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2 week wait for a re-scan

(61 Posts)

Hi ladies

Sorry to bother you all again - I have been on here all weekend and your support has been amazing.

We have had a very emotional weekend where we were told we had lost our baby at a private dating scan however after visiting our local hospital and a scan yesterday at the EPU we were told that I am much earlier than I thought (5 weeks rather than 7). The EPU internally scanned me and saw a pregnancy sac, yolk and functioning blood supply - the lady said it was a normal looking 5 week pregnancy and I had the same chance of miscarriage as anyone else who is 5 weeks pregnant. I have to go back on 18th Feb for a re-scan where they should see growth and a heartbeat.

I have had some brown spotting since Sunday which I understand is common in pregnancy this early however I think we are so much more anxious than normal because of the roller coaster weekend - the brown spotting is mainly when I wipe - nothing has collected on my pad I am wearing.

I am trying very hard to be positive but am so scared and hate this feeling of being out of control. I have only managed to get through one day so far and the 18th Feb feels like a lifetime away.

My DH is being wonderful and trying to be positive even though I know he is worried - I don't want to chip away at his positivity by going on about how worried I am (not that I come in here to moan and whinge either) - I just wondered whether anyone has gone through anything similar and how you managed with the 2 weeks wait.

Thank you all so much for reading xxx

InchyInchy Tue 05-Feb-13 18:37:27

I've been there and had to wait - there is nothing that will make it any easier, just try and set smaller milestones...this weekend I'm going to go out for a nice dinner, etc.

I've had two miscarriages and they were the worst time of my life, but there is nothing you can do and the waiting is frustrating. The best advice I could give you is whinge, moan and talk about it if you are in the mood to do so, just try and not bottle all the emotion up.

I had bleeding early on in this pregnancy and had to wait for a scan, but I'm now only two days off my due date. It's hard the waiting, the whole pregnancy will be filled with waiting and truth be told it doesn't get much easier until you can feel the little baby wriggling about in there.

The time will pass and I wish you the very best.

DreamingOfTheMaldives Tue 05-Feb-13 18:40:28

I've not really been in your position before as my 2 weeks wait was just procedure and I knew what the outcome was going to be, sadly.

I guess, the only advice I can give is to keep yourself busy so you don't have time to sit and dwell on it. Try to stay positive though, your second scan sounds just as it should be. Focus on what the sonographer said - sac, yolk and good blood supply and try not to think about the private scan, which having read your other threads sounds like the sonographer was bloody incompetent!

Try not to worry (easier said than done i know) as the internal scans are much better for early pregnancies as they are able to see everything in detail so your second scan definitely sounds the most reliable.

StepfordWannabe Tue 05-Feb-13 21:01:07

You poor pet, it's an awful thing to go through. No advice on how to cope I'm afraid, looking back that week or so is just a tear-filled blur. Best of luck x

ExpatAl Tue 05-Feb-13 21:30:06

There is no magic formula for gliding through these two weeks in zen like serenity. You're going through an incredibly shitty time and I'm so sorry. Do try to keep busy as dreaming said. Your last scan sounded good so hang on to that.

springlamb Tue 05-Feb-13 21:38:22

It's a crap time and there is nothing to be done but getting through each day.

Thank heavens they re-scan today rather than rushing into stuff. I was told that I had lost my baby but retained some 'products of conception' and was rushed in to have an ERPC that same night. A month later the hospital phoned and said there may have been a mistake, could I come in IMMEDIATELY.

DS is 18 now. Stay strong, be kind to yourself, and good luck.

Thank you ladies - it means so much that you reply and makes me and DH feel less lonely.

Onto day 2 - trying to keep busy - work today and tomorrow and then busy at the weekend. The EPU said that it is quite common that woman think they are further ahead and have to do the 2 week wait - I am just keeping everything crossed that it has grown and we have a heartbeat.

The brown blood seems to have disappeared for now - that must be good??

I think I will continue to post over the next 2 weeks - it's quite therapeutic to write it down on here (if that makes sense)

Thanks again xx

ExpatAl Wed 06-Feb-13 10:18:19

Yes totally agree that it can be hard to be sure if your cycles are erratic and long. Add to that that lots of people (including me) test positive when they're barely over three weeks and confusion reigns!

Day 2 done - went fairly quick thanks to a busy day at work - no cramping or brown bleeding so that has too be good???

Fingers crossed for a good nights sleep and a quick day 3. DH is out tomorrow night so me and DS are staying with my Mum - I don't trust myself alone with the IPad and google - I have discovered Dr Google is not my friend!!

