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Anyone Else Pregnant Aged 44?

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LottieH Wed 20-Feb-13 16:02:23

Is anyone else out there in their mid 40s & pregnant like me? Everyone else I know who is expecting seems to be in their 30s (which I was when I started having children) but now feel people think I'm a bit odd?! Have had some very strange comments when I've announced it to people.

ExpatAl Wed 20-Feb-13 16:08:03

Congrats! I'm 42 - I'm nearly 12 weeks and won't announce it until I've the NT scan and got the blood results. If I had my way I wouldn't announce until I was 16 weeks but I'm showing already and struggling to disguise it. There is a fabulous 40 thread but I have an irrational fear that I'll jinx my pregnancy if I join the thread.

Guntie Wed 20-Feb-13 16:13:07

Congrats both of you :-)

expat I am 23 weeks and still to scared to join my due date thread fearing I'll jinx my pregnancy too confused

ZolaBuddleia Wed 20-Feb-13 16:16:25

You're inspirational ladies to us old gimmers! Well done!

ExpatAl Wed 20-Feb-13 16:17:12

Good to meet a fellow nuts person Guntie. Do you have a cut off point when you feel the jinx factor will be over? Birth possibly?

ExpatAl Wed 20-Feb-13 16:19:02

Hoi! Who are you calling an old gimmer? <<checks roots>>

maybaby41 Wed 20-Feb-13 16:21:44

I'm 41 and 27 weeks today - had no problems with the pregnancy and having the normal appointments with the midwife with no consultant referals. My nan was 40 when she had my mum back in the 50's and she was really frowned upon then but times have changed and 40 is the new 30!

ZolaBuddleia Wed 20-Feb-13 16:25:58

I certainly feel like an old gimmer, although I bow to your superior roots. grin

I'm 42 and feel pessimistic about my chances, so it's great to hear of you lot getting upduffed.

rosiedays Wed 20-Feb-13 16:33:28

hi, 42 and 18 weeks.... 20 week scan is next mile stone. found out at the weekend that my DD (25) is also expecting!!!! cant bring myself to join thred either.

LottieH Wed 20-Feb-13 16:35:25

Thanks all of you & shame some of you are worried about jinxing things - try & look on the positive side Expat. I'm 2 years older than you & both my nuchal & blood tests came back fine. Even if they do come back slightly high don't presume the worst as several friends have had that & the babies we're absolutely fine. And the expanding waistline is obviously a great sign too! Thanks for link to Fab 40 - am new to MN so didn't know about that so off to join that thread too! x

ng1412 Wed 20-Feb-13 16:36:00

Hi I am 43 and 27 weeks pregnant with my second. DD is coming up to two years old.

I only wish I had more energy!

Guntie Wed 20-Feb-13 16:38:01

expat I don't know... The birth's just the start though isn't it?! I guess I am just worried about tempting fate. I haven't bought anything either, just seems too good to be true :-)

LottieH Wed 20-Feb-13 16:39:04

Wow congrats Rosiedays and to your daughter too! Right - am off to the Fab 40 link now so can you please all pray that I don't jinx myself as even am starting to pick up on all your superstitiousness! x

soupmaker Wed 20-Feb-13 17:46:18

Waves at fellow old gimmers. I am 42 and 17 weeks, due just before I am 43. I haven't joined any other threads either for fear of jinxing. I am already showing and trying to keep it a secret at work and from 5 yo DD until after 20 week scan. I rather like being this age and pregnant. Although so knackered.

Onlyconnect Wed 20-Feb-13 17:49:57

I am 45 and am now 15 weeks. It was an accident and I have been mortified but I'm getting used to the idea now. Have had some tests too which has put my mind at rest.

LottieH Wed 20-Feb-13 18:33:17

Lovely news Soup and Onlyconnect. I can certainly empathise re the tiredness - and the sickness is a shocker. Re 'accidents', I think they're the ones that always give the greatest joy and are meant to be - I'm sure you'll be delighted when he or she arrives. smile

CareerGirl01 Wed 20-Feb-13 19:56:58

Congrats ladies. I'm 42 and 29 weeks pg with no 2 - the good thing about being older is that pregnancy has made me look younger! Must be the weight gain (18lbs - but earlier on it was in the minus thanks to morning sickness) and seeing people's faces when I tell them I'm 42. Just because I'm in my 40s does not mean i will be a fuddy duddy mummy- our LOs will keep us young.

soupmaker Wed 20-Feb-13 20:23:35

So lovely to have other 40+ mums or mums to be here. I had a couple of MC after DD, and we'd given up so this one is a surprise! My consultant declared that I was a very young looking 42 yo. So I like her! Despite having grey hair most people seem to think I am younger than I am. I am hoping another wee one will make me even younger! Some hope when the sleepless nights kick in.

rosiedays Thu 21-Feb-13 10:46:10

only mine is a huge shock too! how are you coming to terms with it?
I've realy struggled tbh. the thought of spending my 40's sleep deprived, always being responsible (no more crazy weekends) constant worry and doing school runs horrified me!! I did all that in my 20's (however i would never consider a termination)
stupidly i had a plan,we were just getting on our feet finantially and were looking at buying a boat to go sailing next year. Now i'm not working (another story) and we need to move house. feels like my lovely life has come crashin down round my ears!
Over the passed fer weeks as my bump has got bigger i have started to see a light! Havejust started to have some great WOW i'm Pregnant moments. DH has promised we can move back to live / work on the beach next year (we both work in tourism and i hate the UK) and i'm starting to be able to see how much fun it could be to grow up another little person.
I'm finding it really hard to focus on the 'new Dream' in case it all goes wrong.
DH is over the moon, it's his first and he's blissfully ignorant about the reality of parenthood!
I really dont mean to offend anyone,if you are offended please pass by quietly I dont want to be 'flamed' for being selfish. Up till 20 december i only had myself to think about!!
just looking for a safe place to express myself. thanks

soupmaker Thu 21-Feb-13 12:10:09

Hello Rosie. I hope you will be safe here. I didn't have DD until my late 30's and she is still wee, but we too had been thinking about how life was so good with just the one, who is now at school and a bit more independent. She sleeps, eats and is very happy 99% of the time. Although she never shuts up! We were planning holidays and feeling happy about only one set of university fees! So it's all been a bit of a shock here. DH and I have laid in bed some nights saying what the hell did we do this for! Of course it's going to be hard work but it'll be worth it. Your DP is in for a big shock!!!!

cyclecamper Thu 21-Feb-13 13:08:56

Hi I'm another 42 year old who is accidentally pregnant! As I've said in various places around the forum, my husband had a vasectomy 15 years ago, so I really thought that my symptoms were the menopause or ME. I only did the test because the dr told me to before she did the blood tests for the menopause. I was so shocked when it was positive! I'm 24 weeks now and I still haven't quite got to grips with the idea.

It is tricky changing from making plans for the 2 of us and sometimes my 16 year old stepson to not knowing how we are going to manage things. We don't have a car and usually spend holidays cycle touring up and down the country which isn't going to be anywhere near as easy now. It was hard enough when we had to factor in the teenager with aspbergers, but a baby adds a whole other set of logistical problems!

I also post in the other thread - do feel free to come and join - it's very friendly - there are people at all stages of pregnancy and with different families - some, like me are expecting their first (in my case only, it's all I can do to stop my husband getting re-snipped before the baby is born!) and one lady is expecting her 5th with so we are quite varied.

McGilly Thu 21-Feb-13 13:18:11

Congratulations to you all and good luck. I had my third DC last year at 44, it was a great pregnancy and birth with no problems. DS is now nearly 1 and I am shattered but that is because he wakes up ALL the time, not my age! Nobody has ever comments on my 'advanced' age - certainly not my wonderful hospital carers. Maybe I will notice the difference with a six year pls in my fifties but I really don't care ... I know we are really really lucky!

