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Were your instincts about the sex right?

(79 Posts)
LuckyOwl28 Sun 24-Mar-13 19:09:10

I'm currently 37+6 and throughout my pregnancy have had so many people demanding of me that I 'must know' or 'must have an instinct' about the sex of our baby, and felt I must be missing some kind of maternal instinct as had absolutely no idea!

However, just over the last week all I can seem to think about is girl - I'm dreaming of having a girl, looking at girl clothes and subconsciously even referring to my bump as 'her' or 'she'.

Do you think this means anything at all?

Did you have such a feeling with your bumps and were you proved right/wrong?

I genuinely don't mind either way so makes no difference, I just wonder if this is the 'feeling' that everyone talks about

I was sure all of my three were boys, only one of them was!

I obviously don't have 'the instinct'. grin

TeggieCampbeggBlegg Sun 24-Mar-13 19:12:44

Completely wrong both times.

ImTooHecsyForYourParty Sun 24-Mar-13 19:13:08

nope. I knew I was pregnant pretty much from day one - I became obsessed with my womb hmm couldn't stop thinking about it.

But as for gender? I convinced myself I would have a girl because I come from a very female dominated family.

<looks proudly at 2 strapping lads> grin

TeWiSavesTheDay Sun 24-Mar-13 19:14:57

Incorrect. Twice.

CheungFun Sun 24-Mar-13 19:15:43

I really hoped that I was having a boy, but I did have a vivid dream of having a baby girl and me asking DH why he'd dressed her in a dark blue babygrow! I had a boy :-) I thought I'd have a feeling, but I really didn't know!

I was convinced I was having a girl as was everyone around me. It was a boy!

Casmama Sun 24-Mar-13 19:17:37

I thought it was a girl- I was wrong.

Frecklesandspecs Sun 24-Mar-13 19:19:44

No wrong both times with my girls!
Hoping for a boy this time as I have my two lovely little girls! But am not going to try and think this way or that.
This is my third pregnancy and not any different so far to the others (no sickness or symptoms as such except tiredness)
There is no way of knowing apart from the scan and you can subconsciously be quite disappointed if you have set it on your heart you are having one over the other sex when you find out differently, so try to keep open about it.

MrsSpagBol Sun 24-Mar-13 19:19:50

Wooo hoo - i was spot on! Thought it was a girl and it is!!!

FattyMcChubster Sun 24-Mar-13 19:19:53

I knew straight away. Told DP was a girl and she is! grin

Trazzletoes Sun 24-Mar-13 19:21:30

Yep. I was right both times. I just "knew". Can't explain it.

LuckyOwl28 Sun 24-Mar-13 19:22:48

haha well this has been pretty conclusive wink

I have a 50% chance of being right at least.....

I knew both times. When dd1 was born i just turned and shouted to dh i TOLD you it was a girl!! Then with dd2 everyone kept saying oooh i bet its a boy this time a baby john (family name that i would have refused anyway) but i kept saying you'll all be disappointed as im sure its another girl. And she was.

I knew both were boys and referred to bump as 'he' quite early on. I did secretly hope both were girls though.

littleducks Sun 24-Mar-13 19:30:19

I KNEW in my first pregnancy it was a boy, I had a growth scan the day before I delivered and fou d out I was wrong and she was a girl.

I didn't try and guess with ds a d just asked at the scan. I am currently pregnant and although the pregnancy symptoms are more similar to my first pregnancy I have no inkling as to the baby's gender.

KLou111 Sun 24-Mar-13 19:35:54

I thought boy, everyone else said girl.
My mum who is a retired mw checked the heart beat about 6 months and said she thought girl, then when I was in labour she knew I was having a boy but didn't tell me as we didn't know, but told my dad.
I had a beautiful boy smile

Smudging Sun 24-Mar-13 19:38:34

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Welovegrapes Sun 24-Mar-13 19:39:25

Yes - I said he was a DS from the 6 week dating scan smile

beckie90 Sun 24-Mar-13 19:42:54

I knew with my first 2. They were both boys. But this one I really thought girl was convinced but nope I'm having a boy smile xx

Welovegrapes Sun 24-Mar-13 19:43:35
MirandaWest Sun 24-Mar-13 19:43:41

Wrong both times smile

Snazzynewyear Sun 24-Mar-13 19:46:47

No, completely wrong. Stick with the 50/50 expectation...

