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can anyone actually describe what pushing a baby out feel like

(57 Posts)
stephbecominglittler Tue 09-Apr-13 21:47:10

Hi title says it all realy but can amyone pls describe what pushimg and crowning feels like very anxious to no xx

Like you are splitting in two, and your fanjo is on fire, HTH grin

soupmaker Tue 09-Apr-13 21:49:15

Yes. Fish has described it perfectly. It's sore.

stephbecominglittler Tue 09-Apr-13 21:49:28

Really is it unbearable x

It feels like a massive amount of pressure that makes you think you are going to split in to which comes in huge surges (like heaving when sick but from the other end). The actual baby coming out bit is a burning, stinging stretching pain that unfortunately you have to push through (ie make worse before it will get better!) but you are so close to it all being over you just do it!

x-posts with the splitting in two comment!!!!

LoganMummy Tue 09-Apr-13 21:50:37

As above, like having a massive poo but the ring of fire (crowning) got me.

But it's all worth it and I'm doing it all over in eight weeks!

You'll be fine!

LizzyMcGuire Tue 09-Apr-13 21:50:59

I hallucinated chimpanzees at the crowning stage, somewhere in my head I think I actually became a chimp. Sort of primal reaction to it, I think.

TBH I barely remember the pain now, and I've done it three times.

LizzyMcGuire Tue 09-Apr-13 21:51:26

If you can be upright during this bit it's much easier.

Stase Tue 09-Apr-13 21:51:51

My middle one was the only one I didn't have an epidural for. When it came to crowning, I was almost relieved, as I felt I knew what I had to get past to get him out. It hurt with the contraction and him coming further down, but they tend to slip back up a little between each contraction, so the pain reduces a bit, albeit briefly. After the first sting of crowning, and the feeling of 'ok, that's what I have to get through' it was only about three more contractions, and he was out. I was so relieved it was all over, I forgot to scoop him up from under water, and the midwife had to grab him. Awesome experience! Take it you're due a baby soon? smile

sjupes Tue 09-Apr-13 21:52:02

Transition makes you feel insane, crowning hurts a fair bit then the body slithers out like a dolphin/squid - very strange but not at all as bad as it's made out to be.

Pushing - bit like the pushing feeling of doing a massive poo. But bigger. And it comes and goes - the urge to push that is.

Crowning feels like burning. Stretch your mouth wide and push down the sides to stretch further - you feel a kind of burning? That's crowning but it's your fanjo.

Yes you can go a bit doolally with the pain. I think I said I was off to get on a boat and sail away... confused

joanofarchitrave Tue 09-Apr-13 21:52:32

Have you ever had piles? When you have piles and have to do a big poo, there's a mental conflict between 'this is going to hurt, I don't want to do it' and 'i have to get this out' and eventually you just have to go for it, and if you try and avoid the pain you're actually more tense and it hurts more than if you relax as much as you can.

I was very scared about episiotomy/tearing beforehand, it was my worst nightmare. I did have a little tear, never noticed it at the time and it was no more than mildly uncomfortable (really; like a normal cut in your leg) afterwards.

stephbecominglittler Tue 09-Apr-13 21:52:54

Oh no.... I hope im
not too bad tbh.... I wudlike to think i am not to bad with pain had tattoos peircing ect i no nothing compares .tad scared now :/ had a c section with lb but really wnt a natural with this one but very nervous to say the least x

Peka Tue 09-Apr-13 21:52:57

It's pretty much as you'd expect! Lots of joint stretching, skin stretching and pressure in your pelvic region. I didn't feel like I was splitting in two although a friend described it like that... However it was like doing the biggest poo of your life (sorry TMI!) but you CAN do it!

Unbearable? Briefly but you know it'll end soon so you keep going.

said should read screamed

LizzyMcGuire Tue 09-Apr-13 21:53:47

I'd do it all again tomorrow if I didn't have to go trhough a farking pregnancy first though.

You'll be fine. Really.