Thanks again ladies - you are seriously getting me through this xx

Day 3 almost done - was feeling positive but just had a small amount of brown spotting again - I know it's common but just scares me hmm

DH is out this evening so staying with my mum.

Trying so hard to be positive but the re-scan feels ages away! Xx

ExpatAl Thu 07-Feb-13 18:46:37

I check to see an update often Mummy
The bleeding would scare me too, but it's apparently very common in early pregnancy and brown blood is good because it's old blood. Take your prenatals and keep hydrated and know that you're doing everything you can.

Kafri Thu 07-Feb-13 19:01:45

Hey

Just thought i'd put my tuppence in too...

After IVF I had my own agonising 2 week wait after which I got my BFP! Then, at 6 weeks I too had a bleed. I was worried sick. I was taken straight in to the EPU at the hospital i'd had my ivf treatment and they did an internal scan immediately.
There, we saw a lovely little heartbeat and with it came the reassurance that everything was ok. (it just so happened that it was my birthday that day too - happy birthday to me - best present in the world)

Well, fast forward a few months and that lovely little heartbeat is now a bouncing 7 week old with a mighty fine pair of lungs and a raging dose of colic and reflux

Bleeding can be a sign of trouble but can also be completely normal so I, along with everyone else on here will keep my fingers crossed that you get your happy ending as I did!x

Thank you ladies - and thank you for checking back on me - it means so much to me and makes me feel less lonely and more reassured that whatever the outcome I am not alone. The support on here is amazing and honestly is helping me get through each day.

Hopefully the brown spotting will turn out to be implanting and there will be a heartbeat on the 18th xxx

StepfordWannabe Thu 07-Feb-13 21:21:18

Just checking in - hugs x

Day 4 - keeping busy with the shopping and housework - how exciting!!

Has a rubbish night sleep and am tired which normally equals emotional!!

Spotting seems to have subsided for now but I have lower backache - could be stretching though?? I have text my midwife to check - she is going to think I am so high maintenance hmm xxx

Kafri Fri 08-Feb-13 09:41:48

Never fret over what the MW thinks about you seeking reassurance. She's doing her job and if she isn't happy to help then perhaps a change of career is in order.

i MUST have driven mine crackers with all the reassurance i needed but they were alway lovely and seemed to understand I was fretting cos of how important it was to me after so many years and then IVF. Everyone has their own reasons for needing to be reassured and the MW's are used to it all.

I convinced myself that all would be ok once i could see baby and have him in my arms but no, i've fretted about something pretty much every day of the last 7 weeks. [GRIN] x

Kafri Fri 08-Feb-13 09:42:50

sad it didnt give me a grin - silly caps lock

Thanks Kafri - I haven't heard back from the MW yet. I am trying o stay off google to self diagnose!!

I hope it's just all stretching and making room - it's so hard not to worry about every twinge you get. I just want to get to 18th and everything be okay - the thought of losing it after the 2 week wait is horrible hmm just trying to stay positive xx

MW called me and said back ache was normal and it keep an eye on brown spotting but sounds common. She was very nice and made me feel less neurotic!!

Xx

Had a lovely day yesterday and it went quite quickly! Roast dinner and rugby (watching not playing!!) at the in-laws today and then tomorrow there is only a week left until the scan. No bleeding and cramping must be a good sign surely - I'm not getting overly positive am I?? X

ExpatAl Sun 10-Feb-13 10:35:06

No cramping or bleeding is always good! The rugby was fab. Glad you had a good day. One week to go!

Thanks ExpatAl - spoke too soon - the brown spotting has returned so worried it getting lighter and going to turn red. Fingers crossed it doesn't x

ExpatAl Sun 10-Feb-13 14:15:15

This is just endless for you. I might be tempted to go in saying that I had severe pain to get tested - hopefully they'll take bloods too.

It's stopped now - it just so up and down. I might phone GP or EPU again tomorrow to touch base. In the grand scheme of things the spotting is small and is staying brown / light brown but I just have no indication if the pregnancy is progressing well or not.

The EPU said that bloods wouldn't show if the pregnancy is healthy or not as my hormones levels may still remain high but I think it would be a bit reassuring if they were increasing.

Thanks for being so supportive x

ExpatAl Sun 10-Feb-13 15:30:55

No the hcg wouldn't give much of a clue unless it was a low number but I'm thinking more about your progesterone level.

I think I am a bit dense when it comes to all this - what is my progesterone level?? X

ExpatAl Sun 10-Feb-13 16:28:57

Progesterone levels vary but it needs to be higher than usual to support a pregnancy. I believe it needs to be around 14 or higher. If the progesterone level drops the lining will begin to shed.