Pontouf Sun 24-Mar-13 19:49:41

When I was pregnant with my son I started to think he was a boy after about 20 weeks. By the time he was born I was absolutely convinced that he was a boy and couldn't imagine him not being. I am now 38+1 with DC2. I started to think it was probably a girl at around the same time again - around 20ish weeks. I kind of wanted a girl, really fancied having one of each so as I became more and more convinced that this one is a girl I started to panic. I just couldn't shake the feeling and was worried that if I was wrong I would be a bit disappointed when the baby was born as I couldn't bear the idea of that. We never planned to find out the sex but we had to have a foetal medicine scan at 28 weeks due to a complication so we asked the sex. And I was right! We're having a girl. I'm two for two!

NotAnotherPackedLunch Sun 24-Mar-13 19:51:30

I knew for certain what I was having both times.
I was completely wrong both times. blush

Jamdoughnutfiend Sun 24-Mar-13 19:52:54

No wrong both times. A bit crap at this motherhood malarkey!

DewDr0p Sun 24-Mar-13 19:53:28

I was sure dc1 was a girl... I was wrong (when the mw said "it's a boy!" I said "are you sure?" grin )

I thought dc2 would prob be a boy too - not based on any instinct at all, just on the basis that dc1 was! I was right that time.

I was convinced dc3 must be a girl, totally different pg and all that... wrong again!

I think the old 50:50 rule holds true...

FoofFighter Sun 24-Mar-13 20:18:34

I somehow knew with my first two and was right. This one - almost 20 weeks and no idea yet. finding that a bit weird tbh!

kicker Sun 24-Mar-13 20:26:26

I have been right three times. I just knew as soon as the two blue lines appeared what sex was going to be.It was a bit sad in a way as I never had that excited feeling of not knowing.

TinkyPeet Sun 24-Mar-13 20:48:08

I have 'known' with all 3, and got them all right, but strangely enough so did my sister with her 3 and my mum with all 3 of us. Family of weirdos lol xx

Emmaw9 Sun 24-Mar-13 20:49:27

Totally wrong! Everybody was convinced girl (myself included) I had a boy, my sister was the only person who said boy right from the beginning!!

Shootingstarsandcomets Sun 24-Mar-13 20:55:50

I thought it was a boy from the beginning and he was!

MyNameIsAnAnagram Sun 24-Mar-13 21:27:25

I was sure dc1 was a boy and he was. This time I thought for a long time it was a girl, but I'm not sure now. I'll let you know in about 9 weeks....,

Fakebook Sun 24-Mar-13 21:33:40

Dc1 I knew from the moment I found out I was having a girl. I just knew. I was right.

Dc2 I thought I was having a girl, but my heart was telling me it's not a girl. I had a boy.

This time I don't really feel anything. Nothing like that strong gut feeling I had with dd. I do think I'm having a girl again though. We'll see in a few months!

lollypopsicle Sun 24-Mar-13 21:36:52

I felt 'boy' with first pg from the start and was right. Before I was pg again I was convinced i'd have another boy (for various irrelevant reasons) but when I did fall pg I just couldn't shake the feeling she was a girl. We found out at a 28wk growth scan and looks like I was right again smile

GirlOutNumbered Sun 24-Mar-13 21:41:18

Wrong both times!

Goldchilled7up Sun 24-Mar-13 21:46:00

No, I was totally convinced I was having a girl and got a shock at the 20 weeks scan when I was told I was having a boy grin

MsTimTam Sun 24-Mar-13 21:48:50

No idea the first time, but everyone (except my Dad and I think he was just disagreeing to be different) thought it was a girl - it was

Before I got pg the second time, I said to dh that we would only have girls and was fairly certain dc2 was a dd from the beginning. It was confirmed at the 20 week scan, we were asking more for confirmation than anything else.

Well by definition we have a 50% chance of being right with our instincts, so half the ladies on here who 'just knew' should statistically have guessed correctly and the other half should have got it wrong.

I guessed wrong, I was certain the bump was a boy, until the 12 week scan when I was told she was a girl!

Flisspaps Mon 25-Mar-13 08:17:35

Wrong both times grin

Msbluesky32 Mon 25-Mar-13 08:52:55

I was convinced it was a boy from the start, 20 week scan confirmed its a little girl...although they did add a note on my file saying they couldn't confirm for sure (but there really wasn't the usual 'trio' in between the legs so think it will be a girl)

atrcts Tue 26-Mar-13 23:40:48

Wrong twice!

shelsco Sun 31-Mar-13 00:00:29

Right first time but wrong the next 3! Although with DS3 I did suddenly feel I knew about a week before he was born that he would be a boy (after being convince he was a girl all the way through). Was absolutely convinced that Ds1 was a boy and Ds2 was a girl and completely right with one and wrong with the other!!

babyradio Sun 31-Mar-13 00:23:38

I had a feeling he would be a boy because I wanted a girl so much. Or I thought I did, I cried at my 20 week scan before they'd even started because I'd spent the previous 16 weeks praying it would be a girl and suddenly the prospect of knowing for sure was too scary, I was afraid it would be a girl and I'd be gutted it wasn't a boy. Now I am so so happy to be having a boy, pregnancy is strange!