Stase Tue 09-Apr-13 21:53:58

Also second the 'splitting in two' and 'heaving from the other end' comments. Not so much like pushing, but 'ejecting'.

stargirl1701 Tue 09-Apr-13 21:54:21

I was in the pool and it didn't feel painful for me. Just the pressure of pushing.

5madthings Tue 09-Apr-13 21:54:41

Yes to feeling like you are going to split in two or that the baby is going to come out your bum.

Ring of fire burns/stings but doesn't last very long, I didn't get the ring of fire at all for my water birth and he was 10lb 13oz with a head circumference off the top of the chart!

Remember to breathe, gas and air is good!

Its worth it, I have five and still get tempted to have another!

DwellsUndertheSink Tue 09-Apr-13 21:55:28

well TMI.....but i had a midwife that described it as having a big poo when constipated....that feeling that you have to bear down and push with every fibre of your being, but not getting very far, before taking a couple of big breaths and trying again - all read faced and straining.

I must say I concur with her description!

Crowning is not dissimilar to the next part - pushing out a horrible hard stool, with the stinging, burning sensation....only its in your foof rather than your bum. It does sting like barstard, but at that point, you dont actually care. I think theres also a dull ache deeper in your foof, plus the cramping contractions, but to be honest, the stinging is the biggie that obliterates all else.

Once baby's head is out, the rest is relatively easy.

Stase Tue 09-Apr-13 21:57:14

Is it weird that this is making me all nostalgic?

It's like having an itch from hell, and then scratching it with a huge metal claw. Bloody painful but satisfying. I think it's okay tbh.

I don't get on well with contractions tbh. They are far worse imo wrt actual relentless pain.

Clary Tue 09-Apr-13 21:58:14

Feels like you need to do a maaaassssive pooh and it really hurts like hell but you are gonna have to do it anyway. It feels like it's the size of a watermelon but there is no stopping it.

It's good tho because you have no choice and what you get as a result makes anything worthwhile smile

rocketeer Tue 09-Apr-13 21:58:42

It hurts like hell (had a vbac too) but it's bearable cos you know it will all be worth it. Oh, and I had no drugs cos it was too late and a breech baby, it was fiiiiiine!

You will be fine OP. It's bloody hard work and hurts in a way that is hard to explain but honestly I would do it again in a shot. The pride that you will feel once you have your baby in your arms is unbeatable. Congratulations by the way.

RobbinyoureastereggsSparkles Tue 09-Apr-13 22:00:38

It stings but it's not unbearable BUT every labour is different and every woman is different.

I guess it depends on how long you have to push for too. I think that I have forgotten most of how it feels as the last time I did it was 25 months ago grin

I remember that the relief afterwards was immense. I remember it stinging A LOT but I don't remember feeling like I would split in two.

With DD1 I had an epidural so I couldn't feel anything except the pressure of the contractions (that helps you to know when to push). With DD2 I didn't have anything but gas and air and I was frightened of the crowning as people always describe it as the worst bit, but it really wasn't as bad as I expected it to be!

I think that you've got to try to remember that it's the last bit and the pain isn't going to be for much longer, it's nearly over and in a few pushes your baby will be there.

5madthings Tue 09-Apr-13 22:01:00

stase no me to I actually quite like giving birth....well do t like it as such but its amazing and I get such a high afterwards.

And I agree with starlight contractions suck but the actual pushing stage is good, I do like that bit, it kind of takes over and for me was very instinctive, I mooed like a wounded bison....blush

stephbecominglittler Tue 09-Apr-13 22:01:35

Thanks for all ur comments guys very rreassuring cant wait to have little one xxx

AmandaPayneAteTooMuchChocolate Tue 09-Apr-13 22:02:10

I'll do a nice positive one!

I had no pain on crowning, no pain on pushing. Nothing.

DD2 (DD1 was forceps so can't comment on that one) was b2b and contractions felt like being kicked in the back by a horse. But as I got towards the end - and I assume she finally got in a good position - the pain just faded away.

Pushing didn't feel like anything else. It just felt like something was moving down inside me (and, disconcertingly, bouncing back at the end of every involuntary push). My body pushed, I didn't knowingly do so. I just realised after a little bit that it was happening IYSWIM.