Thanks ExpatAl - I will phone the GP or EPU tomorrow - I feel so clueless and powerless at the moment. My first miscarriage happened quickly and I didn't realise I was pregnant and my pregnancy with my son was 'textbook' no bleeding or pain and just progressed as it should.

This is like mental torture!! Every twinge or pain has been running to the loo to check hmm the spotting has died down but I'm still getting some lower tummy pain (like mild period pain) - I am hoping that its implanting pain xx

ExpatAl Sun 10-Feb-13 16:40:44

I would try to keep an open mind if you can. By this stage I'm sure you just want to know one way or another!

I do - I feel like we are in compete limbo land - like life is on hold. I want this bean to be okay so much and just cant even begin to think about how we will get over this if after 2 weeks its bad news - the thought that the worse could still be to come hmm

Sorry - I am being a wimp today and need to get a grip. I have a beautiful DS who will be 4 in April and am so thankful for him (he is desperate for a sibling though).

Do you guys think its worth another call do the GP or EPU? Another daft question - would my GP know about my trip to the EPU last week - would it appear on the info / records the GP hold for me? X

abicharlotte Sun 10-Feb-13 19:12:30

Hi there

I just wanted to let you know that I went through something similar last month. I thought I was 7 weeks and went to the EPU after visiting A+E with some painful cramping on one side. I has a scan which showed a pregnancy sac, yolk and functioning blood supply but no baby and no heartbeat.

But they said it could be that my dates were wrong and that I may have only been 5 weeks, in which case it's normal not to see a baby or heartbeat. So we waited for two weeks which felt like they lasted forever, and then went back to see a tiny baby with a thumping heartbeat! My dates had indeed been wrong and at the second scan they told me i was 7 weeks, so I had only been 5 weeks originally.

So, from what I've been told, this is quite normal and fingers crossed your second scan goes well. Good luck.

Thank you abicharlotte - it's so nice to hear that people have come through this with a happy ending.

I am trying so so hard to remain positive - I wish this brown spotting would stop though - I know it's common but scares me every time I see it - I am turning into a constant knicker checker!!

I don't know whether to give the GP or EPU a call tomorrow - I hate feeling like a complete neurotic nuisance!!

Thanks again ladies for your replies - they are really helping me keep going xx

ExpatAl Sun 10-Feb-13 20:17:26

Do you have to call the EPU? Can't you just go in?

I think you have to phone and they say whether to go in or not - am I being completely over the top? Xx

ExpatAl Sun 10-Feb-13 21:28:23

No you need to get this over and done with. Call and say that you have severe pain and feel very sick and dizzy and get seen. You can't go on like this.

ExpatAl Mon 11-Feb-13 13:14:05

Mummy how are you today? Any luck with getting an appointment?

Thanks for checking in - I really really appreciate it. No appointment from EPU - I haven't had anymore brown spotting today so hoping that is a good thing - still having some lower tummy ache but its more of a dull ache that stabbing pain so hoping that's all explainable.

This time next week we will know one way or the other (appt is at 11am next Monday). In one way it will good to know but on the other hand we still have a little bit of hope at the moment. Time is moving so slowly - it feels like a lifetime ago that we had the awful private scan x

suzyrut Mon 11-Feb-13 16:13:01

Hi mummy just to say that I totally sympathise with your situation (I came off the pill and was pg before I'd had first period, I count myself v.lucky in that regard) so decided to have an early dating scan. Like I fool I thought back over my symptoms and convinced myself I was about 7 weeks. Went for an early scan and there was only a pregnancy and yolk sac (no foetal pole and definitely no heartbeat). Was advised to go back in two weeks when we would see if it was "a viable pregnancy" (it was no where near as bad as your experince but she didn't provide me with me with much info and I left in tears) and they were some of the longest days of my life. I was googling missed miscarriage constantly, every cramp was the onset of me loosing the baby etc. I had no bleeding thank goodness but I was constantly poking my boobs and if I didn't feel sick then I'd have a panic!

I can't offer any different advice from the great stuff other people have posted around keeping busy and staying away from google. What I can offer though is some hope, I'm now 24 weeks and things are going well and as I type she's kicking away like crazy. I hope the next couple of week pass quickly or at least bareably for you and in the end you get to see a lovely heartbeat. xx

Thanks suzyrut - it is so reassuring to hear people coming out the other side with a positive story - fingers crossed that's me next week!!

I am the exact same regarding the symptoms - I don't have any pregnancy symptoms - no sickness at all and I keep poking my boobs and they feel the same as usual (although they were very sensitive when I first found out). I am a bit hungrier than normal but then again I do love food so not sure if that's my body's way of justifying extra chocolate!!

