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anyone else pregnant with dc4?

(105 Posts)
hokeycakey Tue 09-Apr-13 12:39:24

Hi all

I am 13 weeks 4 days with dc4 I have a ds 5 and 2 dds 3 and 14 months I always sort of wanted 4 but i was surprised to fall so easily with this one as haven't even had a period since having dd in feb 2012

I am very happy to be completing our family but scared about how I will cope with 4 of 6 and under although my standards are so low now it'll probably be ok smile

I feel terrible really sick and tired and halfway through a training course as well so supposed to be doing loads of written work for that..... oh well

Is there anyone else about pregnant with dc4 who wants to chat during our pregnancies?

elliejjtiny Tue 09-Apr-13 12:42:39

I'm 27 weeks with DC4. I've got 4 DS's aged 6, nearly 5 and 2. I know the feeling about being happy but scared. Funny how the scared feelings always happen when my 3 are either being naughty or fighting!

hokeycakey Tue 09-Apr-13 12:48:13

Ha ha!

Lovely to "meet" you you will have to let me know how it goes as you will get there before me!

I also found announcing quite funny this time... dhs mum just said oh right..... thought you might have another one, friends have been very happy for us but lots of double takes and "really's" from people or asking if it was planned!

Do you know what you are having this time?

SomebodyWillGetHurt Tue 09-Apr-13 13:22:52

Hi there. I'm also on number four. Big surprise in this house I can tell you. Still trying to get used to it really. The youngest of my lot Will be 7 and a half when this one arrives!! It'd be nice to have people to talk to about it.

hokeycakey Tue 09-Apr-13 14:07:00

Hello! And good to meet you too congratulations how far on are you?

SomebodyWillGetHurt Tue 09-Apr-13 18:43:43

I've just got past ten weeks. At the moment just thinking about seeing doctor. Becomes very real if I do that doesn't it. How are you getting on with yours now your onto second trimester?

hokeycakey Tue 09-Apr-13 19:05:55

Feeling much better after the dating scan it is definitely real now! I still feel like crap to be fair and struggling with tiredness I think last time I stopped feeling sick about 20 weeks so looking forward to that!

Have you told your other kids yet?

MissLurkalot Tue 09-Apr-13 19:06:35

Hellooooo!

Congratulations everyone!

I'm 34 weeks pregnant with no.4.

Two girls, 8 yrs and 4 yrs (both at school) and a boy, 2 yrs and we're pregnant with another boy.. So two of each.

Planned, but very much our last! OH had the snip soon after we found out, as takes months and months to 'diffuse' the swimmers!
Infact, he had the snip in September, and the first results came back from his first 'sample' saying 'very high sperm count' still!

I found the first 16 ish weeks hard, what with sickness and super tiredness. But, after seeing the Osteopath, who completely cured my sickness and helped my back pain, I began feeling really good.

I was up and down with worry about having gone for no.4.. My hormones really played havoc, and I, too, had a few little wobbles up to about week 16... But, they've completely passed now. I am so happy, and really excited.

Yes, we had lots of 'you're mad' comments from family and friends... And we don't get much support, as in asking how I am etc.... The school mums in the playground are great though, and have had lots of support from them, which has been lovely.

Since finding out the sex at 20 weeks, people who we tell are more positive, and we had alot more, 'wow, that's clever, two of each'.. So that's been lovely.

The girls are at school and are close and get on, mostly. Our little boy is a happy, easy soul and goes to nursery twice a week, so I get respite whist he's happy playing with his friends.

We're all prepared now, hospital bag packed, and we're all looking forward to meeting our other little man. Still struggling with names though!

SomebodyWillGetHurt Tue 09-Apr-13 21:03:51

We haven't told anyone yet. Kids might tell in school by accident and it's not fair to make them hold that big a secret. It's the tiredness I'm struggling with. I've also discovered what night sickness is! And a host of other things I'd only read about before. But still.... Congrats to us all. We'll get there in the end!

hokeycakey Tue 09-Apr-13 23:12:53

Hello miss lurkalot!
Wow your family sounds lovely and yes very clever to get 2 & 2! I think I have wobbled about how I would cope with every pregnancy it's so hard not to worry about what ifs but I know things change when the real little baby arrives
Blimey your dh must have some strong swimmers I didn't realise it took so long to work, that is the kind of thing my dh would be boasting about smile
Yes def the last for me too
Somebodywillgethurt the sickness is just crap I hate it! We didn't tell the kids till after the scan and now they are proudly telling everyone!

MissLurkalot Wed 10-Apr-13 07:37:34

Sorry to hear about you feeling sick. Why oh why they call it morning sickness. Try not eating your big meal in the evening.. try eating your main meal at lunch. or, have your evening meal as early as you can, giving it time to 'work its way down'... i was mostly sick at night time. Cereal became my evening meal! That on top of the utter exhaustion is hard work

. I know they're not cheap, but do think about seeing an Osteopath. I paid for one half hour session, £40, and the sickness stopped a few hours later.

When I was pregnant with my little boy, I was horrifically sick and lost so much weight. I really struggled in those first few months. The osteopath worked do well, that I was utterly convinced we were having a girl... As I was barely sick with my daughters. I could not believe it when we saw at the 20 week scan is was a boy!

I've been seeing the Osteopath every six weeks during this pregnancy, and he's fixed my lower back that used to go in agonising spasm once in a while. I saw saw him yesterday, my 'penultimate' visit to fix my hips that were really getting sore, stiff and achey from baby growing. A couple of hours later, I wasn't waddling anymore! I've got a spring back in my step!

Once baby is here, I'll take him in too to get him to look at both of us after labour, then, I'll only have to see him every six months or once a year for a mot!

I WISH I discovered him with my previous pregnancies.

I think we told the kids at the 12 week scan. We were telling most people then. I found it hard to keep it a secret. Big blabber mouth I am!

X

hokeycakey Sat 13-Apr-13 11:24:28

Miss lurkalot thanks for the tips the osteopath does sound like a magic bullet!

We have just had a horrible d & v bug in the house so actually plain old morning sickness doesn't seem so bad anymore!

I can't decide whether to find out the sex at the scan this time I never have before but kind of feel why not? I would love to find out so far we have dS & 2dds so another girl would be fab for the dds but part of me would like another boy but really will be happy regardless I sort of can't imagine having a boy again!

Do any of you have names picked out already?

Hope everyone is well

bigbelly4 Sat 13-Apr-13 11:38:11

Hello!

