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If you are pregnant do you count as a 'mother' as in 'being fussed over for mother's day by dp'....

(38 Posts)
riskit4abiskit Sun 03-Mar-13 20:46:51

... or does it not count until baby is born?

(shamelessly hoping for a bacon buttie in bed)

light-hearted thread

weeblueberry Sun 03-Mar-13 20:51:21

Lol can't say I'd thought about it. Although my mum did day a couple of weeks ago that she'd seem a card 'to mum from the bump'!!

riskit4abiskit Sun 03-Mar-13 20:52:04

haha bet she bought it for you?!

VivaLeBeaver Sun 03-Mar-13 20:53:31

I think it doesn't count. Sadly I spent all Mother's Day 12 years ago in labour and gave birth three hours too late. Had to wait a whole year for my first one!

We didn't here. I want to be spoilt every day grin

nethunsreject Sun 03-Mar-13 20:56:28

Bacon butty in bed every day in my opinion wink Afraid mother's day extends only to those with school age kids in our family but pregnant people deserve worship daily wink

MrsHoarder Sun 03-Mar-13 20:58:18

Not here. But when pregnant dh would have happily brought me breakfast in bed without needing a special day.

salcz Sun 03-Mar-13 20:59:42

I dropped major hints to DH last year but he said he didn't want to jinx things. I'm hoping that he makes up for it this year!!!!!

riskit4abiskit Sun 03-Mar-13 21:03:31

ahhh so that's where i'm going wrong..... it should be bacon butties every day (although I will get a bacon bump then rather than a baby bump)

GeordieCherry Sun 03-Mar-13 21:03:49

I feel like I want it acknowledging, so asked DP if he had thought about doing something for Mothers Day & he said he's planned breakfast in bed grin. I'll be 30 weeks

pixi2 Sun 03-Mar-13 21:05:33

If its your PFB you should be pampered everyday. No other pregnancy is like your first.

For me, it's just another day (unless baby wants to show his/her face before then). I would rather be fussed over when I have an actual child!

No - it is a great opportunity to spoil your DM/DMIL if you have the right type of relationship, so that you can earn some brownie points which can be exchanged for babysitting later. My appreciation for my DM rocketed when I had DD and I realised quite how much my DM must love me.

Hoaz Sun 03-Mar-13 21:18:20

No, it would seem like tempting fate to me.

riskit4abiskit Sun 03-Mar-13 21:19:18

good point breatheslowly, I will certainly be doing that, especially as both dm and mil are so excited about us having their first grandchild, and both are beyond lovely

AmandaPayne Sun 03-Mar-13 21:20:17

No - assuming you have a relationship with your own mother, to me it would be the last opportunity to be on that side of the equation. From next year on, you're pulled both ways!

AmandaPayne Sun 03-Mar-13 21:20:49

ps but for a PFB, your partner should provide bacon butties in bed any weekend you request. God knows it's your last chance for a while.

HaveIThoughtThisThrough Sun 03-Mar-13 21:24:15

My focus will be my DM & DMIL but I secretly hope that DH will think to get me a card. Last year when my best friend was pregnant I sent her a happy mother (to be)'s day card and stuck a London Underground 'baby on board' badge to it and she was chuffed to bits. It's sweet to acknowledge it but I won't be upset if DH forgets.

We do have a deal though for future Mother's days. I am in charge of both our mums' presents/cards and he is in charge of my present/card from our PFB :-)

beginnings Sun 03-Mar-13 21:28:31

I didn't! This is to be my first Mother's Day. I deliberately said nothing to DH to see if he'd remember grin. His DM has reminded him it turns out. So, do you know what the plan is for Mother's Day?? To go and see her!!

DD was five weeks old for Father's Day. He got a personalised card with a picture of the two of them on it. I ordered it TWO WEEKS early, whilst being an extremely anxious PFB mother with a colicky newborn. And I managed to cook dinner. I better sodding get treated to something nice next Sunday. Even more as I'm now cooking number 2!!

Rant over. As you were.

nickelbabe Sun 03-Mar-13 21:31:55

bloody damn right do you count as a mother for mothering Sunday!
same as I gave dh a father's day card when I was pg.

make sure he makes a fuss of you- next year you'll provably both be too busy to realize grin

Dogsmom Sun 03-Mar-13 22:10:51

I'm due on saturday and have quietly wondered if my husband is getting me a card just in case she arrives on time.