McGilly Thu 21-Feb-13 13:20:38

And yes, the cut-off date for the jinx factor is birth.

rosiedays Thu 21-Feb-13 13:22:33

thanks soup Yes DH is in for a hell of a shock! Hi cycle
i do snoop in the fantastic 40 thread find it wondefully reasuring. (is it wrong to snoop??)
best wishes to all X

ExpatAl Thu 21-Feb-13 13:31:01

I'm a constant lurker of the thread too. We lost our son at just short of 26 weeks (first dc) so this pregnancy is pretty fraught and I feel I'd be the voice of doom if I joined. It is lovely to see so many women my age getting on with it brilliantly though. Makes me feel much better and positive.

rosiedays Thu 21-Feb-13 14:07:04

i have a really silly question....is it ok to ask for a heart beat check? i've not had any worring symptoms but not felt any movment yet. my 12 week scan seems SO long ago.

ExpatAl Thu 21-Feb-13 14:11:50

Couldn't you ask your midwife?

cyclecamper Thu 21-Feb-13 14:12:31

Hi Rosie I think that any time you are worried it's ok to ask - isn't that what early pregnancy units are for? I would call the midwife for re-assurance, although from reading on here, it seems to vary enormously when people first feel the baby - some before 10 weeks, some at 25. And I think we get special dispensation to be neurotic, being what my dr calls 'an elderly lady' grin.

McGilly Thu 21-Feb-13 21:00:13

Yes ask for check. Here in Australia a Doppler check is standard at each appt. I also went outsid appts a couple of times ... as they say, mum knows best. I would stop short of hiring your own Doppler though, then you really will never relax!

MinkyWinky Fri 22-Feb-13 16:28:55

Hi! 44 and 8 weeks pregnant. It's my third pregnancy, but I miscarried my first two sad. I went to my GP this morning and she's organised a viability scan next Wed (fingers crossed for good news) as I couldn't face waiting until 12 weeks because of my previous history. She was very reassuring as I'm feeling sick, have sore boobs and am very tired and no bleeding this time - all positive signs grin

Rosie I called my EPU direct and they told me to book it via the GP. Different units have different criteria, but if there's no harm in asking if you can have an early scan.

LottieH Fri 22-Feb-13 16:50:11

Big congrats Minkywinky! Those are all really good signs so as a fellow 44 year old a few weeks ahead of you am keeping everything crossed for you (hope the sickness isn't too unbearable). x

MinkyWinky Fri 22-Feb-13 16:54:54

Thanks LottieH. It's good to know I'm not the only pregnant 44 year old around! I'm probably jinxing myself here, but while I'm feeling sick, I'm not actually throwing up, which is a bonus grin

rosiedays Fri 22-Feb-13 17:31:42

HI minky Congrats wink

I called MW this morning, she was usless (i ended up in tears!) She said the EPU would not see me after 18 weeks (I'm 18+3) and i@m to early to go to the day assessment unit!!! Where am i supposed to go??? called GP as by this point i had worked myself into a complete paranoid state ( you'd think at our age we'd know better!!)
GP was great, sent me to EPU for scan. All is good grin i feel so much better, DR at EPU was amazing and checked everythng. my placenta is low and at the front, Baby lying behind it. she said this is prob why i cant feel movement yet (she gave me a pic which they dont nrmally do at EPU thanks
seeing baby wriggeling was so reasuring and helped so much.
Also found a loveely new flat (with a huge garden and veg patch!!!) did all paperwork there and then. huge relief. 1 month and i'll have a bath grin

in arabic there is a saying yom assel yom bassel. means some days are honey some days are onions. today is a honey day. x

ExpatAl Fri 22-Feb-13 18:03:39

So glad you've had a honey day rosiedays
I can't believe your MW was so unhelpful. What are they for?

soupmaker Fri 22-Feb-13 21:31:21

Hi Minky. Just wanted to say I know how nervous and stressful these first weeks are. I've had 2 MC. I'm now 17 weeks and still not feeling confident. Keeping everything crossed for you.

MinkyWinky Sat 23-Feb-13 12:39:54

Woohoo rosie I'm glad your GP came through for you and it became a honey daygrin

Thank you soupmaker, it's always reassuring to hear someone else has been in the same situation and it's turning out well!

ExpatAl Sat 23-Feb-13 12:45:12

I think you have a scan next Wednesday don't you Minky? It's amazing how just a few days can feel like months away. I had a couple of early scans at 6 and 7 weeks and would feel okay until the morning of the test and then it would seem as if all my symptoms had disappeared. Torture! I will have my NT scan next Thursday and I'm very very anxious. I have all my fingers crossed for you but symptoms and no bleeding are definitely a great sign.

cyclecamper Sat 23-Feb-13 20:09:27

Great news Rosie glad you were re-assured thanks. I like the idea of honey days smile.

Lottielloyd Sun 24-Feb-13 17:28:38

I'm 44 and 7 weeks pregnant. I'm terrified x

littlepinkfizz Sun 24-Feb-13 19:33:14

What a lovely thread of wonderful stories!!

I'm 42 but unfortunately not pregnant although trying desperately. Have 4 dc,15,15,13 and 2. Had mc in July past at 13 weeks and a chemical pregnancy last month.

Keep your little fingers crossed for an old timer .

You all sound so lovely,your babies have picked their mums well x

rosiedays Sun 24-Feb-13 19:36:23

HI LottieL welcome and crongrats thanks
do tell your story, I was terrified and Horrified when i found out. took me some time to get my head round things.... i still have days now when i struggle. were you ttc? there are loads of us 'older' mums to be on here. x

Squidwoman Sun 24-Feb-13 20:31:45

Can I join this thread? I'm 41 and nearly 12 weeks with DC4. My others are 13,11 and 8 but this will be my DP's first. We weren't ttc but had wanted one.

Still it's a bit of a shock to find myself starting all over again now! I am secretly very excited about it all BUT very nervous about the NT scan and bloods I am having on Wednesday. Worried about CVS if it looks necessary etc.

It's good to know there are other 40+ women out there in the same position. We have told no one yet. For some reason I'm nervous about how people will react because of my age?!

rosiedays Sun 24-Feb-13 21:26:29

HI pink fizz hope you can join us soon smile

Hi squid pull up a chair.... there is a fab 40 thread... it's very busy!!(i cant keep up!!)
I have 2 DDs 25 and 22 and a DGD 1.5 also just found out DD1 is expecting in november.
We wern't trying in fact i'd been told it would not happen without help HA it did. HUGE shock! it's DH 1st and he is SOOO over the moon i can't help but be happy.
Having had my first 2 in my late teens it feels like the first time again.

hi expat always read your posts! a wize woman, & cycle you seem to be coping so well! (i lurk on fab 40)

MinkyWinky Sun 24-Feb-13 21:57:28

Hi LottieL! It's sounds like you're only a week behind me. You're not the only one who's scared. Are you worried about anything in particular or just generally? We're here to hand holdgrin

Sounds like a few of us have scans this week. Fingers crossed for everyone.

cyclecamper Sun 24-Feb-13 22:05:43

Thanks Rosie! Coping is kind of what I do - I've been a nanny for 22 years and I think you just get into the habit of being the person who gets on with what needs doing, something that has continued with having a (lovely) husband who suffers from depression and anxiety as well as serious asthma. Mind you, today I have been feeling rubbish all day and have barely moved from the sofa!

Hi squidwoman - haven't had anyone say anything other than supportive things about my age (although my dr has told me that I'm an 'elderly lady' - bless her grin). That maybe being in London and that most of the women I work for have had children at my age or later, but I don't think it is the big deal that it used to be.

Hi Lottielloyd and pinkfizz

soupmaker Sun 24-Feb-13 22:20:21

Hello squid. No-one has so much as raised an eyebrow at my age. Not even the health professionals. They all seem very relaxed about it.

I was really nervous about the NT scan too and was convinced that the screening would result in me being very high risk because of my age. But the results came back as low risk. I know it's no guarantee but was amazed.

Keeping everything crossed for us all.

ExpatAl Mon 25-Feb-13 13:53:12

Hi there Squid and Pink - good to have more maturable pregnant woomen as my MW says. Every time she sees me she says formidable and claps her hands. I love her even though I understand only about two words in ten.