Im 27 weeks with no 4, very much planned but happened much quicker than anticipated! Have Ds x2 8 and 5 and Dd nearly 7 - All three at school now so had the whole "OMG what do i do? I NEEEEEED another one".

TBH we always wanted 4 but got a bit sidetracked when we had 3 under 3 - which was lovely but bloody hard work (Didnt realise it at the time though!) So really looking forward to having a bigger gap this time - and children are all really excited and keen!

Dont know what flavour we are having so a nice suprise, as the others were!

Razzdazz Sat 13-Apr-13 15:16:28

Number 4 here too!!! BIG shock as had a coil in!!! Have 2x ds aged 12 and 13 months and dd aged 10. Will be 17 months between my youngest and baby. My biggest bug at the moment is finding a new car to fitus all in plus a double buggy and all the bits and bobs!!! wink

Mummysaysno Sat 13-Apr-13 15:16:41

Hello! Yes another one here. My three are 8, 6, 5 so this is my little treat to myself I guess...the others were all such a blur!!

Gave away all our baby stuff and at 32 weeks still need to buy the basics for baby!

This is the hardest pregnancy of the lot...I feel older, had more complications.

However, when I allow myself to imagine that moment of holding a newborn again...can't help but feel so very excited!!

hokeycakey Sat 13-Apr-13 16:47:44

Hello!

Lovely there are so many of us!

Yes the car! Suddenly everything gets complicated! I have always used a phil & teds double buggy which has been great for me hopefully it will last another one got it 2nd hand on eBay

Thinkingof4 Sat 13-Apr-13 18:46:58

Hi
I'm 28 weeks with no4. I have 3 boys who will be 6, nearly 4 and just 2 when baby arrives. I don't know what we're having but everyone seems obsessed that we might have a girl this time! I'm not bothered either way but kind of sure it will be another boy. Definitely planned but happened first month of trying.
First trimester was hard in terms of tiredness but generally been really well so far, fx it continues like this.
Most people have responded in terms of 'are you mental?' etc but we always knew this was the likely response from most people.
Car seats are a bit of an issue we have a multimac in my car so will be able to fit all 4 in, but not sure what we are going to do about dh's car (he does pick ups from childminder on days I work)
We will work something out before then I suppose!!

Thinkingof4 Sat 13-Apr-13 18:48:33

Ps I really need to change my username don't I! I'm well past the thinking stage now grin

SomebodyWillGetHurt Sat 13-Apr-13 21:36:19

Hi again. I see the club is getting bigger. I've been working and studying over past few days. But.... Tiredness seems to have turned a corner!! Am feeling like I can see a light at the end of the first trimester tunnel. So interesting to hear from people so much further along. To hear you all sounding so happy and positive gives me strength! Thank you.

MissLurkalot Sat 13-Apr-13 22:14:12

Had the final growth scan on Thursday. Little man is already 6lbs and I'm just about 35 weeks!!
Consultant said she would induce me early if I wanted it.
Not sure about being induced... My other three labours all started naturally. We'll see....
Name wise. I've found a couple more that we like...
Rufus, Josef, and Henri.

LovesTheChoas3 Sat 13-Apr-13 22:35:23

Hi Ladies, I am nearly 10 weeks pregnant with DC #4 I have 3 DS 5,7 & 9. Would be thrilled with another boy even if people do keep telling me i must want a girl!!
I must say it's nice to see im not the the only crazy one having #4 all my friends think i am mad haha

SomebodyWillGetHurt Sat 13-Apr-13 22:40:11

I think it's great your consultant is giving you all the options for you to decide. I'm hoping as it's no 4 they might assume I know what I'm doing!

tazmo Sat 13-Apr-13 22:54:06

Hello thread inspiring. We had morning after pill but constipated and this only happens when am pg. hope went not but do not want to get rid if i am. We have 3 - all under 5! I still have a week before I know 4 sure. But I hope we r not from financial, age and practical perspective but too early to test! Tho if am, hope I can find peace with it!

SomebodyWillGetHurt Sat 13-Apr-13 23:52:18

Tazmo- you might be constipated because of morning after pill or stress. How long till you can test? An early one will do the job would it? First response type?

BookwormBetty Sun 14-Apr-13 00:13:26

Been searching for a thread about 4th pregnancy so thanks for starting this one :-) and good luck everyone.

tazmo I'm in the same position as you! Took morning after pill last Saturday but convinced I was ovulating and that it hasn't worked. Do u feel pregnant? I knew straight away with my 3rd and feel the same way now - though it may be my mind playing tricks. I have 3 boys under 5 so not quite ready for another one yet!

Did anyone else just know they were expecting before doing a test?

tazmo Sun 14-Apr-13 08:44:34

Hi yes too early to test. Due next sat or sun. First response r the best but have to get them from boots. The wee supermarkets here only have stupid clear blue digital and they only worked for me more or less the day you're due. Plus boots only open tomorrow. Wanted to get one yesterday but didn't want to give dh canaries. Think he's confident it'll work. Only other symptom was poky feelings shortly after, and do think I was ovulating. Am 42 so don't want another. Had high downs risk and rubbish 3 rd c section. Am shattered as all under 5. They r arguing over telly programmes right now and I can't be bothered! Loads of wailing! Under stress as just back to work and work ft. I have Ulcerative colitis so being constipated is unusual.

MissLurkalot Sun 14-Apr-13 10:04:47

I knew I was pregnant with no 2 and no 3. My pregnancy symptoms are exactly the same as my period symptoms!

However, I had zero symptoms and was adamant I was not pregnant! I just realised at the start of September, ironically on the day dd2 started school, that my period hasn't come, but told hubby not to worry as I had no symptoms. He rushed off to sainsburys local in the pouring rain and bought the worlds bought the worlds most expensive pregnancy test! I said there's no point as in not pregnant, but weed on it all the same, and gave if to him to hold and wait. I put the kettle on, and I heard 'FFS'!!!
We were pregnant. Couldn't believe it.

We were trying and did want one more, we hadn't tried that month! We wanted to concentrate on dd2 starting school... Bobs your uncle!

We were in shock though, even though we did want one more. In shock all week... Wobbling 'shit?, what have we done', even though it was what we wanted. Silly isn't it? But, it just hit us. I then became paranoid,,. What if it's twins? Hadn't thought of that!!! Eek! At 8 weeks we told parents and siblings and best friends.

Our best friends let us down the most to be honest... You're mad. You're crazy.. One couple we've barely seen since we told them it's like they're cross with us. If she calls me 'that crazy lady' one more time, I think I'll scream!