I didn't feel crowning at all. No pain, no nothing. I had a second degree tear that needed stitches too. No feeling of 'splitting in two' or anything like that. It was bloody amazing being told that they could see my baby and she/he had loads of dark hair.

Afterwards, I was on the high to end all highs. I felt I could run a marathon and wrestle a bear. Though it's probably a good job I didn't, as I went a bit wobbly when I tried to walk upstairs to bed (was a home birth).

I was in the pool too, if that's relevant.

The only part that's unbearable is the point of no return when babies almost out and at that point all your instincts are to push as hard as possible because as soon as baby is out it will be over. And it is smile

Honestly... A tattoo needle on a bony part of you is worse, if you managed to stay still for that you can do pushing a baby out no bother.

stephbecominglittler Tue 09-Apr-13 22:06:04

Aww thanku so mucb guys really helped me xxxx than u for ur positive comments x

sjupes Tue 09-Apr-13 22:07:17

I'm looking forward to giving birth this summer confused this pregnancy lark isn't as much fun third time round - birth was pretty easy for me the last 2 times but even if this time blows i just can't wait to do it so i'm not flippin pregnant anymore nit pissed off about finding loads of new stretch marks this morning. On my bloody back!!

LoganMummy Tue 09-Apr-13 22:07:57

Forgot to say - I didn't realise that the contractions continued (although a lot weaker) to deliver the placenta. I was completely out of it and thought I was having another baby that hadn't been picked up in the scans!

EugenesAxe Tue 09-Apr-13 22:08:20

Not really, I can't remember in detail, but it wasn't a trauma for me compared to the first contractions.

I remember really wanting to push for DS, having to force myself to push for DD. You have to pretend you're doing a big poo and get really into it; use all the pelvic floor.

Didn't really notice crowning or tearing, which I did with DS. It was a bit more noticeable that it was happening with DD, but she popped out in a flurry with a 'graze'.

Honestly it's fine and you can't really do much about it, unless you have an emergency caesarean.

emsyj Tue 09-Apr-13 22:11:38

I had a VBAC 9 weeks ago and it was a lot less painful than the c-section recovery!

I would agree with the poster who described the sensation as like the same feeling you get when you're throwing up - but in your fanjo. That convulsive feeling, you can't control it and it just expels the baby. I don't feel that I actively pushed. I was upright if that makes any difference.

I felt a vague hot stingy sensation but I had thought beforehand that it would just be around the opening of the vagina, but it was sort of all of the inside of the whole passage if that makes sense. It wasn't horribly painful or unbearable by any means. It was a strange sensation but not awful - just weird!

PickledInAPearTree Tue 09-Apr-13 22:15:28

An immense pressure, the sensation of someone inserting something up my bum but not as painful as the transition stage.

I went a bit feral think it was the pressure and the fact the buggers sent me home once and I therefore had only two paracetamol. And I'm a big baby.

Mumcentreplus Tue 09-Apr-13 22:16:15

Mahoosive poo feeling, stinging pain around the edge of the vagina and major relief afterwards...plus a lovely baby to cuddle while you contemplate if your fanny will ever be the same again grin and tea and toast afterwards...the best tea and toast EVER!

Quak Tue 09-Apr-13 22:17:07

Another vote for staying more upright. I was in a sort of doggy-style position - on my hands and knees. It felt the most natural and comfortable at the time. Early labour was the worst but the contractions got less severe towards the end. Pushing dd out was not that painful from what I can remember through my rose-tinted specs. Just REALLY intense. The sense of relief is what I remember most. She was coming out!
It's different for everyone and I really hope you have a wonderful birth smile

PickledInAPearTree Tue 09-Apr-13 22:17:56

I lay on my front flat and refused to move - what an idiot!

cupcake78 Tue 09-Apr-13 22:19:05

I also remember thinking it can't be right as I felt like I was pooing my insides out not pushing out a baby.

Crowning stings and is hot but you just know there is only one way for it to end and your body just does it.

