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Do you actually enjoy being pregnant?(111 Posts)
This question has been on my mind after reading the "Am I being unreasonable to want to be paid for being a surrogate mother" thread. In that thread the original poster said
I want to do it because I love being pregnant, and I love that i am able to help people who are not able to have a baby the traditional way.
The first part of that astounded me. I had always assumed that pregnancy actually felt like a chore, and was tiring and generally made life difficult.
Does it not? Is it actually an enjoyable experience?
We don't have any children, so I can't ask DW.
loads of people love being pregnant, just as loads of people have a really tough time with it.
I loved it but apart from spd I didn't have any problems and I managed spd ok because it's similar pain to I'm used to.
I hate being pregnant. Felt ill each time from around 5 weeks right through to the end.
The end product makes my suffering worthwhile though. I plan to do it again soon.
Nope, hate it.
38+5 with DC1 and plan on getting another dog next time.
I also hate it. I'm so grateful to be preg but my god I cannot wait for it to end. HG and generally feeling shite ALL the time is really exhausting! And I've got 29 weeks to go!
I am not enjoying it yet! I am 7 weeks and so far have just felt ill and stressed and worried all the time!! Hoping I will start to enjoy it but so far no!!
I really hate it. I feel so ashamed for doing so. I feel fat and disgusting, my back frickin KILLS, all the weight I lost for my wedding is now back with a vengeance. Throwingnup all the time, work with awful men who dont get it at all, live in a country i dont speak the language so cant communicate with my doctors properly. I've never done this before so I don't even know whether it will even be worth it in the end. Never doing it again either!
Hate it hate it. (I like babies).
I don't think even if my nearest and dearest asked would I be a surrogate. I struggle to do it for myself. Can't wait to get to the stage in my life when I can say 'never again'. I'd love it if men could do it.
I have met those who bloom though. I can't help but secretly nurture a grudge against them, even when they are lovely people.
Hmm, am only 25 weeks so is very early days but feel relatively indifferent to it (although not indifferent to the baby, of course!). Apart from the constant worry about things going wrong (due to lack of symptoms) it's been luckily pretty easy. Now I can feel the baby moving I'm actually quite enjoying it. However, I have an impending sense of doom that it's all going to get much, much tougher. And can't even bring myself to think about childbirth!!
Mixed feelings here. Sort of love it (the knowledge of the baby miraculously growing inside you, the excitement, the feeling of something really special happening) but hate the fatigue, the emotional dips, the discomfort, the fear of birth.
Is really strange and surreal.
I hated the 1st 3 months ( sick!) loved the next three ( little kicks - able to have tummy sticking out and not be judged for being fat) hated the last three ( BIG painful kicks and karate chops to bladder, immobility, lack of sleep, knackered)
I hate every second. Some women bloom when pregnant. I look like Mr Blobby on crack.
I feel fat, sick, useless, tired, stressed. I could never be a surrogate, the only upside for me is the baby at the end of nine months of sheer hell.
I am only 7 weeks gone with dc2. Its taken me 11 years to do it again, am dreading every second until when I am due in November.
At 16 weeks, I'm now loving it, ask me again at 30 and it might be a different story!! I hated the first trimester and feeling rough every single day.
Loved being pregnant. Not so keen on the stingy bit at the end of the 40 weeks though
Hated being pregnant, constantly ill, knackered, exhausted and at the end of it you have to give birth. It completely sucks.
I've loved it so far (25 weeks) but acknowledge that I've been really lucky in that I#ve had no morning sickness (just a little bit of nausea at the beginning) I've quite enjoyed the tiredness as getting into bed at the end of the day feels so lovely and I LOVE LOVE LOVE the kicks!
I only made it to 8 weeks before I mc'd, but I absolutely loved those weeks. After more than 2 years of ttc I finally felt like a member of a very special club. I loved feeling the symptoms I had and the idea of growing a life. I might have felt different towards the end but right now I have some baby chub without the baby - all of the downsides with none of the upsides. Meh.
All the positives about pregnancy, for me, relate to the fact that our much wanted baby is growing inside me (the excitement of feeling the first kicks, knowing that me growing means our baby is getting bigger and stronger etc). I CANNOT imagine going through pregnancy in the full knowledge that I definitely won't have our baby at the end of it, unless I had a really good reason (like acting as a surrogate for a loved one).
I think women who are willing to act as surrogates for strangers are wonderful, selfless people!