We paid for a private early scan as I had to see that it was just one.. And thank god, it was. And, more importantly, everything was fine.

We had the 20 week scan and found out it was another boy, rounding us up to two girls and two boys.. And people's reaction has improved. Saying how clever we were?!?!? School mum friends and some other friends have been so lovely and supportive and ask how I all the time, but I still feel quite sad about our group of best friends... They've really let me down. And, they were meant to be godparents when we get all four kids christened later in the summer.

I'm 35 weeks now, and everyone around us is excited and are being lovely and supportive... I'm really 'feeling the love'!

That couple who I said were cross are still distant and a bit odd... I know there were hoping to fall pregnant this year, the first time for them, so maybe there's some sour grapes, which I kind of understand really.. But it has changed our friendship now, which is shame. Hopefully when the baby's here they'll come round, I'm sure they will, as they're not bad people, they obviously just find it difficult.

Sorry for waffling on, but I do have a point... Thateven though we wanted no4, you still have wobbles here and there, and we still needed to come to 'terms with it', as daft as that sounds.

You always worry crazily about the other 3 and how you're going to be resetting the clock back to zero with a newborn baby in the house, and if it would affect your career etc... Money etc..

But, through all the fog of intense tiredness, sickness, aches and pains, sore boobs in the first trimester.. We somehow got to the 12 week scan and we then told the kids... It was lovely, the girls are so so so excited and ask me everyday how the baby is... And they help me so much with keeping the house tidy with their toys, asking if they could bend down and pick something up.. As my back got quite bad around week 23.. Little boy is none the wiser being 2 yrs, but he's been happy and relatively easy really, such a good boy.

Then, 20 week scan, finding out the sex, and as we had given EVERYTHING away, I started to get it all back in... Second hand , new... And Ive really enjoyed shopping for a little blue boy! I've met up with other pregnant Mums and have a couple of bump buddies, which has been nice. Then, the last few months have flown. And here were are, 5 weeks to go, if that.

tazmo Sun 14-Apr-13 13:12:00

Gr8 you sound so positive! Shame about your friends. Being pg has been well cause of tension amongst my friends. I had ivf first time round but have friends who failed ivf, those who had repeat miscarriages post no 1 and one who has an autistic child. I thought it would bring us closer but sadly not! My parents would go ballistic if I had another - they think we have too many with 3!!! Anyway, hoping my age and map will make it negative!

MissLurkalot Sun 14-Apr-13 14:44:25

Tazmo, I really hope it all works out ok for you.
You certainly get to know who your good friends are, that's for sure.

Becky2406 Mon 15-Apr-13 12:03:32

Hi I'm pregnant with dc 4 also I have 3x dd aged 8,5,4 this one was a shock but now 17 weeks due September I'm starting to get my head round it smile im super exhausted with this baby though I work 5 evenings so its hard. Anyway huge congratulations on yr news smile thanks for starting this tread I was starting to think I was the only one lol

Wickedgirl Mon 15-Apr-13 12:35:04

I am 14 weeks pregnant with baby 4.

I have a dd aged 14. And two boys: 12 and 9. To say that this baby was a surprise is a bit of an understatement!

I am 37 and thought that I was done with babies......clearly not!

I too have had lots of "you must be mad" but I have also had lots of "how wonderful" type comments too. My close friends are really excited at the prospect of lots of newborn cuddles and my older 3 children are all very excited too

MissLurkalot Mon 15-Apr-13 12:39:47

Hokey... I've got some time on my hands.. Would you be happy for me to collate everyone's info, nickname and due date, and put it on here?

SomebodyWillGetHurt Mon 15-Apr-13 13:04:05

Hey wickedgirl. Almost same story as me.
Tazmo if your about let us know how your getting on.
Misslurkalot that's a very good idea. I'm 11 weeks Today!
And..... I've made a doctors appointment! After that I took to my bed to recover from stress.

MissLurkalot Mon 15-Apr-13 13:14:11

Yay, congrats SomebodyWillGetHurt... 'Tis official! Whoop!

SomebodyWillGetHurt Mon 15-Apr-13 13:24:59

It'll be official on Thursday when I see the doc. Have completely forgotten the drill though. Do I just need to bring my positive test or does he need urine to test sugar and stuff. Also... And this is the bad bit.... Last time I saw him ( just after Christmas) it was to book getting my tubes tied. My partner and I have considered all options by now and feel very positive going ahead with it. The shock was immense but we're okay now.

MissLurkalot Mon 15-Apr-13 13:58:06

They will just ask how many tests have you done.. And were they Positive! (Daft question really!)
I doubt they'll do a test for you, but all surgeries are different.
They'll ask you for your first day of your last period, and they'll work out your due date.
They might look up your last appointment and see about your tubes.. And might talk to you about it, but most likely not.

It's like a booking appointment really, just to get you in the system... You'll then get contacted by the midwife and she will most likely come out to you to 'book you in'. That will then start the ball rolling... Labour choices, scan dates etc....

MissLurkalot Mon 15-Apr-13 14:01:31

Hey, it's not the bad bit at all. My OH went to his doctors to talk about the snip. He spoke to the nurse over the phone and even booked an appointment! It was all that that made us think, noooooooo, we want one more! No shame at all.. Don't worry about that aspect.. x

EsmereldaPB Mon 15-Apr-13 14:51:47

Hi, I'm currently 35 weeks with DC4, we have 2 girls 6 (7 the day before my due date) and 20 months and a boy who is 3. Although this baby was very much wanted and planned I've struggled getting my head around it and I still feel like it hasn't really sunk in that we're actually having another one! I think it helps that I'm not uncomfortable, and I think my bump is smaller than it has been in all my other pregnancies so I'm not desperate to get the baby out.

I was worried about people's reactions to the pregnancy but they have all been pretty positive, (I have had my fair hare of "are you mad?" but those have been light-hearted) although I think a lot of people have assumed it wasn't planned.

Wickedgirl Mon 15-Apr-13 15:37:47

Esmerelda....... Why do people feel the need to ask "was it planned?"

Does it matter? As long as the mum to be is happy, surely that's all that counts?

I have happily told my close friends that this baby is a wonderful surprise and that I am excited about it......In return, they seem happy for me and excited too.

Misslurkakot........my DH is looking into getting the snip. I really wouldn't want to have another one are this one!

SomebodyWillGetHurt Mon 15-Apr-13 15:46:31

Other peoples reaction... That right there is the hard part. I don't particularly want to deal with that. Dp says we should just tell everyone now and get it over and done with. I'm just not ready for it all.

