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Anyone else got pregnant at, ahem, 45?

(33 Posts)
Oldbird67 Mon 08-Apr-13 00:12:26

I can't quite believe it! Just found out today after wondering where my period had got to.

I know it's quite unusual, so just wondering if anyone else has been been through this?

glossyflower Mon 08-Apr-13 07:16:30

Not me but many congratulations!

feetheart Mon 08-Apr-13 07:22:05

Huge congratulations smile

I did it at 40 and 43 - I'm now 50 but feel about 35 (25 in my head!) Didn't feel quite so good with the interrupted nights but hopefully they won't last long.

Enjoy your surprise smile

Thumbwitch Mon 08-Apr-13 07:23:54

Well yes, but it was 44 (had DS2 at 45) and was very planned. smile

Congratulations!

It wasn't too bad, but it was a worse pregnancy than with DS1 (at 39/40) - more acid reflux starting much earlier (12w, just after the nausea went away); SPD this time around; polyhydramnios towards the end of the pg which allowed DS2 to swim around at his leisure and resulted in me having a very managed labour (cervical ripening, followed by ECV, followed by ARM with syntocin drip - not lovely) but I managed to get him out by myself.

Am quite a bit more tired this time around and having a few more problems with bf'ing, but that may not be age-related, more that DS2's tonguetie wasn't dealt with until he was 5wo so his latch isn't so great.

So long as you are relatively fit, and look after yourself a bit more than you would if you weren't pg, you should be fine. I'd also recommend taking pg supplements throughout, to help keep on good form. I started taking extra vit D halfway through as my vit D levels were checked and had dropped quite a lot, which can be bad for the baby.

Chances are you will be labelled a high risk pg, purely because of your age. You might then get consultant care; your hospital might have a high-risk midwife team (they might not, I'm in Australia, they did at my hospital). You may find you are more "managed" through your pg - I had to have 3 glucose tolerance tests, and was scanned far more than I had been with DS1 (again, might be to do with the difference between Aussie and UK systems though, DS1 was UK born). I did get swollen ankles this time around too, didn't with DS1 but luckily no VVs (phew!)

Ohhelpohnoitsa Mon 08-Apr-13 07:32:08

I was 41 with ds3...and they referred to minr as a GERIATRIC pregnancy! Get yourself ready to hear that!! (they also said it to ny friend aged 39wink

racheael76 Mon 08-Apr-13 08:37:32

congratulations thats wonderful news.things happen for a reason.you will make a great mum.enjoy every precious minute.x

Oldandcobwebby Mon 08-Apr-13 09:51:43

My darling wife became pregnant naturally at 44 and a bit (very wanted). Easy, healthy pregnancy. No issues at all, and tests came back as low risk for genetic problems. Phew!! Our daughter is 5 months now, and the joy of our lives. Be happy!

Oldbird67 Mon 08-Apr-13 10:20:43

Thanks everyone. I already have DC aged 8 & 7, but I'm now with a new partner and although we've been careful, it obviously wasn't careful enough! I'm well aware that nothing may come of this pregnancy and that even if it does there may be challenges along the way, but we feel very happy and blessed for now. smile

Oldbird67 Mon 08-Apr-13 10:24:59

thumbwitch - thanks for the advice
feetheart - I had DS at 39 - so I kind of remember the nights!
Ohhelpohnoitsa - Laughing at Geriatric - does it mean I get a tartan blanket?
Oldandcobwebby - Many congratulations!

x

shellyf Mon 08-Apr-13 10:30:00

My friend had twin boys at 45:-)

jellybeans Mon 08-Apr-13 10:30:42

I haven't but have friends who had theirs at 47 and 43. Totally straightforward for both of them.

jellybeans Mon 08-Apr-13 10:31:04

Congrats too by the way smile

TheBookofRuth Mon 08-Apr-13 10:32:59

My grandma got pregnant with my uncle at 47. At first she mistook it for the menopause!

He's now a hale and hearty 40-something himself.

FoofFighter Mon 08-Apr-13 10:45:06

will be 40 when this one comes, my first is now 21 shock feel just fine, no problems caused by age etc.. having an easier pregnancy than many half my age.

Age is just a number smile congratulations!

rosiedays Mon 08-Apr-13 11:29:13

I'm 43, VERY unexpected pregnancy (dc1 25 dc2 23 DGD 2!!! ) and didn't expect it to progress when i found out (i have some other minor health problems) now 25 weeks and all going really well. first 18 weeks were really hard, a lot harder than i remember from first two now feeling 10 years younger than before BFP. really looking forward to joining the geriatric new mum's club.

congratulations thanks

Oldbird67 Mon 08-Apr-13 11:40:21

FooFighter and rosiedays. Many congrats to you both! I hardly slept last night thinking about what this could mean to our lives. For one, my Mum will kill me! shock. I expected to feel horrified when the BFP came up, but I just felt very happy and kind of 'calm'. Anyway, very early days so we shall see.

x

EasterHoliday Mon 08-Apr-13 11:41:47

you should feel like a spring chicken compared to Halle Berry who's in the same condition at 46!
they called me geriatric at 37. The f&ckers.