I am trying to hold on to the fact that I have had no bright red blood or clots and the cramps are mild (similar to the very start of a period) - still has me running for the loo to check!!

Thanks again for sharing your experience - I know I sound like a broken record but you ladies are keeping me sane (ish) until next week xxxx

Have started bleeding this evening - not a good sign.

I will call the EPU tomorrow first thing but feeling very sad hmm

Kafri Mon 11-Feb-13 21:32:05

keeping fingers crossed for you
xx

Spoke to EPU and they are re-scanning me on Friday morning x

ExpatAl Tue 12-Feb-13 10:58:05

Good news. Not long to go. Take it easy and do something nice with hubby tomorrow.

ExpatAl Tue 12-Feb-13 10:58:25

Oops, on Thursday, not tomorrow.

Bleeding has picked up - feeling sad hmm

Kafri Tue 12-Feb-13 16:28:43

that's much better. how are you feeling today?

I agree with pp, do something nice with dh on Thursday.

x

DH is at work tomorrow and Thursday - don't know whether to go to work tomorrow or not.

I feel like the scan is to just confirm the worst and what we already know hmm

It seems so rubbish and unfair - i know that sounds selfish but I just feel really sad that its happened and a bit daft for thinking of all these plans with DS and new baby hmm

Xxx

ExpatAl Tue 12-Feb-13 17:10:49

I'm sorry. It's been a horrible long drawn out affair. This dream might look as if it won't continue but it doesn't mean that you won't have another very soon. Take care of yourself.

Thank you - I really hope that's true. Thank you for all your support xxx

wifey6 Wed 13-Feb-13 08:50:09

Wishing you luck for Friday OP.
thanks

Guntie Wed 13-Feb-13 08:57:43

Thinking of you and wishing you luck.

Horrible morning so far - bright red blood and cramps hmm

Kafri Wed 13-Feb-13 15:19:39

Hi, again

didn't want you thinking we'd abandoned you...

Oh sweet, that's just rubbish for you. Is there no way you can get them to bring it forward for you even more? Just so you know one way or the other now, rather than sitting worrying which won't be helping you either.

I don't actually have any other advice - not sure anyone would 'know' what to say but i, and i'm sure others are too, am thinking of you.

X

ohmygoshtake2yay Wed 13-Feb-13 17:49:04

ive just read your story up too now. I have no advice as never been in your postion but wanted to say i have my fingers and toes crossed for you and your scan. i have heard storys like yours with a positive out come so it can happen.
will be thinking about you and bean.
xx

rosiedays Wed 13-Feb-13 18:27:50

Hi mummy I've been following your posts and really want to wish you all the best. really hope things work out and settle down for you. keep posting

Thank you for your posts ladies - I really really appreciate it. The clots and pain are coming thick and fast now - nervous about how much worse it will get hmm.

I'm off work tomorrow and then the scan on Friday - I know it's only going to be to confirm the loss though, but at least we can get a plan together and start thinking about moving forward.

It keeps hitting me in waves - I still can't get over how quickly excitement can turn to sadness - this time last month I was doing a random test and couldn't believe it was positive - now this hmm

Thank you again for your support - I know I am probably repeating myself in my posts but it really helps posting on here xx

wifey6 Fri 15-Feb-13 17:33:49

Have been thinking of you today OP. thanks

Kafri Fri 15-Feb-13 19:10:11

any news for us OP. have had fingers and toes crossed for you.xx

Hi ladies - the scan showed that the baby had grown from a yolk to an embryo but there was no heartbeat. I was told to wait a week and if a natural miscarriage hasn't started by next Friday thy would re-scan and talk about surgery or medication.

I started miscarrying about 4pm this afternoon - out of nowhere this golfball sized clot fell out when I went to the loo - the clots, pain and bleeding continued for the next few hours and I think I am past the worst now. I am still in shock at the size of the clots and the amount of pain - I literally couldn't leave the bathroom.

I am going to rest the next few days - I can't ever imagine feeling normal again - physically I have never felt so drained in my life.

I feel oddly proud that it turned from a yolk to an embryo - I feel like it gave itself the best chance it could - like it really fought to grow but it just wasn't to be - I know that sounds daft but it has helped me get through today. I wouldn't wish this on anyone and still can't believe how horrible this process has been, thank you all for your amazing support xxxxx

rosiedays Sat 16-Feb-13 07:53:39

Oh bless you. Love and Hugs, x were here if you need us.thanks

Christelle2207 Sat 16-Feb-13 12:45:37

So sorry to hear this op. do look after yourself and be as miserable and sad as you want to be. You will get better, promise, and remember that a lot of ladies conceive healthy babies soon after a mc. Best of luck x

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