SomebodyWillGetHurt Mon 15-Apr-13 15:54:57

It seems unreal to hear some of you talking about 35 Weeks! Its like I've forgotten how time/pregnancy works. In my head its like I can't remember how that was. I need a refresher course really.

MissLurkalot Mon 15-Apr-13 17:50:33

Esmerelda.. I'm 35 weeks now. Due 22 May! What's your due date?
It took a while to sink in, but I've been beyond excited for weeks now. No wobbles in sight... Had plenty of those at first.

EsmereldaPB Mon 15-Apr-13 18:25:17

Wickedgirl - to be fair, no-one has asked, but it's just a look they get (I may be being a little unfair to them), my best friend thought it was unplanned cos I sent her the scan pic in an email with the subject Surprise! so she thought I meant it was a surprise to us, rather than it being a surprise for her (we didn't tell amyone we were ttc)

Somebody - don't worry about it, everyone has been pleased for us, I think it's just something a lot of people can't imagine for themselves - a lot of people I know have 2 so 4 is a lot more. Also it seems unreal to me that I'm 35 weeks, I really should start getting stuff organised!

MissLurkalot - I'm due 17 May, but as the others have all been overdue I've told everyone that I'm due at the end of May (so I can avoid all the text/calls/fb comments) and I've said it so many times that I often forget that I am due before then, to my mind I've still got 7 weeks left. I know what you mean about the wobbles I had loads to begin with as well, I'm definitely over them now but it still feels like it hasn't quite sunk in, I think maybe I'm just too busy

MissLurkalot Mon 15-Apr-13 19:01:20

Overdue on them all? That's hardcore! ;-)
I've already had 'have you popped yet?' emails from people as mine were early, apart from the first who was 40 weeks exactly.
Consultant said she would agree to an early induction as little MFN is already 6lbs! We'll see...
I love how you told your friend with the scan photo and email. .

Thinkingof4 Mon 15-Apr-13 19:35:03

Ive been overdue with all mine so far too, I wish I thought of telling everyone due date was a week later than it really was!
Only 3 days over with last 2, 13 days with first confused
so want to avoid that again!!

Wickedgirl Mon 15-Apr-13 19:36:18

How big were your other babies?

Mine were: dd came on her due date, 8lb 15oz
Ds, 9 days early, 9lb 13oz
Ds 3 days early, 9lb 4oz

I am hoping for this one to be a few days early too

MissLurkalot Mon 15-Apr-13 19:51:16

9lb 14oz (ouch!) On due date (28 hrs)
7lb 14oz. 14 days early (yay) (16 hrs)
8lb 2oz. 3 days early (17 hrs)

All kicked off at midnight too!

mooglet Mon 15-Apr-13 21:16:27

Can I join in too? I'm 15 weeks and have DS1 who's 5, DD 3 (4 by the time baby arrives) and DS2 who is 20 months. I have always wanted 4 and am a long-time lurker on the larger family threads, but DH wasn't so sure for a long time. But he's delighted now and the older children are so excited too!

And it's nice to know other people are having four. My family were less than positive initially, although they seem to have come round to the idea now. And friends are excited but also seem to think we're mad. And today was the first day of sun we've had this year and so when I took my coat off on the school run I could sense a lot of people staring at my - already huge - belly!

icravecheese Mon 15-Apr-13 21:23:54

Hi Ladies,
Congrats on your baby no4 pregnancies!
I just wanted to hi-jack your thread slightly....currently got 3 DC - DS (5yo), DD (4yr) & another DD (18months). We umm and ahhh about trying for no.4, our main worry being bedroom space, which sounds like a daft practicality, but how does / will you ladies arrange things when no4 arrives (unless of course you have 5 bed houses)?

We currently have a 3 /4 bed house (3 upstairs bedrooms, then one very large playroom downstairs, that was sold as a very big study / family room or 4th bedroom). Currently, our 5 & 4yo share a room, & 18month old has her own room, but eventually the girls can share and DS could have downstairs room (has its own shower room) when, say he gets to secondary school age.

We don't really want to move as we love our house, but we worry about 2 of the kids sharing long term as they get older.

Are we being daft putting off trying for a 4th just due to this bedroom space thing?

hokeycakey Mon 15-Apr-13 22:21:09

Yy miss lurkalot that would be fab! Must catch up on posts & welcome to the new faces!
Gonna read and post properly later but a list with due dates etc would be great

MissLurkalot Mon 15-Apr-13 22:22:40

Will do Hokey, just a few more to add.

hokeycakey Mon 15-Apr-13 22:27:08

I crave cheese I do think that practicalities are important BUT do you want a 4th or not is probably the most important question! Having a playroom could help as kids have more space do you have any potential to extend? My 2 dd's are in together but we still have a spare room, will see how things go as they get older!

Wickedgirl Tue 16-Apr-13 08:34:26

Icravecheese.......this baby will have to share a room. If its a girl, it will go into our daughters room and if its a boy, it will go in with our youngest.

SomebodyWillGetHurt Tue 16-Apr-13 18:13:58

Have just remembered important question. When did everyone start to Show?

Wickedgirl Tue 16-Apr-13 18:29:08

At about 11 or 12 weeks this time around

MissLurkalot Tue 16-Apr-13 19:28:08

Can you copy the list, and add your due date before you repost it? Or just let us know when your due date is and I can do it.

MissLurkalot. May
EsmereldaPB. May
Mummysaysno. June
Thinkingof4. July
elliejjtiny. July
bigbelly4. July
SomebodyWillGetHurt. August
Becky2406. September
Hokeycakey. October
posterWickedgirl. October
Mooglet. October
LovesTheChoas3. November
Tazmo. December
BookwormBetty. December
Razzdazz.

EsmereldaPB Tue 16-Apr-13 20:05:21

DD1 - 8 days late - 8lbs 5ozs
DS1 - 6 days late - 8lbs 15ozs
DD2 - 15 days late - 10lbs 13ozs

icravecheese - we have a 3 bed house and currently DD1 & DS1 have bunk beds and share a room and DD2 is in a cot in her own room, we'll have the baby in with us for the first 6-12 months (going on past experience) and then they will go in with DD2.

SomebodyWillGetHurt - I'm honestly not sure when I started to show this time around, as I'm pretty wobbly in the tummy anyway and as it's been so cold I've been wearing a lot of big jumpers etc, I look a little pregnant in my friends wedding photos and I was around 20 weeks when she got married

MissLurkalot. May
EsmereldaPB. 17 May
Mummysaysno. June
Thinkingof4. July
elliejjtiny. July
bigbelly4. July
SomebodyWillGetHurt. August
Becky2406. September
Hokeycakey. October
posterWickedgirl. October
Mooglet. October
LovesTheChoas3. November
Tazmo. December
BookwormBetty. December
Razzdazz.