Squidwoman Mon 25-Feb-13 19:32:17

I like the sound of being maturable. And actually I quite like the idea of doing it again with the benefit of experience of 3 DCs but a huge gap (9 years) to make it feel like starting again. It is DPs first so all new to him!

rosiedays Mon 25-Feb-13 20:11:08

when i went for my booking appointment and sugested to the MW my age might be a concern she laughed! 40 is the new 30 she said followed by loads of lovely comments about how young i look!!

squid i have a 22 year age gap!!! think this must be some sort of record!

meeting my parents for lunch tomorrow... it's going to be very dificult. they do NOT approve! hayho not like i did it on purpose LOL. i think they thought i'd finally stoped letting them down and embarrising them. I had my first at 18 whilst still at V expensive convent girls school!! OOPS. went on to have the first divorce in family history and topped it all a couple of years ago by getting married to my wonderfull DH on the beach in egypt without telling anyone! (12 years younger than me and MUSLIM (= terrorist to her!!) my mother has already started making comments re baby colour and what religious difficulties there might be!!! she took my daughter to the priest the first time i let her out on her own with her to have her baptised (and save her from the fires of hell!)
it's going to be a LONG day. x

Sammi7169 Wed 27-Feb-13 05:04:36

wow, great tosee so many other similar aged mums and mtb. Am 42 and 38 weeks pg with our first. Will look up the fab 40 post

cyclecamper Wed 27-Feb-13 10:28:40

Hi Rosie. How did the lunch with your parents go? I think my husband might break off all contact with my parents if they got the baby baptised! Fortunately they are a different flavour of religious (evangelical free), so do adult full submersion baptism. I have probably been a disappointment to them (dropped out of nursing; dropped out of uni; never finished anything, ever; married a divorced buddist/atheist/Quaker) but they have mostly kept it to themselves, possibly because I'm happy anyway. My sister did it properly: Qualified as a teacher, married at 20, got 5 children who she home educates and takes to church twice on Sundays! That is possibly why I get let off doing it right!

Waves to sammi and everyone.

MinkyWinky Wed 27-Feb-13 10:52:25

Hello! Happy to report back that I'm having a honey day grin. Scan this morning showed a wriggling sprout with a heartbeat and everything doing what it should be - 8 weeks 5 days!

Squid - hope your scan goes well today! And yours too tomorrow, ExpatAl

cyclecamper Wed 27-Feb-13 10:55:05

Great news Minky smile

Good luck to Squid and ExpatAl

ExpatAl Wed 27-Feb-13 11:08:33

Brilliant news Minky! So happy for you.
Fingers crossed for you Squid and for me tomorrow. Can't really think of anything else at the moment. Work is suffering badly.

soupmaker Wed 27-Feb-13 11:31:26

Woo hoo Minky. That's made my day. grin

MinkyWinky Wed 27-Feb-13 12:02:59

Thank you! It's made my day too grin

rosiedays Wed 27-Feb-13 14:17:31

Hi all,
Fab news minky grin honey days are great! fingers (and legs) crossed for squid and expat hoping for 2 more honey days
Lunch was...... lets just say we survived. skirted round the elephant in the room and were all very polite! (just 1 comment re age and not having downs tests done)
also seem to be over the worst of the icki sicki bit grinand feel like a human again, hope that gives hope to those still suffering thanks

Squidwoman Wed 27-Feb-13 17:48:09

Happy day for me too! Scan was great and with bloods took my risk from 1 in 63 to 1 in 1127 which puts my risk on a par with (as Prof Nikolaides said) a promiscuous 15 year old grin. The bean is bigger than I thought making me 12+6 instead of 12+0 so due Sept 5th. Better be born in Sept for school year reasons unlike my DD (Aug 27th- she was due Sept 5th too!).
We celebrated with a lovely lunch at Hawksmore in Picadilly (great steak- lots of iron!!).
We're telling the other three DCs this evening before anyone else.

Good luck to all the rest and well done for those with good scan news too!!

rosiedays Wed 27-Feb-13 17:54:48

grin thats great news. bet your others will be sooo excited! enjoy your honey day.

MinkyWinky Wed 27-Feb-13 19:25:11

Great news Squid! Another honey day:-)

soupmaker Wed 27-Feb-13 19:43:24

That's so great Squid. I love a good steak too. smile

ExpatAl Thu 28-Feb-13 08:49:03

Great news Squid! smile. Here's hoping that luck comes in threes!

rosiedays Thu 28-Feb-13 09:23:08

is your scan today expat?

this thread has been SO possitive the last few days i don't want to bring it down but....
can i ask whet you ladies think re down's testing? have you / are you having it? how did getting results make you feel?
i didn't have any extra test done as i would not have terminated pregnancy, I worry of course but don't think a number would change the amount i worry less? am i right that you don't get a yes or no just a % risk?
My bloody mother has set my head off! she sayes i'm wrong and need to know to prepair.
to me downs is only 1 thing that could happen, there are so many things that can't be tested for.... i will love my baby no matter what.

ExpatAl Thu 28-Feb-13 09:38:58

Yes my NT scan is today and will have bloods taken at the same time. If the results that come back are terrible I might think about going further with testing but not to to test for downs. A LONG time ago I used to have visit homes for downs teens and they were nothing but happy positive experiences. I have no doubt a downs child can lead a happy life.

ExpatAl Thu 28-Feb-13 09:41:50

I should add that these are highly individual decisions and the theory is way different than the practice so in reality I don't know what my reaction would be until it happens.

soupmaker Thu 28-Feb-13 09:54:09

I had screening this time round.

When I had DD it wasn't offered with a scan, just a blood test. I decided against as I was advised that my age at the time would result in a high risk result.

I was amazed to get a result of low risk with the screening this time. No percentage was given, just told low risk.

I just take the view that there is no guarantee that all will be well no matter what tests or screening you have.

I agree it is very much a personal decision what you decide to do. You should have a chat with your MW or consultant so you can make informed choices.

LottieH Thu 28-Feb-13 10:14:02

Expatal totally agree with you re Downs children - they are so loving and great to have around. My friend's brother has Down's and is great. He's my age (44) but still loves children's stories & colouring etc and is great with our children. His mum was 32 when she was born. I'm 44 and have been given a low risk result but even if it had been high I wouldn't terminate.

MinkyWinky Thu 28-Feb-13 10:18:48

rosie We've decided that we will have the scan and bloods, but if we're high risk, won't take any further tests. This is a much wanted baby and we have decided if it is high risk, we still won't terminate.

I should point out that when I got pregnant the first two times (first time trying in both cases) that we'd agreed the opposite. Nothing like two miscarriages, trying for over a year and the biological clock ticking to make you rethink things. As expat said, it's a very individual decision.

Good luck today expat

feetheart Thu 28-Feb-13 10:31:24

Just a fleeting visit from someone who is much further down the line - I was 40 and 43 when I had DC who are now 10 and 7.

It is knackering and wears you out completely BUT it does keep you young - lots of people were really shock when they found out that my 'big birthday' last year was 50 not 40 grin

Life does change completely but I wouldn't swap it for the world.
Huge congratulations to all of you, enjoy the pregnancy as much as you can and savour every single mad second of it when they turn up thanks

LottieH Thu 28-Feb-13 10:39:12

Squidwoman - great re your results. Mine came out similar. Have you got brave & started telling people your happy news yet?

MinkyWinky - lovely news for you too. Bet you're delighted! I had a miscarriage just before my 12w scan and then had to have an early scan to check all the placenta etc had come away - all v upsetting. Then at the scan they found another baby in there. We simply couldn't believe it & I sat up & hugged the sonographer. She must have thought I was a right weirdo but I couldn't help myself!

Waves to Sammi and feetheart. X

Rosiedays your family sound hysterical and just like mine. I disgraced myself by getting pregnant before being married. My father just presumed I would automatically get married within a few months. DH's family similarly conservative and the funniest thing is that his uncle has recently come out & they're all talking about him as if he has leprosy. Us younger generation just think good on him. But shock of shocks to DH's mother, his boyfriend is Asian! They are just so unbelievably racist, homophobic and judgmental so can sympathise completely! Luckily you to have found a flat with a veg patch - that would be my dream!