Oldbird67 Mon 08-Apr-13 11:54:22

EasterHoliday I've alway thought Halle B and I were very similar in many ways - this latest sychronicity has just confirmed it. wink

MinkyWinky Mon 08-Apr-13 12:14:45

I'm pregnant at 44 (and it is very much wanted!)

Good luck grin

rosiedays Mon 08-Apr-13 12:18:33

stamping oh i get the 'my mum will kill me thing!!!' LOL at our age!!! I really was on emotional rollercoster, I struggled to be happy for a long time and i really did greive for the life i wouldn't have anymore. life involved lots of travel, scuba, nice hotels, and generaly being very selfish.
seeing the changes in DH (it's his first and he's 12 years younger than me) and realising how much he (quietly) wanted a child has really helped. (he's been amazingly supportive)
Little one is right now kicking away and with each kick i love her more. it took a while and a lot of soul searching but i'm so looking forward to doing it all again with the wisdom of age and a supportive partner.
I really wish you lots of luck. xx

oldbird67 Mon 08-Apr-13 14:34:57

rosie thanks for your message. I don't know how to feel either. I am very much in love with my DP and he is really happy about it, which I wasn't expecting. I keep swinging from panic about money and logistics (and abject fear of telling my parents (!)) to feeling that it's definitely what I want and feeling really excited and happy. I'm happy to hear that you are now in a good place with it all. It's very exciting. x

minky Huge congratulations! x

triplets Tue 09-Apr-13 00:10:56

Me..................with triplets!!! I was 46 when they were born, they are now 15 abd boy are they hard work! My fav baby pic is on my profile!!

oldbird67 Tue 09-Apr-13 12:02:30

Wow Triplets that's amazing. You're amazing. Just looked at your photos, gorgeous kids. x

sleepyhead Tue 09-Apr-13 12:11:05

I had ds2 on Sunday aged 40. The midwife gave me a very firm talking to about contraception before I left (made me feel about 15). She said they get loads of 40+ women with natural conceptions and, unless we want another, to take the fertility crash post-37 with a pinch of salt as it is clearly meaningless at an individual level!

They'd had a 46 yr old in having her first a few days before - healthy baby, straightforward delivery. Good luck!

Gorjuss Tue 09-Apr-13 12:13:19

My friend had her 5th at 47 and she's a brilliant mum.

Thumbwitch Tue 09-Apr-13 12:18:58

Apparently, and this is not necessarily scientifically proven, lots of women have a sudden fertility surge just prior to pre-menopause because the ovaries go for a "last chance" egg dump, which is why twins are quite common in the over 40s!

MorrisZapp Tue 09-Apr-13 12:29:57

Triplets, thanks for sharing those amazing photos with us. You're an inspiration xx

petitfromage Tue 09-Apr-13 12:32:33

I've just had a BFP yesterday so I'm still in the slightly shocked and disbelieving phase... But if all goes according to plan my 40th birthday later this year will be a very tame affair!

Bring on the geriatric pregnancies ladies. This is my 2nd (I have DS age 5) and I'm intrigued as to how it will differ from my first. We should start a club to share our respective journeys (walking frames optional).

oldbird67 Tue 09-Apr-13 13:20:09

Thumbwitch Really? and OMG at twins. confused

petitfromage Many congrats! (although really you're a mere spring chicken...smile

x

oldbird67 Tue 09-Apr-13 14:07:50

sleepyhead Congrats on the birth of your boy!

I think I did just assume that it wasn't really possible as I was so old (even though periods every 28 days). Clearly I'm a misguided twat. blush.

Enjoy your little one. x

Thumbwitch Tue 09-Apr-13 22:38:03

oldbird - yep!
"Age: The older you are, the higher your chances of having fraternal twins or higher-order multiples. Women over 35 produce more follicle stimulating hormone (FSH) than younger women. Ironically, increasing levels of this hormone are a sign of declining fertility. But FSH is also the hormone that causes an egg to mature in preparation for ovulation each month, and women with extra FSH may release more than one egg in a single cycle. So while older women are statistically less likely to get pregnant, they're more likely to have twins if they do get pregnant."

From www.babycenter.com/0_your-likelihood-of-having-twins-or-more_3575.bc here. smile

triplets Tue 09-Apr-13 23:22:38

Thank you MORRIS there are times lately I wish I could turn back the clock and have them back in their cots, at least I always knew where they were!

Arranoxford Sun 14-Apr-13 22:49:42

Yep 45 pregnant and now 33 weeks. Feel as fit as fiddle.

Two things. Take aspirin low dose.75 g. My consultant at Oxford is an expert on preeclampsia and she put me on it as soon as she met me, I have normal blood pressure but she said it is a brilliant preventative medicine especially for 40 +. Come of it at 36 weeks.

The Fetal medical centre in London offers a free blood test called the Harmony test which tests for the 3 chromosomal abnormalities without any risk to the foetus. It is normally 400 pounds but if you have it early, 10 weeks I think ,then you can be part of Prof Nickoledes research.
He is very well thought of.

Huge congratulations to you. Its made me feel young again.

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