SomebodyWillGetHurt Tue 16-Apr-13 20:16:24

Good chart. Though I'm due in November. Not sure I said which I is probably a vital point on these threads. Can't have people thinking you're pregnant forever! I'll try to change later when on main computer.

SomebodyWillGetHurt Tue 16-Apr-13 20:23:35

Oh to get to twenty weeks!! I feel huuuuge already. I didn't show till the twentyish mark with second two. On first one I didn't show till six months.

hokeycakey Tue 16-Apr-13 20:55:28

My first was 2 days early 7lb 15
2nd 7 days over 6lb 3
3rd 6 days over 7lbs

So an absolute bunch of tiddlers compared to yours!

I am 14 weeks and def showing but I was at my lowest weight in ages before getting pregnant so bump had nowhere to hide I have rectified that now though as I can't stop eating!

MissLurkalot. May
EsmereldaPB. 17 May
Mummysaysno. June
Thinkingof4. July
elliejjtiny. July
bigbelly4. July
SomebodyWillGetHurt. August
Becky2406. September
Hokeycakey. October 11th
posterWickedgirl. October
Mooglet. October
LovesTheChoas3. November
Tazmo. December
BookwormBetty. December
Razzdazz.

Wickedgirl Tue 16-Apr-13 21:04:00
Wickedgirl Tue 16-Apr-13 21:05:19

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MissLurkalot Tue 16-Apr-13 21:22:58

Cravecheese... I think you need to get away from focussing on the bedroom situation. I don't know what others think, but my kids are literally in their own bedrooms to get changed, and then sleep.
I honestly feel you just have to make the best of what you have.
Don't let distribution of bedrooms be an important factor in your decision to go for no 4.
Concentrate on more important issues... The sheer impact of another one to look after.. Practicality, emotionally, financially.. And the effect of this new person on all of you.
Things like bedrooms, bigger car.. That's the easy thing...
Think about coping with pregnancy, new baby, and how it impacts you especially.
That said... I love being pregnant, even now, lower back/hip ache, cervix feels as thin as cling film! But, I bloody love it. I love feeling the little tike squirming about, and bouncing up and down inside me! Lol!
I am really slowing down now.. But, it's all ok.. I'm just taking taking it all on my stride and am reminding myself.. Make the most of it, this is the last time.

Our bedroom situation is this...
We have the loft bedroom and ensuite on the top floor (heaven), with a stair gate at the bottom of our stairs.
Then each of the 3 kids have a bedroom each, and they share the family bathroom.
New baby coming soon, so we'll make the following changes..
DD1 (8) has the large original master bedroom, it's the entire width of the house, with two large windows, two light fittings and two radiators under each window. It is large, and she rattles about in it.
So bish bosh.. Two options, they both share or we split the room.
We've all decided to split the rooms, with a little corridor, giving them their own space.

Mummysaysno Wed 17-Apr-13 01:17:52

Yes good advice about the bedroom issue not being the clincher. We live in a country where most people live in tiny apartments, so kids share tiny rooms. Right now two of mine share a room, even though there is a spare bedroom but it's two floors away, and it works better for all the kids to be on the same floor where there's also a playroom and backyard (upside down house). Then at 6 months the baby will move from our room to the spare room. But when/if we move back to UK there would be change again and I'd probably have some sharing just to keep them all on the same floor.

The way I see it, for every child, having three siblings means plus points...that there's always someone to play with, the house is totally about kids and not mummy and daddy etc, and negative points...financial impact, practical impact...they can't all go to where they want as we can't please all of them all the time. They have to wait sometimes to get my attention if I'm talking to another one. For us the pros are worth the cons... but of course not for everyone. This knowledge is why I wanted a fourth, but I also know we're handing our life back to chaos for a while!shock

GreenLeafTea Wed 17-Apr-13 07:36:36

I've recently found out I am pg with baby number 4. I'm still in a bit of shock about it all as it wasn't planned. I haven't even told dh yet. I'm really nervous about people's reactions. We will have four kids aged 5 and under. Thank goodness we bought a 6 seater car (assuming this isn't twins)!!

I feel ok. The morning sickness isn't too bad but I'm quite tired. My husband works away from home. He comes home two weekends a month. I'm worried about the cat as I am the only one who can do his kitty litter. I guess some disposable gloves and lots of hand washing are the way forward.

I'm very busy, just starting a new business, PTA, and volunteer work but I guess I will cope somehow.

I really want to have a home birth this time. I'm not sure what dh will think of that though.

I'd rather not go on the role call list yet, if that is ok as I have a history of miscarriages and I still have a lot to get my head around.

But it will be nice to have some others to chat to!

MissLurkalot Wed 17-Apr-13 10:53:29

Mummysaysno...... I love what you said.. "handing our life back to chaos for a while!".... So true, it's like you're setting the clock back to zero again.

Greenleaftea..... Welcome and congratulations. Of course, will leave you off the list for now, I totally understand.
Obviously only you know how you feel and what is right for you. But, I think there is a plus side to having them closer together.. Bish bosh... You're not 'out' of the chaos that is 3 young kids under 5 yrs. you're still very much in it... I wish I had mine a bit closer together.. We'll be 4 kids under 8.5 years.
I love the idea of rounding up the figures...
My oh was in shock for a few weeks even though we we were trying! Lol!
It sounds like its you anyway who will be taking on the extra work of little one arriving in 8 months... And, as long as you are up for it, (god, that looks awful written down.. But you know what I mean), go for it. Another little personality in the house...
We're here to 'hold your hand' until you come to a decision, whatever you decide. It can be awfully lonely knowing what you know... But thank you for sharing, and we're all here for you. x

MissLurkalot Wed 17-Apr-13 11:00:54

God, that last paragraph looks bloody awful! I really should preview before I post! It all sounded over dramatic.. I just meant that glad you found us Greenleaftea. (Getting my head down for a bit, didn't sleep well last night, and I'm spouting gibberish! Lol! x

icravecheese Wed 17-Apr-13 12:26:06

thanks ladies - now i've read your posts, i realise my main concern re: bedroom arrangements looks daft really! So thanks for knocking that on the head and leaving us to consider the more important side of trying for no4!