Euro - I am so sorry to hear that. Feel like a cow for moaning now.
I loved it both times, but I was very lucky - had no morning sickness, loads of energy, great skin and hair.... And I adored feeling DS and DD wriggling around inside me - I even missed it a little once they were out...
I LOVE IT! Yes it has been a bit tough with feeling sick the first trimester and new bodily complaints but I still love it so much. I am obviously thrilled to meet my baby in a few months but I am looking forward to doing it again. I feel like it is the most amazing and incredible thing.
I love being pregnant - yes I find it hard, tiring, limiting etc but also really love seeing the changes in my body and feeling the new life growing in me. It brings out the hidden lentil weaver in me...
Mixed feelings. Love the amazing feeling of a baby kicking you (although that always sounds gross to me when not pregnant). There is a weird nurturing feeling I get when pregnant when I'm generating a new life. That's pretty cool.
Hate the nausea, sickness and not having clothes that fit properly on an alien body. And my sudden devotion to bread. And hate heartburn, tiredness, less mobility etc.
But all in all, a pretty good swap for a baby. I wouldn't be a surrogate though as for me, pregnancy is something I do to have children and I prefer not being pregnant overall!
Loved it but then I never got very big and wasn't bothered by morning sickness or hormone related problems.
I loved the 'I'm growing a person!!' feeling I got every time I felt my bump. I remember lying in the bath and seeing the force of my baby's kicks ripple the water. Totes Amaze.
I hated the constant nausea and sickness (was sick every day for 20 weeks, sickness stopped after that but nausea continued).
I would be a surrogate if I got paid well for it. Or I would do it for free for my sisters.
In a word, "no". Three mc meant the whole first trimester had crippling anxiety as well as the runoverbyatrain fatigue, sickness, and stacking on weight due to steroids. Second and third trimesters were/are straightforward, but still not pleasant. I'm v grateful our child is thriving in my belly and I know the heartache of wrenching loss, but I'm hopeful of a joyful end, and at best a healthy pregnancy. It's so unlike every other previous version of me to be this ungainly, unemployed, unenergetic, immobile, just ON HOLD until he arrives.
I absolutely loved being pregnant. I was very lucky in that I didn't have any morning sickness,just loads of creative energy.
i love it!! all of it. this is my second pregnancy and although i get terrible morning sickness and awful back ache i could spend my life being pregnant. i also want to be a surrogate as well as a large family. that fact a woman can grow a life inside her for 9 months is mind blowing i'll never get my head around it. im 21 so have a few more years letf in me to start new lives for my family and hopefully others!!
I loved it after the first 12 weeks, first 12 weeks were exhausting.
I find its just far too LONG. I'm 35 weeks and feel like I've been pregnant forever. Morning sickness followed by pgp (thankfully seems to have eased now) has made it tougher and just lead me to not feeling like myself at all. I just feel removed from the person I normally am if that makes sense? I don't hate it, but don't relish it either and I'm looking forward to being 'me' again. Saying that I do love the kicks and hiccups, and think if it got to the stage I was sure I'd never have another I'd feel a little sad not to be doing it again
Loved it the first time; felt like I was some bloody earth-goddess type thing. I got the whole glow and everything.
Hated it the second tim, mainly because I had spd and a manic toddler.
hotcross my feelings came as a complete surprise. I wasn't expecting to love it all. I had been quite weirded out in the past, seeing friends' bumps move and thinking about the "alien" inside them and I was worried before it happened about the body changes, etc. but to my surprise I really loved it. Maybe waiting so long for those few precious weeks helped. That and the fact that I never got to the throwing up/huge bump/spd stages!
Loathed every minute of both my pregnancies.
My back hurts, I'm either nauseas or being sick, I can't sleep comfortably on any side, I get heartburn almost every day and I'm always tired and I'm only 21w with dc4.
But I love it, every single second of it. I love knowing that I'm growing life, I love feeling her kick, I just love it. All the bad points won't be there forever and soon I'll get to meet my beautiful little baby.
I loved it, even the rotton stuff. OK, I didn't actually enjoy the back pains, the tedium towards the end, the sleep issues, etc, but we were TTC for so many years, and we knew it was going to be our only one, that I relished every minute of it when I finally was pregnant.
All that aside, there were moments that were enjoyable in and of themselves. I loved knowing I was carrying a new life, that I finally knew what a woman's body is really for, all my excess weight going to the bump!, I liked how nice people were, loads of things...
