's a good idea to start using it now.

or you could get into a bath to calm it down a bit.

and <<Klaxon>>

Live birth thread! grin

flowers

Runningblue Sat 27-Apr-13 14:53:08

Just try to keep breathing really calmly (as you can!) through the contractions, and though it sounds incredibly insulting dose yourself up on 2 paracetamol, take 2 more 4 hours ahead and so on,
An increbibly hot hot water bottle can really help with that horrid back pain.
On the positive you have progress, the contractions arent all over the place!
Good luck xx

sorry, just re-read your later posts.

have they get a trainee on staff or something?! shockhmm

my contractions were about 4-5 minutes apart all the way through, and they never lasted as long as a minute.
and they went between horrible painful ones and really quite mild ones.

if you think you need to go in, then tell them that.

oh, and i found that when i weed, my contractions lessened a bit.

xigris Sat 27-Apr-13 15:00:53

That's a good point from Unique - make sure you keep weeing. Also, try to keep eating and drinking as you're going to need plenty of energy!

OneMoreThenNoMore Sat 27-Apr-13 15:06:29

Good luck op, as you haven't posted for a while I'm guessing you've gone in to get checked. Perhaps you've already got a snuggly baby in your arms! smile

GibberTheMonkey Sat 27-Apr-13 15:19:15

Agree with the others
I was told take a paracetamol and have a bath with my second. Good thing I ignored them as we left soon after and I had him soon after arriving at hospital

Hope all is going well

agree with xigris - make sure you eat and drink plenty.

and make sure you've got some proper food in your hospital bag (not just crisps and chocolates, but sandwiches, cold pizza pasta etc)

Good luck! :D I love a birth thread! thanks

xigris Sat 27-Apr-13 16:35:46

<paces and and considers medicinal wine>

Ooh good luck <sends virtual aromatherapy back rubs>

RJM17 Sat 27-Apr-13 18:04:46

Good luck x

funkky Sat 27-Apr-13 18:36:46

All the best, please let's know how it goes, am a first time mum 18 weeks and feel really emotional reading what ur going through

xigris Sat 27-Apr-13 18:48:13

Oooo Stitch can I have an aromatherapy back rub too? My back's killing me after carting a fat 16 week old sack of potatoes baby around all day. Please? smile

<rubs xigris's back with other hand> No one else ask now, the lady in labour gets priority and I only have two hands!

xigris Sat 27-Apr-13 19:35:53

Much better! Thanks Stitch. Have a wine and some [crisps emoticon]

Thingiebob Sat 27-Apr-13 19:37:57

Oh dear. I hope it is labour. I am currently going through something similar except the contractions are not getting any worse and keep stopping. I have been told it is because the baby is back to back and is trying to turn.

Best wishes.

MiaowTheCat Sat 27-Apr-13 20:05:02

I've had fucking awful "you're not in labour" contractions before, and also the inconsistent ones in terms of pain level which is what caught the MW out last birth - the fact I wasn't consistently yelling the place down.

well, she hasn't come back.
that means tomorrow she'd better be posting with a birth announcement grin

emblosion Sat 27-Apr-13 23:41:17

Ooo exciting OP! Hope you are snuggling your lovely baby right now smile

Was coming on.to say this sounds very like my first labour, which would have been v quick had ds's head not got stuck, the pest. I hate that midwives seem to assume first baby = long labour - its not always the case!

plinkyplonks Sun 28-Apr-13 02:45:51

Is hoping for some good news, good luck OP!

mildred37 Sun 28-Apr-13 07:43:18

Hope the OP is ok, and having cuddles with her baby smile

HopefullA Sun 28-Apr-13 13:57:44

Hope the OP is ok and snuggling with her baby!!! xxxxx

daholster Sun 28-Apr-13 18:01:14

Wow!!!! All those posts! I'm so grateful! It turned out it was a live birth thread!!! Sorry I didn't keep it very live...

I rang again at 13.30 and said I couldn't cope and went in, was 3cm dilated but things progressed fast after the exam! Got moved to antenatal ward for a whole hour and got in the bath, managed a whole two contractions and felt like I was pushing! Back to the bed, examined, 7-8cm, back to delivery suite... She was born 2.5hrs after!

Kaitlin Meadow came out with her arm up next to her head (fingers seen first!) and was trying to crown still without waters breaking so they were broken for me and she came within 4 contractions!

Meconium delivery (perhaps because it was fast) and she's been really mucusy so struggling to feed so we are still in. But she's getting there now. I had a large second degree tear (and man do grazes sting!!!) but the stitching was fine.