Littlepink keeping everything crossed that it will happen very soon. Took us around 6m (but we weren't very active). X

LottieLloyd congrats from a fellow Lottie!

rosiedays Thu 28-Feb-13 10:50:48

thanks Ladies thanks

hope you have a honey day expat
not getting tests was a personal decision and i stand by it (right for me). unfortunatly my mother has always been able to undermine my self confidence. my mothers ideas her her's and i don't have to agree!!! will stop beating my self up and enjoy not feeling sick grin

ExpatAl Thu 28-Feb-13 10:55:04

Yes stand strong rosie. I must say I debated whether to go ahead with tests or not but it's a good excuse to see the baby!

rosiedays Thu 28-Feb-13 11:10:14

LOL expat enjoy your visit.

My 20 week scan is a week today.... 1/2 way!!(or more confused ) the time is flying by. I'm sure pregnancy messes with perceptions of time.!! hours drag, days fly by. 20 weeks till baby seems no time at all, 4 weeks till house move seems like forever (oh the luxury of a bath!!!)
having a duvet day today smile

cyclecamper Thu 28-Feb-13 16:25:44

I know what you mean about messed up time rosie. I can't work out what day it is, and whole morning vanish but some things seem to take ages!

I didn't have any tests for Downs, partly because I found out too late for some and I wouldn't do anything about it if I knew, except worry a bit more. I have also worked with people with various learning difficulties and my b-i-l's nephew has Downs and knowing those people has always been a positive thing for me. (Also, since my step son has Aspbergers, I am rather more worried about that turning up, anyway!)

Lots of positive test news!

Squidwoman Thu 28-Feb-13 17:45:54

Hope your scan went well Expat

Told my kids last night, then my mum, sister, DP's parents and siblings. Very tiring! Then boss today- went better than I thought. Another hurdle passed...

Kids are in a flurry of coming up with ridiculous names grin

cyclecamper Thu 28-Feb-13 18:38:04

squid My stepson has Nigerian friends and came up with some wonderful suggestions! Ntobe and so on. I did point out that I'm very likely to have a ginger baby who might struggle with such a choice grin.

ExpatAl Thu 28-Feb-13 19:16:44

Scan was great. I got very tearful when I saw little Splodges heartbeat. Nuchal fold was 1.1 and baby is measuring a few days ahead. Very very happy. smile

ExpatAl Thu 28-Feb-13 19:19:17

Lottie just read about your incredible experience. How amazing to have another baby in there. Your emotions must have been all over the place! Incredible!

rosiedays Thu 28-Feb-13 21:59:00

Wow lottie thats amazing! our post must have crossed before. what an emotional rollercoster you have been on brew

great news expat flowers

MinkyWinky Fri 01-Mar-13 09:39:31

Congratulations Expat. Good to hear that your scan went well grin

Wow Lottie, what an amazing story - and one with a happy outcome!

rosiedays Wed 06-Mar-13 09:08:44

Hello Ladies, how are you all? It's been very quiet on here this week.

I have my 20 week scan tomorrow. confused
I can really feel baby wriggeling now and am actually starting to enjoy being PG, looking forward to happy times ahead. I'm feeling so much better physicly. I've not been sick for days and have a sudden burst of energy smile( I've packed and cleaned the flat ready for the move!! )

to those still suffering brew biscuitthere is hope.smile

praying tomorrow is a honey day. x

MinkyWinky Wed 06-Mar-13 11:37:28

Hello rosie! Good luck with your scan tomorrow. Lovely to hear that you can feel your baby wriggling grin.

I'm still in the alternatively feeling sick then starving stage. At least it's an indication that I'm actually pregnant... I'm glad your sickness is going - you're definitely giving me hope!

I've made my booking in appointment for next week and hopefully in a couple of weeks I'll get my 12 week scan. I think I'll be a lot happier once I've seen sprout again - assuming s/he is still growing etc and s/he should be grin

Fingers crossed for a honey day tomorrow. x

MinkyWinky Fri 08-Mar-13 09:26:28

Hi rosie, how did your scan go?

rosiedays Mon 11-Mar-13 12:49:12

Hi minky and all,

Scan on thursday was great. everything in right place and working the way it should. I was so relieved. next goal is to get to 26 weeks.
also found out she's a girl. smile first thought..... thank god i don't have to go through whole Cercumsition mutalation thing!!! my good friend is still reduced to tears 4 years on when ever the topic comes up!! (her DS was done in a back room in a mosque in Cairo) also rules out all the really silly names DH has suggested.
then the disapointment of never having a son hit and i booed for a while. DH just said, 'can we try again????' I'm 43 FGS. this Pg was totally unplanned.....there will be NO more trying again!!! confused

how is everyone?

MinkyWinky Mon 11-Mar-13 13:55:32

Ooooo, congratulations rosie. Glad she's great (and doesn't need to be circumsised).

Still feeling sick here, but I just keep reminding myself it's a good thing grin

cyclecamper Mon 11-Mar-13 14:07:04

Hi Rosie. Glad the scan was good. How lovely to have a girl smile. I can understand not wanting to have a circumcision - I'm so glad my husband isn't of that idea. I once looked after a little boy that had had a bad one and was never going to be able to do the boy thing of comparing sad. Although I have also looked after lots that were fine, I don't think I could bring myself to take the risk.

I'm ok, got a MW appointment tomorrow, but I'm pretty sure everything is fine. Getting fat and nearly killed myself cycling 5 miles yesterday, which was a bit depressing: my commute used to be 9 miles each way over Streatham/Brixton Hill - 5 flat miles should be a doddle confused. Oh well.

rosiedays Mon 11-Mar-13 14:11:11

Minky how far along are you now? the feeling/ being sick part was awful so brewthanks from me. I never thought is was going to end.... but it has. I don't know how i would have coped with 2 other DC to look after!

rosiedays Mon 11-Mar-13 14:29:01

Hi Cycle need i remind you your 24(?) week pregnant.... a 5 mile ride through London hmm hats off to you! we went for 2 really long (and muddy) walks this weekend.... today i'm not getting off the bed! glad to hear your doing so well. smile

the cercumcision was a done deal. DH could not see what all the fuss was about... to him (and all other muslims i've met) it's just like getting there jabs doneconfused I had already found a very nice (clean) private clinic here as i was not going to wait till he was 3 months and we go back to Egypt.
Now i just need to worry about him trying to Kill a sheep in the back garden!!! LOL.

ExpatAl Tue 12-Mar-13 10:06:25

It could be perfect timing rosie. I was thinking of cooking roast lamb this weekend.
And how lovely you're having a girl smile
Everything going well with me. I've picked up a tummy bug so feeling a bit sorry for myself.

MinkyWinky Tue 12-Mar-13 10:06:32

11 weeks tomorrow, so hoping that I'm heading for the non-sick, feeling glowy and energetic part of the pregnancy very soon grin

cycle I'm impressed that you're cycling. Pilates is the most energetic thing I'm getting up to at the moment.

LOL at the sheep killing in the back garden...

rosiedays Tue 12-Mar-13 15:31:07

hang on in there Minky do you have your scan next week??
expat thanks for the tummy bug.

I was very brave and went to a Mums and Bumps coffee meet today! never been to anything like it before thought they were for odd people but as i know No-one here, i'm home on my own all day and starting to crave adult company i thought i'd give it a go. It was ok. only 3 of us turned up but it was really nice to sit, chat and have a good coffee.

Stangirl Tue 12-Mar-13 17:25:03

Just wanted to wish you all well. I had DC1 at 41 and DC2 at 42. I'm now 44 and knackered but happy.

MinkyWinky Wed 13-Mar-13 16:24:13

Still waiting for the date of the scan... apparently they're very busy and often only give you a day's notice. Not great if you work and are trying to keep it quiet!!

Glad Mums & Bumps was fun (if only a very select group).

Thanks Stan, always great to hear from people who've been through it!

soupmaker Wed 13-Mar-13 16:49:35

Hello all. I had my 20 week scan this week. All fine. Can hardly believe we've got to this point. DD was told the news and nearly burst with excitement. Wishing you all well.