Mummysaysno Wed 17-Apr-13 12:44:33

Ah go on ilovecheese...join the club! wink

Congratulations to the poster who just found out...(can't check names as posting from my phone). You sound like you will have a lot to handle...don't be afraid to put yourself first and step down from some commitments.

Mummysaysno Wed 17-Apr-13 12:47:23

...sorry icravecheese! Can't even hold a name in my head for three seconds.

MissLurkalot..ditto re the shock of finding out...this was planned, but that first week after getting the positive I kept waking in the night in shock. You think after three children I'd be a bit less surprised how babies are made!

hokeycakey Wed 17-Apr-13 13:44:05

Welcome green leaf tea! So lovely to have you here I know how it feels I also have history of miscarriage and I know everyone worries in early pregnancy but mc really taints the pleasure of getting pregnant! Helped me to concentrate on the fact that it is WAY more likely that everything will be fine than not and luckily it was

You sound like me too, I volunteer for age uk, I run a local toy library/toddler group am on the children's partnership board and I'm also training to be a yoga teacher as well as having 3 five and under so have lots going on! Will just play it by ear and see what happens

Icravecheese yes join the club!

Hope everyone is ok

icravecheese Wed 17-Apr-13 14:04:00

ha! we're very tempted...going on past experience, it only takes my DH to look at me & we're pregnant! I will re-join thread if indeed we do decide to go for it.
In the meantime, congrats to everyone, enjoy your 4th pregnancies & delicious newborns!

GreenLeafTea Thu 18-Apr-13 00:38:21

Good luck icravecheese!

Thank you for the welcome everyone and the very kind words MissLurkalot.

I will talk to dh this weekend. I feel happy and positive about the pregnancy so that is good. Perhaps it is fate!

Dd is currently going through the terrible twos and I was quite relieved not to go through that again but looks like I will after all.

We have booked a trip for the summer to visit my parents who live abroad. Well, if you don't get priority with three little kids and a big stomach then I don't know what will. We go every year so the kids are used to flying long haul but it should be interesting this time!

I will see if I can get an early scan.

MissLurkalot Thu 18-Apr-13 09:31:45

Crossing everything for you Cravecheese.... xxx

MissLurkalot Thu 18-Apr-13 09:32:30

Somebody. Sorry I put you down as August, must've got mixed up.

MissLurkalot Thu 18-Apr-13 09:44:17

Greenleaftea. I do believe fate is a large part of it. It was for us.
I'll be thinking of you this weekend. I'm sure hubby will be happy if you're happy. My hubby is really quite excited now, it took him a little while to get involved in the pregnancy.... Mostly due to work and that he's been brilliant helping with the three kids, taking up the slack if I've been under the weather.. So it's kind of crept up on him.
We're off to France this summer, despite baby only being two months old. We're returning to the same place again, and I said to hubby, when we saw a new mother with her newborn.. Wouldn't it be lovely if we had a newborn next year. And hopefully, all being well, we will.
My 8 yr old dd had a show and tell for RE today at school, and they're to bring something in. She wanted to me and my bump in, bless her! I suggested one of baby's sleepsuits and the little toy comforter the girls bought for baby... Such a warm, fuzzy and proud moment, bless her. x

hokeycakey Thu 18-Apr-13 20:44:13

Miss lurkalot that is so lovely! It is amazing to share in the excitement with your little ones! Icravecheese I am glad you're feeling positive let us know how dh reacts!

After all the talk of negative reactions I have to share the BEST one ever I just got from my yoga teacher a real lovely lady on her 60s I told her and she said "how wonderful! We need as many beautiful people like you in this world as we can get" ha ha fabulous! Am under no illusions that she doesn't say the same thing to every pregnant student.... But still made my day! That's what everyone should say smile 15 weeks tomorrow for me..... Hoping the sickness will fade

How's everyone else?

SomebodyWillGetHurt Thu 18-Apr-13 23:42:45

That made me well up a little. I'm a bit emotional today to say the least. Pregnancy confirmed by doc today. Am on the books officially now. Only change in past seven years is scan at 18 weeks and not 20. (Ireland) And pregnancy is still 40 weeks!!,

MissLurkalot Fri 19-Apr-13 08:18:36

How lovely Hokey... Such a lovely thing to say... Lovely yoga lady. :-)
Yay Somebody, 'tis official! Here starteth the roller coaster of emotions! I've cried so much sometimes, I make myself laugh... And then, most likely wet myself!!! I have been introduced to the world of Tena Lady over the past month or two.. She is my new best friend! Lol!
xxxxx

GreenLeafTea Sat 20-Apr-13 21:12:35

Well, I told him! He was a bit shocked but ok about it. He said he will support me whatever I want to do. I think it is still sinking in a bit.

I'm going to see if I can get an early scan to put my mind at ease.

Still feeling tired and sick so that is a good sign!

MissLurkalot Tue 23-Apr-13 17:48:35

That's great Greenleaftea.... Soooo excited for you. My pregnancy has blooming flown by! 36 weeks now.. Only 4 weeks to go. Unless they induce me... We'll see.

Hope everyone is feeling well... How is everyone?

On a funny note, my god, I am having the most sensational dreams!!!! Some really quite steamy!!! Lol!!!

hokeycakey Thu 25-Apr-13 20:57:55

Ha ha misslurkalot this is one of the best things about pregnancy! Terrible though as I go off real life sex, probably because I don't need it after the dreams smile

Can't believe you are 36 weeks! Can't imagine getting there, how are you feeling about labour? Guess it just becomes a necessary evil

Great news greenleaftea so happy he was happy!

I am ok 16 weeks tomorrow but still feeling bloody sick stupid hormones I never seem to get that glowing energy bit have a date for my 20 week scan on the 24th may so looking forward to that!