Even if I were in a position to have more children, I can't say I'd be a surrogate just because I like the way it all feels, but I did like being pregnant.
I hated pretty much every second of it and the only thing that kept me going was the thought of a baby at the end.
The worst thing is you can't complain because it sounds so ungrateful when you're incredibly lucky to be pregnant and plenty of people would give anything to be in your shoes.
So when you've thrown up 3 times before breakfast and someone offers you a ginger biscuit you have to smile and accept it rather than hurl it at their head!
I quite liked being pregnant, until about the last month or so.
I hated it. Had HG from 6 weeks until delivery both times. Multiple hospital admissions. Surgery afterwards to repair the damage to my oesophagus from the vomiting. I adore my 2 DCs and they were completely worth it but I am so glad to know that I will never be pregnant again. I couldn't do it again, I'd sell a kidney before I'd be a surrogate!
Expecting DC2. Both children were very much planned and wanted but I've hated almost every day of my pregnancies. I joked on fb today that I'm playing pregnancy complications bingo. Pregnancy is horrid, I'd have loved to have been one of those that glow and sail through it but I get all the crappy symptoms. Not much longer to endure though, csection tomorrow with tubal ligation. I just can't do this again.
I'm finding it exciting but incredibly stressful. This first trimester, with it's symptoms that come and go and you worry about every little change, is far from a walk in the park.
I was quite
naive optimistic about pregnancy but I was way off the mark. I'm well in the trenches of my first trimester & I feel as though pregnancy has declared war on my body. It's exhausting, painful & depleting.
Saying that I am hopeful for the second trimester & looking forward to finally being able to start enjoying it then.
Not so sure about the third.
It's turned me into a whinging, self-pitying, nausea-filled, shattered wreck!
I love the fact that I'm creating this incredible new life and I love how excited DH gets about it but I want to feel like me again!
I hated it. felt massive, tired, heavy, and like my body wasn't mine any more. plus spd. everyone's different though!
I had debilitating morning sickness and fatigue for the first 12 weeks but after that I loved it. Apart from the fact that i just looked like I was getting fat until I hit 26 weeks and looked pregnant.
Loved every bit of it, can't wait to do it again.
Absolutely hated being pg (apart from the fact I was incubating DD) as I felt awful the whole way through. To the point where I've decided not to have another DC as I can't go through it again. I didn't care about looking a state but it was the sickness and pre natal anxiety that I couldn't stand.
Apart from the first few weeks of constant nausea and bone crippling exhaustion yes I love it. After TTC #3 since 2005 with my now exH, then with my partner now, losing a baby I am certainly counting my blessings with this one (20 weeks) and a bit of discomfort/ungainliness/fat isn't going to make me hate this experience.
I feel quite sad for those who feel they hate it
I hated being pregnant that much I vowed never to have any more dc now 8 months after DS being born I would love another
I hate it. With dd I had crippling fatigue in the first trimester. That disappeared at 14 weeks only to be replaced with spd at 15 weeks.
I also hated the fact you just look fat till 26 weeks. 9 weeks pregnant now and this is a much longed for baby but I think I still feel the same about pregnancy.
I just try and look at it like its a plane journey. Uncomfortable and boring but it will be worth it when you get there.
Was ttc for a long time before I finally became pregnant, having reluctantly accepted that we weren't going to be able to conceive naturally. So I am both incredibly, incredibly grateful and also absolutely hate this process.
The nausea, the tiredness, the stress, the anxiety, the hormones... Personally it's probably got a lot to do with the fact that other life-events have made this a particularly stressful time. But I also think a lot of it is hormonal.
Some women seem to get filled with happy hormones - they're all serene and lovely and smiling to themselves. Others (like me) have the opposite -panic attacks, crying, waking up in the middle of the night convinced i've done something during the day that could hurt the little one, massive guilt at having created a life that I don't know I can care for properly, and the overwhelming fear that, if I'm this bad at pregnancy, how crap will I be as a mother?
I think I have to keep telling myself it's the hormones that are making me feel like this, even if it's more likely to just be me
I think this may well be my only one, it's definitely something I feel like I'm enduring rather than enjoying! Makes me a bit sad because I feel I should be enjoying it more, but with exhaustion, stress, nausea, depression all under my belt so far - now just as I was beginning to get into a little routine of feeling a bit more normal, getting back into exercise and so on, I get SHINGLES.