ChairmanWow Sun 03-Mar-13 22:23:53

If you think it should count then it counts. Prepare to do some hint-dropping if you do. If he's anything like mine he'll need it tattooed onto his forehead to make him remember.

gwenniebee Sun 03-Mar-13 22:30:22

Last year when I was pg I spent Mothering Sunday dropping my dh at Heathrow so he could go away for work and then dropped a litre of double cream on the floor of the supermarket!

So I am very much looking forward to my first Mothering Sunday this year smile

I did buy my dh a card for fathers' day last year, but the bump was very very imminent by then so it felt more appropriate.

Essexgirlupnorth Sun 03-Mar-13 22:36:05

Hubby asked if I wanted a card but said it was a bit weird. I am only 10 weeks though. Have been hearing advent on xfm about almost a Mother's Day though.

nickelbabe Sun 03-Mar-13 22:41:50

amusingly, although that was a typo, it'll be nearly advent when your dc is born grin

As I am not my DH mother he doesn't spoil me and likewise for Father's Day. My children normally make cards if they remember and my 9yo (only one with pocket money) has asked Dad to take him out to spend it on me. It means a lot to me that he has done this off his own back and will mean more than any gift.

In my opinion our wedding anniversary is when my DH makes a fuss of me and Mother's Day is when we make a fuss of our Mothers.

StuckOnARollercoaster Mon 04-Mar-13 07:02:22

Was out shopping at the weekend. Knowing how rubbish my Dp is at this stuff I made him get his own mum a card. I did say that next year it's up to him to get me one! I don't hold out much hope... But given that he brings me plenty of tea and biscuits in bed and other nice real life stuff I can let it go (assuming I don't turn into a hormonal mess when this baby is born!!!)!

notsoold Mon 04-Mar-13 08:49:05

Oooohhhh yes you do.... And dh only stops buying/ helping/ giving the money to cards once dc have their own money ( pocket or hard earned).

My ds (13yo) is mowing the neighbours garden to earn for my present ( a mug and a card)....
We are giving him money to buy a gift to his nana ( she is his sweetie mummy , as he calls her)

WestieMamma Mon 04-Mar-13 09:05:52

I never get a fuss on any special days be it mother's day, valentine's day, wedding anniversaries, birthdays or whatever sad

This is because my husband firmly believes a wife/girlfriend should be treated like royalty every day. I get bacon butties brought to me every Saturday morning, and Sunday lunch cooked every weekend, and random flowers and chocs and other nice stuff. I'm so lucky. smile

Minty82 Mon 04-Mar-13 09:17:38

I gave birth a week early on Mother's Day last year, and the impressively organised baby managed to get me a card! (via my parents. DH had been a little busy...)

SourSweets Mon 04-Mar-13 10:59:51

Pfft, yes! Growing a baby is hard. My husband's making dinner for his mum, his sister who is also a mum, his niece who is also a mum and me, a mum-to-be. It's the least he can do, ha.

Portofino Mon 04-Mar-13 11:09:55

No. Imho it is the KIDS who should do the spoiling on Mother's Day so you have to wait til they are bigger.

Tabbykat Mon 04-Mar-13 11:15:06

I think you should, but be careful what you wish for....DH bought me a present for mother's day when I was pregnant - a pot of stretchmark cream. Huh!

cyclecamper Mon 04-Mar-13 11:26:05

I'm planning to continue my mother's tradition of not celebrating mother's day, so no.


elliejjtiny Mon 04-Mar-13 11:39:38

I can't remember if my DH did anything on mothers day when I was pregnant with my PFB. I remember getting breakfast in bed the day after the first BFP though. I think mothers day means more when the children are older though. DS1 made me a card and laminated bookmark at school when he was 4 which was more special than a card and chocolates bought by DH when DS1 was younger. We don't do fathers day because DH thinks it's too commercialised so I make a big fuss of him at easter instead.

Nagoo Mon 04-Mar-13 12:04:15

I cleverly squeezed mine out just before mother's day, so I don't know.

I reckon I would cajole DH into getting me a bacon sandwich though, for sure grin

It's much better when they are old enough to make you a present smile

knittingirl Mon 04-Mar-13 12:31:26

Dh said to me yesterday, do you know it'll be your first mother's day next weekend? I'll be 16 weeks smile

It also happens to be his birthday on the same day though, so think he might be wanting to get spoilt!

rrreow Mon 04-Mar-13 13:20:10

Before having a baby with sleepless nights and the romance going out of the relationship (grin) there is NO REASON in my opinion to not get a bacon butty in bed (and it doesn't even have to be mother's day).

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