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How did you tell?

(29 Posts)
Saundy Wed 27-Mar-13 08:00:12

I recon I'm telling my parents & siblings on Sunday & anticipate it will be a huge shock/surprise to them.

We've always been adamant we don't want kids & so nobody knew DP & I even particularly liked children never mind had decided to try for one.

Massively nervous so looking for a fun way to tell people or just to hear your funny stories of telling to calm me down a bit (I love a good story!).

Had always imagined I'd have a bump to show them & it'd be kind've a ta-da! moment, but events have conspired against me & I'll be telling at 8 weeks.

So yes it'd be great if you could let me rip you off inspire me grin

I asked my parents (and did wihe same with in laws) what they were doing the week of my due date. When they said 'nothing' I said 'great how would you like to become grandparents then?!) it took a second for the penny to drop grin

Jenjen85 Wed 27-Mar-13 08:46:49

We waited until our 12 week scan then once we had it we called round to patents/in-laws and my gran to show them the picture. They had no idea we had been trying and were really suprised, it helped to have something to show them too grin

MisselthwaiteManor Wed 27-Mar-13 09:19:09

We went to tell my DHs parents at 10 weeks, MIL was looking at me funny, DH stood up to speak and before he opened his mouth MIL said 'you're pregnant, I know by her face!'

I didn't even have a bump yet! I don't know what was on my face that gave it away! confused grin

Simian0 Wed 27-Mar-13 09:27:08

Asking for decaf tea seemed to be a dead giveaway to some of my family. wink

I always remember my friend announcing by giving me a birthday card where she signed it from her, her DH and 'bump'. I got busted for not really paying much attention to the card however as after about 20mins of her staring at me like an excited puppy for my reaction I was instructed to re-read the card.

As its' Easter thus weekend (and if you celebrate that at all in any way - even just gorging on choc) could you not make some play on eggs/chicks that's subtle but sweet? Give them a single Mini Egg from 'someone new' or something?

Wishfulmakeupping Wed 27-Mar-13 09:29:55

Same as jenjen showed them all the scan picture smile

cyclecamper Wed 27-Mar-13 09:41:02

I told my sister that I would need to borrow the green cycling jacket - I got it in a sale and it's enormous and so I gave it to her when she was pregnant years ago.

My dad had asked 3 days before and I'd said no (I didn't think I was) so I phoned him up and said 'I'd like to revise my earlier answer'! grin

BraveLilBear Wed 27-Mar-13 09:49:14

I told my parents and immediate family in a really naff way because I was in hospital with something else and thought they needed to know before someone on the ward spilled the beans. I had planned to give my mum and dad a 'good granddad/grandma guide' book for Christmas.

I told my wider family after my scan - sent round an emailed entitled 'we met someone amazing this week' - went down really well as they all thought we'd met some celeb of sorts!

Definitely think the Easter eggs is a good idea - maybe mini eggs as a pun? Or, if you have dinner, you could say 'hope you don't mind but I've brought an extra guest...' and wait for the penny to drop. Let us know how it goes!

beckie90 Wed 27-Mar-13 09:50:24

I'm 21 weeks nearly only told my mum last week, well I didn't tell her she just asked me (no bump) and she said she had known since early December lol but never said anything.

I thought I was just being simple and clear when I said to my mum 'you're going to be a nan.'... Took a minute of her flapping and asking what I was getting, a kitten or a puppy, before she clicked grin

MortifiedAdams Wed 27-Mar-13 09:58:59

I announced on my wedding day (12wks), as I wanted to wait til 12wks and had the added bonus of telling both families at the same time.

Next time round I plan on buying dd an 'Im going to be a big sister' tshirt and just letting her parade around in it til someone clicks.

I poas and gave it to my mum. Took her several minutes to work out what she was looking at. Have just found out I'm pregnant again so I need some ideas too!

JennaRainbow Wed 27-Mar-13 11:03:11

Good luck for Sunday Saundy!

I'd love some ideas too! I'm 7 weeks and I've got my first scan next week and planning on telling my mum after we get the ok, then rest of family at 12. Love the idea of asking them what they'll be doing on the date smile

FoofFighter Wed 27-Mar-13 11:07:13

How about... Thorntons Easter egg with granny/grandad etc iced on it and wait for the penny to drop?

TakingTheStairs Wed 27-Mar-13 11:08:29

Oh, def hoping for some ideas! Also love the idea of asking them what they're doing on the date grin

TakingTheStairs Wed 27-Mar-13 11:10:03
Saundy Wed 27-Mar-13 11:59:17

Thanks for posting everyone, also a fan of save the date & as we'll be having an Easter dinner really liking the extra guest idea too! I was sent for a 6 wk scan and have a pic but there's not really anything to see. Easter also does seem like a good opportunity to do something on the theme. They are already grandparents (not by me) so not sure the penny would drop if I did anything along those lines. But the nerves are defo changing to excitement now you've all got me thinking!