He's fine though, the little horror. I'll collapse in an exhausted anaemic heap before he bats an eyelid.
I absolutely love being pregnant. Never had any problems apart from back pain the first time around. I even enjoyed labour! The whole thing is just lovely.
Very sad that hubby says two is enough and my pregnant days were over at 22
I read the surrogacy thread too. I'd probably consider it to help family or a close friend as long aslong was biologically their child, I wouldn't want paying for it, it wouldn't be completely altruistic ;)
oh gertrude you poor thing It is the hormones - everything will be fine and you will be a fantastic Mum. If you're worrying this much at this point you can't possibly be a bad Mum!
Pregnancy can be the absolute pits. You'll love not being pregnant again when your baby arrives.
Good God no! Nothing at all to like... Oh wait the whole growing a baby thing- yeah but you don't get to see the benefit of that for 9 months... Or in some cases 10....and then you are left with the aftermath....sorry...i just....
I miss my boobs
Wow, I only expected a handful of replies.
Thank you for all the replies.
You gave us an opportunity to moan - there was always going to be a lot of replies!
this is my favourite response, really made me smile!
'I just try and look at it like its a plane journey. Uncomfortable and boring but it will be worth it when you get there.'
although at least on plane journeys you can quaff vino!
I agree with jaffajiffy - on hold till the baby arrives - sort of stepped out of life.
I also agree with the person who said '9 months of sheer hell'.
I worry about the baby.
I get antenatal depression aka the worst pmt in the world from the hormones. This has knock on effect on work and social life.
I get sick in the first trimester
By the third trimester every part of my torso and hips has its own pain story to tell
And a new indignity I've just noticed is that I'm 38 weeks and its like the lights are going off in my head. I can't read the paper, I've got no conversation, I am going into a bubble.
Thanks for oppo to moan. Met someone yesterday who said being pg was like a happy pill. To all those ladies who love it so much!
gertrude totally with you - the hormones seem to do wonders for some but they make me full of dread and apprehension. That is the first sign of pregnancy for me. It is just hormones and it does go after the baby comes - having a baby for me was wonderful. Good luck.
Nope. I didn't bloom. I felt rubbish - didn't sleep for the whole 9 months, had bad pgp which severely limited doing all the things I enjoy, and survived on sugar and carbs as a comfort. We always talked about having 3 but dh will be very lucky if I do pregnancy more than twice. But the prize at the end is worth it.
over the worst and learning to love it....
beats moaning about it!! think i've found the elusive 'Bloom' would i do it again for someone else.... NOT A CHANCE
Surrogate mother would be pretty near the bottom of jobs I'd choose. I could hardly bear to be pregnant and give birth to my own children.
No, i dislike it a lot - my digestion is all over the shop and I can't do most of my favourite sports (all contact or too dangerous) and I have far less energy.
The first trimester I barely had enough energy to stay awake for an 8 hr work day, but even quite far through the second trimester i'm still struggling with doing a relatively 'normal' amount of things between sleeping.
Although it was quite a while ago, I can't imagine how anyone enjoys being pregnant - getting fatter and fatter all the time, feeling rotten, endless indigestion (DD), endless thrush (DS) etc etc
Anyone who enjoys being pregnant is clearly mad!
At its very best it is like being in a weird cult religion with peculiar rules about eating and drinking.
Utterly detested being pregnant, largely because I was so busy and it slowed me down. Also ended up with GD in last couple of months. Ironically by this stage I had finished work and was able to spend time looking after myself, at which point it all got easier.
Will still have to psyche myself up to do it all again...
But for the record my SIL and friend loved being pregnant. Loved it.
When my midwife told me to 'relax and enjoy the last few weeks' I nearly thwacked her one. Also then I interviewed a midwife for a feature who lectured me on how natural pregnancy is and how many women love it. I pointed out I'd loathed both mine...
Yes i got very VERY annoyed with my cousin (a lot older with 3 teenage boys) who commented on my impatient FB post about when the pregnancy would end (they kept moving my due date) and she said 'stop complaining! You will look back on this time as one of the most beautiful times of your life and miss it'. I went off at her as just spent the entire day (at work) crawling out of meetings on my hands and knees to the bathroom where i would throw up- if not in the ladies would be into a plastic bin besides my desk... I just wanted to meet my little girl an have the torture over and done with! I could have throttled her in my hormonal rage! 2 years on i can honestly say i do not miss pregnancy one bit!