Hi all

MissLurkalot Thu 25-Apr-13 21:32:26

Hi hokey.. I was worried everyone had disappeared.
I know, nor can I! It's honestly flown by.
You must think I'm mad, but I can't wait to go through it again. To meet him and to experience it all again. I just can't wait.
My cervix is cling film thin, so can feel his little head all ready to go. Of course, I'm uncomfortable some of the time and I have the usual heavily pregnant aches and pains... But this is the last time, and I'm going to try to savour every moment.
The pain, labour, has never got any easier, I'm not looking forward to the pure agony and being out of control with it.. But that part of it has got shorter with each labour I've had, so therefore, I suppose, easier.
The key is to stay in control and not let it take you over completely.
I remember with no3, right in the awful transition bit, using the gas and air really efficiently, and despite being in raw agony, just turned to hubby and said 'it's ok, I'm here'. Then, two pushes later, no3 baby was here.
I had bloody awful after pains again though, bloody Nora! But, straight away asked for a Voltorol suppository!! It took the edge off. My god, the after pains with no2 were really really bad, to the point I had to hand baby over! I just couldn't hold her.
Sorry to babble! I can talk for hours about labour!
16 weeks? Yay... You've got that lovely scan to look forward to now.
Are you going to find out? I did.. x

hokeycakey Thu 25-Apr-13 21:53:16

I think I will, I never have before but I think I want to this time, I have had 3 pretty good births really all water births which i found great and I know what you mean, the excitement and anticipation is amazing and the relief afterwards! Only thing is with last dd she was whisked off to intensive care straight after the birth because she wasnt breathing properly and I didn't see her for hours, it was such a horrible experience I couldn't even hold her until 24hrs after she was born, I think I am more scared about all that....

Yuck anyway sometimes you never get a chance to deal with these things properly, there's no reason why anything like that would happen again

Do you have a plan for what you are gonna do with the kids, gets complicated with 3 of them to be looked after!

MissLurkalot Thu 25-Apr-13 22:01:20

Ah, that must have been bloody awful. ((Hug))
A small part of me thinks how lucky we've been so far.. Are we tempting fate? But, I shake it off and think positive thoughts. I have absolutely no control over how things go... And the main thing is I'm in hospital with all the right people there, consultants, etc. not just midwife led..
Well, all the other times my mil/fil come over and look after the kids here. I've also got offers of help from various friends, who can do night and/day.. But, basically it'll be mil/fil.
No3 arrived on a Sunday.. Nice and straightforward. Fingers crossed!
To be honest, if I need to go in by myself, I will. I'm sure it won't come to that though.. But as long as kids are sorted and I'm in hospital, that's the main thing.

hokeycakey Thu 25-Apr-13 22:17:45

Ooh Sundays child.... That's my ds! Bonny & blithe & good all day apparently smile

Yes be positive I think that's the key hoping for an "orgasmic birth" this time, my friend lent me Ina Mays guide to childbirth which is a fantastic book if you haven't read it, all empowerment & positivity but it has the most amazing pics of women in ecstasy whilst crowning! Does say its very rare though but we could be the 2 in a million smile

off to bed now as keep staying up too late & I'm knackered is your little one keeping you up with kicking in the night or has he got a bit tight in space? Can't wait to feel proper kicks!

honey86 Thu 25-Apr-13 23:37:27

heya im preg with dc4, 13 weeks tomorrow smile i have 2 boys, 7 and 5, and a girl, who turns 4 in a couple weeks. all three go to school. dc4 has a different dad to my first 3. their dad tragically died at xmas when i was expecting dd. so this one is a new beginning.

im intrigued to know what people have said to you ladies once announced. i got 'another one?' 'your mad!' 'you going for a football team then?' 'youll need a minibus soon'
blah blah blah hmm 'im happy for you' would suffice thanks lol x

hokeycakey Fri 26-Apr-13 13:51:26

Hello honey and welcome! So sorry to hear about the father of your children that must have been so awful for you but congratulations on dc4!! Yes we were talking about that upthread lots of "was it planned?" with a concerned face smile how are you feeling?

MissLurkalot Fri 26-Apr-13 14:06:41

Hi honey86! Congratulations on your new beginning.
Ooooh I wonder if its a boy or a girl? I'll have two of each, but I'd have been equally happy with another girl... As long as they're healthy!
I've had a few of those remarks.. You get them mostly at first, but it never really bothered me too much. Just the one friend, who I don't see much now anyway, who insists on calling me 'crazy' every time I bloody see her. I put it down to sour grapes, as I think she was hoping 2013 would be her year to be pregnant. She's always got on my nerves to be honest, so no real matter.
Don't let their flippant comments take the joy out of your pregnancy. I tended to laugh it off, I was never too bothered with it.
I think people can't help their first reaction....mostly they've followed it up with congrats, that's great, you're a braver woman than I... Kind of comments. I think most people know when they've done, numbers of kids wise... For me, that's 4! Lol !

Hokey.. I get crazy amount of movements.. It's like he's filling every inch of my insides! At night it's funny, as I like to lie on my left side, but nowadays it feels weird, as if I'm lying on top of him and he's squirming under me, lol!
I've just seen iron man 3 at the cinema. It's my little treat, as girlies are at school and little boy is at nursery, so I took myself off by myself. Love it! Just me at the cinema, very liberating.
Infact, baby loved it so much, my bump has dramatically dropped. It was quite high before and i would get a tiny bit breathless sometimes.

Wickedgirl Fri 26-Apr-13 14:13:35

I am at 16+2 and the sickness and nausea have both been much gone (thankfully)

If this one is a girl, I will also have 2 of each. I'm not finding out the sex though as I'm really not concerned with what I am to be blessed with. I am lucky enough just to be having another baby

syl1985 Fri 26-Apr-13 16:52:12

Congratulations to all the pregnant ladies over here!

I'm also pregnant with number 4.

I've got 3 sons of almost 3, 4 and a 6 year old.

honey86 Fri 26-Apr-13 17:20:33

im ok thank you.. just coming out of the sicky stage, bit by bit, but am still pretty exhausted... snatching catnaps when i can shock according to the scan im due 1st nov, the day before ds's birthday grin

Wickedgirl Fri 26-Apr-13 21:03:55

Pregnancy has got to be the most exhausting thing a body can go through. I am shattered and could happily go to bed before all of my children

MissLurkalot Fri 26-Apr-13 21:16:03

We put the kids down, and I'm in the bath, then upstairs in bed watching tv!

Razzdazz Fri 26-Apr-13 21:31:22

Hello all, Im just over 16 weeks now and have found out we are expecting a little girl so it will go:boy,girl,boy,girl lol. Have finally took the jump and purchased a 7 seater......all feeling very real now!!

MissLurkalot Sat 27-Apr-13 13:14:14

Yay, hi Razzdazz... Congratulations! Love the boy girl boy girl! We're girl girl boy boy... But just do happy to be having a baby, whatever the sex.
:-)
We've got a 7 seater now, bloody love it! I wish we got it earlier.
It's a vw sharan, automatic. It's soooooo lovely driving a big, comfy and automatic car. We've taken one middle seat out, do its a 6 seater now, which leaves more room for the kidsto get on and out on their own.
We're all systems go here.. Still three weeks to go, but my bump dropped spectacularly yesterday.. And I actually feel more comfortable now. I'm less breathless and he must have been lying on or near a nerve , as my left hip/rump would lock and spasm off and on, nothing particularly painful, but I would get up and not be able to move for a minute... Or it felt like my left leg would give way. But, all fine now.
I've got the final midwife appointment next Wednesday so it'll be interesting to see how 'engaged' he actually is.

hokeycakey Sat 27-Apr-13 19:29:08

Hi all

Razzdazz congrats! How lovely for you

So far I have boy girl girl so no idea what's coming next! Yes the car I haven't even thought about it yet but def need to as we live in a little village and I def need to get out of it regularly!