I did see an idea that was to get DP to take a pic of you with family & instead of saying 'say cheese' saying 'we're pregnant' & taking a photo of the reaction. However all my family dislike having their pics taken so that one would just turn into a pita for me.

Congrats to all the fellow preggers and good luck to those with respective announcements coming up!

festive Wed 27-Mar-13 12:07:16

First time - also asked them what they were doing on that date (it was a bank holiday)
Second time - we were having a big family dinner, my dad went to pour me a wine and I said 'oh no thanks, you're not supposed to drink when pregnant.' No one noticed so I then said it even louder and my sisters boyfriend was still the only one who twigged!

Saundy Sat 30-Mar-13 09:48:22

Haha that sounds about right festive

MamaBlue4 Sat 30-Mar-13 12:47:33

We told my father first around Easter during my 1st PG, so we got him and egg that said World's Best Grandpa. Took him a few minutes for it to registrar , and for my Great Grandpa & Grandma we talked on webcam and showed them my tummy with "it's a baby" written on it (they're in Russia). Did same with DH parents i.e webcam (they're in Germany.) Just told everyone else.

2nd PG: Told my father by wearing a t-shirt that said I'm pregnant and DS1 wearing a big brother t-shirt. He didn't catch on for like 2 hours until I hugged him goodbye. The again did same as 1st PG with everyone else.

3rd PG: Father first, told him by visiting and secretly tying two yellow wooden hearts to his dogs collar saying, "We're having" "TWINS" to say he was shocked was an understatement. Same as 1 and 2 for everyone else except we wrote (It's twins) on my tummy.

Can't wait to start thinking what to do for baby #5!

Saundy Sat 30-Mar-13 14:56:53

Haha that's lovely.

I have an egg bought & iced with 'Nana & Grandad (again)' iced on it - again as I have 4 nephews. If they don't click I've got my extra guest & save the date to fall back on! grin

Though I did get tempted to leave it until April Fools Day - just to confuse everyone.

Excited now!

MamaBlue4 Sat 30-Mar-13 15:58:16

I hope all goes well in your plan. Let us know how it goes! smile

littlecupcake Mon 01-Apr-13 23:47:47

My MIL is a knitter so we bought her a baby pattern and some white wool. Handed it over in a bag without saying anything. Lovely to see the penny drop and a tear roll down her cheek!

Saundy Tue 02-Apr-13 09:08:31

That would've been a good one for my mil too dammit (too late now).

It went really well, total confusion followed by lots of hugs & crying when the penny dropped!

I handed the letter from the midwife to my mum on Friday and she started reading. "Well that's a bit presumptuous as you're not pregnant, (looks at me) you're not pregnant, are you pregnant? Are you pregnant?" grin

TakingTheStairs Tue 02-Apr-13 15:40:11

Ninja, why on earth did she think you had a letter from the midwife if you weren't pregnant? Genuine question. Did she think they were hinting strongly or something?

sailinggirlie Tue 02-Apr-13 19:46:01

I wanted to do a big announcement to my family, but we were all on an xmas skiing holiday and they knew before I did. (smile) I was shattered and just felt 'wrong'. They'd all had a 'chat' before xmas day and agreed to hide booze from me all day till I realised! Lol! Thing was, I'd done a pregnancy test which came up as negative before we left to go there, so I was convinced I wasn't... Finally did a french test, read it wrong, went back to it and freaked! Then told hubby, he told them and they all said "thanks god for that, it was getting really hard to drink all your champers" (wink) All on xmas day! Good pressie huh?!

Hubbys family, we waited until 10 weeks, then went to visit for his mum's 60th and he just casually asked them how they felt about being grandparents to their first grandson (his bro's child), then said it was good they enjoyed it because they'd soon have double the work.... they were awfully confused and it took them a while to cotton on! (grin)

Facebook announcement was simply OVbunEN... (wink) didn't want to do one, but proved the easiest way to let everyone know.

Saundy Wed 03-Apr-13 09:10:16

That sounds about right ninja it was the last possible explanation fir my mum too (in the 90 seconds she had to figure it out!).

That's really funny Sailing I love your FB status too - totally gonna tax that one!

Because my mum is a bit slow bless her! I knew it would take a minute. With ds I handed her the pregnancy test and she looked at it for a couple of minutes before it clicked.

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