I enjoy watching my bump grow and feeling wiggles and kicks and looking forward to meeting baby and counting down the weeks, I do NOT enjoy being a co start grump with a short fuse and out of control hormones. Thank heavens it's only 9 months!
Feels like the longest NINE months in the world EVER. I am so grateful to have been able to get pregnant and carry the baby this far, but I am so tired of being flamed when I say I HATE IT. I hate being pregnant. There. Said it.
I feel huge, bumbling, cumbersome, off balance, slow, my diet is shot to bits, I can't think of anything to eat and I am a chef (wtf?), I am tired all the time, before this I was sick all the time - I have zero motivation, I have pelvic pain, I itch, my feet ache, I can't sleep, there is sooo much to do and organise, choosing a pram is giving me the worst mental stress ever ....I can't bear it. I just want this to be over.
Not even the cute kicks and baby moving and tummy ripples and lovely scans can make up for it.
Just not my thing. ROLL ON JULY.
tinky I've been on some TTC buses with you, how's the pg going? I'm 11 weeks
I've loved it this time but was in hell and suicidal last time.
Hi hayle congratulations I'm 24 weeks tomorrow and havi g a HUGE boy lol, so hopefully in less than 16 weeks how you doing? Xx
Aw that's fantastic!! Been rather ill with HG, been in hospital 4 times but been out now two weeks so hopefully it's in it's way out!
Everything good so far!!
I quite liked it but once was enough! I did get a bit fed up of feeling like I was 'public property' as I am a teacher and the girls asked endless questions. I also got fed up of all the rules about cheese and not being able to sit comfily on the sofa. Weirdly, I really liked the mat. clothes -- there was a really good choice online and some were quite flattering. However, I felt like a barrage balloon in the swimming pool.
I feel bad everytime I say this, but I've breezed through pregnancy so far (30 weeks) and love it. I wasn't sick in the first Tri, only queasy. I wasn't exhausted ever, just tired and happy to go to bed early. Work have been ultra supportive and I'm flooded with hormones that make my normally stroppy self all placid and full of love. I even like my alien bump now I'm used to the kicking and writhing (which felt very odd at first). Colleagues keep telling me I'm blooming, old ladies complement me on the shape of my bump and DH loves the mega-boobs so I feel a body confidence which I've never had before in my life.
I'm sorry! I'm not smug I promise. We had a long journey getting here, and I'm fearful of labour and birthing my baby. I don't know if I'll ever get to do it again... But this pregnancy, much to my surprise and joy, I really like.
Actually I think it's nice when I hear people enjoying it. I'm just not one of them
The one and only thing I enjoyed was the bit I thought would freak me out - feeling the bean move. I felt quite sad the night before CS knowing she would never be part of me the same way again. So I guess it's best to try and enjoy the occasional moments where you can
Ive found each pregnancy different so far. First 2 I didn't really enjoy, v sick, got huge with ds2 and felt v uncomfy. Ds3 was a bit better though I was really sick first trimester,but I thought it would be my last so I decided to try and enjoy it.
Now 26 weeks with dc4 and it's been my best pregnancy so far! I think partly because I'm so busy with the 3 boys, work etc that I don't really think too much about being pregnant. Also wasn't sick much at all this time which I was amazed about ( maybe it's a girl this time?)
I'm just keeping my fx that third trimester is as good as the first 2! I'm definitely in the 'blooming' blissed out stage at the moment, I just feel so lucky to be having this baby (definitely our last this time)
God no, I loathed it both times.
I love being pregnant! 6 times now but sadly has a mmc with my last pregnancy.
Ive had ms with all pregnancies. SPD with 2of the pregnancies & Carpel Tunnel Syndrome with 1.
I have always loved the growing curves...skinny size8 normally. I always have felt sad when the babies were born & i deflated like a saggy old balloon!
I HATE IT. I am pregnant at the moment and feel constantly nauseous and exhausted and I HATE everyone staring at my stomach and asking me how I am all the time. I also HATED it the other two times I've done it.
The movements are quite sweet until they become uncomfortable, but other than that everything about it is awful. The end result is lovely though (most of the time).
I like being pregnant. I'd prefer it without the nausea or heartburn, but on balance I'm still very positive about the whole thing.
Not doing it again, though.
I would say no. Who likes feeling like crap, looking fat and people assuming they can comment on if you look big or small for how far gone you are?! I will never forget a woman saying to me wow you are huge for 25 weeks! Nice! Of course I realise I am very lucky to be pregnant , euroshaggleton I am so sorry to hear of your loss.