MinkyWinky Thu 14-Mar-13 10:16:52

Great news soupmaker grin

rosiedays Tue 19-Mar-13 10:32:23

Hi All, how is everyone??
soupmaker thats great news. As i see it 'every day is one day closer' smile
minky you got your scan date yet?
AFM.... all is good, (dont want to jinx things but think i've found my Bloom grin) i'm full of energy, find eveything funny (laughed for 10 mins at a lady walking her little dog across the road when it decided to Poo!!!) I'm all packed for the move (only 8 days to go) DH is being wonderful i really didn't realise just how much he wanted a child.
the first tri was really hard but i hope this gives hope to all those still suffering. hang on in there it does get better. thanks

cyclecamper Tue 19-Mar-13 11:28:02

Hi Rosie, glad it's going so well smile.

I have the glucose tolerance test tomorrow, so fingers crossed.
My baby seems to have become very active this week, which is nice, although I could do without the rib pain/back ache/achy bump that are keeping me awake. I'm on a mission to find some way of sitting or lying comfortably - I've invested in some V pillows and a gym ball, but nothing seems to work for long.

Hope you are all doing ok. smile

ExpatAl Tue 19-Mar-13 12:40:06

Hello everyone. Glad everyone is doing well. I'm just over 15 weeks and would like to fast forward through the next 10 weeks because every day seems like a month. I had my first cervix check last week and all is good so hoping it stays that way.

MinkyWinky Wed 20-Mar-13 09:23:44

Hello! Sounds like you're all doing well grin. I'm still waiting for a scan date and hit 12 weeks today. The midwife said in passing that I may not get one as they're really booked up... then said she'd fax my forms over. I'm going to ring them today to ask if they know anything. In the meantime, I've found a local private clinic which will do a combined test for me, if the NHS fails to come through.

rosiedays Wed 20-Mar-13 10:36:18

minky thats awful. you have the right to your scan!! busy or not your no less important than anyone else. stand your ground you shouldn't have to go private.
sad cycle sorry to hear your having a tough time. hope things get better soon. I've started to get syatica type pain in my right hip, and cant lie on my left side as it feels like my bump skin is streching confused I'm getting new pillows next week (for my new bed grin) and am going to use the old ones to make some wedges. I so want to go home for a visit but can't chance the 4 hour drive.
(petrified i'd get stuck 1/2 way on M25 unable to go any further due to pain!!!)
DH also does not want me to go alone. so hoping he will offer to drive down over Easter.
expat my days are dragging too.... I set myself goals to get too.. 12 weeks, 20 weeks (that was LONG!!) now 26 weeks... then 32 weeks. also not thinking of Due date.... just due month.. when asked i say baby is due in july.

Dh is still finding the strangest names ever!! (and asking where he can get the sheep!!) he's changing so much, he's 30 and only just left his beach boy life in Egypt behind for an office job in UK. he's so happy about the baby, i had no idea how much the thought of never having a child was hurting him. (i've never felt broody, had my 1st 2 so young) making him so happy keeps me going. smile

ExpatAl Wed 20-Mar-13 12:18:30

Lovely that your dh is so happy about the baby rosie. I like it when men don't act cool about it.

Minky, I can't believe they might not fit you in for a scan. Outrageous that you might have to fork out for one. Hope the NHS comes through.

Good luck with the test Cyclecamper.

MinkyWinky Wed 20-Mar-13 13:04:57

Hello! Well they called me today (yay!) to tell me they've fitted me in for a scan. Unfortunately it's in the middle of a working day and apparently the only one available. While my office will be great when I tell them I'm pregnant, I haven't yet. The guidance is also that maternity appointments should be made at the beginning/end of the day, so middle of the day appointments (especially on short notice) are a nightmare - and this one clashed with two meetings that I can't rearrange/miss without raising a lot of questions I don't want to have to answer at the moment. It doesn't help that I work an hour away from home (and hour and a half from the hospital), so I can't just nip over there. I think for my own sanity (and convenience) this is one scan I'm going to do privately. Not ideal sad

Hopefully the NHS will give me more notice about the 20 week one grin

Rosie - I love that you DH is so excited about your baby! You definitely need to thwart the sheep - I'm sure you can make up some UK restriction on who can buy/sell sheep grin

Lottielloyd Fri 10-May-13 12:48:43

I'm now 19 weeks! Had a few scares but hopefully everything will be ok. After 3 (older) boys, I'm having a daughter. Whole new ball gave for me. Been used to football and weestling for the last 20 years. Never even changed a girls nappy!
How are you all?

rosiedays Fri 10-May-13 14:27:33

Hi Lottie grin in the pink! oh you will have so much fun with a daughter.
Bump and i are doing really well, smile nearly 30 weeks now shock DD1 came at 34 weeks so mentally getting ready whilst not wanting to presume she will be early as it will make from 34 to 40 a very LONG wait.
Hi minkie soup and expat would love to know how you all are.

ExpatAl Fri 10-May-13 17:17:49

Hello girls! Good to hear it's going well with you both. We don't know what we're having but I have a feeling it's a girl - no idea why. I will be 23 weeks tomorrow and haven't had any problems apart from occasional terrible heartburn - usually self inflicted though. Am loving the movements, they're getting stronger all the time smile

Lottielloyd Tue 14-May-13 10:45:17

Hhhmm I'm not sure how to bring up girls! Can't stand all that pink stuff!! I've already decided she is going to be a "Tom boy!"
Hopefully she will like football.
Got my 20 week scan tomorrow..

MinkyWinky Tue 14-May-13 13:01:34

Hello! Lovely to hear everything is going well for you all.

I'm 20 weeks tomorrow and had my anomaly scan yesterday. All is well. The baby wasn't being particularly co-operative, but they managed to take all the measurements/pictures they needed after I spent 5 mins walking and jogging up and down to make him/her move in the right direction. Unfortunately they couldn't tell us what sex it is, as s/he had got fed up with being poked around and wouldn't co-operate grin

Good luck tomorrow Lottie

Lottielloyd Tue 14-May-13 21:52:19

Great to hear all is well with your scan minkywinky. Would you have liked to find out the sex?
I have to go on my own as my oh is working away. Bit scared but hopefully everything will be ok.
Will update tomorrow

dylan1997 Wed 15-May-13 04:03:11

hi..I am 44 and might be pregnant..kind of afraid to know for sure. and if I am im 5 or 6 months. .and yes I am just thinking I might be now

rosiedays Wed 15-May-13 09:10:52

minky glad all good with scan thanks Will you have another to find out the sex or wait for a surprise now? I didn't want to know but DH did so we found out, very glad we did as i really thought she was and wanted a boy. I found 20 week scan SO reasuring.
lottie hope all goes well well today. dont worry about bringing up a little girl, honestly there great, My 2 are chalk and cheese, 1 is a propper girly girl the other doesn't and never has owned a skirt!! IMO little girls are so much easer than boys.
Hi Dylan WHAT!! 5 /6 months and not POAS yet?? (did you mean weeks!!!) Please get checked out. is it your first? are you in the UK?
expat heart burn is a nightmare... gaviscon is your friend!!! movements are amazing, i can see my whole bump move now and she wriggles a lot!
Feeling very proud of being very organised. i have everything i'll need and it's all neat and tidy in her new draws (amazing how much stuff i've been given) hospital bag packed. refusing to buy pretty dresses untill she arrives as i want to see her first. DH is v dark brown (Egyptian) and i'm lilly white. I wonder who she'll take after.

MinkyWinky Wed 15-May-13 12:33:20

After a long debate with my DH we decide we would like to know, mainly because i like to plan and would have decorated the nursery accordingly grin. The sonographer did say that by what she could see it was more likely to be a girl, but she couldn't say for sure... Look like I'll be going for greens and yellows or may be lilacs/purples!

Wow Dylan 5-6 months. Are you going to test to find out for sure?

rosie smile at you being so organised. It will be exciting to see her!

ExpatAl Wed 15-May-13 13:53:34

Oh Rosie, she'll look gorgeous. Egyptians have beautiful bone structure.
I'm very impressed at you being so organised and will take a leaf out of your book.