My head screamed no but my body just rid it! Such a relief when its over!

This is an illustrative video of contraction experience

Though they didn't do the crowning I think you can understand why the crowing is at that point, not big deal.

Xmasbaby11 Tue 09-Apr-13 23:05:22

Like period pains times a million. It's pretty awful to be honest. Don't hesitate to get pain relief if you're struggling. You can still feel to push with an epidural.

Not everyone feels that amazing surge when they give birth, so don't think you're weird if you don't. It can take a while to bond, and for the pain to subside!

JassyRadlett Tue 09-Apr-13 23:14:40

My mother likened it to trying to poo a watermelon. Sounds about right to me.

Pushing for me was much, much better than 5-10cm. Completely manageable.

willyoulistentome Tue 09-Apr-13 23:20:03

Epidural!!!!!!

Fakebook Wed 10-Apr-13 00:29:32

It's like doing a big poo and then this sore feeling like someone has battered your vagina as the head comes out. But I felt a strange relief whilst the baby's head was coming out too. I can't explain it. Like the head coming out was satisfying my urge to push. But that was my second baby so I was already quite stretched. Dc1 was born with an epidural so I felt nothing when she was coming out. I also had second degree tears with both.

Gorjuss Wed 10-Apr-13 00:43:41

Like passing a red hot bowling ball that's covered in sandpaper. But it only lasts a second. X

skratta Wed 10-Apr-13 00:49:59

I don't know how to explain it but you know when you poo something big...and afterwards there's kind of like a relief (yep...had constipation recently...TMI) well, that's it...

Like pushing out a pumpkin. Like sore and hurting but you can't stop it exactly and I was too drugged out and hazy tbh.

PickledInAPearTree Wed 10-Apr-13 12:50:23

Starlight that's brilliant.

AmandaPayneAteTooMuchChocolate Wed 10-Apr-13 12:56:27

Ha ha Starlight. I posted that on a thread the other day too. Great minds grin

Its a build up of pressure and pain. Someone had told me your know your nearly there when the sounds you make sound primevil. I told the midwife at one stage I wanted to push but she told me no. Then a little while later my body knid of took over I started screaming/straining in a very low gutteral tone, I didn't even realise I was pushing with the contractions. It hurt but part of it was enjoyable, its hard to discribe, I want to say its similar to the feeling of sex, but obviously different.
I'm 11 weeks pg now and kind of looking forward to the birth, I want to know if that enjoyable feeling was real or not.

plantsitter Wed 10-Apr-13 13:46:33

Crowning stings like a bastard, but you know it will be over at some point because you know that a head turns into a neck if you see what I mean. Then the pain is all worth while because the relief when it stops is the best feeling IN THE WORLD. Oh yeah and having the baby ;)

glorious Wed 10-Apr-13 16:04:54

Pushing was the hardest physical effort I've ever made and felt like you'd imagine except nothing down below. I didn't feel crowning or my tear (and wasn't using any pain relief at the time). I may just have been too exhausted! So it looks like it varies a lot.

TooYappy Wed 10-Apr-13 16:09:09

Like pushing a football out your bottom, by this time the pains are better as they are pushing pains (if you get them I didn't with DS2 so just pushed randomly).

The worst part it the skin around vagina stretching grin It's all good though, 5 mins later (ish) you have a baby, it's the pain before the pushing pain you want to be worrying about, it's agony but I somehow managed it with no pain relief at all.

2Labradors Fri 12-Apr-13 23:10:21

I've heard that you can have post labour amnesia and I think that's what I had with my DS ( my 2nd pregnancy). First time I had epidural and forceps and didn't feel anything really (until the epidural wore off).

With my DS I had gas & air, and I can remember the midwife holding one leg and my DH holding the other but I don't remember pain as he came out. I remember the labour pains but when I actually gave birth I really can't remember any pain.

It is the most amazing moment in life though.

I needed only 4 stitches with DS. I'm hoping that its not amnesia at all and that it really doesn't hurt, as I'm doing it all again later this year wink

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