I feel like a house, and I still have 10wks to go! Once I'd got past the morning
all day sickness at about 18 weeks, I had about 3 clear weeks before the heartburn and acid reflux started. Ugh.
I'm still waiting for my bloom.
If human pregnancy could be 4 months shorter that would be great !
Hate it. I had hideously bad SPD both times making me housebound for a good couple of months (and the second time - making it incredibly difficult to care for DD1 when I could just about manage to shuffle 5 steps across the lounge while holding her) and then 2 weeks of threatened/slow labour with repeated hospital admissions separating me from my life at home was heartbreaking. I'm lucky in that I don't get morning sickness or anything - but the SPD is awful.
Add in that I don't seem to be able to go to full-term so have prematurity hanging over me throughout and the fact that my labours seem to go "fucking painful but not in labour so no decent painkilling" to pushing out a baby in epic time meaning I get bog all in the way of pain relief and nope - either I'm getting my tubes tied or he's getting the snip now DD2 is here!
I hate it for the simple fact I get everything from HG to spd to thrush, piles, varicose veins, acne, heartburn, sore big painful boobs. My diet is a haywire and I'm unable to do any exercise due to spd which makes me feel like a blob.
I feel like I'm constantly being touched and just want space which is impossible when your body is occupied 24hrs a day. I get very irritable and at the moment I can't stand to be touched. I get sick of dh trying to feel bump and ds constantly wanting cuddles or being next to me.
Im 27 wks and can't wait for it to be over! I'd love to enjoy it but I don't.
I hit 39 weeks on Sunday and to my astonishment have loved being pregnant. I was convinced I'd find it icky and hard work and it's been bliss. Weird. Walks off, shaking her head and hoping she didn't come across as too smug.
My dh finds me sexy with big boobs and bump. I get good skin and glow from about 16 weeks. I hate the first trimester, have kept in secret each time and feel so sick and tired. And being overdue arrrrgh! 10 days and a neverending 18 days second time round. I like the bit in the middle. Birth has not been fun so far.
No - PILES. Blooming a bit too bloody much.
Morning sickness like the worst hangover ever that last 5 months...
Shortness of breath
Exhaustion and insomnia
Midnight trips to the loo
Feeling like there are lead weights on every limb
Worrying about baby
Worrying about labour
What's not to like? lol
I'm expecting DC2. I know the payoff is worth it. But no, I don't enjoy the physical woes of pregnancy. But I do love feeling the baby inside me. In that sense I love being pregnant. I'm entering the last month and I will be very glad to hold baby in my arms rather than my tummy!
Mixed..done it 3 times now,loved the excitement of expecting another baby and feeling them kick,but found the last 5-6 weeks quite tiring especially with other DCs to look after and felt like I was cutting corners as a mum because I was too tired to do everything I wanted to do with them.Loved having an excuse to buy more maternity clothes but bored by the end especially when they didn't fit so well.Loved the attention & everyone asking how I was!Also got a bit scared at the end that it could all go horribly wrong.3 weeks on I'm still slightly miss being pregnant though ,maybe that's why I'm still hanging around the pregnancy threads..
Love the first week after finding out.
Hate the rest of the first trimester. Am currently expecting DC2 and during first 12 weeks I was so pleased I'd never have to do this again.
Quite like the 2nd trimester. Feeling baby move & excited about the future.
Can't remember how I felt last time about the 3rd trimester. Guess I'll find out soon enough!
I loved it both times. But would never be a surrogate because I would want to keep the baby.
I've loved it.
The first 12 weeks were pretty nerve wracking (2 previous early MCs) and felt slightly grim until 14 weeks.
However, I feel as though I've breezed through, have had no major complaints. In fact I'm now 39+4 and feel as though I should still be at work as I feel physically fine.
Negative points: a few aches and pains if I've been walking a bit, but nowt too much, swollen fingers and bursting in to tears at the smallest thing!
Positives: feeling DS merrily bouncing around shiny hair, clear skin, DH cleaning the litter tray ;) DH running around after me, feeling proud of my appearance for the first time in a long while! Giving in to cravings..... Mmmmm ice cream! Bigger boobs,
I'm in for a horrendous labour aren't I?
My pregnancy can be summed up by trimester:
1st: head down toilet, felt like crap
2nd: felt well, got told I was 'blooming'
3rd: ouch, baby keeps poking me in the cervix, everything hurts, can't sleep! And heart burn, heart burn, heart burn...