Dylan, pee on a stick! We need to know!

Minky, great to hear all is going well with you.

Us old birds aren't doing too badly. grin

cheznic Wed 22-May-13 12:37:54

Hi All, and congrats to everyone.. I am new on here and have found out I am pregnant at 44years old, this baby wasnt planned and I am also scared to bits with all these tests etc..
I am roughly between 8 and 9 weeks pregnant whoop whoop, still feel ruff now and again, but better than i did a couple of weeks ago as I had a bladder infection (painful) and felt so sick and tired..

MinkyWinky Thu 23-May-13 13:44:24

Hi cheznic. Congratulations! Hang on in there. I felt dreadful up until week 12 then all the nausea, hunger and tiredness tailed off.

I know what you mean about the tests. I was especially worried about the combined test results, but I've been classified as low risk, which was a huge weight off my mind. So don't panic, it will probably all be fine smile

cheznic Thu 23-May-13 13:48:54

Thanks Minkywinky it sure does help, I have my first scan on 3rd june.

Lottielloyd Mon 27-May-13 09:57:35

How is everyone? I'm getting fed up already!! I'm not great at being pregnant!! Roll on October!!

MinkyWinky Mon 27-May-13 20:47:19

Hi Lottie, how did your scan go?

I'm ok. I have my first consultant appointment tomorrow. Not sure what to expect... Are you seeing one?

Surprisingly, I have moments when I don't feel pregnant... Usually when I'm in bed and not moving... The achey back first thing in the morning is annoying though.

Lottielloyd Mon 27-May-13 22:33:44

Scan went really well. She's measuring as she should and all is looking perfect. Which is a relief as we have had a few scares. Yes I'm under consultant care. I queried having a c section because of my age. He said we don't treat you different because you are older!! He said you can have a natural birth. Gulp!!

MinkyWinky Tue 28-May-13 10:32:37

Great news that the scan went well and interesting to hear what the consultant says this after, especially bearing in mind what's yours has said. Saying that if they don't treat us any differently because of our age, why the mandatory consultant care smile

Lottielloyd Tue 28-May-13 14:37:33

Even he asked why I was there! I said I don't know!!

MinkyWinky Tue 28-May-13 16:50:28


My consultant was very nice (though he looked very young, which means I am getting oldsmile). He's given me low dose aspirin to take every day to reduce the risk of pre-eclampsia. Also booked me in for 36 weeks to discuss birth plan and do the next check. They will induce at 40 weeks. Otherwise everything was fine!

Lottielloyd Tue 28-May-13 19:21:01

I didn't know aspirin was used as a precaution for pre eclampsia. Maybe I should ask about this.

rosiedays Wed 29-May-13 08:53:49

Hi Everyone, smile
Lotty glad scan went well, why are you feeling fed up? sad Is it that still so long to go feeling?? I was under consultant untill 20 weeks, due to very underactive thyroid, (which is under controle now) I to am Px asprin, next due to see consultant at 38 weeks, and have sweeps booked week 38 and 39.

hi chez grin congratulations. unplanned babys are extra special gifts flowers how are you feeling? do you have othe DC?

Minky how far along are you now? i still have moments when i forget, but they don't last long! heart burn and huge bump and wriggeling baby see to that!

expat you still around?? not seen you post fro a while. hope your Ok.

Me... 32+ weeks now, DD1 was born at 34 weeks which is a bit scary. I feel really well and other than heart burn (if heart burn = hair I'm having a baby monkey!!!) and total baby brain, no real issues. t DH is being just amazing, although some cultural issues re how to look after a baby are raising their head. My MIL is great, i love her to bits HOWEVER..... her parenting of a young baby ideas are strange. think finger dipped in honey for baby to suck every morning. confused DSiL has also said she wants to try breast feeding baby when we go to egypt???? she's not even pregnant!!! (will deal with that one at the time!!!)

MinkyWinky Wed 29-May-13 13:45:25

Hello rosie, I'm 22 weeks today smile. Baby's wriggling away today!

Interesting that you were prescribed aspirin too (I thought it might be due to family history of High blood pressure - although none in pregnancy).

I don't envy you the heartburn. I got it when i was on holiday a couple of weeks ago when I drank too many cold/sweet drinks! Gaviscon became my best friend.

Very funny to hear about the cultural differences. grin at your MIL trying to breastfeeding your baby.

rosiedays Wed 29-May-13 14:15:49

minky the aspirin is to help the placenta I think. Us oldies apparently have higher risk of pre aclampcia and other placenta issues. My worry is about bleeding during birth or if emergency section is needed.
I love the wriggles grin so glad I got to feel them again, I'd completely forgotten what they felt like. Will miss them when she's not in there anymore. X

rosiedays Wed 29-May-13 14:16:53

minky the aspirin is to help the placenta I think. Us oldies apparently have higher risk of pre aclampcia and other placenta issues. My worry is about bleeding during birth or if emergency section is needed.
I love the wriggles grin so glad I got to feel them again, I'd completely forgotten what they felt like. Will miss them when she's not in there anymore. X

Missnesss Thu 30-May-13 09:01:39

hi all, just turned 44, fantastic new partner of 10 months afterc a miserable 18 year marriage to a drunk, didn't think I wanted more children as my ds are 15 and 17, his ds 18 next week. When I was looking at contraception discovered on net I had something like .5 % chance conceiving and as I don't like patches or pills took patch after a couple if months in march and decided to use ovulation sticks. Them weirdly I decided if I couldn't have a baby I wanted one! Hadn't realised I was so old egg wise and how urgent if it was if I was to change my mind could be too late in a years time, so this month I used sticks to try, 6 dpo I have a very faint pos, aching feeling around womb, do you think I could actually be pregnant?

cheznic Thu 30-May-13 10:59:33

Hi rosiedays,

Feeling ruff still, and looking like I have put on loads of weight in the last 2 weeks, i look 6 months pregnant already lol.. Not a good look..
I havent had my DC yet, got my dating scan on Monday 3rd June.

Congratulations all others with their Bumps..

cheznic Thu 30-May-13 11:03:16

If you have a pos result regardless of how faint it is, it is a positive result and your are pregant.. Hopefully the faint line could mean test done to early..
Hopefully it will turn out all good Missnesss and congrats on your pos.

cheznic Thu 30-May-13 11:18:49

Hi can anyone explain to me what the abrevations mean on these threads, I know Dh means Husband.

4boysthatilove Thu 30-May-13 11:47:32

Hi, lovely to find this thread smile I am 46 and found out 4 weeks ago I was 22 weeks pregnant, I had absolutely no idea which considering I already have 4 boys is quite unbelievable I know! Back in March I had a big bleed which I took to be a miscarriage as it dragged on for about a month, once it stopped I took a pregnancy test just in case and wow it was positive! Convinced myself it was left over hormones until I felt movement. I was on the pill and given mine and DH's ages (he is 51) feel like this pregnancy is nothing short of a miracle. Had a scan and all is well, its another little boy and I am due 2 September. Most people except MIL have been really lovely in their reactions which is nice. There never was any question of not proceeding with the pregnancy if all had been well, just find myself having to adjust my life again - my boys are 19, 14, 6 and 4 and my 4 year old is due to start school in September. Finding it physically a lot more tiring, never have had any morning sickness but at 6 months I feel like I did at 8 months with my last 2 boys. How is everyone else doing??

cyclecamper Thu 30-May-13 12:26:49

Congratulations 4boys and Missnesss!

cheznic most of the abbreviations are explained in Acronyms which you can find near the top of the page, just under where it says 'Mumsnet Talk'.