AWhistlingWoman Mon 01-Apr-13 21:39:10

First was sure was a boy. Dreamt about him and everything.

DTwins. Both girls.

Third was absolutely certain was another girl. Felt as though somebody had tapped me on the shoulder and told me.

DS1.

No maternal instincts here obviously.

sjupes Mon 01-Apr-13 21:52:14

Desperately wanted dc1 to be a boy but knew she was a girl the whole way through pregnancy i just 'knew' and tada a dd she is.

With dc2 i wanted boy and knew from around 14 weeks - i had a 'boy' bump and i was right.

Dc3 i have the same bump as dc1 so said for ages another dd - i was right again grin

My body follows the old wives tales for bumps - girls all round boys up and out smile

Kw2013 Mon 01-Apr-13 22:07:35

I knew both times and was adamant I was right but it could of just been a coincidence. First was a girl and second is going to be a boy

GummyAdams Mon 01-Apr-13 22:11:01

Felt from the start that I was having a boy; had a strong feeling that I was, though no preference as to either sex. I was told by everybody (about ten people in total,) that they thought it was a boy. At my last appointment the midwife said she was sure it was a girl.
She was wrongsmile

Kafri Mon 01-Apr-13 22:12:17

I referred to bump as 'he' the whole way through and 'he' turned out to be a he. was a good job really as dh and I still can't agree on a girls name and ds is now 14 weeks old.
im convinced I thought 'he' simply because the book i referred to always said he.

sweetkitty Mon 01-Apr-13 22:24:51

I've had four, thought the first was a girl and I was right, then thought the next 3 were girls too , next two were but last one had a willy grin

There was nothing to suggest he was a he, bump was the same, cravings and MS the same, SPD the same. Even when we got told at 22 weeks he was a boy still couldn't believe it, I remember looking at the blue blankets thinking nah, they've got it wrong, I couldn't get my head around the fact he was a boy.

He's 3 now and most definitely a boy.

RatPants Mon 01-Apr-13 22:25:37

Mine were right both times!

4 DCs, had a feeling they were boys each time - only right once. It was quite nice to be surprised though!

glorious Mon 01-Apr-13 23:03:25

nope, everyone including me thought DD was a boy. I was very surprised when I looked!

BraveLilBear Tue 02-Apr-13 11:43:59

I asked my mum this at the weekend - she said she never knew with any of her three dds, tho thought the last was a boy because the pg was different. Nope, same old, same old!

I've had a feeling from the start that I have a girl, which is weird, as I always thought of myself as being a mum of boys. OH is convinced it's a boy, not helped by the fact he claims to have 'seen' on the 20 week scan - I was rolled away from screen to get better angle so couldn't even play the guessing game.

We'll find out in 4 months who's right. The good news is that the only girls name we've agreed on so far is a unisex name grin

Convinced I was having twin boys, doubly wrong, two girls!

LuckyOwl28 Tue 02-Apr-13 12:50:42

Hopefully not long til I find out! 39+1 today!

I still can't get girl out of my head - will update when I know for sure!

When I rang my mum to tell her I was pregnant (first day of missed period I got a BFP), she asked 'what is it' and I said 'a boy!!!'.

We couldn't agree on any girls name, I didn't want to look at stuff for baby girls. Had a boy's name from about 18 weeks, and only bought boys clothes.

Didn't find out he was a boy until the day he was born at 39 weeks.

A friend was also certain she was having a boy, and she did smile

Hooya Tue 02-Apr-13 15:20:46

Nope, was certain it was a girl and found out today - boy! My 'gut feeling' must have just been wind grin

xigris Tue 02-Apr-13 15:39:20

I was 100% certain I was having a boy when I was pregnant with my first. We didn't find out at the 20 week scan and when the baby was born I had been right all along. Convinced of my womanly intuition, when I was pregnant the second time round, I was sure that it was a girl. We chose to confirm this at the 20/40 scan so that we could prepare DS now 2. I smugly confidently told the sonographer that I was certain it was a girl and that I'd been right first time. "Oh look" she said, "there's 'her' willy". blush. Clearly not as psychic as I thought!

megarobotdiscoparty Tue 02-Apr-13 18:07:35

Was adamant it was a boy from day 1. Mother-in-law was also so convinced it was a boy she told us not to bother telling us the sex at the 20 week scan - "I already know what he is!". Sure enough he was... although he has yet to be born and there's always room for sonographer error! What a shock we'd get if he turned out to be a she now...