Only 5 weeks left to go!
Am I happy to be pregnant? Gosh yes. We tried for a long time. Will I rush into trying for DC2? Er, no. I recall at about 22 weeks DH said he couldn't wait to meet the baby and just wanted to skip the next step. I replied that I was enjoying the journey week by week. I would happily
go into early labour now!
I think it's very admirable for people to be surrogates but I don't think I could do it myself. I can't imagine going through the process of growing a person only to hand it over, especially with 'straight' surrogacy using your own eggs!
on my second HG pregnancy now and i can say i HATE being pregnant
i do quite like feeling baby move in my though, but thats about it.
Having vomited well over 1000 times due to pregnancy i have no desire to ever put myself or my family through the living hell it is for me / us ever again.
I always wanted 4 children, and could see myself with 4, but for now i think 2 will be plenty
I am rubbish at being pregnant (2 full term). Sick, utterly and debilitatingly exhausted, heartburn, backache, and then I get cholestasis/liver failure right at the end. Oddly, I don't mind the birth bit at all (induced both times - mobile epidurals totally rock, by the way). And - though it will out me as a needy Munchausen-ish bint - I quite liked all the attention from various medics. (Yes, I know.... pathetic.)
I'd quite like DC3 and if someone were to say to me "ok, tomorrow you'll be 37 weeks and going for induced labour" I'd say no worries, bring it on. But I absolutely cannot face the 8.5 months of misery beforehand.
Yes and no. Enjoyed first pregnancy because:
1) Was just so grateful, had had an early miscarriage before that.
2) Felt as if I was part of a special club.
3) Felt pampered and special, was allowed to be tired and hungry.
4) Everything was new and exciting
5) Loved feeling DS kick and didn't mind people commenting on my bump.
Second time, was grateful to be pregnant again, but:
1) Found it so much harder with a toddler, hard to rest etc
2) Hated the fact that it slowed me down as had got quite fit after first baby, this meant that I put on a bit more weight but did loose it.
3) Awful piles and sciatica at the end.
4) Went 12 days overdue which was awful. Was scared of labour cause of first time and one midwife told me that she thought I had stopped myself going into labour.
5) Worried about hwo I was going to balance a toddler, a newborn, picking up my work again, keeping on top of the house etc with no real family support and no sleep.
No way on earth I could do it again, but very much admire women who have large families or/and have babies for other people.
Loved feeling the baby kicking and moving and thought seeing the skin on my tummy move from the outside was amazing.
But I hated feeling huge, how during the final couple of months everything was a big effort to even move, not being able to put my own shoes on, get off the sofa etc drive me mad. Plus hated needing the toilet every 5 minutes! Felt like a fat, sweaty whale.
I hated the first 16 weeks as I felt so so sick, morning, noon and night.
Once that was over and I began to get a bit more energy, I have really enjoyed it.
It's a bit like being a kid at Christmas - you like the build up but hate waiting at the same time!!!
I wouldn't be a surrogate though.
I'm about 9 weeks with dc2 and I'm
Not loving it.
I 'bloomed' with DD1
but not until 15 weeks or so!
I've got a few weeks of that early pregnancy greyness yet!
Had a few problems and it could have come at a much better time but I bloody loved it!
Being a patent on the hand I'm indifferent to.
I would be a surrogate over having another of my own, if only I wasn't appalling at giving birth.
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Love it! The first few weeks are a bit grotty but after the sickness passes I love it. Probably sounds stupid but growing a new life is so exciting and wonderful generally!
I'm only 14 and a half weeks on my first pregnancy but I've hated every bloody second so far. Everyone keeps telling me the sickness is about to stop... except they keep moving the goalposts - first it was going to be gone by 12 weeks, then 14, then 15 and someone yesterday said five bloody months! It's going to take some serious persuading to get me to ever do this again, I can tell you ;)
I hated being pregnant so bloody much. I had to be taken to theatre after tearing very badly and the midwife cracked up as I shouted yipeeeee I'm not pregnant anymore at full volume as I hovered in the wheelchair being taken down
I didn't hate it the first time and am looking forward to our baby No2 later this year. I never thought it a chore, did feel like it took a long time though!
What I DID hate was trying to find nice clothes to fit and not being able to sleep due to the weight of the baby and trying to lie on my left side and having restless leg
It was worth it though
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