LottieH Thu 30-May-13 13:36:22

so many congrats 4boys!! Absolutely loved your post! I haven't been on this thread for ages but due not long before you in mid August. similar story to you - am 44, also have 4 children, also had a bleed which I was told was a miscarriage (just before 12w) & also have a very negative MIL! am so happy for you. you just can never tell what's round the corner in life & I never get bored of stories like yours! hope everyone else is well. I'm feeling lots of kicking and now the morning sickness nearly gone am thoroughly enjoying being pregnant. looking forward to reading more of your all your happy stories. x x

MtbMagic Thu 30-May-13 17:19:41

Me, Me too!! Newbie to mn also... I'm 44 and pregnant with my 4th... I'm 40 + 6 and terrified about a possible induction! I had all my others 8, 6, 3 at home and really wanted this one at home as well. Fingers crossed xxx

I've never had any comments about age, or none that I've noticed. My partner is even more ancient than I am - 65!! His work, all male engineers, are very bemused that he could be retiring and taking paternity leave at the same time! Mind you they are also bemused he cycles to work (24 miles there and back) 3 days a week.

Have a 2nd sweep tomorrow. Am keeping everything crossed this will work... getting stressed about the hospital. Even the logistics of what to do with the other 3 (we've recently moved and have no one to help us!).

LottieH Thu 30-May-13 17:28:48

good luck mtbmagic & hope it all goes well and keep us updated. So have you definitely got to stay in hospital now? I totally agree with you re home births - our 4th was born at home & such a lovely experience but everyone's telling me this one should b born in hospital. Grrr. Hope you manage to find some kind if help looking after the rest of the family.

MtbMagic Fri 31-May-13 07:56:35

Thanks LottieH. Hopefully hospital not a done deal. Have another week to go.... Sweep this afternoon (with 3 kids in toe : yikes).

soupmaker Fri 31-May-13 09:53:44

Hello everyone. Now at 31 weeks. Feeling so knackered and huge. Am sure I wasn't this big with DD. Been booked in for sweep at 39 weeks. Eeek. Hope baby decides to go early as don't fancy induction. Have found myself cleaning cupboards and washing everything and anything. Bloody nesting kicked in already. Hope everyone doing well.

rosiedays Fri 31-May-13 11:47:17

hi Everyone,
Wow some wonderful new posts!
missness I have a massive age gap (22 years) between DD2 and this LO. Never thought i'd fall again at 43 Dh wanted a baby SOOo much but i never really thouht it would happen. My BFP was a total shock. Have heard over and over on here a line is a line grin congratulations. really hope all goes well. my MW says over and over 40 is the new 30 for falling PG. and by the number of us on here with planned and unplanned BFP's i think the stats are rubbish. grin
4boys welcome... wow to get to 22 weeks without suffering!! well done you. (i suffered till about 18 weeks..) I'm sure running round after 4 boys you must be knackered. your gonig to have a lovely short Pregnancy though. how have your other DC taken the news. I totally agree All are 40+ babys are little miricals. flowers
mtb Hi, 40+6!! looks like you'll be graduating very soon. there is a graduation thread from the Fab 40+ thread with some lovely mums on. My trust won't let me go over 40 weeks, i too really dont want to be induced. (just seems wrong to me) Would really love a home birth but DH won't hear of it. we lived in less developed countries for a long time and he can't see why i wouldn't use the fantastic health care we have available in the UK.
chez flowers honestly it will pass, really hope you start to feel better soon. BIN the scales... they will bring nothing but misery! I havn't weighed myself since BFP and don't plan too. at your stage it's probably a lot of bloating. xxx
Hey lotty glad you feeling better. baby kicks are awsome, i'd totally forgotten how they felt (it has been 22 years!!) it's my DM who is really negative about this baby, she has just told me she has booked a holiday to the US for the whole of the month i'm due! aparently because i said i wouldn't need her at the birth. Oh well.....
Hisoup please pass some nesting vibes my way, mine seem to vanished and i really need to clean the kitchen cuboards and floor. my energy levels are at about 0.

AFM... well LO had a very strange day on wednesday... she was going crazy kicking and wriggeling ALL day with some really violent movements. also had tightenings in lower abdo, called MW and left message, she never got back to me so at 5.30 called assessment unit and went in for a quick check. Heart beat was fine and tightening were showing on monitor but cervix totally closed so sent home. I have thrush and UTI. Bump was mesuring small so went for a growth scan yesterday and all is good. she is lying transvirse, weighs aprox 4lb and is bang in middle of growth chart. I'm so glad i went. no-one made me feel silly for going. just need to get this LO to turn! really want a natural birth.

cheznic Mon 03-Jun-13 14:00:40

Hi rosiedays

I haven't been on the scales I daren't lol.
But tummy is very bloated lol.
Had scan today 10 weeks pregnant due 31st dec 2013.
Hope your doing well rosiedays and all the other amazing mums to be

cheznic Mon 03-Jun-13 14:03:37

Bless rosiedays
Keeping fingers crossed your baby girl turns bless x

Aggy1969 Mon 17-Jun-13 08:12:44

I'm new here and have just come across this wonderful thread. Nce to know I'm not alone. I'm 44 and 18 weeks pregnant. I've just come back to the UK and so am behind on all tests and screenings etc. at the moment I'm debating whether to have a blood test for downs. Haven't had a NT scan so wondering what the blood test alone can tell me. Will it just make me panic more? I have a nephew with downs who is amazing so I would never have terminated but unsure whether to have a heads up of a problem. Unsure what to expect from everything. This is my first and unexpected, but so far I've felt fine smile

Anyhow, good luck to you all with your pregnancies.

MinkyWinky Tue 18-Jun-13 10:22:18

Hello everyone! Hello Aggy! You're about 6 weeks behind me and it's my first too smile. Re: Down's test, we chose to have the test even though I knew that we would keep going with the pregnancy regardless and I wanted to know so I had time to get my head round it, but it is very much a personal choice. I had a combined screening test, so can't help with the blood test information. You will also be due for your 20 week scan soon which can pick up if something's wrong.

How's everyone else doing? Hoping you're feeling better rosie

Lottielloyd Fri 02-Aug-13 09:41:57

How's everyone? I'm now 31 weeks.. Can't wait for the next 9 weeks to fly by! I've had enough of it now!!

MinkyWinky Sun 04-Aug-13 07:44:53

Hi Lottie! I'm at the same tags as you and am definitely starting to count down. It's just not as easy to get comfortable ny more! Have you started buying baby 'stuff'n

Lottielloyd Thu 08-Aug-13 14:00:07

Hi minkywinky
Yea we've bought the cot & a few baby gros! That's all!!
Need to get a move on really.. Have you bought anything? I'm on babycentre October birth board and they are all starting to pack their hospital bag!!!
I hope that heatwave doesn't come back, I really struggled with that heat.

ExpatAl Thu 08-Aug-13 14:27:58

Hi guys.
Rosie, how is it all now?
I'm 36 weeks now and getting both very nervous and excited. Not long to go!

neesiesue Wed 21-Aug-13 15:55:11

I just found out I am pregnant I just turned 44 I am 7 weeks pregnant and scared and happy at the same time.

MinkyWinky Thu 22-Aug-13 14:37:06

Hi neesiesue. Congratulations. I was about 7weeks too when i turned 44! Now at 34 weeks grin.

ExpatAl - how's it going, your must be nearly there now!!

ExpatAl Thu 22-Aug-13 14:42:14

Just one week to go Minkywinky. Am counting down the days. How's it going with you? I'm struggling with the heat.

Congrats neesiesue!

Meerka Thu 22-Aug-13 16:21:23


Am 44 and have just found out today that I'm pregnant, no idea how far along, husband and I had given up hope of a second after 5 years trying.

Been reading on the risks and kind of scared ...

MinkyWinky Sun 25-Aug-13 20:25:10

Wow expatal that seems to have come round really quickly. How are you feeling? I'm ok survived the heat so far... V happy that I have air con in my car.

Congratations Meerka! If you read about all the things that can go wrong you will freak yourself out completely. Just because thy can happen doesn't mean they will, try not to worry too much, I know it's hard.

Meerka Mon 26-Aug-13 19:21:42

Thank you. I guess we just have to take it day by day and try to accept whatever comes. Husband is taking the view that we both wanted a second child badly, and now the chance of having another has gone up dramatically ... a good pov I suppose.

MinkyWinky Tue 27-Aug-13 09:17:56

Meerka - sounds like a very good point of view.