I am doing my yoga teacher training assessment weekend at the moment & it is utter bliss, whole day of yoga, bit of swimming and just about to go for dinner before bath and early bed with tv on ON MY OWN bliss indeed smile I need this every weekend....

There is nothing more knackering than pregnancy whilst looking after multiple kids I am sure.... I get my pjs on with the kids every night!

hokeycakey Tue 30-Apr-13 13:30:16

Hope everyone is ok... Miss lurkakot you haven't gone into early labour have you? All this talk of dropping bumps making me get excited for you!
I passed my yoga course though so am now a qualified teacher! Albeit a rather large yoga teacher!

MissLurkalot Tue 30-Apr-13 13:49:41

Hi Hokey.., I wish!! No, still three weeks to go. I got mega excited too on Friday but read up on bumps dropping, but it doesn't mean anything.
Got the last midwife appointment tomorrow so will see if heads engaged etc,... I just hope my cervix is actually as paper thin as it feels! And labour starts ASAP!
Feeling fine though... Enjoying the last few weeks of being preggers as this is soooooo the last time.
Hubby had another result on his sample of 'swimmers' after the snip last September... There are still 'swimmers' there, but not a high level like last month. Apparently, some people take up to 1 year to be clear of swimmers! He's just got to keep sending a sample in every month until they've all gooooone! Poor little guys! :-)

MissLurkalot Tue 30-Apr-13 13:50:02

Yahoo on your Yoga training!!!! Whoop!

hokeycakey Tue 30-Apr-13 14:04:31

Thanks very much! Ooh yes hoping you have lots of lovely things planned for this last bit I was very jealous of your solo cinema trip...2hrs with Robert d j smile
Need to get dh booked in for his snip! Always makes me think of a dog going to the vet...poor dh
Interested to hear what your midwife says tomorrow! My old childminder was telling me she felt as though her 4th was hanging out from about 6 months pregnant....she has such a lovely way with words!!

FoxSun Tue 30-Apr-13 14:30:49

Hi. I've read a large chunk of this thread, but not managed it all!
I'm also pregnant with number 4! When baby puts in an appearance I will have a 7 and a half year old, a 5 (or 6, baby is due the day before her birthday) year old, a three and a half year old and a four and a half year old step son.

This baby was a complete and utter surprise, and caused quite the bit of commotion, but at 23 weeks he's definitely here to stay! I'm somewhere between excited, exhausted, sore and happy. Really trying to enjoy this pregnancy, whilst also finding the daily school runs and chaos of a full time three year old quite a challenge. My partner is out of the house quite long hours, but he's being a great support. Most other people are currently irritating me with their "you're brave / crazy / mental / in for a shock" comments. BAH.

I'm beginning to get sore hips, I had crippling SPD with my second daughter, from very early on, so that's making things tricky. However I am looking forward to the better weather and trying to make the most of the longer days.
I'd love to try and involve myself with other people in a similar position, there don't seem to be too many of us out there, so it's good to "meet you all"

FoxSun Tue 30-Apr-13 14:33:55

Honey86 - I took a lot of reassurance from what you wrote, it seems people are complete and utter tools the world over. I did say to my partner "if you can't say congratulations, why not shut up?" I mean "WOW" is acceptable but "you're mad" or "mental" or "in for a big shock" really isn't. And as for asking me if it was planned! Well I had sex...

MissLurkalot Tue 30-Apr-13 17:50:30

Hokey, yes, two uninterrupted hours with Toby stark was very decadent but very lovely! Never used to like him before iron man, not my type at all, but if be his Pepper anyday!
Reassure dp about the snip.. My dp thought it was better than he expected, honestly. The procedure and the few days after.
It might take up to a year though after the procedure .. Crazy isn't it!
I will let you know about midwife tomorrow at 2pm. I just say that my cervix feels cling film thin sometimes. I'm always aware of a heavy head there, but it's 95% fine. No real biggy.. If anything, it was worse with no3!

Hi Foxsun... xxx welcome and congratulations! You've got some nice age gaps there.. I'm sure your older ones will be really excited and helpful, my 8yr old is, she's always offering to help.. I'm lucky with her, she's such a thoughtful girl. She actually makes breakfast for her younger sister and brother now... Completely by her own request.. She loves doing it.. Perfect timing too, with baby arriving in 3 weeks time.
My four and a three quarter year old, who's at school, helps take the washing piles upstairs.. And all of the kids tidy up the toys some nights.

BAH exactly! Bloody unhelpful comments really, but it gets better, promise. People just don't think basically!
But just let it roll off... I sometimes think it's down to jealousy to be honest.. As some people, not all, know that they're done with one, two or three... And maybe would love the idea of another, but aren't brave enough to go for it. We have no day to day support family wise.. Parents in law are lovely and willing but are really getting on and don't get out as much these days.. They are always our emergency cover, ie when I go into labour. I don't feel comfortable asking them for anymore. My brother and sister are much older with grown up kids now, and are bloody marvellous, but sadly live nearly 3hrs away. They enjoyed having the two older girls for two nights in the school hols. My adoptive family here, aunt and two cousins, live around the corner, but we're not close nowadays and we wouldn't ask them anyway, certainly no offers of help. But, not being critical, just stating facts.. We are on our own really, and love our large brood. Very much controlled chaos. And, we're really blessed with a circle of close friends and a great network if school/preschool mums.
We're happily self sufficient, and very grateful for two days at nursery for my little two year old boy!!!

CherryPie3 Fri 03-May-13 11:26:53

Would just like to say congratulations to all of you ladies expecting you fourth babies, you are so very lucky!! Children are a blessing.

I wish I could post on this thread too but sadly is defensively adamant that there will be no number 4 for us. I had a scare this week where I thought I may have been, bfp on one hpt then bfns on all the following ones (3). I never told dh about this as he would have been so disappointed if I had have been. sad

Wishing you all safe and healthy pregnancies ending in easy delivery and beautiful healthy babies smile

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