I found it quite traumatic, never experienced anything like it and probably because it was so fast and she started off back to back so that was really painful. But she is worth it!

Thank you for all your help and well wishes, they mean a lot. I'm sorry I couldn't keep you up to date!

6lb 7oz of loveliness! smile

plinkyplonks Sun 28-Apr-13 18:05:52

Aww!! Congratulations OP!! Well done! Beautiful name too x

UnderwaterBasketWeaving Sun 28-Apr-13 18:06:16

Congratulations!

From my single experience mucousy is normal. DS didn't feed properly till ed

daholster Sun 28-Apr-13 18:07:00

Ps For all FTMs... Pay attention to your instincts, try not to panic and stay as relaxed as you can. I had one dose of paracetamol and used gas and air on the delivery suite. The end with gas and air was ok really, it was the preceding bit with no analgesia that was the worst... No one offered the gas and air, only pethidine which I declined, so ask for it! I think I would have coped better with the whole thing if I had it.

Your gut instinct is often the right one so keep asking if you are not sure. Good luck to all those expecting and thank you all! xx

UnderwaterBasketWeaving Sun 28-Apr-13 18:08:18

Sorry, phone issues

Till he'd coughed/puked the mucous out. His was also a hand-up meconium birth!

Ask for help expressing and syringe feeding colostrum if you want.

Enjoy your little baby! x

brettgirl2 Sun 28-Apr-13 18:34:06

congratulations, the early labour sounded like my back to back one but I didn't want to scare you. Enjoy lovely baby smile

xigris Sun 28-Apr-13 18:45:16

Oh well done and congratulations! Beautiful name as well flowersflowerssmile

OneMoreThenNoMore Sun 28-Apr-13 18:54:03

Congratulations, and well done! flowers

Yy to mucousy baby after a meconium delivery, both of mine were meconium births but were feeding well within 24-48hours, keep offering and she'll soon get the hang of it.

flowers

FoofFighter Sun 28-Apr-13 19:13:29

welcome to the world little girl thanks

Jojo3737 Sun 28-Apr-13 19:20:48

What a lovely thread! Congratulations on the birth of your beautiful baby girl smile

chattychattyboomba Sun 28-Apr-13 19:26:11

Awww. I'm all teary! Just came across this! Congrats OP! And well done! Xxthanks

spiderlight Sun 28-Apr-13 19:30:15

Congratrulations!! Beautiful name thanks

beginnings Sun 28-Apr-13 19:35:11

So many congratulations! Well done smile DD arrived in a river of meconium, was a bit grunty for a couple of days and was then EBF until weaning and BF until he gave up at nine months when I got knocked up again.

Enjoy your lovely newborn cuddles!

RJM17 Sun 28-Apr-13 19:47:23

Congratulations!!! Been checking back when I can waiting to hear.
Sending u hugs and flowers

everythinghippie29 Sun 28-Apr-13 19:54:45

OP, I realise you have bigger things going on now and congratulations! Can I ask is Meadow a surname or middlename, because I think I just fell in love!?

congratulations grin
flowers

nice and quick, sorry about the meconium.
but yy keep offering boob and she'll get the hang of it. they have a bit of a food reserve to take them over the first day.
and lovely lovely name smile

Congratulations thanks

rowtunda Sun 28-Apr-13 20:25:29

Congratulations

YokoUhOh Sun 28-Apr-13 20:33:26

DaHolster congratulations!! She sounds perfect!!! Glad we were right about early labour smile

DS was also 6lb7oz back in November <eyes 18lbs of chub in bed next to me> and turned as he came out, giving me an eye-watering 3a tear. You'll recover really quickly, I promise smile

Enjoy your gorgeous girl, what a beautiful name xx

dottypyjamas Sun 28-Apr-13 20:35:31

Ahh lovely, congratulations!

Thinkingof4 Sun 28-Apr-13 20:40:06

Love the name! Congratulations flowers

Runningblue Sun 28-Apr-13 20:46:20

Fantastic news, well done!

Gobbolinothewitchscat Italy Sun 28-Apr-13 20:50:38

Woweeee! Well done thanks

daholster Sun 28-Apr-13 23:38:21

Thanks everyone! smile

everything Meadow is middle name. Nearly had it as first name... Hubby not quite as keen though it is beautiful.

Just doing the EBM... Night all x

everythinghippie29 Mon 29-Apr-13 10:40:00

Oh thank you, the whole name is lovely but I really do love Meadow, unusual and hippie but not too much! Congratulations again!

Congratulations!! Enjoy your lovely baby!!

Pour water when you pee, it stops the stinging! smile

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