I've had worries through the pregnancy based on the amount of times you're told you're at higher risk of lots of things because of your age, which have all been unfounded so far. My BP's been fine, my combined test had 'low risk' results, I haven't even been asked to have a GTT, Baby's kicking away and is in the right position (as is the placenta). I'm under consultant care due to my age and have been given low dose aspirin by my consultant as a precaution, but to date it's been a normal pregnancy. Of course, I've got my fingers crossed that it will stay that way grin. You'll be surprised how quickly day to day goes by!

F1onajb Tue 27-Aug-13 11:50:22

I'm 42 and 15 weeks pregnant!! This is my first smilesmile

Meerka Wed 28-Aug-13 09:26:38

Thank you Minky. How far along are you now?

and hi, F1onajb - exiting times isnt it! Im sure everyone tells you but .. stock up on sleep!

Best of luck to you both smile

MinkyWinky Wed 28-Aug-13 11:08:15

I'm 35 weeks today, so getting to the end grin.

Good luck to both of you smile

F1onajb Wed 28-Aug-13 12:43:15

Thanks Meerka and MinkyWinky!

I've only just stopped feeling so nauseous. It's been awful, from the moment I woke up to the moment I went to bed. Like you Meerka, I'm under consultant care and have been put on 75mg soluble aspirin a day as I'm high risk of pre-eclampsyia


Meerka Wed 28-Aug-13 18:34:51

Oh god the nausea ... very glad yours is passing, its murder isnt it. Had Hyperemisis Gravida last time, aka a hurricane of vomitting. Glad to hear yours is passing, may the rest of the preg be trouble-free!

It -is- reassuring to be under hospital care from the outset isn't it. Have you had a scan yet? When did you find out?

F1onajb Thu 29-Aug-13 14:33:11

I found out I was pregnant at 5 weeks. Yes I've had my 12 week scan .... it was amazing. Have a wonderful picture smile I have my 20 week scan 4 weeks on Monday smile

Do you have a date for your scan yet?


Meerka Thu 29-Aug-13 22:43:03

awww lovely! Hope the baby cooperates and gives you a lovely pic smile

Taking it day by day here, but if all goes well then our first scan is on 11th Sept. Seems a long way to go at the moment!

morethanpotatoprints Thu 29-Aug-13 22:55:30

Ah you lovely mature pregnant women. Wanted to send more positive thoughts your way and wish you all good luck. Was lurking but had to post as you are all so supportive of each other and really nice.

Just wanted to add that I was 37 with our dc3 and I didn't have the tests as was told it would most definitely come back high due to my age. DD is great and 9 now, it seems so bloody long ago now.

Meerka Sat 31-Aug-13 09:02:24

Thank you Morethanpotatoes - lovely post smile

angelcocker13 Mon 02-Sep-13 09:56:13

After trying for 3yrs & then going on egg donor list as I was told it was impossible for me to conceive naturally as I had started the menopause I went to see my GP on Friday afternoon as I was concerned over painful breasts & abdominal pains. She asked if I was pregnant & I said not possible, unless my names Mary, I've got to surgery under donkey power & I live in a stable as I was told it was impossible for me to have my own children. She insisted I did a urine test so she could rule out prior to other tests. So imagine my shock / surprise when she said congrats - you prob at least 12wks gone! I'm 45 & this will be my 1st. To say me & hubby are stunned is an under statement. We're both really happy but still in total shock!

Meerka Tue 03-Sep-13 19:00:31

Oh my goodness angel. Wow. Oh wow. Heh, how long will you be in shock?! weeks!

Very best of luck with it to you and your husband.

MinkyWinky Wed 04-Sep-13 15:33:18

Wow angel congratulations! What a lovely surprise grin did your dr call you Mary wink

angelcocker13 Wed 04-Sep-13 23:31:09

Thanks everyone! Still hasn't sunk in yet, suppose it won't till I see midwife & have 1st scan. Have chased up & been told I should her by end of this week or early part of next - is this normal? My Dr managed to restrain herself, but I'm sure she peeked out the window to see if I hopped on a donkey! ;) x

angelcocker13 Wed 04-Sep-13 23:32:00

& having checked the dates I reckon it's nearer to 14wks!!! smile

Lottielloyd Thu 05-Sep-13 19:21:50

Well I'm 35 weeks now! Going really fast now! Gulp

Ubermama Sat 07-Sep-13 11:24:35

Hi, I'm 44 and 7+ weeks pregnant. I have five daughters aged between 20 and 6 years old. This pregnancy wasn't planned (although we were talking about the possibility of having a child 'soon') but as it is my new partner's first we are both thrilled. I feel really well most of the time. I have the usual symptoms of sensitive sense of smell and food aversions, as well as problems sleeping and extreme tiredness and needing to pee all the time. I've always been a 'health nut' and have been extra careful with my nutrition over the past four years or so because I've been working full time and providing/caring for my family solo. I can't afford to get sick so I've invested in my health. It seems to have paid off. I'm glad to have found this thread as so many other boards about pregnancy over 40 are full of m/c stories. Lovely to read everyone's good news.

jammydonut1969 Wed 11-Sep-13 22:00:33

Can't believe I came across this thread but so very glad as it means I have real people to chat to :-) I had my beautiful son august 2012 aged 43. He has down syndrome but he's amazing and has no medical problems so extremely lucky so far. I've just found out I'm 2wks pregnant and have very mixed emotions. He/she will be my 5th! The older ones are 24, 20 and 18 and of course 1. All boys!!! Praying for a girl if I'm honest. But love my lads so a boy would be more than welcome. Scared of being judged too :-(

snowqu33n Thu 12-Sep-13 11:47:24

26 weeks and 44 years old here - congrats to everyone on the thread.

snowqu33n Thu 12-Sep-13 11:48:21

I mean 26 weeks pregnant, of course, oops

Lottielloyd Mon 02-Dec-13 22:14:16

Well my baby daughter is 8 weeks now! How is everyone?

duvetheaven Mon 02-Dec-13 23:08:47

Great to hear these positive stories. Coming up to 43 and hoping for a BFP !

MinkyWinky Sat 08-Feb-14 09:46:58

Hi Lottie! I had this thread on my watch list but missed your post. My daughter was four months old yesterday and is doing well. I could do with more sleep, but it's actually not been as bad as I thought it could be.

How are you? How's your little girl?

Mirabelle Tue 04-Mar-14 04:55:01

Hi everyone it's lovely to read your storiessmile I am so happy for you all and hopeful for everyone elsesmile. I am 44, entering my 7th week. Very nervous to b honest....I have my first ultrasound in 6 days. Fingers crossed xx

Hope u all r having a great day xx

Mirabelle xx

Frizzyhair Thu 08-May-14 23:02:26

hi all, I became pregnant at 43 naturally, had a normal pregnancy (with a few extra tests) and had a normal delivery aged 44. I also had at that time a 17 year old son (still have my son!) from a previous relationship (now 21 so my fantastic daughter is 3 yrs 5mths) on telling him I could see the main issue for him was that sex was involved! once he got over that all was fine. good luck to all x

ruthsmumkath Fri 09-May-14 13:36:50

I'm a youthful 42 and 36 weeks! So glad to see plenty others over 40! My husband seems to think I'm a geriatric!

ChicaMomma Fri 09-May-14 13:43:17

My sister who is 47 is having her second at Xmas! i honestly dont think 44 is that old in today's terms at all, it's really the equivalent of 34 in the 70s/80s! It's all about how you feel rather than a number on a birth cert. I'm 38 and having my first, i honestly did not feel ready until now. I did so much in my 20s/early 30s WRT career and travel that it would have been madness for me to start a family before now.

ExpatAl i hope it all goes well for you which i'm sure it will, it must have been so tough losing at child close to the 3rd trimester- you poor thing.

EMPS Mon 25-Aug-14 09:12:43

I am 44; 45 in January. Career girl; very successful; married, one DD aged 5 and at private school. Life sorted. Kind of keen to get pregnant again and recreate the magic of DD. Kind of horrified to find out that I am 19-days pregnant! Crikey. Cannot come to terms with it. No one else knows.

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