Gingerbreadpixie Tue 02-Apr-13 19:23:05

Totally wrong! I'm 19 weeks. Myself, DH and several friends and family were convinced this little one would be a girl. We had a scan last week and he's definitely a little boy!

Dogsmom Tue 02-Apr-13 19:54:54

I always really wanted a girl and spent the first months of my pregnancy doing all the old wives tricks and they all said boy, I also spent hours thinking it was a boy and had many dreams in which it was a boy.

I gave birth to her last month :-)

Lovethesea Tue 02-Apr-13 20:37:37

DC1 dreamt boy throughout early pregnancy, just before labour started had a vivid baby girl dream. DD arrived.

No clue with DC2, same lack of pregnancy symptoms, same bump, same everything. DS turned up.

I think my torso is too short to do a variety of bump shapes, I just about fitted them in and they both got stuck tight.

hotcrosbum Tue 02-Apr-13 21:26:02

I knew ds was a boy from the start. Didn't even entertain the idea he was a she.

I am 7 weeks now and no instinct at all. Haven't got the foggiest.

Nope, got it wrong 4/4 times.

Stixswhichtwizzle Tue 02-Apr-13 21:27:40

I was completely wrong!

MariahHairy Tue 02-Apr-13 21:33:47

no!

EcoHippyMum Wed 03-Apr-13 01:51:45

I knew with all three of mine, can't explain it either and did have lots of dreams too. Got not the slightest but DH thinks its a boy (maybe wishful thinking).

LittleFeileFooFoo Wed 03-Apr-13 01:56:52

I thought I was having a girl, I was wrong!

MyShoofly Wed 03-Apr-13 03:59:06

Correct both times....beautiful boys smile

I knew what mine were from quite early on with my first two as had cvs but both times we went on holiday to Italy and everyone told us what sex they were and got it right!

This time I have no idea am only 7 weeks though. DH is convinced is a DD but I can only think about boys names!

NandH Wed 03-Apr-13 04:41:28

I somehow knew both times, the first I knew I was having a girl and then had dd and the second time my pregnancy was completely different to the first and decided I must be having a boy, out popped ds!! he's 8 weeks old now grin

i honestly had no idea either way. no strong feeling of boy or girl! i got ds grin

my bff said straight off she was having girls with her 2 dcs- sh was right both times.

my dm said she was right with me and wrong for both my dsis and dbro. so she got 1 out of 3 right (or was lying about getting me right grin )

scaredbutexcited Fri 05-Apr-13 11:17:01

I seemed to know that I'm having a girl but no idea why.

Had lots of dreams about the baby in the second trimester and she was always a girl.

However, my mum was totally convinced I would be a boy (I think that is what she would have preferred!!) Apparently she is happy know though wink

harleyd Fri 05-Apr-13 12:14:31

i was right with all 4 of mine, am hoping i have it right this time too...

plentyofsoap Fri 05-Apr-13 12:17:24

Thought he was a boy all along and he is. Had a feeling about it, difficult to describe!

weeblueberry Fri 05-Apr-13 12:53:15

I was utterly certain it was going to be a boy. All the signs said boy, when I dreamed about the baby it was a boy, all I did was look at boys clothes.

It's a girl. Obviously. wink

Wishfulmakeupping Fri 05-Apr-13 12:59:33

I knew straight away I was expecting a girl even when I was having dreams of having a baby boy I still knew it was a girl and I was correct smile

rrreow Fri 05-Apr-13 17:14:49

With DC1 I thought it was a boy. Not through any sort of instinct but because I REALLY wanted a girl and figured it would mean it must be a boy. DH thought it would be a girl. I was right.

With DC2 I thought it was a girl because the pregnancy symptoms were so different and had really bad morning sickness. Not sure what my DH thought. My aunt thought it was a girl because I found out I was pregnant around the same time my grandmother died (so she thought it was some kind of cosmic exchange.. female for female). DC2 hasn't been born yet but on the scan it was pretty clear it's a boy grin

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